Emma Chamberlain (0:00)

In the last episode, we discussed how sometimes I can be a little bit of a hater, okay? And I say a little bit of a hater because unlike most haters, I don't seem like a hater. I don't spread hatred. I don't put people down. In fact, I tend to do the complete opposite. I'm very supportive and kind and nonjudgmental and loving. To the naked eye, I'm a bundle of love. But in private, I can be a little bit of a hater, okay? And I've always sort of been that way. Like, I've always found, weirdly, a sense of joy in novelty, in hating on things. I've always sort of loved gossip. Like, there's just something about me that enjoys hatred. It kind of reminds me of my relationship to nicotine. For whatever reason, I just like nicotine. Some people I know couldn't care less about it. They smoke a vape, you know, smoke a cigarette, whatever, and they just never get hooked, and they just never like it. And nicotine never works for them, and they just never get addicted, and it just never happens. I'm the opposite. For whatever reason, I've always loved it. Okay? Does it ultimately impact me negatively? Yes, because having nicotine in my system makes me anxious and paranoid, and it makes me dissociate. It has a bunch of negative effects. But in the short term, I love it. I absolutely love it. The way that it releases chemicals in my brain, I just absolutely love it. And I'm prone to being addicted to it. I feel the same way about being a hater. Like, there's just something about me that enjoys it. And again, like, it could be much worse, right? There are people who are haters, chronic haters, who spread hate and who have a negative impact on the world. And I really don't think that I am that. I think I'm really good at controlling it and keeping it contained. You know, my hater only really comes out within the privacy of my own mind and my closest friends and family. You know, I keep it really close to the chest. So me being a hater isn't like a worldly problem, okay? I'm not. I'm not hurting people. I mean, maybe occasionally something gets out, like, I don't know, but, like, for the most part, it's really just something that impacts me. I am the one who is ultimately being harmed by this in the moment. It feels fun. I love, you know, listening to a new album that just came out, right? Like a musical artist drops an album. I love Listening to it and fucking hating on it. There's something fun about that again, in private, but there's something fun about it. I love when someone slightly wrongs me and they just become my fucking enemy in private. This person is just now my enemy. There's something about that that I find fun. However, it's fully against my morals and values. Like being a hater is fully against my morals and values. I do not think it's okay. I know it's bad. And it just happens to be something that I am particularly prone to, which means I have to pay extra attention to the side of my brain that can quickly fall into a hater sort of rhythm, because I feel like our true colors and our weaknesses come out in challenging times, right? And so for me, when everything is good in my life, it's easy for me to not be a hater. I don't really have to check in on it. I'm just not a hater. But when some challenges arise, sometimes I start to become a little bit of a hater again. I'm constantly keeping this side of myself in check, right? And, you know, recently I discovered that I had fallen back into my hater mentality. I just have slowly but surely gotten back to a point where I just seem to hate everything. And for me, being a hater doesn't necessarily mean hating on people all the time, right? I mean, there's definitely certain people that end up getting caught up in my phase of hatred, but it's like everything. It's not just, you know, big things or specific people. It's everything. I just become a hater. I see everything through a hateful lens, significant and insignificant. So I had an idea, an idea to help retrain my brain, hopefully. Is it gonna work? I don't know. But here's my idea. Maybe I could find some value in doing a little exercise every once in a while. A little exercise that consists of finding things that I hate unfairly, unnecessarily, irrationally, and then finding something nice to say about that thing in an attempt to sort of help to retrain my thought patterns. Is it gonna work? Maybe, maybe not. But I thought it'd be a fun activity. Now, listen, I feel like this activity only really works or makes sense when trying to find the positive in something that truly does not deserve to be hated. Because there are certain things that actually deserve to be hated, right? Like violence, injustice, hypocrisy. You know what I mean? Like, there are things that do deserve to be hated. I'm not going to try to find the positive in those things. Today, I think it's valid and rational to hate those things. I'm talking about, like, the things that I hate that, like, it's a waste of my energy to hate these things. I don't know. This might be pointless. Okay, we'll see. We'll see at the end of this if it had a positive impact on my brain or not. And if it had a positive impact, then you can steal this exercise and do it when you're being a hater. Okay, let's begin. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. If you've ever wanted to create a website but didn't know where to start, Squarespace is your answer. Their design intelligence blends AI and expert design to help you create a site that's functional, unique, and totally your vibe. And with Squarespace payments, you can even start selling and let your customers pay however they like. 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Next thing you know, you've refreshed your wardrobe basically without spending a dime. Yeah, ebay. The place to buy and sell new pre loved. Vintage and rare fashion. I hate purses that are too small to fit your phone. I see one of these at a store or being carried by a beautiful, beautiful person and I feel my skin start to get a little bit hot. I really struggle to not be overwhelmed by how ridiculous the concept of a mini little purse is. It drives me nuts. Okay, the whole point of a bag is that you bring it with you to carry your stuff. Now it's the 21st century baby and you know, we all have all the time cell phones. If you're carrying a little bag that can't even fit your phone, what the fuck is it there for? And I'm seeing these designer brands come out with these teeny, tiny little mini bags and it doesn't even hold a phone. What the fuck is going on now? I don't want to see any of you go back and find a photo of me carrying a super mini bag, okay? Because if I've ever carried a super mini bag, it was against my will, okay? I was going to an event with a brand and they were like, hey, can you carry this bag? And I was like, is there one that's bigger? And the answer was no. That is the only time I can't even remember if I've ever carried like a little mini bag that doesn't hold. I know I have. I know I have because it was a huge trend and it's still a huge trend. And so I've definitely, to an event or something had to carry a really mini bag because that's what, you know, that's what product the brand wanted me to be holding when photos were being taken, right? There are sometimes moments when this type of stuff happens. I can guarantee that every single time I've ever had to carry a super mini bag, I've also had another bag that was actually holding my stuff and it was being held, you know, off camera or whatever. I just think it's ridiculous, okay? And it's. And it's a huge pet peeve of mine and it drives me crazy. And I would go as far as to say that I hate mini purses. Hate. But now that I've let that out, let's try to find something nice to say. For one, I do love mini things. I actually do, you know, whenever I see a little video on YouTube shorts, although I'm trying not to watch YouTube shorts as much anymore. But when I see a little video on YouTube Shorts of one of those mini kitchen cooking videos, if you don't know what I'm talking about, someone has this little mini kitchen, okay, that they like, light little candles underneath the, like, little stove and they have like little water tanks or something. Like, I don't even know how it all works, but they have all these mini little things that power this mini little kitchen. And they cook little meals in this little kitchen with their. Their big fingers are in there cooking in this mini little kitchen. And I'm obsessed. I love that, okay? When I was a kid, my favorite toy was any sort of mini doll Polly pocket mini dollhouses with, you know, mini little beds and mini little closets with mini little clothes and mini little pillows. I love mini, okay? I am one of those people who finds joy in a mini thing. I think things that are mini are cuter than things that are normal size. In fact, I was at this little trendy gift shop in Eagle Rock, a very trendy shopping area in Los Angeles, and I made my way into the kids section, and I stumbled across this little brand that makes these little, like, matchboxes, cigar boxes, little functional boxes filled with. With little mini mice in little outfits. And I bought two of them. Okay. I bought this little cigar box that has, like, a little mini bed inside with two little mini mice in pajamas. I bought this other little box that has. You can open it, and then, like, there's a little tiny mouse that has, like, a little tiny surfboard. Okay. And you can, like, strap its little feet into the surfboard and lean it against the box, and it sort of stands up. I bought that for my dad. I don't even know if he's gonna want it, but I bought it for him because he's a surfer. Is he even gonna like that? I don't know, but I thought it was too cute. I had to buy it because it's mini and it's so cute. Okay. I love mini things, and a mini purse is technically a mini thing. So in that way, I actually do think it's cute. Okay, function aside, I think mini bags are kind of cute. Another thing that I think is kind of nice about the mini bag is that it can be a bit humorous. It can be sort of a conversation starter when you're carrying this tiny little mini bag, it is a bit ridiculous. Everyone knows that you can't put anything in there. And so there's actually something sort of camp about that. Like, I'm literally carrying this little bag around, and nothing fits in it. I can, at max, fit, like, a vape and a lipstick in there. There's something kind of funny about that, which I think could be sort of a beautiful conversation starter. I actually fuck with that. I love humor in fashion. And last but not least, maybe there are some nights when you don't want to bring your phone and you just want to bring a little lipstick and a little vape, and that's when you bring the mini bag out. You know, maybe there is a function for some people. For me, I never feel safe leaving the house without my phone, but if you do, and that's how you disconnect sometimes. And bringing the mini bag forces you to leave the phone at home and disconnect. You know what? That's beautiful. I hope that there's someone out there that where that happens, you know? I really hope so. Ooh. You know, also, I think it could be kind of fun to, like, clip a mini bag onto a larger bag. That could kind of look cool or be kind of funny. In fact, I've actually sort of done that. I'm now remembering an event that I went to where they were like, hey, can you bring this tiny little mini bag? And I was like, yes, but only if I can bring the exact same bag in a larger size as well. So I'm holding both at once, and they were like, sure. And I thought it was, like, I don't know, silly. Okay, so see, there's something positive about a mini little bag. Let's move on to mushrooms. I despise mushrooms, okay, for two main reasons. Number one, the texture. Bouncy, chewy, gummy, light, weird. What the fuck? Like, mushrooms in my mouth. It's wrong. It feels wrong. It's. There's something about how, like, light and bouncy it is. It just. It's so unnerving to me. So that's number one. Number two, I hate the way a mushroom looks. Flip that thing over. See those little lines, those little fibers underneath the top of the mushroom? Disgusting. There's something about that texture, just the way it looks. Disgusting, you know? And I think that I'm particularly hateful towards mushrooms because I grew up a vegetarian. And at every single restaurant, it feels like the vegetarian option contains mushrooms. And it makes sense, really, because mushrooms are sort of a meaty kind of vegetable. You know, they have, like, an umami sort of flavor. They're less vegetal, more umami, which is more reminiscent of, say, meat. Right? They're hearty. In some ways, I don't even really know because I've never eaten them, but I've heard that they're sort of heartier. And, you know, restaurants love to just grill up a portobello mushroom and put it in between two buns and call it a veggie burger. People, I mean, you know, restaurants just love to do that. And so I guess maybe for me, the hatred stems from just, like a pure dislike combined with constantly having it be my main option. You know, less so now I feel like when I was growing up, you know, mushroom was sort of the main meat alternative. But food technology has advanced to things far more palatable. There are a lot of fake meats on the market these days. And so restaurants aren't really relying as much on mushrooms. But like, in the early 2000s, I just. It was. There was mushrooms everywhere. It was like, get out of my face. But now I have to say something nice about them. Well, for starters, I will say that mushrooms are really cute. Okay? If I'm like, walking through the forest, which happens sometimes, and I see a mushroom, I'm delighted. Like, when I'm looking at a mushroom from the top and I can't see the creepy fibers that are underneath. Mushrooms are super cute. And they also remind me of being a child and being obsessed with fairies who of course, live in the forest and live under mushrooms. I don't know, I see a mushroom and I think maybe there's a little fairy living in that mushroom. And that makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside. So in that way, I love mushrooms. Actually, I even have some outdoor decor that are mushrooms. I have these sort of stone mushrooms in my backyard, and I love them. I think that they're precious. And when it comes to mushrooms being a food, I actually kind of love the way mushrooms smell. Like, if I'm walking past a restaurant that's cooking mushrooms or a house that's cooking mushrooms, I know that smell and it's delightful. It is a delightful smell. Honestly, I think the smell of cooking mushrooms is one of my favorite, like, savory smells. It's kind of unbelievable. So you know what? Maybe mushrooms aren't so bad after all. But I am not going to eat them ever. Okay, moving on. I hate neon colors. I just hate them. I think that they're hideous. Like, there's not much to say about it, right? I just don't like neon colors. I think that 99 out of 100 times neon colors are hideous. And I don't want to look at them. Like clothes, cars, like plants. Like, I'm never going to choose an item that's neon. I'm always going to choose the non neon option. Okay? If I'm buying clothes, I'm almost never going to buy something that's neon. Probably never. I have nothing in my closet right now that's neon. If I'm picking out the color for a car, let's say I wanted to get something weird, right? Like, let's say I was going to go get my car wrapped full LA style, like, get a wrap. I'm never going to choose a neon color, okay? If I'm landscaping my garden, I'm never going to choose flowers that bloom neon. I hate neon. However, there is one occasion when I think neon colors are unmatched, and that is in highlighter pens. Can you imagine if highlighter pens weren't neon? It would just be wrong. It wouldn't highlight. It wouldn't serve a purpose. When it comes to highlighting things on a page, there is nothing better for that than a neon color. I feel, like, my slight affection for neon colors in this application. Okay, in pen form, on paper. My affection for the highlighter pen comes from when I was in high school. And sometimes for tests, we'd be able to make a little note card that had, like, I don't know, let's say it was a math test. We were allowed to write down, like, formulas or notes that would help us on the test, but they had to fit on a tiny little note card, so you only had that space. And I would spend literally hours and hours and hours writing teeny, tiny little notes so that I could fit every single note that I made the entire, you know, semester onto that little, tiny note card. And in order to, like, clarify when a note started and ended or whatever, like, in order to help make the little note card more readable, of course I had to use a highlighter pen. And it absolutely made the little study card 10 times more readable and effective. And I don't know, I just. I loved having highlighters at school. I would go through them very quickly. I loved them. So maybe I don't hate neon colors after all. Next. I have a tendency to hate people who have rejected me. And I know that's normal. Being rejected doesn't feel good. And I think it stings the most. Not because this person is no longer going to be in our lives anymore because they've rejected us, but. But because them rejecting us proves our suspicion about ourselves that we suck. And that sucks. Do you know what I mean? Like, that's. I think, what the worst part about rejection is. And so if you're in a place in your life where you kind of hate yourself and then someone rejects you and confirms that suspicion, it's hard not to hate that person because that's a very negative experience. And so when I'm at a low point and I'm in hater mode, I really hate people who reject me. But you know what? There are some beautiful things that come from being rejected. Number one, sometimes someone rejecting you removes someone from your life that wasn't really supposed to be in your life anyway. You don't want people in your life who don't want to be in your life. So if someone rejects you and then exits your life. They kind of did you a favor in a way. And now you can focus your energy on finding people who do want to be in your life, and that's a positive thing. I also think sometimes rejection can force you to analyze yourself, your shortcomings, and ultimately grow as a result. I think that's beautiful. I think that's beautiful. And, you know, in retrospect, when I look at all the times I've been rejected in one way or another, I have no sort of regrets. Not that it was up to me. Usually we regret our own choices, but in a way, you can sort of regret being rejected because you can regret maybe what you did to get rejected, or you can regret not working harder to prevent getting rejected. I don't feel that at all. There is not one instance in my life where I've been rejected and it hasn't ended up being exactly what was supposed to happen. Like, it always sort of seems meant to be, at least in my experience. Maybe I'm lucky, but, yeah. So I don't need to hate those who have rejected me. Even though, you know, it was a bit maybe of a hit to the ego, I think it all is actually ultimately positive in the end. Next. I hate loud, persistent noises, okay? When I'm cooking in the kitchen and I have to turn the fan on because whatever I'm cooking is, like, creating a lot of smoke or whatever, probably because I'm burning it, probably because I'm not that good of a cook. I'm actually. I'm not that bad, but I'm not that good either. You know the sound of the kitchen fan being on. Wow. Wow. I fucking hate that. When you're on the airplane and it's super loud on the airplane, it's like making that rumbling sound, you know, Loud, persistent noises I absolutely hate. But you know what? When I reflect on all of the times that I have to hear loud, persistent noises, it's always worth it. With the kitchen fan, I enjoy cooking. I really love cooking. And I don't like smoking up my kitchen and breathing in all that, you know, all the cooking fumes. And once I'm done cooking, I can turn it off, you know, it's kind of loud and chaotic for a bit while it's on, but then when it's time to eat, it's off, and the food is delicious and everything is good. And I ultimately was happy to have cooked myself a meal, okay? When I'm on the airplane, it's loud, it's persistent, but it's A privilege and a joy to travel, and I'm always grateful to do that. Which actually leads me to the next thing I hate, which is flying on planes. I totally developed a fear of flying and it has truly caused me to form a hatred for air travel. I hate everything about the experience. I'm so scared. Every little bit of turbulence, every little sound that the plane makes. Everything causes me immense anxiety. And I just fucking hate the experience. I hate the loud, you know, the loud noises. I hate. Ugh. I just, I. There's not really anything I like about it. I don't like watching movies. So, like, you know, a lot of people are like, oh, well, I love flying on a plane because it's the time when I get to catch up on movies. I hate movies. There's nothing about it that I like. The food sucks. Like, there's nothing about it that I like. Even if I was a billionaire, okay, and I could afford to fly on a private jet, I would hate that too. I really hate flying on planes. But also, it is a privilege and a joy to travel. I do absolutely love traveling. I'm kind of not in a phase right now where I'm enjoying traveling. I haven't traveled in a few months. For a while there, I was traveling on like a monthly basis, constantly on a plane. I needed a break psychologically because of my fear of flying and my hatred of flying, but also just, I don't know, like, it's hard on the body. And so I just kind of decided to take the last few months off of traveling. And I'm absolutely loving it. But traveling is ultimately an incredible thing and I'm grateful to be able to do it. I just mentioned that I hate movies, so let's discuss that next. I have always had a really hard time sitting down and watching a movie. I think mainly because there's a lot of risk in it for me. Okay. There's a risk of turning it on and absolutely hating it, but then feeling like, ugh, maybe it'll get better. I should stick it out till the end. And there's a risk that it never gets better. And I just wasted two hours of my life, so there's a risk that I might be wasting my time. I also, like, don't love sitting down and watching something. Like, I'd so much rather during my waking hours, do something active. Like, I'd rather go on a walk, you know, And I already sit a lot in my day to day life. I work sitting. I don't want to sit anymore. So seeing a movie is not appealing to me in that way. I also kind of feel afraid of the movie theater for some reason. There's something about it that really frightens me. I feel like I'm in this room with a bunch of strangers. It's dark. It feels dangerous to me. And I know that that's irrational, but that's another thing I sort of hate about movies, or at least the movie theater specifically. And just in general, I've always preferred nonfiction. I love documentaries. I love YouTube. I love real stuff. That's just always what I've been drawn to. I just kind of hate movies, to be honest. But the funny thing about it is that I don't actually hate movies. I just tend to hate the idea of sitting down for a movie for a few hours. Like, I dread it. I don't want to do it. If I get invited to go see a movie with somebody, I'm like, oh, my God. I need to come up with an excuse. But then when I actually allow myself to experience it, I always like it. But I hate the idea of it. The idea of it, to me, is, like, my nightmare. But it always ends up being great. And I end up seeing movies that I really like. And even if I see a movie that I hate, there's actually joy in that as well. Like, there's something fun about it. In fact, it's fun because I get to hate on it. And we all know that that's something I like to do. I don't know. I always end up actually liking the movie. Like, I always end up liking the experience. Okay, moving on. I hate thong underwear. I absolutely hate a thong. And I wore them for years, so don't tell me, like, emma. Well, you just never got used to it. Like, you get used to it. I got used to it, okay? I wore a thong for many years, and I got sick of it because it's truly uncomfortable, and it's also kind of disgusting. Like, I don't need something up my asshole. I'm good on that, like, in all capacities. I don't ever need something up my ass like, that, ever. It's just not my style, okay? I hate the sensation. But also, I find that, like, thongs are super. They. They do have a tendency to, like, really just, like, ride up and, like, get lodged in there in a way that, to me, it just, like. It's so uncomfortable. And I feel like it's not healthy for your holes to be suffocated by a thong. Whereas, like, other underwears that are maybe a bit. They're not like a thong. So they don't really, like. They don't as easily, like, get sucked up into your holes. Those feel healthier for the holes. I'm the queen of a seamless, like, little boy short underwear because, again, I don't wear thongs anymore. I refuse. Majority of the reason why we wear a thong is because, you know, I mean, I guess maybe some of us wear it because it's, like, hot and we're, like, feeling ourselves, but I think a lot of times it's because there's no underwear lines. Right. I just got to a point where I was like, this is so uncomfortable. I can't do it anymore. I don't even care. I need to figure out something else. What's the alternative? This can't be the only underwear lineless option. You know what? It kind of is. It kind of is. And that is what I will say about a thong. It absolutely serves a purpose. You know, if you don't want underwear lines at all, if you want it to be smooth, smooth, smooth on the butt, you gotta wear a thong. It's the only option I have. Probably the best pair of seamless underwear on the market. I think I've tried so many, and even then sometimes it'll get a little bit bunchy and you'll see the underwear lines. You know, like, it's just. It is what it is, and that's the risk that I take. But I have to put some respect on the thong. It's either a thong or no underwear. That's as close as you're gonna get. And I've done both for multiple years at a time. Yes, I've done. I've done thong and commando. Okay. And I've actually brought that up in another episode recently, the fact that I was a commando gal for a while, and I'm just wondering why I keep bringing it up. No one really needs to know that, but I was. And the truth is that, you know, pants and dresses and skirts and all this, it's so nice when you're wearing a thong, but, my God, it's too uncomfortable for me, and I'm never wearing them again. Moving on. I hate blush. I really don't like blush. I just. When it comes to makeup, it's one of those things that I just never really liked. But more recently, I've grown to dislike it more because it's super trendy. I feel like it's been a huge makeup trend over the last few years to, like, wear a ton of blush. Now, let me be clear. I am not saying I hate blush on other people. I don't give a fuck what makeup other people do. Like it, really, that I don't hate. I. I don't hate it on other people, but I hate it on me. Hate it on me. But I guess that's the positive thing about it, is that I don't hate it on other people. In fact, I think it can look quite beautiful on other people. 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All these things that I'm sort of obsessed with in a toxic way. And to me, you know, these things are, are, can be catastrophic. Like, I have a tendency to, when I'm in a hateful mood, run into some sort of delay, change of plans, minor inconvenience, et cetera, and just fucking lose it. Like that is often the straw that breaks the camel's back. For me, if I were to try to find the silver lining number one, these things are never that big of a deal, okay? I tend to overreact about them. The nature of these things, they're frustrating, maybe they're again, inconvenient, sure, but they're not a catastrophe. Also, sometimes, not to get spiritual, but sometimes these types of things happen to change our course and it ends up being meant to be. You know, sometimes we're just not meant to complete a task when we wanted to. Sometimes we're not meant to go to dinner with our friends that night. We're meant to do something else. Sometimes your tire will go flat because for some reason you weren't supposed to leave for the road trip you were gonna go on that day. Like, sometimes this stuff just happens for a reason. And I think when we welcome minor inconveniences, delays, changes in plans, we're able to find that silver lining. We're able to be like, oh, you know what, maybe this wasn't meant to be today. And I'm actually pretty good about that when I'm in a good state of mind. But when I'm in a hater state of mind, this type of shit really fucking sends me. It sends me. But you know what? It can be a beautiful thing and it can just be meant to be. Moving on. I hate room temperature water, which sounds so fucking bratty Like, I only like water with ice. But can I be honest? I really, really don't like the taste of room temperature water. It makes me nauseous. And I really, really love a crisp, ice cold water. And I really, really don't like drinking water without ice in it. To me it's gross. And to me I hate it. And one of my pet peeves is when I'm at a restaurant and they don't bring me ice with my water. And again, I know I sound like a brat. I sound like a total fucking brat, but that's just how I feel. But you know what I will say if you need to get water down the gullet fast, if you need to drink water fast, if you're dehydrated and you just want it, well, if you're dehydrated, you shouldn't drink water fast. I've done that before and like almost thrown up. But if you want to chug water for some reason, room temperature water, you can guzzle ice water. You have to sip. You do. And it sometimes hurts the teeth. It's hard to guzzle, you know, I mean, it's delicious. In fact, it's like making me crave it. I have my Stanley cup over here. Let me just have a little sip of my water. Ooh, it's absolutely ice cold. I'm actually drinking some sparkling water with some apple cider vinegar in it. It's so sour today. Really put a lot of vinegar in there. I feel like my teeth are just like corroding from every sip that I drink. Cause of how much vinegar is in there. But I couldn't chug that if I tried. I mean, the vinegar and the carbonation doesn't help either. But it's so cold you can really just chug room temperature water. And for that reason I actually think that it's quite beautiful. Okay, next. I'm not trying to be petty here. I'm not trying to pick a fight. I'm not a big fan of Starbucks, okay? I'm not going to say I hate Starbucks, okay? That's a little bit extreme because I don't think I hate Starbucks. I did in the past, but I think more recently I've tried to change my mindset. And I don't hate Starbucks anymore, but I don't love it, right? And I'm somebody who's really into coffee. So, you know, understandably. So I'm, I'm critical of, of these massive coffee chains because I'm like, this is a product that I really love. I guess I'm just extra judgmental. Listen, here's why perhaps I dislike Starbucks, okay? I think the plain coffee, right, like getting, like, a classic latte with almond milk or getting, like, a classic matcha, you know, they're simple drinks. They're classic espresso drinks that don't have a bunch of syrup and don't have a bunch of sugar and don't have a bunch of whipped cream and don't have a bunch of, you know, cookie crumble shavings. It's not great. It's not super high quality. Do I blame them? Not necessarily. They're in mass. Like, they're massive. And when things are that large, like when you scale your business to that size, like, understandably, you know, the quality is just not going to be as good. You know what else I don't like about Starbucks? I don't like the decor, the aesthetic. I really. I don't love it. I feel like Starbucks used to have sort of a charming, like, kind of hipstery, cutesy sort of aesthetic. And it feels very corporate and very, like, kind of beige to me. I don't know. Like. I get it, okay? I get it. Starbucks. Don't. I'm about to say something. I'm about to find something nice to say about you. So don't, like, don't hurt me, okay? Or my coffee company. Luckily for you guys, Starbucks, my coffee company is not a threat to you, okay? I'm not on your coattails, so y'all don't need to worry about me, all right? We have one cafe. We're in grocery stores, but we're not impeding on your shelf space. So we're good. But you know what I fucking love about Starbucks? A few things, actually, I came up with a few things. Number one, the fucking egg white bites. I absolutely love and adore the Starbucks egg white bites, okay? Egg white, red pepper. Yum. I've tried to make them at home. Could never even get close, okay? Want to know why? Because Starbucks does it right, and no one will ever compete. Whoever developed that recipe, I hope that they're fucking retired and living in the Bahamas now, okay? They should never work another day in their life. People who create good things should then retire and live their life in peace, okay? So I really hope whoever developed the recipe for the Starbucks egg white bites, I really hope that you're relaxing, and I hope that you're living in a house in the Bahamas, and I hope that you don't have Internet, and I hope that you're disconnected, and I hope that every Day is a fucking joy for you because, my God, you deserve it because you have done a service, okay? Every time I'm in the middle of nowhere, which happens more than you'd expect, okay, I'm on a road trip. I'm traveling. I'm at the airport, I'm, you know, whatever. I'm in the middle of, like, Los Angeles, and I'm not familiar with the area, and I have no. There's always a Starbucks, and there's always egg white bites. I know that whenever I'm hungry, I can find a fucking Starbucks and get the goddamn egg white bites and be full and have protein. I love the egg white bites, and I love that I can get them whenever I want. They're always there. I get two orders, so that means four egg bites in total. And I get three sriracha packets, and I eat my little egg bites with my little sriracha, and it's just good. It's just good. When it comes to fast food, in a pinch, that's what I'm gonna get. It feels healthy enough. I don't feel like shit after I eat it. It's just. It's great. Thank you, Starbucks. If you need help redesigning all of your cafes, just call me. Like, I know that I also have a coffee company, but for the love of God, you know, I love this stuff, so give me a call. My rate is very expensive, though. I'm just kidding. Okay, moving on. I absolutely hate sitting in an appointment for a long time. There are so many different types of treatments that are popular these days. Hair, nails, eyelashes, eyebrows, waxing, laser, infinite appointments. And there's nothing I hate more than an appointment that is, like, four hours long. And let me tell you, I find myself sitting in some long appointments, okay? Mainly for me personally, my hair and my nails. Those are the two things that I love, having done so much that I'm willing to sit through a really long appointment. But there's nothing I fucking hate more, okay? Sitting in a long appointment. For some reason, I always get gas in a long appointment. I'm, like, sitting still and my stomach always ends up hurting. After, like, hour three, my stomach's just killing me. I, like, need to fart. Can't. Because I'm stuck sitting. And also, there's people around my tailbone and back always hurt during a long appointment. My legs are asleep. I get up. I'm, like, wobbling around. I. I always start to feel sick after sitting in a long appointment for a long time. It's just horrible. Like. Like whenever I Go to get my hair bleached. It takes so long and it's just like exhausting. It's so exhausting, and I absolutely hate it. And same thing with getting nails done. Like, I actually think it's fun to get, like, complex, you know, nails done. There's obviously like standard nail designs. Like just getting like a classic nail done with like, you know, a simple color. Or you can do something more complex. You can get nail art. You could get, like unique shapes. You could get, you know, your nail beds cleaned really well. And that sometimes adds like an hour or two. Like, there's a lot of different things that you can add to your nail appointment that will add time. I would love to do those things. Like, I'd love to, like, you know, maybe get a more sort of complex sort of manicure in some way. I'm not like the biggest nail art girl. I prefer more maybe subtle nail art, but, like, a little bit of it is kind of fun and I think can be timeless and cool and versatile, but it just takes too long. And I don't want to sit at the nail salon, you know, once a month for like four hours getting my nails. It, like, I can't handle it. But the result, the result is so rewarding. Like in the case for me, I absolutely love having my nails done. I absolutely love having, you know, fun hair that I enjoy styling and a lot of times that requires a long hair appointment. Like, again, right now, my hair is bleach blonde and very short. I have to go in once a month to get it re bleached, to get it cut short again. It's a very high maintenance hairstyle, but sometimes that's sort of the sacrifice you have to make, you know, a little bit of torture sitting in a chair for fucking four or five hours for the sake of self expression, for the sake of, you know, self care. And for the rest of the month, when my hair and nails are done, I feel a little bit more beautiful, I feel a little bit more cool. I have a little bit more fun styling clothes because my hair and my nails match the outfit. You know what, in that way, it is worth it. And maybe I'll start getting more complex nails done, but, oh, I don't know, maybe not. Okay, moving on. I hate the talking stage of romantic relationships. You know, the phase when you're overthinking every single little thing that you say to the person. You're nervous every time you hang out with them. You're not really showing your full personality because you're too scared. And you don't even know how. And they're not showing their full personality, and it's a little bit tense, and it's a little bit uncomfortable. Like, you don't really know how to read the other person. So you're constantly, like, worried that maybe you did something wrong or that they, like, don't like you anymore. You don't know if they're taking it seriously. You don't know if they, like, want this to be something that lasts long or short. And it's just a mess. The talking stage. I fucking know. I absolutely hate it. It's miserable for me. I really don't. Like. Like, some people love it. Like, really find it exciting and fun and exhilarating and whatever, you know? Like, the physical chemistry is more explosive because it's new and exciting. I personally don't like it. There's nothing worse than when you've been talking to somebody a little bit and you've not had any, like, physical. You've not been sort of romantic with them yet, and. And you're like, oh, my God, now there's all this buildup. Like, when's it gonna happen? And then you, like, start to get in your head, and you're really nervous about it, and then it happens, and it's either really good and you click really well, or it's like, ooh, that was actually not as great as I wanted it to be. And the whole thing is, like, so high stress, and you can't get anything done in your life because you're focusing on this person. It's, like, all consuming. I hate it. You know, I do always sort of look back at it fondly. Like, in the moment. I despise it. But when I look back, it's always one of the most, like, beautiful, romantic times of a relationship. Like, when I look back at all of my exes, okay, Every single one. The beginning was the most special, and then it got progressively less special. I don't know. Like, when it comes to remembering my exes, the fondest memory I have with every single one is the beginning stage, when it was new and it was exciting. And I think the goal, at least for me, is to eventually be with somebody. Where the fondest memories go beyond that beginning stage. That is sort of magical, but also. Well, but horrible. It's actually horrible in the moment, but it is sort of magical. You know what I'm saying? I don't know. Yeah, that's my goal. My goal is to have good memories with somebody that happen after that phase. Like, I don't want the sort of sweet memories to end. But that is sort of the. The positive silver lining of that uncomfortable time is that for whatever reason, it's a fond memory. Even though in the moment, it's so stressful, it's so overwhelming, it's so all consuming, it's like exhausting. But it is kind of a sweet memory.