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265 Once You Understand You Are a Chosen One, Everything Changes
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You ever had the feeling that you were meant for something more? Not more money, not more success, but that your life carried some kind of assignment? That somehow, despite all the pain that you've been through, despite all the setbacks, despite all the times you've questioned yourself, there was actually a reason for it? Most people dismiss that feeling. But what if it isn't your imagination? What if it's one of the first signs that you're one of the people who. Who has been chosen? Now, before you misunderstand me. I don't believe God chooses a handful of special people while everyone else is left behind. I believe every single person is given a calling. But not everybody accepts it, not everybody recognizes it. And not everyone is willing to become the person the assignment requires. And throughout history, the people we admire most all have one thing in common. Before they fulfilled their mission, their lives left clues, certain patterns, certain experiences, certain desires that kept showing up over and over again. And in this episode, I'm going to show you the seven unmistakable signs that you have been chosen for a greater purpose. And if several of these resonate with you, you may finally understand why your life unfolded the way that it did and what you're actually here to do. So let's get into it.
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Welcome to A Changed Mind. A journey into the topics that matter to you most. From the neuroscience and spirituality of mindset and personal growth, groundbreaking strategies for health, wealth and relationships, to open and honest conversations about pressing global issues such as the environment, censorship, corporate capture and democracy. Each and every episode reminds us of the certainty of the goodness of the future and provides the teachings, tools and timeless wisdom inspiring you to create real, lasting change in your life and in the world. If you've been desiring a sanctuary for your spirit, a place to go to tune out the distraction, negativity and doom and gloom spirit so that you can tap into the deep power, the vibrancy and the potential you have inside. You're in the right place. Welcome to A Changed Mind.
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All right, guys, we're going to talk about you being chosen. This can actually be a conversation that
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is conflicting for a lot of people
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because of the way it's portrayed out in the external world today, where a handful of people are the chosen few and everybody else is not particularly that special. But I actually believe that we're all special. Not everybody steps up into the assignment, however. So I'm going to talk about the seven signs that you are chosen. Because when you can become available to the greatness that you came here to become, man, everything in your life has an opportunity to change. So let's get into these seven signs. Sign number one. You experienced extreme challenges in your childhood and throughout your life. So a lot of times when we've experienced some type of childhood trauma or setback or challenge, even throughout our life, we unconsciously make that the reason why we're not capable for greatness. You know, I grew up in a family that was broke, or I was physically or sexually abused, or, you know, I wasn't really that smart. I had a learning disability or, you know, at some point in my life, I ended up going bankrupt or having a divorce or going through some sort of challenge. But the challenge that you experienced and the trauma that it created is actually the seed for your greatness. There is no person who has ever achieved greatness or their full potential that did not come built in with some sort of early age trauma. The reason for that is that the environment or reality that we live in is very much like resistance training. So you're given something, a burden to carry that is at some point in time ready to be transformed or put down. But it is through the carrying of that burden that you develop the strength, the quality of character to actually become the person who can fulfill on the mission that you've been assigned. Does that make sense? So I'll give you a quick example. And I can, you know, really only use myself as the best example. I grew up in a family where there was a lot of criticism, there was a lot of feeling not good enough. And I concluded as a child that there was something wrong with me. And I carried that throughout my entire life until I got into my recovery work, until I got into my personal development work. And my personality is really a compensation for feeling like there was something wrong with me. You know, my pursuit of academics to prove myself, my willingness to work hard in order to achieve success, my passion for actually really reading and understanding and being able to articulate things in an effective way, all of that came out of a compensation for actually feeling like I wasn't good enough or there was something wrong with me. Now, what happens later on in your life is those skills start to overextend themselves. I was great at solving problems because I felt that that was a way that I could get approval. So I became a great problem solver. But what happened over time is my nervous system, my neurology overdeveloped in that direction. So by the age of 30, I was finding problems everywhere, which is part of what led me into my drug addiction, my alcoholism, my sex addiction. But the seed for who I've become in the greatest ways was born out of the trauma that I experienced. You know, one of my mentors likes to say, we live in a trauma based reality. Trauma is a really important part of the equation. But when you learn to transform the trauma, you were able to achieve the mission. So one of the really important signs to understand is that if you experienced extreme challenges in your childhood or repetitions of that type of experience throughout the course of your life, odds are you've been chosen. You've been set up by the system to accomplish something great. Sign number two. You may have grown up without God in your life or you were betrayed by religion. So this is really interesting. Many people grow up in a distorted relationship with a God or a higher power of their own understanding, or no relationship at all. So religion is a great distortion maker. No matter what type of religion it is, it creates separation inherently from one religion to another. My religion is right that religion is wrong. And it separates the individual and the relationship with God. Most often in most religions, not philosophies, but religions, there's a hierarchical structure that's put in place and you have to sort of adhere to that structure and it routes communication through that structure. So if you want to have a relationship with God, you have to do certain things according to that structure. And you have to actually speak to people who are in that structure who become conduits to the Higher power. Or for me, for example, I grew up in an environment where there was no God. And so, you know, when I was early in my college years, I didn't think there was a God. Maybe I didn't know if there was a God. I got some exposure to the concept of spirituality through philosophy and comparative literature. It wasn't until I had my breakdown and ended up in my recovery program that I started truly seeking out and establishing a relationship with my higher power. And so, odds are, if you're chosen somewhere after the age of 30, usually before the age of 50, there's a re establishment of your relationship with a higher power. Again, you were born into a dysfunctional relationship with God or no relationship with God. And that relationship becomes restored sometime between the age of 30 and 50 when you run into a challenge or a circumstance or a situation that you are not able to overcome on your own. In other words, this situation brought you to your knees again. For me, it was my recovery. For some people, it's a business going out of business or a bankruptcy or a death that they experience or a health challenge where you've tried and tried and tried to resolve the circumstance or situation on your own. You have been unsuccessful at doing that. You hit some sort of, let's call it, rock bottom, and then you have nowhere to look but up. And there you found God. And you realize that alone you are nothing. And with God, you can actually become everything. And you see that God had been choosing you the entire time. He knew that you needed to become lost in the earlier years of your life in order to be willing to be found and to have a truly authentic relationship. Why is that important? Because your relationship, a personal relationship with a higher power, wants to be a relationship by choice, not a relationship by inheritance. And so, again, many of us grew up in religious families, but religion distorted the relationship with the Higher power, or we didn't grow up in a relationship at all with a God that becomes restored later on in our life. The sign here is that you did not grow up with a healthy personal relationship with God from the beginning. Sign number three, you have a unique superpower. So there's something that you do that is somewhat unique to you that is better than most of the people around you. If I were to sit down with some of the people who know you best, I would say, hey, like, tell me What John does that is unique. Tell me what Jennifer does that is unique. And they would say, well, Jennifer has an amazing capacity for listening to people. John has a way of being able to take complex concepts and see the patterns in them. Susan is just incredibly gifted with musical instruments. You should see the way Robert is with children. So these are all superpowers. They are natural gifts that you come into the world having. And it just makes sense that those gifts are meant to be put to work towards your choosing, chosen mission, towards you being chosen. And so, for example, a lot of you I've seen comment on this show, on this podcast, that something unique about me is my, my honesty and my vulnerability and my authenticity. And I can look back at my childhood and see that that was always there. My parents used to say I was just unusually rigorously honest, like I could not tell a lie as a child. Anything I did, anything I thought I did something wrong, I would let my parents know in advance. Another thing that you've commented on is my ability to take complex concepts and distill them into simple frameworks that a nine year old could understand. And that's something that I've leveraged throughout my entire career in my life. It's one of the reasons why 20 years ago I got into search engine optimization. I was able to see big, complex data sets and see the pattern within. And we can also see this in the natural world where we can see birds, for example, that are, you know, have beaks that are extra long and so they live along the shore where they need to dig two or three feet underneath the sand in order to access the bugs that they eat. This is part of the intelligent design. And this superpower or gift that you have is the tool that you will use to carve and chisel your mission in the world. So you have what you need because you were chosen before you even came. Sign number four. You have a burning desire to become more. And your greatest fear is actually not finding your purpose or fulfilling on it. So chosen people, or those who make themselves available to the mission that they've been chosen for, fear one thing above all else. You know, some people say that the greatest fear is public speaking, or that man's greatest fear is that we will not be loved. Or I think Marianne Williamson had a quote that says, the greatest fear we have is that we are far more powerful than we could possibly imagine. What I've actually seen is that all chosen people fear more than anything else, not achieving their full potential. It's as if we agreed to a mission. Then someone men and blacked us and we forgot about the mission when we got here. And life has been leaving us clues. And built inside of the chosen person is a burning desire to know what their purpose is, and an extraordinary fear that they do not either become aware of it, or if they do become aware of what it is, that they do not carry it out. It is like an obligation, a spiritual responsibility that we have taken on. And the chosen person is in extreme fear that this will not happen. And so that burning desire to know what your purpose is and the fear of not achieving it, is this propulsion mechanism that drives the chosen person forward. Sign number five, fifth sign, is that transformation isn't interesting to you, it's necessary. So you are drawn to personal growth. And while that may seem normal to you, I most people are not, but you are. The vast, vast, vast, vast majority of people have no interest in self discovery, self exploration, consciousness, their own development. Most people don't spend hours reading books about consciousness, listening to podcasts about psychology or spirituality, watching videos around leadership or healing or neuroscience or human behavior. Most people don't voluntarily examine their own belief systems. And this is why we talk about people going from the asleep state to the awake state. People who are chosen are awakened. Most people don't constantly ask, why do I think the way that I think. They simply live from their conditioning. But if you've been chosen, meaning you've made yourself available to the greater thing that you came here to accomplish and to become, there's something inside of you that refuses to stay unconscious. I mean, look at it. Even when growth is painful, even when it costs relationships, even when it forces you to leave a job that is a good paying job but you know is in alignment with who you are, what you're meant to do, even when you're forced to question everything you've ever believed, something keeps pulling you forward that is not normal. That is the behavior of a chosen person. You don't just want a better life, you want a transformed life. That is a very different pursuit. Sign number six, that you're chosen. I alluded to this before, but you've hit rock bottom in your life. Remember before we said one of the signs was something happened in your childhood, but there's likely something that happened later on that we could describe as a bottom again. Maybe it's like me drinking or drugs. Maybe it's a divorce, maybe it's a bankruptcy. You lost your business. You've looked death in the face. You've lost a loved one, you've faced Having to start all over again. And that's the important part here. For the chosen, the bottom is essential because not only, as I mentioned before, does it require you to look up because you've hit the bottom and find a personal relationship with the higher power of your own understanding. But it is also a total identity reset. It doesn't mean that it always happens after the bottom, but it's certainly the beginning of the process. It's like, I can no longer be the person that I have been up until now. Something needs to change. I may not even know how to do it. But there is the beginning of an identity reset is usually what brings you to personal growth, which is again, one of the signs. And it is the death of the old self and often the ego, so that you can now be available not to your ego or to the old identity, but so you can be available to newness, so that you can step into that relationship with your higher power, so that you can start living according to faith rather than old patterns and programs and fears, so that you can become the instrument of a higher intelligence in the world. And that is exactly what happens when you discover your purpose. You begin to fully surrender the old self and allow an intelligence greater than you to actually work through. You know, a lot of people speculate this about Christ, that Jesus was the man, right? And Christ was essentially what took over, as Jesus did the work to clear out the personal identity. And so as you get into personal growth, as you go and hit your bottom and start building a relationship with a higher power, you start to let go of the old identity, and you start to allow something greater to work through you. Some people rename themselves like, I'm no longer David. I'm now Swami Srivivaka. You know, that's how big the identity shift can be. But this is an important part, an important sign for those who are chosen. The sixth sign is you hit a bottom, you have a long, dark night of the soul, or what Joseph Campbell might refer to in the Hero's Journey as an ego death. The seventh sign that you were chosen is you can't stop looking for meaning. There's a meaning that you assigned to this video showing up today, right? This is different from personal growth. Personal growth is all about healing yourself and becoming an expanded version of yourself. This is about believing nothing is random. So when you're chosen, you start to just view reality for a completely different perspective. You naturally start to ask, why did this happen? Like, what is this trying to teach me? What is life asking of me, right? Now, how is this preparing me? Why did this person get drawn into my field? What am I doing that is continuing to create this pattern? See, most people just say, how do I fix that problem? Or how do I get out of this circumstance or situation? But chosen people look at it from a different perspective. They say, what is this for? Like, how did I create this? And this begins to shift everything, because ask and you shall receive. So the chosen people start to ask better questions because they're taking responsibility for the experiences of their life. There's a realization that the internal expresses itself outward, that you are not a victim of your external circumstances, but that your external experiences are trying to inform you of a deeper level of your own consciousness. And that shift changes everything. You begin to see setbacks as preparation. The entire universe starts feeling intelligent instead of chaotic. The moment you stop asking, why is this happening to me? And start asking, what is this preparing me for? You've begun to think like someone carrying the assignment. You've begun to think like someone who is chosen. So, look, maybe today wasn't about discovering whether you're chosen. Maybe it was about recognizing the signs that have been there all along. The challenges that have helped shape you, the moments that broke you, the gift that comes naturally to you, or the hunger you've always had to become more. None of these things proves that you're better than anyone else. But they do suggest that your life has been preparing you for an assignment. I believe every human being is called, but not everyone answers. Most people spend their lives waiting for certainty. Some people spend their lives waiting for permission. Some spend their lives waiting for another sign. And maybe this is your sign. Because the greatest tragedy, I believe, isn't that someone wasn't chosen. The greatest tragedy is spending your entire life ignoring the assignment that you were born to fulfill. The chosen aren't people God speaks to. They're people who finally decided to listen. The question is, now that you've heard the call, how are you going to answer it? So if you want help on this, I would love to be able to help you. You can check out a really amazing resource in the description of this episode. We've got an AI powered assessment that's going to walk you through identifying three of your biggest limiting beliefs that are holding you back, give you access to an amazing tool that we have called the decision matrix, and start springboarding you forward towards more clarity around who you are and what you came here to do. Because again, if you're hearing this episode, I'm sure it is by no coincidence you've probably been asking and this is the response. So thank you so much. I love you so much for the opportunity to be here with you today. If you have not yet, would you please do me the greatest of honors and subscribe to the channel? That's how we bring our community together. If you absolutely love this episode and you think somebody else should hear it, please feel free to pay it forward and share that with them. Again, thank you. This is not a do it yourself project. This whole thing around personal growth is to do it with others and I'm grateful to be on the journey with you and I will see you in the next episode. Hey, it's David.
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