
Learn how to share your most embarrassing moments for connection
Loading summary
A
This is the All Ears English Podcast Mortifying Moments that Create Connection welcome to the All Ears English Podcast downloaded more than 200 million times. Are you feeling stuck with your English? We'll show you how to become fearless and fluent by focusing on connection, not perfection with your American hosts, Lindsay McMahon, the English adventurer and Michelle Kaplan, the New York radio girl coming to you from Colorado and New York City, usa. To get real time transcripts right on your phone and create your personalized vocabulary list, try the All Ears English app for iOS and Android. Start your 7 day free trial at allearsenglish.com forward slapp.
B
Have you ever been embarrassed? Of course you have. It's a universal human emotion. Today, Lindsay and Michelle share their most cringe worthy moments and you learn how to share your own for a great connection.
A
The countdown is on. Holiday shopping season is officially here. Uncommon Goods takes the stress out of gifting with thousands of unique, high quality finds you won't see anywhere else. Don't wait. The most meaningful gifts get scooped up fast and now's the perfect time to cross names off your list. Uncommon Goods looks for products that are high quality, unique and often handmade or made in the U.S. many are crafted by independent artists and small businesses, making every gift feel meaningful and truly one of a kind. Just like learning the basics of grammar is key to getting started with English, I've heard that knife skills are the foundation for good cooking. Since I want to learn to cook this year I went to Uncommon Goods and found an authentic Thai chef's knife called the Moon Knife. Created in a small village in Thailand by talented artists, it's perfect for cutting pork or poultry. With a hand forged tool like this, I feel even more excited to improve my cooking. So don't wait. Cross those names off your list before the rush. To get 15% off your next gift, go to uncommongoods.com A E E that's U N C O M M O N G o o d s.com a e e for 15 off Uncommon Goods we're all out of the ordinary.
B
Hey Lindsay, how are you?
A
Really good. Happy Saturday Michelle. On a sassy Saturday.
B
Saturday. Happy sassy Saturday.
A
Yeah. Michelle, has anything embarrassing embarrassing happened to you either recently or maybe in the distant past? I'm sure something embarrassing has happened to you.
B
Oh yeah, of course. You know, I can't think of a recent like very recent thing, but one of the most my most embarrassing moments was in I guess sophomore year of college. Okay, I was trying to make macaroni and cheese and the easy version I Mean, it's easy anyway. But the version where it's just easy, Mac. And they put it in the cup. Okay.
A
And. Right. Sounds like college food. Yeah.
B
Yes, exactly right. You just put it in the cup and you put water and you put in the microwave. Microwave, that's it. And I put it in, and I walked away for a while, and then all of a sudden, I came back and the microwave was on fire.
A
Oh, no. In your dorm? Oh, my God.
B
Yeah. And, like, the lounge, and then there was smoke going through. You know, it wasn't. You know, it. It. I was able to get the fire out, but, like, the. The smoke was going all around, and so the fire alarm went off, and so then the fire department. The fire department had to come and.
A
Everyone had to get out of the dorm and everything. I don't.
B
I don't think everybody had to get out for some reason. I think they knew it was okay, but they were just coming to check. I don't remember, but I. Because I. Because I remember. I don't think everybody left because I was there when the firemen were walking through the hall.
A
Oh, my gosh. That's so bad. Do they know it was you? Did you, like. Well, it was you or.
B
Well, I remember I was at the end of the hall in my room, and I just heard them say, someone can't cook. And. And I remember I was like, I can. I can, like. And so then my friend Jen, she ended up taking the Easy Mac because it was just, like, burnt to a crisp inside the microwave. And so she took it, and she would hide it in different places just to tease me. So I remember one time I was. I pulled out, like, my desk drawer, and I picked up some papers, and it was just sitting under there.
A
Oh, my gosh. She was harassing you. That's so funny. That's pretty. That's pret. That's pretty bad. I mean, the. The fire department came. That's pretty embarrassing.
B
That is embarrassing. So today. Today we are going to talk about different ways to say something is embarrassing, so.
A
Oh, yes. Yes.
B
So, guys, hit the follow button before we get into it because you never want to miss anything. From Aller's English, we do bonus episodes. Let the episodes come to you. Don't miss anything from us.
A
I love that. I mean, how does it feel when you get embarrassed? For me, it's like a sting. It stings a little bit, you know, and it does kind of linger for me personally for a little while.
B
I was gonna say. Yes. It takes a while to recover from It. You. It's. There's probably something that come and happens with your body chemistry where probably, you know, you just. It just takes some time for that physical feeling to go away.
A
Yeah. Yeah, that's for sure. And then you think back to it, you know, like, oh, I can't believe I did that. You know, that's the worst feeling. I think everyone's going to be able to relate to this episode today. So I'm excited to get into this, guys, before we get deeper into the episode, hit the follow button right now. If you're not following Allers English, it means you're probably missing good stuff, like bonus episodes. You might be missing the Saturday episodes. So make sure you are actually following the show. Or if you listen on YouTube, make sure you're subscribed.
B
All right. That's right. Perfect. All right, so let's talk about some kind of generic things that are embarrassing in the world. Lindsay, what's one?
A
Being overdressed or underdressed. Oh, my gosh. This has happened to me before, and it was mortifying. Yes. I was underdressed for an event, and my partner. My partner. I were both underdressed, and. And my partner got so angry at me. It was so bad. It was horrible.
B
Michelle, what was the event?
A
It was a wedding. I'm so. I. I'm so embarrass. Say this. So my friend ghee. My friend ghee was like, oh, barbecue.
B
Oh, no, no, not race.
A
It was like, I don't know, maybe five, like, seven years ago. He's like, oh, we're having. You know, we're. We're getting married. We're having a backyard barbecue. Super casual. Like, you know, no big deal. Just come. We'll be in the backyard, have some beers. Okay. When I hear backyard barbecue, I think, yeah, you know, casual. Right?
B
Yeah.
A
But, you know, so we pull up and, like, half the group is in jeans and, like, us and half the group is in at fancy dresses.
B
It was.
A
Oh, my gosh, it was so embarrassing.
B
And I mean, but you weren't the only ones. I mean, other people.
A
We weren't the only ones for sure, because the way my friend portrayed it was like, oh, it's a big deal. Just back your barbecue. Super casual. I was like, okay, super casual. But it was a wedding, so I should have. I still should have had better judgment, you know, it's still a wedding.
B
Stand or not.
A
Yeah, I'll. I'm still in. My partner's still angry at me about that. I mean, it was. We were like, okay, can we Go to a store. Can we go to a department store? What? Can we go. And there was nothing around. It was, it was panic. It was.
B
Oh no. What did, what did Ghee say?
A
Was he Ghee was like, oh, no big deal. I know. I wasn't very clear. Like, you know, I said casual. He, he kind of like. Yeah, he understood what happened. So. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
B
That's so funny. Oh my gosh. See, there you go. We got an embarrassing story from you.
A
Yeah.
B
Another one is forgetting someone's name. That can be embarrassing. Or calling someone the wrong name.
A
Showing up late to a room full of people. Maybe everyone's been waiting for you. Also embarrassing, right?
B
Y Y Or having someone show a funny video of you to people. Right. So my brother in law, so he has this thing with me to tease me. So when I did standup comedy, I guess he. There was, I don't. There was a video of it. And so every once in a while, just as a joke, we'll be like having dinner with the family and all of a sudden it'll just come on the TV because he'll share it with, you know, the TV and he'll just. And I'm like, no, don't do.
A
He's torturing you. Yeah.
B
And it's always, I, I never expecting it ever. Because it's just, I mean it's just the most random moments. And then I'll look up and it's like, oh God, no.
A
That's so funny. I love that.
B
Yeah.
A
Sometimes it can be inflicted by others and sometimes it's self inflicted embarrassment.
B
Right, Right.
A
Or it could be, you know, being completely wrong about something that you should have known. Maybe something in your expertise that you know you were wrong about and you should have known compared to other people. What else, Michelle?
B
Right. Or I mean, at a certain age you might think your parents are embarrassing. That's.
A
Yeah. I don't know if I ever fully got over this feeling this. But especially as a teenager.
B
Right?
A
Everything is embarrassing about your parents when you're a teenager. Yep.
B
Yep. So yeah, guys. And we all just have these embarrassing moments sometimes. So let's use the word embarrassing in a sentence. And actually how do we spell this? Because I think this is a common word. Embarrassing.
A
Yeah.
B
How many Rs? How many Ss?
A
I know. And I find myself googling this sometimes when I'm writing the word. So guys, if you struggle with spelling this word, you're not alone. A lot of native speakers do too. But it has a double R. Double.
B
S. Yep, double R double S. So here. Here's some examples. So it was so embarrassing when my dad called my teacher to complain about my grades.
A
Or my most embarrassing moment was in college when I got locked out of my dorm in the middle of the night and woke everyone up.
B
Oh, horrible. Or I felt so bad for Nina when her dress ripped. How embarrassing.
A
Yeah, that kind of thing can be embarrassing. Or if you have, like, toilet paper on your shoe or something that kind.
B
Of in your teeth. I think we did a whole episode about that once. Right. About. Is there something in my teeth?
A
Yeah, for sure. So this is a versatile word, and we use it frequently for big or small embarrassment. So something as bad as the. The fire department coming to your dorm, even down to, like, the tiniest little thing, it does work for the word embarrassing. Right.
B
So. But what can we say to avoid repeating this over and over? So we're gonna share some other words, and we're gonna talk differences that we might notice. So the first one, you actually used it to talk about your situation with the dresses, with the jeans at the wedding. It was mortifying.
A
Mortifying. And so I feel so. Still feel so ashamed. Honestly, I feel ashamed of it too. But this feels more formal, like you said. It can be used if you want to add emphasis. I want to tell you it was extremely embarrassing. So I say mortifying or I was mortified. Right.
B
So to me, public speaking is completely mortifying.
A
Or you could say spiders are mortifying. I feel like mortifying, for me is, like, a combination of, like, embarrassing and. And, like. Like, fearfully embarrassing.
B
True. Yeah. So maybe spiders are just.
A
Yeah. Terrifying.
B
Lindsay, are you afraid of spiders?
A
Really depends on the kind of spider, but yeah. Yeah. Like, I don't want to see a tarantula walking, crawling on my pillow or anything. For sure. I have a healthy fear of spiders, let's say.
B
I have. Yeah. I. Actually, the other day, we were at this book festival. I don't know it, like. And it was for. There were kids things there too. And don't ask me why, but there were. There was a whole bug exhibit, and I didn't know I was gonna be there. And my son and Dan ended up touching a tarantula, and I was like, got c. Yeah.
A
Yeah.
B
Not my thing.
A
My thing either. So I might say spiders are terrifying. So I'm not sure if mortifying. Maybe not quite fits there. But, yeah, mortifying is. If you want to go. Go heavier than embarrassing. It's just fearfully embarrassing.
B
Yeah.
A
Yeah.
C
Can you believe it? The holiday shopping season is officially here. Uncommon Goods takes the stress out of gifting with thousands of unique, high quality finds you won't see anywhere else. The best gifts disappear quickly, so start crossing names off your list now. Uncommon Goods has something for everyone. From moms and dads to kids and teens, from book lovers, history buffs and die hard football fans, to foodies, mixologists and avid gardeners, you'll find thousands of new gift ideas that you you won't find anywhere else. We've all been running out the door with no time to brew coffee or stop somewhere to grab one. I found the perfect solution on Uncommon Goods. An insulated to go coffee press. You pour in grounds and water, put in the dual filter press and then the leak proof lid allows you to throw it in your car or bag and go. Instant delicious coffee that stays hot or cold for hours. I had never seen a to go coffee press like this and am loving the convenience. It would be a perfect gift for any coffee lover, especially if you're constantly on the go like me. So don't wait. Cross those names off your list before the rush. To get 15% off your next gift, go to uncommongoods.com AEE that's U N C O M M O N G o o d s.com a e e for 15 off Uncommon Goods we're all out of the ordinary.
A
Cringeworthy is our next one. Michelle. This one's a little more modern. People use this to describe something they say. Cringe.
B
Cringe. Yeah.
A
Yeah.
B
So I like, it's just embarrassing in some way. Makes you just feel right. It doesn't. It wasn't always mean embarrassing. I guess it just means like kind of.
A
Right. Like if someone makes a politically incorrect comment, you might say cringe. Right?
B
Yeah. Yeah.
A
And you're just observing them speaking and you're just like cringe. Or, or this could be used as a way to like. If I was telling you my story about the wedding and the jeans, you might support my embarrassment by saying, oh, cringe. Yeah.
B
Right.
A
Horrible. You might say something like that.
B
Right, right, right, right, right. Exactly. So here we go. I met him yesterday and I totally forgot my name. It was cringe worthy.
A
Forgot your name.
B
Whoa.
A
That's bad.
B
Maybe it was somebody really good looking and you say I'm.
A
Yeah. Huge. Right. Stupified.
B
Right. Yes.
A
I've had a few cringeworthy moments I can tell you about from this summer. Okay. See what those are. Right. So cringeworthy is a, is a modern thing to say if we want to use something different than embarrassing. Humiliating. Also great. Don't forget about this one, guys. Right?
B
Yeah. Yep. I dropped my food all over the floor in front of everyone. It was completely humiliating.
A
And I'm sure everyone who's waited tables has had this experience, right? Because when you wait tables, you have to put all the plates at the same time on that big tray. I remember once when I waited tables, I had like eight steak dinners on one tray just being held up by my fingers. Because you're not supposed to use your hand, you're supposed to rotate your wrist. Have you ever waited tables, Michelle?
B
I mean, I have, but I was not. Yeah, I was a waitress, but I. That we had, like, separate bus.
A
Like, oh, you did run food to table. Okay, that's nice.
B
Yeah, that was nice. I mean, it was a sports bar. I don't know, you know, but for some reason we had that.
A
Interesting. Okay, fancy. So humiliating is a good one, right? What else, Michelle?
B
And then one other one I wanted to introduce is face palm. Lindsay, do you ever hear this?
A
I like this one.
B
Yeah, this is more for emojis, right? You might say it, but it's just this idea of, oh, no. And it's where you smack your forehead. Like, I can't believe I did that.
A
Yeah, we're demonstrating this on YouTube right.
B
Now, guys, so make sure that's actually my favorite emoji. I, I fun one. I love that one.
A
I didn't even know that one. I have to find it in my life. I'm not an emoji.
B
I'll send it to you later.
A
Okay. Okay.
B
Yeah. So maybe you said the wrong thing or you did the wrong thing, or you forgot something. You're embarrassed physically, whatever it is. So you do a face palm.
A
Right, Like, I forgot her number again. Face palm. So you could. Yeah, you could say it. You could actually say this or you could text it. Yeah, right, right.
B
So anyway. But why is this good for connection, Lindsay?
A
I mean, I think embarrassment is one of those core, like, evolutionary. You know, it's actually kind of a very high level emotion if you think about it like shame and embarrassment. Because dogs don't. I don't think. I don't think. Well, although my dog looks ashamed sometimes. He looks ashamed. I'm not sure if he looks embarrassed. There's slight differences, but I feel like humans are probably the only species that can truly be embarrassed.
B
Yeah, I think you're right.
A
So it's kind of a high level, sophisticated emotion, but we all humans feel it at some point in life multiple times. Right. So we all go through this. So if we can articulate the feeling.
B
That's.
A
That's instant connection, Michelle. Instant connection. Yeah.
B
Yes, absolutely. So let's do a role play. Here we are, friends catching up.
A
Okay, here we go.
B
All right. So, Lindsay, the most embarrassing thing happened to me last week.
A
Oh, Michelle, what happened?
B
I accidentally said I love you to my boss when we were getting off the phone. What? I know.
A
I used to do that to my teachers, but that was in elementary school. That's so cringe worthy. I'm sorry.
B
Yes. It was a real face palm moment. It was mortifying.
A
What did she say?
B
She laughed, but it was super awkward.
A
Oh, dear. Yeah, that kind of thing can happen because maybe you're thinking you're not being present mentally and.
B
Right. You're just getting off her phone and with your family, you might be just like, oh, I love you. Right.
A
Yeah. Your family, your partner or something. For sure it can happen. I'm sure it has. Yeah. To our list.
B
Right. It's also like, did you ever call a teacher mom?
A
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
B
That's another thing that is pretty common. You know, you're just. Yeah. So interesting.
A
Yeah, I love it. I love it. So, all right, let's go through what we used here. So you said. So, Lindsay, the most embarrassing thing happened to me last week. And it's unique here how you're starting the conversation. You're not just right away going into it. You're waiting to see for me to ask what happened.
C
Right?
B
Yeah, yeah. Yep.
A
So I like that skill. Yep.
B
And then I.
A
You.
B
So you're commenting on what happened to me. You said, I used to do that to my teachers, but that was in elementary school. That's so cringe worthy.
A
Oh, that's a great one. That's the modern one. And then you said. Yes, it was a real face palm moment. And here we're using it a little bit differently as an adjective describing the moment. Right. And I like to play with it.
B
Right. Yep. And you. And I said it was mortifying.
A
Yes, Yes.
B
I love it.
A
And so you're re emphasizing how embarrassing it was. And that's okay to do that you emphasize again. Yeah, it was completely mortifying. Right.
B
And I just want to point out something about the word cringe. So, like, what does it mean physically to cringe?
A
It's like, oh, yeah, guys, you have.
B
To be watching on YouTube.
A
Today is a YouTube day. Yes, yes.
B
Face, palms and cringes and all sorts of things. Yeah. It's that moment of like.
A
Yeah. I think even when. Because we have the mirror Neurons as human beings. I feel like when I. When I see someone getting hurt, like getting like attacked or something on TV or like there's an injury, I feel that. I feel like I cringe. Don't you think?
B
Like, yeah.
A
Does your. But your body, like radiates a little, A little strike of pain? Mine does, at least. Yeah. And we have those mirror neurons as humans. We can actually experience what someone else is experiencing. It's so crazy.
B
Yeah, that is. That is wild.
A
So that's kind of cringing a little bit, isn't it?
B
Wouldn't that be the word for that?
A
Yeah. Yeah.
B
So, guys, if you haven't already, check out All Ears English. This episode is do phrasal verbs wind you up? Very good episode there.
A
Good one. That was another sassy Saturday. So go check that out. And I mean, I think the takeaway here is very clear. This is such a human emotion. It runs across all cultures, all languages, all parts of the world. So if you can invest in learning how to talk about embarrassing moments, respond to someone else's embarrassing moments, you'll get that connection, right?
B
Absolutely. Yes.
A
Yes.
B
All right, Lindsay, this was fun. And yeah.
A
Oh, God, I'm still so embarrassed about my story. I'm embarrassed now that I shared that story on the podcast.
B
Oh, I shared about my Mac and cheese. It's fun. These are. It makes us human. Yeah, but you're good.
A
Yeah. All right. Good stuff, Michelle. I'll talk to you very soon. You have a good day.
B
All right. Bye. Bye.
A
Thanks for listening. To all ears. English. Would you like to know your English level? Take our two minute quiz. Go to allearsenglish.com forward/fluency score. And if you believe in connection, not perfection, then hit subscribe now to make sure you don't miss anything. See you next time.
B
Hey, Ryan Reynolds here wishing you a very happy half off holiday because right now Mint Mobile is offering you the gift of 50% off unlimited. To be clear, that's half the price, not half the service. Mint is still premium unlimited wireless for a great price. So that means a half day. Yeah. Give it a try@mintmobile.com Switch upfront payment.
A
Of $45 for three month plan equivalent to $15 per month required new customer.
C
Offer for first three months only.
A
Speed slow, 135 gigabytes of networks busy taxes and fees extra.
B
See mintmobile.com Limu Emo and Doug, here.
A
We have the Limu emu in its.
B
Natural habitat, helping people customize their car.
A
Ins and save hundreds with Liberty Mutual. Fascinating. It's accompanied by his natural ally, Doug Limu. Is that guy with the binoculars watching us?
B
Cut the camera. They see us.
A
Only pay for what you need@libertymutual.com Liberty.
B
Liberty Liberty Liberty Savings Ferry Unwritten by.
A
Liberty Mutual Insurance Company and affiliates Excludes Massachusetts.
Hosts: Lindsay McMahon & Michelle Kaplan
Date: November 15, 2025
In this lively episode, Lindsay and Michelle delve into the universal subject of embarrassment. They share their own mortifying moments, discuss the language and expressions commonly used to talk about embarrassing experiences in American English, and reflect on how sharing these stories can help forge genuine human connections. The focus is on the podcast’s philosophy of “connection, not perfection”—reminding learners that making mistakes or having cringe-worthy moments is a universal and connecting human experience.
The episode opens with both hosts recounting their own awkward or embarrassing experiences:
Michelle’s Dorm Fire Story [03:14–05:07]
Lindsay’s Wedding Attire Mishap [06:42–08:13]
The hosts examine alternative words and phrases ESL learners can use instead of just “embarrassing”.
Mortifying / Mortified [11:27–13:17]
Cringeworthy / Cringe [15:01–15:53]
Humiliating / Humiliated [16:12–17:08]
Face palm [17:15–18:09]
Embarrassment is a “high-level, sophisticated emotion” unique to humans and universally relatable.
Articulating and sharing these experiences instantly builds rapport.
Quote: “If we can articulate the feeling, that’s instant connection, Michelle. Instant connection.” — Lindsay [18:49]
The hosts model how to use discussed vocabulary in conversation:
This segment demonstrates how learners can recount their own embarrassing stories and react empathetically—using modern idioms and vocabulary.
Quote: “If you can invest in learning how to talk about embarrassing moments, respond to someone else’s embarrassing moments, you’ll get that connection, right?” — Lindsay [22:15]
The episode remains light-hearted, encouraging listeners to embrace their mistakes as opportunities for communication and connection. Embarrassing moments may sting, but they unite us all.