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Jay Shetty
Hey, it's Jay Shetty with On Purpose. My newest episode is out now with Jordan Peterson.
Jordan Peterson
To be open to learning does mean, at least to some degree, always asking, what am I doing wrong? What do I have to give up? What do I have to transform? That could be very painful. There isn't anything better that you can do with failure, no matter how unjust, than to learn from.
Jay Shetty
Listen to On Purpose with Jay Shetty on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Trust me, you won't want to miss this one.
Jack Armstrong
Broadcasting live from the Abraham Lincoln Radio Studio at the George Washington Broadcast Center, Jack Armstrong and Joe Getty. Armstrong and Getty. And now here's Armstrong and Getty. It's the Armstrong and Getty show, featuring our podcast One More Thing. Download it, subscribe to it, wherever you like to get podcasts.
Joe Getty
It's just been in the last few years, I feel like that they've started breaking down intelligence into different groups. Yeah. Used to be smarter dumb, but now there's different kinds of intelligence, including emotional intelligence. And I ran into a guy who had very low emotional intelligence or whatever ability it is that some people have or don't have to read a room to read other people's body language or faces or whatever.
Jack Armstrong
Right.
Joe Getty
And it's amazing. I mean, I have run into several people. I know some people that are very high on that. Like, I think Trump is extraordinarily high on that. He probably actually is genius level when it comes to emotional intelligence. I think a lot of successful people probably are, but I've known some really smart, successful people that seem to have like zero. I mean, they're like imbeciles when it comes to emotional intelligence. And I met one on vacation, as I said, the world's least humble Marine. And. Yes, go ahead.
Jack Armstrong
I was just going to say, do you think a decent description of emotional intelligence is understanding how the other person is receiving an exchange, perceiving that?
Joe Getty
Absolutely. And it seems to me the people that are really bad at it have never even considered the idea of wondering how other people are reacting to them.
Jack Armstrong
It's kind of like truly the you have no idea how bad you or the more dumb you are, the smarter you think you are. One of those things.
Joe Getty
Yeah, it's the whole incompetent people don't know they're incompetent. And I guess that's true on all topics. And my experience with military people as we've. Joe and I have done so many things with so many military people over the years, and we both have family members in the military. Military people tend to be pretty humble. It's just the way they are. And the higher up the food chain you go in, that the more likely they are to be humble. Like special forces dudes, super humble guys you would never know they were. And most Marines I've ever met in my life were like that also, except for this guy. So I'm on vacation, and my son and I is actually going to be both my boys and I, we're going to take this boat trip. It's like this inflatable boat. Probably fit 15, 20 people on it, maybe a couple of motors, and you're gonna go out on the ocean. And it was described as a pretty rough ride. And then you ride around in the ocean, and then there's gonna be some snorkeling and then a ride back. And it was a pretty long trip. It was like three hours total. But anyway, they made it clear is really rough. And then my youngest son decided he didn't want to do it. And thank God he made that decision because he would have never been able to handle it. It was grueling. I mean, it was grueling. Yeah, you had to. You had to have your feet underneath these straps, and then you had to hang on with both hands to these other ropes. Have you done this before?
Unnamed Speaker 1
I have. And these boats are not a smooth ride.
Joe Getty
No, no. Super rough. And you, like, had to hang on really hard with your legs and your arms to stay in the boat. And it was. And it was hours of this, and it was a pretty physically grueling thing to do. And it was fun, but, I mean, you'd go over waves and landed.
Jack Armstrong
Boom.
Joe Getty
And it was just, like, such a jolt to your spine. I mean, it was. It was.
Jack Armstrong
Right.
Joe Getty
Anywho. So before we got on the boat, there's a young dude in a bucket hat, sunglasses, and a. This is on the 4th of July. A red, white, and blue Speedo. And he's a super fit guy. Like, big guy. Guessing like 6, 2, 2, 10. Very fit, very muscular dude.
Jack Armstrong
Just to clarify, the bucket hat, the sunglasses, the speedo, and nothing else.
Joe Getty
Correct.
Jack Armstrong
Okay.
Unnamed Speaker 1
All right.
Joe Getty
He had flip flops on.
Jack Armstrong
Well, grandma, a pair of flip flops.
Joe Getty
Red, white, and blue Speedo. And. And, you know, there's a variety of groups, like husbands and wives or boyfriends and girlfriends or like, me and my son, and then he's by himself. And they talk about before we're gonna get on the boat, the captain, who is a super cool dude, really, really cool dude. He was six years in the Coast Guard and then he's run other big ships around the world and he piloted this thing and he went in and out of rocks. I mean, he's like one of the most confident people I've ever been in, around in my life. I wish I was like him. He was military, so that factors into the story because he was like your regular military guy, kind of humble and, you know, not trying to show off or anything like that. So he's telling us where all to sit on the boat. And you know, if you really want a smoother ride, sit in the back. It gets rougher as you go toward the front. And then if like you're really worried about this, sit in the middle, middle pillar. And so there were some older people that sat in the middle pillar. Some girls did and they kind of spread out and my son and I were up toward the front. Marine guy takes front seats, I'll take front. And guy said, okay, cool. You sure? And he said, I'm Semper5, man. I don't worry about it. Oh, right. Right off the bat. Marines never freak and tell you you're a marine unless it comes up in conversation. The fact that he just said that right there is the first time I've ever heard that in my life. The guy in the Speedo, so he gets up there and he's sitting toward the front and we take off on the boat and he's just non stop talking the whole time, never stops talking. Talking to the captain, talking to all the girls around him, of course, non stop chatterbox kind of. I don't know how many times he mentioned he was a marine or he was semper fi. Way too many times. Not hanging on to any of the ropes. He would just fly up in the air and land to balance himself. See, I don't need to hang on. I'm se.
Unnamed Speaker 1
I hate him already.
Joe Getty
I know, I know. And it gets worse. So they're going around and so they start handing out. The captain starts handing out gloves. He said, your, your, your, your knuckles are going to get rubbed bloody holding on to the ropes against the canvas of the boat. So if you want to wear gloves, you can get them. He said, I don't need him. And the captain CDI didn't tell you to take any Captain cdi. The captain was already tired of this dude, you could tell. Captain says, yeah, I didn't figure you'd want any. Course not. Simplify. We don't use gloves. Okay, we get it. Dude, you've made it clear to everyone on this tiny boat who's heard you already, you are in the Marines. He's actually still the Marines. But you're a tough guy. We all fully understand the whole dynamic of what's going on.
Jack Armstrong
Can we just stipulate that and move on?
Unnamed Speaker 1
We get it and it's neat.
Joe Getty
Okay, so we're on this boat ride and the captain points out a couple of hikes and swims that people do in this touristy area on the ocean. And he talks about this one. It's a 17 mile hike and swim. Not very many people. Do it, do it, do it. It's really, really hard to do. It's really grueling. You have to be like an expert swimmer. Marine boy says, I just did it. Did it yesterday. I didn't think it was that big a deal. I'm not kidding, I'm not kidding. He actually says this.
Jack Armstrong
Oh, this is why you go ahead.
Unnamed Speaker 1
No, I say, this is when you go whoops and accidentally just donkey kick him off the side of the boat.
Jack Armstrong
You know, if only his dad had told him like once, I'm proud of you, son. Or good job.
Joe Getty
Oh, wow. You think that's it? That could be it. And not a shock that he was by himself, but. So he had done this grueling like 17 mile coastal swim or whatever. And the captain, the Coast Guard veteran guy, was pretty impressed. He said, wow, you did that? And he said, yeah, I didn't think it was that much. And he said, I don't know, many people have done that. Were you with some people? He says, by myself. He said, man, that's not a very good idea. I usually suggest if people are going to do that swim, they have a boat with them or. Nah, says the Marine guy, okay, fine, we get that going. But here's my, here's the ending of my story. This is my favorite part of the whole thing. The captain, super cool guy, has a big speaker on his boat and he's blasting music the whole time, which made it kind of fun. And he's got like a bunch of different cool songs, some Jimmy Buffett tunes and different stuff like that. And just, you know, kind of songs that people would like. And then this song comes on Michael. So that song starts and the Marine says, hey, you know what I call this song? Captain's like, what? Free ballin?
Jack Armstrong
Oh, no.
Joe Getty
He's like, what? Freeballin? You haven't ever heard that term, freeballin? It's like when guys don't wear underwear, we Call it Free Ballin. And I wanted to say to him, everybody got it, dude. We all understood from the moment you said that your pun, you're fantastic pun. We just thought it was like coarse and uncool. And there's a couple of. They're not children on here, but there's a couple like high school girls or whatever. Not appropriate content for them or whatever. So then when it gets to the chorus, the chorus comes on and he stands up.
Jack Armstrong
Oh, no.
Joe Getty
Free ball in, like really emphasizing.
Jack Armstrong
Get it?
Joe Getty
Come on. Everybody's a free ball in.
Unnamed Speaker 2
Like Tessa does.
Jack Armstrong
Are you testicles Michael? You're right.
Joe Getty
Yeah.
Unnamed Speaker 1
Very good.
Joe Getty
I actually thought at one point, are you a Saturday Night Live bit?
Jack Armstrong
I was gonna ask, are you in the background of some jackassish video you're reacting to? That's.
Joe Getty
Wow, it was amazing.
Unnamed Speaker 1
This guy sounds cringe from start to finish. Every part of this I hate.
Joe Getty
Oh yeah, it was just, it was tough. And I didn't know if my son was picking up on it or not. But when we got off the boat, he was like, God, that guy was an ass. You know? Oh yeah. Everybody and the captain just trying to ignore it. No, what do you call it? Free Ballin. Okay. Do you get it? Yeah, I get it. We all get it. Everybody gets it. See, the problem is. And that's where I come in with the emotional intelligence thing. I mean, it was clear, all of us looking around that we, I mean, we're all looking at each other. We all felt exactly the same way. And I would like to like a. An experiment as a sociologist to talk to the guy and say, are you really not picking up on any of the cues that everybody on this boat is giving that. One, they're tired of hearing you talk. Two, they don't think your course jokes are funny. Like you really? That hasn't sunk into you at all?
Unnamed Speaker 1
Was he drinking?
Joe Getty
No.
Unnamed Speaker 1
Okay.
Unnamed Speaker 2
Do you think he was a real marine or was he just bs?
Joe Getty
I think he's a real marine. I definitely think he's a real marine. And he had all the. They talked a lot about what base you've been on and when you get out and blah, blah, blah. He had too much knowledge about, I think his marina. I just think he. I think he's a super stud athlete, really good looking guy. So the, the, there's a captain and then there's another person who's like the tour guide and talks and takes lots of pictures and she was like 25 and super attractive. She went up to the front to sit by him at one point, like when we first started, because I think she was singing. Here's a single guy, good looking guy. I'm good looking girl. I'm gonna talk. She was up there like five minutes. Went back to the back of the boat. Okay.
Unnamed Speaker 1
From the department of. This is you're single dude.
Jack Armstrong
Oh, you know, number number one. Well, I'll. I'll skip to the second point. Reminds me of a dude I ran into in Lamaze classes when Judy was pregnant with her first. And it was so obviously a case where a big stud dumbass found himself some hot dumb chicken and the two of them got together and pretty quickly started to make each other insane. And he is so clearly headed for that sort of future. He is. He's got to be in the outermost like 3% of utterly clueless.
Joe Getty
Right. And man, imagine how difficult that is to make it through life if you can't read other people's reactions to you at all.
Unnamed Speaker 3
Yeah.
Unnamed Speaker 1
And you're standing on a boat screaming free balling.
Joe Getty
Right. And in a family setting. Yeah. I mean it wouldn't have been. It wouldn't have been funny if we'd all been 19 year old dudes.
Jack Armstrong
It's still.
Joe Getty
Yeah, we get it. We got it right at the beginning. You don't need to sing it.
Jack Armstrong
Yeah.
Unnamed Speaker 2
There was no way for the captain to make him accidentally fall overboard, huh?
Jack Armstrong
Yeah. Well, I was just gonna say karma really demanded that when the boat flew up in the air, he smacked down hard maybe on them, you know, karma punishing him for his. Well, the aforementioned sins.
Joe Getty
And I, I thought kind of what you were thinking there is like how many women have fallen for this good looking studly dude and how long did it take him to figure out and. Or is the reverse. Is this the really dumb hot chick that guy's put up with for a while? I don't know.
Jack Armstrong
But I see him connecting with either the. And forgive me for referencing it in any way, but the Hawk TWA girl who was viral for a cup of coffee or the. The two stupid good looking chicks who stole the Girl Scouts money, who we've played the clips of Whoa. Writing many times. Well, they had the money and I wanted it. He'll end up with one of them or both of them probably.
Unnamed Speaker 1
Speaking of girl, I just want to let you know, I was at a bar over our vacation and my husband was elsewhere. So this guy came up and stood next to me and went, hey, I just want to let you know you look just like the Hawk Tooey girl.
Joe Getty
Oh.
Unnamed Speaker 1
And I said, first of all, no, I don't. Second of all, is that your opening line? That's what you're going up to chicks now and saying so anyway, I'm not. I'm apparently the other hock tui girl.
Jack Armstrong
I got a marine buddy. I think you should meet the two. You get along great. Jack Armstrong and Joe Getty. The Armstrong and Getty Show. The Armstrong and Getty show. Look out. Here's. We were talking about the neo Marxists trying to subvert society and what Americans love and are proud of and the rest of it. And a lot of people go along with them because they think they're doing the right thing. Here's a Democrat led town in Connecticut. This state trooper was killed by a hit and run driver last week. Young man, family, the whole tragic story that you've heard, you know, too many times. But several of the council people wanted to fly the thin blue line flag in his honor and explained why they wanted to and what a fine fellow he was and what a tragedy it was. But several of the council members said, no, we can't do that. It represents racism and antagonism to many, many people. And if you don't personally believe that and you fly it at your house and think it means something to you, that's fine, but we can't do it because again, it represents racism, antagonism to many, many people. Here's how this works. The flag which has always indicated support for, concern for love for police officers. During the heyday of the Defund the police movement, the Black Lives Matter movements, which are both neo Marxist movements, they're trying to tear down the West. They've admitted as much. While they were in the midst of that fervor, they convinced people that any support of police, police is racist and antagonistic, even though it's not and it was never intended to be. But they convinced a bunch of people that a legitimate expression of support for police is racist. And so now you have people saying, I've heard that's racist, right?
Joe Getty
Or at least controversial.
Jack Armstrong
Right. That's how that works, as James Lindsay has put it. Really? James Lindsay. If you want to control something, call it racist until you control it. Here's another brief example. Here's a North Carolina teen. North Carolina, you ought to be better than this. Suspended from school for using the term illegal alien in a classroom discussion. An administrator likened that to saying The N word. 16 year old Christian McVeigh. Right.
Joe Getty
Wow.
Jack Armstrong
Right. And so now is this.
Joe Getty
Here's, here's the difference between the N word and illegal alien. I can say illegal alien over and over just like you did, teacher. Illegally alien, illegal aid. Try saying the N word, you'll notice the difference real quick.
Jack Armstrong
Well, and check federal statutes. You will find the term illegal alien all over the damned place. So is this school administrator an activist? A neo Marxist activist? Could be. There are a lot of them. Are they just a soft head that has been swept up in thinking, oh, that's. I'm told that it's. It's racist to use that term. So I'm going to punish anybody who does.
Joe Getty
Probably that one.
Jack Armstrong
The useful idiot, right? It is in no way. Which is why it makes me so crazy that now you hear even Fox News using the term migrant. How did we decide to go from illegal immigrant to immigrant to migrant? It's because activists on the far left insisted on it and said, if you don't, you're a racist. And people said, duh, I don't want to be a racist, so I'll do what you tell me to do. How about a little independent thought, folks? Goodness. Armstrong and Getty.
Jay Shetty
My latest episode is with Jordan Peterson.
Jordan Peterson
To be open to learning does mean, at least to some degree, always asking, what am I doing, doing wrong? What do I have to give up? What do I have to let go of? What do I have to transform? That can be very painful. There isn't anything better that you can do with failure, no matter how unjust, than to learn from one of the.
Jack Armstrong
Most articulate men of our time, clinical.
Joe Getty
Psychologist turned culture warrior, Dr. Jordan Peterson.
Jordan Peterson
The men who prefer short term mating opportunities are psychopathic, narcissistic, Machiavellian and sadistic. So one of the unintended consequences of the sexual revolution is that the freed up women have been delivered to the psychopathic men. Most people who have post traumatic stress disorder don't have it because they were hurt. They have it because they encountered someone who wanted to hurt them.
Jay Shetty
Listen to On Purpose with Jay Shetty on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts.
Jack Armstrong
It's the Armstrong and Getty show featuring our podcast. One more thing. Download it, subscribe to it, wherever you like to get podcasts.
Joe Getty
I really like to know what's hot. I, I just partially, I think it's good for the radio show. Partially. I just, I'm interested to know how. I like to know if there's a super hot band, super hot movie, super hot whatever, clothing style, whatever. I just like to know. And so the other day I'm walking through the Newsroom. And Jensen, who you may have heard on our show before, she's in the newsroom. She said, do you watch the Bear? I said, the what now? She said, it is my favorite show of all time. Not just my favorite show right now. It's the best TV show ever. And I thought, well, we ought to have you on to talk about it. And then, weirdly, in the next 48 hours, I came across a couple of different articles or tweets or whatever from people saying, this season of the Bear might be better than last season. It's my favorite TV show of all time. We brought it up on the radio show. We got a number of texts from people, say, it's my favorite show ever. Ever. That's a heck of a thing to say.
Jack Armstrong
It's a story about a guy who takes a trained bear around the country playing county fairs. Makes the thing dance.
Joe Getty
Yeah, right.
Unnamed Speaker 1
On cocaine occasionally.
Joe Getty
The guy who drives from town to town in an old truck, engaging in street fights, and he's got this charming bear that rides with him.
Jack Armstrong
That sounds terrific. Solves people's problems.
Joe Getty
Anyway, we got a couple of clips from the bear. It's actually.
Jack Armstrong
It's a story about the guy who's, like, a brilliant, gifted chef, and his brother, who runs a Chicago sandwich shop, dies, and he has to take over the family business. That's the broad outlines or the very basic outline. Cool.
Joe Getty
Well, here's. Here's the first clip. This is a delicate ecosystem, and it's held together by a shared history and love. I have every intention of turning this.
Jack Armstrong
Into a respectable place of business eventually.
Joe Getty
That's funny. The music reminds me I'd read a couple of different places that the soundtrack for the Bear is just fantastic. That's one of the things that draws people in. But I did ask would be Wilco.
Jack Armstrong
There in the background.
Joe Getty
The only. The only way I can watch a TV show is if my kids can watch it. So I asked Jensen, I said, is it okay for kids? She said, absolutely not. And I guess this next clip will make that evident. It's some of the tension in the kitchen. Let's hear it.
Jack Armstrong
Ibrah, make sandwiches. Don't stop making sandwiches.
Joe Getty
Yes, Chef.
Jack Armstrong
I'm gonna make three sections, okay? They're gonna be wet, hot, and sweet. All right, I'm gonna take green tape, make those sections. Louie, I want you to get the sandwiches, Put them in the corresponding sections. Come on. Yo, sweet bag. Sharpie. Label that leave, Chef. Yes, sir. Tina, fire every single chicken we have, please. Okay. Richie, do you even know how to do fries. Okay. Marcus, where are we on cakes? Get in there.
Joe Getty
Getting there. What the.
Jack Armstrong
Marcus, what the are you doing? Still working on this. Yo, come on. What are you tripping for?
Joe Getty
Am I tripping for. It doesn't make a difference.
Jack Armstrong
There's four kicks and still. Yeah, I was going to cut them. They're not even cut yet. Yeah, it's not that big of a deal. I am. I'm doing them in five, basically. I'm gonna order them in five.
Joe Getty
Stop everything, Fire everything.
Jack Armstrong
Right, okay, I'll fire everything now. I just was finishing. Step out to Marcus and step out. Okay, I'm gonna talk to Marcus.
Joe Getty
Get the my expo now. Get the off. Thank you. We're firing 76 beasts, 34 chickens.
Jack Armstrong
Okay. 12 french fries, 12 mash out.
Joe Getty
Thank you.
Unnamed Speaker 1
I mean, he's like a deli version. Gordon Ramsay.
Jordan Peterson
Yeah.
Joe Getty
I'm intrigued. From people I've. From people I've known who worked in kitchens. That is relatively accurate.
Jack Armstrong
Yeah. Wow. Wow. It's like if the Sopranos were making sandwiches.
Joe Getty
I'll check it out. I'll probably watch an episode tonight.
Jack Armstrong
Yeah. And there's obviously, if people are raving about it, there's, there's much more to it than the mechanics or what can be described.
Joe Getty
Oh, yeah, obviously. Yeah. If you can, if you can give a good flavor of your pardon the fun pun of a show with a 30 second clip and ain't that great. It ain't that probably a bad show, right? Exactly.
Jack Armstrong
It's like a song you love. The first time you hear it's probably going to bother you by the third time.
Joe Getty
Exactly.
Jack Armstrong
Yeah. And being a pig headed idiot, it took me a while to understand that great documentaries are all about people. They're all about humankind and our struggles and whether it's. Well, it's a story about a guy who trims bears fingernails at a zoo. And I'm thinking I don't have any particular interest in bears fingernails, but it's an award winning documentary. Just watch it. It's going to end up being about life. Right, right. Anyway, do we have time for that? Well, I suppose the podcast. We can make it as long as we want to. We're Joe Rogan.
Joe Getty
We got three hours left.
Jack Armstrong
No, thank you. My throat already hurts. At the end of the radio show, came across this Twitter thread that I thought was absolutely terrific. And we'll post a link for you@armstronggetty.com it's, it's an analysis of how Julius Caesar started his political career. And this historian said he was Rome's second greatest order after Cicero. And here are nine lessons from a brilliant early speech of his that made his career take off. And he wasn't as a young man. He came from a good family, but he wasn't really taken very seriously. He was deep in debt. He had a reputation as a playboy. He had kind of a Matt Gates reputation, if I may.
Joe Getty
He said, I got this idea for a salad. Nobody would listen.
Jack Armstrong
Right? Exactly. Raw eggs? What are you crazy? Anyway, in 63 BC, the conspiracy of Catiline was unearthed. Um, evidence came forward to plots to murder senators, burn the city of Rome, overthrow the Republic. You can look more into it if you want. Um, but the Senate in Rome declared martial law to avert the danger and said essentially that the danger is so severe, there's no time for trials. We've just got to round these people up and execute them. And Caesar thought that was a bad idea. And he delivered a speech in the Senate against summary execution. And according to this historian, his speech is a masterclass in swaying a group gripped by fear and anger away from acting on their urges. And I don't know if we'll go through all of this, but we'll do part of it. Number one, name the emotions your audience is feeling. And some of this to you, who are, like, more intuitive, persuasive, you're good at, you know, you're good at speaking and influencing people. It may be a little obvious to you, but I just thought it was interesting to see it laid out. So name the emotions your audience is feeling that you need them to not act on. Chris Voss calls this tactical empathy. Caesar begins by doing this in order to clear a little room for reason, quote, members of the Senate, all men who deliberate upon difficult questions had best be devoid of hatred, friendship, anger and pity. When those feelings stand in the way, the mind cannot at all easily discern the truth. And no one has ever served at the same time his passions and his best interests. When you apply your intellect, it prevails. If passion takes control, it is master. Whereas the mind is entirely impotent.
Joe Getty
And has been my experience.
Jack Armstrong
That has absolutely been my experience. That would be incredibly unpopular in politics today, where anger and passion and yeah, is like, that's the only thing that matters practically. I read another study the other day as a tangent, that people are much easier to mislead when their anger. When they're angry, you can convince them of. About anything if it feeds their anger.
Joe Getty
Oh, really? That's an interesting thought.
Jack Armstrong
And I thought, yeah, I kind of Got hung up on that because I thought, yeah, not only another person can convince me of something when I'm angry, but I can convince me of stuff that later. I think that's not true. That's. That's. That's not healthy. It's not good that other person isn't guilty of that. You're more easy to mislead when you're angry.
Joe Getty
Anyway, Caesar went on to say, if you're going to have a really giant baby, I got a plan for that.
Jack Armstrong
Hey. Oh, let's see. Uh. But that's not enough. Number two. Tell a story as quickly as possible. Or several, preferably stories that appeal to the audience's identity. Stories from history are good, especially if you're talking to a group. Caesar said, in the Punic wars, although the Carthaginians, both in peacetime and during truces, often did many abominable deeds, our ancestors never did likewise when they had the opportunity. But they took into consideration what conduct would be consistent with their dignity rather than what action could be justified against the Carthaginians. So he appealed to the shared history of the group. Three, make very clear what the story means and how it relates to your point. Caesar's point in this speech is showing restraint was essential to the Romans coming to dominate the world. That was one of their best qualities. Restraint is in your best interest. You likewise, members of the Senate, must see to it that the villainy of Publius, Lentulus and the rest do not have more weight with you than your own dignity, and that you do not take more thought for your anger than for your good name. Number four, Affirm emotions while making clear they are not relevant to the decision. Especially if other voices are actively trying to stir up those emotions against your advice. Again, empathy plus reason. Are they trying to get us angry? We're already angry. In other words, here's what he said. Most of those who have expressed their opinions before me have deplored the lot of the nation. In well structured, grand language, they recounted the horrors of the war, the wretched fate of the conquered, the rape of maidens and boys, children torn from their parents, arms, matrons subjected to the will of the victors, shrines and houses pillaged, bloodshed and acts of arson. In short, everywhere, arms and corpses, gore and lamentation. But by the immortal gods, what was the aim of that eloquence? Was it to make you detest the conspiracy? You know, if this is the second greatest orator in Rome, and I believe the guy's right, I gotta read more.
Joe Getty
Cicero.
Jack Armstrong
That is so Good.
Joe Getty
Yeah.
Jack Armstrong
Number five, Praise your opponent's good intentions. Build common ground with the real people you need to persuade.
Joe Getty
We don't do any of that anymore.
Jack Armstrong
Not really. And he mentions one of the guys who's on the other side of it. He calls him a gallant and dedicated man who said what he said out of patriotism. I know this man's character, and such is moderation. So he singles out one of his main opponents, praises him up and down, and, by the way, slips in. Moderation is his greatest quality. That happens to be what I'm arguing for anyway. Number six, appeal to tradition and self explanatory. Number seven, cite more history to show this is a dangerous precedent going in the other direction. Number eight, recommend an alternative. He recommended that they have the guilty guys, all their assets confiscated, and then be sent to prisons throughout Italy, probably to await a trial once the danger passed, so everybody could calm the F down. Then here's the twist. Plot twist. The Senate was swayed at first, but then Cato the Younger delivered a speech in favor of execution. The Senate adopted Cato's proposal and recommended Cicero execute the prisoners. So Caesar lost. But that brings us to number nine. Taking a stance for moderation can be good even if you lose. Caesar probably knew he wouldn't win, but he had an additional motivation. Catiline raised an army of 10,000 by championing the interests of the poor, downtrodden, disaffected of Rome, the 99%. When Catiline failed and died, the poor and downtrodden remembered Caesar as a champion of their lost cause because he was reasonable and just. And indeed, he became the emperor.
Joe Getty
And then, number 10. Croutons are the key to my salad. They allow a crunch that you wouldn't otherwise have.
Jack Armstrong
Anchovies or.
Joe Getty
No, no.
Jack Armstrong
I am staunchly pro anchovy.
Joe Getty
Yeah, I'm disgusted by anchovies. They're a fish or something, right?
Jack Armstrong
Not or something. They're a fish. Yeah. Fish or a rat. A fish or a shoestring? No, they're a fish. Very salty.
Joe Getty
Sounds disgusting.
Unnamed Speaker 2
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Joe Getty
What?
Jack Armstrong
Armstrong and Getty.
Jay Shetty
My latest episode is with Jordan Peterson.
Jordan Peterson
To be open to learning does mean, at least to some degree, always asking, what am I doing wrong? What do I have to give up? What do I have to let go of? What do I have to transform? That could be very painful. There isn't anything better that you can do with failure. No matter how unjust, than to learn.
Jack Armstrong
From one of the most articulate men of our time, clinical psychologist turned culture.
Joe Getty
Warrior, Dr. Jordan Peterson.
Jordan Peterson
The men who prefer short term mating opportunities are psychopathic, narcissistic, acuvalian and sadistic. So one of the unintended consequences of the sexual revolution is that the freed up women have been delivered to the psychopathic men. Most people who have post traumatic stress disorder don't have it because they were hurt. They have it because they encountered someone who wanted to hurt them.
Jay Shetty
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Jack Armstrong
This is the Armstrong and Getty show featuring our podcast One More Thing. Get it wherever you like to get podcasts.
Joe Getty
Katie, your view on Ben Affleck. Smart guy, dumb guy, hot guy, don't care.
Unnamed Speaker 1
He's not bad looking. I mean, he's all right.
Joe Getty
He was world's sexiest man once for People magazine.
Jack Armstrong
Oh, at least once. He's dead sexy. You can't deny it.
Joe Getty
Yeah, but I think he comes off as a dope, which makes you less sexy.
Unnamed Speaker 1
Well, and in all, a lot of the photos I've seen of him, at least recently, he always looks mad.
Joe Getty
Well, he's a drunk, so there's that. Drunks, unless you find a way to deal with it, tend to be quite unhappy when they're not drunk.
Jack Armstrong
So I came across this. This was Ben Affleck in 2003 talking about the future of entertainment. And I was blown away about, you know, how much he nailed Michael. We can stop this, right? And restart it. You know, stop.
Unnamed Speaker 2
No, it's completely impossible. Yes, of course we can.
Jack Armstrong
You. All right, go ahead, roll it.
Unnamed Speaker 3
I believe that the industry has been too slow to embrace and adopt these paradigms. If you look at historically in terms of technologies, in terms of consumer based technologies, you have like basically shareware that introduces the consumer to it at no cost, at which point the consumer is on the hook. They figured out, they worked out the kinks. They figured out how to interact with it and how to exploit it. And then you charge a fee. And the consumer historically has been willing to pay that fee. I think an annual subscription based system is the one that works. You have the music business, a $3.4 billion a year business, which is largely about 1.7 million people in the country spending $200 a year. That same people would spend those $200 a year each year to have access to basically the entire library of existing music. And of course, you Continue to re up your subscription because you pay for new music royalties. He paid more directly to the artists. You have less overhead. You pay no shipping, packaging and you pay no. There's this mammoth amount of executives at music companies that are glomming off a lot of that money. I believe that paradigm is the most effective productive. That's the paradigm that Adam Smith would most want. I think there are inefficiencies in the market now and I think they're being worked out and I think file sharing is pushing the industry toward that balance because you know it's because of its availability right now or eventually it's just.
Jack Armstrong
Going to be video on demand, movies on demand because bottom line it's going to eventually affect your guys pocketbooks if piracy continues.
Unnamed Speaker 3
There is piracy movies and it will be, it will be movies on demand but it will be a tiered structure. It will be like if you want to watch it first weekend, maybe it won't be available first weekend but then if you want to watch it, you know, you'll pay more. And then as it goes to another stage in its release it will become less expensive. But there's a lot more adoption that has to happen, technologically speaking right now before people can watch movies or at least integrate it. In terms of the PC and web connection, you know, the technology is not quite there yet but it will be within I would say five years.
Joe Getty
That's pretty impressive. And he drops an Adam Smith in there. I changed my mind about Ben Affleck.
Jack Armstrong
You know, I don't know how far ahead of his time was but if I'd been listening to that and had some cash around I might have thought wow, people are going to be streaming music instead of buying it physically. I ought to get on the ground floor of whoever's doing that.
Joe Getty
I don't remember what was going on in 2003. That's clear. Back in like Napster days, wasn't it.
Unnamed Speaker 1
Like that's exactly because I was trying to think why would he be talking about this. But this is when Napster and Limewire were really big for people pirating music.
Joe Getty
Now Michael, you or, or someone you knew, not you, you wouldn't do that.
Unnamed Speaker 2
No, I never did that.
Joe Getty
Someone you knew used to get pirated movies. Like somehow do you remember how they.
Unnamed Speaker 2
Had all sorts of burning DVD software that yeah people could do and they.
Joe Getty
Would just find them on websites, online.
Unnamed Speaker 2
You can find them online. You could take the physical media and then copy it. There were things that got around the.
Joe Getty
You know, can that same person still do that to this day, or is it harder now?
Unnamed Speaker 2
Oh, I'm sure you can. Yeah, you can definitely do it today.
Joe Getty
Does it just not make sense?
Jack Armstrong
Finding point? That's.
Unnamed Speaker 2
Yeah, it doesn't make any sense.
Jack Armstrong
So I guess Ben Affleck's point was what you're calling pirating and file sharing and all that is clearly the way things are going. And, well, you didn't.
Joe Getty
He didn't catch his term. And for whatever reason, his Boston accent was really coming out there. Did he not work as hard back then to get rid of his shareware? It's wicked. Piss a smart. The shareware.
Jack Armstrong
You gotta have the shareware.
Joe Getty
I thought that was kind of funny. Oh, yeah, with the shareware.
Jack Armstrong
Park your car, Jimmy skin. He's got shareware for you. You give you a floppy disk, just take it from him.
Joe Getty
Well, it's another. How smart is that celebrity Wednesday. Next Wednesday we'll do Leonardo DiCaprio, idiot or genius.
Jack Armstrong
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Joe Getty
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Jack Armstrong
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Jack Armstrong
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Jay Shetty
Hey, it's Jay Shetty with On Purpose. My newest episode is out now with Jordan Peterson.
Jordan Peterson
To be open to learning does mean, at least to some degree, always asking, what am I doing wrong? What do I have to give up? What do I have to transform? That can be very painful. There isn't anything better that you can do with failure, no matter how unjust, than to learn from it.
Jay Shetty
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Podcast Summary: Armstrong & Getty On Demand
Episode: The A&G Replay Thursday Hour Two
Release Date: November 28, 2024
The A&G Replay Thursday Hour Two episode of the Armstrong & Getty On Demand podcast delves into a variety of engaging topics ranging from emotional intelligence and personal anecdotes to incisive political commentary and media reviews. Hosted by Jack Armstrong and Joe Getty, this episode offers listeners a blend of humor, insightful discussions, and critical analysis of contemporary issues. Below is a detailed summary capturing the key points, notable quotes, and overarching themes discussed throughout the episode.
Timestamp: 01:08 – 04:19
Jack Armstrong and Joe Getty open the episode by exploring the concept of emotional intelligence, its various facets, and its significance in personal and professional interactions.
Key Discussions:
Evolution of Intelligence Categorization: The hosts note the shift from a simplistic "smart vs. dumb" classification to a more nuanced understanding that includes emotional intelligence (EQ).
Real-World Examples: They share experiences of encountering individuals with varying levels of EQ. Joe Getty highlights meeting someone with low emotional intelligence who struggled to read social cues, contrasting this with high-EQ individuals like former President Donald Trump, whom Getty describes as "extraordinarily high on [emotional intelligence]."
Notable Quotes:
Joe Getty [01:33]: "It's amazing. I mean, I have run into several people... They seem to have like zero [emotional intelligence]."
Jack Armstrong [02:17]: "Do you think a decent description of emotional intelligence is understanding how the other person is receiving an exchange, perceiving that?"
Joe Getty [02:28]: "It's the whole incompetent people don't know they're incompetent."
Insights:
Timestamp: 04:19 – 13:37
Armstrong and Getty recount a personal anecdote about a challenging boat trip, serving as a practical illustration of emotional intelligence (or the lack thereof) in social settings.
Key Discussions:
Boat Trip Dynamics: The hosts describe a grueling three-hour inflatable boat journey, highlighting the physical and emotional strains involved.
Encounter with the Marine: A central figure in their story is a Marine with low emotional intelligence, wearing a red, white, and blue Speedo, who continuously boasts about his Marine background and physical feats. His inability to read the room and respect social cues disrupts the group's experience.
Captain's Management: The episode details interactions with the boat captain, a seasoned Coast Guard veteran, who remains calm and professional despite the Marine's disruptive behavior.
Social Experimentation: Joe Getty muses on the challenges of interacting with someone who cannot perceive the group's collective discomfort, pondering the difficulties such individuals face in broader societal contexts.
Notable Quotes:
Joe Getty [04:43]: "He probably actually is genius level when it comes to emotional intelligence."
Jack Armstrong [08:00]: "Oh, this is why..."
Joe Getty [10:20]: "And that's where I come in with the emotional intelligence thing."
Insights:
Timestamp: 14:03 – 18:19
Armstrong and Getty transition into a critical analysis of contemporary political movements, focusing on what they describe as neo-Marxist influences attempting to subvert traditional American values.
Key Discussions:
Thin Blue Line Flag Controversy: The hosts discuss a recent incident in a Connecticut town where council members debated flying the Thin Blue Line flag in honor of a fallen state trooper. While some saw it as a tribute to police officers, others condemned it as a symbol of racism and antagonism.
Defund the Police & Black Lives Matter: They argue that movements like Defund the Police and Black Lives Matter have redefined symbols and narratives around policing, convincing the public that supporting police is inherently racist.
James Lindsay's Perspective: Referencing author James Lindsay, Armstrong and Getty suggest that labeling supportive actions as racist is a tactic to control societal narratives.
Case Study – North Carolina Teen: A high school student's suspension for using the term "illegal alien" is analyzed, with the hosts comparing its condemnation to the severity of using racial slurs, arguing that such actions are examples of overreach by activists.
Notable Quotes:
Jack Armstrong [16:36]: "That's how James Lindsay has put it. Really?"
Joe Getty [17:07]: "Here's the difference between the N word and illegal alien. I can say illegal alien over and over..."
Jack Armstrong [17:19]: "If you want to control something, call it racist until you control it."
Insights:
Timestamp: 18:22 – 19:11 & 32:32 – 33:21
Throughout the episode, excerpts from Dr. Jordan Peterson's discussions are interspersed, providing philosophical and psychological perspectives that complement Armstrong and Getty's dialogues.
Key Discussions:
Embracing Failure and Transformation: Peterson emphasizes the importance of being open to learning by consistently evaluating one's actions and being willing to transform, even when facing painful challenges.
Short-Term Mating and Psychological Traits: He links the preference for short-term mating opportunities to psychopathic, narcissistic, Machiavellian, and sadistic traits, suggesting that the sexual revolution has inadvertently empowered such individuals.
Notable Quotes:
Jordan Peterson [00:05 & 18:22]: "To be open to learning does mean, at least to some degree, always asking, what am I doing wrong? What do I have to give up? What do I have to transform? That could be very painful."
Jordan Peterson [32:32]: "The men who prefer short term mating opportunities are psychopathic, narcissistic, Machiavellian and sadistic."
Insights:
Timestamp: 19:37 – 23:24
Armstrong and Getty review the critically acclaimed TV show The Bear, sharing their impressions and discussing its appeal.
Key Discussions:
Plot Overview: They describe The Bear as a story about a gifted chef who takes over his family's Chicago sandwich shop after his brother's death, navigating the challenges of running the business.
Soundtrack Praise: Joe Getty commends the show's soundtrack, noting its effectiveness in enhancing the viewing experience.
Content Appropriateness: Despite high praise, there's a discussion about the show's suitability for young audiences, acknowledging its intense kitchen dynamics and occasional strong language.
Comparisons and Recommendations: The hosts liken the show's kitchen tension to that of The Sopranos and draw humorous parallels to Gordon Ramsay's style.
Notable Quotes:
Jack Armstrong [21:01]: "There are high school girls or whatever. Not appropriate content for them or whatever."
Joe Getty [22:53]: "Stop everything, Fire everything."
Jack Armstrong [23:08]: "It's like if the Sopranos were making sandwiches."
Insights:
Timestamp: 33:49 – 38:43
In a lighthearted segment, the hosts discuss actor Ben Affleck, debating his public persona and past statements.
Key Discussions:
Physical Appearance vs. Intelligence: Armstrong and Getty contrast Affleck's recognizable looks with perceived intelligence, poking fun at his reputation.
Historical Statements: They reference a 2003 interview where Affleck predicted the shift towards digital music streaming, suggesting he was ahead of his time.
Piracy and Digital Transition: The conversation touches on the evolution of digital media consumption and piracy, relating it back to Affleck's foresight.
Notable Quotes:
Joe Getty [34:03]: "He was world's sexiest man once for People magazine."
Jack Armstrong [34:37]: "He gets shareware for you. You give you a floppy disk, just take it from him."
Joe Getty [37:56]: "He didn't catch his term. And for whatever reason, his Boston accent was really coming out there."
Insights:
Timestamp: 38:43 – End
The episode concludes with Armstrong and Getty promoting their podcast, encouraging listeners to engage with their content on various platforms.
Key Discussions:
Podcast Promotions: Both hosts invite listeners to subscribe to their podcast, highlighting their coverage of mainstream media stories, political trials, and cultural phenomena without perceived media spin.
Upcoming Content Teasers: They hint at future episodes featuring discussions about other celebrities, such as Leonardo DiCaprio.
Notable Quotes:
Jack Armstrong [38:43]: "We cover the stories the mainstream media ignores. Stories that are important to your life and important to the world."
Joe Getty [39:06]: "Open your free iHeart app and search the Armstrong and Getty show to start listening."
Insights:
Conclusion
The A&G Replay Thursday Hour Two episode offers a comprehensive blend of personal stories, critical analyses, and cultural commentary. Armstrong and Getty engage listeners with their candid discussions on emotional intelligence, societal issues, media evaluations, and celebrity portrayals, all while interweaving insightful quotes and relatable anecdotes. This episode serves as a testament to their dynamic hosting style and their dedication to unpacking complex topics in an accessible and entertaining manner.