
Learn what this expression means and how to use it
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This is the All Ears English Podcast. Learning English is not like pulling teeth. Welcome to the All Ears English podcast, downloaded more than 200 million times. Are you feeling stuck with your English? We'll show you how to become fearless and fluent by focusing on connection, not perfection, with your American hosts, Lindsey McMahon, the English adventurer, and Michelle Kaplan, the New York radio girl, coming to you from Colorado and New York City, usa. To get real time transcripts right on your phone and create your personalized vocabulary list, try the Allears English app for iOS and Android. Start your seven day free trial at allearsenglish.com.
Michelle Kaplan
Today. Learn a useful and fun way to say that something is hard to do. Plus, get bonus phrases so that you can share what you are struggling with in life and connect.
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Michelle Kaplan
Hey, Lindsay, how are you?
Lindsey McMahon
Good, Michelle, how are you? How's it going?
Michelle Kaplan
I'm good, I don't think. I wish you a happy New Year yet.
Lindsey McMahon
Oh, happy New Year. In that case, Michelle, glad to be here. So exciting. Oh, my gosh. It's gonna be a good year, I think. Yes.
Michelle Kaplan
Yeah. Lindsay, when was the last time you went to the dentist?
Lindsey McMahon
Well, funny you asked, Michelle. I actually just went yesterday. I'm glad that I have a good answer for that instead of like five years ago or something.
Michelle Kaplan
That's right.
Lindsey McMahon
Yeah, I went yesterday.
Michelle Kaplan
You're very responsible.
Lindsey McMahon
Yep. Feeling good about that. So. Yeah. Yeah, I try to go three or three times a year. Usually three.
Michelle Kaplan
That's good.
Lindsey McMahon
Wow.
Narrator
That's.
Lindsey McMahon
Yeah, just little extra cleaning never hurt, you know?
Michelle Kaplan
Yeah. Are you. So you're not afraid of the dentist, are you?
Lindsey McMahon
I don't love it because usually, you know, when they clean your teeth, it hits nerves and stuff, so that can be a little painful. But I know that it's good for me to go, so I go. And I don't have to get teeth pulled or anything when I go. Thank goodness, right? Yep. Yeah. And that's what we're talking about today is a fun little expression. I love when we teach our listeners these super native natural expressions because it gives them like a quick. I don't. It's like a secret. They can put in their back pocket and pull these out anytime they want to. Sound natural. And what is the expression?
Michelle Kaplan
All right, so the expression is. It's like pulling teeth.
Lindsey McMahon
Yes.
Michelle Kaplan
This is, I mean, this is a super, this is an old school one. Right. It's cheesy, but would you say it's still common?
Lindsey McMahon
Yeah, I use this, I like this one. This is part of my repertoire, my personal repertoire. It's fun. It's descriptive. Yeah, Yeah. I think it's good. I endorse this doors.
Michelle Kaplan
Very good. So, yeah, I, I it. So basically this means that something is very difficult to do. That's what it means. So. But it is funny because. So my husband is a dentist and yeah, he always talks about this expression because he always says for a dentist it's not that hard to pull a tooth. So he doesn't he feel, he's like. Who is the expression talking about? Is it for the person getting their teeth pulled? If, because if it's for the, from the dentist perspective, that's actually not that difficult.
Lindsey McMahon
It's a good point. He's really overthinking that, I think, a little bit.
Michelle Kaplan
Definitely. Yeah. That's where this idea came from because we were having this talk about that and he's like, I don't understand who this expression is meant for. Pulling teeth for a dentist. Like that's what we're trained to do. That's not that hard. That's like.
Lindsey McMahon
Oh, that's funny. I love that. I mean, in my mind it's for, it's more from the perspective of the person whose teeth are being pulled.
Michelle Kaplan
You think so?
Lindsey McMahon
I think so. Because think about how painful. I mean, now we have Novocaine, obviously we have all the drugs and all the things, but I'm sure there was a time, you know, hundreds of years ago when they just yanked your tooth out, you know?
Michelle Kaplan
Right, true. Maybe it's because. Yeah, I mean, but if it was from the perspective of the person getting their teeth pulled, wouldn't it be. It's like, like having your teeth. Having your teeth. Right. So I, I always thought of it as like the dentist perspective. But yeah, then from, I don't know, I think we're thinking too much into this. Basically, guys, this means something is to do.
Lindsey McMahon
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Michelle Kaplan
And you know what's funny is that right now, right in front of me, I just realized is on the windowsill a giant crocheted tooth with eyes and a mouth. Because I always have all this random. Yeah, I have all this random. So now I'm just looking at it like, hello. And it's like, don't pull me.
Lindsey McMahon
Yeah, don't pull me. Oh, my gosh, that's funny. I love it. When I think about this expression, though, I think about this first example we have for our listeners, which is trying to get my kids to tell me about their days is like, I do is like pulling teeth. So I do think about, like, kids just not wanting to. To like, do something or talk or share y. It's like pulling teeth. I feel like that's where it comes up the most, don't you think?
Michelle Kaplan
Yeah, I would say. I mean, even it's funny with my son, I. When he gets off the bus, first of all, he's the most loving boy in the whole world. Like, unbelievable. He's so loving. But when he gets off the bus, he barely acknowledges that I exist and.
Lindsey McMahon
Interesting.
Michelle Kaplan
Yeah. And then I don't even really bother asking him any questions. It just. I just kind of wait for things to come out naturally, and then, you know, when it comes, everything comes out and at lying down at night, so, you know, you just kind of have to wait at Noah, as a parent, you know, when are you. When should you ask and how should you ask and. Because all you want to do is know everything. I wish I could know everything about.
Lindsey McMahon
You know it all. So you have to back off and not pull the teeth, right?
Michelle Kaplan
Yes, exactly. You have to play it cool.
Lindsey McMahon
I love it. Play it cool. Here's another example. Getting my bandmates to practice every day is like pulling teeth, so they clearly they don't want to practice. Maybe they're lazy or they're just busy or something. So it's very hard. So you're always nagging them to practice. That word nag is a good one now.
Michelle Kaplan
Yes. Or finding the right holiday gifts for my friends is like pulling teeth, so they're hard to shop for. Lindsay, are you good at knowing what gifts to get people?
Lindsey McMahon
No, I'm really bad at that. And I also leave things to the Last minute. Yeah, I leave things the last minute and then I panic and then it just never turns out well. So I've gotta get started early this year. We're recording this in early December, so there's still a chance.
Michelle Kaplan
There's still time, Lindsay. So. Yeah, but this is about. It's basically about an effort that you have to put in something. Maybe trying to get someone to do something or say something. So like an extraction of some sort. For the most part, you're trying to get something from somebody. So. Pulling tea?
Lindsey McMahon
Yeah, no, that, that's. That's a good description. That's why I always think of like trying to get your kids to tell you something or share something or take out the garbage or something.
Michelle Kaplan
Right? Yep.
Lindsey McMahon
It's like, I mean, pulling teeth. Yeah.
Michelle Kaplan
Would you say there's anything in your life that comes to mind that's like pulling teeth?
Lindsey McMahon
I think so. Geez, I can't think of anything right. I guess getting myself to do my chores, you know, like, you know, sometimes I just don't feel like vacuuming on a Sunday or cleaning. That can be like pulling teeth. That's an interesting use of it. Right on yourself. It's not how we use it, but it's my own.
Michelle Kaplan
Yeah, but English is like that. You can, you can use it, you know, you can play with the language. So for me, I'm gonna call out my brother. I mean, it's getting my brother to answer a question about planning. And he's notorious for this. I mean, my dad will ask him questions and we can't get an answer. And oh, it like he, he's very. Wait until the last minute. And I am in a sense, but he is to the extreme. So if you try and ask him, like we were trying to plan my dad's birthday and I was gonna sing a song with my sister in law and he was gonna play piano.
Lindsey McMahon
And like, how did that turn out? Oh, did you end up doing it?
Michelle Kaplan
It was good, but like, it was two days before and I finally got him on the phone and he's like, oh. I said, maybe we can just talk about which part my sister in law and I are singing. And he's like, I don't think it needs to be that serious. And I like, this is. I. I think this is a normal conversation. Who's singing?
Lindsey McMahon
What? Like, yeah, so you just, you just want to plan. So he's not a planner?
Michelle Kaplan
No, it's like, no to the extreme, but yeah. So I would say that's like pulling teeth, but yes, we Talked about this a little bit. So you don't seem. You don't. It doesn't sound like you think this is outdated, this expression.
Lindsey McMahon
I'm not too worried about that. Yeah, no, I. I still use it. I mean, maybe I'm outdated.
Michelle Kaplan
I don't know. No, I don't think it. I don't think it is. It's, you know, because we talk sometimes about, like, oh, raining cats and dogs and those.
Lindsey McMahon
Right. That idiom is pretty outdated, I think. Right.
Michelle Kaplan
And it's funny because this one seems to kind of hold up because it's still. I. I don't know when it started being used, but it just.
Lindsey McMahon
It.
Michelle Kaplan
Yeah, it's still kind of. It's kind of stood the test of time, I think.
Lindsey McMahon
I think so. And I think it's a good connection phrase. I mean, why do you think it would be good for connection, Michelle?
Michelle Kaplan
Because you're talking about your struggles. It's good for relating to people. Oh, yeah. Trying to get my kids do this is like pulling teeth. Oh, mine too. You know, people can start to relate to you on their. On, like, things that are difficult for them.
Lindsey McMahon
Yep. Especially if you're at a similar life phase as someone else. Maybe you pick up your kids at daycare or something, and you're struggling with the same things. That is the recipe for building connection and friendships.
Michelle Kaplan
Right, Exactly.
Lindsey McMahon
All right, so there are other ways to say the same thing, which are very funny, too. These are fun little idioms. For example, it's like hurting cats.
Michelle Kaplan
Have you heard that one?
Lindsey McMahon
I've heard this one. Of course. Yeah. I mean, and. And the idea here, I mean, why is this hard? Like.
Michelle Kaplan
Yeah. Because when the cats aren't gonna do what you said. Yeah. You can't hurt them. You can't just say, oh, we're all going in the same way. Right.
Lindsey McMahon
No. Cows you can herd. Cows you can herd, but cats you can't. My. My dog is like a herding breed. He is a part border collie. And so it's like in his. It's in his genes. Like, he'll see a dog and he'll crouch and start to stalk it, and then. But he doesn't want to hurt it.
Narrator
He wants to herd it.
Lindsey McMahon
He doesn't want to hurt it.
Michelle Kaplan
Not hurt. Yes.
Lindsey McMahon
And then he'll do these spins and it's part of his herding routine. It's just really funny. That's cute.
Michelle Kaplan
Oh, my God, I love him.
Lindsey McMahon
It's really cute. What would be an example, Michelle?
Michelle Kaplan
All right.
Lindsey McMahon
Hurting cats.
Michelle Kaplan
My life exactly Trying to get my kids out the door in the morning is like hurting cats.
Lindsey McMahon
Yeah. Because cats will run in all directions. Right. That's what they'll do. They'll, you know, meow and run and hide and it's impossible, Right? Yep.
Michelle Kaplan
That's why we're always late.
Lindsey McMahon
That's your reality. Yes. Yeah. Next one.
Michelle Kaplan
A hard nut to crack. So these are not. These are kind of related expressions. So that means something is difficult to solve or someone is difficult to get information out of. So similar idea. Not exactly, but I want to know what's going on in his head. But he's a hard nut to crack. So I could have said, but. But talking, asking him questions or getting him to answer is like pulling teeth. Right. So that's in the. How they're kind of related.
Lindsey McMahon
Yeah, they're related. I mean, maybe the person's a bit of a mystery and enigma.
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Lindsey McMahon
You just don't. Can't quite figure the person out. Right. This expression getting nowhere fast, you know, it's like spinning your wheels. Right. Not progressing. I can tell this conversation is going nowhere fast.
Michelle Kaplan
It's kind of funny one.
Lindsey McMahon
Yeah, that's a good one. So what else, Michelle?
Michelle Kaplan
The last one is just, you could say something is really tough. That's, you know, if that's kind of the most basic way, but it's also good to use. So getting my teacher to help me more with this assignment is really tough. Right. That's just kind of very. A very neutral. Not with any bells and whistle idioms on it, but very common.
Lindsey McMahon
Yeah. Sometimes we just want the most straightforward phrase, and that is an option for our listeners, too. There's nothing wrong with that. We don't have to always come up with the fanciest idiom because remember, guys, connection is the goal. So don't, you know, go off in la la land trying to come up with the idiom. You want to connect, make the eye contact and say. Say the direct phrase sometimes, right, Michelle?
Michelle Kaplan
Yeah, yeah, exactly. Kind of like the most basic one. So should we do a role play?
Lindsey McMahon
Let's do it, Michelle. So here we are, both first grade teachers. Wow. I don't think I could do it.
Michelle Kaplan
But we're friends and we work at the same school.
Lindsey McMahon
All right, here we go.
Michelle Kaplan
All right, here we go. So how's your class going?
Lindsey McMahon
That's good. But trying to get them to leave for music class is like hurting cats.
Michelle Kaplan
Oh, tell me about it. They're so cute. But sometimes getting them to answer questions is like pulling teeth.
Lindsey McMahon
Definitely. It can be really tough.
Michelle Kaplan
Especially one boy in my class. He is a hard nut to crack. I'm not sure if he likes school.
Lindsey McMahon
Oh, that's too bad. It can feel like you're getting nowhere fast. But we're still at the beginning.
Michelle Kaplan
That's true.
Lindsey McMahon
Maybe it's the beginning of the school year or something. Right. Which is what you mean there. Yes. So here we're talking about, you know, getting kids organized, getting them moving all in one direction, down to the music class, down the hallway is like herding cats, right?
Michelle Kaplan
Yeah.
Lindsey McMahon
Because one kid has to go to the bathroom, the other kid has to get his lunch, and, you know, it's just chaos. I'm sure. I mean. Yeah.
Michelle Kaplan
And then I said, they're so cute, but sometimes getting them to answer questions is like pulling teeth. So maybe I'm sitting there and saying, oh, and who knows the answer to this? And no one says nothing.
Lindsey McMahon
Silence. Yeah. I mean, this can happen when you're teaching adult learners, too.
Michelle Kaplan
I mean, I'm sure you've been in.
Lindsey McMahon
The adult classroom teaching adults esl, and sometimes you ask a question, there's no response, there's big silence. Yeah. Yeah, 100%. And then you're like, okay, I'll just answer my own question. Right, Right.
Michelle Kaplan
Yes.
Lindsey McMahon
Yeah.
Michelle Kaplan
And then.
Lindsey McMahon
And then we just went with a straightforward phrase here. Right, Michelle? So I said, definitely can be really tough. And this is good for empathizing.
Michelle Kaplan
Right.
Lindsey McMahon
We don't need. Because I'm trying to reflect back what you've said, so I don't necessarily need to come up with some fancy idiom here. I just need to know that I. That show that. Yeah.
Michelle Kaplan
That I get you. Right. Because you didn't. Right. I. I said one. So if. Then you just came back right away with another one in. Or, you know, because again, here you're just empathizing. So if I said getting them to answer questions is like pulling teeth, definitely. It can be like hurting cats. You know, it's. It might be, like a little overkill. So it's good to have those more basic expressions just to insert when you need them.
Lindsey McMahon
Yep, exactly. Because, again, the goal is connection. It's not being fancy with our vocabulary. It's not sounding like a genius. It's connecting. Right. Love that. What else, Michelle?
Michelle Kaplan
I said, especially one boy in my class. He's a hard nut to crack. I could have also said, a tough nut to crack, I think. Yeah, we do say both.
Lindsey McMahon
Both.
Michelle Kaplan
And then I said, I'm not sure if he likes school.
Lindsey McMahon
Good. And then I said, that's Too bad it can feel like you're getting nowhere fast. But we're still at the beginning, so. And that also I mentioned a bonus idiom, spitt. Spinning our wheels.
Michelle Kaplan
Right.
Lindsey McMahon
It's kind of similar idea. You're, you feel like you're putting all this energy into something, but your wheels are just spinning. They're not going anywhere. Yes. Right. Great. This is a good one. Michelle, what's another episode our listeners should check out?
Michelle Kaplan
All right, check out All Ears English. This was another, I think another Saturday one, although it could have been a Friday. Avoid mistakes with these English adjectives. Yeah.
Lindsey McMahon
And what's our takeaway for today? Where should we leave our listeners? We've learned a lot of idioms today.
Michelle Kaplan
Yeah, we got a lot here. Listen out for these. I taught you very common ones. We taught you very common ones. And you know, these are just super good connection topics because they can always bring to the surface things that other people are feeling or can get people to tell a story, share something about their life. So very, very useful for connection.
Lindsey McMahon
Yeah, for sure. If you can show in a kind of a light hearted way with an idiom that maybe you're struggling with something, right. You're struggling to talk to your child or struggling to do something that kind of, that opens up, like you said, Michelle, that space for connection. So these are the phrases to do it.
Michelle Kaplan
All right. Excellent.
Lindsey McMahon
Good.
Michelle Kaplan
All right. This was fun, Lindsay.
Lindsey McMahon
All right. Great stuff, Michelle. You have a good rest of your day. I'll talk to you soon.
Michelle Kaplan
All right.
Lindsey McMahon
Bye bye.
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Hosts: Lindsay McMahon & Michelle Kaplan
Date: January 3, 2026
In this lively episode, Lindsay and Michelle introduce the idiom "like pulling teeth," explaining its meaning, origins, and everyday usage in American English. They discuss similar expressions, share personal anecdotes, and demonstrate how these phrases build conversational connection—staying true to the show's motto: “Connection, not perfection.”
Definition:
Michelle (03:00):
"So basically this means that something is very difficult to do. That’s what it means."
Discussion of Perspective:
“In my mind it’s more from the perspective of the person whose teeth are being pulled.”
Common Contexts:
Lindsay (05:36):
“Trying to get my kids to tell me about their days is like pulling teeth.”
Michelle (06:13):
“When my son gets off the bus... he barely acknowledges that I exist... I don’t even bother asking him any questions—it just, I just kind of wait for things to come out naturally.”
Other Personal Examples:
To broaden the listener’s vocabulary, the hosts offer alternatives:
“Like herding cats”
Managing chaos or uncooperative people/things.
Michelle (11:35):
“Trying to get my kids out the door in the morning is like herding cats.”
“A hard/tough nut to crack”
Someone or a problem that is difficult to figure out.
Michelle (11:55):
“I want to know what’s going on in his head, but he’s a hard nut to crack.”
“Getting nowhere fast”
Not making progress despite effort.
Lindsay (12:21):
“I can tell this conversation is going nowhere fast.”
“Really tough”
The most direct, neutral way to express difficulty.
Lindsay (13:02):
“Sometimes we just want the most straightforward phrase... there’s nothing wrong with that. Connection is the goal.”
Connection, Not Perfection:
Michelle (10:06):
“Because you’re talking about your struggles. It’s good for relating to people... people can start to relate to you on things that are difficult for them.”
Lindsay (10:21):
“That is the recipe for building connection and friendships.”
First Grade Teachers' Chat (13:28–14:07):
Memorable Quotes:
“They’re so cute, but sometimes getting them to answer questions is like pulling teeth.”
“Definitely. It can be really tough.”
Michelle (15:19):
“It might be a little overkill... good to have those more basic expressions just to insert when you need them.”
Lindsay (15:43):
“The goal is connection, not being fancy with our vocabulary.”
On idiom’s relevance:
Michelle (09:37):
“We talk sometimes about, like, ‘Oh, raining cats and dogs.’ …that idiom is pretty outdated, I think. …but [‘like pulling teeth’] seems to kind of hold up.”
Lindsay sharing honesty in her own gift shopping:
Lindsay (07:12):
“No, I’m really bad at that. And I also leave things to the last minute… and then I panic and then it just never turns out well.”
Light moment about Michelle’s crocheted tooth decoration:
Michelle (05:16):
“Right in front of me…is on the windowsill, a giant crocheted tooth with eyes and a mouth… now I’m just looking at it like, ‘Hello,’ and it’s like, ‘Don’t pull me.’”
Learning idioms like “pulling teeth” allows English learners to express difficulty in a relatable way—fostering conversation and building bonds. The episode emphasizes that while idioms are useful, natural connection matters more than perfect vocabulary. Choose expressions that genuinely reflect your experience, and don't be afraid to mix fun idioms with honest, direct language.
Episode in a Nutshell:
This episode delivers an upbeat, practical guide to mastering "like pulling teeth" and similar expressions, blending storytelling, role-play, and cultural insight. It encourages listeners to prioritize making real connections—because, in English, connection really isn't like pulling teeth!