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Dax Shepard
Welcome, welcome. Welcome to Armchair Expert. I'm Dax Shepard. I'm joined by Lily Padman. We have a very gorgeous man today.
Lily Padman
Oh, he is attractive.
Dax Shepard
Makes my eyes feel good.
Lily Padman
You think you had your sty during this and maybe he healed your sty.
Dax Shepard
I think he did. I'm gonna give him that credit. Chase Crawford. Chase Crawford is an actor. Gossip Girl. The boys. The boys. I love the boys. The Covenant Inheritance. This pains me to say out loud, but it is the final season of the Boys new episodes Wednesdays on Prime Video. One of the greatest shows ever made.
Lily Padman
Pretty much the coolest people I know watch the Boys.
Dax Shepard
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Chace Crawford
The perfect setup to transition to the garage, huh?
Dax Shepard
Yeah, so we did record upstairs when we were audio only. Directly above us there's a little attic.
Chace Crawford
Everything's video though now too, isn't it?
Dax Shepard
It's awesome. We hated the idea, but they forced us as part of our new wondery deal.
Chace Crawford
Well, it's probably the smartest thing. I mean, these are the talk shows, you know, it's just like the real deal.
Dax Shepard
Hi, Mike.
Chace Crawford
How are you? So you work with Caroline?
Lily Padman
Hi.
Chace Crawford
Are you. Yeah, she told me to tell you hi. She's the best. Yeah.
Lily Padman
You're having my favorite person.
Dax Shepard
Oh, my God. I got that call too. Who's Caroline?
Chace Crawford
Do you know Caroline in the city? Dijon stylist. Stylist.
Lily Padman
Stylist to the stars. Incredible lady.
Chace Crawford
And she's just like the coolest person she is in general.
Lily Padman
She says you guys hang out after hours. And I invited myself.
Chace Crawford
You should come. We'll go to like, escuela taqueria on like a Friday.
Lily Padman
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
Margarita Escuela taqueria.
Chace Crawford
You never been to Escuela? No, it's great. Well, it used to be kind of the secret. No one knew the tacos in la. They do like the fried OG hard shell tacos.
Dax Shepard
That's my jam is hard shell.
Chace Crawford
Yeah, me too. And it's awesome.
Dax Shepard
Have you ever tried Baja California in that dumpy fucking shitty little.
Chace Crawford
Oh, I know what that is.
Dax Shepard
Right next to Subway at Franklin and Hillhurst.
Chace Crawford
Okay, I have.
Dax Shepard
Not the best hard shell taco I've ever had.
Chace Crawford
Okay, that's a big claim.
Lily Padman
That is a really big claim.
Chace Crawford
That's 100%. I might go after this to try it.
Dax Shepard
I'll give you testimony. Do you know Ryan Hansen, that actor?
Chace Crawford
Yeah, I do, actually.
Dax Shepard
Okay, great. So Ryan and his wife were over last week to watch the Peaky Blinders movie.
Chace Crawford
Oh, amazing.
Dax Shepard
And I went up there And I got six hard shell tacos for all of us. So 24 hard shell tacos.
Lily Padman
Oh, my gosh.
Dax Shepard
And Ryan and Amy were like, this is bonkers. What's going on?
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
And Chase, they all were eating, and the whole time we were watching Peaky Blinders, many of us were going, fuck, I'd go for more of those tacos. Like, I don't know how many it would take to get my fill of those.
Chace Crawford
They're addicting.
Dax Shepard
I pray you try. And then the next time I run into you, you go, my God, you're right.
Chace Crawford
I'm 100% gonna try.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. After this, let grab some.
Chace Crawford
Dude, I'm down. Yeah, Maru. And go get a tiger.
Dax Shepard
Okay, so back to your things. All right. Hijack with my heart.
Lily Padman
We just have a really lovely friend in common.
Dax Shepard
So, similarly, I got a text last night from Jamie Feld.
Chace Crawford
Oh, you know Jamie?
Dax Shepard
Yes. I know she's not my agent or anything, but I'm friends with her and Zers.
Chace Crawford
Amazing dude, yes. Kevin's great.
Dax Shepard
And she texted me and said, you're talking to my favorite person.
Chace Crawford
Jamie is the best. I've been with her for like 20 years. She was kind of with Q Vane and then obviously now she's the head of everything over there. Yeah, yeah, she's awesome.
Dax Shepard
But that's pretty incredible. I don't know if I've ever arrived. Well, I know I've never arrived anywhere. And two different people had gave testimonials about. That's good, makes you feel good.
Chace Crawford
I got a text from her, I'm like, yes, Jamie's texting, but Kev's great. I've known Kevin for years.
Dax Shepard
Yeah, you guys did a movie together.
Chace Crawford
He was on Gossip Girl years and years ago, like in 20. I don't even know when.
Lily Padman
Oh yeah, he was like, bad guy.
Dax Shepard
Is he a bad.
Chace Crawford
He's on there for like a fall, I guess, like six or eight months. You know, back when shows were like 26.
Lily Padman
I know you guys did so much
Chace Crawford
and he's so good looking.
Dax Shepard
Was he playing a boy toy?
Chace Crawford
Yeah, yeah, he was a suave. We were almost right in that same pocket, like head to head.
Dax Shepard
So did you guys go out on the town at all?
Chace Crawford
We did, actually.
Dax Shepard
That's back when he really would.
Chace Crawford
Honestly, I don't know if we're recording or not.
Dax Shepard
Yeah, we always aren't recording.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Lily Padman
Cut out anything.
Dax Shepard
Oh, no, no, no. We are super best friends.
Chace Crawford
Okay, so I'll be the judge. So I know his story.
Dax Shepard
He's very honestly sober.
Chace Crawford
I mean, he's very open about being open. Yeah, so I didn't know that. And I was decidedly not during those years. And we would go out and we were friends already, always got along, but we'd go out. Don't want to, you know, blow it up too much. But we'd go out of the town in New York. I mean we had east of the city. And I knew he didn't know anyone else in the cast and I was always looking for a running mate. Yeah, exactly like a homeboy. I knew from LA though too. Actor. And so we went out and yeah, I think that was the last run that he had. Uh huh.
Dax Shepard
Did he pee his pants at any point?
Chace Crawford
Not that I know. Not that I know of. But I will say we had an absolute blast.
Dax Shepard
As you should, I think as many of us feel in this fellowship of sobriety. No regrets. Super glad I had all those blowout nights. I mean, I wouldn't have wanted to be on planet Earth on my one trip and not do what I did.
Lily Padman
Well, because you made it out alive, man.
Dax Shepard
Not alive, but, man, a lot of fun was had until it got dark. I mean, there's good fun to be had out there. New York's a dangerous city.
Chace Crawford
Dangerous thing. New York City, man. It got dark for me, too. It got to be a little too much. You know, it's like that thing where it's New York.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. What do you diagnose? The problem is because for me, it's a very specific thing. Why is it dangerous in New York now?
Chace Crawford
I have that romanticized relationship with the city. Like, when I go back, that feeling, that buzz. I don't know if I'd be able to live there again and function. Because you're out. If the weather's nice, there's always people on the patio. There's always something going on. There's always, like, an event really. Never shuts down.
Dax Shepard
Yeah.
Lily Padman
And no cars.
Chace Crawford
And no cars.
Lily Padman
No cars. Makes a huge difference.
Chace Crawford
You're just walking around.
Dax Shepard
Let's grab a wine.
Chace Crawford
It's a Tuesday.
Lily Padman
It's not irresponsible because you're not driving and hurting anyone.
Chace Crawford
I will say everyone wants to visit you. So it's like there's always someone you're showing town there or a reason to go out. I'm more reclusive now. I like to just be a homebody and get groceries in the car. New York's not really conducive to that.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. You have a dog, right?
Chace Crawford
Dog. The whole thing.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. I was spared by having never worked there while I was an addict, but I would go there to promote. Yeah. My issue is, like, the bar doesn't shut down to four.
Chace Crawford
Yeah. That's enough. I mean, forget it.
Dax Shepard
An after party is standard. Every night of the week, someone's hosting an after party.
Chace Crawford
If you're out from 1am if you're going to stay up till 2, it's not closing. You know, you're most likely going to keep it going.
Lily Padman
But Gossip Girl, we just had Jenny Garth on from nine zero two zero. Original.
Chace Crawford
I saw that.
Dax Shepard
Yeah.
Chace Crawford
Amazing.
Lily Padman
And Gossip Girl was kind of the My Gens. 90210. So I cannot imagine being in New York and, like, seeing you guys out there, everyone freaking out. You guys were all smart.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. My God, if you had given me my first dose of fame in New York City at 22, you were 22
Lily Padman
years old on the hottest show, and
Dax Shepard
I'm making thousands a week. I mean, forget it. We're not sure I'd be here.
Lily Padman
You Wouldn't.
Dax Shepard
Yeah.
Chace Crawford
Looking back on it, it affects everyone' differently. Those first two years of fame, most people turn into an asshole in some way or they just get paranoid and reclusive.
Dax Shepard
You went the paranoid route. I read the Interview magazine interview with you and Magnus.
Chace Crawford
Oh, nice.
Dax Shepard
Thank you.
Chace Crawford
Love, Magnus.
Dax Shepard
Yeah.
Chace Crawford
That was a good interview.
Dax Shepard
Yeah, it was a sweet, sweet interview. Okay, but you were born in Lubbock. You moved to Minnesota for four years.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
And then mom was a teacher. What kind of teacher?
Chace Crawford
She kind of taught everything. She got a master's in education, but she was mainly English, but she would, like, substitute us in kindergarten and throughout high school, actually. And she was kind of like the cool substitute teacher, like everyone.
Dax Shepard
Hold on, hold on, hold on.
Chace Crawford
Crawford. No, no, no, no, no, no, no.
Dax Shepard
First of all, there's no such thing as a cool substitute teacher, so you're already lying.
Chace Crawford
She would bring candy. That's what she deprived everyone. Candy.
Dax Shepard
Your mom's hot, though. I saw a picture of her. She is. Your mom's super hot, right?
Chace Crawford
She had. You did it all the time in high school, man.
Dax Shepard
I Learned she was 20 when she. Or 21 when she had you.
Chace Crawford
Exactly. They had me young. Yeah, she was like, 20.
Lily Padman
20.
Dax Shepard
And dad's a dermatolog.
Lily Padman
Gorgeous.
Dax Shepard
It's glowing, too.
Chace Crawford
Yeah. I got, like, these genetics.
Dax Shepard
You're not doing terrible on the skin, right?
Lily Padman
Yeah.
Chace Crawford
My dad, he doesn't give me any tips. It's just all genetics.
Dax Shepard
Before we proceed, I don't know why I didn't detect this when watching the boys, which I'm an enormous fan of.
Chace Crawford
Love it.
Dax Shepard
Your voice is incredible.
Chace Crawford
No, thank you.
Dax Shepard
If you always connected, I mean, you could definitely. It would be a downgrade, but you could be on the radio or have a podcast. It's such a soothing. It's got good timber.
Chace Crawford
Thank you. I went to college to do broadcast journalism, or to maybe do, because people to say, like, oh, you got a great voice. You should get into, like, tv. And I really fast learned that I was not good at that. Like, you didn't want to do broadcast journalism in sports? Even though I love sports, but thank you.
Dax Shepard
Ironic, though, because. Candace, is that your sister?
Chace Crawford
She is.
Dax Shepard
She's a sports journalist.
Chace Crawford
Yeah. That's how she met her husband.
Dax Shepard
Okay, so back to. How old were you when you left Lubbock and went to Minnesota?
Chace Crawford
We were in Lubbock for, like, a year. And then my dad's side of the family is from Oklahoma, so Oklahoma City for, like, four years, where he did med school at ou. So Boomer Sooner. We're all Oklahoma Sooner fans. This is college. And his family was there. We moved to Minnesota. I was about 5 to 10 years old. So he did a residency program. They were young, like 21, 22. I can't imagine having, like, two kids and not a lot of money before he became a doctor and trying to get through med school and then going up to Minnesota. So those were some of the best times.
Dax Shepard
You must have a little bit of mixed culture between Southern and Minnesota, because those are pretty formative years. What was the vibe in elementary in Minnesota?
Chace Crawford
I remember getting to Minnesota and being in school and having, like, a small identity crisis because I felt like I'm a Texas kid, and that's all you know.
Dax Shepard
Did you have cowboy boots?
Chace Crawford
And I was a cowbo football fan, yeah. When I was young. Yeah. Oklahoma. Little cowboy boots and the hats, the whole thing.
Dax Shepard
Every little boy in Texas I see has got cowboy boots.
Chace Crawford
Right. And you just identify with that, even Oklahoma. And I remember being in Minnesota and being like, what do I say? Who do I say? I am from Minnesota. Is it Oklahoma? Am I from the South? I definitely had a little twang growing up, and then I sort of started to have the Minnesota accent.
Dax Shepard
Sure.
Chace Crawford
My grandparents did not like that, you know, saying like soda pop. It kind of melded the accent. When I got back to Dallas after
Dax Shepard
that, what kind of boy were you? You seem like you would have gotten along with everyone.
Chace Crawford
Yeah, I'm a bit of a people pleaser after doing a lot of therapy. Yeah. That's, like, my thing.
Dax Shepard
Boundaries are hard for you. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Chace Crawford
And that was kind of part of it. Having to move to Oklahoma and then Minnesota and back and always make, like, a new group of friends was sort of how I learned to survive.
Dax Shepard
So you get to Plano for what, junior high or middle school?
Chace Crawford
Middle school, yeah. Fifth grade.
Dax Shepard
And how did that go, that transition now from Minnesota to Plano?
Chace Crawford
I remember that as, like, a weird time. I had two best friends in Minnesota. Like, the bikes in the summer, the whole thing. Like, great Lake life in friends. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And lake life in Texas. That's really all there was. That's what we did, but that was it. With those two friends and losing them, that was the first kind of real loss. And I remember being depressed when I was 10, moving back to Plano, to Dallas, and then having this daunting task of meeting new people and creating new relationships again.
Dax Shepard
And now you're a Vikings fan.
Chace Crawford
We did that Metrodome back in there. Yeah. It's not there anymore.
Lily Padman
More. Is your sister younger or older?
Chace Crawford
She is younger by 17 months. So we're pretty. Pretty close in age.
Lily Padman
Okay. Irish twins.
Dax Shepard
And this may shock you, but she's also shockingly attractive.
Lily Padman
So the whole family. The whole families are just.
Dax Shepard
She was Miss.
Chace Crawford
I'm gonna butcher it. She was Miss Texas, I think. Or Miss.
Dax Shepard
I'm consult. I hate consulting it, but I.
Chace Crawford
She's way older than me in maturity level, so.
Dax Shepard
Missouri.
Chace Crawford
Miss. Miss Missouri.
Dax Shepard
What am I talking about?
Chace Crawford
She went to school at Mizzou.
Dax Shepard
She was Miss Missouri and a contestant in Miss America.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Lily Padman
Now, did you grow up with everyone doing what we just did, which is. Oh my God, your family is so beautiful and so perfect.
Chace Crawford
It was more like, your mom's hot.
Lily Padman
Okay.
Dax Shepard
And your dad's handsome.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
Although your buddies probably weren't commented on handsome. Fuck, man, your dad is handsome. Yeah. I would have appreciated his skin and stature. Okay, back to mom being a cool substitute. Boy, these substitutes, God bless them, man, they come in and you meet, you're like, oh, great, we get to fuck off today and be assholes completely. That's the first thing you think?
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
If my mom walked in the classroom, I'd be like, guys, we're not allowed to do the thing where we're assholes.
Lily Padman
Be nice to my mom.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
I would have felt embarrassed. And then B, I would have felt protective. This had to be tough.
Chace Crawford
She would just let everyone screw off. That's why. That's why it was good. She would just be a fun day. She knew how to get everyone around to doing what they were supposed to do. But it was started off with games and candy and everyone loved Mrs. Crawford. Yeah, she was like the cool mom as well.
Dax Shepard
So you weren't embarrassed that mom was there? Cause that doesn't really matter how cool mom is. She's just kind of embarrassing, right? When you're a little girl.
Lily Padman
Well, not if you have Ms. Crawford, I guess.
Chace Crawford
Ms. Crawford was great. Fast forward to high school a little bit. But she would, let's have the party at our house. She wasn't like the removed, like, do whatever you want, but she kind of wanted over at the house and that was fun and people liked it. And she was the cool mom.
Dax Shepard
Were you overly protective of little sister or did you stay out of her. Her business? Were you monitoring what was going on?
Chace Crawford
No, I mean, my. My sister was more like embarrassed of me. I think me and my sister were so different by high school. She was on honor council. She was like a straight A student. She Was president of the Whatever. And I was starting to cut up a little bit. I was a very good student. I did very well in school until about middle of high school, and I just collapsed.
Dax Shepard
I had the same trajectory.
Chace Crawford
Yeah, it was a weird thing. I think it was an early rejection from a girl, like in like, eighth grade, maybe freshman year, like 13, like the worst time. It's all hilarious in hindsight, but you feel. And then I was doing school. It was a rigorous school, and I was getting really good grades.
Dax Shepard
Trinity something.
Chace Crawford
Trinity Christian Academy. Yeah. It was kind of a strict school, like, small private school. I was just kind of doing everything to please my parents in a way that just ran out. I just couldn't do that anymore. I just wanted to have fun.
Dax Shepard
Do you play any sports?
Chace Crawford
I played golf and football.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. I got to a point I was on this math trajectory. I had been on the math team in junior high, and then I started the whole pre calc thing. And I just had this moment where I was like, well, I'm not ever gonna be a physicist or an engineer. There's no application for this in my life. Why on earth am I learning this? And then, unfortunately, I just started applying that to nearly every subject. I'm like, I'm not gonna be a history teacher.
Chace Crawford
Right.
Dax Shepard
I was like, I'm gonna live in my car like Jack Kerouac.
Chace Crawford
Yeah. Yeah.
Dax Shepard
I don't really need any of this. What am I doing? Did you have a game plan of what you thought you were gonna do?
Chace Crawford
It was all to get into a good school. All this nervous energy, just trying to get into a good college. Everyone was just really stressed about getting into good school. Otherwise, your life was a failure, you know? So it was kind of like that hamster whee. That, like, you never thought about what's feasible in life to go do, like you said, calculus. You know, I'm not going to be an engineer or computer scientist.
Dax Shepard
That mindset, it's like, if you don't get into a good school, you're going to jail. It's like, those are the two trajectories in life.
Chace Crawford
The stakes were so crazy.
Lily Padman
Yeah, you don't have a complete frontal lobe. So literally, you probably can't think about completely what you're going to be doing in 10 years. So this, like, oh, the next rung is college, and it better be a good one, because I'm supposed to go to a good one. And then you burn out.
Chace Crawford
It was definite burnout.
Dax Shepard
Why do you think you choose Pepperdine
Chace Crawford
to get out of Texas it was either SMU or Texas. There was a few other schools in there, but SMU is Southern Methodist. 20 minutes from my house, you know, I was like, I don't want to be 20 minutes from mom and dad.
Dax Shepard
Your mom might sub one of these classes in college.
Chace Crawford
Should be terrible. I would never hear the end of it after that.
Lily Padman
You were like, they're not supposed to be candy in college.
Chace Crawford
Like, where's the beer?
Dax Shepard
But you don't think there's any back of your subconscious that was like, we belong in California.
Chace Crawford
I was drawn to it. I forget what trip I took out here. At a deep, weird level. It just felt like I've always been attracted to getting out of the bubble and meeting new people in different walks of life in different stages. Which is one of my favorite things about acting is you always are meeting kind of like weird, interesting people, even if you don't get along. Yeah.
Dax Shepard
Who have left their hometown.
Chace Crawford
Yeah, exactly. I always thought I would go back to Texas or I assumed and I just wanted to. If I could get into Pepperdine, I would get out of Texas for four years. That was it.
Dax Shepard
Okay, so you only did a few semesters there, right?
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
And for people who've never seen Pepperdine, it's almost impossible. You're on the PCH and you're in the highest valued real estate in the world. And you look to your right and there are 12 flat acres of grass. Oh, it's not flat, but it's on a hill. But just beautiful grass in this picturesque college. And you think, who could go here
Lily Padman
on the way to Malibu?
Dax Shepard
In Malibu, right? Oh, yeah. Yeah.
Chace Crawford
You put a golf course on the land. I don't know what they. They bought it in the 70s for. Probably a steal. It's a small school relative. It's tough to make it to class. Yeah.
Dax Shepard
So what happens when you land there and, like, the ocean's across the street?
Chace Crawford
You go to the beach every day. I met some really great friends in college. Three dudes from Texas, from Austin, and somewhere else randomly. But we got along. And then that was the whole realization for me. You can grow and kind of grow out of what you were to people from like, fifth grade to high school.
Lily Padman
New identity time.
Chace Crawford
Yeah, it was kind of like a validating thing. I can go make new friends in this new big school and be in that next stage of life. And I got there and I'm like, oh, shit. I don't know what I want to do again. I don't know what I want to do. Long term with My life, it's occurring to you.
Dax Shepard
You don't want to be a journalist. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Chace Crawford
I was taking a communications course. I like. I don't. I love it. It's great. But I'm not gonna be.
Dax Shepard
So how do we decide we're gonna drop out and pursue acting?
Chace Crawford
I was really naive. It was the one time in my life my parents were kind of like, hey, you graduated high school a little bit early. Just take a year off. And I was like, really? Is that on the table? Which was a nice thing. And so I took a year off. I was like, valing cars out there in Malibu at Joffrey's I've ever been to. Jo.
Dax Shepard
Very short valet. Right.
Chace Crawford
It's like I lied. I said I could drive stick. Did not know how to drive stick.
Dax Shepard
Burnt up some clutches.
Chace Crawford
Oh, totally. There's fire coming through.
Dax Shepard
You've had one of the jobs. It's shocking to me. I never had. I can't believe I was never a valet. I'm obsessed with cars and I love driving cars and I love tips.
Chace Crawford
The tip thing was real. It's like a high.
Lily Padman
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
And you get to woo a new person every five minutes. You get to, like, be charming every five minutes to a stranger.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
Did you love it? Was it as good as I fantasize about?
Chace Crawford
I loved it, actually. It was a weird little fraternity. There were like eight dudes. There was a hierarchy. Some guy was like 45 and total Venice. Like, long hair stoner with like, dog in the truck. And he was kind like the head guy. And then it was a tough job
Dax Shepard
to get, I guess.
Chace Crawford
I got like the low rung and I was like the runner. I was running across pch like Frogger. You would have to floor the cars down pch and they're ripping. You turn, rip it back up, park on the opposite side and then run back and forth and you're straddling the me. It was awesome. I loved it, though.
Dax Shepard
Great.
Chace Crawford
But it was insane.
Dax Shepard
Again, more geography lessons. GCH is the most dangerous road in California. It has the most deaths per square mile. It's a circus.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
People are doing U turns to go to the beach. I mean, it's a mess.
Chace Crawford
Yeah, it was bad.
Lily Padman
How many accidents do we think happen hourly? No. No valets.
Dax Shepard
Oh, I think they're pretty good, man.
Chace Crawford
I had an accident.
Dax Shepard
Yeah, you did. Oh, you did.
Chace Crawford
Well, I did. So. So I didn't actually. It wasn't like a full wreck, but it was always such a rush. You would leave cars and pull them Out. Leave them. Well, I just jumped out of one one time and left the open and. And it was in neutral and I heard it before I saw it. And it slowly rolled back, cut speed and the door, Tommy boy style, hyper extended. I was like, oh, like slow motion.
Dax Shepard
Like, you know, what did you do?
Chace Crawford
What did you do? I just closed it and like, let the guy figure it out.
Lily Padman
I know. You just gotta pretend like nothing.
Dax Shepard
Do you remember what kind of car it was?
Chace Crawford
My saving grace was like, I hopped back in. I'm like, yes, it's a rental car.
Dax Shepard
Oh, what a blessing.
Chace Crawford
It was a blessing because, you know, all these things have their own insur or whatever. So I went right away, told the main real guy that ran the restaurant,
Dax Shepard
told him to put his joint down for a second, I guess. I guess harsh your high right now,
Chace Crawford
like, you idiot, go home. We'll deal with this later. But you're lucky it's a rental car.
Dax Shepard
Do you remember were you stoked when rad cars pulled up? Did you care?
Chace Crawford
Yeah. I remember being very nervous when it was like a Ferrari and John's like, get that one. You know? And it was like a paddle shifter. I had no idea. I was like, I don't know how to do it. I kind of learned, but it was bad.
Lily Padman
That's not the place.
Dax Shepard
It wasn't easy on the car was
Chace Crawford
the place to practice. But I remember, like, Orlando Bl Loom coming in and, like, tipping me money. And I was like, good tip. And Kate Bosworth. I'm like, oh, this is awesome.
Dax Shepard
Yes. What an exciting LA job.
Chace Crawford
It was. It was.
Dax Shepard
What other celebrities you see. That's great.
Chace Crawford
Oh, God, who else? I remember, and I think I've told him this. When I saw. I'm like, dude, you know, you gave me a nice tip one time. Thank you. But I remember, like, Suge Knight coming through. Which was weird because he had like, punched the valet. So I wasn't scared of him.
Dax Shepard
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Chace Crawford
Random people. It was like Tommy Lee and Malibu locals out there.
Dax Shepard
Who's the old hell, Julie? What was that actor from 48 Hours?
Lily Padman
Nick? No, Nick.
Chace Crawford
No.
Dax Shepard
Did you ever see Nick?
Chace Crawford
No. I did see Nick Nolte.
Dax Shepard
Yes. He's a staple in Malibu.
Chace Crawford
Yeah, he is.
Dax Shepard
Do you ever see Robert Downey Jr.
Chace Crawford
Never saw Downey Jr. No, no, no.
Dax Shepard
Keep him coming.
Chace Crawford
We see him. Johnny Carson.
Dax Shepard
No. He's unmatched.
Lily Padman
Are you religious? Because Pepperdine's religious. You went to a Catholic school?
Chace Crawford
It was Baptist, but yeah. So my mom's dad was a pastor A Nazarene pastor, I want to say, and lived in Texas. Grew up religious.
Lily Padman
Okay. Yeah.
Chace Crawford
Didn't quite realize how strict Pepperdine was, actually.
Lily Padman
It's very. Isn't it?
Chace Crawford
I don't want to butcher. I think it's Church of Christ, which is very, like, no instruments and no bull worship and. Yeah, exactly. No fun. No fun. No.
Dax Shepard
That's where Jedi went, right? To law school.
Lily Padman
Yeah, he did.
Chace Crawford
If you had a girl in your room or vice versa, past, like, 11 or 11:30pm Something really kind of weird, they give you, like, a demerit, and there's like, three demerits. Whatever. I don't know what happens, but the mag light would come through, and I'd be caught. Not in a copper. It was like, you're literally talk.
Dax Shepard
Yeah.
Lily Padman
In college. This isn't high school, so I do
Chace Crawford
remember that I quickly realized there was, like, small little fraternities that were just basically friend groups to actually be able to have fun off campus.
Dax Shepard
I didn't know it was that direct.
Chace Crawford
Yeah, I didn't either till I showed up.
Dax Shepard
Okay. Was it great money, too? I'm sorry. We're going to move off of valeting soon, but I'm so envious of this role. In fact, that's another job I could do in retirement. Other than 7 11.
Lily Padman
That's better than 7 11.
Chace Crawford
It was. I remember feeling so lucky to have the job because a buddy in college, a good friend, was older and he. He had the job, but he couldn't do it. So he kind of like, hey, I'm giving this to you. It's tough slot. Everyone wants this thing. Yeah, he's like, great. He knew I couldn't really drive stick, but he vouched for me. And it was like I was in this little cool fraternity, and it was summer time there, and you'd have, like, a family meal, free meal, like, cash.
Dax Shepard
Can I guess what? You were making a shift. Yeah, I'm gonna go with 350.
Lily Padman
But then tips.
Chace Crawford
I wish I knew.
Lily Padman
Oh, 350?
Chace Crawford
Yeah. If I meant 300, I wish I could remember. I guarantee you it was somewhere around that. But on a big night, I remember going home with some good tip. It was like a dopamine hit. It was like a slot machine mentality. I get like, what's gonna happen next? And it was, like, a lot of fun.
Dax Shepard
And this was 2004 or 5, summer of 04, so it's cash baby, too. You're walking with hard cash.
Chace Crawford
Yeah, I know. It was great. I was living in Malibu with Four other dudes in this house. Kind of a decrepit, like, 70s house and never been updated. But, like, we had this cool little spot. They were like surfers. And it was a lot of fun.
Lily Padman
It's gonna be a reality show.
Chace Crawford
Good old day. I know. Now I'm like, 40. I'm like, was it gonna get any better than.
Dax Shepard
I'm so jealous of this whole spell of yours. Okay, so how do we get from there to 2006? The Covenant?
Chace Crawford
I got into an acting class.
Dax Shepard
Oh, a Meisner class.
Chace Crawford
Meisner class, Exactly. I forget the name of it, but it was a more serious class. A friend was doing acting. I had done some acting in high school, and I was always sort of artistically inclined. I did photography. I loved it. I painted, I drew. And so my parents kind of like, why don't you just get out of your shell? Take an acting class? And I randomly got this very serious Meisner I knew nothing about. I just loved it. I loved watching it. It was so abstract about coming to the door and the ex. And I, like, was like, what is this?
Dax Shepard
You didn't feel panicked, like, I'm out of my depth.
Chace Crawford
I wasn't trying to be an actor. I was so naive. There was no pressure. It was just fun. And these kids were in there really trying. And I was like, okay, I'm gonna try and be this good actor within class. I was ever thinking about really becoming an actor.
Dax Shepard
And did you get an agent from that class?
Chace Crawford
I did. I just kept kind of networking. A friend who was like a actress turn manager was like, hey, I know this very low boutique, small, like, agency. It was probably more like a management company is today. Just a few people. And I went with them.
Dax Shepard
This is where people pleasing. Like, people pleasing gets a bad rap, but this is where it's great, right? Because I wasn't a people pleaser. And consequently, no one wanted to help me because I didn't avail myself at all, right? I was trying to act like I knew everything and don't help me. And I got it figured out. And of course, no one tried to help me because it didn't seem like I was open to that. I didn't have a fucking agent for, like, six years. And I wanted to. I didn't get a job at a valet. I can see the value. You're nice. And there's a great word for it. I mean, no.
Chace Crawford
Well, I was a bit of a chameleon as well. To try and survive as a kid.
Dax Shepard
You know, you learn.
Chace Crawford
It was kind of a survival Thing to make new friends, all the different cities. And it wasn't like I was completely changing. I had an ability to kind of connect with people from all walks of life.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. And I think it's a great thing. And then so people are like, yeah, I'll vouch for you. And that's what's tricky about when people are like, I'm gonna stop being this way. And it's like, well, also acknowledge none of it's good or bad characteristics also got me to here. And so what part do I keep and what part do I get rid of? It's hard to know completely.
Chace Crawford
Yeah. And you don't really know that as a kid, Even in your 20s, if you haven't really examined it.
Dax Shepard
So when you end up in the Covenant, you're now like, I want to be an actor. Clearly.
Chace Crawford
Yeah. So I went with this agent. She was great. She did guys. And it was back when pilot season was a real thing, like happening every fall. And she was like, I'm going to send you out for some auditions just randomly. And I was getting good feedback. I was very green. But they're like, oh, he's talented and you know, work on this, this. And I was doing auditions and I was having fun with it. I was like part time in school, I was valing cars, living in this house. And then the Covenant came along eventually in 2005, you know, it was a real budget Sony Screen Gems movie, you know, at the time.
Lily Padman
Wild.
Dax Shepard
So Taylor Kitsch was in it.
Chace Crawford
Yeah, Taylor Kitsch, Sebastian Stan.
Lily Padman
Wow.
Chace Crawford
A guy named Toby Hemingway, a British guy we're still friends with. And Steven Straight was like one of the guys too.
Dax Shepard
Did you and Taylor get. Get on?
Chace Crawford
We did. Me, Taylor and Sebastian and Toby. They're my first real friends. Yeah. Like Taylor would like sleep on my couch back in when he come to la. And he was kind of new.
Dax Shepard
Okay. So I only know the lore of him because I'm an enormous Friday Night Lights fan. I've never met him and we'll get to that. But the lore is he was a trainer.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
Right. So at that time, was he a trainer? Was he already jacked and looking gorgeous? Or were you not intrigued to go looking gorgeous?
Chace Crawford
Yeah, that's fine. Because I specifically remember going and meeting them for the first time in Montreal at the, at the hotel. And we were gonna eat dinner. We all got spaghetti or lasagna and all this stuff. And he kind of was like looking
Dax Shepard
at us and he got some chicken and vegetables.
Chace Crawford
And cut to. He's like, absolutely Shredded. And like, he was a nutritionist. He went to school for two years.
Dax Shepard
He's like, you guys are killing yourself.
Chace Crawford
He basically. Well, he basically, like, in hindsight, was funny. He introduced us to all this stuff of working out and eating right. It kind of gave us a trainer. So that was like the start of falling in love with working out with the guys. Like, it was fun. And back. We were, like, just shoveling bread and pasta and we had a reason to get in shape. It was a fun boot camp type thing.
Dax Shepard
And everyone's gonna be shirtless. You gotta show off.
Chace Crawford
It was hilarious. Warlocks.
Lily Padman
So do you love men's bodies too? Like, dad, he's.
Chace Crawford
No, I know. I miss. Yeah, you have a good routine. Right. You go to the gym and you
Dax Shepard
do the full thing. Yeah. But also, I'm just obsessed with other men's body. Yeah. More than my own body. I'm much more obsessed with other men. If I were a good painter, I could paint right now perfectly. Taylor Kitsch's body. Like, I know it. Like, I know Brad Pitts in flight.
Chace Crawford
He showed up. We were like, oh, my God. He did nutrition. He was doing modeling, but he was, like, really working. And he didn't have a place in la, but he was full on shredded and eating right the whole night.
Lily Padman
It's funny because I kind of forgot that was him because the last thing I saw him and I think was the Waco thing.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
Where he's like, he's not hot in that.
Lily Padman
Well, he's not ripped in that at all. I don't think.
Chace Crawford
Skinny for that thing.
Lily Padman
So skinny. So that's kind of my new version.
Dax Shepard
Well, you need to rewatch fnl. We just rewatched it because of our daughters were finally old enough. And I was like, oh, right. It is the best show ever.
Chace Crawford
Incredible. And the story there was. We shot the thing, we kind of back. He stays at my couch for like a month. And he was like, I'm, like, gonna screen test for this show. And I had been auditioning for it. I got a test deal to read for the quarterback for Jason Street. Oh, I was so excited because I knew he was basically going to be Riggins. He had to think, jump through one more hoop. And I was like, oh, the idea of we just become friends. Like, he was like my only friend business. Like, yeah, yeah, let's move to Austin and do Texas football. That's where I'm from, you know, I didn't get it. I remember being bummed for, like, a month.
Dax Shepard
Yeah, that's a Heartbreaker.
Chace Crawford
That was a heartbreaker. I remember that was my first real. Like, that's a role I wanted.
Dax Shepard
And you'd only had good luck thus far.
Chace Crawford
No.
Dax Shepard
You probably sled a little bit.
Lily Padman
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
Oh, yeah. When I go in, I get these
Chace Crawford
things and then I make friends and
Dax Shepard
then we all work together. We have adventures.
Chace Crawford
Realizing that was like the most rare situation to become friends with those guys. And we're still all friends.
Dax Shepard
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Chace Crawford
I remember him being back in la, maybe this summer. He had it on dvd. We don't even have those anymore. He had. He's like, do you want to watch it? I was like, yeah, I do, I do. And watching the pilot, it wasn't jealousy, it was fomo. It was like, I wish. It wasn't like, I wish death upon everyone. It was like, oh, I wish I was a part of. That's amazing.
Lily Padman
The wheelchair element though, you might have dodged a bullet.
Chace Crawford
We didn't know. They didn't tell anyone that that was going to be the role. So that was interesting.
Lily Padman
Dodged a bullet.
Dax Shepard
Did you have any interesting interaction with Pete Berg? Because I had one meeting with Pete Berg. For people who know me, he was an actor forever. And then he became a great director and he directed the movie and then the pilot of that show. And I had a general with him one time. He was like five minutes late and they let me sit in his office before he got in there. And then he walked in and he had tissue crammed in his nose that was just caked with blood.
Chace Crawford
Nosebleeds.
Dax Shepard
And he goes, oh, sorry man, I'm late. I was sparring with so and so. I'm like, this dude's such a raw dog, man. He's walking like he's broke his nose and now he's in this meeting. He was just fighting a Man. Seconds before this meeting.
Chace Crawford
He's a wild dude. Yeah. I've, like, been to dinner with him with mutual friends since, like, he's a great guy. I remember him being in the room and directing the screen test and throwing me curveballs a bit. I was, like, freaking out. I don't know how to be off the script. Yeah, but that was. In hindsight, that was cool. Like, I would appreciate that more now. Like, the improv nature of that. He's. Okay, you're in an interview. Throw me questions. You know, how would you answer this as a quarterback? Which really threw me, which is probably why I didn't get it.
Lily Padman
But.
Chace Crawford
Yeah, but now I would welcome that.
Dax Shepard
Okay. And then Gossip Girl comes pretty quickly after that. Right. So the heartbreak doesn't last terribly long. What do you think the duration is between screen testing for Friday Night Lights?
Chace Crawford
Exactly a year. It was the next pilot season.
Dax Shepard
Do you do anything in between there?
Chace Crawford
Covenant came out. I did. It wasn't Lifetime. It was a movie. It was a movie that we shot in Turks and Caicos, which was a lot of fun, but it was very small budget. But my mom loves the movie. I'm blanking on the name of it. Thank God. Don't go watch it. But I remember you're not blanking on the One Metal.
Dax Shepard
You know exactly the name of it.
Lily Padman
Yeah, no, you should say the wrong name of the movie. So we go watch, like, the.
Chace Crawford
They changed the name of it.
Lily Padman
It's called, like, the Six Sons of.
Chace Crawford
Yeah, exactly. Something ridiculous. I came back and I got with icm, the new agency, because the covenant came out.
Dax Shepard
You got a little heat.
Chace Crawford
Was like, ooh, I'm doing the thing. And then I remember going into their office to see the pilots and it was these hard scripts. And it said Gossip Girl. And I'm like, that's like the stupidest name ever for a show. You know they're going to change that name.
Dax Shepard
Change it sounds a little emasculating.
Chace Crawford
Like, I'm going to be on a
Dax Shepard
show called Gossip Girl.
Lily Padman
Sounds so weird.
Chace Crawford
I. They didn't realize it was a book franchise and they had had people that were fans of it.
Dax Shepard
I'm offended you hadn't been reading the Gossip Girl YA book series. Of course I did.
Chace Crawford
Then that was back when you would have to read for the first couple people, then producers, director execs. And then you're in, like, the conference room with, like, the stadium seating.
Dax Shepard
And for people who don't know, you also add at some point in auditioning, they make you negotiate your Contract. They don't let you go in and read for network without a contract. Cause they don't want to fall in love with you. And then you have the leverage lever. Leverage thing by today's standards, we both know is probably not a lot of money. But at 21 years old, when you negotiated that contract for that last audition, and you're like, I'm gonna make hundreds of thousands of dollars if we do. I mean, what was your brain doing at that moment?
Chace Crawford
Oh, it was such a high. I remember thinking I'd won the lottery.
Dax Shepard
Yeah, you did.
Chace Crawford
You're not doing all the math of the percentage that everyone takes.
Dax Shepard
No. You're getting 100% of that money.
Chace Crawford
Yeah, yeah. He's thinking that number per episode times.
Dax Shepard
How many learned to drive a Ferrari? 1. Certainly in my future.
Chace Crawford
Going back. Yeah, I'm going back to that job. Lo and behold, it's like the lowest possible thing for six years. But you know, you sign your life away for six years too. You're not really thinking about that.
Dax Shepard
Hell no.
Chace Crawford
You don't even know if it's going to be successful. So that's like a pipe dream.
Dax Shepard
So one cute thing I learned today is that you and Ed Westwick.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
You guys immediately start roommating together in Chelsea out of the gates. How did you meet him so quick and go like, let's move in together.
Chace Crawford
We shot the pilot it in April or something in 073 weeks in New York. I'm like, I love New York now. It's incredible. He was young. He was like 18. I remember looking at prices that summer. I guess we gotta move there. I'm like, how much is it a? I'm like, it's insane.
Dax Shepard
And you just found out you're keeping 40% of what you made. Yeah.
Chace Crawford
Now a little more realistic.
Dax Shepard
Yeah.
Chace Crawford
Not one check has come yet. I'm like, maybe I get a roommate. I just text like, dude, you want to like live together? He's like, yeah, sure, whatever, man. Like, just go find it, you know,
Dax Shepard
tell me what address to show up to.
Chace Crawford
Yeah. Marry me. My mom like went up there. We saw like three places. And I was like, I guess this one will work.
Dax Shepard
Did he live in England at that time?
Chace Crawford
He had never left his hometown. I don't know if he was outside London. I forget the name of it, but he was like in London area. And he was a mini Pete Doherty, you know, he was like trying to be in a band. Yeah.
Dax Shepard
You from Plano, him from England. You guys are in Chelsea.
Chace Crawford
It was wild. Yeah, it Was like Animal House.
Dax Shepard
How nice or not nice was the apartment?
Chace Crawford
It started out nice, and then it was like. What was funny? It was a. I forget what they call two bedroom convertible. So there's an office. We. I had a wall just of sheetrock built basically like a closet. And I was like, hey, I'll pay a little bit more a month for the first six months. Take the mask.
Dax Shepard
You live in the closet. I found the place you proposed to play.
Chace Crawford
I actually did propose. And they don't flip. You pay more. And that, of course, never happens. Yeah, it never happens.
Dax Shepard
Every six weeks, team of movers are in there. Yeah, yeah.
Chace Crawford
Never never happened. And it was decidedly disgusting. But it was so much fun.
Dax Shepard
You have a charmed life on the fun spectrum. Yeah, it was a lot.
Lily Padman
It was a lot, though, due to the dynamic of all the people on the show, because, for one, it's, you know, teen show, hot show, all eyes, so dramatic. So in real life, you're really good friends with him. I can only assume you guys are living together.
Chace Crawford
Totally. Yeah.
Lily Padman
But then there's other.
Dax Shepard
Did they feel like you were clicky?
Chace Crawford
Yeah, they didn't, actually. I had a good relationship with all the main, Like Pen and Blake and Leighton and him were kind of the. The core cast. And we all got along. We all had a great time. I mean, but me and Ed, we would go out. We would go out, shoot pool hit. You know what I mean?
Dax Shepard
We were like. We would go out.
Chace Crawford
We would go out and they. I remember they had, like, on one of the buildings, a rooftop, which was kind of redone. They had couches up there and a grill, and we would just bring a Bose speaker and a bunch of beer. And, like, we would have parties up there.
Dax Shepard
Were you banging darts ever? Oh, yeah.
Chace Crawford
He was a big smoker. All my New York friends smoked. They're like actors there. And, like, you could smok somewhere indoors, and I never enjoyed them. You're a good boy.
Lily Padman
You wanted to be cool.
Chace Crawford
But I would hit the button, you know, get the cigarette thing and act like I'm cool. Like, I really loved it. You know what I mean?
Dax Shepard
You're on a rooftop banging a dart, drinking beer in New York City.
Lily Padman
Yeah. How was your ego, though, at the time? It must have been through the roof. Right.
Chace Crawford
It's funny. It does affect you, you know, like how fame always affects you.
Dax Shepard
Can we talk about the moment? Cause you were seeing the Black Keys in Central Park.
Chace Crawford
Yeah, you got it.
Dax Shepard
You and Ed.
Chace Crawford
Right.
Dax Shepard
And that was the first time where all of a sudden people Are starting to come up to you.
Chace Crawford
Yeah. That was the very first time. I'll never forget it. It's a validating feeling to kind of know that what you've been working on is being enjoyed and seen.
Dax Shepard
It's the signal of success.
Chace Crawford
Like, it's possible to not like that. You can get annoyed at certain situations, but to this day, even people that are fans of the boys like deep. I love it.
Dax Shepard
It's a fun thing. It's lovely. There's uncomfortable parts, but, boy, it's lovely. Especially when you're young. It blew up.
Chace Crawford
I mean, that was like, the show. It still holds up.
Dax Shepard
I can't watch it. My memory of how funny is when I watch it, I'm like, oh, no. I inflated in my mind.
Chace Crawford
I remember the Timberlake one was hilarious. Oh, my gosh.
Dax Shepard
It was a kind of cultural phenomena.
Chace Crawford
Yeah, it was.
Dax Shepard
Yeah.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Lily Padman
You guys created a word. That word now is in the zeitgeist.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
After eight years of auditioning, not getting anything, it was a rocket ship. And so you. And you already hinted at it, but it can make you an asshole or it can make you a bit paranoid. And it sounds like you went down the paranoid route. How is it affecting you? And I would imagine it's more tolerable when you. When you're drunk.
Chace Crawford
Right.
Dax Shepard
It becomes a great companion piece to this new experience.
Chace Crawford
It does. And we're not working all the time, and we had the keys to the city, in a sense. I remember the first iPhone coming out and being, like, paranoid about iPhone pictures where she couldn't even see anything. I seen anything stupid, like one pixel, you know? I remember it was the young teenage thing where sometimes it'd be a lot of energy, and that would sometimes kind of, like, startle me a little bit, you know?
Dax Shepard
Yeah. You had rabid fans.
Lily Padman
Oh, yeah.
Chace Crawford
Yeah. It became a little bit rabid. I mean, it was crazy for a minute. I remember feeling like a bit of a fraud, like an imposter.
Dax Shepard
That's why alcohol helps. Cause when you're drunk, your ego gets to inflate, and you're like, yeah, I am the shit. But when you're sober, you're like, I don't deserve this.
Chace Crawford
Exactly.
Dax Shepard
But when you're hammered, you're like, you're damn right I'm fucking awesome.
Chace Crawford
It's such a high. Yeah.
Dax Shepard
You almost need the booze to actually enjoy the celebrity.
Chace Crawford
That's so profound. It's so true. It's so true.
Dax Shepard
I'm just now realizing that you're so
Chace Crawford
much more Comfortable in your own skin, though. And we would go out. We had other friends in the city. Yeah.
Dax Shepard
Were you making also other actor friends that you were, like, flattered by? Like, are other actors around town. Town starting to hang with you a little bit?
Chace Crawford
Yeah. And Nick's players and, like, it was kind of like you kind of making friends with someone. Like, yeah, the picture of the Mets, pretty cool. And Sebastian, I think he came on, like, episode four or five, Stan, and like, we were already friends. So I was like, yes, got another friend here. And we were all just going around. We had a great time. It was a lot of fun. But it is sort of like a weird drug that you chase. You need to kind of be validated and you realize, like, what is wrong with me?
Dax Shepard
It's a very heightened experience that's hard to compute. And then it's also quite addictive. And in the absence of it, you feel a bit.
Chace Crawford
Big drop, right?
Dax Shepard
Yeah. If you're out in New York City and 40 of the girls at the bar like you.
Lily Padman
40. 99.
Chace Crawford
Yeah. Probably.
Lily Padman
99, I will tell you. 99.
Dax Shepard
Yeah, man. That's a special experience.
Chace Crawford
Yeah, it was good for a while. It is a bit empty, though. You're trying to keep chasing that feeling or that high.
Dax Shepard
Well, you feel it when you're not experiencing again. It's so high.
Chace Crawford
It kind of like drives you. That question, like, why, like, why am I doing this? What am I doing? What am I going to do next? I need to kind of maintain this thing that's been created and what's my reason for doing the next project or picking the next thing? And if it's fame and you're trying to maintain that, it's a lose, lose.
Dax Shepard
Yes.
Lily Padman
Did it ever get weird on set while you guys were becoming these big stars? Were you guys kind of like, do you guys know I'm a big star on set? When they would ask you to do things or you'd have to be there for so many hours. Were you guys like, do you know who I am? All of you? You were all becoming such big stars.
Chace Crawford
You know, we were pretty lucky. I feel like everyone was, in their own respects, very well adjusted. Like, everyone was cool and you're working with everyone at some point. The characters are in a thousand episodes, sleep together. Like, you have, like six months with someone. Then me and Pen are doing. Yeah, me and Head are working. So you kind of. I had my own time with everyone to kind of forge a relationship. They were good relationships.
Dax Shepard
I know there's this kind of stereotype of anytime you have a bunch of young people on a show, they're going to be very competitive. But I actually think the blessing of it is when you're the singular star of the show, you can really start thinking your shit doesn't sting. But if you're sharing it, you're not this big special thing. You're all getting fucking heat when you walk out. You're all experiencing it. So it's like you can't feel. Feels so unique in it. That helps.
Chace Crawford
Yeah. And it kind of all happened at the same time. And then inevitably there is a little bit of what is this person getting? When you're young, I'm older, you're just more relaxed with all that stuff.
Lily Padman
It doesn't really matter when you're.
Chace Crawford
Then you're kind of become pretentious or, you know, you kind of become self important. You know, you want to be important. You want to like, be the guy. There is a little bit of that anxiety of like, what is he doing that I'm not?
Dax Shepard
Right. I think when it gets dicey is the summer break.
Chace Crawford
Exactly.
Dax Shepard
It's like, who got what? Oh, they're working with that person. Fuck, I better be doing that too.
Lily Padman
Yeah, yeah.
Chace Crawford
You start not to feel that way sitting on your ass and you're like, yo, they're doing like a studio movie.
Dax Shepard
Eddie Murphy, first year, Saturday Night Live. He's on Saturday Night Live. They go away for the summer break and then he stars in 48 hours. And when they return, he's in the biggest movie of the summer. And they're all castmates. That all started. It's like, that's a lot to deal with for everyone.
Chace Crawford
Totally.
Dax Shepard
How did you. Or maybe you did. I didn't follow the drama of it. But did you avoid getting romantically involved with any of these people?
Chace Crawford
Yeah. Cause I would have.
Dax Shepard
That's where I would have absolutely floundered. I would have tried to date all. All of them.
Lily Padman
Some of them dated each other.
Chace Crawford
Yeah. Okay. There's things that happen, connections that happen. I mean, you know. Yeah. I never dated anyone on the show officially.
Dax Shepard
No.
Chace Crawford
I mean, there's a lot of, like, guest stars and people like in the orbit of the show that you'd meet through other friends even. And I remember that was a way to meet people.
Dax Shepard
You should. Everyone dates people from work. Why? Why would you not do that in show business?
Lily Padman
Especially when you're already kissing them. I mean, you're literally already.
Dax Shepard
You've already.
Chace Crawford
Yeah, but this.
Dax Shepard
Cross the threshold on that.
Chace Crawford
On that. It's either 60 people watch it and boom. My guys, you know, they want you to be shirtless again. It's like the whole other thing, you know, when you're young, it is a different thing. It is like a college experience. It's all different. And everyone's kind of single and dating or whatever, and everyone's sort of up for, you know, married. No one's married. The stakes are very low. You know, it is a funnier, more college, like, school experience. For sure.
Lily Padman
You wish you had had his life.
Dax Shepard
I would have blown it up. Like, I'm impressed. You navigated it. I would have up. I would have been partying too hard.
Chace Crawford
Close to.
Dax Shepard
Okay, okay, look, I missed the part that you're an Abercrombie and Finch model.
Lily Padman
Oh, yeah. Oh, my God. Were you in the documentary?
Chace Crawford
Oh, no, I wasn't.
Dax Shepard
Thank God.
Chace Crawford
I did watch that documentary, though. Yeah.
Dax Shepard
What if I said, you know what have been great? As I said, did you get romantically involved with any of the cast members? And you go just Kristen Bell.
Chace Crawford
Kristen had the best job. She was in this room with a mic, doing a weekly, and that was amazing. We have started dating.
Dax Shepard
She was getting that offered, and she's like, this is pretty great. I'm getting, like, an episodic fee, and I think it's going to be about 15 minutes a week.
Chace Crawford
Yeah. They redid it, right? Yeah. She got, for that one, too.
Dax Shepard
Sucked off of that. Yeah.
Lily Padman
And it showed her voiceover skills, which took her someplace, we could say, right?
Chace Crawford
No, completely.
Dax Shepard
My last question on that period is, how blessed and. Or resentful do you feel that you guys got to do that just before social media? It was a thing.
Chace Crawford
That's a good question. I feel really blessed, actually. In some weird way, Gossip Girl was ahead of its time because it was about this blogger, and it kind of was looking at that social media thing in a different way. But I'm just so thankful that wasn't around when we were there. I mean, how many athletes and actors, you know, you tweet something when you're 18, 20, you do something, it's forever.
Dax Shepard
Hard to say.
Chace Crawford
I probably would have lost everything if the video thing was real. But the other flip side of that is I wish I'd started an Instagram account when Ashton Kutcher did at the very beginning. Like, I would have a million, you
Dax Shepard
know, so that's what I was gonna say. The con of it not being there is there are so many people that have been on these shows that they're very zeitgeisty. And all young people like them, but they're not huge ratings hit. People aren't renegotiating, making a ton of money, but they're making a killing on their social media, which is a nice little thing that you probably could have also made a ton of money. Of money outside of the show had that been around at that time.
Chace Crawford
I kind of missed a generation. Like, I'm not all about putting myself out there all the time.
Dax Shepard
But you've had some success in it. You and Miles Tell are dancing and stuff.
Chace Crawford
Those have gone. That was against my will.
Dax Shepard
There's many videos. There's not just one. There's a golf one you're probably referencing, but you guys are shirtless and masks.
Chace Crawford
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Dax Shepard
Bodies look great, by the way. Yeah.
Chace Crawford
Pandemic. That was when we all went a little crazy. Okay.
Dax Shepard
So when the show ended, I had this very mixed feeling about parenthood ending, which is I also had done six years on that show, like you did six years right on Gossip Girl. And I had these two feelings, which was like. One was, I could have done that show for the rest of my life. I loved everyone so much. It was such a lovely work environment. I had such freedom. And also, if I do anything for six years, I'm kind of like, okay, I want a new experience. So what were you feeling like, like, when it ended with the Gossip Girl
Chace Crawford
thing ending, I got super depressed, and it was way out of left field because I felt like I had to move back to Los Angeles.
Dax Shepard
You probably did need to for your health.
Chace Crawford
Yeah. No, no. Completely. Completely. But I. I kind of remember thinking, why didn't I just invest and buy a place and stay in New York? I'm glad I didn't. But I remember getting plopped back in la. And it's like anything else, those people become your identity. In a way, they're family. I realized that became really important to me. It's the hair and makeup girls you
Dax Shepard
talk to every day.
Chace Crawford
It's the transfer guy that picks you up. It's just that rhythm and that you are somebody and you mean something in that sphere.
Dax Shepard
And that schedule is tethering you completely. It's what's allowing you to go be a fucking maniac, Enjoy four days a week. Because you click back into the routine and it's stabilizing.
Chace Crawford
Yes, I got spit back out here. And I remember being, like, depressed for six months. Listen, not like clinically I was getting out of bed, but I was not in a good way.
Dax Shepard
And I would imagine, too, at least in my Experience. You have all these waves of thought. You first get off the show and you're like, okay, I probably have a lot of options, so I got to choose correctly. And then a couple months goes by and all of a sudden you're like, do I have this many options? You start recalculating what you're going to do and it can be madness trying to figure out what you're supposed to follow up. Something like a Parenthood or a Gossip Girl with people think, you know, you're
Chace Crawford
the star of this show and the reality of it in the industry, it's a double edged sword. You know, you're the pretty boy who was like on a CW show that honestly was. You don't want to see. You're in the doghouse. But there is a little bit of that. You know, that was the reality I was facing coming back. Because think you have all these options and these offers, you have an opportunity
Dax Shepard
to do the same thing.
Chace Crawford
Probably the same thing. People don't really have an imagination in cast. You kind of got to prove yourself. Which is all well and good, but I remember it being limited and not realizing, oh shit, I'm not getting the looks I'm wanting and even I'm getting close to stuff and putting in good work. It's like, oh, it's not a good fit. So it was a bit of wanting to really, really switch it up.
Dax Shepard
I don't know about you, but you also start losing confidence. I gotta readjust what I think I'm gonna be able to get into.
Chace Crawford
It was a real lesson for the first time of like, okay, I was stripped, kind of all the confidence. And again, how you go into that room and act confident to get that job, if you're feeling completely desperate for it, Air of desperation. And it's those moments of being in this business and industry that people don't see, but you gotta navigate. And that was my first time really navigating.
Dax Shepard
And you're also pretty darn young still. Like, how old were you when ended?
Chace Crawford
27, 8.
Dax Shepard
That's the age I was when I got on Punk'd. Let me ask you this. Did you have a chip on your shoulder about the show? Because I don't anymore. I have nothing but gratitude. But I had a few years where I couldn't stand when people would bring up punk to me.
Chace Crawford
Really?
Dax Shepard
Yes. Because it was like, it was a reality show and they would ask me like, what's it like to act? When I was promoting without a paddle and I was like, I've been acting that's the most acting.
Chace Crawford
Like I convinced a real person. Yeah, yeah.
Dax Shepard
And I was just so defensive about it being a reality show. And then. Were you friends with Ash? And I'm like, no, he didn't give me. I just had all these chips on my shoulder about it.
Chace Crawford
I did too. For sure, I would feel defensive, I guess is the only word. But I just feel like, defensive. Like, don't ask me about that. You know what I mean? I'm moving on to other things, but I was always grateful of the show. It was never the people.
Dax Shepard
Well, that's what I'm sad about is that I had that association with it. Even the first time I interviewed Ashton, I was kind of admitting to that. And he's like, yeah, I very much felt that. And it kind of hurt his feelings.
Chace Crawford
Okay, gotcha.
Dax Shepard
That I wanted to be so distanced from this great thing he and I did together. And now, of course, I can go like, oh, my God, no one gets to be on a cultural phenomena. I can't believe I never had APEX gratitude for it. Of course, I always had the gratitude that it gave me all the opportunities I ended up getting. But also just, dude, if you're on something like that one time in your life that's going to the super bowl just doesn't happen.
Chace Crawford
It's hard to get to that rarefied era. Really is.
Dax Shepard
But again, you're so scared because you've had that. It's like, oh, my God, how on earth do I get on another thing. Thing of that kind of cultural momentum?
Chace Crawford
Yeah, right. Which is tough. And now that it's had this weird life through streaming, it's had like these nine lives and the same age, you know, fan comes up. I love it. But there was a time it just felt like this black cloud, you know, I couldn't get away from. And it was hard to break out of that.
Dax Shepard
By the way, I used to have it with Kristen too. It's like every interview I'd get in, they would ask me about Kristen.
Chace Crawford
Right, Right.
Dax Shepard
I'm like, oh, I'm only here because they want to hear about Kristen. And then I was smart enough to realize, like, oh, when I see Kristen, all they do is ask about me. They just don't know what the fucking asking about.
Chace Crawford
Right.
Dax Shepard
Nothing personal going. There's no evaluation of anything going on.
Chace Crawford
Exactly.
Dax Shepard
But now, yeah, I could sit and do a two hour podcast on punk and I'd be delighted for someone to go through every episode. You know, Like, I would love to talk about it.
Lily Padman
You should do A re watch.
Dax Shepard
Oh, I couldn't rewrote it, but I couldn't watch it.
Chace Crawford
But that is the most acting though. That really is though. That's the real. The commitment.
Lily Padman
You can't say cut.
Dax Shepard
Yeah, there's no cut you either up. The entire three day thing they've been setting up, the stakes are high and
Chace Crawford
it's always like the celebrity that you can sniff that out quickly, you know, I mean, it's high stakes.
Dax Shepard
If I tip it and go too big and yet I want to go big, that's my chance to be funny. I'm wearing a fucking wig and shit with Nick Lachey.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
I'm going as hard as I can without it. Like I'm in a cut off shirt and shit.
Chace Crawford
What a great episode. It's due for a rewatch. I want to see him all night. It's brilliant. It's my favorite.
Lily Padman
I watched it recently even after knowing him and I'm like, it's so good.
Chace Crawford
Like, jury duty is great and all, but it's not punk, you know, that was like the thing, man. It was the best.
Lily Padman
It was really.
Dax Shepard
So, yeah, walk me through this chapter, right? This is a chapter between, I would say Gossip Girl and the boys.
Chace Crawford
Right.
Dax Shepard
How do you keep your spirits high? Do you find joy? Do you figure out how to recalibrate? Like, what is that journey?
Chace Crawford
Yeah, that was probably the toughest journey. Like the lowest point. Let me think. I basically sort of snapped out of it a little bit. A little bit. And it just felt so daunting, the task of like auditioning and trying to get that next thing.
Dax Shepard
Yes.
Chace Crawford
And I. Will I ever get something as culturally like a big again? I did a pilot. It got picked up oil and yeah, they changed the name of it. The best version of it would have been like Yellowstone, basically. And that's what I thought in my head. Oh, they're gonna want this thing. The guys who created and wrote it were amazing. They all got fired, but ABC wanted it. They put on all these new people. We moved to Park City, which was amazing to live up there early on. It was like, oh, shit. It was the first time I was like, scared, am I gonna be stuck on this? It was a great experience, but I was a little nervous about it.
Dax Shepard
It was fine to be stranded in New York City as a young person. Yeah. But you probably never envisioned moving to Park City, Utah when you left Dallas. That's a big part of the job that I think is fine to be like, well, I don't know. I live in Canada for Seven, eight years.
Chace Crawford
Right, Right. It's a nomadic leave your life. Yeah. I bought a truck, drove out there. It was great for a while, but it's sleepy town. It's not New York. Thank God. I got a girlfriend. That was kind of a nice thing. I dated a girl that we were working with.
Dax Shepard
Your longest relationship, three years.
Chace Crawford
Yeah, exactly.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. Congratulations.
Chace Crawford
Thank you. Thank you.
Dax Shepard
That's interesting, because if you're me and you fall in love and you're both out of town, a. Of course you're gonna fall in love. You're both lonely and out of town.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
You're also playing house.
Chace Crawford
Totally. That's a good way to put it.
Dax Shepard
And then you gotta return to real life, back and forth. I don't know. I think that would be weird. Yeah. I've never done that. Full experience, but I could see it being tricky somehow. We did.
Chace Crawford
We navigated it. It ended. It was actually in totality. It was like, oh, that was actually Great. I did 13 episodes of this thing. We kind of had summer through winter in Park City. It was great.
Dax Shepard
And then you guys stayed together for a while and.
Chace Crawford
We stayed together. Yeah, Y. We did. And we worked that out. And that's when I realized I am better in a relationship. I'm just. You know what I mean? Like. Like, single me is not the best version, in a way.
Dax Shepard
Well, there's a lot of data to support that. Married guys live, like, 11 years longer. I mean, it's like, yeah, we're not great on our own.
Lily Padman
He was like, don't go to the doctor.
Chace Crawford
Right, Right. No, yeah. Yeah. I realize I, like, need some help. So that was all great. And we're still friends.
Dax Shepard
What do you do wrong in relationships?
Chace Crawford
What do I do wrong? I just try too hard. I love too much.
Dax Shepard
I love too hard.
Lily Padman
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
I'll go first.
Chace Crawford
Yeah. What do you think?
Dax Shepard
Yeah. I had this relationship with Bri for nine years. I left that one. And there's no way it could have been her fault. I mean, she was a great human being. I had to be responsible for a lot of it. And I think I had the wherewithal. I was, like, 36 at the time or something, and I was like, we gotta figure out what we were doing wrong. Clearly, I need to break some habits. I'm probably a bit. I want them to think, like, me too much. I was terrible about money. I was so bad at sharing money. I was like, oh, this is my money. You know, I just did a lot of things that. That I knew I gotta break this the next Time I'm in one, which was Kristen. I met Kristen. She was a Christian vegetarian who lived with eight people and had 16 dogs. These are all things I would have normally been like, I love her, but there's no way I can hang with all this other stuff.
Chace Crawford
Right.
Lily Padman
I'm laughing because she was.
Dax Shepard
But I didn't ever challenge any of those.
Chace Crawford
They're not religious.
Lily Padman
They're not religious.
Dax Shepard
Well, that's the funny thing about life.
Lily Padman
You didn't control it.
Chace Crawford
But you want to, though. We get past the honeymoon phase and you start to try and change the other or control the other person in just small ways even I'm guilty of that.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. And it has the veil of being gross and controlling, which certainly it is, but really it's about safety. Because you're like, I don't know, man. If she feels this way and I feel this way, I'm scared that we can both hold these conflicting opinions and still be a unit underneath of it, some weird fear. Don't we need to be more aligned in order for it to work? Like, I don't think it's entirely disgusting in premise of why you're acting that way. It's just like, well, how are we going to. I remember we had a fight one time about, like, if we had kids, were we going to raise them with religion? And after that fight, I think I had a wise person in AA tell me, I'm sorry, is she pregnant? And I'm like, no. He's like, so why are you fighting today about something that you don't even know is going to happen?
Chace Crawford
He thinks could change.
Dax Shepard
You're living so far in the future. You guys are having a fight about something in the future that is so out of touch.
Chace Crawford
Right.
Dax Shepard
And then I never brought it up again. Right.
Chace Crawford
We get worried about those things before they happen. One of my biggest things is I'm like a bottler. Passive aggressiveness is a big problem for me. Like, I'll hold on to things and I won't communicate them properly.
Dax Shepard
You got a little vault.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
You can pull out when necessary.
Chace Crawford
I don't run to the hard conversation. It'll turn into a fight and it's about something else. I'll realize, oh, it's actually about all this other stuff. I'm so sorry.
Dax Shepard
And you were holding on to six months of shit.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
And so that all comes out in the fight.
Chace Crawford
It's about like a cup left on the table. You know what I mean? Something so stupid. And then you're like, oh, my God, this is. I'M so sorry. This is not, you know, but that's one thing for me.
Dax Shepard
So that's part of the people pleaser thing. Right. Like, will you lose her affection by having these issues?
Chace Crawford
Right.
Dax Shepard
In this relationship?
Chace Crawford
It's out of fear of things are safe. Don't rock the boat. Don't do anything that could. Jeopardy.
Dax Shepard
Things are just kind of now piling homeostasis.
Chace Crawford
Yeah, yeah, yeah. And they're all little things until they're not Right.
Lily Padman
Was there not a lot of fighting in your house growing up, or was there fighting? Because I think it go either way.
Chace Crawford
Some of both, really. I mean, my parents are really young. I can't believe they even got through that time of med school. I can barely have a dog now. I'm 40, you know what I mean? I've dealt, you know, 20 with two. Two kids. But they were amazing. Yeah. And they figured it out.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. Med school workload and two little kids.
Lily Padman
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
And your mom's living somewhere she didn't want to live, right?
Chace Crawford
Yeah, yeah, yeah. Minnesota. Yeah. She did not like putting those chains on that van.
Dax Shepard
She's in Park City. Yeah.
Lily Padman
So it's not like you grew up around it. So you are emulating it or trying to avoid it.
Chace Crawford
Right. I guess it's in relationships you need to run to the hard conversations. No one wants to do it. You got to have the hard conversation sooner rather than later. And that's just what you need to
Dax Shepard
do is your move to shut down.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
Get quiet and distant and wait for her to figure out why you're hurting.
Chace Crawford
Exactly. You just resort to being like the child you were with your parents, basically. That's really what it is, you know, oh, my God. I'm doing what I did to my mom. And it's all that stuff. And you always gotta be aware of it.
Dax Shepard
Okay, so good. So the relationship, I'm presuming that was an identity outside of acting.
Chace Crawford
Right.
Dax Shepard
That was forward momentum as a human building a life. I imagine those three years bought you a little reprieve from just you sitting there contemplating your career by yourself.
Chace Crawford
Completely. She was an actress. It was very much a great support system. It was also, in a weird way, this isn't the only reason I was getting in a relationship, but it was to prove to myself I was capable of being in a successful relationship. So I was motivated to be a good partner and boyfriend, you know, And I definitely failed at that in many ways. But I need to, like, grow up a little bit. It did facilitate that. I learned a lot. You always do Right.
Dax Shepard
Was it hard for you to let go of the fun nights out and lock it? Lots of options.
Chace Crawford
Yes and no. I definitely still stayed at the party a little too late. Like, I was still, like, having fun with the guys and, like, going out and stuff. Probably could have shut that down a lot sooner. I still like to have fun, but now I'm like, I love home. I love cooking. I love being in a relationship with
Dax Shepard
Miles
Chace Crawford
with a loaf of white bread. Yeah, that was embarrassing. But that stuff just gets tiring after a while. You just get old.
Dax Shepard
It gets less fun.
Chace Crawford
It gets less fun. It affects you a lot more. Your body will tell you.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. You know, and the illusion, again, I'm a novelty seeker. So it's like, it has the appearance of a novel night, but if you really take inventory, you're like, oh, I do this same thing over and over and over again. Even if I hook up with a new person, it's the same thing. There's really no surprises.
Chace Crawford
Exactly. And you feel like it's gonna be this thing, and it's never what it is. For me, it was a bit. The revelry of it being with friends and the drinking. It was always kind of like this high of revelry.
Dax Shepard
Yes.
Chace Crawford
The socializing aspect was tough for me.
Dax Shepard
Stay tuned for more Armchair Expert, if you dare. I just had a thought.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
I love the intimacy you could have with other men while drunk.
Chace Crawford
Right.
Dax Shepard
I just craved that. And I loved. I show up with a six pack and then now I can say, I love you.
Chace Crawford
Your innovations are so down.
Dax Shepard
I craved that. That intimacy with men and drinking gave that to me.
Chace Crawford
You don't even realize, you know, that's what you're looking for or what you need in your life. And you'll find a lot of them, you know, friends. That you're just friends within that bubble of partying or whatever it is of drinking. Right. And then that disappears and it's okay, you know, it's tougher.
Dax Shepard
Jack London, the writer, he wrote a book called John Barleycorn. I don't know if you've ever heard of it.
Chace Crawford
I have not, no.
Dax Shepard
But it's this very, very honest book about his relationship with drinking towards the end of his life. And he was a hardcore alcoholic by the end, where he had to wake up in the middle of night and drink in the the of middle of the night to stay asleep. And it was, I think, reading that book, that occurred to me, oh, that's what I was kind of craving that I loved is he just talks about the Intimacy at a bar with males and how without that, he could have never had that. He couldn't get there without that.
Lily Padman
It's a real conversation with that.
Dax Shepard
Just the intimacy, the depth of a relationship, saying your fears to another man and all these things you just dare not do sober with another dude.
Chace Crawford
It's so hard to get there if you. Feels like it's hard to get there if you're sober. Yeah, I do. Right.
Dax Shepard
AA is a hack for that. It's like you're kind of forced to be with these other men.
Chace Crawford
It's great doing that, right? Like, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Dax Shepard
We all agree. Let's sit down for an hour and like, be real as.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
Talk about we're afraid of how we up in our relationship, what we regret about our parenting. It's like, how are you doing that unless you're hammered at a bar at 2am When I left New York, all
Chace Crawford
those guy friends were still in New York. And I didn't realize I was doing a lot of that just to have those connections. And when all that kind of goes away and you realize you're a home, I was like, I really don't have that many friends. Real friends.
Dax Shepard
Yeah, yeah.
Chace Crawford
You gravitate to those guys that are going out and the revelry of that and. And connecting with those guys.
Dax Shepard
So where were you at optimistically, just before the boys happens? How are you assessing what the future of your life is professionally? Just before the boys?
Chace Crawford
It was dark for me. I mean, in my mind it wasn't really, you know, I know I was probably in a place that a lot of people would love to have been.
Dax Shepard
Sure you weren't on Taylor's couch, but
Chace Crawford
there is that, you know, what have you done for me lately? Type thing and keeping up with the Joneses. Like, what are these guys doing that I'm not, you know, is all that
Dax Shepard
you're seeing everyone, you know on billboards all day long.
Chace Crawford
Yes. Laughing. Yeah. And there's that anxiety there that I don't get, even if I'm working in Toronto, that you kind of relax when you're out of L. A.
Dax Shepard
You have no clue what's going on.
Lily Padman
Sebastian's getting like, nominated for Oscars. What the fuck? You can be happy for them and still be like, oh, what am I doing?
Chace Crawford
No, no, completely. And I'm in a different place now. I'm almost 41, but I'm much more relaxed. In early 30s. It was just a doom loop. What am I going to do with my life? It felt like there was nothing that was ever going to happen again.
Dax Shepard
Well, you're 34, probably, right?
Chace Crawford
Seven years old, 32 prob.
Dax Shepard
Oh, okay.
Chace Crawford
And I think I turned 33 the year that the boys happened. I remember reading it and not getting that many good. You know, again, people's casting imaginations limited. I was getting all these things. It was more the same. I didn't want to do. And I read the script to the boys.
Dax Shepard
I was like, what the fuck is this?
Chace Crawford
This is amazing.
Dax Shepard
I would imagine, too, there's a little bit of a gift in that. It's such an enormous swing. I can only imagine reading that first script because that shows so much about execution. That script, the pilot could go so wrong. The odds of it being executed in the way it was. Is I a 1% chance? Yeah. So I also imagine getting that script and going, wow, this is really cool. And also, if I don't get it, this is probably going to fail. I could be liberated by what a big swing it is and not get overly worked up about auditioning for it.
Chace Crawford
Honestly, I'm like, how are they going to do this? How are they going to make this thing?
Dax Shepard
A guy's getting miniature and going in. A guy's penis exploding the whole body. How the fuck is that?
Chace Crawford
It felt like a shot at the moon. Is this too good to be true? Am I tripping? This is insane. And are they letting us do this?
Dax Shepard
It goes so hard.
Chace Crawford
Yeah. But I did feel. I was like, this is hilarious. I was like, I know this guy, this narcissistic, unselfaware asshole who's in a therapist couch talking about his only friends is the local lobster. Like, that was the audition scene. It was like a monologue of this thing. I just felt connected to it. And, like, everyone is reading for it. And, yeah, it was a great audition.
Dax Shepard
Okay. So I'm going to be dead honest with you. Your fear is a little bit grounded. Right. Which is like, I only know of you as an actor on Gossip Girl at that time, and I never watched Gossip Girl, so I just fill in the blanks of what Gossip Girl Girl is.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
And so I had this wonderful shocking moment when I'm watching the boys and, you know, maybe Kristen said it out loud first where she's like, fucking chase is so good in this. And I'm like, yeah, this dude's fucking awesome. It was like a huge revelation to me. I was like, well, this dude has got no vanity. You're the butt of every joke, and you are just fucking driving straight into it, and you're not Protecting yourself at all.
Chace Crawford
So where you got to play that. That character? It's the only way to do it.
Dax Shepard
But a lot of actors would get vain, and they would just wink enough to go, I want you to know I'm in on it.
Chace Crawford
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Dax Shepard
It's very tempting to go. I want the audience to know I'm a little in on it.
Chace Crawford
I've always appreciated in the women I think of, like, Margot Robbie, even on snl, that she's not afraid to go there. And to be crazy or ugly for comedy, the way to go about is. Have no ego about it. I think even Anthony, who plays Homelander on the show, came into it and had the same thought about me. Like, this asshole's gonna try and alpha me out. And it is just not the right way to play it. So we had a good time. Show.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. You're so goddamn good.
Chace Crawford
And I.
Dax Shepard
It's very impressive. Yeah, you're great. And then your body. Oh, my God. Oh, my God.
Lily Padman
Your body.
Dax Shepard
Oh, man, do we amp. We ratcheted up the training for that.
Chace Crawford
I did.
Dax Shepard
What was the approach? No pasta. No more up in Canada eating spaghetti.
Chace Crawford
I'll never do it again. It was bad for six months. I got so excited for this role, and I'm like, I'm gonna get shredded or jacked. You know, just for fun for me, of course. And I don't know what the suit's gonna be. It was sleeveless. Whatever. They didn't give us a trainer. I was like, what? I'm doing on my own. But I did the keto thing for six months. It was good for, like, a few months, and it was brutal. After that, I had to stop it.
Dax Shepard
I know people think it's vain and everything, but the sensation of having control over that.
Chace Crawford
I was just about to say it gives you control in a way. It's a healthy. I was able to channel my obsession kind of into that without going overboard. And it was a lot of fun, you know, like, have time to do that too. If you're an actor and you're not working, or if you are, but it's. If you're off, it's the only way to, like, structure your day. I feel, like, around a workout or something. It's mentally, for me, like, yeah, I have to do it.
Dax Shepard
There's a lot of great performances on that show, but Anthony's is fucking outrageous.
Chace Crawford
Outrageous.
Dax Shepard
It is outrageous. When Chris and I watch the show, we love the fucking boys so much. We're like, the fact that this guy hasn't won Every single Emmy is absolutely insane.
Chace Crawford
Insane. He's even been nominated once.
Dax Shepard
Despicable. And yet he has these turns where I feel bad for him.
Chace Crawford
And he's funny sometimes.
Dax Shepard
He's hilarious, man. Is that a performance? And so I'm at a restaurant like six months ago, and I see him and then we're like, hey. We stand up and we hug. And I'm like, oh, my God, it's so great to meet you finally. And he goes, yeah, yeah, since New Zealand. And I was like, what's he talking about? And he goes, you know, I'm without a paddle. And all of a sudden I was like, oh, my God. Do you remember? You watched it for the reunion. I know, but we have a dead friend. The whole movie's about our dead friend Bill. Billy Newwood. Yeah, he played Billy New guy. And I'm like, oh, my God.
Chace Crawford
And I've seen it.
Dax Shepard
I'm like, dude, nothing could be more out of context. I met you in New Zealand 20 years ago. And yes, now of course I realize.
Lily Padman
Show the dead boy.
Chace Crawford
They show him. Yeah, yeah.
Dax Shepard
In the, like, our flashback scenes, we're like, I'm wearing a leather jacket and we're like, young and cool. Right?
Chace Crawford
Right.
Dax Shepard
He was.
Chace Crawford
Billy. He's from.
Dax Shepard
He's from New Zealand.
Chace Crawford
You meet him, he's like, hey, mate, how you doing? You know.
Dax Shepard
Oh, wow.
Chace Crawford
Different than Homelander. It's great.
Dax Shepard
Where did the guy who created it, his name starts with a K. Eric Kripke. Where did he come from?
Chace Crawford
He came from Supernatural. I know that show with Jensen Ackles and Padalecki. Jensen was on our show as well. It was great. Shot a long ass run, that show.
Dax Shepard
Civil War guy. What was his name?
Chace Crawford
Yeah, Soldier Boy. Soldier boy. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. He's got a spin off. They're doing.
Dax Shepard
Yeah.
Chace Crawford
Oh, they are? Yeah, they're doing a spin off.
Dax Shepard
That's a great character.
Chace Crawford
Like a prequel. I don't know all the details, but yeah, it's good.
Lily Padman
Are you so excited? You get to play kind of like a weirdo. So against what people think about you.
Chace Crawford
It was so refreshing to me. We had a day, like fourth episode, they had a full series order because of Seth Rogen and Evan Goldberg. Like, they were behind us. They got the full order.
Dax Shepard
Yeah, yeah.
Chace Crawford
I'm like, we're middle of the show. I'm like, are the people gonna like this? Because I was like, you know, squirting down the dolphin, like talking to some inanimate dolphin in the back, and they're moving the van and like, Anthony's over there, like in an airplane, not saving anyone because he's like, oh, fuck you guys. It was amazing. We're like, are people gonna, like, connect with it? And people felt really tonally weird.
Dax Shepard
So he came from Supernatural. Were Seth and Evan around at all?
Chace Crawford
They were actually. They didn't come to set that often. They would be at the press stuff, but they would send me emails like, dude, this one line you ad lib. I keep replaying it. Like they were watching. I was like, oh, that's really cool. Like, Evan would like, email me sometimes. And they were just super fans of the show. There really are, like comic book fans at heart. And they just wanted to, like, do what they love.
Dax Shepard
Now, did they have you in mind or did you have to really win them over for this? How did you get it?
Chace Crawford
I don't know the entire genesis of it. I remember them landing on. They want to cast people that aren't all their famous friends, basically.
Dax Shepard
Right.
Chace Crawford
So they wanted to read everyone for it. And Kripke was in every room for every single, I think, except Anthony. I think Anthony was in New Zealand, made some tape and they're like, we want that guy. I remember going in and it was like 60 people. I saw the thing. I'm like, oh. I realize. I'm like, I'm last of the day.
Dax Shepard
What's the worst name you saw on the list? And I don't mean they're bad, but you're just like, oh, I'm fucked.
Chace Crawford
Like actors, you know, you mean well.
Dax Shepard
I'll give you an example. I remember going in for Baby Mama and I'm sitting in the waiting room and he's not next to me, James Gordon. And he's telling me they just flew him from London for this callback. And I go, well, I'm done. They're not spending 15 grand to bring this guy from London here. But these moments in auditions where you're just like, I'm dead.
Chace Crawford
I remember recognizing some names and some friends who had like Ben. They weren't actually in the room because I was like, last. I remember being upset. These people aren't gonna. It's like a Tuesday, 60 people all day. And I didn't even realize that Kripke was going to be in the room at the time. I didn't really know. Maybe he was like the creator, maybe I knew he's like a producer, but I remember being just irritated. And that's kind of the best. Sometimes the best state to be.
Dax Shepard
Cuz you, like, you kind of don't care.
Chace Crawford
At that point, you just don't care. You're not. Don't have this air of like, hi, like, nice to meet you.
Dax Shepard
I can't get it now.
Chace Crawford
You know, I remember it's before the holidays. I'm like, they're not even going to remember this. They're going to go on hiatus, top of the year. They're going to keep recasting it, bring it back in for a million different reads. So I was literally the last person in there. And I was kind of mad. Just kind of went in there and did it. And I kind of heard Kri chuckling in the corner. And then he was like, okay, try do it. Like, you know, he kind of throw me a few improv things.
Dax Shepard
And, you know, the lob lobster was your thing.
Chace Crawford
And then it was that. And then an intense scene with Starlight, Aaron's character. They changed it in the pilot, in the real pilot with what I actually do, which is a crazy thing.
Dax Shepard
Sexually assaulter. Yeah.
Chace Crawford
That wasn't in any of the pilots or anything.
Dax Shepard
Okay. They were holding that.
Chace Crawford
Yeah. They were like, hey, this was like a big storyline jumping off for her character in the comics. And we're actually gonna put that back in. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You're gonna be the guy to do it. Oh, I remember being very nervous. Me too. Was going out. I was like, oh, God, this is terrible. Yeah.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. A lot of people were like, I'm not playing that. I don't want to play that.
Chace Crawford
I remember being like, okay, I'm just going to own this. We're going to talk about it and talk about it. We can get this thing right. And they did. Took it with very great care. And I was nervous, as all you know about that airing. And like, oh, my God, what are people going to say? Is this going to be the right timing? And not wanting to be a big joke either. Like, we were making fun of it. They did in a very real way. And it was dark. That was kind of the theme of the show. Like, you don't want to meet your heroes.
Dax Shepard
The way they handle the tonal shifts on that show is sublime. It's like you get every single thing you could want in a show in that thing.
Chace Crawford
Crippy's genius. Yeah.
Dax Shepard
You're bringing back so many audition memories. Thinking of sitting in the room, I can tell you. I've been numerous occasions, like, I have an audition where I'm going to have to cry, and I'm like, yeah, I can't do that on cue. Right. And you're sitting there, you can hear a guy who's three feet away divided by. By a paper door and this guy's balling. And I can hear it.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
And you're just like, oh, I'm so
Chace Crawford
toss the paper there.
Dax Shepard
You want to leave. You go. I said just get up right now.
Lily Padman
That's when you go in and you're like, so I'm making a different choice.
Chace Crawford
And it's a choice I presume you guys saw crying.
Lily Padman
So I'm gonna do this other thing that's very hard to do also.
Chace Crawford
He's like a trained British dude. Of course.
Dax Shepard
Like, oh my God, you're arc on the show. Yeah. You sexually assault someone terrible. Then you got to rehab your public Persona and you join this very Scientology esque church.
Chace Crawford
Amazing.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. Lose your autonomy in there. And then they pair you with a wife and then she ditches you and then you find love with an octopus. Like, have you pushed back ever? I imagine after season one, they've built now some confidence with you. Like these can pull off anything. So I'm now I can go with God, you and her, like season two, just going like, oh yeah, I'll snorkel beer out of someone's ass. Like I'll do anything they say, cuz they can land the plane.
Chace Crawford
Yeah. I mean, season two was great because they had this mushroom tea thing and I was like tripping with the gills and talking to them. I thought that was so great and funny. But then season two, well, Crypty called me up and he's like, have you seen like my octopus teacher? And I was like, yeah.
Lily Padman
He's like, where you going?
Chace Crawford
Seem like that guy was like trying to the octopus. I was like kind of, what are you talking about, man? Like, that's your storyline. I remember being hesitant, but then he was like, no, no, no. But it's real. Like you can't connect with humans. That's like your safe space. And you keep her like in a tank in your closet.
Dax Shepard
Yeah.
Chace Crawford
You're kind of mean. She feels like a secret and she's
Lily Padman
ashamed of her very.
Chace Crawford
He's like, you're reading poetry to me. She's brilliant.
Dax Shepard
You fucking didn't clean her tank, man.
Chace Crawford
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Dax Shepard
Not only will you not let her be in the tank by your bed, but like is filthy.
Lily Padman
Well, people can't see, but she's sitting
Dax Shepard
in there in a murky.
Lily Padman
You know what? It's kind of like when people fell in love with their slaves.
Chace Crawford
Munchausen syndrome kind of thing.
Lily Padman
Well, no, like really, when people Fell in love with their slaves, but they were still enslaved. And it was like, you're over there, but I'm gonna. Yeah, maybe I will cut that.
Dax Shepard
Yeah, we'll probably take.
Lily Padman
I make the decisions.
Dax Shepard
Yeah, yeah, you'll. You'll decide. Hopefully you're in a good mood.
Lily Padman
But also, Munchausen's I'm very interested in as well.
Dax Shepard
That's her favorite.
Lily Padman
Munchausen.
Dax Shepard
Two favorite topics are CTE and Munchausen.
Chace Crawford
Really interesting.
Dax Shepard
If you met someone who. There's. Munchausen. Was claiming they had cte, you would spray.
Lily Padman
Oh, I see. Like, part of their Munchausen is that.
Dax Shepard
Oh, faking that they had cte.
Lily Padman
Hold on.
Chace Crawford
You know, let's be honest.
Lily Padman
I don't want someone with cte. I'm just always on the lookout for cte. I just think it's everywhere. I think a lot of people have it.
Dax Shepard
She thinks 60% you might have it.
Lily Padman
You played football, so hate to tell.
Chace Crawford
I might actually.
Lily Padman
I had a couple concussions.
Dax Shepard
And she has looked many guests in the face and said, do you think you have ct? There could be nothing scarier to evaluate is whether or not you're about to turn now.
Chace Crawford
I'm not sure.
Lily Padman
Maybe.
Dax Shepard
Thanks for suggesting that.
Lily Padman
Yeah, you should get that early checked out.
Dax Shepard
I did lose my temper at the grocery store yesterday, so.
Lily Padman
Yeah, exactly.
Chace Crawford
I've been volatile recently. Yeah.
Dax Shepard
My God. Now I hear that it's the biggest show on Prime. Do you have any sense of, like, how big it is? I want to know. I want to understand.
Chace Crawford
I want to know, too. I guess they don't release the numbers they say it is.
Dax Shepard
It's a very global show.
Chace Crawford
It is. Which was kind of shocking because humor, that's the one thing they want is like, a global show nowadays. And it was shocking that our show, the humor crossed over.
Dax Shepard
All people are disgusting. It turns out everyone's a dirt bag.
Chace Crawford
Superhero genre was saturated with the same formulaic storyline. Anytime the show comes out, there is, like, an influx of people like, you know, flight attendant. Like, oh, my God, you can tell people are watching it. Even in, like, Europe to Brazil, like, people are crazy about the show. It's a good feeling, you know? Yeah, it's really nice.
Lily Padman
They just cannot miss.
Chace Crawford
No.
Dax Shepard
They're so goddamn talented.
Lily Padman
They're so good.
Chace Crawford
I'll say, though. Even internationally, though, it's more Gossip Girl stuff.
Dax Shepard
That was hugely syndicated. Right.
Lily Padman
I sometimes turn it on for a little comfort show.
Chace Crawford
Good background.
Lily Padman
Good old background.
Dax Shepard
2009, you got people's Summer's hottest Bachelor.
Chace Crawford
Did I. You did.
Dax Shepard
I would be both extremely flattered. And, like, that's so specific. Did you have to make up this category? Summer's Hottest Look. People's. Summer's Hottest Bachelor. Such a specific award.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Lily Padman
Congratulations. 2009.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
My heyday. This is unfair on me. But what happened with Footloose? Why were you rehearsing for that?
Chace Crawford
Yeah, that was an interesting story.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. What happened?
Chace Crawford
I remember really wanting it. It was Kenny Ortega, who's amazing. I remember telling him. I'm like, I can't sing or dance. It was an interesting challenge because they're like, no, we're gonna, like, learn into this thing. And they're like, we're gonna fly you out and do a big screen test. And I rehearsed for it a little bit, but they were just kind of testing out if I was even trainable. You know, basic body wear, connected with your body. Right. And I had a whole day of that. And what was funny about that day, they put in this, like, reader to read Opposite Me, a female actress. And she was really good and natural, and we'd eat lunch, and she was cool. From Kentucky is Jennifer Lawrence.
Lily Padman
Jennifer Lawrence as the reader?
Chace Crawford
Yeah, as the reader. And she was, like, 17. Probably hadn't even done that first. Winter's Bone had done Winter's Bone. Definitely not yet. But her be really cool. I was like, hey, thank you for being there with me, like, all day. She was like, yeah, it was really good and whatever. But I remember it was Jennifer.
Lily Padman
That's so funny.
Chace Crawford
So I did that, and I felt good about it. You know, Kenny Ortega was like, oh, it's great. You know, you do this thing. And I think they wanted to go in a totally different direction. At some point, they hired a new director. Like, oh, but you're still gonna be the guy. I had signed a contract that I didn't even know what this meant, pay or play at the time.
Dax Shepard
So that's my dream.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Lily Padman
Yeah.
Chace Crawford
Never happened since you get paid whether you do the thing or not. So I remember being kind of irritated it didn't work out because I, like the new director. Craig Brewer seemed to be a cool guy, and they went, like, maybe darker with it, but I get it. They hired. I forget his name, but they hired Dancer. I remember doing a screen test with Julian Huff. That's right. And she was phenomenal dancing. And she got me there, and she made me look good.
Dax Shepard
Drug you along.
Chace Crawford
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Dax Shepard
Literally, like, threw me around.
Chace Crawford
I was like, she's gonna be great. I have fun with her doing that screen test. But anyway, I remember, like, go with God. That's great. And I got paid to do it.
Dax Shepard
Oh.
Chace Crawford
I felt like I'm like, I probably would have not been able to dance
Lily Padman
or sing properly, but ego wise, that hurts because it's like, oh my God, they don't want me so badly that they're gonna pay me anyway.
Chace Crawford
Yeah, yeah, yeah. No, totally. I remember feeling okay with it. I got, hey, I got paid enough to not do this thing and I don't have to sing and dance. I got out of it.
Lily Padman
They don't have to do. Why would they do that?
Dax Shepard
Because they need you committed. And then likewise, they can sue you for that money if you don't show up. So it's like, it's a mutually assured annihilation kind of situation. But the only time it happened to me where it was really great is I got fired from Will and Grace.
Chace Crawford
Really?
Dax Shepard
Yeah. Episode of Will and Grace in a table read.
Chace Crawford
Come on. That's a crazy story because they always tell you you're not going to get fired at the table read, but it happens.
Dax Shepard
I'm going further and said that. They kind of begged me to do it. I was like, I was too busy. I'm doing this show, but I'm friends with Sean Hayes. Finally I'll do it all to come in and just get fired.
Chace Crawford
That's hilarious.
Dax Shepard
But they were like, you know, of course they're gonna still pay you. I was like, okay, that's kind of cool. And then that same week, Netflix called and they're like, do you wanna be a guest judge on this cooking show? And it's X amount of money. So I just remember that day being on there and being like, oh, wow, I'm getting paid for Will and Grace right now. And this cooking show worked out. Fuck. I finally got my dream come true. Amazing.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
Double dipping.
Chace Crawford
That's great. That's great.
Dax Shepard
We share in common that we've both been directed by Lake Bell.
Chace Crawford
I love Lake Belle. Yeah. Jingzie Nance.
Lily Padman
I just saw her yesterday.
Chace Crawford
Did you?
Lily Padman
She's the best.
Chace Crawford
She's the best.
Lily Padman
You gotta go to her auction thing next time she does this auction.
Chace Crawford
I love to.
Lily Padman
Okay.
Dax Shepard
I'll tell you, I love auctions. I never miss an auction. Well, they were right, these people that told us. You're a fucking champ, Chase, man.
Chace Crawford
Thank you.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. Season five obviously just started airing.
Chace Crawford
Just came out. Yeah, last week.
Lily Padman
So exciting.
Dax Shepard
I know you've already been asked this and I think think you're smart. Insane that the Deep is a Tricky character to try to have his own show because you need some kind of redemption. He's not a fun character if he's redeemed in some weird way.
Chace Crawford
Right, right, right, right.
Dax Shepard
But with all that said, how do we keep doing the deep man?
Chace Crawford
I'll tell you. I pitched them a spinoff, like, three years ago. Evan and Kripke, loose pitch. Like, over, like. Like email. Or maybe it was in person. Like, it was. I mean, in hindsight, it might have been before Barry, but it was like, what if he's, like, a shitty actor? He's kicked out and he's like a D list actor. You do, like, some really funny B movie. But it was like, you see him shooting the bad movie, like Tropic Thunder. But it's like, Barry, it was kind of all over the place pitch. But I was like, what if he has to come to LA and we'll make fun of the industry type of thing? They liked it. Like, oh, yeah. But, like, you know, now it's like, no one's opening the wallets to do many things, but how do we keep them? He doesn't have to be fully redeemed, but it would be fun to, like, do a half hour comedy.
Dax Shepard
All right, well, you probably have other plans, but I don't hate the idea of you playing the deep in your free time.
Lily Padman
You could be president.
Chace Crawford
It could be.
Lily Padman
Be like, idiocracy.
Chace Crawford
That's a good idea.
Dax Shepard
Yeah.
Lily Padman
You know.
Dax Shepard
All right, well, Chase, what a delight. This has been so fun. Everyone was right.
Chace Crawford
Pleasure, man.
Dax Shepard
And everyone should check out the boys. Sincerely, if you don't watch the boys. Who was I just talking to that said they had a. Oh, fucking Tyler outside. I couldn't believe Tyler on it. I'm like, what do you hate to laugh at?
Chace Crawford
Oh, you guys are fans, man. No, thank you. Oh, huge.
Dax Shepard
Huge. And then our friend Anna.
Lily Padman
Anna, she loves it. We got screened dinners and I tried to give them to her. That's illegal. It didn't work anyway, so she was pissed.
Dax Shepard
Yeah, leave that in. Or not. That'll be like. With the slavery thing, whether you're okay.
Lily Padman
I'm not staying.
Dax Shepard
All right, Great meeting you.
Chace Crawford
Nice to meet you too, man.
Dax Shepard
Good luck with everything.
Chace Crawford
Thank you, guys.
Dax Shepard
I sure hope there weren't any mistakes in that episode, but we'll find out when my mom, Mrs. Monica, comes in and tells us what was wrong. We were just discussing what your nephew, Right.
Lily Padman
Yes. What my nephew will call me.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
Because the girl's called Carly. Titi.
Lily Padman
Yes. Which is so cute.
Dax Shepard
And Is her permanent name now.
Lily Padman
I know. No, I. I forget. Her name's Carly sometimes.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. I only call her Titi. I call her Titi to her face. I like it. It's so cute. It's so much more endearing.
Lily Padman
Exactly. Nicknames are always better than non nicknames. Sorry.
Dax Shepard
Well, not always, but sure.
Lily Padman
Well, if they're mean, those are slurs.
Dax Shepard
You do occasionally meet someone, you're like, oh, that's your nickname.
Lily Padman
Really?
Dax Shepard
What's your real name? Like Blaze. You know, Gunner. Gunner.
Lily Padman
Oh, guys, those aren't nicknames, okay? Okay. Those are like pseudonym. Those are like. They took that on as their person. But a nickname, a shortened or cute version of your name or something people call you to be. To love you is so. It's the best. The best.
Dax Shepard
Best dad. I cherish dad.
Lily Padman
Yeah, that's the best.
Dax Shepard
Aaron calls me.
Lily Padman
Yeah, that one's. Really.
Dax Shepard
No one else does.
Lily Padman
Well, two people do. Three people do, including Aaron.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. Yeah. And TT Sometimes. Yep.
Chace Crawford
Huh.
Dax Shepard
And you Sometimes. I'm sad. Rob. Rob's never called me dad or Daddy.
Lily Padman
Oh, Rob. You don't have to call me Daddy.
Chace Crawford
Okay, HR I'll go with Daddy.
Dax Shepard
I'll do.
Lily Padman
Oh, my God.
Chace Crawford
I just.
Dax Shepard
That would be such a wonderfully uncomfortable thing for you and I to have as a bit that in public, he called me Daddy. And he would be like, what an unhealthy work environment.
Lily Padman
Exactly, Exactly.
Dax Shepard
In front of a guest. In front of guest.
Lily Padman
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
Do you want your coffee, Daddy?
Lily Padman
Daddy, are you ready for your coffee?
Dax Shepard
If you're my son, I mean, the age gap is such that they might think you're my son.
Lily Padman
Well, you do look quite young, Rob. Wobby wob.
Dax Shepard
How old are you again, Rob? 37. Yeah, no problem.
Lily Padman
No problem.
Dax Shepard
13, 14. I'm 51.
Lily Padman
You're 12 years older than me. So you're 13 years older than Rob.
Dax Shepard
Look, he's 37. I'm 51. That's 14.
Lily Padman
But you're January.
Dax Shepard
Although I'm June. I'm almost 30.
Lily Padman
Yeah. June.
Dax Shepard
He's close to January. Okay. I have a funny story.
Lily Padman
Oh, great.
Dax Shepard
So you may remember that I was asked to go speak at Delta's class about Malala.
Lily Padman
Yeah, yeah.
Dax Shepard
Which was a little stressful because I'm not an expert on Malala. I certainly did my research.
Lily Padman
So she did a report, right?
Dax Shepard
Delta, they had a whole section on her. They had read her maybe both of her books. And, you know, they really got into everything that happened in Pakistan. And then. So Ms. Brown, who I love, shout out Ms. Brown. She invited me to talk about Malala. And then, of course, it evolved into, like, the boys asking me what sports stars we interviewed, which was hilarious. What's so funny is I couldn't. On the spot, I couldn't think of anyone.
Lily Padman
Tom Brady.
Dax Shepard
Well, I got to him.
Lily Padman
Okay.
Dax Shepard
But mind you, we've had so many. Like, I couldn't remember Shad, Andy Roddick.
Lily Padman
Oh. Oh, Lord.
Dax Shepard
Right? I was just, like, one of the ones, like, you ever interview any sports? You know?
Lily Padman
Yeah. So. Dwayne Wade, Yo.
Dax Shepard
Yeah, there's been a million. But I did. I was like, oh, yeah. Well, I've done a lot of. And I'm like, I've done a lot of NBA players. I know. I've done some NFL players. And then I go, oh, Tom Brady. That's the one I came up with.
Lily Padman
Okay. In this kid, literally, we could say Simone Biles, but she won't. Come on. We would have said you. We would have said it.
Dax Shepard
I'd remember her the most.
Lily Padman
Yep.
Dax Shepard
But this. I said, tom Brady. And this boy shot out of his chair. He couldn't sit in his chair. He said, you interviewed Tom. It was so funny. Anyways, that was that. I did that. So Lincoln's whole seventh grade class is doing a whole segment on. For, I think, literature or English or whatever. A whole segment on podcasting. Like, for, I guess, months, they're gonna learn about podcasting, and then I think they're all gonna make. Make a podcast. Right.
Lily Padman
Oh, she has such a leg up.
Chace Crawford
Well, so one of the.
Dax Shepard
One of the teachers said, would, you know, would your dad be willing to come in and talk?
Lily Padman
Yes.
Dax Shepard
And then. So Lincoln asked me, and I said, yeah, of course. And so it was approaching. And then the night before, Lincoln was such a ball of nerves as. I totally understand. I mean, the notion of one of my parents coming into my seventh grade. I just.
Lily Padman
And you're a live wire. Live.
Dax Shepard
I'm a live wire. But I just would have been terrified, like, you know, for so many reasons. Like a. I hope they think they're cool. If they're not, I gotta fight everyone. If you think my mom. If you're mean to my mom. Now I gotta fight everyone.
Lily Padman
If anyone's, like, makes fun of you
Dax Shepard
or makes fun of my mom, everyone's dead.
Lily Padman
Okay.
Chace Crawford
Okay.
Dax Shepard
So anyways, so I know it's stressful, and I'm. I'm already honored she's even open to letting me come. I guess that says a lot. But the night before, she was like, okay, you cannot wear those. Your light Colored Levi's that have a hole in the back.
Lily Padman
That's fair. And I was like, okay, it's inappropriate.
Dax Shepard
You cannot wear a headband. And I go, okay, what do you think people are going to think? You know, I like to poke. What do you think? You know?
Lily Padman
What did you. What did she say?
Dax Shepard
Just don't wear it.
Lily Padman
It's drawing too much.
Dax Shepard
And then I said, okay, well, I'll just wear a hat. She goes, you cannot wear a hat. You can't imagine, Monica, what this list became of. Of things I could and could not wear.
Lily Padman
Yeah. Was it all aesthetic based or was it like, you can't say this or you can't.
Dax Shepard
No, it was all aesthetic. Well, okay. We had this bit going. This backs up a whole week. Thank goodness. The teacher urged the students to write out questions, like, last week. And so Lincoln said, I want to hear, like, what are your answers going to be to one of these questions? And also, I don't know why. We've been watching a good deal of British stuff. I don't know. That's in the mix. So I said, okay, let's workshop this. And you be Lincoln in this situation. Okay. This is a week ago.
Lily Padman
Okay.
Dax Shepard
And I said, ask me how many episodes we've done. Yes.
Lily Padman
Mr. Lincoln's dad.
Dax Shepard
Yeah.
Lily Padman
How many episodes of your podcast have you made?
Dax Shepard
A thousand. That's a lot, isn't it?
Chace Crawford
Ew.
Dax Shepard
Isn't it? Ew. It's a lot episodes, ain't it? What do you think?
Chace Crawford
Ain't it? It's so aggressive.
Lily Padman
It's so aggressive and loud. Like, why'd it get so loud?
Dax Shepard
I think what made it so funny for both of us is if anyone might do that, you know, there is just a thin threat of that. That's what makes it good. Of course I would never do that.
Lily Padman
Are you sure?
Dax Shepard
But she has seen me act bizarre enough that I'm sure some tinge of her is like, jesus, does he think he's gonna do this?
Chace Crawford
And I'm gonna laugh.
Lily Padman
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Dax Shepard
So I keep hitting her with ittin it all and then I am told all these things I gotta wear. Okay, so then you and I recorded someone. We had to record someone earlier than we normally do so that I could get there. That's why we did it.
Lily Padman
Oh, that makes sense.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. We had a 10am I know.
Lily Padman
And I didn't know why, but I figured it was just because it wasn't yesterday, was it?
Dax Shepard
It was two days ago.
Lily Padman
Two days ago.
Dax Shepard
Okay. So I left that interview And I think I was wearing a hat or I don't even know what the hell was going on. But the point is, is I went upstairs and I put on, like, all the appropriate, approved clothes. And then I got in front of the mirror and. Monica, I have never fretted over my hair, which in my way, worse than if I'm like, on my way to Kimmel, which I do my own hair when I'm on a talk show. I was in there like, fuck, this is it. And I was, like, wrestling with it, and I was like, fuck, it does not. It's so important I don't embarrass her.
Lily Padman
Oh, it's so cute. Because this. Yeah, I imagine, like, if I'm. If I'm putting myself as a little girl and my dad's coming to class and I'm like, oh, my God, imagine
Dax Shepard
that Ashok's on his way.
Lily Padman
Please do not. Just don't, don't, don't, don't. But then now cut to however many years, you know, 20 years later, since I'm so young.
Dax Shepard
Yeah.
Lily Padman
That if I heard that he was like, worried about his hair because I said that, like, oh, man.
Dax Shepard
Yeah.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Lily Padman
Anywho, how did it go?
Dax Shepard
Oh, so it was not just her class, you know, it was the entire seventh grade.
Lily Padman
How many people?
Dax Shepard
88.
Lily Padman
Okay.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. So first of all, I got there, greeted by one of the teachers. They're all so awesome. This is so lucky. I'm just so delighted with the school that goes to. Yeah. And of course they want to know. They want to know everything. They want to know what kind of show it is. It's an interview show. What makes a good interviewer. And then they want to know the mechanics of it. Right. Like, you record for how long, what's the editing process, like, all that kind of stuff. But at any rate, they did open it up to questions. And again, this is the incredible. Like, I can't even compute what happens at this school. Cause it's all girls.
Lily Padman
Oh, that's important to say it's all girls. Yeah.
Dax Shepard
One hand after another. Boom, boom. Every girl had a question. They're so confident and they're just, question, question, question. It was really, really fun. And Lincoln sat in the directly front row in front of me, and I said to her, I'm like, I thought you were more of like a burnout. Like I was. I thought you'd be in the back row trying to hide and. And, yeah, yeah. And then I took a big swing.
Chace Crawford
Uh huh.
Dax Shepard
What'd you do? I got asked. I Can't remember the exact wording of it, but I got asked, like, have I ever gotten really emotional in one of the interviews or something like that? Yeah.
Lily Padman
Wow, that's an astute question.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. But it was.
Chace Crawford
It was a little.
Dax Shepard
I wish I could remember the particulars. However the question was, it led me to. And soon as I started talking about, I was like, this is a disaster. But I. I'm pot committed. I've already begun talking about it. Which was Dove Cameron.
Lily Padman
Oh, I thought about your mom.
Dax Shepard
No, just as bad. I said, does anyone know Dove Cameron? All of them know Dove Cameron.
Lily Padman
Okay, Right. Well, they should start listening.
Dax Shepard
Well, they're. They're young.
Lily Padman
I was going to ask how many do you convert? Like, honestly, we need them. That's the age I'd say of this.
Dax Shepard
88, maybe six are in. Yeah. That's pretty good. Pick up six listeners.
Lily Padman
Okay. So they all knew Dove.
Dax Shepard
They all knew Dove. And I'm explaining the episode and I
Lily Padman
told them what happened to her.
Dax Shepard
Yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh, her father died by suicide.
Lily Padman
Yes.
Dax Shepard
And she thought he didn't love her.
Lily Padman
Yeah. It's horrifying. It's so sad.
Dax Shepard
And then she found this box.
Lily Padman
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
And she found this baby book. And in it he had written my best friend.
Lily Padman
Yeah. That's the saddest.
Dax Shepard
And then as I'm telling it, of course, I'm back in the moment that I totally broke down the first time we heard the story.
Lily Padman
Such a. Yeah.
Dax Shepard
And then here's the biggest. This could have been career ending for me as a parent. And I said. And I was very emotional because this little person's my best friend.
Lily Padman
Oh. And then what did she.
Dax Shepard
That could have been really embarrassing for her.
Lily Padman
No.
Dax Shepard
And I don't think so. She looked at me and smiled. So fair. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And then I rode home and I got another helmet. And then I came back and I picked her up and we rode home together. And she said she was really proud of me.
Lily Padman
Oh.
Dax Shepard
All told, it went well, but high stakes again. I don't get nervous to go speak in front of people. People. And I was. I was very nervous.
Lily Padman
You should. Yeah. I'm glad you took it seriously.
Dax Shepard
Her only complaint was the way I was calling on people. I got a little too animated when I was calling you. Oh, my God.
Chace Crawford
Great.
Dax Shepard
Back row. You know, that I was getting. I was getting pumped. Especially if someone seemed shyer. I was like really trying to.
Lily Padman
Oh, that's the.
Dax Shepard
Celebrate them the worst.
Lily Padman
Cuz they want. They like, they're already nervous. And then you make. Listen. So we had that day. The interview that we did in the morning that you were coming from was also a very.
Dax Shepard
I told them about it.
Lily Padman
Oh, my God.
Dax Shepard
Because they asked me if I ever interviewed a killer.
Lily Padman
Well, that. We can't tell people that. Well, I guess we can. Guys, there's a. There's an interesting.
Dax Shepard
I've not interviewed a killer that I know of, but one hour ago.
Lily Padman
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
And I told him that.
Lily Padman
Okay. And then that episode. Okay. Also has any parent, like, reached out, like, hey, please don't ever.
Dax Shepard
Hey.
Lily Padman
It was a little inappropriate for you to bring up.
Dax Shepard
I was debating those things because I got into real dicey. I did paint myself into a corner really quick. I had, like, a panic because they asked me who I'd want to interview. That's dead. And I was like, oh, my God. We just had this kind of debate on the podcast, and all of a sudden I'm saying, I'd interview Jesus. And this is a. This is a Catholic school.
Lily Padman
Well, that's. They probably like that more.
Dax Shepard
But I was saying why I want to interview him is I'd love to be able to look at him and see, like. Like, is this guy really. I was just honest.
Lily Padman
You said that?
Dax Shepard
I did. I said. And then I realized later, after I had given that answer, that I just assumed I'll be talking to him in English. And I remembered, this guy doesn't speak English. I'm saying all this in front of the. And the teachers are around, and I'm like, sorry to go.
Lily Padman
Oh, God. Oh, my God.
Dax Shepard
I said. And then I realized, oh, he doesn't speak English. And then I said, but then I realized, oh, well, that would be the proof. If he magically just started speaking English, I'd be like, wow, this is. This guy really is the son of God. I said all that.
Lily Padman
That's crazy.
Dax Shepard
It was an hour and 40 minutes. Okay, that's a long time to get me talking where I'm not gonna. But the teachers did not mind it. I. I was, like, checking in with them a little bit, and I think they're just like, yeah, we're here to debate this.
Lily Padman
Okay, well, that's cool. Did you mention JonBenet Ramsey? She was an important part of that conversation.
Dax Shepard
I did not bring up.
Lily Padman
John, what if you were like, you know, there was a girl about you,
Dax Shepard
your age, Boy, I want to look out at you guys.
Lily Padman
I can't help but think of, yeah, okay. Well, that's awesome that you did that.
Dax Shepard
I'm just basing it on, like, Lincoln's hip. She knows what's going on. I'm just granting the rest of them the same like cognitive aptitude as her.
Lily Padman
It's not, but it's not okay. I. What I wouldn't. What I would push back a second on. They can be smart and thoughtful and curious, but a lot. There is a wide range of, of how exposed that age is.
Dax Shepard
There's a wide range, but I don't. They're all watching Netflix. They're all listening to the news like they know what's going on in the world. They know there's murderers. They know people do and don't believe in God. Like they, they're not 8 year olds.
Chace Crawford
And.
Dax Shepard
And I just, I. I always hated being pandered to.
Lily Padman
I know. That's what I'm saying. You're. You're doing some pretty rejection because you, you hated that.
Dax Shepard
Possibly. And. Or so some percentage. Yes.
Lily Padman
Did you bring up anything sexual?
Dax Shepard
Nothing sexual.
Lily Padman
Oh my God.
Dax Shepard
Thank you. Yeah, no, I. That's. It's an all girls school. I'm an old dude. No, I was somehow. Thank goodness anyone was hot or anything.
Lily Padman
Oh my God.
Dax Shepard
Not the students, the guests. None of our guests. I was. I didn't say any of our guests were hot. You know who was the sexiest guests we ever had? What have I said that.
Lily Padman
Oh my God.
Dax Shepard
Like I know nobody asks question in. Yeah, nobody asks but I know you're thinking it anyway. I do. I am. I am. I am a firm believer in the fact that the kids know way more than you think they do and it's okay to talk about things. If they get to see murders and stuff, then we can talk about everything.
Lily Padman
I guess that's true.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
I think the whole like protecting people from topics is the way to navigate topics.
Lily Padman
But I also don't think they're going to be protect like, like I think just because I didn't talk to my parents about certain things didn't mean I was like sheltered in the world. You, you talk to your friends about it and you figured out that's always.
Dax Shepard
My point is like yeah, you found out all of them but you found out from peers and it would have been cool to have the parents perspective as an adult who's been through some stuff.
Lily Padman
Yeah. Well, I'm glad it went well. I do think you failed on a like big opportunity to get us some listeners. Well, yeah. Armchair. Did you bring up Armchair Anonymous?
Dax Shepard
Yeah, I think, I think Lincoln did.
Lily Padman
See, she's doing the Lord's work. Ding ding, ding for us.
Dax Shepard
Stay tuned. For more Armchair Expert, if you dare. Well, what's problematic about Armchair Anonymous? I just, you know, I say, like, we do a show. I was explaining Mondays, Wednesdays, Fridays, and I was talking about our. Our workflow, you know, interviews with listeners. Yeah, we don't have a single prompt that's really cool to tell them about Armchair Anonymous. Well, you want to talk about Dicey
Lily Padman
Water, but they're all listening.
Dax Shepard
Well, the funny thing is, is that is the show they would want to listen to.
Lily Padman
Yeah, exactly.
Dax Shepard
But I wasn't really free to promote it because, again, the topic I wouldn't have felt comfortable.
Lily Padman
No, you just say. Well, because there's one topic that pops in your mind all the time, but we have others.
Dax Shepard
It's like evacuation.
Lily Padman
Yeah, you don't have to do that one either.
Dax Shepard
It's like, all I could think about when they. They wanted to know what the show was about is just all I kept thinking about is the guy who cut his own penis off. I was like, don't tell that your brain does that. You're like, whatever you do, do not mention. It's like the second that question was asked, I just thought of that penis thing. I was like. And that's all I could think about is, don't say that. Okay, example.
Lily Padman
Okay, well, would you.
Dax Shepard
Would that story have popped into your mind?
Lily Padman
No, never.
Dax Shepard
Which one would have popped?
Lily Padman
I guess I would have been like, oh, tell us about a. A bad job interview or tell us about a meet queue.
Dax Shepard
Oh, yeah, we do have nice ones.
Lily Padman
Yeah, there are definitely ones you could
Dax Shepard
have said, yeah, water parks is this week.
Lily Padman
Water park parks.
Dax Shepard
Water parks.
Lily Padman
Those are great.
Dax Shepard
But then nasty stuff happen at the water park.
Lily Padman
You don't have to tell them what happens. They're really funny stories that all am.
Dax Shepard
Nasty.
Lily Padman
People love to. People your age tend to listen and love them. You just. You just give them the links and then have them click. In fact. So Lincoln is running for an office at school, and I haven't told her this yet, but.
Dax Shepard
Okay.
Lily Padman
When she wins. Yeah, I hope. Maybe, like, I'm just, like, hoping she's in charge of the announcements or something.
Dax Shepard
Okay.
Lily Padman
Okay. And then she can play clips and slowly convert.
Chace Crawford
Okay.
Lily Padman
A whole school.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. Yeah, you gotta think future leaders.
Lily Padman
Exactly. Gotta think ahead.
Dax Shepard
Like, I look out at that audience of. Of young ladies, and I was like, these girls got it.
Lily Padman
I know.
Dax Shepard
Like, they're. They're such badasses.
Lily Padman
So cool.
Dax Shepard
I was in the audience. I. I saw myself. She was in the dead back row.
Lily Padman
Oh, no.
Dax Shepard
I have a question. I Have two questions. One was legit. She goes. Second question. Why haven't you interviewed me? When are you going to interview me? And I'm like, all you gotta do is win a Nobel Peace Prize. I got a seat open for you.
Lily Padman
So she's funny.
Dax Shepard
Later. Second round of questioning. Right back at it. When am I gonna be on the show?
Lily Padman
She didn't know that the.
Dax Shepard
Okay, like, this is me. I'm looking at me.
Lily Padman
Yeah. Does Lincoln get along with her?
Dax Shepard
Yeah, I asked her about her specifically. I'm like, I like that girl in the back row. And she's like, yeah, she's got, you know, problems.
Chace Crawford
No, no, no, no, no.
Lily Padman
She's considered the bad kid.
Dax Shepard
And I guess we had this, but we never said it this way, but they have friendship groups.
Lily Padman
Oh yeah.
Dax Shepard
And they're like delineated and everyone knows what friendship group they're in. And like. And there's migration. Like someone will try to join a different friendship group and they all sit together and stuff.
Lily Padman
Yeah. Lunch.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. So that gal was not in her friendship group.
Lily Padman
Right.
Dax Shepard
Which is not to say she doesn't like her.
Chace Crawford
Yeah, yeah.
Dax Shepard
She doesn't dislike the people not in her friendship.
Lily Padman
Yes.
Dax Shepard
It's complex, man.
Lily Padman
Oh, I remember they. I remember it's. Remember it. It still exists. It still exists. It's actually really funny because I have a few new friends, which is weird. You know, as an adult, it's those of one weird to have new friends. And I have a few new friends and like they, they have friendship groups and I have a friendship group and it's like kind of weird to like cross pollinate. Yeah. And it, I guess it just never ends. Like you're like, oh, but would they like me? Well, because you know the podcast, I'm currently obsessed with one.
Dax Shepard
One person's in that podcast.
Lily Padman
Well, Aaron and Sarah's podcast.
Chace Crawford
Yeah.
Lily Padman
They're friends with one of my new friends.
Dax Shepard
Okay.
Lily Padman
And it's so strange.
Dax Shepard
Are you going back? Unless you are. You're how many? Like, what's your routine right now?
Lily Padman
I don't know. It's like every night or I feel weird about it.
Dax Shepard
Yeah.
Lily Padman
You don't want this to get back to them. But it will. Cuz we speak, clear it freely.
Dax Shepard
But you're like peak obsession right now.
Lily Padman
And I know what I know this is no offense to Aaron and said the podcast is great. Very. I mean obviously I find it extremely enjoyable.
Dax Shepard
Yeah.
Lily Padman
But what I think is like, oh, I'm self soothing somehow and I don't know what I don't Know why? Like, I don't know what's causing that.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. And why that's the salve.
Lily Padman
Yes. I think it probably has to do with moving into this big house and being by myself.
Dax Shepard
Okay.
Lily Padman
Maybe that, like, I have friends around in quotes around my house. You know, just, like, makes the house more lively.
Dax Shepard
So you have it playing throughout the house and you walk from room to room.
Lily Padman
I have that ability. I have speakers. But I just do carry my phone. I do know how.
Dax Shepard
Oh, okay.
Lily Padman
But I have found myself. I just carry my phone around.
Dax Shepard
Have you ever put the speaker?
Lily Padman
Yeah, I do. For music. I do. When I have friends over entertaining in
Dax Shepard
your new friendship group.
Lily Padman
Yeah. But maybe because it doesn't feel like they're with me if they're in the wall.
Dax Shepard
If you're not holding them.
Lily Padman
Yeah. And it's interesting.
Dax Shepard
I think it's an old sav. If I could. And I don't know the show. What I know is.
Lily Padman
And I say salve, but I just sal.
Dax Shepard
I say salv.
Lily Padman
I know you make it the L silent, so I don't know what's right.
Dax Shepard
Probably you. I always defer to you. So I know Aaron and Sarah. I've known Sarah for 22 years, I guess. And I like both of them so much. And so just let me say that.
Lily Padman
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
I've never listened to the show, so I don't. I don't really. I have no position to have this opinion, but I'm gonna have it anyways. You know, they're very popular girls. They're like hot, popular girls. And I think your sav was like, friends. Friends is very hot, popular kids.
Lily Padman
Yeah. Well, you mean people who liked Friends or the Friends?
Dax Shepard
The Friends. I mean, they're hot and popular. The whole America loves them. And they have got great style in the new hairdos. Like, they're fun.
Lily Padman
They're also weirdos. Like, Phoebe's a weirdo. And, like, Ross is a paleontologist. Hot one.
Dax Shepard
I think they represent very popular.
Lily Padman
Okay.
Dax Shepard
It's certainly not Seinfeld, where it's like, you've got Costanza and Richardson, whatever his name was on the Kramer. Kramer.
Lily Padman
Okay, here's. I don't think I agree with you, but I tangentially agree with you in that what I was so attracted to with the Friends is their intimacy. How much they loved each other unconditionally. How safe that group of people was. And I wanted that so badly, potentially. Aaron and Sarah are doing a similar thing. I know. I mean, I'm coming up with this real time. Maybe because they're sisters. Right. So there is this just like, unbreakable bond. Bond. Intimacy. That nothing. I mean, they're mean to each other. You know, they're really, like. Kind of. Sometimes I'm like, oh, my God, this is wild.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. They talk to each other. Like siblings talk.
Lily Padman
Yeah. And I don't have. I mean, I. And obviously I have a younger brother, but I don't have a sister. And I definitely. I always wish I had that. So maybe it's a little bit of that. Like, oh, I wish I had this. I mean, I have friends, but it's not the same.
Dax Shepard
There's a lot of things you'll have in life. You're not going to have a sister.
Lily Padman
That's the thing. There are a lot of things I can make happen for myself.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. I don't want to limit you, but I do want to tell you, you're not going to have a sister that's your age.
Lily Padman
Unless.
Dax Shepard
What could happen?
Lily Padman
Separated at birth, Reunited.
Dax Shepard
What if Nermie called you?
Lily Padman
He's like, I heard you. And I guess Monica. Hey, that was pretty good.
Chace Crawford
Thank you.
Lily Padman
Whoa. That was pretty good. I don't want to hear anymore.
Dax Shepard
I know. I knew you didn't want to.
Lily Padman
Weird. Going home to see her for Mother's Day weekend.
Dax Shepard
Oh, nice.
Lily Padman
Yeah.
Dax Shepard
Oh, one last thing. Last Friday, Lincoln had the day off school, so we went to the Go kart track. And we were on our way home, home from the Go kart track. And we were on Los Feliz Boulevard. And I said, oh, look, here I go. Oh, look, here's Monica's. We're coming up on Monica. I spotted your car from, like, a hundred yards back. So we were definitely coming up to get next to you. And it was what, timing. The universe smiled on us because right as we were catching you, an ambulance was coming through the intersection. So you were trying to get over in the right lane, but I had just slid into the right lane. And the look you gave me real time. And Link and I were both staring at you, and you, like, turned, and you. You're like, what the hell? Look with your eyes. And we were laughing.
Lily Padman
I know. Then it was you guys and I. Then I laughed, but I was still, like, go, like, there. The ambulance is trying to come.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. And it was fine. The ambulance went in the other lane.
Lily Padman
Really stressed me out.
Dax Shepard
It wasn't in our lane. It was in the.
Lily Padman
Uncomfortable. I know.
Dax Shepard
But still, you were doing what you're supposed to do. But I was there.
Lily Padman
I. And I was like, who is this fudgeing asshole. And it was not getting over and getting. Also preventing me from getting over. And it was you.
Dax Shepard
How much do you think, seeing her little face, smiling, buffeted, of course. Okay. Yeah. If it was just me and I was waving, would.
Lily Padman
You know, I also knew. I mean, once it was you, I was like, oh, they're fucking with me. So it was. I would have still been. I still would have laughed.
Dax Shepard
Okay.
Chace Crawford
Okay.
Lily Padman
But I also was like, man. But like, what if they don't get to. What if someone dies? You know, because the ambulance didn't get there. Because Dax wanted to say hi to me.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. That didn't happen. Nothing happened with the ambulance. For the record, I love how rare your car is because I always know if it's you.
Lily Padman
Yeah. Do you know my license plate?
Dax Shepard
No, I don't need to.
Lily Padman
Okay.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. Because no one has. I've never seen your car in that color.
Lily Padman
Really? No, I've seen it a couple of years. Couple times. And I always like. I like. I like that. All right, well, I mean, facts. Well, let's do some facts. Okay. Yes. This is for Chase.
Dax Shepard
Chase Crawford.
Lily Padman
Chase Crawford.
Dax Shepard
What a likable guy.
Lily Padman
Very likable.
Dax Shepard
Oh, so likable. You can tell. No wonder he's gotten along with everybody.
Lily Padman
Yeah. Got a lot. He had a lot of endorsements, like, from people.
Dax Shepard
Tell the audience about.
Lily Padman
No.
Dax Shepard
Okay. Wow. I thought that would be something you would share for sure.
Lily Padman
Fine.
Dax Shepard
Okay.
Lily Padman
There's a scene in Gossip Girl. I forget what season. And it's not like that sexual of a scene, but he's in a car. Well, they're making out. And like, they're obviously, like. They're either post quittal pre or just. They're just. They're just messing around in a car. Him and this older woman. Oh, maybe that's.
Chace Crawford
Oh, wow.
Lily Padman
I predicted that I'd be a cougar one day. Anyway, when I. When I used to watch the show, I loved that scene. And I would watch it multiple times because I thought it was so hot that he was so hot. He had, like, his hands on her, and I thought it was really hot.
Dax Shepard
You liked how. What his hands were?
Lily Padman
I love hands.
Dax Shepard
Yeah. What are you gonna do?
Lily Padman
What can you do?
Dax Shepard
What can you do?
Lily Padman
Yeah. Anyway, speaking of, when was Zeger's your first friend? Ziegers. Kevin Ziegers on Gossip Girl. He was on from 2009 to 2011. He was in 10 episodes across seasons three and four. Damien Dalgard sounds very rich. Yeah, he was playing a rich, rich
Dax Shepard
bad boy, drug Dealer Zeekers is now a full blown cowboy.
Lily Padman
Do you know this from his show? Right.
Dax Shepard
Well, I think that's where it started. But now he's a genuinely. He was just gone from like four days. Not for the show, not for money, to help another rancher.
Lily Padman
Oh.
Dax Shepard
He was castrating bulls and roping and doing the whole.
Lily Padman
He loves the whole thing.
Dax Shepard
He's doing like the. That's gnarly. Like, wow.
Lily Padman
Good for him.
Dax Shepard
Castrating. No, thank you.
Lily Padman
Not good for. I don't. That sounds yucky.
Dax Shepard
Oh, pulling balls out.
Lily Padman
Why does he want to do that? You think he's like, I need to be more rugged?
Dax Shepard
No, I think he got a. A bug for it. Like, I think he enjoys it. He was. He got invited, I think, from Taylor to go do this like showing cutting horses. You know, cutting horses, they sep. They can separate out one cow from the herd. So they're really agile and they kind of get into this back and forth. They. They pick a cow, they try to separate it from the herd and the cow's trying to get away from that. So the horse is constantly going left, right. Trying to outflank them like he's covering them in basketball. So to stay on that horse is pretty wild. Like it's got to be a good rider to be riding a horse cutter. And so there was showing horse cutting horses, I presume to sell at some auction or something. And Zers was demonstrating the horse cutting. Wow. On this horse. And I watched the video, I was like, by God, he's really doing it.
Lily Padman
Horses are having a moment. Oh yeah. You rode horses.
Dax Shepard
And I caution people to use. Be careful on them.
Lily Padman
And Zers, I guess, is a cowboy. And that untold on horses.
Chace Crawford
Uhhuh.
Dax Shepard
And. And Clooney's Beer is all about horses. Yeah.
Lily Padman
And Sarah Foster has a horse.
Dax Shepard
She does. Yeah.
Lily Padman
I know that its name is Rolex. How much did Pepperdine buy that property for? Pepperdine University's main 138 acre Malibu campus land was donated in.
Dax Shepard
Take one second. 138 acres on the PCH.
Lily Padman
I know.
Dax Shepard
Okay, go ahead.
Lily Padman
Donated in 1968 by the act Adamson Ringe family.
Dax Shepard
That's the best way to get property.
Lily Padman
Exactly. Okay.
Chace Crawford
Wow.
Dax Shepard
138 acres right there. That's worth four or five hundred million dollars if it's just flat. I mean, there's nothing even on it.
Chace Crawford
Wow.
Lily Padman
How many deaths per square mile on the pch? It says while traffic safety data for the PCH is generally measured in fatalities and per mile or total crashes, rather than per square mile. The 21 mile stretch of PCH through Malibu has experienced a high concentration of fatalities, with roughly 61 deaths reported over the 15 years leading up to late 2024.
Dax Shepard
And no one cares. But I said it briefly in the episode. The problem is, is people are parallel parking on either side of this six lane, right? There's a. There's a middle turning lane. There's two lanes. People are going 60 miles an hour and people are making U turns across all four, five or six lanes to find the beach parking spot. Yeah, it's a bad motorcycle in particular. It's like probably the worst stretch for motorcyclists.
Lily Padman
Oh, God. The movie. That chase shot in Turks and Caicos. I'm not sure, but it was probably. It was probably riptide.
Dax Shepard
That would make sense.
Lily Padman
And then there's also Long Lost Sun.
Dax Shepard
We went to Turks and Caicos.
Lily Padman
We did loaded. The Haunting of Molly Hartley. I'm just reading a lot now. Like a lot of his credits, but I kind of think it was riptide.
Dax Shepard
It makes a lot of sense. What wouldn't make sense is a movie called the Mountain Escape.
Lily Padman
That would be. But you never know.
Dax Shepard
You don't know. But that would make no sense.
Lily Padman
You never know. Okay, now, not to do this. I know I don't love doing this, but I do feel like I have to.
Dax Shepard
Okay. Actually, correct me.
Lily Padman
Yeah, I'm not going to.
Dax Shepard
Go ahead.
Lily Padman
Okay, so it's Abercrombie and Fitch.
Dax Shepard
Oh, that's fine.
Lily Padman
Okay.
Dax Shepard
I actually him happier. I don't know the real well.
Lily Padman
No, now you know it. Right. You can say it. Right.
Dax Shepard
What is right? Not Finch.
Lily Padman
Well, now I'm worried I'm wrong. Oh, my God.
Dax Shepard
Finch is a bird.
Lily Padman
You're right. Yeah, Fitch.
Dax Shepard
But what the is Abercrombie?
Lily Padman
Abercrombie and Fitch.
Chace Crawford
Yes. Great.
Dax Shepard
But what is an ab.
Lily Padman
People's names.
Dax Shepard
I don't even say. I'm saying it right now. But normally you shouldn't. No, I don't say Abercrombie. I say Abercrombie.
Lily Padman
Oh, you do?
Chace Crawford
You do?
Dax Shepard
I do. I say Amber Crombie and Fitch.
Lily Padman
No. And Finch.
Dax Shepard
Abercrombie and Finch. It's Scottish surname. Okay, well, no disrespect to that family, but just what a comical.
Lily Padman
I think it's cool. Abercrombie.
Dax Shepard
I just am impressed. Someone was like, yeah, we'll call it Amber Crombie in French.
Lily Padman
Well, no one's calling it that because that's not what.
Dax Shepard
And then everyone's like, what? And then yeah, it'll work. And it did.
Lily Padman
Yeah. I was obsessed with it. That's why I knew I was right, but then I second guessed.
Dax Shepard
I'll tell you when it backfired. Zathura. Like, it's dangerous to name something, something
Lily Padman
people can't pronounce, but most people can pronounce Abercrombie.
Dax Shepard
I'm sorry, I don't know. I've not seen the data. Or the data either. Yeah, I know. Zathura was a real struggle. And part of the whole ad campaign was they had bought, like, a whole episode of the Apprentice where the task was to get people to know how to pronounce the fucking name of this movie. And I was like, this is not great.
Lily Padman
That's bad.
Dax Shepard
Yeah, that's not great.
Lily Padman
Well, also, because Zathura is like, well, could it be Z Fiora?
Dax Shepard
Like, people are saying Zatha.
Lily Padman
Exactly.
Dax Shepard
And then once they found out they were saying it wrong, they're like, it. I can step up to the ticket window. There's six movies. I know I can say the name of this one. I'll say that.
Chace Crawford
I know.
Lily Padman
But part of me is like, get over yourself. Just like. Just say, I want that Z movie. Like, why would you let it stop? You people have such big egos. Okay. Married guys, you said, live 11 years longer.
Dax Shepard
I said that. I don't know what. I was being facetious. I think they live longer.
Lily Padman
Yeah. Studies show, on average, roughly two to eight years longer than unmarried.
Dax Shepard
Then you had daughters into that mix. You could hit 11, huh? Daughters. Every different for. Only for men, not for women. Every daughter that a man has on average.
Lily Padman
But I don't know what the crossover.
Dax Shepard
I don't know, like, if that data is affecting. Affected by people who have daughters. Yeah.
Lily Padman
Okay, now he accidentally. Now I'm gonna do it to him. Abercrombie and Fitch. He accidentally said Season 2 twice in a sentence. And I think he meant season three when he was talking about the octopus.
Dax Shepard
Yeah, that sounds right.
Lily Padman
I mean, the epic octopus scene is in season three, so. Yeah. Oh, who did they end up hiring for Footloose? So I think Kenny Wormald.
Dax Shepard
That sounds right.
Lily Padman
He played.
Chace Crawford
Played.
Lily Padman
Yeah. This is him.
Dax Shepard
Kenny Cromie and Fitch. Yeah, he's a real professional dancer.
Lily Padman
Kenny Wormald or Warmald. And the director's Craig Brewer. He might have said Craig Brewer, but I think he said Craig Bryce.
Dax Shepard
Oh, okay. A lot of thinks in this fact check.
Lily Padman
Oh, one thing I want to make clear. I. Look, my mouth looks kind of weird in this episode. Oh, that's Because I have a lozenge in my mouth. Because that was during my cough attack period.
Dax Shepard
Okay. The season of coughing. Your coughing era.
Lily Padman
So that was lozenge based.
Dax Shepard
Okay.
Lily Padman
I don't want people to think I had, like, weird Botox.
Dax Shepard
Right. One of our episodes just aired where my sty was very, very evident, and I was like, oh, yeah, that was quite evident.
Lily Padman
Yeah. You could see it.
Dax Shepard
Yeah, for sure. But, you know, I mean, I don't. I'll live. I just don't like the. The connection with pink eye.
Lily Padman
I know you're.
Dax Shepard
Because pink eye makes you think of poop in your eye. And I don't have any poop in my eye.
Lily Padman
No.
Dax Shepard
And I didn't then, and I don't now. Yeah. I had a sty from stress.
Lily Padman
I know. But also, like, I don't think I would have thought it was pink eye.
Dax Shepard
There was a moment where my eyeball was, like, beat red.
Lily Padman
I know. And that.
Dax Shepard
That it screamed pink. Ey. I even think someone said. I think my sister said, hey, oh, you got pink eye. Oh, like, no. I wipe my butt with toilet paper, not my hand.
Lily Padman
TT yeah, but sometimes you still could get poop particles.
Dax Shepard
I couldn't. But, yeah, other people.
Lily Padman
You're the one that sticks your finger up your butt when shower. Okay, so, yeah, you've said that aloud. Okay, that's it.
Dax Shepard
Love you.
Lily Padman
Love you.
This episode features actor Chace Crawford, best known for "Gossip Girl" and "The Boys." Dax Shepard, alongside co-host Lily Padman, dives into Chace's journey from Texas roots to Hollywood success, the psycho-social effects of early fame, his struggles and self-discoveries as an actor, and the behind-the-scenes world of two culturally influential TV series. With honesty, warmth, and plenty of humor, the conversation explores friendship, the complexities of celebrity, sobriety, and personal growth.
Background: Born in Lubbock, TX, moved to Oklahoma City for father’s med school, then to Minnesota before settling in Plano, TX.
Family: Mother was a "cool" substitute teacher; father a dermatologist. Sister Candace was Miss Missouri and a sports journalist.
Cultural Impact: Chace reflects on his shifting identity across Southern and Midwest influences and the social challenges of frequent moves.
"I remember being in Minnesota and being like, what do I say? Who do I say I am? ... Is it Oklahoma? Am I from the South?" – Chace ([10:52])
School Struggles: Did well academically but "collapsed" after early heartbreak and burnout in a strict private high school.
Therapy Insight: Chace openly identifies as a people-pleaser, stemming from needing to make new friends through constant moves—a survival mechanism.
Boundaries & Growth: Both Dax and Chace discuss the lifelong tension between the helpful and harmful sides of these traits.
"That was kind of part of it. Having to move to Oklahoma and then Minnesota and back and always make, like, a new group of friends was sort of how I learned to survive." – Chace ([11:45])
Pepperdine Experience: Chose it to escape Texas, drawn by the California vibe and desire for independence.
Religion: Attended Baptist and Church of Christ schools, commenting on the strictness of Pepperdine.
Valet Stories: Memorable, sometimes reckless days of valeting in Malibu, including celebrity encounters and learning to drive stick ("lied" on the application).
"I said I could drive stick. Did not know how to drive stick." – Chace ([19:01])
"There was fire coming through." – Chace, about burning a clutch ([19:06])
Acting Class: Started in a serious Meisner class, drawn by its abstraction and challenge with zero industry pressure.
First Roles: Landed "The Covenant" in 2005, forging formative relationships with Taylor Kitsch and Sebastian Stan.
Networking: Dax highlights how Chace’s "people-pleaser" tendencies contributed to organically building networks and seizing opportunities.
"You were nice. And there's a great word for it. I mean, no." – Dax on the value of being likable ([26:00])
Breakthrough: "Gossip Girl" follows a failed audition for "Friday Night Lights" (a role that went to a close friend). Chace recalls his skepticism at the title and his shock over the contract's earning potential.
Fame in NYC: Living with Ed Westwick. The group experienced sudden, intense recognition, which Chace admits triggered paranoia rather than arrogance.
Social Pressures: Young, rich, famous, and in New York—Dax and Chace discuss how dangerous this can be for mental health and sobriety.
Impostor Syndrome: Chace shares feeling like a fraud and becoming reclusive, using alcohol to make fame more tolerable.
"Looking back on it, it affects everyone differently. Those first two years of fame, most people turn into an asshole in some way or they just get paranoid and reclusive." – Chace ([08:24])
"That's why alcohol helps. Cause when you're drunk, your ego gets to inflate, and you're like, yeah, I am the shit. But when you're sober, you're like, I don't deserve this." – Dax ([42:26])
Post-Gossip Girl Depression: Discusses deep sense of loss and identity confusion after the show ended.
Industry Pigeonholing: The "CW pretty boy" stereotype limited post-show roles, forcing Chace to reestablish himself and confront stark industry realities.
Self-Reflection: Both Dax and Chace share fondness for and occasional resentment of their breakout roles, recognizing, in hindsight, their extraordinary luck.
"You think you have all these options and these offers ... Yet there is a little bit of that ... that was the reality I was facing coming back." – Chace ([51:06])
Relationships as Growth: Realizes he’s better in a relationship for stability, though admits to "bottling" feelings and being passive-aggressive.
Therapy Themes: Discusses avoidance of difficult conversations and childhood patterns of not "rocking the boat."
Reflecting on Parents: Wonders how his parents survived med school and parenthood so young.
"I'm like a bottler. Passive aggressiveness is a big problem for me. Like, I'll hold on to things and I won't communicate them properly." – Chace ([59:33])
Partying & Sobriety: Recognizes the diminishing returns of nightlife and drinking as he matures.
Male Intimacy: Dax connects the longing for intimate drunken moments with other men as an underlying motive for his own past drinking.
"I love the intimacy you could have with other men while drunk." – Dax ([63:24])
Landing the Role: Auditioned amid career low point, impressed by show’s wildness but doubted its viability.
No Vanity Needed: Praised for fearlessness and comedic commitment as The Deep; relished playing against type.
Behind the Scenes: Talks about showrunner Eric Kripke, Seth Rogen/Evan Goldberg involvement, and cultural differences in show reception.
Body Image: Honest about regimen and the psychological satisfaction (and vanity) of getting "jacked" for the part.
Complex Characters: On The Deep’s dark storylines, including a #MeToo plot, and why total redemption wouldn’t work for a spinoff.
"You're the butt of every joke, and you are just fucking driving straight into it, and you're not protecting yourself at all." – Dax ([68:09])
This episode is a masterclass in the messiness of fame, ambition, identity, and human connection. Chace Crawford offers rare honesty about the lonelier, uncertain stretches between career peaks, the ways childhood and early notoriety shape adult choices, and how learning to value real relationships, self-awareness, and therapy can forge long-lasting change. Whether you loved Gossip Girl, are obsessed with The Boys, or are fascinated by the psychology of Hollywood, this episode delivers insight and laughs in equal measure.
Notable Quote for the Road:
“You almost need the booze to actually enjoy the celebrity.” – Dax Shepard ([42:38])
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Episode runs roughly from [00:00]–[122:05] (excluding ads and non-content).