Incarcerated Fathers and Their Daughters

Summary

Podcast Summary: All Of It – “Incarcerated Fathers and Their Daughters”

Original Air Date: August 13, 2024
Host: Alison Stewart, WNYC
Guests:

• Natalie Rae (Filmmaker, Co-Director of Daughters)
• Angela Patton (Co-Director, CEO of Girls for a Change, Founder of Camp Diva Leadership, Originator of Date with Dad)
• Chad Morris (Fatherhood Coach featured in the film)

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Episode Overview

This episode delves into the documentary Daughters, a film chronicling a transformative dance that reunites incarcerated fathers with their daughters. The conversation explores the emotional, familial, and societal impact of such reunions, the origins of the program, the unique challenges faced by fathers and daughters separated by incarceration, and the healing process both endure. Daughters is praised for its raw and compassionate portrayal and its focus on breaking cycles of family separation.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Origin of the Father-Daughter Dance

[03:53]

• Angela Patton recounts that the dance originated from the desires of the girls themselves, nurtured within Girls for a Change's Girl Action Teams.
  • The space was designed to affirm girls' voices as “safe” and “brave,” allowing them to address personal and societal issues, including stereotypes about Black fatherhood.
  • When a peer couldn’t attend the dance due to her father’s incarceration, the girls wrote to the Richmond Sheriff to request an in-jail dance—an idea the sheriff accepted, leading to the creation of Date with Dad.
  • Notable Quote:

    “And that's when they decided to think about how they could be creative…making sure that their friend had the same experience.” — Angela Patton [05:26]

2. Filmmaking Approach and Focus

[06:08]

• Natalie Rae wanted viewers to connect authentically with the girls and their emotional journeys, rather than prescribing a message.
  • The filmmaking style adapted to the needs and rhythms of the girls.
  • Notable Quote:

    “…just allow people to connect to their experience has always been the most important thing.” — Natalie Rae [06:54]

3. Program Success & Family Reconnection

[06:59]

• Chad Morris details the high success rate: 95% of participating fathers stayed out of prison post-program.
  • The program’s power lies in its holistic approach, involving fathers, daughters, and mothers; everyone must agree to “turn their hearts toward each other.”
  • The process involves deep self-reflection, accountability, and the family’s collective growth.
  • Notable Quote:

    “It’s not just a program for the girls or only for the dads... it’s a combination of working with their entire family unit...” — Chad Morris [08:18]

4. Mothers’ Perspectives and Challenges

[08:57]

• Angela Patton shares the challenges mothers face in supporting or resisting their daughters’ relationships with incarcerated fathers.
  • She encourages mothers to reflect on their own experiences and consider breaking cycles for a healthier family dynamic.
  • Notable Quote:

    “...doing that heart work, which is hard work, but it’s necessary work, is how we kind of get the mothers to see...” — Angela Patton [10:31]

5. Expectations and Skepticism of Incarcerated Fathers

[11:16]

• Chad Morris addresses the skepticism many incarcerated fathers bring—often expecting just another visitation, not deep transformation.
  • He meets participants as fellow fathers, not as an authority, facilitating trust and introspection.
  • Notable Quote:

    “Most of us don’t want to be taught about fatherhood… But through our collective parenting experiences, I asked the question, what can’t we figure out?” — Chad Morris [12:41]

6. Filming in Prison: Vulnerability and Trust

[12:56]

• Natalie Rae describes how trust was built for filming inside the prison—cameraman Michael Fernandez shared similar life experiences with the fathers, sometimes joining their circle instead of filming.
  • Fostering empathy and connection diminished the anxiety of being on camera.
  • Notable Quote:

    “…whoever was bringing in cameras or behind the camera could connect it to the fathers.” — Natalie Rae [13:36]

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Memorable Moments & Excerpts

Aubrey’s Math and Emotional Calculus [15:09–16:10]

• Aubrey, a young girl in the film, calculates how many years until she is reunited with her father, blending childhood innocence with a profound understanding of loss.
  • Clip Excerpt:

    “He’s coming home in seven more years... First it was nine years, and then the police took away two and then it was seven... I wish my dad was home already.” — Aubrey [15:37–16:10]

  • Alison Stewart: “No, I’m going to get my tears out now. Get my Kleenex.” [16:10]

On Showing the Range of Father-Daughter Experiences [16:23]

• Natalie Rae discusses the importance of showing different ages, relationships, and emotional coping strategies; every family is unique.
  • Notable Quote:

    “Every single father daughter relationship will be different…” — Natalie Rae [17:24]

Fatherhood from the Incarcerated Perspective [18:47]

• Chad Morris explains the challenge fathers face in managing pride, longing, guilt, and the struggle to show vulnerability in prison settings.
  • Key Point:
    Men are rarely encouraged to process or express such emotions within prison culture.

Santana’s Anger and Hope [20:48–21:25]

• Ten-year-old Santana voices her anger and sadness toward her father’s repeated incarcerations.
  • Clip Excerpt:

    “I’m sick of seeing myself cry because of the stuff you do, and it wasn’t my decision, it was your decision to make... It’s affecting me, mostly me.” — Santana [20:48–21:25]

• Angela Patton highlights how, beneath the anger, Santana is fiercely advocating for her father to “do better” and not give up on him.

Why the Film Doesn’t State Offenses [23:37]

• Natalie Rae:
  • “All of these girls deserve love and connection to their parents… the film really focuses on that father-daughter relationship… everything else doesn’t matter.” [23:48]

After the Dance: Emotional Preparation [24:26]

• Chad Morris addresses the emotional aftermath for fathers after such an intense reunion, explaining ongoing support and preparation are essential.
  • Notable Quote:

    “...when they go back to their pods or cells, they don’t have a person, most likely, that they can confide in...” — Chad Morris [25:32]

  • The dance is a high point, but the emotional work is continuous.

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Notable Quotes

• Angela Patton: "[These programs are] not only a safe space, but a brave space... when you allow girls to be in a space that allows them to affirm their voice, to be seen, heard, and celebrated..." [04:04]
• Chad Morris: "All parents want the best for their kids. I inherently believe that. And I think these parents wanted to turn their hearts toward their children." [08:34]
• Natalie Rae: "All of these girls deserve love and connection... the film really focuses on that father daughter relationship and through everything, through the way that Chad works with the fathers, they never talk about sentences." [23:48]

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Important Timestamps

• [03:53] – Angela Patton shares the origin story of the in-prison father-daughter dance.
• [06:08] – Natalie Rae explains her filmmaking philosophy.
• [06:59] – Chad Morris on what makes the program effective.
• [08:57] – Angela Patton on working with mothers.
• [11:16] – Chad Morris discusses fathers’ expectations.
• [13:05] – Natalie Rae on building trust for authentic filming.
• [15:09–16:10] – Clip: Aubrey’s thoughts on her father’s incarceration.
• [20:48–21:25] – Clip: Santana vocalizes pain and resilience.
• [23:48] – Rae explains the decision not to show the fathers’ offenses.
• [24:45] – Chad Morris on post-dance emotional support.

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Overall Takeaway

This episode offers a compassionate, multi-layered look at the ripple effects of incarceration on families—especially daughters—and the unique healing that can occur when the system allows space for love and vulnerability. The documentary Daughters doesn’t dwell on the crimes or sentences, but rather on the emotional realities of children and their need to be known and loved by their fathers. Fathers, mothers, and children engage in “heart work” that is challenging but transformative, revealing pathways for breaking generational cycles and restoring family bonds.

Daughters is streaming on Netflix beginning August 14, 2024.

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[Alison Stewart]

This is all of it on wnyc. I'm Alison Stewart. Now we're going to look at a documentary called Daughters. It's about the commitment between daughters and their fathers who are incarcerated. It's about the cost for father and daughters who can't see each other. And it's about the importance of of making memories. The film centers on a dance, a father daughter dance between incarcerated men and their children who are on the outside. We follow four girls who cope differently with their father's absences. And we follow their fathers through a 12 week program to help them prepare for what it might be the only chance to physically be with their kids. It's an increasing number of prisons where in person contact doesn't exist. Visits happen through a video screen. The film premiered at this year's Sundance Film Festival and won the audience award for us Documentary, the LA Times review states, it's in the realities of distance that we come to fully grasp the complexity of the dance. Girls and fathers bonding without plexiglass barriers or pricey video calls, separating them to touch and to be touch makes daughters an achingly beautiful case for second chances in isolating, fractured world. Joining me now to talk about the documentary Daughters, please welcome filmmaker Natalie Rae. Hi, Natalie.

[Natalie Rae]

Hi. Thanks for having us.

[Alison Stewart]

We also have Chad Morris here. He's the fatherhood coach who helps the incarcerated men prepare themselves for the day. Chad, nice to meet you.

[Chad Morris]

Good morning. Nice to meet you, too.

[Alison Stewart]

And last but not least is Angela Patton, co director of the film with Natalie. And she's also the CEO of Girls for a Change, the founder of Camp Dida Diva Leadership, who originated the idea of Date with Dad, where the program originated. Angela, thanks for being with us.

[Angela Patton]

Thanks for having me today.

[Alison Stewart]

So, Angela, you tell the story in the film. The idea for the dance came from the girls themselves. What was the groundwork you did to give rise to the idea? And why a dance?

[Angela Patton]

Yes, great question. I think that when you allow girls to be in a space that allows them to affirm their voice, to be seen, heard, and celebrated, and it's not only a safe space, but a brave space, and they really feel that we are actively listening to them, you know, anything could actually come out of their imagination. And so at Girls for A Change, we pride ourselves in creating such spaces. And I'm fortunate, fortunate that I'm in a position to do so. And so with this particular program called Girl Action Teams, we allow girls to think about issues in their community that they would like to solve. And the girls really wanted to address these stereotypes and negative narratives around black fatherhood and how it actually showed up in their lives. And the girls realized that it was something that they needed to do differently, and that was really celebrate their fathers in their own way. And so at first, it was just a community dance that was going to be facilitated by the girls in Richmond, Virginia. And as they were planning this dance, they realized that one of their peers, unfortunately, could not attend because her father was incarcerated. And that really bothered those girls. And that's when they decided to think about how they could be creative and. And making sure that their friend had the same experience that they were about to have with their fathers on the outside. And they decided to write a letter to our sheriff at that time, the former sheriff, now Sheriff C. T Woody, who was really leading the Richmond justice center, and asked him if they would allow them to bring A Dance of their Own and inside the city jail. And then he graciously accepted the invitation. And this is why we're here today.

[Alison Stewart]

Natalie, what were some of the things you were hoping to communicate through the documentary?

[Natalie Rae]

Great question. I really wanted people to connect with these girls, connect with how they were feeling, what they wanted, how they changed over time, and really be on this journey with them. I think I didn't want to come into it with really my own set of what. Where the story was going or really what an audience should take away. I think it's more always about the girls experience and spending enough time with them so that what they would share and how they would feel and how we could adapt the filmmaking style and the editing style and everything around them to just allow people to connect to their experience has always been the most important thing.

[Alison Stewart]

I'm not going to give away too much at the end, Chad, but there's a Note that says 95% of the incarcerated men who participate in this program have remained out of prison. You've been doing this family stabilization social work for more than a decade. What about this program makes it so successful?

[Chad Morris]

That's a great question. I think it's a unique synergy of all of the components. This isn't just an approach to try to mobilize men. That's part of my job, is to mobilize them and help them find the lessons that are in their own stories. To help them reflect and practice a type of accountability that for imprisoned men, it's not always embraced when they're in a space that's not. It's a brave environment for very different reasons. Let's just say that. That they have to be brave. But this type of accountability is something that is very necessary for them to have the conversation to reflect and find the values in their stories. I also think that it's because of the work that Angela and girls, for a change have been so intently doing with girls to unapologetically not tell those girl know and find solutions and support their mothers. Because for their family units to reconnect or strengthen their connections, there's got to be an agreement on everybody's parts to turn their hearts towards each other. And I think that's what makes it unique. It's not just a program that's succinctly and only for the girls or only for the dads or only for the moms. But it's a combination of working with their entire family unit. Because families look different, they communicate differently. But that child is who those parents Wish to be on board for. And all parents want the best for their kids. I inherently believe that. And I think that these parents wanted to turn their hearts towards their children. It causes both parents to practice some accountability and some consideration of each other, but also keeping that child at the forefront of the consideration. I think those are the things that make this program unique.

[Alison Stewart]

Yeah. And just to say that some of the moms have very different ideas about this. What do you say to a mom who's just not sure about the daughters seeing their dad?

[Angela Patton]

Yes, I think it's the same thing that Chad is doing with the fathers. We think about the fact that they are raising the girls to really prepare for womanhood, and we want to stop some of these vicious cycles that have really disrupted our community, which starts with our family unit. And so I have to help the mothers really find, you know, their way. And thinking about what was your relationship with your father who actually, you know, told you or whispered things in your ears? Were you able to have these honest, unsettling conversations with your dad, and if you could go back and change anything, what would it be? And as the mothers start to think about their childhood and maybe their wounds and, you know, maybe the scars that have been put upon them, they start to sometimes think differently about what they want for their daughters and understand that the father is significant in making sure that she seems to have a. That she has a relationship with both mom and father. And understand that even though the father may not have shown up the way you want him to, you know, maybe the father and the daughter will have an opportunity to heal on their time and. And they develop their own relationship that's going to be positive for the both of them. And so just doing that heart work, which is hard work, but it's necessary work, is how we kind of get the mothers to see that you are a champion of what you want your daughter to become. You know, and we wanted to have, you know, voice and agency in her relationship with her father. And how do you get out of the way and allow the. That nurturing, you know, to happen and kind of not always play the mama bear?

[Alison Stewart]

And I know it's hard.

[Angela Patton]

It's very hard to do, But I also commend the mothers and continue to celebrate them, too, because you never want them to feel like, you know, that I'm saying that what they're doing is wrong. It's just that what can we do differently to have better, healthy family outcomes? Because this is all for our daughters.

[Alison Stewart]

Chad, the Date with Dad program lasts over Two months. It started in Richmond. The documentary follows dads in D.C. chad, honestly, what do most dads who show up think is going to happen?

[Chad Morris]

You said, what do most dads who show up think is going to happen? I think in the beginning, I think they are. I think that. Not to give the film away, but what some men have shared, those particular men and other men, they look at it as just another opportunity to have a touch visit and a contact visit, because it's counterintuitive to think that I'm going to go in this group and open up and in 10 weeks I'm automatically going to be a better dad. Who is this guy? What is he going to tell me about being a parent? And I think that's an honest and fair assessment. And so the approach in working with them is always to meet them as who they are outside of the sentence that they're carrying or the trial that they're wearing, or the jumpsuit that they have on, to meet them in the space of you're a man and you're a father and that we have in common. And by finding those common threads on. In getting their agreement to understand they're in that room and chose to be in that room before they met me because of the love of their child and wanting to see their child. That's the space that we start from. But I think it's some healthy skepticism in the beginning about what the process will be like. Because no one, most of us don't want to be taught about fatherhood, nor have we ever. Most of us haven't had someone intentionally saying they're going to teach us. Which is why my Monica, because I'm not a teacher, I'm just a dad. And I'm figuring things out just like you are. But through our collective parenting experiences, I asked the question, what can't we figure out? And I think that starts the turning point for their thought process.

[Alison Stewart]

Natalie, you're the director. You're in the prison. How do the men feel about having a camera in their face?

[Natalie Rae]

I think that I was pleasantly surprised. They were quite relaxed about it. I think there's. These environments can be heavily surveyed and have a lot of people and security guards and things like that. So it didn't seem like the camera brought another big element that was taking them out of the moment. But also, I think what Angela and I were really intentional about was whoever was bringing in cameras or behind the camera could connect it to the fathers. And our cinematographer, Cambio Michael Fernandez, he had a similar experience growing up and had a parent that was incarcerated. So there was lots of moments where he could just put the camera down and join the circle and have the conversation with the fathers. He's a father himself. And Angela would usually just stay out of the room and allow the men to have their own space and time. So I think that was really important to achieving that unawareness and just openness, whether the camera was on or not.

[Alison Stewart]

We're talking about the Netflix film Daughters, about a program that reunites daughters with their incarcerated fathers for a dance. You can start streaming it tomorrow. We'll have more after a quick break. This is all of it. This is all of it on wnyc. I'm Alison Stewart. We're talking about the Netflix film Daughters, about a program that reunites daughters and their incarcerated fathers for a dance. You can stream it starting tomorrow. My guests are the films director Natalie Ray, Chad Morris, a fatherhood coach who appears in the film, and Angela Patton, whose organization, Camp Diva Leadership Academy, started the whole thing. Let's listen to a little bit of the documentary. Aubrey is adorable sprite little five year old. We meet her, she's proud to show off her math skills or timetables. And we hear her puzzling through some really emotionally difficult math about how many years before she gets to see her father again. Let's hear a little excerpt of her talking to her mom in her bedroom. And the water you hear is a fish tank.

[Angela Patton]

My cousin taught me my 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 timetables, but she did teach me my 10 timetables and I know all my 10 timetables. I'm the smartest one in my class. My dad like rapping and I'm rapping with him too. He made a cool song.

[Natalie Rae]

You miss him?

[Alison Stewart]

When he says he loved me, I.

[Angela Patton]

Said, I'm gonna say I love him more. He's coming home in seven more years. Yeah, I think so, too, Mama. First it was nine years and then the police took away two and then it was seven. So it wasn't nine or eight years. It was seven.

[Chad Morris]

Seven is a very close number to.

[Angela Patton]

One, but it won't take a long time because it's a year. I wish it was. I wish my dad was home already.

[Alison Stewart]

No, I'm going to get like, try. I'm going to get my tears out now. Get my Kleenex. Natalie, what was striking to you about the different faces we see these girls put on through the film?

[Natalie Rae]

I mean, it was really an organic process sort of meeting all four. We started with six families and a couple of the fathers had to go to other facilities. So then these four girls were so powerful as different types of ages, really different personalities, different relationships with their fathers. Just to try to communicate like this. The range of experiences we have with our fathers, every single father daughter relationship will be different. So from that imaginative nature of Aubrey with so much sparkle in her eye and optimism, but also, you know, blending her reality a little bit. She's so young that she's still sort of understanding life at that, at that time. And then, you know, you have Jayanna and Santana. Santana, you know, has a lot of resentment at that. When we first meet her, to her father, who's been out of her life for most of it, and then Diana, who actually would like to meet her father, she doesn't really remember him. She hasn't been able to go into the jail to visit him. So she sort of expresses this. This wanting to connect, but, you know, more apathetic. She doesn't really know him. And then Rosiah, who is a little bit more at a loss at that moment in her life and you know, is really sad and struggling with depression as she's 16, 15, 16, and processing it in a different way. And the mothers would always talk about this storm that the girls were in and they were at different phases of. Of this cycle. And I think what's hopefully beautiful about the film is that you do get to see them come out of that. It's not. And not anyone stuck in one place. It's moving. People have ups and downs and a lot of the girls and the fathers do move through things together.

[Alison Stewart]

You know, with Aubrey's father, Chad, we see how proud he is of her, how she's doing so well in school. But he also gets emotional about having all that pride and not being able to show it in the way that maybe she knows he knows that she needs. What are some of the other issues that come to the forefront for these fathers as part of the process?

[Chad Morris]

I think the disconnectivity being, you know, they are separated from their families and I think they register as well, especially with the changes in policies. Prisoners is not an easy or jail is not an easy span of time to spend away from their families. And I think they're registering so many different emotions that taking the time to become accountable for what they're feeling. I can't speak to their individual experiences per se. They're their own best actors, advocates. But what I can say is working with them is very intentional to start from a place of self reflection so that they can get those feelings organized. So Part of what you see in the film is them just expressing themselves. It's not often that men who are in prison are in a place where they are encouraged to be sensitive, encouraged to be vulnerable, encouraged to relax, because this is not the face or the filter that they have to operate through when they're spending their time outside of that room. And I think they register a whole span of emotions because most every man that spoke expressed the want to be there for their child. They expressed the want for them to do something different and for their children to have different opportunities than they did and just being able to stay connected, which is already hard when a man is dealing with incarceration. And it's hard for the family as well, because they're in a type of incarceration by being separated from their families. So I think they're registering a whole myriad of emotions. But the goal is always to talk to them, to the place, by being accountable to themselves, truthful with themselves, and renewing their commitment to show up as best they can, because they do have various different circumstances. I think the film does a very good job of showing you in a short amount of time what the span of those emotions look like.

[Alison Stewart]

Angela, one of the other little girls, Santana, is about 10 when we meet her. Let's listen to a little bit from the documentary Daughters, and you get Santana's sense of frustration. Let's listen.

[Angela Patton]

I would tell him that I'm sick of seeing myself cry because the stuff that you do, and it wasn't my decision, it was your decision to make and not mine. So next, when you get out of jail, next time you go back in jail, not going to even share one single tear. Don shames tears because he want to keep doing bad stuff that he shouldn't be doing. It's not okay. It's affecting me, mostly me.

[Alison Stewart]

Angela, you see the Santana's really trying to tough it out, but then when she and her father get to hug each other, she lets out this big exuberant daddy.

[Angela Patton]

Yeah.

[Alison Stewart]

Do you see that combination of feeling among the girls?

[Angela Patton]

Absolutely. It's an emotional rollercoaster. You know, what I do love about Santana is that she wasn't allowing that to define her. And what you actually see in the film is even through her anger and her pain, she's found ways to cope through her best dance. She's coping by making sure that she's venting about what she's feeling. But that doesn't mean that she doesn't love this man. You know, she just saying, man, I need you to do better for me. Right. Because I know that you can. And so I just love the fact that this film actually gave her a space to be able to just share that. One of the things that Natalie has shared in some of our past interviews that I appreciate is how Santana said, I have more to say. And Natalie and our camera crew just stayed with her and just allowed her to just pour all of that out. She just needed to be heard. She never said she did not love him. She never said, I'm not going to go to this dance. She just was like, I need for you to understand what I'm feeling and to be accountable for it. And then when she was able to see him, which you also captured, is she is actually becoming, you know, this great burst of, like, leadership. She's asking him questions. Sometimes she didn't want to dance because she wanted to have a conversation, the one that a lot of times, unfortunately, we don't have a safe space to have. And so I'm always just, you know, in awe about her confidence to be so honest and raw. And then I'm hoping that when her father hears these conversations, that he actually listens actively to his daughter and shows up and does the exact thing that Mark said that he was, and that was her superhero, and that's what she was asking him to become.

[Alison Stewart]

Natalie, please correct me if I'm wrong, but you don't say why the men were in prison. Is that correct?

[Natalie Rae]

Correct.

[Alison Stewart]

Why did you make that decision?

[Natalie Rae]

All of these girls deserve love and connection to their parents. And if these children are innocent and growing up, they're. They're. They shouldn't be suffering the consequences, no matter what their parents did or did not do. So the film really focuses on that father daughter relationship and through everything, through the way that Chad works with the fathers, they never talk about sentences. It's about them as human beings. This parent child relationship, that connection and everything else doesn't matter.

[Alison Stewart]

Chad, we see the fam. The fathers and the daughters at the dance. There's this sort of looming idea that this is going to be over one day. How are you going to. How do you prepare the men for after the dance when they're separated again?

[Chad Morris]

I think so what you see in the film is a snapshot of the conversations that we've had. This was over the course of 10 weeks before the dance and then continued for several weeks after the dance, just because of that one fact, that once you're on this emotional roller coaster, we're building on each conversation that we have predicated on prior conversation because we're continuing to build trust not just with each other, but trust within ourselves that we can be who we need to be to show up. And so while they're looking forward to that high, we. Conversations that you don't see do let the men know that, hey, I know the journey that we're going to be on. And while I don't know your individual reactions, I understand that your love for your child is as pure as you professed and so eloquently shared that this is going to be an emotional high. And we use the word roller coaster intentionally because I don't think there's a more adequate word to describe it. This is why we have these intentional conversations. This is why we have those conversations after the fact, because each man registers it differently, and they don't. When they go back to their pods or their cells, they don't have a person, most likely, that they can confide in that they can talk to and process those emotions. And it's very necessary to process them because at times of high emotional, highly emotional activity, those are times when we can also make an imprint in our minds to try to register change. And that's the hope for them. So this is why it's very intentional, how we structure those conversations and how they build each one. And unfortunately, you don't see all of the conversations, but it was definitely an effort to make sure we help them understand that journey so that when they felt it, how you feel is a surprise. But knowing that you're going to do it, you can't brace yourself. But we're there to make sure we keep going.

[Alison Stewart]

I am going to dive in and tell people daughters can stream tomorrow on Netflix. My guests have been Natalie Rae, Angela Patton, and Chad Morris.

[Chad Morris]

Thank.

[Alison Stewart]

Thank you so much for your work.

[Natalie Rae]

Thank you.

[Angela Patton]

Thank you for having us today.

[Chad Morris]

I'm gonna put you on, nephew. All right, unc.

[Angela Patton]

Welcome to McDonald's. Can I take your order, miss?

[Chad Morris]

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[Angela Patton]

Customers had an accident.

[Chad Morris]

You might say something like, doggone it.

[Angela Patton]

Hey, Chihuahua.

[Alison Stewart]

Holy schnauzers.

[Chad Morris]

But if you need someone who can actually help, just say, like a good.

[Angela Patton]

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[Chad Morris]

And get help filing a claim from your local State Farm agent for your.

[Angela Patton]

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