Podcast Summary: Are You A Charlotte? — “I’m Worth a Million...” (S3 E10 "All or Nothing")

Episode Overview
Date: January 15, 2026
In this episode, Kristin Davis (Charlotte York in Sex and the City) revisits one of her favorite episodes from the original series: Season 3, Episode 10, “All or Nothing.” Joined by Sarah Jessica Parker throughout, Davis unpacks the intertwined stories of Carrie, Charlotte, Miranda, and Samantha, exploring infidelity, friendship, money, and modern womanhood. The recap is infused with behind-the-scenes tidbits, cultural insights, personal reflections, and the humor and warmth fans expect from “Are You A Charlotte?”

Main Discussion Points and Insights

1. Carrie’s Cheating & The Guilt (01:02–05:00, 18:12–20:00, 32:45–36:33)

• Carrie struggles with guilt after her affair with Big; her attempts to carry on normally with Aiden are punctuated by intense flashbacks and regret.

  • “She’s really, really good when she has these [guilt moments] because, I mean, we've all been there, and she’s internally riddled with guilt and trying to somehow muddle her way through.” — Sarah Jessica Parker (01:21)

• Carrie’s first confession is to Samantha, hoping for a nonjudgmental ear:

  • “Go ahead, judge me just a little bit.” — Carrie (as recounted by Kristin Davis, 05:00)
  • “Not my style.” — Samantha (as recounted by Kristin Davis, 05:15)
  • Davis reflects: “It’s so great to have a friend who’s not going to judge you... Carrie’s being hard enough on herself.”

• Dr. Orna (discussed in a companion episode) weighs in:

  • “Carrie feeling guilty is a sign of being healthily integrated in your mind to your actions. ...If she was really a full, full, full narcissist, she would probably not even feel guilty.”— Kristin Davis summarizing Dr. Orna (05:41)

• After cheating again with Big (22:30), Carrie returns to Aiden and tries to cover up her guilt. The episode highlights the emotional complexity and underlying pain of infidelity.

Key Quotes

• “This is just, like, the height of Carrie’s really intense drama, but also the height of Sarah Jessica’s, like, incredible acting. ...Just can’t even hardly think straight because you feel so guilty.” — Kristin Davis (20:00)

• “She gets away with it, but not for long, as we all know.”— Kristin Davis on Carrie hiding smoking & the affair (35:35)

2. Samantha’s Sickness and Loneliness (02:57–04:30, 12:50–14:55)

• Samantha wakes up sick and physically alone in her glamorous new apartment after a night of revelry.

  • Kristin Davis empathizes: “It breaks my heart. ...It’s tough being a single gal and having stuff break around your house.” (04:03)

• Samantha attempts to call multiple casual partners for help but is met with refusal. Eventually, Carrie comes to care for her and makes her a concoction of cold medicine and orange soda.

  • Memorable exchange: “Give me my drink.” — Samantha, sick and bossy (05:00)

• In a feverish state, Samantha shockingly laments her single status, suggesting she “should have gotten married” for the practical benefits.

  • “We are all alone, Carrie.” — Samantha (14:00)
  • “No we’re not. We have each other.” — Carrie (14:09)

• The episode uses humor and pathos to underscore the challenges and hidden loneliness of single life.

3. Charlotte’s Engagement, the Prenup, and “I’m Worth a Million” (08:54–12:50)

• Charlotte and Trey’s engagement is marred by the revelation of a prenup, shockingly detailed:

  • “If Charlotte were to have a boy child, she gets $100,000 free and clear. ...What does she get for a girl?... Nada.”
    — Miranda reading the prenup (09:43–10:30)

  • Davis is stunned on re-watching: “It does seem really fully 100% insane that somehow he would give me $100,000 if I had a boy baby, but nothing if I had a girl baby. What the heck, man?” (10:53)

• The infamous negotiation scene with Trey’s mother (Bunny) looms large for Davis:

  • “I have to try to negotiate with Bunny...and I have to say to her, ‘I’m worth a million,’ which lives on...the Internet, which is, of course, a joy. But at the time, so scared, you guys...” (11:25)

• Davis reflects on the scene’s rarity: “I don’t feel like we see stuff like that very, very often. ...It is, of course, showing us a lot about that family...” (11:53)

4. Miranda’s Phone Sex Fiasco (18:12–20:00)

• Miranda starts a flirtation and ultimately phone sex with George, a Chicago-based colleague.

  • The phone sex scenes are described as a little clichéd, but Davis notes this was unusual TV at the time: “In the year 2000, we have probably not seen characters on television show having phone sex, right?” (19:35)

• George is caught multitasking phone sex—Miranda realizes he’s having similar calls with others.

  • Miranda: “No, you were kissing my breast.”— Miranda (recounted by Davis, 19:47)
  • George: “No, no, I was thrusting.”
  • Miranda: “No, no, you weren’t. We hadn’t gotten to that.”
  • Davis: “That’s the end of George. We don’t get to see cute Josh Hamilton again, which is kind of sad.” (19:55)

• A fascinating BTS note: To keep phone scenes authentic, actors would often be on set for each other’s takes, even off camera.

5. The Tension-Filled Finale — Pete and the Complete Lie (32:45–36:33)

• Carrie and the runaway dog, Pete: When Carrie sneaks out to see Big, Pete runs away, triggering a frantic, rain-soaked search.

  • Davis, anxious even in recollection: “The anxiety I have watching this scene, I cannot live through it because I couldn’t remember what happened to Pete. ...Oh my God, I was dying.” (34:10)

• Pete safely returns, but Aiden confronts Carrie about her secret—thinking it’s her smoking, not her infidelity.

  • “So he says, ‘You’ve been smoking, haven’t you?’ And she’s like, ‘Uh huh.’ And the voiceover says something like it was true and it was true. Of course it’s not the whole truth, but it was in fact true.” (35:28)

6. “Can We Have It All?”: Closing Reflection on Modern Womanhood (36:33–38:07)

• Kristin Davis reads Carrie’s iconic column opening:

  • “Since birth, modern women have been told that they can do and be anything we want... But is it possible that we've gotten so spoiled by choices that we become unable to make one?” — Sarah Jessica Parker as Carrie (36:35–36:59)

• Davis’s own take: “No, we can’t have it all. But... we can have it all just at different times... I think it’s hard to focus on everything at once because there’s only so much time and energy and something’s going to suffer.” (37:01–37:38)

Notable Quotes & Moments with Timestamps

• “It’s tough being a single gal and having stuff break around your house.” — Kristin Davis (04:03)
• “Go ahead, judge me just a little bit.” — Carrie, to Samantha (05:00)
• “Not my style.” — Samantha, to Carrie (05:15)
• “It does seem really fully 100% insane that somehow he would give me $100,000 if I had a boy baby, but nothing if I had a girl baby. What the heck, man?” — Kristin Davis (10:53)
• “I have to say to her, ‘I’m worth a million’... at the time, so scared, you guys, to do that scene.” — Kristin Davis (11:25)
• “The anxiety I have watching this scene, I cannot live through it...Oh my God, I was dying.” — Kristin Davis on Pete the runaway dog (34:10)
• “Since birth, modern women have been told that they can do and be anything we want... But is it possible that we’ve gotten so spoiled by choices that we become unable to make one?” — Sarah Jessica Parker as Carrie (36:35)
• “No, we can’t have it all. But... we can have it all just at different times.” — Kristin Davis (37:01)

Episode Flow & Segment Guide

• [01:02–05:00] — Sarah Jessica Parker & Kristin Davis deep dive into the episode’s setup and Carrie’s guilty conscience
• [02:57–05:15] — Samantha’s party and first signs of loneliness
• [08:54–12:50] — Charlotte’s Bergdorf shopping, the prenup reveal, and negotiation anxiety
• [18:12–20:00] — Miranda’s romantic subplot and the phone sex revelation
• [32:45–36:33] — Climax of episode: Pete runs away; Aiden confronts Carrie
• [36:33–38:07] — Carrie’s existential question about “having it all” and Davis’s wisdom

Final Thoughts

With warmth, playful honesty, and genuine surprise at the show’s sharpness in retrospect, Kristin Davis and Sarah Jessica Parker deliver a thoroughly engaging breakdown of “All or Nothing.” Through laughter, behind-the-scenes anecdotes, and social commentary, the episode explores the enduring challenges of love, identity, and friendship for modern women—on screen and off.

“It’s a really good episode. I hope you guys enjoy it. Let me know your thoughts on Instagram if you want to.” — Kristin Davis (38:06)