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Joe Getty
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Jack Armstrong
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Joe Getty
Can we fall in love quickly, please? I have a 2 o' clock. It's one more thing. Armstrong again.
Michael
That's great. Before we get to this. And I know the podcast lives on forever and you might be listening to this six years from now, but if you're listening to it anywhere near June 5, 2025, Elon just started shooting back at Trump on Twitter. We talked about it a lot on the radio show. We think by the end of by Sunset today on June 5, they will be taking personal shots at each other as two of the most powerful people on earth that you can't imagine.
Joe Getty
I say it happens while I'm still picking my lunch out of my teeth. It's not going to be till sunset. Holy.
Michael
Elon just said Trump would not have won without me. That's going to piss Trump off. That's going to really get under his skin.
Joe Getty
Oh, boy. All right, more on that to come on the live radio show tomorrow. If you're listening today, if you're listening tomorrow, it was yesterday. If you're listening three days from now, it was a week from two. Now.
Michael
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Joe Getty
Liver straight out of your belly?
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Joe Getty
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Jack Armstrong
You know what's great about your investment account with the big guys? It's actually a time machine. Log in and zoom. Welcome back to 1999. It's time for an upgrade. At public.com you can invest in almost everything. Stocks, bonds, options and more. You could even put your cash to work at an industry leading 4.1% APY. Leave your clunky, outdated platform behind at public.com go to public.com and fund your account in five minutes or less. Pay for by Public Investing Inc. Member FINRA and SIPC. Full disclosures@public.com disclosures.
Joe Getty
All right, a moment to center ourselves now. There we go. So I'm reading my reams and reams of media the other day and I came across what was a follow up article on a woman who writes a well loved column about love. And it was a 10 year follow up on her relationship with her man, which began with an essay from. Well, it's a study, an essay. I'll think of a jigger from a psychologist about whether intimacy between two strangers can be accelerated. How you can go through a process and be in love or damn close to it at the end of the very, very brief process so that you.
Michael
Can get to the divorce by dinner time or what?
Joe Getty
Wow. Well, you're in a hurry. I don't know exactly. Although before you get to your harsh and idiotic judgments. Sorry, now I sound like Trump and Elon, don't I? Let me, let me explain what's going on here. And I guess this made a bit of noise around 10 years ago. I either missed it or have forgotten about it. 36 questions broken up into three sets. You go through with that person and then you stare into each other's eyes for four minutes. Now, some people say two minutes is enough. Some people say it really takes four minutes. So you go through these 36 questions which I will absolutely read you, and then you stare into each other's eyes and by the end of it, if there is love to be found there, you'll have found it. You know, the idea being I can explain it to you, but go ahead.
Michael
So I've thought this many times in my life before we even had this discussion. I look back over people that I ended up in relationships with and you know, the feeling that we generally call love. Although what, what it love is, it gets very, very complicated. I mean, the long lasting dedication to supporting someone, blah, blah, blah, versus the, you know, butterflies in your stomach.
Joe Getty
La la la la. But not to mention the hots. Yeah.
Michael
But the, the closely related to the butterflies, the butterflies thing, mine. In every instance that's happened to me in my life, I can remember the moment that our eyes locked for however long and that's when the magic happens of nobody actually understands if it's pheromones or we read each other's genome and realize we could have healthy kids together or what the hell goes on there. But like I remember the moment for every situation and that's when it happened. So I can absolutely believe that if you went through a room like a big group of people and y' all both stared at each other's for a certain percentage and I don't know what percentage you, it would happen.
Joe Getty
Well, and feel free to jump in whenever you want, Katie or Michael or, you know, either one. But that. It's funny, I got, I got like an electric charge through me when you describe that we met eyes and moment. And nobody has to, to fill out what happens after the end. Everybody who's ever fallen in love knows it. And it can be an extremely brief.
Michael
Yeah.
Joe Getty
Locking of eyes.
Michael
Yeah, that. That's why I've always thought if you get turned down, you got to just realize that whatever, whatever this magic was, wasn't there. You don't have to take it personally.
Joe Getty
It's not a rejection of your qualities as a human being. It feels like it is. And I always thought it was. Yeah, no, it's. It's funny. I had this, this experience years ago of. I was walking through an airport and there are all sorts of human beings there, some of the best people watching on earth, including, you know, attractive females. And I am a flaming heterosexual, though faithfully married. And I passed one woman and my brain about exploded.
Michael
Wow, that's interesting.
Joe Getty
She was my type and you know, it's probably not insane to state that she looked a fair amount like my wife did when she was young and we got together, but it was, it was striking. It was like, she's good looking, she's kind of hot. It was, it was crazy right there. And so I thought, wow, there is something going on there, Whether it's Freudian, biochemical, as you're suggesting, or whatever that either is or it isn't.
Michael
I believe we read each other's genomes with our. With our minds, but yes. Michael.
Joe Getty
Joe, did you mouth I love you to her? Oh, no, I said it. I grabbed her in both my arms and gave her a long kiss.
Michael
You're like the sailor with the nurse after World War II.
Joe Getty
Exactly. And when the cops stopped beating me. Yeah. Anyway, all right, so here's.
Michael
Here's the I love you. That's hilarious.
Joe Getty
So, all right, here's the story. This psychologist, Arthur Aaron and others were exploring whether intimacy between two strangers can be accelerated by having them ask each other a specific series of personal questions. The 36 questions in the study are broken up into three sets, with each. With each set intended to be more probing than the previous one. The idea is that mutual vulnerability fosters closeness. To quote the study's authors, quote, one key pattern associated with the development of close relationship among peers is sustained, escalating, reciprocal personal self disclosure. Allowing oneself to be vulnerable with another person can be exceedingly difficult. So this exercise forces this. The issue now. I can't remember, Jack. It may have been during the radio show when we were talking about doing this. You asked, is accelerating it necessarily a good idea?
Michael
Well, what you are. Would you want to? Or is the. The drawn out process of it happening at the pace it currently happens is like the greatest thing in the world.
Joe Getty
Is do you earn your way in, is the way I'd put it.
Michael
It's like, here's how to skip over having to eat Thanksgiving dinner. It takes too long to enjoy those flavors. Here you can enjoy all the flavors immediately in like two seconds in a pill, right? I don't want to.
Joe Getty
Well, right. And again, it could be argued that the time spent working your way from set one to set two in real life, that's an application process. Like I said, you've got to earn your way in.
Michael
Maybe your heart would explode if you fell in love instantly also.
Joe Getty
Well, as opposed to. All right, let's move on to a higher level of intimacy. Ready? Here we go. I mean, anyway, it's an interesting theory. And then again, when you're done, you stare into each other's eyes for four minutes. Set number one. Let's go through.
Michael
You can't stare into someone. Someone's eyes. You can pick an eye and stare into it.
Joe Getty
Thank you.
Michael
And it's always bothered me, yes, Michael?
Joe Getty
I feel like we're losing the threat here.
Michael
You pick an eye and you stare into that eye and maybe they're staring the same eye as you. Or you're staring into two different eyes. Or you also to their left and they're staring into your right so you aren't really even looking at each other.
Joe Getty
Wow. And what if you're like me and.
Michael
You have the crazy eyes? Yeah, exactly right.
Joe Getty
Got them Realtor eyes. Yeah, that's. That's funny. It's a neurological truth. Thank you, Jack. Here we go. Now, number one. This definitely starts with ice breaking party game and moves on from there. Here's your first set of 12. 12 questions. I think it is 12. Yeah. One. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want to as a dinner guest. Just stop me if you want me to stop. We can discuss these at greater length. Animal Lecture 2. Would you like to be famous? In what way? I would. Well, yeah. If we answer all of these, number one, it's going to be really time consuming. Number two, we'll all be in love with each. And that would make it super weird to do the show.
Michael
Oh, a throuple or quadruple or whatever we have.
Joe Getty
Yeah. Good lord, it was right. All right, here we go. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you're going to say? Why this is. I tell you what. As you work your way. Because I've read all these, as I work my way through them, I definitely felt a. I would feel really close to this person.
Michael
Is this.
Joe Getty
Anyway.
Michael
Yeah, I don't want to get off track here. Is the assumption that if you answer the same, you are a better fit or is it just.
Joe Getty
Not at all?
Michael
Okay. It's just the. Having the conversation is a way to find out about each other.
Joe Getty
You know, as I said in the. In the introduction, it's all about escalating vulnerability and trust.
Michael
Would you.
Joe Getty
Reciprocal. Where is that phrase? Escalating reciprocal? Personal self disclosure. Okay, okay. Where were we? What would constitute the perfect day for you? When did you last sing to yourself or to someone else?
Michael
I sing to myself every single day.
Joe Getty
Every day. Although this shows ruined my throat. 6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30 year old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
Michael
God, that's a obvious one to me. Without the brain, what the hell's the point?
Joe Getty
I'd be handsome as hell. What's the point of being some brainiac?
Michael
You're old and wandering around the neighborhood. No, your brain's fine.
Joe Getty
Seven.
Michael
No.
Joe Getty
Do you have a secret hunch how you will die? 8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common. Your partner being the person that you're doing this with.
Michael
That last one clearly. Hob. Hail of bullets.
Joe Getty
Terminal syphilis. Because I play around a lot. Oh, my gosh, Horan. That is great pleasure in life. I can't give up. So. Yep, yep. Dead from syphilis. All right, moving on to question eight.
Michael
I'll say.
Joe Getty
Fireworks accident. All right. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common. That's. That's a good little bonding one. 8. What in your life do you. For what in your life do you feel most grateful? 10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
Michael
Oh, that's a good one.
Joe Getty
Oh, and that is? Getting a little more deeply into who I am. Who you are. And. Yeah. Take number 11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
Michael
Take how many minutes?
Joe Getty
Four minutes.
Michael
That's four minutes. Okay.
Joe Getty
Yeah. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be? Oh, boy. There we go.
Michael
Huh?
Joe Getty
Here's where the guy says something stupid and the woman rolls her eyes, right? But then realizes, well, he's a dopey boy, but I kind of like him. Which, you know, honestly, I can think of several instances in a couple relationships, particularly with the lovely Judith, where the vibe was, I've been an idiot and I screwed up, but you're forgiving me and laughing along with me. That's. That's a step.
Michael
Oh, huge. That's huge. Yeah.
Joe Getty
Ron to set two. Does anybody need to have a good cry or wipe their nose or. The syphilis thing kind of screwed me up a little. Tighten their pelt or anything? All right, on set two. Third. So this question 13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know?
Michael
That's a tough one. Yeah. Yeah.
Joe Getty
Huh?
Michael
Who's gonna Win Super Bowl 57?
Joe Getty
All right, next question. Is there something that you've dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven't you done it? That's a good one. Again, you're gonna have to admit, I say what I'm gonna do too much and start on it. Too little.
Michael
Laziness, fear, whatever it would. Whatever it would be, it wouldn't be an attractive quality. So that's a good question for that reason.
Joe Getty
Yeah. Yeah. Escalating levels. Vulnerability. Here we go. 15 what is the greatest accomplishment of your life? What do you value most in a friendship?
Michael
Fourth of July a couple years ago, I ate seven hot dogs in one sitting.
Joe Getty
Impressive. That is great. Moving along to the friendship thing. And 17 is. What is your most treasured memory? And then 18, what is your most terrible memory?
Michael
Oh, my God. Yuck. I don't even know if I want to think about that. But I can see why it would be a valuable conversation.
Joe Getty
Yeah, no kidding. To skip. No, no, absolutely not. You can't skip. I'm rejecting you for even suggesting it. Next, let's get started with question one. Here we go. Let's see. 19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are living now? Why?
Michael
These are good.
Joe Getty
Yeah. Yeah. And the way they kind of go up and down in intensity, I think is super smart.
Michael
You got to send me this list.
Joe Getty
Oh, I will. I absolutely will.
Michael
I want to use it.
Joe Getty
And we'll post this whole thing at Armstrong and Getty dot com. There it is. 20. What does friendship mean to you? 21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
Michael
I'm always a question behind. They would help me bury a body.
Joe Getty
They would bail me out.
Michael
Yeah, exactly.
Joe Getty
Yeah. You know, that's. I've heard that said before. They'd show up to bail you out without asking what you did.
Michael
Oh, that's a good one.
Joe Getty
Right? Kill three hobos. Thanks for dropping by. I need a ride home. Let's see. Two alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items. You go back and forth. Here's. This is an interesting transition because this is not revealing yourself exactly. This is saying, I really like you.
Michael
Something positive about them. And you don't know them very well, though you might.
Joe Getty
I mean, this is not a speed dating thing. This is. You have an interest in each other.
Michael
Okay. And then when do we stare into each other's eye?
Joe Getty
At the end.
Michael
I'm going to stare into your eye. Hold still.
Joe Getty
We're almost done. I tell you what, you fixated on that hole. You know, it's actually impossible to stare into both. Some of. We don't move on from that. We're done. Yeah.
Michael
For real.
Joe Getty
Next, we're starting to question one again. Come on in here. We're almost. We're almost done with section 2. This is 23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people's? And then 24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother. And then I. I guess you take a break or you take a shower or something. Do five push ups and you come back for set number three. You thought the first two sets.
Michael
Oh my God. There's more. This is exhausting.
Joe Getty
Yeah, I know it is. You all right, Katie? No, I'm not.
Michael
This is a lot.
Joe Getty
Yeah. Yeah. Well, you better drive a nice car.
Michael
If you expect her to stick around for round three.
Joe Getty
Oh, boy. Oh, too shallow to swim in. Here we go. Set three. And here we have a specimen from the early 2000s. A legacy investing platform. Please don't touch the exhibit, folks. It could crash.
Jack Armstrong
Ready to step out of the financial history museum? At public.com you can invest in almost everything. Stocks, bonds, options and more. You can even put your cash to work at an industry leading 4.1% APY. Leave your clunky, outdated platform behind. Go to public.com and fund your account in five minutes or less. Paid for by Public Investing Inc. Member FINRA and SIPC.
Joe Getty
Full disclosures@public.com disclosures make this is number 25. Make three true quote we statements. For instance, we are both in this room feeling something. 26. Complete this sentence. I wish I had someone with whom I could share. Link A popsicle.
Michael
Yeah. This sandwich.
Joe Getty
That's right, a pizza. I'm really hungry. 27. If you were to.
Michael
I was thinking about that the other day. A walk around the block. When I go for a walk at night, I thought that'd be a good one. I see other people walking with someone and I think that would be nice.
Joe Getty
You know, Judy and I walk the dog together every morning and sometimes one of us will sleep in for whatever reason or have like an early morning appointment or something like that. And. And if we miss it, I hate it. Just hate it.
Michael
My mom and dad walk together every night.
Joe Getty
She's.
Michael
For decades and decades and decades.
Joe Getty
That's. That's a beautiful thing. So there you go. That's the sort of answer that you would share with somebody and it'd be like, wow. Anyway. 20. That was really well put, Joe. You do this for a living. 27. If you are going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know about you.
Michael
I drink a lot.
Joe Getty
And when people tell me I drink too much, that makes me drink more. So don't bother. 28. Tell your partner what you like about them. Be very honest this time. Saying things that you might not say to someone you've just met. Wow. So we're going Back for round two of this. But this is not a cocktail party. Be real. 29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life. More vulnerability, obviously. 30. When did you last cry in front of another person? When did you let last cry by yourself? 31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already. So we're back to that again so soon? 32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
Michael
Boy, I don't know if there is a topic for me. Hardly.
Joe Getty
But short list. Pretty short, yeah. 33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Oh my God, I'm getting choked up. Wow. And why haven't you told them yet? Wow. I think we're all going to need a minute.
Michael
Wow.
Joe Getty
Getting verklempt. Yeah. Yeah.
Jack Armstrong
Okay.
Joe Getty
Now, when the two of you are both done crying, you can continue with number 34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be and why? It wouldn't be my fire extinguisher because it didn't do me any good.
Michael
I assume you're not thinking about like your tax files or birth certificates or something. Or are you?
Joe Getty
You answer however you want. You telling me how to answer? You're too oppressive. Next, let's start again with question one. He's telling me how to answer the questions.
Michael
There'd probably be paperwork, actually. Boring. Yeah, I know, but there's some things it would be really, really, really, really difficult to lose.
Joe Getty
The classic answer. Wedding photos, family pictures. A lot of them are on the cloud now.
Michael
Yeah. Yeah.
Joe Getty
Wow. Well, you know what's interesting about this question is you can sit here and think about it. Whereas the very structure of the question implies you would have no time to think about it.
Michael
Yeah.
Joe Getty
Wow. I don't even know the answer to that question. It's like, it's a really interesting question and worth the discussion in this context, but that's like one of those, you know. How would you react if someone pulled a gun on you?
Michael
Yeah, well, the problem with this is a lot of the answers could sound really shallow. I mean, if I've got my loved ones out and everything like that, and like, if all important paperwork is in a safe, which in my case it is, which Bright survived the fire, then it's probably going to be something kind of material, I'm afraid. PlayStation 5. Yeah, something like that. I got a couple of guitars. I'D hate to see burned up.
Joe Getty
I was going to say I might grab my Telecaster.
Jack Armstrong
It's.
Joe Getty
It's. It's a totem of some of the best times I've ever had. It was in my hand while I was doing some of the things I've loved the most anyway. But, you know, it's. Again, it's not. It's not like there's a right or wrong answer.
Michael
There's a wrong answer. I'm sorry. That's a wrong answer.
Joe Getty
Right. My collection of iguana hides. I mean, the point is that you're being intimate. Anyway. Moving along. Second to last, 1:35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing?
Michael
Oh, my God.
Joe Getty
What kind of question is that? It's a question that only people who are really, really close would deal with. Wow. Which is what we're doing here, because.
Michael
You pick one, you got to leave some people out, obviously.
Joe Getty
And then this is the last one. Share a personal problem and ask your partner's advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen. Oh, I get it. Okay. So how would you handle this? And can you tell how I feel about this problem? How? What. What are you sensing from me when I describe this? So don't just solve it for me. Understand what I'm really trying to tell you?
Michael
Crabgrass in the side. Yeah, tried everything.
Joe Getty
I'd rip it up and resod and I can tell you really hate crabgrass.
Michael
There. We just gave you, for instance.
Joe Getty
You know what? You keep crabgrass mowed. It looks great.
Michael
Yeah. When I mowed lawns, I mostly mowed crabgrass. Honestly.
Joe Getty
Sure. Back in. Well, yeah, suburbia. Yeah. Nobody had a lawn worth of crap.
Michael
No, everything was just mowed down. Weeds, which looked pretty nice, actually.
Joe Getty
Yeah, the crab. Huh? No, no, no. Anyway, next. So there you have it. We'll post that at armstrong and getty.com but under, like, hot links for June 5, or can we give it like a banner, you know, featured position?
Michael
Yeah, I would like to run through those questions sometime in my life. That sounds pretty cool.
Joe Getty
Yeah, we'll have our people get on that. Hope you enjoyed it and God bless you in your pursuits, romantic, professional and otherwise.
Michael
And if you've got someone, go home and stare them in the eye.
Joe Getty
If you could kill three people this afternoon, who would they be and how Be detailed. Yeah.
Michael
Well, I guess that's it.
Joe Getty
And here we have a specimen from the early 2000s. A legacy investing platform. Please don't touch the exhibit folks. It could crash.
Jack Armstrong
Ready to step out of the Financial history museum@public.com you can invest in almost everything stocks, bonds, options and more. You could even put your cash to work at an industry leading 4.1% APY. Leave your clunky, outdated platform behind. Go to public.com and fund your account in five minutes or less. Paid for by Public Investing Inc. Member FINRA and SIPC. Full disclosures@public.com disclosures this is an iHeart podcast.
Summary of "Can We Fall In Love Quickly, Please?" – Armstrong & Getty On Demand
Release Date: June 5, 2025
Hosted by: Armstrong & Getty
Produced by: iHeartPodcasts
In the June 5, 2025 episode of Armstrong & Getty On Demand, hosts Jack Armstrong and Joe Getty delve into the intriguing question: Can we fall in love quickly? The conversation seamlessly blends current events with psychological insights, humor, and personal anecdotes, offering listeners both entertainment and thoughtful reflection on the nature of love and intimacy.
The episode kicks off with a lively discussion about the latest social media clash between billionaire entrepreneur Elon Musk and former President Donald Trump. Michael Getty highlights the escalating tensions, stating:
"Elon just started shooting back at Trump on Twitter. We talked about it a lot on the radio show. We think by the end of by Sunset today on June 5, they will be taking personal shots at each other as two of the most powerful people on earth that you can't imagine."
— Michael Getty [00:39]
Joe Getty humorously downplays the immediacy of their exchange:
"I say it happens while I'm still picking my lunch out of my teeth. It's not going to be till sunset."
— Joe Getty [01:09]
The hosts agree to revisit this topic on their live radio show, emphasizing the unpredictable nature of public spats between high-profile figures.
Transitioning from current events, Joe Getty introduces a fascinating psychological study questioning whether deep intimacy between strangers can be accelerated. He references psychologist Arthur Aron's renowned "36 Questions" experiment designed to foster closeness through reciprocal vulnerability.
"It's a study, an essay. I'll think of a jigger from a psychologist about whether intimacy between two strangers can be accelerated."
— Joe Getty [04:02]
The hosts embark on a detailed exploration of the 36 questions, which are segmented into three progressively intimate sets, culminating in prolonged eye contact. Throughout this segment, Armstrong and Getty interject with humor and personal stories, making the discussion both engaging and relatable.
Notable Highlights:
Personal Anecdotes: Joe Getty shares a humorous and somewhat exaggerated story about impulsively kissing a stranger, highlighting the unpredictable nature of instant connections.
"I grabbed her in both my arms and gave her a long kiss."
— Joe Getty [07:53]
Humorous Banter: The hosts joke about the practicality and emotional intensity of the questions, such as the fear of falling in love too quickly or the potential absurdity of instant intimacy.
"Maybe your heart would explode if you fell in love instantly also."
— Michael Getty [09:36]
"Have to earn your way in."
— Joe Getty [09:50]
Critical Insights: They contemplate the balance between fostering genuine connections and the authenticity that comes from a natural, unhurried relationship-building process.
"As I work my way through them, I definitely felt a... I would feel really close to this person."
— Joe Getty [11:49]
As Armstrong and Getty navigate through select questions, they discuss the underlying mechanisms that might make rapid intimacy possible. They ponder whether biochemical factors like pheromones or cognitive processes such as genome recognition play pivotal roles.
"I believe we read each other's genomes with our minds, but yes."
— Michael Getty [07:49]
Joe Getty adds a playful twist to the conversation by connecting the study to his own experiences and the potential for quick emotional bonds:
"Nobody has to, to fill out what happens after the end. Everybody who's ever fallen in love knows it. And it can be extremely brief."
— Joe Getty [06:43]
The dialogue shifts to a thoughtful debate on whether accelerating the process of falling in love is beneficial or potentially problematic. Michael Getty raises concerns about the depth and sustainability of such quick connections.
"It's like, here's how to skip over having to eat Thanksgiving dinner. It takes too long to enjoy those flavors. Here you can enjoy all the flavors immediately in like two seconds in a pill, right? I don't want to."
— Michael Getty [09:20]
Joe Getty counters by emphasizing the importance of gradual relationship-building as a form of emotional investment and earning trust.
"Like I said, you've got to earn your way in."
— Joe Getty [09:50]
As the hosts continue to sift through the questions, they highlight the escalating levels of vulnerability required to foster deeper connections. Questions range from sharing personal dreams and regrets to discussing treasured and terrible memories.
"If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know?"
— Joe Getty [15:28]
They recognize the emotional weight and potential awkwardness of some questions, maintaining a balance between serious discussion and lighthearted commentary.
Wrapping up their exploration of the 36 questions, Armstrong and Getty reflect on the efficacy and emotional impact of such structured intimacy exercises. Joe Getty mentions their intention to share the full list of questions on their website, encouraging listeners to engage with the material themselves.
"And we'll post this whole thing at Armstrong and Getty dot com. There it is."
— Joe Getty [16:58]
Michael Getty expresses a personal interest in trying the questions in his own life, underscoring the universal appeal and curiosity surrounding the quest for love.
"I would like to run through those questions sometime in my life. That sounds pretty cool."
— Michael Getty [20:04]
In their closing remarks, the hosts encourage listeners to embrace vulnerability and genuine connection, suggesting that meaningful relationships stem from both structured interactions and spontaneous moments of intimacy.
"If you've got someone, go home and stare them in the eye."
— Michael Getty [26:48]
"Hope you enjoyed it and God bless you in your pursuits, romantic, professional and otherwise."
— Joe Getty [26:38]
Michael Getty [00:39]: "Elon just started shooting back at Trump on Twitter. We talked about it a lot on the radio show."
Joe Getty [04:02]: "Can go through a process and be in love or damn close to it at the end of the very, very brief process."
Michael Getty [09:36]: "Maybe your heart would explode if you fell in love instantly also."
Joe Getty [09:50]: "But again, it could be argued that the time spent working your way from set one to set two in real life, that's an application process. Like I said, you've got to earn your way in."
Michael Getty [20:04]: "I would like to run through those questions sometime in my life. That sounds pretty cool."
The Armstrong & Getty On Demand episode titled "Can We Fall In Love Quickly, Please?" offers a blend of humor, personal storytelling, and insightful discussion on the possibility of accelerating intimacy between individuals. By dissecting the 36 questions study, the hosts provide listeners with both entertainment and a framework for exploring deeper connections in their own lives. Whether skeptical or hopeful, audiences are encouraged to reflect on the intricate dance of vulnerability and trust that underpins meaningful relationships.