Armstrong & Getty On Demand

Episode: "I Don't Wanna Talk About This At All..."

Date: March 24, 2026
Host: Armstrong & Getty

Episode Overview

This episode delves into personal boundaries and societal norms regarding privacy in relationships—specifically, the etiquette around bathroom habits between couples. The hosts, joined by team members, share personal anecdotes and discuss whether peeing in front of one’s partner is a sign of relationship comfort or an unnecessary breach of privacy. The conversation is candid, at times humorous, and runs the gamut from personal discomfort to more open attitudes, ultimately revealing how attitudes vary and why.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Setting the Topic: Reluctant Openness

• The main host (C) confesses his strong discomfort with the topic of bathroom habits, especially sharing these moments in front of partners.
  • Quote: "I do not find any of this stuff funny, never have, and don't like to talk about it." (08:57)

2. A Surprising Phone Encounter

• The conversation starts from an awkward phone call where someone unnecessarily clarifies they’re pouring out coffee and not peeing.
  • The host expresses that bodily functions should be private and not a subject of casual mention in conversation.
  • This leads to the question: Do couples pee in front of each other?
  • Quote: "Did you and your wife pee in front of each other? And I said of freaking course not." (09:29)

3. Cultural and Statistical Insights

• The host (C) researches the topic via Claude (an AI) and finds it's common among long-term couples: about 60% do, 40% don’t.
  • Quote: "[Claude] said yes. This is actually pretty common among long term couples...The numbers are 60, 40, so it's not like it's 95, 5; I'm in the 40%." (11:36, 12:06)
• The group identifies themselves as belonging to the 40% who maintain bathroom privacy, pondering whether this is related to personality or professional type.

4. Therapist & Relationship Perspectives

• Recollections of a previous marriage counselor panel, where the advice was to "preserve some mystery" by not engaging in bathroom activities together.
  • Quote: "One of them said, close the door...preserve some mystery. And I thought, yeah, that makes sense to me." (12:44)

5. Team Reactions

• Katie (I) agrees with maintaining privacy.
  • Quote: "I don't. I mean, if Drew...was in the bathroom brushing his teeth, I wouldn't go, you know what? Now's a good time to go in there and pee while he's in there. I just. That seems weird to me." (13:01)
• Michael (not directly heard but referenced by name) and others also identify with the 40%.
• The hosts reflect it’s possible their experiences are not universal, but they all happen to share a similar perspective.

6. Drawing Lines — Where is the Boundary?

• If peeing in front of a partner is a show of comfort, why not extend to all bathroom acts? This question underscores the arbitrary (but meaningful) line many draw regarding privacy, even in intimate relationships.
  • Quote: "If the logic is it's about being comfortable with each other, it's sign of a healthy relationship, then...why wouldn't that be the same argument then?" (13:38)

7. Funny Anecdotes and Cultural Observations

• Stories about open bathroom habits in other couples, awkward public restroom conversations, and the infamous Johnny Depp bed incident are shared for levity.
  • Quote (G): "It was funny and endearing, but my immediate reaction was...you do, like, while you're pooping, comedy for each other?" (15:11)
• Discussions about men’s troughs and the etiquette of talking at urinals, with the consensus being that most still prefer some degree of privacy.
• Gladys (team member) admits she and her husband are in the 60%, offering a nod to generational or personality differences.

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Relationship Norms:
  • C (Host): "I've only been in relationships like I've been in like 15, 20 relationships in my life. It's never happened." (10:38)
• On Therapist Advice:
  • C: "One of them said, close the door. Don't be with the door. Preserve some mystery." (12:44)
• On Social Norms:
  • G: "To each their own, certainly...But my immediate reaction was, oh, wow, you do, like, while you're pooping, comedy for each other." (14:30, 15:11)
• On Public Restrooms:
  • C: "What about somebody speaking to you at a urinal when you're in the restroom? Oh, I don't want that. It's kind of the same thing." (16:51)
  • I: "Some woman...went into her stall and as we were doing our thing she goes, so when are you due? ...This is not the time to chit-chat." (17:25)
• On Generational Differences:
  • C: "Gladys said she's in the 60. Okay. She and her husband do it in front of each other, so. Wow." (18:18)

Timestamps of Key Segments

• 03:21: Episode proper begins; discussion about wildlife bridge as icebreaker.
• 08:44: Introduction of the main topic—bathroom privacy in relationships.
• 09:29 – 11:10: Phone call anecdote and personal relationship norms.
• 11:10 – 12:16: Research findings and team self-identification ("the 40%").
• 12:29 – 13:01: Previous therapist advice and team reflections.
• 13:28 – 16:14: Broader discussion on boundaries, team stories, and reflections on privacy.
• 16:51 – 18:18: Public restroom etiquette and generational comments.
• 18:18 – End: Gladys shares her perspective; humorous, light-hearted wrap-up.

Tone & Style

• The conversation is casual, honest, slightly irreverent, and characteristically dry-humored. The hosts and team poke fun at themselves, reference infamous pop culture moments, and remain self-aware about the awkwardness of the topic.

Summary

For anyone interested in the unwritten rules of intimacy, this episode is a funny, thought-provoking exploration of how even "open" relationships have their limits. Through candid admissions, research, and humor, Armstrong & Getty reveal how attitudes toward privacy—especially in the bathroom—can be deeply personal, shaped by upbringing, personality, and sometimes, just plain sense of what feels right.