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After the Affair
Hosted by Luke Shillings · EN
The ‘After the affair’ podcast with Luke Shillings is here to help you process, decide, and move forward on purpose following infidelity. Let’s explore what’s required to rebuild trust not only in yourself, but also with others. Whether you stay or leave, I can help! and no matter what your story, there will be something here for you.
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118. Christmas After Betrayal: Create Something New
Dec 25, 202400:09:47Tap to summarizeChristmas can be a season filled with joy and connection, but for anyone navigating betrayal, it can also bring sadness, loneliness, and longing for what once was. This episode offers a compassionate space to reflect on the challenges of the holiday season while exploring ways to create moments of peace, hope, and even new traditions. Whether you’re the betrayed partner, the unfaithful partner, or someone facing a Christmas that looks nothing like you imagined, this episode is here to remind you: It’s okay to feel what you’re feeling, and it’s possible to create something meaningful, even amidst the pain. From my heart to yours, Luke Shillings. Key Takeaways: Why Christmas often feels harder after betrayal and how to navigate it. Practical ways to care for yourself and reframe holiday expectations. How to focus on small, meaningful moments that bring comfort and hope. A reminder: Healing doesn’t require perfection, just a step forward. Reflective Question: What’s one small, meaningful thing you can do for yourself today to create a sense of peace or connection? If this episode resonates, share it with someone who might need a reminder that they’re not alone this holiday season. Connect with Luke: Website: www.lifecoachluke.com Instagram: @mylifecoachluke Email: luke@lifecoachluke.com Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity
Transcribe →117. Dealing With The Online Comments Section After Infidelity
Dec 18, 202400:13:03Tap to summarizeThe internet can feel like a war zone when you’re looking for answers after betrayal. Whether you’re the betrayed partner or the unfaithful one, scrolling through the comment section can quickly amplify your fears, doubts, and pain. But here’s the truth: those comments don’t define you. They reflect someone else’s pain, biases, and experiences, not your reality. In this episode, we explore: Why we’re drawn to online comments when we’re hurting. How confirmation bias makes the worst comments hit us hardest. Why the comment section is like a broken mirror, distorting your reflection. How to protect your emotional and mental health by filtering out harmful noise. Practical ways to reclaim control and stay grounded in your truth. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, judged, or shattered by what strangers have said online, this episode will help you step back, tune out the noise, and refocus on your healing journey. Key Takeaways: Online comments reflect others’ pain, not your truth. Confirmation bias makes us latch onto the words that reinforce our fears and insecurities. You don’t need strangers in the comment section to tell you who you are, you already know. Protecting your mental health means learning to filter harmful input and focus on what serves your healing. Reflective Question: Before you scroll, ask yourself: Is this serving my healing, or is it making it harder? If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who might need to hear it. And if you’ve found healthier ways to navigate online negativity, let us know—we’re in this together. Connect with Luke: Website: www.lifecoachluke.com Instagram: @mylifecoachluke Email: luke@lifecoachluke.com Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity
Transcribe →116. Religion and Betrayal: A Match made in Hell
Dec 11, 202400:14:57Tap to summarizeReligion often has a lot to say about infidelity: forgive, stay, move on. But what if these teachings complicate, rather than heal, the emotional devastation of betrayal? In this episode, Luke explores the intersection of faith and infidelity, unpacking the pressures placed on both the betrayed and the unfaithful partner. We’ll discuss: How religious expectations can shape the healing journey, for better or worse. The cultural and societal variations in how infidelity is perceived and judged. The stigma faced by the unfaithful partner and whether shame helps or hinders growth. The importance of finding a path to healing that aligns with your values while honouring your emotional truth. Whether you’re navigating the expectations of your faith or questioning the role of religion in your recovery, this episode is for you. It’s not about judgment; it’s about understanding and finding a way forward. Key Takeaways: Religion can offer comfort, but it can also create pressure to forgive and stay in ways that might not align with personal healing. Cultural and religious norms around infidelity are not universal, there is no single “rulebook” for betrayal. Both betrayed and unfaithful partners deserve space to process, heal, and grow without being reduced to their worst moments. Join the Conversation: What role has your faith played in your healing journey after infidelity? Connect with Luke: Website: www.lifecoachluke.com Instagram: @mylifecoachluke Email: luke@lifecoachluke.com Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity
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