626: Surrendering Your Ego to Connect With Your Soul with Kyle Cease

Summary

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Achieve Your Goals with Hal Elrod

Episode 626: Surrendering Your Ego to Connect With Your Soul with Kyle Cease
Release Date: February 25, 2026
Guests: Hal Elrod (host), Kyle Cease (comedian, author, spiritual teacher)

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Episode Overview

This transformative episode dives deeply into the journey of "surrendering your ego to connect with your soul." Hal Elrod is joined by comedian-turned-spiritual teacher Kyle Cease, author of The Illusion of Money, for a raw, insightful, and often humorous conversation about spiritual evolution, healing, ego dissolution, and practical living. Through storytelling, probing questions, and vulnerable realizations, Hal and Kyle explore how authentic connection with the soul is achieved—not by chasing outcomes or stacking surface-level personal development wins, but through humility, integration, and living truthfully.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Origin of the Friendship & Shared Spiritual Journey

• Genuine Connection: Hal and Kyle reflect humorously and affectionately on their fast, deep friendship, remarking how rare it is to meet someone who's “in the work,” shaping not just their personal lives but the way they both show up in the world.
• Childhood, Masculine Energy, & Healing: Kyle opens up about his upbringing, the absence of disciplined masculine presence, and the pervasive impact of parental modeling—particularly his father’s absence and his mom’s anxious worldview.
  • “You don’t know what you didn’t have until later...it wasn’t me being a victim about it, but me longing for it and becoming more aware.” (Kyle, 05:20)
  • Both discuss how “normal” in childhood is relative and the process of recognizing internalized wounds (07:00–10:00).

2. The Collapse of Old Worldviews and the Rise of Spiritual Surrender

• 2026 Context: Kyle notes how the current era is marked by destruction of old paradigms (societal, internal), which, while uncomfortable, opens the door for real spiritual growth.
• “All these things are external. And they’re not true...the world that's being destroyed wasn’t necessarily built on truth anyway.” (Kyle, 09:32)
• Authority Shift: The pair distinguish between external authority (money, approval, conventional systems) and internal authority grounded in the soul, emphasizing the liberation and challenge of learning to locate truth within.

3. Avoidance, Pain, and Earned Growth

• Cult of Positive Thinking: They critique the way both society and spiritual/self-help culture often use “positive thinking” to bypass deeper wounds rather than integrate them.
  • “Some positive thinking is an escape from something that’s here.” (Kyle, 11:12)
• The Soul’s Purpose for Pain: Pain and suffering are reframed as essential for the soul’s growth—not to be avoided but alchemized.
  • “Imagine if you’re a soul choosing a body to go into...maybe you haven’t understood empathy or humility so you come to Earth to learn those.” (Kyle, 14:01)
  • “God is going, no, you won’t give it to me, truly, unless you suffer.” (Kyle, 15:19)
• Shortcuts are Illusions: Whether it’s substances, optimism, teaching others, or even talking about pain, the real lesson is in experiencing and allowing instead of sidestepping the discomfort (18:59–21:49).

4. The Trap of First-Level Insights & The Integration Dilemma

• Personal Development "Junkies": Hal and Kyle incisively discuss the widespread phenomenon of getting a dopamine hit from insights (“aha moments”), sharing them immediately without actual integration.
  • “There’s a difference between a first level insight and going through it.” (Kyle, 22:58)
  • “We’re all just having these first level insights...not bringing it in and really being with it until we change.” (Kyle, 23:38)
  • “I bypass the experiencing of the pain by immediately going to teach it or writing about it...rather than integrating the breakthrough.” (Hal, 21:17)
• Tools for True Integration: Extended silence, deep meditation, and practicing earned wisdom through repeated being (rather than doing) are championed.
  • “The miracle morning is the answer to every question that you have.” (Kyle, 26:26, jokingly)

5. Ego vs. Soul, Being vs. Doing

• Definitions of Ego:
  • “Ego” isn’t mere arrogance. It’s the sum of our protective patterns, stories, and identity structures that keep us from experiencing oneness or “God within.”
  • “The God in me loves my wife unconditionally, but the ego in me finds all sorts of nitpicky things.” (Hal, 33:36)
• The Binary of Response:
  • Regularly asking: “Am I responding as ego or as God right now?” as a guiding practice (33:50–34:49).
• Being as Foundation for Doing:
  • Being—authentic presence, love, peace, connection to Source—is foundational. Doing (actions, creating, impacting) should be an overflow of true being, not compensation for wounds or scarcity.
    • “The more I focus on being, the more a guided God doer comes through. It’s an insight that pulls you off the couch, wants to do something through you.” (Kyle, 49:09)
    • “If your motive for doing is to prove that you’re not enough, you’re just reinforcing that wound.” (Hal, 50:12)

6. Surrender, Free Will, and the Alchemy of Suffering

• Dynamic between Surrender and Free Will:
  • The more you align with God/Soul, the more “you” (the ego) dissolves: “The more we stop having the ‘I’ at this minimal, small, historic self...the more you honor what God wants, the more you realize that just will feel like death over and over again—which also feels like birth, like freedom.” (Kyle, 43:22)
  • True spiritual growth is built on surrender, not spiritual bypass.
• Curiosity Over Certainty:
  • Both agree: honest admission of what you don’t know about God, soul, or self is actually the truest spiritual orientation.
    • “God, I don’t know who you are, I don’t know what you are. I just know that you are.” (Hal, 53:43)

7. Impact, Legacy, and the Illusion of Matter-ing

• Let Go of the Pressure:
  • Striving for impact or legacy is, at its root, egoic (even if dressed in high intention). The deeper invitation: focus on merging with your own soul, then impact becomes a natural byproduct.
    • “What if you undid the pressure of making an impact, would an impact still not be made?” (Kyle, 61:13)
  • Legacies, influence, and even teaching are fundamentally temporary. Instead, prioritizing the few closest to you and deep internal work is more enduring and real (60:00–62:36).
• "You don’t matter"—as liberation:
  • “You don’t matter in a way that’s freeing—because there’s a great way that you don’t matter, so you matter a ton, and you don’t matter at all.” (Kyle, 57:54)
• On Coaching & Teaching:
  • Sometimes helping is less about offering answers and more about letting people experience their own necessary lows/transformations:
    • “We're stopping caterpillars from going into cocoons by giving them the answers.” (Kyle, 66:20)

8. Money, The Illusion of Scarcity & Honoring Your Soul

• The Illusion of Money:
  • Money is a construct; your true Source is within.
    • “People that make money more important than their soul lose both.” (Kyle, 72:38)
    • “Every dollar you’ve ever made came from you. So why are we excited about money? Get excited about you.” (Kyle, 73:25)
  • Scarcity comes from revering the “cup of water” instead of the “waterfall” (the infinite internal source): (73:54–74:43)
• Break Free from Scrambling for Survival:
  • True abundance flows from aligning with your unique soul purpose, not chasing externally-defined success.
• The Book Plug:
  • The Illusion of Money is recommended by Hal as a spiritual book disguised as a money book, and Kyle describes its central analogy (75:29–78:06).

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “You don’t know what you didn’t have until later...and then you start to see, well, actually mine wasn’t good, too. Not as a victim—just as clarity on what I need to heal.” (Kyle Cease, 05:20)
• “Some positive thinking is an escape from something that’s here.” (Kyle Cease, 11:12)
• “If you have a big ego, that just means you’re living in the identity that you’ve created over your lifetime, that’s trying to protect you from higher consciousness.” (Hal Elrod, 33:02)
• “There’s a difference between a first level insight and going through it. A person could realize they’re obese and think, ‘I could get fit.’ That’s different than going to the gym for a year.” (Kyle Cease, 23:00)
• “The more you honor what God would do, the more you die. As in, your ego. That’s why we’re saying, ‘God, please take over.’” (Kyle Cease, 42:49)
• “There is a surrender that’s a denialism from a doer, and there’s a true surrender...that refuses to look. For me, being is first—but the being is not a passive push-away. The being is listening to my wounds, listening to my fears.” (Kyle Cease, 46:22–50:31)
• “What if you undid the pressure of making an impact?” (Kyle Cease, 61:13)
• “You don’t matter—and there’s a great way that you don’t matter, so you matter a ton, and you don’t matter at all.” (Kyle Cease, 57:54)

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Practical Integration Takeaways

• Ask Yourself: Am I operating from ego or soul right now?
• Earned Wisdom: Allow your suffering—don’t bypass it. Integration requires time, humility, and presence, not just insights or quick fixes.
• Daily Practice: Cultivate longer, deeper times of meditation, silence, and presence (“Miracle Morning”, being with God/yourself for 30 minutes/day or more).
• De-Emphasize Impact: Focus on your own internal connection with your soul and Source, and let impact be a side effect, not a driving goal.
• View Money as a Reflection, Not a Master: Prioritize your connection to Source. See yourself as the waterfall, not just the cup (source, not supply).
• Boundary & Value: It’s OK to charge for your work or set boundaries, even as a spiritually-minded person.

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Important Segments & Timestamps

• Origins of Friendship, Healing Childhood Wounds: 02:06–10:00
• Surrendering Illusions, Facing Societal Upheaval: 09:18–11:24
• Pain, Suffering & Shortcuts: 13:26–18:59
• The Integration Problem ("First Level Insights"): 21:17–26:00
• Being vs. Doing, Ego vs. God: 33:01–35:15, 44:07–49:09
• The Illusion of Legacy/Impact: 56:55–62:36
• On Money & Source: 72:14–78:06
• Closing Affirmations, Resources, Book Recs: 78:06–end

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Resources & Further Exploration

• Kyle Cease:

  • Website & courses: kylecease.com
  • Book: The Illusion of Money: Why Chasing Money is Stopping You from Receiving It
  • Evolving Out Loud program (final year in 2026)

• Hal Elrod:

  • Podcast: Achieve Your Goals
  • Miracle Morning app/book
  • Socials: @HalElrod

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Final Reflection

This episode isn’t just a riff on spiritual ideas—it’s an experiential guide to the hard, humble, joyful work of integrating soul wisdom, dissolving ego, and living authentically, even as the external world is in chaos. It’s about embracing both deep healing and practical living, being and doing, forging a life of meaning that’s anchored first and foremost in who you truly are.

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“The purpose of life: connect with your soul. Connect with who you really are on a journey. And God, being ultimately the source—the waterfall—of all that we are, which is limitless.”
— Hal Elrod (78:06)

“I am just grateful for now.”
— Kyle Cease (78:24)

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Transcript

[Hal Elrod]

Hello and welcome to the achieve your goals podcast. The show that empowers you to wake up to your full potential and achieve your biggest goals and dreams. I am your host, Hal Elrod and I invite you to join us each week as we share actionable strategies to take your life to the next level as well as interview world class experts and entrepreneurs who have achieved extraordinary goals themselves. And we ask them to give you a peek behind the curtain and teach you exactly what you need to do to do the same. Ready? Here we go.

[Kyle Cease]

Foreign.

[Hal Elrod]

If you want to learn how to get connected to who you truly are, merge with your soul, connect with God, the God that is within you, I highly encourage you to listen to or watch today's episode with my good friend Kyle Cease. His book, the illusion of money. You may have heard me a couple weeks ago say this was my number one favorite read of this past year and Kyle has become one of my clients closest friends. And I'll say that God brought us together to really help each other on our spiritual evolution. Today we're talking about Kyle's experience throughout his life, where he went from being a world famous standup comedian, literally Rated the number one comedian on Comedy Central in 2009 was in the movie 10 Things I Hate about you. He was going down the path of being a Hollywood star and realized that spirituality was calling him and that being a spiritual teacher was what he was destined to to do. I don't want to give away too much because today we really do go deep. This will be different than any conversation I have ever had on the podcast that you've ever watched or listened to. And it is my great, great pleasure to introduce you to my good friend, one of my favorite human beings on the planet, Mr. Kyle Cease. It's good to be with you, brother.

[Kyle Cease]

You too, man. You're one of my favorite people on the planet.

[Hal Elrod]

Isn't that wild? Like you and I literally only met in person a few months ago and I've never had a faster, deeper friendship.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

Than the two of us.

[Kyle Cease]

Same.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

I know we were like to our wives were giddy, excited children about each other.

[Hal Elrod]

Totally.

[Kyle Cease]

But it's really wonderful. It's really wonderful to feel connected to someone who lives in the work who I think you sure make me feel better about me. Like you really bring so much love to me and I think that comes from such a foundation because you've been through so much and I respect you so much. My audience respects you too. I've had you on stuff I do and yeah, my audience Loves you, you know, Love to have you more.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah. It's a trip that you and I, it's like we're friends and we're colleagues. Right. Because we're both in similar work, but our friendship really evolved. And then it's interesting that our friendship even informs the work because, like, how you and I are relating to each other affects how I show up in the world. And yeah, it's a lot of. A lot of depth and a lot of nuance to it. So you mentioned we were driving over here, that you had a pretty profound morning. And by the way, it is funny. You are funny. Or not funny that almost every. You never get a message from Kyle. It's like, hey, did you see the sports score last night? It's always like.

[Kyle Cease]

And if I tried to, it would have been, have you seen the sports score?

[Hal Elrod]

Which shows that I am also not a person.

[Kyle Cease]

Did you see the sports score Would be. If I tried to be one of the guys and ad lib that. That'd be how I say it.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah. With the ball that got moved around the.

[Kyle Cease]

The group of team got all the baskets.

[Hal Elrod]

Oh. So. But yeah, every text from you is typically like, hey, man, I had some major breakthroughs this morning during my three hour or two hour meditation and healed some major trauma and connected with God. And how are you doing, buddy? How are you feeling? Like, that's a standard text.

[Kyle Cease]

And now, now that you say that, I didn't know how weird that sounds until, like, it's being reflected to me. That's what life is for you. So I'll. I'll take it down and. No, no.

[Hal Elrod]

And it's funny, if anybody listened to our conversations, they would be like, who?

[Kyle Cease]

They're different places. Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah. Who are these two people, these totally entities and what planet are they from?

[Kyle Cease]

You know, it's almost like we're like. I don't know if I have the exact movie, but almost some 80s movie of a bunch of kids on a scavenger hunt like Goonies or Explorers or something, where we're like, we're figuring out what we are. We're figuring out God, we're figuring out our soul's purpose at the same time. And it's kind of a fun scavenger hunt for us. Of what am I? What do I need to heal? What can you bring more of to me and show me more of in myself? I mean, it's really nice to have a friendship that isn't just talking about sports or something, which I have nothing wrong with. Yeah, I really do, actually. In fact, I, on a side note, was watching Remember the Titans with my daughter.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And I had an insight there that I'd love to share, which was I was watching Denzel Washington play a football coach to these kids. And really, in a way, feeling through an awareness of I never got to have masculine discipline and that I. It wasn't me being a victim about it, but it was me longing for it and becoming more aware of what I didn't get to have.

[Hal Elrod]

And you're referring specifically to your father, correct?

[Kyle Cease]

My father was someone who. He passed away this last year, and he was someone who was an entrepreneur and kind of lived in his head. And I don't feel really like he guided me. I felt like a boy going, do you see me? Do you see me? Do you see me? And I feel emotion saying that. And then you don't know what you didn't have until later. In fact, everyone I work with, I do tons of one on ones with people. And almost everyone thinks their childhood was normal because it was your childhood.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

So it's the world to you.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And then you hear other people's childhood and go, that sounds crazy. I'm glad mine wasn't like that. And the longer you keep looking at it, you go, actually, it wasn't good too. And I don't mean it as a victim. I mean it as clarity on what I prefer or clarity on what I need to heal or clarity on something else. But when I saw Denzel Washington being a space for masculine energy and challenging them to be in their heart, to be okay with, suffer to all these things, I realized I never had that. My dad was home sometimes, but not home.

[Hal Elrod]

And not present.

[Kyle Cease]

Not present. And my mom, I feel like, was my dad. And I feel like my mom also had a part in her that felt understandably because of what my dad was in her life. She felt judgmental of men. We'd see, like, the news would be on and they'd be like, coming up. And you'd see baseball players fighting. And my mom goes, men are so dumb. And. And I'd be like, yeah, yeah. And forget that I am one.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And feel shame about being a man without even knowing it and take on my mom's shame about that. And I just had this revelation where I'm watching, Remember the Titans, where Denzel Washington is being hard on them. You will do this. And I was just, like, wishing I had had that. My idea. When I was a kid, I had times where I asked my mom, like, what if I play Football. My mom was like, you'll be paralyzed. And she thought in catastrophic thinking and anything would be dangerous. And, I mean, I remember almost any thing I could talk about, she would have how it could go wrong.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Like, you'll get testicular cancer if you have a cell phone. If you go to Hawaii, there will be a tsunami. In ninth grade, the class I was in wanted to take a trip to Washington, D.C. and this was during, like, the Gulf War. And my mom was worried that a terrorist would take the plane down. So I was the only kid that couldn't go.

[Hal Elrod]

Wow. So she was like, almost the point of, like, a phobia for her. Of.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah, dude. Sad, but kind of hilarious. Example. When I was a kid, we had a sea doo on. We had a cabin on a lake with a sea doo, and I had to wear a bike helmet on it out. So I'm. I'm riding around on a sea doo at like 50 miles an hour, and I'm realizing now if I fell off, that thing would, like, catch in the water and probably hang me.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah. And you're also realizing you're the only human being on the lake with a helmet.

[Kyle Cease]

With a bike helmet going 50 miles an hour on a sea doo and just protecting myself from women liking me. And so I'm really discovering so many things about me and what I want. And life for me right now at 48 years old is a lot of revelations, a lot of humility. And I think in 2026, we're all going through that.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

I think just everyone is having a. I didn't know the world was what I thought it was.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

I am feeling through a lot of this. I don't know. And there's a lot of surrendering to God, a lot of identity crisis, a lot of what's the truth? Am I. What's the truth in the world? And I think it's a really good start, in a way, for major true spiritual growth. Because our. How we knew it are being completely destroyed.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And that's good because in a way, the world that's being destroyed wasn't necessarily built on truth anyway.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Right.

[Hal Elrod]

So it was built on control. It was built on illusion. Right.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

What else would you say it was built on?

[Kyle Cease]

It's built on everything outside of me as authority. Like, the government is authority, farm is authority. The dollar is authority. Like, money is more important to me than my soul.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And people's approval, what people think about me. All these things are external.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And they're not true. And so we've created this world that's not really based on truth. And I believe the way I've seen it is I feel like people a lot of times go, I wish it was so much simpler back in the past. It was so much happier 20 years ago. And it's like the reason you're happy was you saw through a smaller lens.

[Hal Elrod]

You were living in the matrix without being aware that it was an illusion

[Kyle Cease]

that there's insane child trafficking. And you didn't know that there's all these other things. And you can see that you built the best of what your ego could build. And your lens was very small and you didn't know truths. And then we go through a phase in self help and spirituality where they say, think positive. Don't let those negative thoughts, you know, think positive. Which is great.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

But I feel like 2020 was like the lens is even bigger and it goes, hey, there's still negative in here. There's a whole underground of negative that we aren't looking at. And so our thinking positive is also true. But it's also designed to ignore a negative that's here. And in a lot of our hearts was a positive thinker that's built on because I was abused as a child or because I wasn't loved or my body's still holding a ton of traumas that I've never looked at.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And so we start to see some positive thinking is an escape from something that's here.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And some of us maybe need to feel some anger and pain and darkness and sadness. And you'll discover that the universe itself is still very positive. But we can't deny what is here.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And so I feel like 2026 is like, I'm making you look at it no matter what.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And there's no escapism or positive thinking that's going to stop this from coming to light.

[Hal Elrod]

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[Kyle Cease]

Yes.

[Hal Elrod]

All of the painful, the skin, all of it, but the human in us. And maybe it's egoic. I don't know where that distinction comes in. But wants to avoid pain at all costs. Right. But only in pain, typically. Like, that's where the growth experience. That's how we evolve. And you mentioned, like, if our soul said, I want to develop patience and empathy and what you have to.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

You have to go through things to develop those attributes of being, you know, of your soul's highest calling.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah. Imagine if you're a soul choosing a body to go into.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And imagine you really need to learn something. You know, we are learning it here. But imagine you're a soul that literally hasn't understood empathy.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Or humility or surrender or whatever. So you go, I'm going to get into a body and go learn it. I'm going to go learn compassion. I'm going to go learn this stuff. Now I remember David Dyda saying something about unearned consciousness. Right. Which is a really interesting thing about how there can be a quick. You take MDMA or something like that and you find this God thing. Now imagine if there was that same equivalent for you going to school. You're in first grade and you could take something that for three hours helps you feel like a senior at Harvard. You're escaping what you need to learn in first grade now. And now you're sitting here having that glimpse and now you're suddenly teaching everybody.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And you're.

[Hal Elrod]

I've been a senior. Let me tell you what it's like. Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

You haven't.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And you need to learn something, and you need to learn first grade, and you need to learn second grade. And. And there's this thing about. I'm never talking about aiming for suffering. It already comes with being human that we are ignoring our suffering. We try to avoid our suffering.

[Hal Elrod]

It's not that we need to seek it. We just need to experience whatever comes up.

[Kyle Cease]

And if we really understand that, like, God is going, no, you won't give it to me. Truly. Unless you suffer. You won't. You know, there's all these ways that we avoid suffering, you know, right away. One we all know of. It would be alcohol or drugs.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

There's all kinds of spiritual ways, too. Like, optimism that you grab on to. It's like, oh, I know God will take this. That's true.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

But are you using that optimism to avoid what you need to feel right now? That also comes with humility. That comes with true, like, understanding why you're going to God.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Like, if you go, God's got it. You're just kind of cocky a little bit, and you're not really surrendering it.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And sometimes it's when we finally suffer so much that we fall to our knees.

[Hal Elrod]

Yep.

[Kyle Cease]

And we really learn humility. And we get glimpses of, like, a false eye that's been running this thing and saying God a bunch.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

But isn't like. And I've had that.

[Hal Elrod]

Sure. Kyle.

[Kyle Cease]

A lot. There's a Kyle that still stayed a construct as Kyle, as the spiritual teacher even. And there's still a level of, like, he has no idea what he's doing. And when I finally go, I don't know, God, take this. Like, I don't know what I'm doing. There is a real connection that's earned, that is really special that you'll never get. Not earned.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Not meaning, like, not through a quick plant medicine or a quick shortcut.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

You really have to go.

[Hal Elrod]

Go through the life experience.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

Not the illusion of life experience where you put on an eye mask, take some psilocybin, and lay back. Imagine that you're evolving. Right.

[Kyle Cease]

Right.

[Hal Elrod]

When you're just. Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And that sometimes our spiritual gods got. It would be the equivalent of getting in first grade.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And going, God, please give me the diploma now.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And God's like, dude, you got second grade.

[Hal Elrod]

I love that. Third grade.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah. Like, it's Fine. God's got it. I think we know what we're doing. God, it's like, no. This is a life where you got grades. You have.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah. You have tests.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

You have lessons.

[Kyle Cease]

And literally on the way to this podcast with you.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

I felt an absol. New understanding that I knew but didn't know. I know. Of suffering. And it's weird because not to go too religious, but I was watching Passion of the Christ the other day, which literally. Have you seen it?

[Hal Elrod]

It's been so many years, dude.

[Kyle Cease]

It's literally just suffering.

[Hal Elrod]

Oh, wow.

[Kyle Cease]

I mean, it's not the story of him walking on water or anything.

[Hal Elrod]

Oh, yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

It's just the torture and the crucifixion. That's it. And I understand why I was. That's the last movie I was watching this week.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Because there has been a lot of suffering I've had, and I know that everyone watching has had. But something that humans have done is found a massive bunch of addictive shortcuts from the suffering that we will eventually still have to endure. No matter how many times we're kicking

[Hal Elrod]

the can down the road.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah. No matter how many times you go to Cheesecake Factory or. No matter how many times. You know what? Without knowing it, my distraction from suffering has been. Which would be a thing that society says to do is talking about it. This is so weird. I have thought until very recently the highest solution for me would be to talk about it. Of course. You think you have a problem. Talk about it.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And I think there's some people that talking about it would be growth for them. I wish my dad talked about his pain.

[Hal Elrod]

Sure.

[Kyle Cease]

Because I wouldn't have had to endure it in different ways.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

But my dad was repressing by not talking about it. My repressing is talking about it. My wife has heard every feeling I have. In fact, as you said, I text you. I had a revelation. Well, I actually didn't realize that I associate connection to my problems. So. Hey, I got a problem. My amazing wife, Amber. I'm going to tell you all about it. She hears it, and then I feel loved with her and the problem maybe goes away, but I feel this closer to connection to her, which is great. But then she's my. My God, and that attachment is my God. And it wasn't until like this week where I was on a walk on a hike with her and I started feeling a massive amount of pain. And I didn't talk about it. And it wasn't repression. I was just with her. I was still holding her hand. I was present and I felt pain. And I felt, ugh, this is here. But I had some knowing. This is supposed to be what I heard. And I just said, take this pain from me internally. And that day, I felt a massive amount of healing. I even heard in my meditation something say, go get a cross. And I got a cross. And I felt my heart being protected. And it was like, kyle, you need to actually heal this versus numb from suffering by getting approval or love.

[Hal Elrod]

Well, what I do similarly. So, yeah, you need to feel it to heal it versus go talk about it and project and get it out.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

So for me, I bypass the experiencing of the pain by immediately going to teach it or writing it. Right. Go, ooh, this is like, whenever I have any lesson, any breakthrough, rather than me really integrating the breakthrough, I immediately go, oh, my gosh, this is so valuable. I need to share this with somebody else. And then I immediately go write in my journal or like, what I'm going to share and how I'm going to. How will I teach this? When will I teach it? Where will I teach it? It's like, dude, you just realized it seconds ago. You're no master in this. You have to, like, go spend a few weeks before you go post about it on social media.

[Kyle Cease]

I know.

[Hal Elrod]

And you do the same thing, right, with recording a video where I made

[Kyle Cease]

a video making fun of that. Did you see it? Where I said I made a video where I said, you know, sometimes people, when they're depressed, it's because they need to feel deeper. And there's many ways they can deflect. Like, one would be to make a video about it. And then you see me start going, so, you know, instead of listening, you're making a video, hoping you get views, and you're not actually feeling that. You know, the joke is that I'm depressed.

[Hal Elrod]

You're literally doing the thing that you're talking about.

[Kyle Cease]

But there. There is a weird truth in that. The amount of insights that God has given me, and I just pivot and make a video out of it.

[Hal Elrod]

Yes.

[Kyle Cease]

Or like, oh, I'm writing that down to teach y. And I feel God's trying to go, dude, I'm talking to you.

[Hal Elrod]

Yes, dude, yes. So minutes that I've written, and I'll, like, I'll remember it in a meditation or prayer or whatever, or just the shower, and I'll go, oh, that's the lesson that I've been teaching for 10 years. And I'm actually right. I don't believe it even like, like telling people, hey, you should love yourself, for example. And then going, wait a minute, I'm telling people what I know. That should be done. Yeah. But I'm not fully doing it. And I always try to do like miracle morning. I do mine every day, you know, but there's just so much where. Yeah. Immediately. Or have you ever been reading a book and you go, oh, like I totally need to teach my wife this. She so needs to learn that. Right. It's like, how about you, buddy?

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah. And it reson with your heart to share because it's. Your heart's going, yes, teach me that. And we're sitting there going, okay, how many views would this get? And sadly, but also perfectly. Because we'll see the results of this. There is an epidemic of this. There is just a world of people that get a first level insight. Yes.

[Hal Elrod]

First level insight.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah. Because there's a difference between a first level insight and then going through it. Like think of it this way. A person could realize that's obese. I could get fit.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

That's different than going to the gym for a year. Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

Right.

[Kyle Cease]

So they can pivot and teach people.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah. Right now.

[Kyle Cease]

But what we're doing isn't as measurable as losing weight.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

So we have the insights at a first level all the time.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

But then the, the go to is tell everyone they can do it.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Then. And guess what? The people watch that insight. They have a first level insight. They share it with everyone. So we're all just having these first level insights.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And not going, this is for me to go through and be in the suff suffering and be in what I need to go through. I just will have an insight. Tell other people, they'll go, aha. They won't even watch the whole video. Share it with their partner, share it with their community, share it with their friends, that audience. Just a bunch of first level crap. And that's why I think a lot of self help is falling in a way because it's down to, hey, you are seeing the influx of a world of people that had first level insights. Share it. Those people have first level. We're all on the surface and we're all suffering more than ever because those were insights that we didn't bring in and really be with until we changed.

[Hal Elrod]

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[Kyle Cease]

Yeah, right.

[Hal Elrod]

Which is like it gives your brain a hit of dopamine that. Oh, wow, that's amazing. I never thought of that before. And then like you text it to a friend or whatever and then you just go back about your business without actually integrating it. So here's the thing. I don't want to move forward until we actually dig into this, which is how do we take first level insights?

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

A video we see on Instagram or YouTube or something we read in a book. And how do we integrate it? Because I know you and I for sure integrate a lot. And like it's. It's not. We do either or. Yeah, yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

I mean, I definitely do both.

[Hal Elrod]

Wow.

[Kyle Cease]

Well, one of the things I would

[Hal Elrod]

say you can say, by the way, sorry to interrupt you, but you can say the miracle morning is the answer to that question. Hell, you're welcome.

[Kyle Cease]

The miracle morning is the answer to every question that you have.

[Hal Elrod]

I love the wink.

[Kyle Cease]

I do. Well, I think, I think you are offering something very real, actually. A first level insight could be someone and tells people to do those things.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah, yeah, right.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah. And to actually be in those steps and to actually be meditate like. So what I would offer, first of all, because, man, there is nothing more amazing than to soulfully earn true change, true healing, true revelation, true Knowing with God.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And an analogy I also have used is if a person just gets a car hand, like a 16th birthday, a teenager gets the car handed to him, versus a parent makes a deal where you're gonna earn this, you're gonna work, or even I'll match what you pay for the versus just handing the kid the car who doesn't even know what they have.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

They didn't earn anything.

[Hal Elrod]

Totally.

[Kyle Cease]

Right. There's no value in it. There's no connection. You're missing the truest meaning of fulfillment, which is that you truly earned something.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Right. So we are seeing the results of a very depressed world because of a lot of first level insights being shared and passed around as an escape. And a dopamine hit that teaches you that you're doing the work when you're not.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

So the first thing is to ask your soul, can you start to identify what's a first level insight? And what does my soul need? What does my soul need today, by the way? One thing I want to offer too is our ego tries to measure what our soul needs. Like, in other words. Well, the soul might say, go for a walk barefoot, go on a hike, go sit for an hour. The ego goes, that doesn't count because it doesn't pay. Or that doesn't count because it's not my purpose. I decided I'm supposed to have. So the ego's very good at discounting true soulful callings. And the ego says, it only matters if I can see. I'll get likes or people will like me, or I'll get money or you get what I'm saying. Or I'll get a partner.

[Hal Elrod]

It's got to be measurable, so to speak.

[Kyle Cease]

So the ego disqualifies soulful things. And soul doesn't talk in instant results. Soul is a long journey for a long journey.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

You sent me a great thing. What's the author we like? Father by God.

[Hal Elrod]

Neville Goddard.

[Kyle Cease]

No, no, Father by God. And he did it. He did.

[Hal Elrod]

On a Walsh.

[Kyle Cease]

No, no, Father by God. Yeah, yeah, Father by God. And he did a thing about how people are disciples of the Internet.

[Hal Elrod]

Oh, oh, oh, yeah. Wild at heart.

[Kyle Cease]

Yes. Thank you. Yeah, we'll cut that.

[Hal Elrod]

No, that's fine.

[Kyle Cease]

Wild. We'll cut that. So they don't earn the weight for what the name is.

[Hal Elrod]

We don't want them to.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

Patience. Yeah. Suffer through figuring it out, Lack of remembering it.

[Kyle Cease]

He does this great thing that you sent me about how we are. We've become disciples of the Internet and What that means is, first of all, we want a result instantly. When you're asking God for help, you gotta understand that one reason God won't give it to you instantly is so you have the time to go through the suffering you need to go through to actually earn it. If you get results instantly, you have made God your butler.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And I don't want a God that works for my ego. You know what I mean? My ego. I want this car, I want this person to like me. I want whatever. Then the God's like, okay, I don't trust that God because that God works for my ego. So when we're hitting, making vision boards and we're saying, please give me this thing and this thing, God didn't do what I wanted. That's because you don't want that God. That God is a slave to your ego. We want your ego to dissolve. So. So I don't want to tell God what I want anymore. I want to ask God what God wants from me. And sometimes it's like, put down your phone. Sometimes it's just listen to silence. Sometimes it's fast. Sometimes it's, drink more water.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Sometimes it's just apologize.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Sometimes it's don't know. Sometimes it's be in pain for a while.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah, Right.

[Kyle Cease]

But it'll always have something. But the ego goes. Yeah. It doesn't have anything. No, no, it does.

[Hal Elrod]

It's.

[Kyle Cease]

It says, be in pain for a while.

[Hal Elrod]

Well, something you inspired me to do. It's interesting that our friendship came at a time I feel like we needed each other. Right. It's like, interesting in our own spiritual evolutions, like, we were the God's, like, hey, Kyle, you need Hal, and Hal, you need Kyle.

[Kyle Cease]

100.

[Hal Elrod]

It brought us together at this wild moment, but I heard you talking on a video or whatever it was about you. I think you did how many? Two hours a day of meditation for a month.

[Kyle Cease]

I did 100 days.

[Hal Elrod]

100 days.

[Kyle Cease]

Two hours.

[Hal Elrod]

Two hours a day. And now, I mean, you meditate, that's all the time. Yeah, all the time. But. So that inspired me. I was like, all right, I'm going to baby step into that. Because I was meditating. Really? I was at first level meditation, maybe second level because I'd done it for 15 years, but it was 10 minutes a day. A little bit of silence. Didn't go real deep. Right. Usually the brain. It's almost like the 10 minutes that your brain is still chattering.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

Right. But I. And then I didn't get past that. And so this last December, just a couple of months ago, I went, and you inspired this. I go, I'm going to do 30 minutes a day for 30 days. And it was 30 minutes with God for 30 days, prayer, meditation. And I missed one day. I literally. Day two was the only day I missed. And I was so. I did one, missed one, did 29 in a row. And it's so amazing how there were so many days where, again, the ego's going. This is. You're wasting time, dude. You have so many things you could be doing right now. You could even be reading Kyle's book. You could be like, they're, you know, just. You're sitting here in silence. Your brain's not even. You're all over the place. You know, whatever.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

And it was the 29th minute, literally. It was the fine or the 30th. It was the final minute where the God's like, hey, you earned it. Here you go. Here's the breakthrough. Here's the insight. And there were multiple days where I almost quit. I'm like, I did 15 minutes. That's good enough. And it was literally the final minute. There were so many days where it was the final minute, or even the final few seconds where it's like, okay, here you go. Write this down. I'm like, yeah, that's it. That was the breakthrough. To be the dad that I'm aspiring to be, the husband that I'm. That I've been praying for. All of the things.

[Kyle Cease]

Who do you think? Check this out. And this is what I would offer the voice that's like, dude, we could do other things. Yeah, I'm honored. It said we could be reading Kyle's book, but it says we could be doing other things. This isn't productive.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Who is that?

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Who is that voice that has defined.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Productive.

[Hal Elrod]

It's interesting because the ego is such a loaded word.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

And I think people's first nature. And maybe we were lied to somewhere along the way to distract us from what the ego really is, which is like. Like egotistical. Like, oh, if you have a big ego, that means you're arrogant. Or does that mean that you're living in the identity that you've created over your entire lifetime that's trying to protect you from higher consciousness? Right. So it's like, that's a different frame of view. Right. Nothing. You don't have to be arrogant at all. And so I've even realized in my marriage, that's a great. I love binaries because it's Simplicity. Right. And it's. The God in me loves my wife unconditionally, exactly as she is, with pure love, empathy, all of it.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

And the ego in me finds all sorts of nitpicky things that bother me that I wish were. Right.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

But it's like the God in me does so. So that binary of, am I experiencing my wife as the God within me right now?

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

Or as the ego within me. And that binary is great because I go, oh, no, I'm gonna go toward God. I'm going to choose that perspective, that response, the God response, not the egoic response.

[Kyle Cease]

And that exercise is also so good to do for yourself. Like, I find and I see my whatever, my partner, my friends, my whatever, the world through how I see me.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Right. Do I. In other words, like, if you have an egoic construct that thinks it's better or worse than. Then it literally sees people through that. Right. So I guess what you did with your wife. I'm always trying to start with me because I find that when I'm truly allowing God to come in and this me that sees myself as an image or a story or a history or anything else can be dissolved into this God self. It's impossible for me to see anyone outside of me other than that.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

You can acknowledge, oh, they're suffering if they're in their illusion. But I don't feel the trigger with them, or I don't feel they're bad, or I don't feel the more you. You just love yourself, truly, the more you let. Let God take over, the more you feel, oh, just people are on their journey and they're off course or they're on course. Like, it's not even off course.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

It's like, I'm just sending them love where they are.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah. That was one of the biggest breakthroughs that I had around relating to other people is I was probably 25, 24, 25 years old, and I just had this realization somewhere along the way that if I had lived another person's life, like, we tend to judge other people from our life experience. Like, oh, my God, they're terrible. I would never take credits. Like, wait, they're terrible because you would never do that because you had two loving parents who nurtured and raised you, and they actually were beaten and abused and abandoned.

[Kyle Cease]

Right.

[Hal Elrod]

So, yeah, you would never do that. But what gives you the right to judge them? So the premise of the perspective was if we had lived another person's life.

[Kyle Cease]

Right.

[Hal Elrod]

We would likely be that person. We would make the same decisions, do the same thing, say the same things, or not do it. Right. And so from that place, that allows me to love people unconditionally because I go, oh, they're doing the best they can. So relatively speaking, with who they are.

[Kyle Cease]

Yes.

[Hal Elrod]

And if I was, if I had lived their life with their parents, great examples, like if you had grown up in a gang where you were seeing people murdered all the time and that was normal for you.

[Kyle Cease]

Yes.

[Hal Elrod]

Then it would be normal for you. But if you never witnessed that and we were taught it was bad. Right. So it's like these extreme examples can kind of give us a perspective of, well, yeah, I guess I really have no place to judge another human being because I don't know what it's like to be the them. All right, let me ask you a question. How many apps are you using for your personal development? Maybe a meditation app like Calmer Headspace, an affirmation app like I Am, or Think Up, a book summary app like Blinkist, a journaling app like 5 Minute Journal, a visualization app like Envision, an exercise app like 7 Minute Workout, and maybe even a habit tracking app to keep it all together. That is a lot to manage and a lot to pay for. What if you could replace all of them with just one app? Yes. It is called the Miracle Morning app and it is essentially seven apps in one. Hundreds of guided meditations and breathwork tracks, a full library of affirmations, plus tools to create your own visualization prompts for 10 key areas of your life. Guided workouts from 2 to 10 minutes long. Book and audiobook, summaries of top personal and professional development book and a journaling tool with guided prompts. The wheel of life or a blank page to write freely. It simplifies your morning, saves you money and helps you start every day with clarity, purpose and energy. And it's one of the only apps in this space with a 4.9 out of 5 star rating. Try it free for 7 days. Just search Miracle Morning in your app store or go to miracle morningapp.com to get started. Started. All right, back to the show.

[Kyle Cease]

And by the way, also to take this even weirder and deeper, what you're saying has truth in it. And it's also got an arbitrariness in that there have been tons of people that grew up in those horrible places.

[Hal Elrod]

Yes.

[Kyle Cease]

And become amazing and healed. So we don't even know what the factor is. There are people with two loving parents that became.

[Hal Elrod]

It could be their brain.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

Right. So that that's what I say when you're born.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

The other person also born with their brain.

[Kyle Cease]

Well, yeah, if you. That's a weird thought, right? Because then you start to wonder the level, what free will we really have.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Because if you. And I don't remember who I heard talking about this. Someone was saying if you could trade with a serial killer, like, not could. If you were made to. You literally grew up with Jeffrey Dahmer's biology, his brain, his parents, where he lived, his history, his cartic past, everything. You would be him.

[Hal Elrod]

Yep.

[Kyle Cease]

Right. So you start to actually play with. Do we have free will?

[Hal Elrod]

Right.

[Kyle Cease]

And it's a weird thing because it's a questionable thing. Like, check this out. I was meditating the other day. This was. I was in the. I was sitting in my yard and just listening to thoughts. And after a while, such a Kyle thing I do. I mean, I know. Well, actually, that's a thing we're in. In 2026. Like, I was working with my. I have amazing teammates. This guy I worked with, Tyler, he's such a dear friend, an amazing guy. And we're in the studio, and I was actually recording a guided meditation, and I just still noticed when it was coming to the logistics of work. I had to take a break. Break for a second. And I just said, I just feel in 2026, the one Kyle who's a doer, who's the image, who has to get enough productivity out, who's got to get whatever. I'm very proud of what I've released, but I also don't want to be identified as that I have to heal too. So I. I just stopped everything. And I said, I. I'm gonna go. Can I just take, like, half an hour? I went, sat in the yard for a while, and I noticed something. I was, like, watching my thoughts. And if I am not. How do I explain this? If I'm not contained in an addiction, like, I'm not flipping through Instagram, or I'm not talking to someone else, and I'm just watching, eventually the thoughts, you start to realize I have no control of what these thoughts say. Like, really think of it. If I'm just sitting in a field. If you're sitting in a field for a year and you don't have a phone, you're just gonna watch thoughts. They're not yours anymore. Do you understand what I'm saying? In fact, you just need. The illusion of. Of free will is within the. I can keep staying in my box of staying controlled and scrolling through and staying here. Because if I get off this, then those thoughts are going to be freer and leave. I don't know if this makes sense, but you start to see this thing that the thoughts are just thinking themselves. And if you were totally in a place where you could liberate yourself and watch, you'd start to realize there's no me that's thinking these thoughts. Yeah, they're just going.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah, right.

[Kyle Cease]

And so this is a weird thing where you start to go, the free will is at the level of I can keep myself in my smaller self. I have no idea if this is making sense even, or I can like go.

[Hal Elrod]

Neither do I, but I'm.

[Kyle Cease]

And so I'm in the smaller realm of like the story of Kyle and I can't. I got to stay, whatever. This addiction, this distraction, this story, this identity. But if I keep letting it go, those start to leave and I start to just. Just be free. And so the free will is of the choice of freeing yourself to God or not. And the more you free yourself to God, the less free will there is because you're more God's will.

[Hal Elrod]

You're guided by God.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah. And if you start to ignore what God wants, you suffer quicker and quicker in this time. If you do something addictive that's a distraction from your soul, it's hell. So do you have free will really? Because you suffer instantly if you don't, don't follow what God wants. If you're in an out of aligned relationship, but you have a high awareness, it's really hard in this time. Yeah, Right. So you start to go, yeah, I have free will. But yeah, but you're making more hell for yourself by not honoring what is wanted. So do you.

[Hal Elrod]

That would be my practical response to that, would be that if we use that binary of ego and God. Right. Which is a handy binary. The God is. We always know the right thing to do. The God thing to do. Right. If you're quiet, you're like, how would God respond? What would God do? Right. What would God put in his body? Would he put this artificial, highly processed, unhealthy food with some cancer causing chemicals? Right. Would he put that in my body? Or would he put this nutritious from the earth that he. Right. Like in my body? And so I think it's like, well, we know the. I think if we're honest with ourselves, we get the true answer and then we choose. Yeah, that's free will. It's like. And I want to put the. I don't care. I I know this is right. Yeah, I know it's what my soul's craving. Because my soul wants this body that came into to be as flourishing as it possibly can be. But I don't care. I'm gonna eat this.

[Kyle Cease]

And the more we honor what God would do, the more we die. Do you understand what I mean?

[Hal Elrod]

Like, I don't know, as in our ego.

[Kyle Cease]

Yes.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Because we're identified with the ego. That's why we're saying, God, please take over. So the more you follow what God would do. Okay, so God would fast. Okay, well, the story of Kyle likes to eat at restaurants. Right. God would go inward. Well, the story of Kyle wants to talk about his problems all the time to other people. God would take time off. Well, the story of Kyle is always working and trying to shift people. Okay, so if I follow God, Kyle is dying and the I actually is the one merging with God.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

So the more we stop having the eye at this minimal, small, historic self, that was the best of what you could be to protect. Protect yourself in your childhood from your parents egos. Right. The more you honor what God wants, the more you realize that just will feel like death over and over and over again. Which also feels like birth, which feels like freedom, which feels like. I mean, that's the fact that we're talking about this and it's normal. This is our dialogue often. Right. Versus 30 years ago. It's just like, what's the best job for me? What will make the most money?

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

There isn't this level of inquiry.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

We are now at. If I'm not asking what God wants, I am adding more unnecessary suffering all the time.

[Hal Elrod]

I want to shift directions. I want to blend what you're talking about and living a practical life. And so there's a different. I'm going to throw some ingredients out here and then we can kind of play with them. One binary is we can talk about being versus doing, so to speak. And very much in the egoic world, it's all about doing. It's all about, hey, do the thing, make the money, get the result.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

That's the being or that's the ego. And then the being. The spiritual world goes into its being. It's like all that matters is who you are and how you're experiencing every moment of this one life and blessed to live. I lean into that a lot. But to me it's not an either or. Yeah. It's. I hear the being to me is foundational though. Like, who are you being in every moment yeah. If you're just doing, but you're not being at peace and you're not being the best version of yourself and you're not being connected to God. Right. Like then the doing is just masking like this really a lack of being, if you will. But then there's a lot of. In the spiritual community, it's like I'm just being, I'm just like, okay, but there's also a life out there. And here's the example.

[Kyle Cease]

Avoidance.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah, avoidance. Here's the example I'll use is I was thinking about this as I'm working on my next book and, and it was, how is it any less spiritual? And I could argue it's more spiritual to sit at home and meditate all day versus to go, hey, this amazing body that I've been blessed with, I'm going to go work out, I'm going to lift weight, I'm going to make it strong because I was blessed with this body and I'm going to see what I'm capable of. Right. So to me, both are spiritual. But the spiritual community would lead more heavily into like no, man, don't worry about that. Just, just, just be, just meditate all day. And then the other. And then the bro community is like, dude, just take testosterone and get ripped. And so it's like, where's the balance of both?

[Kyle Cease]

Well, I'll tell you, for me, the more I surrender, I am talking true surrender, because I think there's a surrender that's a denialism from a doer that won't look. So there's an avoidant type of spirituality where you're not looking at the ego itself and you're like, oh, I don't deal with, I don't deal with real things going on in the world. Right.

[Hal Elrod]

It's a fear thing, I think. Right. Like I'm afraid of trying to have to work hard because I'm not. Yeah, yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And then so there's this one image that is like, I'm going to escape it. I find the more that I am. I'll show you this idea that I'm being. One of the things my being does is it alchemizes some of my doer that does out of fear. And a lot of us, even our most motivated selves have a lot of doing that's out of fear. It's in a lot of self help like that your best vengeance is your success. Right. Okay, well that implies that your success is based on unhealed wounds from bullying or other people. That. So it's an unhealed wound. And I have a lot of clients that will say to me, I got to build this business, I got to get this money, I got to make this happen. And I always say, if you don't, what happens? And you find a wound. If I don't, then my dad will yell at me when I was five. If I don't, then I'm a failure. And there's a level of love that I offer them to bring to that pattern. Because that pattern that's scared that it'll fail has never heard that it's love.

[Hal Elrod]

Loved.

[Kyle Cease]

So all of us have this. Not all of us, but many of us have this. I'm going to make this happen because under it, and if I don't, then I'm unworthy. That still lives in the body, right? So I find there's a doer that is just as much of a. Of a bypasser as a beer. Right? And so I find that the more I listen to now, it wants to alchemize that doer because that doer is still built on wounds. And it wants to alchemize the one that thinks I'm scared to fail. So I'll feel like I gotta make this happen, otherwise I'll be a failure. And then I'll literally, as the pattern, watch it go. You're allowed to be a failure in my body. You're allowed to be unloved in my body. Then it actually realizes it wasn't a fear of failure or a fear of not being enough. That's the problem. It's a belief that that means I'm not loved. And all of our childhood patterns that say I'll be a failure, I'll be shamed, I won't be loved. All believe that if that happens, then I'm not loved. So what if we are on this planet to not only learn to love positive thoughts and people we have things in common with, but we're also here to learn to love shame and guilt and fear. We're here to love and listen to the darkness that's inside of ourselves. I mean, we're being built now to learn to hear things that the elites are doing. That you have to find a lot of listening and compassion to even and face that this is real. Yeah, right. So understanding that happens is learning a level of love that doesn't mean forgiveness of the action thing. It's like just hearing it is a new level of God. Just facing that that is real.

[Hal Elrod]

Wow.

[Kyle Cease]

Is a new level of God. Right. I find that the More I focus on being the more a guided God doer comes through.

[Hal Elrod]

That's it.

[Kyle Cease]

It's a insight that pulls you off the couch, like wants to do something through you. And that's very different than what do I do? This question what do I do? Is a solution to. So that I'm not a failure to my dad in 1979.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Right. Or so that I'm not abused again when I was a kid. So that I'm not. Whatever. So that I don't face that past even as a young adult. Whatever.

[Hal Elrod]

Which is an unhealthy. Right. Motive for doing.

[Kyle Cease]

Right. Your motive for doing is a lot of people, even the most motivated. I think some of the most motivated in the world, some of the best doers ever Y are still out of don't hurt me.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

I mean I feel like it's a

[Hal Elrod]

sad or I'm not enough. Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

I think of Michael Jackson, I think of Brian Wilson. These are some of the greatest artists of all times. And one thing they have in common is their dad beat them. And I'm sure not saying that's the recipe for success. That's not how we want it. But if you are scared to death, you will create for 18 hours a day, forever to become the best ever.

[Hal Elrod]

If your nervous system.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

That little child in you is still terrible. I think so much like I said, the best doers, it's fear based, it's scarcity based. It's I'm not enough. It's I'm going to prove.

[Kyle Cease]

Right.

[Hal Elrod]

That I am better. Right, Right. You know, after I was bullied in high school and I felt like I was not enough, now I'm going to show them the vengeance piece that you talked about.

[Kyle Cease]

Totally.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah. Interesting.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah. And so like for me, being is first, but the being is not a passive push it away. The being is listening to all my wounds, listening to all my fears. I find that really alchemizes them, that really changes things. I think you create a new world when you actually listen to what your deepest fears are so much until they actually alchemize on their own.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah, yeah. And then you can move toward the light. Right? Yeah. And then, you know, or as you're

[Kyle Cease]

moving toward you start to realize that that light is here to like that

[Hal Elrod]

the lights within you.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah. There are fears that I have sat through and then, then they healed. And when they did, the external matched the healing. Like it goes now that person I forgave is calling me and apologizing or whatever.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

It's like I find that you're getting the mirror of that thing externally.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah. So, yeah, it is wild. I was reading the book the Celestine Prophecy the other day. You know, I read that like 20 years ago.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

And I don't know why I just grabbed it off my shelf. It teaches nine insight, nine spiritual insights. But the first insight and kind of the premise is to notice coincidences.

[Kyle Cease]

Yes.

[Hal Elrod]

And it goes back to the idea of, like, there are no accidents. Everything happens for a reason. Right. But you have to find the reason, so to speak. And it's amazing that, like, I started writing down what are all the coincidences in my life, and they led me to my highest place. And like, you and I meeting was a coincidence. For those who don't know, it was the Wednesday that I was on your website, like, studying your website, been watched your comedy, had your comedy DVD in 2007, I think 2008, something like that. And was literally on your website, like

[Kyle Cease]

the week that you were on my website. I out of nowhere, reached out to you, like the next two days, two

[Hal Elrod]

days later, I get a message from you and I'm like, what?

[Kyle Cease]

That's just wild.

[Hal Elrod]

So weird. And then I go, hey, what time zone are you in so we can get on a call. And we said, I live. You know, it turned out you live 15 minutes from me.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

And we had smoothies.

[Kyle Cease]

I didn't even know we were in the same state.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah, yeah. So wild. It's insane, you know, and there's so many things where you look at your life and you go, that can't be an accident. Like the timing of that, the alignment of that, the perfection of that. If something had happened one second off, off, that would not have converged.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

And it's going with. Even with God, with a curiosity, I think. I was talking to a friend the other day about how people are so kind of righteous is the right word, but, like, this is who God is. So, for example, I often say there's 3,000 religions, give or take, and most of them believe that ours is the right one.

[Kyle Cease]

Right.

[Hal Elrod]

And Therefore the other 2,999 are wrong.

[Kyle Cease]

Yes.

[Hal Elrod]

And my perspective is that each religion is human beings trying to understand something that they can't explain. And you really think about it. If you. Someone who is convicted that they know God, it's always in metaphor. It's like God's the father. Well, what does that mean? Is he like your dad, like he gave birth to, you know. Well, no, no, no, no, no. It's like different. He's the creator. Okay, what does that mean? And I always go to our senses because human beings, we make sense of things through our senses. That's how we interpret the world. So I say, what does God look like? I don't know. Well, what. What does he sound like? Nobody knows. Well, what's he smell like? What's he feel like? Right? So it's like you. You actually realize, oh, God's beyond our senses.

[Kyle Cease]

Right.

[Hal Elrod]

And so something that, for me, the shift recently, I was on a walk a few months ago, and I go, I was just praying as I was walking. I just. I love, you know, nature is like, where you just feel God, right?

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

And I go, it was an admission that almost. I felt weird to say, but then it was so liberating. I go, as I was praying, I go, God, I don't know who you are, and I don't know what you are. I just know that you are. And it's like, oh, yeah, them. And it's like, for most people, I think they can't admit, well, I do know who God is, and I do know what God is because it says here. You know what I mean? And so now it's like, God for me is a lifelong exploration of curiosity and love. Right. Like, that's it. It's like my whole life. And you shared a while back that your goal was to merge with your soul. Can you unpack that? Because I think there's correlation.

[Kyle Cease]

Oh, my gosh. Well, that is my goal. I think that there's so many different intentions that we can all have, and I really, truly mean nothing but love and respect to everyone. But when I ask my soul what it wants, it goes, you're here to meet me. You're here to meet me more than you're here to sell this many views or this. This many podcasts or do this.

[Hal Elrod]

You sell views and podcasts.

[Kyle Cease]

I know there's a bad example, but just more than I am here to even impact 50 million people, more than I'm here to. Gosh. I mean, there's a level where our goal is still so in. I kind of want to say the 3D or in. It's just like, there's no goal more important to me that I can find as anything to beat then. And I would put this in the same realm as to know God, but to meet my soul, to know what I truly am, to get closer and closer to what I truly am. And I think there's no end to how close you can get to it or God.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And I find, as you said, it keeps changing it. And people will say it doesn't change. I get it. But we still can get closer to it. And so it'll give you a new way. Whether it's today I'm forgiving something I didn't forgive before. Whether it's, I'm finding a love in this type of low vibration thing that I used to escape, or whether I'm feeling. I don't know what it is. There's so many ways that you find God in a new way every day.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Whether it's, oh, I see a tree differently. Whether it's like, this morning I fell to my knees and just put my hand on a cross and said, I don't know what I'm doing. I mean, I have been surrendering to God for my whole life and still finding new ways that I identified an identity of Kyle that that is the speaker and would like for him to take a breath and be released.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And merge with God more.

[Hal Elrod]

It's like this pressure we put on ourselves. Right. Like, I'm supposed to blank. And I think I wrote that the other day. I was journaling and it was like, hal, you don't have to do anything.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

Like, I feel like I have a book that I'm supposed to write right now.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

It's probably called the Miracle within and it's how you don't have to write that book. Ah. Like you don't have to do any of that. And that goes back to the free will piece. Like you can choose to. But please, for the love of God. Right. Pun intended. Do this from a place of liberated choice and not, well, you know, pressure.

[Kyle Cease]

Something that sounds almost insulting but, like, really helped me was a revelation. That is so obvious. But, Kyle, if you die, people will still shift.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. You're not that big a deal.

[Kyle Cease]

You're not that big a deal. And there was a way that my wife and I were talking about how funny it is that you can dedicate your entire life to the truth. And then one day I will die. And it's very possible someone will say a sentence like, oh, man, Kyle's funeral is the same day as the series finale of this show.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Like, literally, we are so irrelevant.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And I mean that in a way. There's a fear that the ego has that goes, I gotta matter. I'm scared.

[Hal Elrod]

I won't matter. I have to leave a legacy.

[Kyle Cease]

I have to leave a legacy. And you'll be dead. And who cares about your legacy?

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And that doesn't mean go be a crappy person. That means you're freer.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah. You're free.

[Kyle Cease]

Like, you don't matter. And there's a great way that you don't matter. So you matter a ton.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And you don't matter at all.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And there's a thing that ego does that it fights to matter to other egos. And I feel I just had a breakthrough. Yeah. So much more liberated in. The real truth is there's a way that I. What I do matters in one way, but I don't matter. And I can feel so much more permission to merge with God in that I really don't matter. Like, in a way that's more invincible and magical. And there's a quote that a friend of mine, Glenn Morshauer, said. He said it's because this moment is temporary that it's so beautiful. And because I know that one day I won't even be a memory and the people I love won't even be a memory that I really enjoy a moment with my daughter or my wife. I really. I love this moment. I mean, we're. We are dust in the wind. And what a fun experience to just do this versus putting the pressure on us that we better leave a legacy and do this the right way. And, boy, is the legacy less amazing anyway, the more the ego tries to have it versus just going, man, I don't matter. And that's freedom. It's okay. When you said, I gotta write a book, I'm like, I gotta learn a book. I gotta learn the book that I would write and. And just, yeah, live the book. Let God teach me. And I don't need to get the message out to everybody.

[Hal Elrod]

Maybe I'm not supposed to write the book, and I'm supposed to actually be the book.

[Kyle Cease]

Doesn't that feel truer?

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Does that feel like, what if we don't write a book for a minute and, yeah, this will come out still. Like, it'll still work.

[Hal Elrod]

And to your point, in terms of not mattering, this is one of a million podcasts that are being recorded today. And Right.

[Kyle Cease]

So, dude, I mean, they're just an influx of information in a time where we all need to know God. God, not necessarily have the information about how to get to God.

[Hal Elrod]

That's why ChatGPT came out, because it's like, it's to make you realize how information is pointless. Available 24 7. What's your experience, though? What just came up for me then I said I had a breakthrough, was, so when I went through My cancer journey. The breakthrough was I'm a workaholic. I'm dedicated to a mission of changing millions of lives. And my family is suffering. They are suffering because I am choosing work, work over them. I say that my family is my number one priority and in my heart they are. But in my schedule you'd go, well, there's a little bit of incongruency there, Hal. You're working on some Saturdays here. Oh yeah, but I have a book. Like I've got a book launch. This isn't forever. I just got the book launch. That's why I'm doing it. And here's. And so the breakthrough that I had during the cancer journey that just evolved even further in this conversation was that those three people that I live with, and I still stand by this be as truth, they are far more important the impact that I have in their lives than in the millions of lives that I could impact. It's the, the equality over quantity, if you will. So that's been really shifted where now like, no, they come first. I take the kids to school, I pick them up. Like, I give up money, productivity, all of that. I'm not, I'm not bragging, but like, because they are a priority. But what you just said, which is in terms of your goal is to merge with your soul. Nothing is more important than that. In the same way, if it's quality over quantity and the impact I can make on millions of people pales in comparison to the impact I can make on the three people I live with, wouldn't that pale in comparison to the impact that I can make within and

[Kyle Cease]

I can even add to that.

[Hal Elrod]

Please, let's go.

[Kyle Cease]

And you have to hear this, right? What if you undid the pressure of making an impact?

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And in other words, would an impact still not be made if you didn't assign yourself that job? In other words, I wasn't trying to make an impact when I said this.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And you had an insight.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Right. So an impact accidentally was still happening. But there's a weird thing that we have where there's this. It's so interesting because at one point to have the goal of making an impact is a step out of a victim mentality of lethargy and complete or

[Hal Elrod]

self centeredness versus addicted 3D.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah. So there is this stages that we need. Like there is a motivation stage and it is a making is better than being in a victim stage. Right. And some people just skip it and go straight to God. There's so many different ways this Happens. But there's a time where you keep going up this truth machine and you go, why do I have this unconscious gift? Because at one point, making an impact on people was a step forward in my journey and felt good. Now in 2026, you might be going, actually, it's a dip down to feel the energy of. I have to make an impact. What if I'm just gonna relax? Like, you almost feel more God. And more things will just happen when you go, I don't have to make an impact.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

I just am gonna enjoy playing with my kids.

[Hal Elrod]

Here's what that brings up for me as. I don't know if counter. Right. Just going back and forth another way of looking at.

[Kyle Cease]

At it.

[Hal Elrod]

What I just. So as you're speaking that. And I'm like evaluating. Oh, yeah. Does that feel true? Does that resonate as true? Yes. And I think about as Jesus as an example.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

Right. Like, arguably made the biggest impact in the world of any individual and he was connecting with God every day. So to me, and Jesus is someone that I've. I've studied, so have you. Right. Like study, learn from understanding how he lived his life as a really a model to follow. And so that to me, I go, well, if that's a model, it's a yes. And it goes back to the being and doing. Right. But here's the thing. He didn't have a social media following. He didn't have a microphone to reach many people at once.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

He just focused on the people in his life. Right. That were in his immediate circle, if you will. And living his truth, connecting with God through prayer and meditation every morning, which was documented. And then in sharing that truth with others. So to me, it is actually and however you word it or define it. But if we look at that as one example of maybe the ultimate example.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah.

[Hal Elrod]

Right. It's a yes.

[Kyle Cease]

And I guess what I would say is that it's almost as if it will still be shared. But if I'm like, I gotta share the truth. Do you hear that? Compartmentalized control. That's what I feel.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

If I'm just like, there's a lot of. I don't know what to do for all of us in the next couple years. That doesn't mean things won't be done.

[Hal Elrod]

Yes.

[Kyle Cease]

You know what I mean?

[Hal Elrod]

Experiment.

[Kyle Cease]

And that doesn't mean that impact won't be made beyond anything that you could ever measure. In fact, the more I'm not measuring how much impact I make, the more I bet it's more Just based on the frequency I'm emitting, based on the humility I'm in. Based on. I don't know. The more I think. I don't know if this is a dream and it's a mirror of me and yours is a mirror of you. I just feel like I have to. Is a lie. It doesn't feel like a calling. I find that I get to. I get to go sit in the yard.

[Hal Elrod]

You're cold.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah. Like when every. I meditated 100 days for two hours a day. Every next step, every. It was never. I have to.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

It was never. It was just like, what if I. Yeah. You know, it was always that. That I have to get people to see. Doesn't work well for me. But if I have an actual insight, I'm talking to you on the podcast about it. And then when I follow it and integrate it into my heart, it gives me a billion more next steps revelations. It seems to have its own impact encoded. It has its own answers. So it's that part in us that I think comes from past self help that gives us this kind of. This is the answer out of my suffering. And it's a weird thing because the more you. You. If you're on one side of this coin and you hear I don't matter, you could totally use that to go back into an addictive. It doesn't matter what I do now. I'll never pay a bill again and be a crappy person to the world. It's so weird how you can't. I don't mean it like that.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

You go. It doesn't matter what I do because God is in me and will express through me. So my egoic construct that has to be the one that tells everybody everything.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Needs could die in this surrender of like, it will do what it needs to do through me.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And here's something that helps me so, so much. It also has them meaning. Like God's got them.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Right. The idea that Kyle's gotta impact everyone. God's over there with them.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah. Yeah. It's not.

[Kyle Cease]

And sometimes we're coaching people out of the suffering they need to be in.

[Hal Elrod]

Interesting perspective. Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Like, I find the factor of every person that's ever gone to God was they hit a low.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And we're like stopping caterpillars from going into cocoons by, like giving them the answers. And then they get mentally understanding of all the answers before they ever hit a wall. And they need that wall. They need that suffering. They need the hardship too. I mean I had a low and then went to Tony Robbins in 2004. And then I started yelling at everyone they got to go to Tony Robbins.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

But they didn't have the low. And so it was just a distraction. It's like, yeah, that was really cool. That was amazing. I feel good. Good. But yeah, it saved my life.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Because I hit the low. And that factor of the low is a really big one. Everyone that's ever stopped alcoholism was because of the low. You. A rock bottom is required if somebody's

[Hal Elrod]

going through a low right now. So you do one on one coaching. You do group coaching. And this is your last year doing your Evolving Out Loud program. Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

So my last year of my membership site infinite expansion and I'm wide open to what's on the other side. I'm in my ninth year and I just feel like my heart is going. There's a level for me to learn it. I also got married to my wife Amber this last year and we haven't even got to have a honeymoon yet. You know, I do these calls. I do these calls and she's someone who travels and I traveled as a speaker, but I haven't traveled as a husband on a vacation. And I want to give her that. I want to give my daughter a father more that gotta stop everything and do these calls. I love my calls. They're amazing. I shift people. But yeah, I feel like. I feel God is going let go of that.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah, yeah. No, nine years is a long time and two calls a week. I mean you over deliver. Yeah. Eight calls a month.

[Kyle Cease]

There's over a thousand hours of content on there. And every call I'm contracted to do an hour always ends up being an hour and a half or more. And I'm honored to do it. It'll be be in the archives forever and we'll do stuff that's awesome with it. I'm here for one on ones and

[Hal Elrod]

I guess what's the website where if somebody wants to join. Evolving out Loud.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah, I joined in the last year.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah. 39 bucks. It's been like it's practically free.

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah. It's so fun.

[Hal Elrod]

You undercharge and over deliver, dude.

[Kyle Cease]

But yeah, yeah, I think that's actually been a problem of mine.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah, I think or it's been what's helped so many allowed you to help so many people wouldn't be able to access you otherwise.

[Kyle Cease]

Totally. It's true. But I think one of the things that I've learned in the last couple years is that's Been a big thing is people need to earn my trust. I've had people that I give everything to.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah. Oh, yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

You know what I'm saying? And I just like open my heart to people.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Share my pain with people. Just trust that whatever they can do certain things that I've earned and that they can do it too.

[Hal Elrod]

And.

[Kyle Cease]

And I've had people that stole from me. I've had people that took my open heart and used it against me. I've had people that know what my wounds are or fears are and just feel like I can go inward and not have to divulge every pain that I have to every person. And I have made people my authority my whole life. And so there's always wanting people to love me. So I also think that is a gift. I've offered courses that are through years and years and years of experience and I make them 20 bucks and it's great.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

But then the downside is people go, oh, it's just 20 bucks.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

They could easily be a $2,000 course.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And I just want people to have it, but then they see it with that same unearned.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Oh, I'll just. Whatever. It's kind of like when your friend goes, you want to see my friend's band versus you want to pay to go see a good band.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

If that band is the best band in the world. But my friend said, do you want to go to a free thing?

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

You know you're not going to.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

But I still offer people. Yeah. Grab our courses. They're incredible.

[Hal Elrod]

What's your website? Where can we go?

[Kyle Cease]

They could go to kylesisse.com courses. They on kylecisse.com courses have anything from name your price for a regret course. There is a out with the old in with the now course. That's $20. That is a two day event. That is so incredible. There is a boundaries course that I find was an on stage like event that we did two days. That one's like 50 something. That is an insane course for boundaries. And I taught it because I need to learn it. I am finding the more that I boundary things that don't align with my soul, the more boundary less I become because I connect to source.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

So people are like, oh, I'd love to get that but it costs money. I'm like, yeah, you got to learn to boundary stuff because you don't know how much abundance is trying to come into your life because you're staying on a low frequency and you're still handing it to alcohol and whatever. So go to Kyle seas.com courses.

[Hal Elrod]

They can get the last year evolving out loud. Is there. Everything is there, right?

[Kyle Cease]

Yeah. Yeah. If you go to courses, everything's there. But if you go to Kyle Seas dot com.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Just that you'll find everything.

[Hal Elrod]

When your website's all. It's awesome. It's all.

[Kyle Cease]

It's a news.

[Hal Elrod]

You sit. A new site.

[Kyle Cease]

Yes.

[Hal Elrod]

And I just want to. I actually plan on talking about this a lot. I know we're getting toward the end of our time, but. The Illusion of Money. This is the favorite book, number one of every book I read last year. And I did a post about it. I did a podcast about it actually. Actually about my favorite books of that I read in 2025. And that was my number one favorite book, the Illusion of Money. I've read it multiple times. I've listened to it on audio multiple times. I've recommended this book maybe more than any other book I've ever recommended. And to me, it's a spiritual book disguised as a book about money. Because again, the title, the Illusion of Money. It's like you are so much more than money. 100 and your beliefs around money are preventing you from making money. And even when you make money, you're living in fear that you're going to lose it. So, right. Like this illusion that is money, which isn't actually a real thing. Right. It's literally man made.

[Kyle Cease]

Right.

[Hal Elrod]

And it controls so much of our psyche and our mental and emotional state.

[Kyle Cease]

And when people hear that, they are like, okay, well, it's illusion. Well, I have to pay the bills and all this stuff speak to that. And I think one of the things that I'm trying to say is in that sentence, that point they're making is that money is more important than their soul. And I find that people that make money more important than their soul lose both.

[Hal Elrod]

Wow.

[Kyle Cease]

And so when people are like, that's great, Kyle. The Illusion of Money. Well, I'm running out of money. And I'm like, I know. Because you're making money bigger than your soul. People are like, yeah, I'm working 60 hours a week and I still can barely get by. And I'm like, because the work is not what your soul wants. That's why it's so heavy. That's why it's painful. And it's because money is a bigger deal to you then. And you're forgetting something. Realize this. Especially in the last six years.

[Hal Elrod]

Mm.

[Kyle Cease]

Did you know that I've heard this. I don't know what's true anymore, but I've heard that 80% of all the money we have in circulation was printed in the last six years.

[Hal Elrod]

Something along those lines. Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

That means that they just print more of it. But there's only one you.

[Hal Elrod]

You. Wow.

[Kyle Cease]

There's literally only one you. And money is a fleeting thing. And every dollar you've ever made came from you. So why are we excited about money? Get excited about you.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

Get excited about your connection to God. What's trying to come through you? Every idea, every next step. Everything comes through you.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

So why are we making money bigger than you? That is in itself making a limited supply thing. Your God, which makes you already see, lack meaning. Like an analogy I use in the book. You can actually tell me if I'm. If I'm right that I use it in the book, because I don't remember if I said it on a podcast or use it.

[Hal Elrod]

I've heard it way more times than you have.

[Kyle Cease]

If we're in the woods, is it that one?

[Hal Elrod]

Oh, I don't know.

[Kyle Cease]

If you and I are in the woods. Let's say we're in the woods.

[Hal Elrod]

Woods.

[Kyle Cease]

And I go. And I round a corner and you can't find me. Let's say I see a giant waterfall. Okay. Huge waterfall. It's just pouring. Imagine if I took a cup and I filled up the cup and I came back to you. And I go, hal, a cup of water. What am I not showing you?

[Hal Elrod]

The waterfall.

[Kyle Cease]

The source.

[Hal Elrod]

The source.

[Kyle Cease]

Ah, right. And you just see the cup of water. So you're going, do we have enough of this? Do we have enough for water rent next month? We don't have any to donate because I only. Only see the limited supply. So you're already looking at the money versus the source, where it came from. The source that made the money. But if you started looking at the waterfall of what you are, you would see there's an insane supply.

[Hal Elrod]

Yeah.

[Kyle Cease]

And so it's not about tricking yourself to go, oh, I have an unlimited supply of money, and now I can see a giant amount of money, so I'm just going to blow all my money. No, you're still making money bigger than you. You got to see what you are and ask the supply what you want on this connection and everything like that. But, yeah, people burn out because they make money bigger than themselves. And then they have to be addicted to stuff because they're so tired. So all of a sudden you make all this extra money, but you're so off that it suddenly goes to counseling, blood pressure medication. You feel insignificant, so you buy the most expensive car so that people like you. You get the most expensive house. All of a sudden you're making a bun pain, but then you're spending it

[Hal Elrod]

all on things to mash the pain.

[Kyle Cease]

It all balances out. The more you make money out of. Money's bigger than me. The more you spend it on addictions and everything like that. And we're here to get a connection to source and get that connection first. And it comes with answers. And you pointed out a chapter you love. It starts out. And a chapter. Chapter five, you love. But there's a chapter in there that starts out, oh, imagine if Michael, G.A. in the middle of. Of his insanely huge career, God, amnesia. And there weren't Michael Jordan posters and commercials and everything. And so he just wakes up one day and goes, well, I gotta make money. So he starts working at, like, Applebee's. Yeah. And he's working his butt off. And you go in there and you're like, michael Jordan. And he's like, hey, thanks. Or whatever. Do you. Table for two? And you're like, no. Do you know who you are? You're like, why are you here? You should be doing basketball. You should be. Be. And he's like, listen, I. I hear you. That's really nice. But I gotta work here. And one day I'll make money as an assistant manager. They're gonna promote me next year. And you're like, you'll make a ton of money if you follow what you are. It's like, that's really cute, but I don't think you get that I'm about to be assistant manager at Applebee's. And you're like, dude, I promise you're the greatest. If you understand, like, what I'm really about is getting people to the Michael Jordan version of themselves. The Prince version. Right. The Mr. Rogers version. There's a unique, miraculous. Only one of you that's amazing. And we are wasting it wishing we were everyone else. It'd be weird if you looked in the stars in the sky and you see, like, 90% of them were worshiping some TMZ stars over here, and they're wishing they could be a Kim Kardashian star. And it's like, dude, you're your own unique thing. You gotta get what you want are. And you got to be obsessed with what you are and be closer to the God version of you, because you will find more and more uniqueness the less you're trying to be anything else. And you'll find that because there's only one of you, you're very rare. If you understand supply and demand, that's worth a ton of money. So surrender money, which there's a ton of. People go, no, there's not. Because we keep going. Money's bigger, right? But they're printing it everywhere, so. So find your soul. Find what your value is. Keep getting closer to your soul. And I think you'll be surprised at how much more money comes in. And you won't, weirdly, because you feel so connected to your soul, you won't spend it on addictive things. You'll be excited about your connection to source or you'll want to donate it to stop trafficking or whatever. And all of a sudden you'll be in purpose in your soul, valuable because there's only one of you. And money should happen much easier.

[Hal Elrod]

The purpose of life, Connect with your soul. Connect with who you really are on a journey. And God being ultimately the source, the waterfall of all that we are, which is limitless. I love it, brother. I love you, man.

[Kyle Cease]

Dude, I love you too, Hal. You're a good guy with a huge heart.

[Hal Elrod]

Ditto, brother. So good to be with you today.

[Kyle Cease]

I'm so grateful to be your friend and I'm so grateful we get to do this today and I'm just grateful for now.

[Hal Elrod]

And we're going to go to the well, I think for lunch, dude, which is I'm in like dance icing on the cake. Yeah, get the book the illusion of money. Why chasing money is stopping you from receiving it by Kyle Cease. Go to Kyle Cease.com Kyle Cease.com go

[Kyle Cease]

to Kyle C.com and you could also go to Kyle C.com course courses and

[Hal Elrod]

all the things are there. And check out my good friend Kyle Cease. And by the way, get the audiobook of the illusion of money because Kyle is a standup comedian and he riffs and it is hilarious as it is enlightening. Love you much. Talk to you next week.

[Kyle Cease]

Thanks everybody. Thanks for listening. To learn more about the achieve your goals podcast and to get access today's show notes, transcript and exclusive content from hal Elrod, visit Halelrod.com podcast thanks again for joining us. Be sure to tune in next week for another episode of the achieve your goals podcast.