C (20:21)
It's such a big question because the only thing that I've done has been keep getting back up and learning from previous leaders decisions or lack thereof. I've grown up in this industry when you know, equality and egos, you know, egos would run rampant and equality is not necessarily even a word we would be using, right? Like I've been called into a boss's office once and was, I was told I was, I was being a bitch because I told the creative director that he had the wrong product for the brief we were, we were briefing. So like, but I was the bitch, right? So like, long story short, I've had so many different situations where I have literally been shoved and thrown flat on my face. And you take a moment and you cry and you get back up and you dust yourself off and you keep going because that's what you do as a resilient, empowered woman. But what I've made is a promise to myself that I will not do that to other younger generations and particularly females. And if anything, I see myself opening the door and saying, hey, do you want to be a part of this meeting just so you can have exposure and visibility to what we're talking about or telling my teams and giving them real context into the decisions and why they're happening. But also I want to lead from a place of example. And so if I'm telling my team to raise up and advocate for themselves and speak up for what they believe in, I better be doing the same thing for me. Now the thing that's interesting though is that you have different phases of your career and by no means is it linear and vertical, right? I mean, sometimes you hit that, but it does not happen that way. It comes with a lot of strife. And you also have real life that gets, you know, is entangled in it too. So, you know, when I was having my second baby, I didn't want to be out hustling and, and having a high intensity, high power, high visible job. But once I got settled in, I was ready to dial the, the dial up the intensity a little bit more. And so I needed to know that for myself. So you have to have a really good understanding and just understanding of who you are and what you need at different places of your life. Some of the things I found incredibly helpful, I jotted down a couple just because this is such an important piece to how and where I am today in my life, but also how and What I want to leave on this earth as, as you know, a female leader. So one is just being able to be curious and adaptable. Like if you don't know the answer, but you know, sure as hell you're going to be able to figure it out, like raise your hand and go for it. Like, what's the worst that can happen? Taking those risks and speaking up is, is really important. And just constantly being curious, understanding the business and what you work for, a lot of people don't even understand it. They, they understand where they sit in the business and they understand what their team does. But how does your business make money? Right? And how are decisions made also? Like who's incentivized by what people are empowered by? Dollars, Right. Or empowered by power. And you really need to understand what those motivating factors are. You don't need to know everything about everything. You can kind of just. What's the word? You can be fluid without being a perfectionist. So I think being okay with good and great is really important. I've seen a lot of senior leaders freeze in fear and couldn't make a decision because they didn't have enough data points or because, you know, they, they felt it in their gut that this was the decision, but they weren't necessarily sure. And so they just didn't make a decision. And that, that's, that itself is inaction is in action and that's very frustrating for teams. And then two other bits which is you cannot underestimate what being a human in today's world will, will mean to others. Having human skills, having communication skills, sending people, you know, a message, a text, teams chat, like, hey, I just saw this and reminded me of you. Just wanted to say hi and hope you're well. Those are really important skills to have and they're going to be even more moving forward. I think humanity studies is something in particular should be, should be, you know, focused on outside of AI because this is what makes us tick. It's all about people. And that's, that's the most important bit to life and while we're on this planet and to, to this job and and to, to careers as a whole. But you can't do any of those things if you are not in a safe space. Who your leader is and what that culture you work with and is, is really, really important. And so I found that moments where I was either not in a great place where I might have a leader that was leading by fear, which is not a great place to motivate me from because if I'm motivated by fear, I'm scared. And I'm not going to be acting and showing up as my best self and willing to take risks and, or voice my opinion. I want to be motivated by growth. And so I just think it's really important that your teams know that you're not their therapist, but you are a trustworthy source and that you legitimately care. And to me, it's all about hacking corporate America. And what I mean by that is architecting your best friends at work, architecting your best friends in your personal life to be the village that you need to support you. So, for example, I came back from mat leave and I was at a different holding company at the time and I had a female CEO that was fairly new and she and I got along really well and we had just finished a big pitch that we had eventually won. And I remember coming to her and I had tears in my eyes and I said, you know, I am not the person I was when I started in this role. And right now I don't, I, I'm burnt out and I feel like a shell of a human being and I don't feel like I'm doing a good job for you, for this team, for the company, and I'm not, I'm not well. And she took that, she gave me the biggest hug. She said, you are well and you're great, but I hear you. And then she worked with senior leadership and I took a six week paid sabbatical and came back recharged and have an immense loyalty and love and admiration for her as a leader who I still talk to and work with to this day. But that could not have been done 15 years ago.