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Hi, welcome to ADHD Friendly. I'm just realizing I've got all of this. I didn't even see it. I'm distracted by my. My clutter. Yes. Clutter shoe. There's a lot going on. You'll find out why. Stay tuned. Welcome to ADHD Friendly. I am an ADHD and executive function coach and this is episode 245. I know today I am celebrating some vacation wins, so Becky will hear a bit about my vacation as I go through those. And I don't have a lot of additional. Like, I had a different topic for today, but I'm focusing on what I learned for my vacation and it made me decide to switch my topic to thank you, Past Patty. Because my future self, when I arrived home from my vacation, was so stinking grateful for what Past Patty did to support. Yeah, yeah. All of those times. There's time. Flip. Flip was really, really, really helpful. So I wanted to highlight what I did and how it worked and invite you to explore if there's something you can do to support your future self. So you'll be thanking your past self for what it did. All right, let's start with the celebrations. I'm going to hit these in just like kind of a bullet point because I'm going to talk about some of these examples in more detail in my thinking my past self. But I did my planning on a whiteboard, which is, you know, part of the reason why I've got whiteboards kind of laying around here. I put pictures of my plans on my phone, which ended up being really helpful because I never pulled out the hard copy, which I've never done before. I always navigate through a hard copy, but we were so on the on the go. So I realized I'm just jumping into my celebration. Went to Ireland with my husband, celebrated our 34th anniversary there. And we went for 10 days. Every day, had something planned. So I needed to really have a way to see what we planned so we could be where we needed to be, when we needed to be there. And we both. I took a picture of the itinerary and I sent it to him, shared it with him. So we both had pictures of what was happening when so we could reference it. And we used them constantly. That was very helpful. We packed snacks to take with us that I told you about. I even. I think I even showed you the snacks. We had so many snacks. Waterproof shoes, which you'll hear more about in a minute. And I even made a re entry plan, which was another big thing that I did to Support my future self that motivated this episode, to thank my past self for doing that. So that's my win. It was such a great vacation. We have great pictures. I didn't show you any of the pictures. It was such a beautiful, beautiful country. We can't wait to go back. How was the weather? It was great. We had rain the first two days. Not constantly, just, you know, a few showers. That made my product of the week something I was glad I had. But other than that, it was sunny and it was never one day hit 70 every other day. The highest was 65. I wore a sweatshirt jacket every day. I was in my bliss. It was perfect. So I. I didn't buy anything in the past week except some souvenirs, which I'm not counting because they were part of our, our plan and our budget. But I do have a product of the week that I purchased before we left. And it was a slightly impulse buy, but it came from realizing that it does rain a lot in Ireland. And we had tours that ranged from nine hours one day. One of the longest was a 13 hour tour. And I thought, if we' and I get my feet wet, I'm going to be miserable. And I have hokas that I walk in that are so comfortable. But I got to tell you, if I walk even after it's done raining, yeah. The little bit of moisture that's still on the sidewalk or road when I'm walking will get the front of my shoes wet, which will make my socks wet. And so I'm like, that doesn't sound like a great option. So I decided to get some waterproof shoes. And these are my product of the week. So this is after 10 days walking around Ireland and Northern Ireland. I can't even tell you how many miles we walked. It was insane. Insane. The first two days, like I said, there was rain. And I remember, like walking through puddles and thinking, well, we're testing these guys out. Yeah, they were great. Awesome. No, kept my feet completely dry, which was fabulous. But even more important over the long course of the vacation was they were so comfortable. So these are L.L. bean shoes. They're called the Women's Trail Model X, the Layer X waterproof hiking shoes. So these are heavier than my hokas, which I didn't think I was gonna like because they definitely are a little bit more effortful to put on. But once they were on, I didn't notice the weight. I really did it. They're a little bit more. They're kind of in the range of hokas. If you if you purchase hocus, these were $120, but these will last me. Like, they still look brand new even after they're just a little bit dirty, but they're leather. Like, they're going to last me for years. So I think of them as a little bit of an investment that will pay off. I do love L.L. bean. Like, I knew even after my 10 days, if I didn't love them, I could have taken them back. Because they will take them back if you're not happy with them. And the fun thing was I ended up getting an eight and a half. I typically wear a nine, so I felt like, you know, I had, like, these tiny little feet. Yeah. But I told the. The gentleman, I was like, it feels fine for my toes, but my heel's still slipping a little bit. And he showed me this little hack. If you're listening to this, check out my YouTube channel, ADHD Friendly, to see what I'm showing you. These little side tabs that A lot of shoes, even my hocus, have these little side tabs. He showed me how to lace through them so that when you. When you pull them tight and tie them, it actually cinches in the heel. I had no idea that's what it was for. And if you look, it's kind of the way that he showed me how to loop them. It makes this loop that holds the laces in place so they don't come undone every time. And you have to re. Redo it. You just tie them like normal once. Once you do that little extra step. So I just thought that tip was, like, worth a million bucks. I love these guys. So again, they are the L.L. bean Women's Trail Model X waterproof hiking shoes. Love them. Comes from. Granted only two weeks of owning them, but enormous, like, more use than I would have gotten over probably a year of wearing them just on a hike or something. So that's my product of the week. All right. On for my tip of the week. And it is. Summer's in full swing, so depending on how you're doing, managing different schedules with work, kids at home, camps, maybe visitors, traveling, if your routines have started slipping a bit, you're not alone. And this often happens with ADHD brains because we have less structure, so it makes our routines a little bit less consistent. We have maybe dips in our motivation, and we have increases on our mental load. We're trying to do more in our head. Don't want to stop. It's like, I'm just going, going, going. I noticed this a lot While I was traveling, it's like I didn't want to stop. That's what I found really interesting to look at my physical list of what was going on. It was just let me just pull it up and look at my phone because that felt less effortful. So we don't need more willpower. We need more systems that work for our brain. And that's what we're focusing on in ADHD Friendly this month. Throughout July, we are building systems for success. So what is included? If you want to try out the membership this month, give it a go. We're going to do our First Friday webinar on July 10th because of the holidays on July 3rd. Yep. So we're pushing it. Our First Friday will be the second Friday in July, but it's all about how to create ADHD friendly systems and routines. We're going to do a summer planning check in live event. We have a couple of Body Double Power hour sessions and two workshops, one on creating low resistance systems. So these are ones that you don't have a lot of friction for that you can connect to with ease. And then we're also going to do a workshop to build a mini habit. So literally creating or strengthening a habit right there during the workshop, we'll leave with it, ready to go. So remember, you don't need a perfect routine. You need structure that works for your brain. So if you want more support, accountability, practical tools, and a community that gets you because we have similar brain wiring, join ADHD Friendly. It's a great month to explore everything that is there to support you. Find more information@adhdfriendly.com all right, on to I'm going to move that shoe. I find it distracting looking at it. Onto my topic for this episode and it is. Thank you past Patty. I really want to share how my vacation planning came through for me. So doing the things in advance set my future self up to benefit from it. And I wanted to acknowledge my past self for doing, taking the time, making the decisions, putting the structure in place because it really helped. But let's talk about what a lot of us experience. If you've ever gone on vacation, traveled, do you ever come back and kind of feel completely disconnected from what you had going or maybe remorse about what you wished you'd done to make things easier when you came back frustrated or even tired? Like a lot of people I know, like, we'll come back. We're like, I need a vacation after my vacation. Yeah. Because we're just exhausted and I tend to go into my vacations because I know that's always me because I am very introverted. It's exhausting to me be around so many people and navigating so many things. New things. Yeah. And social expectations and all of that. So I know I come back tired. Yeah. So thinking about like all the unpacking, all the laundry you have in front of you, all the mail that's piled up. My gosh, the mail pile. Email. You think people don't. Oh, forget about the email. But you think because I literally had so many zero access to my email. Right. Which was really nice in some ways because there was no way for me to connect to it. Yeah. So I wasn't distracted by it. Which was really lovely because if there was anything in there that needed to be done, I would have been unable to ignore it and stressed. So I, I was like, how to say, out of mind. Really worked for me there. Love it. But also if you're traveling across time zones, jet lag, you know, it's. All of these things can really make it hard when you come back to have the energy, the motivation to reconnect to things. I'm thinking my past self because for the most part it doesn't mean it was perfect. But I had a different experience because I set myself up for success before I left in little ways. These were not things that took an enormous amount of effort. So I realized that because of past Patty, I really felt my present Patty self taken care of and I am still benefiting from this. So I thought I have to share this because it's such a game changer when we think a little bit forward and what we can do to make our future self a little bit, you know, kind of navigate a little bit more easily. So as I highlighted in my vacation wins, my planning and prep really supported me throughout the entire vacation and it led up to tons of wins. So I'm just going to share a couple of those here. So first of all, the planning and I've got a picture here because I did erase my dry erase board, but this was on my giant dry erase board which if you've ever seen my Fun with ADHD episodes, that giant dry erase board is behind me and it's two sided. So I, I left up the fun with ADHD because I don't feel like rewriting that every time. But on the other side I filled the whole thing with chart that I made. So I did a calendar for the month of June and then I wrote down different things on different little magnetic strips that I added to the different days so we could see it. So I'm just holding up a picture again, something to check out where you can see. I had like our travel day. I had easy days highlighted. So I. I wanted to acknowledge we're going to be exhausted, right. And I don't want to book tours and that kind of thing. So we planned like little, like walk around and shop in the little, you know, walk through the park that was recommended to us, lunch at this place or whatever. But then I had a list of all of the different tours we wanted to do, all the prices of the tours so we could see is this fitting in our budget times two. You know, all the time it was like, okay, what's that much? But it's both of us. And then I had a list on the left of the driver's board of the tasks like currency exchange. Call the cell phone company and make sure that we just had one phone. We had his phone set up to be able to make. I could do things when I was connected to WI Fi at the hotel and such, but his phone was connected all the time. So if the kids need to get in touch with us or anything. But I, I learned, like, put my phone on. It was on airplane mode the entire time. So that, number one, I wasn't accidentally charged for connecting because it would have automatically connected me because my husband are on the same plan. And Verizon in its. It's. We're helping you out here. We're activating all of your phones so they'll automatically. And so I was like, no, no, no, no, no. So I turned it to airplane mode so that it wouldn't, as soon as I left the hotel, start searching and realize, oh, you're. You're roaming, you know. And so that worked out really well. But we also called the credit card company to make sure that they were where. Where we would be, so that if the card got used there, it was fine. But if it got used in the States, then that wasn't okay. Right. But that means that wasn't us. So there are all these little detailing things we needed. No. And so it was a visual list that really helped us in our planning. And as you can see, I use these little strips of magnets that I've gotten years ago. And it was funny because at first my husband was kind of mocking me when I rolled in my giant calendar. And I, you know, I had a giant ruler and I was making the month grid with the date, but once I started moving, he's like, get some more of those things. Because what if we. And I'm like, like, yeah, you're right. I'm like, see, you mock me. But there, there's a real reason that I do this. And I love when other people see that it helps them too. Because if we don't know how it helps, then we're kind of like, well, why would I go through the effort of that? So that was really, really helpful. Next. And again, I planned everything. It was really helpful. That being said, we still booked. In my opinion, one tour too many. Right at the very end where it was kind of like I could have done without another 12 hour tour. But the things that we saw, I don't regret seeing. It was just. I think I would have maybe like booked not a whole tour. I just would have gone directly to that thing. It was the, the Giants Causeway and Game of Thrones and it was minimal. On Game of Thrones it was mostly like Giants Causeway and it was kind of like, oh, well, like these are the trees. This is the, like there's. I'll show you a picture of like where I'm climbing out of the scene where, where Arya gets stabbed. And like you. They show you like this is where she got stabbed but where she came out of was like a whole other part of the tour. And I have a picture of me like going off the steps. Yeah, like, oh. I was like, I should get down. But it was like water and stuff. But they had a picture of Aria climbing out of it so you could see like it was exactly where we were. So that was kind of cool. But like, honestly, right, like I didn't need. Yeah, I'm like, I could have just gone to the, the Giant's Causeway and come back. We were just tired. But everything again, it was still good. It was just. I was like, I've seen all the castles. I'm not getting out to take another picture. But it was because of how much we really looked at the planning. We could see what we were asking ourselves when we had a 12 hour tour. We made the next day an easy day so that we had time to like sleep in and have a breakfast and all of that. Not overdo it. The second thing was buying and packing snacks to take with us because what we realized was we were going to be at the mercy of whatever was around us when we were hungry, if we didn't plan to pack things. Because there were several tours, even though breakfast was included in our hotel, it wouldn't be served. We had to leave by 6:30 and breakfast with the earliest was set up at any of our. Where we were staying with 6:30. So that meant we were leaving the hotel at 5, 45 or 6, so it would not have been set up. So we had to figure out, like, what could we bring with us? So we're not trying to get to the place we have to meet our group while also trying to figure out where can we get something to eat. Yeah. So we just pat. We bought biscotti and breakfast things and just. Yeah. Made it work. And we always had a snack bag. My husband carried a backpack. And we just packed snacks every day, you know, like peanut butter crackers and granola bars, you know, like, whatever. So that it would sustain us until we got to a place that we wanted to buy more of a meal. Yeah. And it worked like a charm, and it really saved us an enormous amount of money. And it was another thing. I kind of felt sheepish because I was having all these things delivered, which you saw, I was ordering from Sam's and Costco because it was cheaper and in bulk. And I was like, well, leave the rest for the kids. We're just packing. And my husband was able to check a bag for free. So we put them all in our check bag. And then we knew that we could put souvenirs in because we'd be eating the food so we'd have space for the souvenirs. So it was kind of very sparkly to do that. And it felt like a lot of food when we started, but it just saved us so much money. We honestly spent so little. We had money left over because. Win, win. Yeah. It was just, you know, part of me. We did a walking tour that day. We didn't have to buy anything because we ate the whole day going to all these different things. So a walking food tour bus. It was. I should have. I missed that word. We did a walking food tour, which is why we weren't hungry. That sounds. So the third one was the weather, and that was on the calendar right before we went. I looked up all of the days where we were going to be and what the weather was forecast to be in those days. So I picked out outfits and packed according to what the forecast was. And the waterproof shoes. That was. When I looked at how much rain was expected, I was like, we need to just get waterproof shoes. Because it said, like, even umbrellas will, like, fly away because of the wind. So that was true for a lot of places that we went. That was another win. And my fourth win was my re entry plan. This was a game changer. So I decided to. We made the bed with with clean sheets and made it up fresh, which I literally thought about a couple of times leading up to the end of our vacation. I kept thinking, just think we'll be home in our bed and it's made with fresh sheets waiting for us. That would be amazing. We left out a couple of laundry baskets to sort the dirty clothes into when we came back. Easy, just easy. I use those air space bags that I talked about before. That one of my favorite things to pack things so they fit and then your dirty clothes after, and then the dirty clothes after. Sucked them in, put them in the suitcase. It worked great. But for the reentry when we got back, I wrote down the three things that I needed to do. So we got back on a Thursday. I was going to work on Friday, but the more I kept looking at the schedule, I was like, there is a six hour difference between Ireland and Chicago. Granted when you come back you fly all day. So we take off at 11:30. We landed at 1:30, but it was an eight hour flight. We got back from the airport at like 2:30 and you have to stay awake all day. At least that's what we do to make sure that we kind of reset automatically by going to bed at a normal time that night. Yeah, that makes sense. But you're really out of it the next day. So I, I thought about it. I was like, don't ask yourself to do anything involving clients or membership. Give yourself the day. So I took the day off Friday, which gave me the long weekend when we came back, which was so lovely. Like honestly was such a gift. Yeah. And I know not everybody has the flexibility to build in an entire buffer day, but maybe you come back on a Saturday so you have Sunday or you know, just think about like, you know, so you're not planning right up until the last minute and then you have to get up and go to work Monday morning right after and you still like have laundry and you haven't unpacked and we had time to do all of that. So that was a wonderful gift that I gave my future self. But also identifying the three main things. So all I had to do was look at my. And I left them on top of my desk, which I knew I did. So all I needed to do was look at my email and make sure nothing was on fire. Right. That was all I asked myself. I didn't end up deleting like 490 emails. I had 10 I needed to do something with, but none of them were on fire. So all I did was delete them because I had set up my, my email auto reply saying I'd be on vacation until Monday the 22nd. So I was like, I'm not replying to these. I'm not re engaging. My brain is not ready to think in a helpful way yet. I'm just deleting and, and making sure nothing's on fire. I looked at my podcast to make sure there are no comments and I looked at the membership to make sure that there was nothing in there that needed to be addressed. That was it. I planned for my future self before we left to be low energy, jet lagged and needing to do a lot of catch up. Yeah. And that planning supported us when we were low energy, jet lagged and needing to empty out all the suitcases, put the suitcases away. We had like five loads of laundry just, just, you know, to catch up to everything. I was so grateful that I had to do this episode and highlight how much I appreciated it. So if you would like to take a little bit of this idea of planning to support your future self, to support yourself, think about supporting your brain by planning. As not a lot of us hear planning and we think, oh, the effort, the decisions, the restrictions, it's really shifting that to planning gives you freedom, time, energy. It's, it's a gift you're giving to yourself. So break out of that all or nothing and explore. Maybe what's one thing I could do to support future me? So it's not about making everything easy. It's about identifying. If I just put my clothes out for the morning, I'm going to notice how that feels tomorrow. And I would be surprised if you didn't wake up like, oh, I already have the clothes. That's nice. Yeah, that's a nice thing. Or putting your mug by your setting up the coffee. Or putting a mug by the teapot so it's ready to go. So it's like, you know what, that's really nice. It's already sitting there waiting for me. Little things, actionable things you can do to support your future self. Yes. Ask what will future me thank me for? So maybe it's refilling your prescription. Maybe it's ordering groceries so you don't have to go to the store, they're just going to arrive. Maybe it's blocking time to recover. Or setting out your clothes for tomorrow. Right. These little simple actions that support your future because they're done when the thing arrives. You're like, oh, I'm so glad I did that. Oh, that's great. The second idea is to plan for transitions. So before you leave. Right. Think about, like, what's going to help you to leave with more ease. For me, it was, you know, thinking about, before I leave, I want to make the bed with clean sheets because I like nothing more than coming home to a bed that is fresh and clean. Especially after I've been sleeping in hotels where they've been changing my sheets. I don't want to come home to my bed all messy. Yeah. And like, it's so uninviting. And it's something I have to do before or I at least have to make it back into it. Yeah. Think about the transition when you return. What's going to make that transition of going from, even if it's your day of work to coming home. What helps you to transition? So these can be after a long break or just a simple little. I'm going from, you know, my day to transitioning tonight. There's transitions throughout every single day, big and small. So think about what you might do to plan for those transitions or maybe you're having company this summer. What will you do to help transition from when they're there to when they leave? What kind of helps you to reset or just after, you know, like I said, like a busy week, a busy day. What transitions would support you energetically to manage that with Maurice? The third is to think about building in a re entry ritual. So what do you do whether you're re entering from work to home, home to work, weekend to weekday, being awake to transitioning to sleep, or vacation to back to work? So maybe it's creating a restart checklist. So for me, after vacation, my restart is unpack, start laundry, go through the mail, identify what the priorities are for tomorrow. That's it. I try not to ask myself to do anything more because if I do those core things, I know I have time to relax. And I was really surprised. It's now Wednesday. Yeah. I got back on third last Thursday. I did not have my energy back until yesterday. Wow. Monday, I was literally a little apprehensive. I was like, what do I have planned for myself today? And luckily I didn't have too much planned. Yeah. So I was really grateful because I was afraid. I did pile every. Because I remember thinking, I'm going to come back and jump in. And I had three priorities and the things I had as optional I absolutely did not have the energy for. It's like re engage with marketing plan. I was like, I can't. And I still haven't done that. But I did reconnect with it a little bit more yesterday and I got excited about it and I definitely had more energy yesterday. So now I'm like, okay, I'm back. Little, little. Yeah, it took longer than I thought considering I had the three day weekend. But it was a lot. It was a lot. It was a very busy vacation and you know, so just building in that re entry plan. So it might be a re entry plan when you come back from work. Maybe it's change into your like, you know, change out of work clothes to home clothes. Or for me it might be like, like have a glass of iced tea with lemon and sit out on the porch. You know, like going from work mode to out in nature a little bit can really be helpful for me. So think about what does a re entry plan look like for you? Anytime you need to re enter something to make that transition more easy. My next tip is to make what you're doing visible. So remember, what gets visible gets done. So if it's taking your prescription, whether it's scheduling it, make it visible. So leaving your prescription out. I know when I was traveling to remember to take my medicine, I had my little. I ordered a new medication sorter and I had always have, this is my coffee. But I always had my water right next to my bed and I would put that thing on top of my water every night so that I would see it. And then I left it on the nightstand during the day. And it was just my routine to keep it visible because if I left it in my suitcase, I knew I'd forget and I just left it there. What isn't visible will fall off. Here's, here's my, my. I, I'm not sad about this ironically, but it, at first I was like, I remember wanting to back up time. I was like, oh my gosh, oh my gosh, I missed it. I broke my yoga streak. Yeah. So I'm like three months short of hitting a five year streak of every Monday through Thursday yoga. I completely. The day that we left. Yeah. So we left on Monday night. Right. It was a night flight. I did my yoga. Monday morning it's a seven hour flight over. Got to Dublin, had to go through customs, had to, you know, get the hotel, get the taxi to the hotel, check in and like we're just going. Woke up Wednesday morning, realize I lost Tuesday. But Tuesday was our easy day because we flew. Wednesday was a 13 hour tour day. So you couldn't do it. I realized it on the tour bus and I kept thinking I could I. And full disclosure, I did think about fudging and saying, well, I'm sure something you did was kind of like yoga. You could just count it. And I was like, Patty, you didn't even think of yoga. Right? There was no. And then when I went to add it to my calendar because my phone wasn't connected to anything, I was still on Chicago. Like the calendar was all messed up. So it showed my, my regular yoga prompt at like 2 in the morning. And I couldn't adjust it without reconnecting. And so I was just like, I lost three days in a row. I did it Monday before we left and I did not do Tuesday, Wednesday or Thursday. I did no yoga. And then the following week I did it Monday. Two minutes. I went back to my two minute goal. I was like, reconnect Patty, two minutes. And I missed another day in there. I don't remember what maybe one or two. I, I have tracked it, but I missed three in a row and then one or two additional the second week that I was traveling. So what I realized was it was so out of sight, out of mind. No matter even if I'd done it every single day, traveling overnight to a different country with that time that is gone completely without. If I had, what I realized was if I had made a post it that I could have put on top of my medicine thing, I would have seen it and remembered and I could have totally stood and just did a, just did a balance pose for two minutes and I would have allowed myself to check the box. That's my bare minimum for the, for the habit I had. No. And it didn't occur to me once I was in that environment to do something to change the fact that it was out of sight, out of mind. So that was how my brain worked. And I'm okay with that because I did come back and reconnect. But because I was so tired, yeah, I had to go back to five minute and I only. I'm. I'm still at 10 to 12 minute routines right now. I am working back up to it. I'm still struggling with my stamina after coming back. So I'm allowing myself to do what I can. And that's my other tip. Keep it insight in mind and allow yourself to do the minimum viable. But visibility is key. If we can't see it, it doesn't exist. And then my seventh and final tip is to celebrate what works. So notice how what your past self has done supports your future and present self. And what would work Better. So like I just said, if I had just had a post it that I could have put on top of that. Yeah. And just, you know, allowed myself to have the Monday through Thursday reminder, I know I would have done it. That simple thing didn't happen, but I know that for next time. So just don't judge. Notice what you could do differently. So I'm incredibly grateful that Past Patty thought of so many things that I did do and it. It really made the fact that I missed the yoga. So it's like, oh, but look, I did it that many times that long in a row. And I came back to it, which is also been like a huge win for me. So I am recognizing that my past self wasn't perfect. I don't expect myself to be perfect. I really try hard not to. And sometimes I still fall into that perfectionism trap. But the time and the effort and the thought that went into everything that I did to support myself is something that made my experience so much easier that I really want to acknowledge the effort that Past Patty made. Thank you, Past Patty. So my final question is, what could you do today that future you would thank yourself for next week? Post in this episode 245. If you do things to support your future self that you thank your past self for, or if you try it out, let me know how it works. All right. Finally. I know this was a long one. I knew it would be. Sorry, guys. Book of the week. I feel like I'm so disconnected from this book and I have got to start reading more because it was so beautiful in Ireland. I did not read. I just. I was exhausted and slept for I was looking out the window anywhere we went. It was so stinking pretty. But I did read this before I left. So Hollow Bones by Jodi Bacolt. It is a book that I got an advanced copy of. So full disclosure, this will not come out until September 15th. Okay. I was not going to review this this early, but I don't have another book I finished. So I am putting this on your radar early. Get on your library's wait list if they have it available. My library does. I looked it up. Just say I'm just sharing that. So sometimes they'll have an advanced order and you can go ahead and put yourself on the wait list for it or you can pre order it. But I want to thank NetGalley and the publisher for the opportunity to read an advanced copy of this. I love this book. Okay, so I'm going to read you a short summary moving between the past and the present. This story follows Molly, who lost her mother at the World Trade center attacks as an infant. She was two months old and now in her early 20s, she works in Rhode island where she lives as the emergency preparedness leader. She leads the efforts for which is kind of, you know, interesting that she was motivated from what happened to her mother to try to help others be prepared for emergencies. Jodi Bacolt weaves together the history, the family dynamics, the grief, and the resilience of a mother's love in a way that kept me fully invested from the beginning to the end of this book. Even after finishing the book, I found myself still thinking about the characters and their stories. That to me is always an indicator of a great read. I gave this 4 out of 5 stars. I love this book. So that's my book of the week. And I have a final quote and it is from an unknown person I can't give credit to. So thank you unknown whoever you are. And that is do something today that your future self will thank you for. Very apropos. That's it for this episode. I hope you learned something that will make your life a little more ADHD friendly. Until next time. Callie Ho.