ADHD-Friendly Episode 232: Conscientiousness and ADHD
Host: Patty Blinderman
Date: April 1, 2026
Episode Overview
In this episode, Patty Blinderman dives into the topic of conscientiousness and ADHD, exploring why following through can be uniquely challenging for those with ADHD. Patty brings her signature “ADHD-friendly lens” to unpack scientific research, personal anecdotes, and practical strategies. Along the way, she celebrates small wins, highlights a favorite product, shares a book review, and closes with an inspiring quote.
Key Discussion Points and Insights
1. Personal Celebration: Growth and Progress
[00:40]
- Patty begins by celebrating a personal win: successfully growing seeds from a library seed library event.
- She reflects on the joy and sense of accomplishment from nurturing the seedlings, despite her historical struggles with keeping plants alive.
“I want to celebrate that I’ve been able to grow anything out of a seed when I used to kill even full grown plants… That’s really impressive.”
— Patty, [02:04]
2. Product of the Week: Sam’s Club Bathing Suit
[03:00]
- Shares her experience with the Betsy Johnson Women’s Core One Piece Swimsuit from Sam’s Club ($19.98).
- Highlights comfort, fit, and design, while noting the fit issues cited in reviews for taller individuals or those “very large up top.”
- Emphasizes the ADHD-friendly aspect: having a backup swimsuit reduces maintenance/friction for her new lap-swimming routine.
"Comfortable, easy to swim in. Love it. I like the little gold accent... feels a little fancy…for about $19.98, I went back and I’m really debating getting this little blue guy."
— Patty, [04:00]
3. Tip of the Week: The First Step Lab Workshop
[06:33]
- Announcing a workshop on April 15th (“The First Step Lab: Cracking Task Initiation”), focused on helping participants break through planning paralysis and start tasks.
- Practical strategies for closing the gap between intending and actually doing, designed specifically for ADHD brains.
- Details: $39, one-hour Zoom, includes worksheet and recording.
“We’re going to break through the planning and get to the doing…It’s about closing that gap and learning simple strategies that help our ADHD brain to take that first step and begin.”
— Patty, [07:18]
4. Main Topic: Conscientiousness and ADHD
[08:10]
a. What Is Conscientiousness?
- Patty introduces conscientiousness as a valued personality trait—being on time, detail-oriented, thoughtful, reliable.
- Notes that despite valuing these traits, people with ADHD often struggle to “show up consistently” due to brain wiring.
“ADHD brain wiring makes the consistency hard. We are often described as consistently inconsistent… So we’re only consistent at being inconsistent, which is kind of frustrating.”
— Patty, [09:18]
b. Reframing the Challenge
- Stresses that the struggle is executive function-based, not a flaw in character or motivation.
“This is not about you not wanting to show up as a conscientious human being. It’s about your brain not supporting you consistently to show up that way.”
— Patty, [10:45]
c. Strategies for Boosting Conscientiousness
[11:10]
Patty’s actionable tips:
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Make It Visible
- Use post-its, checklists, and templates.
- Customize formats (e.g., avoid cramped, single-spaced lists that may cause you to skip steps).
“Make what you’re trying to do visible. External, concrete…”
— Patty, [11:30] -
Shrink the Size
- Set “stupid small” goals; avoid perfectionism.
- Example: If remembering birthdays is hard, just sending a simple acknowledgment counts as a win.
“We want to show up as our ideal self 100% every single time. Let’s shrink that expectation…”
— Patty, [12:40] -
Lean into Body Doubling and Accountability
- Tidy or do tasks during a phone call, with someone present, or by sending before/after photos for external motivation.
“Plan it during a phone call... so it’s giving you something to support your effort and energy instead of just you trying to push yourself to do it.”
— Patty, [13:10] -
Track Your Wins Visually
- Use calendars or success lists to log accomplishments and build consistency/self-confidence.
“Keep a success list… something that lets you see the wins to build up momentum.”
— Patty, [14:10] -
Reduce Friction for Your Future Self
- Keep supplies handy (extra trash cans, launch/landing pad for keys/wallet).
- Simplify structures to make follow-through easier.
“What would allow you to show up more the way you want to show up?... It often is as simple as just getting a few extra trash cans.”
— Patty, [17:02]
d. Normalization and Research
- Adults with ADHD consistently rate lower in conscientiousness—not surprising, but linked to executive functions and inattention.
- Real-world examples: forgetting steps, not finishing tasks, not returning calls, needing medication refills.
“It’s not about knowing what to do, it’s about doing what we know.”
— Patty, [18:30]
e. Childhood Memories and Pop Culture Motto
- Patty recalls using the “see a need, fill a need” motto (from the movie Robots) to encourage responsibility in herself and her family.
5. Book of the Week: The Correspondent by Virginia Evans
[20:45]
- Book club selection; Patty gives it 4.5/5 stars.
- Novel told entirely through letters; she recommends the physical book for easier comprehension but acknowledges some enjoyed the audio version.
“The story follows an older woman who spends a few mornings each week keeping up with her lifelong habit of correspondence… She writes to George Lucas at one point too. It’s cool, it’s warm, it’s funny, it’s engaging.”
— Patty, [22:40]
6. Quote of the Week
[24:18]
- Cites Jane Austen:
“Nothing is so delightful as a letter from a friend.”
- Notes that April is National Letter Writing Month, recalling her own letter-writing campaign with friends.
Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments
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“We are often described as consistently inconsistent… So we’re only consistent at being inconsistent, which is kind of frustrating.”
— Patty, [09:18] -
“Shrink that expectation and make what you’re trying to do stupid small.”
— Patty, [12:40] -
“It’s not about knowing what to do, it’s about doing what we know.”
— Patty, [18:30] -
“Good systems are what support conscientiousness. So it’s not about overhauling everything in your life. It’s about noticing from where I am right now, this is the thing that consistently gets in my way, and I want to make myself a plan to lessen it.”
— Patty, [18:00] -
“Nothing is so delightful as a letter from a friend.”
— Jane Austen (quoted by Patty), [24:18]
Important Timestamps
- Celebration/Life Update: 00:40
- Product of the Week (Swimsuit): 03:00
- Workshop Announcement: 06:33
- Conscientiousness & ADHD — Start of Topic: 08:10
- Visible Aids & Customization: 11:10
- Shrinking the Task: 12:40
- Accountability & Body Doubling: 13:10
- Celebrating Consistency/Tracking: 14:10
- Reduction of Friction: 17:02
- Real-Life Examples of Struggles: 18:30
- Book of the Week: 20:45
- Jane Austen Quote: 24:18
Takeaways
- ADHD challenges with conscientiousness are about executive function, not character.
- Practical strategies—visibility, shrinking tasks, body doubling, tracking wins, reducing friction—can transform intentions into consistent habits.
- Self-compassion and the right supports/tools bridge the gap between how ADHDers want to show up and what’s actually possible.
For more, check out upcoming workshops and resources linked in the show notes.