Podcast Summary: “awkwardness, advice session”

Anything Goes with Emma Chamberlain – August 17, 2025

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In this episode, Emma Chamberlain hosts another “Advice Session” focusing on the universal experience of awkwardness. Drawing from her own recent social discomfort, Emma gives candid, comforting, and practical advice to listeners’ most pressing social dilemmas. Ranging from managing post-confession friendships to surviving mean girls, she shares her insights and actionable tips, all delivered in her signature honest and relatable style.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Awkwardness in Social Settings (00:00–03:00, 30:00–40:00)

• Emma opens up about feeling out of place at her first social gathering in a month, especially as a non-drinker. She uses this fresh, personal awkwardness to fuel her advice.
• Core insight: Awkwardness is normal, even for adults and well-known creators like her. Practice, honesty with yourself, and a bit of “faking it till you make it” make things easier, eventually.

“For the first time in a long time, I felt really awkward... And on top of that, I don't drink alcohol, so I have nothing to hide behind. If I'm feeling a little bit rusty, oops, just going to have to deal with it because I can't drink to loosen up.” (Emma, 00:40)

2. Friendship After a Failed Crush (05:00–17:00)

• Q: “Should I stay friends with my crush after I confessed my feelings and it didn't go anywhere?”
• Emma’s holistic approach:
  • First, check in with yourself: Can you handle platonic friendship, or will it hurt emotionally?
  • Consider if you can process being around your crush as they date others. If not, a temporary distance is healthier.
  • Two options:
    1. Fake it 'til it’s real—act normal even if it feels forced, and it may become genuine again.
    2. Communicate: If things feel off, sit down and talk. Figure out the new dynamic together.
  • Additional advice: Start socializing with new groups, particularly those with crush-worthy options—using “crush energy” elsewhere can help move you on.

“Can you handle this person going off and dating somebody else?...if you continue to be friends, you might cause yourself unnecessary levels of psychological pain when just stepping back...could help.” (Emma, 07:00) “You don't have to self-destruct. The friendship doesn't have to end.” (Emma, 13:50)

3. Navigating Classes with Ex-Friends (41:00–46:00)

• Q: “I fell out with my friend group because they did me very wrong, but we’re still in the same classes together. Do I act like nothing’s wrong?”
• Emma’s take:
  • Don’t erase what happened by acting as if nothing’s wrong.
  • But don’t be rude—stay “businesslike”: respectful, cordial, but brief and distant.
  • Don’t overcompensate with niceness just to smooth things over.
  • Remember, it’s temporary—focus on new connections rather than the old drama.

“Going back to normal completely...erases what happened. And you don’t want to do that.” (Emma, 43:00) “Keep your distance as much as possible, but in the situations when you need to interact, keep it respectful, keep it cordial, and keep it brief. Almost like business.” (Emma, 43:25)

4. Battling Awkwardness at Social Events (46:00–59:00)

• Q: “How do I stop being so awkward at social events? I feel like I never fit in with the group.”
• Emma’s toolkit:
  • Bring a ‘security blanket’—friends who make you feel safe. Practice being social with those you trust.
  • Select events that fit your vibe and interests—don’t force yourself into incompatible settings.
  • “Fake it till you make it”—pretend confidence, don’t overthink, dress up to feel empowered, and let your self-expression boost you.
  • Social ease comes with practice. Keep putting yourself out there, and things get better over time.

“Attend social events with people you feel safe with… It’s almost like social training wheels.” (Emma, 47:20) “Fake the confidence to make the joke that’s in the back of your head… Fake the confidence to just exist in it and enjoy it for what it is.” (Emma, 54:10)

5. Handling the “Boyfriend Stealer” (59:00–67:00)

• Q: “How do I deal with a girl that always comes for my boyfriends? She’s done it twice now.”
• Emma’s tough-love advice:
  • Avoid people like this—major red flag.
  • First and foremost, talk to your boyfriend about what’s happening—awareness helps establish boundaries.
  • Don’t bother confronting the “boyfriend stealer”—it’s unlikely to help.
  • See this as a relationship test. If your boyfriend passes, you can trust him more; if not, it’s a sign to move on.

“There is no excuse for anyone trying to steal someone’s significant other, like, that is just bad morals...that’s somebody who is incredibly insecure in themselves, very jealous of other people in a way that is unhealthy.” (Emma, 59:50) “I think this honestly is a test to your relationship in a way… If you guys pass the test, then that’s a sign that you have a really strong, wonderful relationship.” (Emma, 65:00)

6. Being Kind to Someone You’re Jealous Of (67:00–76:00)

• Q: “How do I be kind to somebody that I’m low key jealous of? Is that fake of me?”
• Emma’s multi-step process:
  1. Put jealousy into perspective: Everyone has aspects of their life you wouldn’t want—even celebrities.
  2. Reframe jealousy: Rather than letting it consume you, use it for inspiration. Let admiration override envy.
  3. If you can’t genuinely be nice yet, fake it: Until you’ve processed your feelings, be “fake nice”—that’s better than letting negativity show.

“Jealousy...is not rooted in reality. You don’t know what goes on behind the scenes.” (Emma, 68:30) “Try to shift jealousy to admiration. And it’s not easy to do...but use it as inspiration... let it inspire you to work even harder.” (Emma, 72:00) “Being fake nice temporarily as a sort of a quick fix—I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that...you’ll never regret that.” (Emma, 75:00)

7. Dealing with Fake-Nice Mean Girls (76:00–80:00)

• Q: “How do I deal with mean girls who try to be fake nice? ...It really rubs me the wrong way.”
• Emma’s direct solution:
  • Keep your distance. If someone rubs you the wrong way, remove yourself from their orbit.
  • Don’t worry about convincing others—people may see things differently, and you can’t change that.
  • Creating your own, more positive circle is the healthiest move.

“If anyone ever is rubbing you the wrong way, go away, avoid them. Keep your distance as much as possible.” (Emma, 77:40) “If other people like them, there’s nothing you can do about that.” (Emma, 78:30)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “I think friendship is so important and it is rare to find people who are good friends. And so I think to throw away a friendship because there was a brief romantic element...that's a shame to me.” (Emma, 15:10)
• “Dress like who you want to be. Dress like the most confident, outgoing, social version of yourself, whatever that means for you.” (Emma, 55:50)
• “There is not one person on this planet that is too awkward to be saved. That doesn’t exist.” (Emma, 54:40)

Segment Timestamps

• 00:00–05:00 – Episode intro, awkwardness theme, Emma’s recent experience
• 05:00–17:00 – Friendship after crush: advice & strategies
• 41:00–46:00 – Being around ex-friends/classmates, dignity after drama
• 46:00–59:00 – Surviving social events: safety blankets, faking confidence, self-expression
• 59:00–67:00 – The “boyfriend stealer” problem and relationship strength
• 67:00–76:00 – Navigating kindness when jealous
• 76:00–80:00 – Handling fake-nice mean girls
• 80:00–END – Closing

Overall Tone

Emma’s advice is warm, honest, and encouraging—she blends relatable anecdotes with tough love, normalizing awkwardness and offering real strategies to manage discomfort and complicated social dynamics. She reassures listeners that social growth is a process and that being authentic, even in awkward situations, is always the best bet.

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