Podcast Summary: "In 'Ezra,' a Struggling Comedian Bonds with his Autistic Son"
Podcast: All Of It (WNYC)
Host: Koosha Navadar (in for Alison Stewart)
Guests: Tony Goldwyn (Director), Tony Spiridakis (Screenwriter)
Air Date: May 31, 2024
Episode Overview
This episode of "All Of It" explores the making and meaning behind the new film "Ezra," a deeply personal story of parenting a neurodivergent child, written by Tony Spiridakis and directed by his longtime friend Tony Goldwyn. Inspired by Spiridakis’ real-life experience raising his autistic son, the film centers on Max (Bobby Cannavale), a stand-up comedian navigating messy co-parenting, personal failings, and the societal challenges of raising his autistic son, Ezra. With the film premiering in theaters, the conversation dives into themes of representation, family dynamics, authentic casting, and the messy, heartfelt realities of life on and off the spectrum.
Key Discussion Points & Insights
Inspiration & Origins of the Film
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Personal Roots:
- Spiridakis’ own journey with his son Dimitri’s autism diagnosis (03:24)
- Quote: “My son Dimitri was three years old, he stopped making eye contact...we went to the doctor, and my wife and I were told that our son was on the spectrum...I had no clue what autism was.” — Tony Spiridakis ([03:24])
- The impact of negative judgment and shame around his son's behaviors led Spiridakis to want to explore this in a film, focusing not only on the autistic child, but the family’s experience (04:58).
- Quote: “You don’t want your son to be sort of criminalized, right, because he’s autistic, so he has no filter.” — Tony Spiridakis ([05:14])
- Spiridakis’ own journey with his son Dimitri’s autism diagnosis (03:24)
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Shaping the Story:
- Goldwyn, a friend of Spiridakis for 40+ years, saw the script evolve over time and, after reading a revised draft, felt it had finally “cracked” what it needed to become a compelling film they could make together (06:25-07:44).
- Quote: “I read it and it just hit me really hard. I felt that Tony had somehow cracked certain things in terms of the way he was structuring the script. That really worked. And I felt, oh, this is a movie now.” — Tony Goldwyn ([06:56])
- Goldwyn, a friend of Spiridakis for 40+ years, saw the script evolve over time and, after reading a revised draft, felt it had finally “cracked” what it needed to become a compelling film they could make together (06:25-07:44).
Representation & Challenging Stereotypes
- Critique of Autism Portrayals:
- Spiridakis notes the overemphasis on autistic “superpowers” or savant abilities in media, which can minimize the full, messy reality and ripple effect on families (08:05).
- Quote: “There has to be a sort of...superpower attributable to this thing called autism. And I just felt that was...like it minimized it somehow.” — Tony Spiridakis ([08:09])
- The film focuses on the dynamics between family members, especially parents, and how the experience of autism alters their lives collectively (09:18).
- Spiridakis notes the overemphasis on autistic “superpowers” or savant abilities in media, which can minimize the full, messy reality and ripple effect on families (08:05).
Family Dynamics – Making “the Big Salad”
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Portraying Parental Imperfection:
- Spiridakis uses his father’s saying about making “the biggest salad” (making a mess) to show how parents make mistakes despite their best intentions (09:18).
- Quote: “Parents are going to make a mess. They don’t get up in the morning and say, ‘how am I going to make a salad out of my kid’s life?’ They try to do the right thing.” — Tony Spiridakis ([09:23])
- Spiridakis uses his father’s saying about making “the biggest salad” (making a mess) to show how parents make mistakes despite their best intentions (09:18).
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On-Screen Parental Conflict:
- The film dramatizes the tension between Max and Jenna’s parenting philosophies — particularly regarding special education and medication for Ezra. Spiridakis emphasizes that both perspectives are valid, and navigating these differences is a universal parental experience, but can be extra fraught in the context of neurodivergence (16:45-18:36).
- Quote: “It’s fraught with all this tension because if one parent thinks you should do this to take care of this child, and the other thinks the other way...it’s just...cause I’ve seen it cause so much disruption in so many marriages.” — Tony Spiridakis ([17:49])
- The film dramatizes the tension between Max and Jenna’s parenting philosophies — particularly regarding special education and medication for Ezra. Spiridakis emphasizes that both perspectives are valid, and navigating these differences is a universal parental experience, but can be extra fraught in the context of neurodivergence (16:45-18:36).
Casting a Neurodivergent Actor
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Real Representation:
- Goldwyn and Spiridakis were committed from the start to casting a neurodivergent child as Ezra, recognizing its necessity for both representation and authenticity (10:39).
- The casting process was extensive and included experts and advisors from the autism community, eventually leading to finding William Fitzgerald just weeks before shooting (12:41-13:50).
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On-Set Support & Process:
- The film brought in autistic associate producer Alex Plank and trained the cast and crew thoroughly; set environments were adapted to support William’s needs, but the process ultimately mirrored the normal variability of working with any actor (14:39-16:09).
- Quote: “Every actor, it’s like, what do you need to do your best work? What environment do you need to feel safe to create?...William is William. And when things are not, when he’s stressed out, he’s like, ‘I’m done.’” — Tony Goldwyn ([15:28])
- William Fitzgerald’s performance: natural, present, and often “way ahead of me in direction...He’s so bright...after about three words, he’s like, ‘yeah, I got it, Tony. Just let me do it.’” — Tony Goldwyn ([16:09])
- The film brought in autistic associate producer Alex Plank and trained the cast and crew thoroughly; set environments were adapted to support William’s needs, but the process ultimately mirrored the normal variability of working with any actor (14:39-16:09).
Intergenerational Dynamics & Breaking Patterns
- Exploring Fathers and Sons:
- Robert De Niro plays Max’s father, Stan. The film examines how parental trauma and personality ripple down generations. Both Max and Stan struggle with anger, paranoia, and defensiveness, which shape Max and Ezra’s relationship (19:54-21:29).
- Quote: “I wanted to show two men trying to be examples...They wanted to be good fathers, but they had their own issues...The answer for both of them that they sort of find out by trying to help this child is... nobody’s really thinking about you that way. The dog wasn’t trying to bite you.” — Tony Spiridakis ([20:17])
- Robert De Niro plays Max’s father, Stan. The film examines how parental trauma and personality ripple down generations. Both Max and Stan struggle with anger, paranoia, and defensiveness, which shape Max and Ezra’s relationship (19:54-21:29).
Crafting Complex, Authentic Characters
- Bobby Cannavale as Max:
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Goldwyn and Cannavale collaborated to portray Max as both an unapologetically flawed parent and an advocate propelled by relentless love and fear.
- Quote: “He’s unapologetic in his bad behavior...and yet everything is coming from his heart and driven by this intense, passionate love for this kid combined with...his own paranoia...so we talked about that duality...both can exist at the same time.” — Tony Goldwyn ([21:53])
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Cannavale’s real-life fatherhood and love of comedy informed the character’s raw humor and vulnerability (23:28-25:34).
- Quote: “Bobby brought himself and so many fantastic ideas...that was a very big unknown, the comedy part...let’s just find what the story is for the character and let the humor and comedy...work on that.” — Tony Spiridakis ([24:44])
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Real-Life Reception
- Dimitri’s Reaction:
- Dimitri saw the film and gave it his blessing, especially appreciating William Fitzgerald’s performance:
- Quote: “He goes, ‘that William kid, he’s great, dad. He’s great. Kitchen’s closed.’” — Tony Spiridakis ([25:43])
- Dimitri saw the film and gave it his blessing, especially appreciating William Fitzgerald’s performance:
Notable Quotes and Memorable Moments
- “I try to make a joke out of something. I try to hide how scared I am. Like most people, say something witty and get the laugh.”
— Tony Spiridakis (TED Talk) ([04:14]) - “If I can do this for my friend, like, get his story on screen, what a cool thing. What a cool adventure to embark on together. And it has been.”
— Tony Goldwyn ([07:25]) - “We made a commitment — let’s find a kid on the autism spectrum... It just seemed critically necessary, both in terms of representation and... what that might yield us artistically.”
— Tony Goldwyn ([10:42]) - “The original title of the script was ‘Inappropriate Behavior.’”
— Tony Goldwyn ([23:02]) - “Everyone was fighting because we loved him. We weren’t fighting necessarily with each other.”
— Tony Spiridakis ([19:32])
Key Timestamps for Important Segments
- 03:24 – Spiridakis’ TED Talk clip about discovering his son's autism.
- 06:25 – Goldwyn describes their friendship and how he came to want to direct the film.
- 08:05 – Spiridakis critiques typical portrayals of autism in media.
- 10:39 – Discussion on importance of casting a neurodivergent child and finding William Fitzgerald.
- 14:39 – Steps the team took to create a supportive film set for William Fitzgerald.
- 16:45 – Spiridakis examines parental disagreement and the marital consequences of raising an autistic child.
- 20:17 – Intergenerational dynamics of fatherhood explored via De Niro’s Stan and Cannavale’s Max.
- 21:53 – Goldwyn’s insights on the complexity of the Max character.
- 25:43 – Dimitri’s review of the film.
Tone and Language
The conversation is candid, warm, and laced with self-aware humor as the guests reflect on their mistakes, growth, and the love that drives family—mirroring the authentic, unvarnished spirit of the film itself.
This summary is designed to offer a thorough, engaging guide for listeners and those interested in the intersection of film, neurodiversity, and the lived experiences behind creative work.
