Podcast Summary: "Catching Up With Friends with John Benjamin Hickey"

Episode Title: Catching Up With Friends with John Benjamin Hickey... (Compulsive Shower Guy)
Release Date: June 19, 2025
Host: Kristin Davis
Guest: John Benjamin Hickey
Podcast: Are You A Charlotte? by iHeartPodcasts

Introduction

In this engaging episode of "Are You A Charlotte?", host Kristin Davis sits down with acclaimed actor John Benjamin Hickey, known for his memorable role as Thomas John Anderson—the enigmatic Catholic character—in the first season of "Sex and the City." The conversation delves deep into their experiences on the show, exploring behind-the-scenes anecdotes, character dynamics, and the show's enduring legacy.

Early Experiences on "Sex and the City"

Kristin Davis opens the discussion by expressing her excitement at having John on the podcast:

Kristin Davis [04:17]: "You were much desired, John. You're a hot ticket, you guys."

John Benjamin Hickey humorously acknowledges his sought-after status:

John Benjamin Hickey [04:24]: "Yeah, exactly. I would have put probably said end of the second. Maybe even the third season."

They reminisce about the surprising placement of his character in the first season, with Kristin highlighting the strength of his episode:

Kristin Davis [04:35]: "... it was written by Michael Patrick King, which you can completely tell."

Memorable Episodes and Characters

The conversation shifts to memorable moments, particularly focusing on the episode featuring Hickey's character:

John Benjamin Hickey [05:05]: "I remember having to do such a huge sex scene was really nerve-wracking."

He shares candid insights into filming intimate scenes with Cynthia Nixon, praising their mutual trust and chemistry:

John Benjamin Hickey [06:00]: "We had such a great bond... we immediately threw ourselves into it."

Kristin Davis adds her admiration for Cynthia's fearless performances:

Kristin Davis [07:22]: "Cynthia was amazing because she's so free, she's such a great actress and so unintimidated and unintimidating."

Behind the Scenes Insights

John provides a glimpse into the show's early days, discussing interactions with writers and directors:

John Benjamin Hickey [05:36]: "But yeah, I don't remember the director as well. I know, but that's not because he didn't direct a great episode."

They touch upon the writing process, particularly Michael Patrick King's influence on the show:

John Benjamin Hickey [12:35]: "We could do anything. Beware of that."

Casting and Relationships Among Cast

The bond between cast members is a recurring theme. John reflects on his relationship with Sarah Jessica Parker and Cynthia Nixon, emphasizing the importance of comfort on set:

John Benjamin Hickey [28:29]: "But I know Sarah in a way that would have been like, oh, man, I don't want to have to pretend to bang her."

Kristin shares her own experiences with other cast members, highlighting their professional and personal relationships:

Kristin Davis [30:02]: "I had to kiss Matthew in a movie after the show ended..."

Challenges and Success of the Show

The duo discusses the initial challenges of filming an R-rated show on HBO and the uncertainties surrounding its success:

John Benjamin Hickey [41:46]: "Never in a million years."

Kristin opens up about contractual challenges during the pilot phase, revealing the pressures they faced:

Kristin Davis [42:07]: "...they tried to get me to sign a new contract that would revoke my previous contract and make me a series regular for $5,000 an episode."

John commends her decision to stand firm, underscoring the importance of integrity in the industry:

John Benjamin Hickey [43:06]: "Yeah. What it suggests is that you don't have the con like that."

Personal Reflections and Future Thoughts

As the conversation winds down, Kristin and John reflect on the show's impact over the years. They express gratitude for the lasting relationships formed and the show's place in pop culture:

John Benjamin Hickey [54:37]: "Because it's never happened. Because it's never gone away because it's a show about, you know, about the people in New York City and the way they dress..."

Kristin emphasizes the authentic storytelling and the show's ability to resonate across generations:

Kristin Davis [54:38]: "There's no model for us. And that's partly what I love as well."

Conclusion

The episode wraps up with heartfelt acknowledgments of their shared journey and the show's enduring legacy. Both Kristin Davis and John Benjamin Hickey express their appreciation for each other and the fans who continue to support "Sex and the City."

John Benjamin Hickey [58:15]: "A real thrill and an honor to be here to have known you and admired you for so many years now."

Kristin Davis [58:25]: "Love to see you always."

Notable Quotes:

• Kristin Davis [05:05]: "I remember being on top of Cynthia... having orgasm after or fake orgasm after orgasm."

• John Benjamin Hickey [07:12]: "We're both naked. I mean, we all had. We've talked about socks and all that stuff."

• Kristin Davis [12:21]: "Complete Catholic meltdown. Oh, excuse me. I'm so sorry that you think I'm not gonna go to hell for having sex."

• John Benjamin Hickey [41:46]: "Never in a million years."

• Kristin Davis [43:08]: "But what happened to me and what I saw when I looked back at the first season was that inside, I had the anxiety of not being good enough."

• Kristin Davis [54:38]: "There's no model for us. And that's partly what I love as well."

This episode offers a heartfelt and insightful look into the making of "Sex and the City," celebrating the camaraderie and creative synergy that fueled the show's success. Whether you're a long-time fan or new to the series, Kristin Davis and John Benjamin Hickey provide an intimate exploration of the show's legacy and the bonds it forged behind the scenes.