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Nicole Lapin
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Emma Greed
Welcome to the Aspire Podcast with me, Emma Greed. So today I want to talk to you guys about something a lot of people don't want to talk about. Something that's often considered taboo. And that something is money. Now, I'm not just talking about the dollars and cents, but the psychology of money and why we make such certain financial decisions and how you can make your money work for you. Money holds so many of us back, but I strongly believe that it can also set you free if you have the right information and you're asking the right questions. I actually want to help you begin your journey towards financial freedom, which is why today I'm speaking to my guest, Nicole Lapin. She's a bestselling author and the go to money expert for anyone looking to take control of their finances. You might know her from her books like Rich Bitch, Boss Bitch, Miss Independent and and no, they're not all about me. Or maybe her most recent book, the Money School. She's been a financial journalist for major networks like cnn, CNBC, and Bloomberg. She's one of the youngest ever anchors in business news and she's on a mission to help people build wealth without the BS or the jargon. Her podcast, Money Rehab, is one of the most popular finance podcasts out. I don't know about you, but I have serious protein goals and finding protein filled snacks is a challenge when you're always on the go like me. Life moves fast, work, kids, errands, it never stops. And yet somehow you're supposed to eat well in the middle of all that. That's where great tasting Bavarian meats little lan Yeager Snack Sticks come in. They're naturally fermented, slow smoked for bold flavor, packed with 9 grams of protein per serving and they have zero sugar and zero carbs. It's a snack that keeps up with your day. Whether you're racing between meetings, school drop off, or just trying to finish your to do list, take a moment to savor something delicious for you. And did I mention they're portable? Toss a few in your gym bag, your glove box or wherever. Pick up a pack today at your local grocer or stock up@bavarianmeats.com podcast Bavarian Meats snack sticks. Great taste, zero sugar. If you've ever tried starting a business, you know it shouldn't be so complicated. That's why I'm all about Northwest Registered Agent. They make it easy. We're talking your full business identity in just 10 clicks and 10 minutes. Seriously, get more with Northwest. More privacy, more support and more freedom. To run your business your way. For just $39 plus state fees, they'll form your business, create a custom website, and even help you build a local presence no matter where you are. They've been doing this for nearly 30 years. Real business experts, real solutions all in one easy to use account. From formation paperwork to trademark registration to custom domains, it's your one stop shop. Don't wait, protect your privacy, build your brand and set up your business in just 10 clicks and 10 minutes. Visit northwestregisteredagent.com aspire and start building something amazing. Get more with Northwest registered agent@northwestregisteredagent.com Aspire welcome to Aspire. Nicole.
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Nicole Lapin
Oh, thank you so much.
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Emma Greed
Thank you so much. I am so happy to have you here today. I cannot tell you.
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Nicole Lapin
I am so happy with your shirt, too.
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Emma Greed
I wore this for you. This was all for you. And honestly, I think it's. This was supposed to be like a little bit of an icebreaker for us. This is my favorite shirt. I call it my money shirt because I wear it on very special days when I'm, you know, expecting big things to happen. I think we should start in the place that, you know, just get it out of the way. Why do people find it so hard to talk about money?
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Nicole Lapin
You know, I think it's the last taboo that we have in society. We'll talk about sex, no problem. We'll talk about bikini waxes, no problem. Dinner with our girlfriends. I'm like, you just told me about your landing strip and you're not telling me about what's in your bank account. This is crazy. I think maybe mental health and fertility still taboo, but money is the last taboo we have. And I think that we just attribute so much stuff to money that's not necessary. Our value, our worth is tied into money. But really, money is just a tool. It's like a hammer that you can build a house with or you can tear it down. So I think the more we start talking about it, the more we join the conversation and the more we make more of it. And if you want to have that conversation, go first. I think any hard conversation about, you know, addiction, you know, whatever else you want to talk about, you have to go first and then it gives license to the other person to do the same thing.
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Emma Greed
Yeah, I feel like that might be one of the reasons that I have less of an issue because I'm always talking about it and it just gives everybody else around me the freedom to speak about it. But I think it's been so Long. That's, like, so ingrained in us. And I wonder if. If you can talk a little bit about, like, the common misconceptions, like, almost like the lies that we tell ourselves about money.
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Nicole Lapin
So many. Oh, my gosh, we have, like the greatest hits in our head. Right. I'm too old to start. I don't have enough money, and I'm not a numbers person. And so let's talk about this.
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Emma Greed
That's a big one for women, right? I mean, I will say that I'm dyslexic, but for so long, I would say I'm not a numbers person. And therefore I need X, Y, and Z all around me. But it was like an excuse to not become better with numbers, which I've had to do.
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Nicole Lapin
Yes. I started as a poetry major. I wanted to sit under the tree and read sonnets all day long. I didn't think I was gonna ever talk about money. Be in finance, teach other people about it. I'm the least likely person to be doing that. And the reality is you don't need to be a math wizard. You just need to have fifth grade math level to get your financial life together. So if I could do it, anyone could do it. It's really the humanities part that gets in people's way. It's getting our friend to pay us back, talking to our significant other about money, all that other stuff that gets in the way. And as for the other excuses, you're never as young as you are today. So as far as I'm concerned, today is as good a day as any. And you don't need a lot of money to start. You need the most time possible.
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Emma Greed
So how did you even start your career in money if you wanted to be a poet? How did you even get to this place?
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Nicole Lapin
And by the way, sneak attack. Some iambic pentameter and other things that just make me happy are in my, you know, I didn't have the luxury to go out and do what I love, so I had the opportunities present themselves and I jumped at them because I needed a job. And I was asked if I knew about business news when I was 18, and I said yes. And I was like, absolutely. I love business news.
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Emma Greed
Fake it till you make it.
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Nicole Lapin
Till you make it. I'll figure out. I'm like, I'll figure it out. Harder things in life. And that's exactly what I did. I realized that money is just a language like anything else.
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Emma Greed
I love that you say that, but when you talk about, like, money being a language, what do you even. What do you mean by that?
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Nicole Lapin
It's so much jargon that keeps us out of these conversations, right? There are so many acronyms that we think we can't learn, but the truth is, we learned a lot of acronyms in school.
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Emma Greed
100%. I feel like I got that so much in my early days in business. I would sit in meetings and, you know, people would think that I'm just taking random notes, and I'd actually be writing all of those acronyms down so I could go back and Google them later. But it's hard to. It's hard to be part of a conversation and to have that confidence that you need if you don't know that. So where do people start? Because I feel like so often our relationships with money are formed early in our life, right? They come from our childhood experiences, from where our family, you know, like, had their relationships. Do you find that we carry those stories with us throughout our lives and that's where it all begins?
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Nicole Lapin
Yes, it does. So much financial trauma in a lot of different ways, whether it's in our family. So I'll just go first. You know, I saw my house foreclosed on when I was a child. I bailed my mother out of jail using cash under the sink behind the maxi pads. You know, I'll never forget that. I talk about it in one of my books. I have serious, serious, like, heavy financial trauma. The first step to any recovery is admitting you have a problem. But the only problem you can't fix is the one you don't admit you have. And so any of this financial trauma, just, like, look at it, acknowledge it, and move on.
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Emma Greed
So how do you even begin to start if you've got that stuff, which I feel like all of us have memories. You have so much, you know, built into you habits. How do you even begin to unwind and unpack some of that? Like, how do you start to have a healthy relationship where money's concerned?
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Nicole Lapin
What are those habits? And, you know, I think we spend so much time doing everything else. I'm like looking up a blender. You know, we spend three hours looking up the best air fryer. We spend, you know, five days looking up the best vacation. We spend so much time doing these things, we think we don't have time. But what about automating our investments or setting up a financial system for yourself? Reading a book, listening to a podcast, teaching yourself about index funds. You've figured out harder things in life, and I think it's about baby steps. This is a huge, complicated Topic. And so my books are broken down into steps because I think anything really complicated broken down into baby steps feels easier and more manageable.
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Emma Greed
Yeah.
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Nicole Lapin
The first time I tried to do my taxes, I thought I was just going to do them all on Saturday night and had, sadly, no. I ended up with a bottle of wine and some Haagen Dazs and there was no taxes done. But then I decided, okay, I'm just going to one day uncrinkle my receipts.
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Emma Greed
Yeah, that's it.
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Nicole Lapin
Like, today I'm just going to do that, and that's going to be a success.
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Emma Greed
Tiny little step. Well, I just think that the idea of financial instability is so deeply rooted for so many people that they just become patterns. So you've got to try to unlearn some of those patterns. I actually think. I mean, I can say a lot of things about my childhood, but the one thing that I learned was real, you know, how to be disciplined around your finances. I think still to this day, I know the price of everything. I sat with my mother, and she, you know, we didn't have a lot of money, and so she really had to be meticulous about planning the finances. This amount of money was coming in, this amount of money amount was going out. And it would be like every single expense would be listed. And it's still the way that I think about that. But it's a muscle, right? The more you do it, the more you learn, the more you start to think about, okay, outside of the day in, day out, how do I look to the future? And I wonder if you think, is there ever a time when you can just turn it off? Can you say, all right, goodbye to my past, goodbye to all the bad things that I've learned, Now I'm gonna go forward. And where do you even start?
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Nicole Lapin
Honestly? No. I mean, I still. No matter what's in my bank account, I still carry it. I would be. L. I can't lie. I'm a terrible liar. I always forget my lies anyway, so I just don't do it. I still have this irrational fear of being broke, alone and homeless and dying in the gutter. And by the way, right now, I technically am homeless after losing my house in the fires.
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Emma Greed
I'm so sorry to hear that.
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Nicole Lapin
Thank you. It's devastating, but devastating now after all these years. Like, it just presses on the deepest, darkest insecurities and traumas that I have.
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Emma Greed
Oh, I can't imagine.
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Nicole Lapin
Oh, you know, you were scared of being homeless. Here you go. You know, what are you gonna do now, and I think it's recognizing those greatest hits. I think it's, like, the greatest trauma hits that you have. So I think of it as, like, logs down a river or something. Oh, hey. Hey. Nice to see you again. Trauma about being homeless. Hello. Nice to see you. About ruminating about, you know, your ex or whatever. Whatever your greatest hit is, it's about just acknowledging that it's there.
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Emma Greed
I've heard you speak a little bit about this scarcity mentality and how that's, like, so much AP of you. I. I wonder if you can just tell me more about that, because I think it's something that so many people have.
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Nicole Lapin
I actually have a mixed relationship with this because I think that so much of that scarcity drove me. Like, I didn't have a fallback plan. I didn't have another option. You know, I hated money. I was like, I want to be a poet. I don't want to talk about money. But I needed to figure it out because I had no other choice. And so some of that drove me so I wouldn't, you know, wish I didn't have it, because I have to, you know, reframe it as a superpower, not as a weakness.
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Emma Greed
And you mean that it drove you, like, it drove your ambition and your, like, how intense you were about going after things. Yeah, yeah, of course.
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Nicole Lapin
I mean, I. Yeah. Having. Having the abundance. And I don't think that I would have stuck with finance or the opportunities that I was given. You know, I think it's a luxury to go out and do what you love and go after this passion. Like, that's cool.
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Emma Greed
And how do you even decide, like, to go? You know, you decided not to be a poet, even though you write books. And I'm sure there's an element of that in there. So when you're thinking about a career and when anyone's thinking about a career, how do you decide about, you know, diving towards what your passions are or, like, going for the money? Because I'm pretty sure that that is a very real decision for a lot of people, especially in this time that we're in right now.
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Nicole Lapin
I mean, honestly, Emma, I think we have the equation wrong. I think that it's not passion that leads to success, it's success that leads to passion. The more successful I became, the more I like this. That's the truth.
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Emma Greed
I love that you say that. I really love that, because I think there's a lot of people out there that are trying really hard to find their passions. And I always talk about this Idea of being excellent at something, like just being so good that you get so into it and you become so brilliant and then it turns in, as you quite rightly say, to your passion. You should speak about that a little bit more because I think there's a lot of people wanting, wandering around, looking for a passion.
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Nicole Lapin
Yeah, there's nothing wrong. I'm very passionate about making money and, like feeding my family.
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Emma Greed
So you think it's completely fine to actually go, you know what, I'm just gonna head for this specific career because there's money over there, or you're good.
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Nicole Lapin
At something, and then it just continues to make you feel more passionate about it because you're successful at it.
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Emma Greed
That's the truth. And I feel like that's the journey for so many people. So what do you do if, you know, I know so many people that in, you know, their early days, it's like you come out of college or university or perhaps, like me, you didn't even go. But you get yourself into trouble because of those bad habits because of, you know, how you've learned to grow up with or without money and what your, you know, patterns are, and you get into debt. I feel like one of the things that holds people back so much is this. You know, they literally feel like they have nowhere to go because they're in debt. So how do you even think about getting yourself out of debt?
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Nicole Lapin
Well, I was there when I first got a credit card because I grew up in an immigrant family. So, you know, first generation Americans use cash a lot. Don't talk about mortgages, don't talk about debt, none of that stuff. And so when I finally got a credit card, I got myself into a lot of credit card debt because I didn't understand how it worked. And then I figured out how to get out of it the hard way. And I actually broke that down into baby steps where I remember that it was $7 a day, because when you look at that big number, you know, it was $10,000. I was like, there's never, there's no way I'm going to get $10,000. But then if you broke it down, okay, here's the plan. I came up with a plan to prioritize, to pulverize with my alliteration. And. And I broke it down that way and I, you know, got out of it that way.
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Emma Greed
So how did you go from someone who was once somebody in debt to somebody that's then investing?
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Nicole Lapin
So that force of compound interest once I figured out, because, you know, I didn't work at a bank, didn't get my, you know, speak. Like, I would speak to you here. And if we were at dinner and tried to break through that jargon, but when I was like, oh, this is the same thing that can be used in investing to grow my money while I'm doing nothing. So, like, my money makes me more money. That is so cool.
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Emma Greed
And how much money are we talking about? Because if you're in debt, like, what did you start with?
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Nicole Lapin
So I'll give you an example. I started with a couple hundred dollars a month. And it truly is that easy when you're looking at compound interest.
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Emma Greed
And do you advocate for people starting to invest? Like, when in their life, like, do you say you should. You should start at 20 years old. You should start at 35 years old. Like, when is the time to do it?
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Nicole Lapin
Today is a great day to do it. And I think that we get in our heads about that. We didn't start early enough. You know, I remember reporting on the. I was broke as hell reporting on the floor of the Chicago Merc, which I thought was a mall. Okay, this is the stock exchange about Apple launching their first ipod. You know, Google launching Gmail. If I bought Google and Apple back then, like, I kick myself all the time. Right? We all have this. Like, oh, I wish I could have done that. But as early as you can start, the more you can take advantage of that force of compound interest. You can also do it for your kids. Like, I just had a baby and congratulations. Thank you. Custodial Roth IRAs are amazing. Like $7,000 a year if you tax free, triple tax benefit.
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Emma Greed
Unbelievable. And you would set that up for your kid immediately?
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Nicole Lapin
Like, yes. Out of the womb.
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Emma Greed
Out of the womb. Straight away.
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Nicole Lapin
She's crowning.
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Emma Greed
Well, this sounds so interesting. So talk to me about some money habits. Like the money habits of the highly successful people. Like, what do most people do that everybody should know about?
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Nicole Lapin
Oh, so many things.
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Emma Greed
What should they do?
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Nicole Lapin
So many things. So I have broke friends and I have rich friends. I'm sure you do too.
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Emma Greed
I do.
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Nicole Lapin
My broke friends talk about people, gossip, celebrities, whatever. My. My rich friends talk about process. Who's your wealth manager? What do you do? How are you setting up your trust? Are you doing a grat. You know, did you get an SBA loan? These are the conversations that we should be having. I've never seen a reality show in my entire life, so I can't keep up with those conversations. But I think that once we start.
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Emma Greed
They'Re not talking about those Things just so you know, you're not missing anything.
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Nicole Lapin
Once we start having those conversations, we can, you know, get better. And the only way to do that is to actually join the conversation. And, you know, look, I think that rich people don't operate in the same way. Bill Gates, if he's buying a house, is not putting down 20% in cash. He's borrowing against a portfolio. Borrowing is really, really powerful.
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Emma Greed
I used to talk to you about borrowing debt. I'm obsessed with this idea because I was raised to think borrowing was absolutely off the table. No credit cards. Don't spend what you haven't got. Like, that is like slippery, slippery slope. But as I've got older and actually made some money, I've understood that borrowing is really my friend. And I often think about it. I'm like, why would I be spending my own money on this?
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Nicole Lapin
It's like OPM other people's money. That's like what rich people do. You borrow other people's money at a lower interest rate than you can make. So there's a 7% rule. So if you have debt and you're listening to this and you're like, okay, but I have debt. I want to start investing. What do I do first? And that's a common, common issue. So 7% is usually the threshold. So the stock market will yield about 10% over time, not next Tuesday. Don't freak out over long periods of time. And that's inflation adjusted. So if your debt is higher than that. So if you have credit card debt at 20%, pay that off before you start investing. But if you have a low interest rate, student debt, or a business loan, or some other really low interest rate below 7%, you can make more by investing. And you could take that spread or the difference between what you're spending on the debt and what you're making in investments.
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Emma Greed
And this is what you advocate for people to do all the time?
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Nicole Lapin
Yeah, it's called arbitrage is fancy word for just saying, like, how to hack the system. It's this language that I think keeps people out of the financial system, and then they charge you to learn about it. And it's really not that complicated. It's like equity is the same as stocks. That's it.
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Emma Greed
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Emma Greed
The large majority of people don't have money to invest but I'm really interested to understand like some money habits or rules that are just like if you're an everyday person, you have a salary, you don't have a lot like what are the habits that you should put in place to just have like the best financial health.
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Nicole Lapin
I think thinking of it as health actually financial health because we think about self care and we think about like a deep tissue massage and and I love a deep tissue massage as much as Next Girl but also think about taking care of automating your investments or your savings. That should be self care too. And so financial self care is really important. Financial health is part of your overall health. Having financial stress, anxiety, all these things can affect your actual health. So viewing it as health and I think just coming up with those baby steps and one thing a day. So today you're just going to figure out what your interest rates are just like find it out, list it by highest to lowest. There are two methods for paying off debt. The avalanche method, the snowball method. The avalanche method is way better is where you pay off your highest interest rate debt first because that gets out of doubt.
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Emma Greed
That's a tip. And what else would you do? How much planning, how much foresight, how much should you look in the future? Or should you really be thinking about the day to day? Because I think for so many people, they're thinking about their groceries, they're thinking about their bills, they're thinking about their kids in school. And it's all so important, immediate and in the moment. So at what point do you start thinking about the long term? When do you think about retirement and, you know, like just old age.
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Nicole Lapin
Studies have shown that we think of our old lady selves as different human beings, but we can, you know, definitely. We don't think we're ever gonna be that fabulous, you know, old Betty White, whatever you're imagining in your head. And so, you know, as soon as you get a paycheck, honestly, it's something it's not thinking about every day, it's setting it and forgetting it. Set it up once you're good. Setting up an automated system, contributing to any retirement account. So you don't need a 401k if you work for yourself. You can get an IRA, which is an individual Retirement Account. There's a whole bunch of delicious varieties of IRAs too, that you can get using the compound interest force. The beautiful, amazing force will grow even a small amount of money over time.
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Emma Greed
And where do you think people should get that type of information from? Like where? How do you make those decisions? Because for most people, they're really working with their employer, whatever's in place. Like, how do you even begin to do that research?
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Nicole Lapin
Oh, I'm really on a mission now to make sure that people are actually allocating the money that they put in their investment accounts, because some people think that they're contributing to it. So $7,000 a year into an IRA, you actually have to decide where that's going. You can't just fund it. Otherwise it's sitting just like a checking account. But any of these investments are just a matter of risk and reward. So lower risk, lower reward, higher risk, higher reward. And if you're just starting out and you're like, I don't know this market, it's crazy, I need a volume. You can look at lower risk investments like CDs, bonds. So what's cool about debt is that when you're the one holding the paper or the debt, it's awesome. So you can do that. You can be the lender basically to banks or governments in the form of CDs or bonds. So treasury bonds are basically, you're lending the U.S. government money. And for the privilege of doing whatever they want with your money, they're going to give you your money back after a certain period of time plus interest. So they're going to build a road or a bridge or whatever and then they're going to give you that money back. It's guaranteed, it's principal protected and you're not going to make as much as you would in the stock market, but it's pretty safe, but it's pretty safe save. But he's pretty something. And you need to make more than ideally 3% a year because if you're not, then you're going to lose out on your purchasing power because of inflation. So inflation on average is 3% every year.
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Emma Greed
But you have this feeling that I love that you say set it and forget it. So you are really about like taking what you can, putting it over there and then really walking away and forgetting about it.
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Nicole Lapin
Come up with a think about it.
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Emma Greed
For a rainy day.
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Nicole Lapin
Yeah, I'm not like playing with my investments every single day, are you?
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Emma Greed
Absolutely not. Absolutely not.
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Nicole Lapin
It's coming up with a plan, sticking to the plan. When investments are down and it's looking red, your instinct is to get the F out of there, right? You're like, everybody's selling, I need to get my money. Whatever's left, I gotta take it, I gotta hold it. But the actual, you know, the right thing to do historically, if you look at large data sets, which are my favorite, is to buy more. So when it's low, double down, you have to do the opposite of what your instinct is. And when it's high, you sell, right? Or depending on what, whatever the asset is, it's just buy low, sell high. We wanna do the opposite.
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Emma Greed
I just wonder how you even start. Let's say for example, we've got somebody who is a salary based employee and they get a bonus, you know, they get their end of year bonus and it's a $15,000 bonus. What would you advocate for them to do?
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Nicole Lapin
It's coming up with this, with this idea that, you know, if you have no debt and it's in like a vacuum, I just got 15k. My instinct is to go buy stuff. I would advocate stocks over stuff, I can tell you that, you know, really.
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Emma Greed
Always like if you buy like a piece of vintage clothing or a piece of vintage jewelry, that's not an investment.
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Nicole Lapin
Certain things have outperformed the market for sure. Birkins have been over, you know, good investments. But, you know, like, I think even from.
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Emma Greed
But they're few and far between these fashion totals. Right? It's like, totally. Really? We're saying it's not a handbag. It's a different kind of financial strategy.
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Nicole Lapin
Yeah.
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Emma Greed
And I think that if you Financial products.
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Nicole Lapin
I'm not saying, like, don't treat yourself, but see what that could do over time. Just for funsies, like, put it in a compound interest calculator and see, like, okay, I'm going to buy this, you know, designer whatever. What would that do in the market over time? You could buy like, five of those things. Funny story. I talk about this in one of my books. When I was growing up, I was always jealous of the girls who wore those big, chunky Tiffany bracelets. I was like, oh, my God, I can't with the dangle. I wanted it so bad.
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Emma Greed
I actually was very jealous of those girls, too. I really was. That's the truth.
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Nicole Lapin
I remember I would have, like, the fake Doc Martens, and then that'd be called, like, Nurse Martin because it wasn't Doc Martin or whatever. Stuff like, sticks with you. I don't remember what I did yesterday, but I remember the girl's name who called me Nurse Martin. So we'll have that financial trauma. When I finally made enough money, I heard from that girl. I got an email from her. I was on TV or whatever, and she's like, hey, so congratulations. I'm like, my instinct was to run to Tiffany. I, like, jumped in a cab, went uptown, and I was like, I'm going to buy this freaking dangly bracelet once and for all, and I'm going to feel really good about it. And I go, and I look at this, like, sterling silver section, and I'm like. And I stopped and I actually ran outside and I got Tiffany stock instead.
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Emma Greed
Wow.
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Nicole Lapin
And with that stock, I could buy bracelets for everybody.
- [29:49]
Emma Greed
Wow, you really did that. How did you even begin to educate yourself in what to invest in?
- [29:56]
Nicole Lapin
So I think that what I realized is that nobody can beat the market. So many people try. They all want to know, quick stock tips, quick get rich quick ideas, quick, quick, quick. You know, everything. There's like a culture dad joke, right? The fastest, easiest way to double your money is to fold it in half. There's actually no easy way to do it. I want my investments to be boring as hell. Like slow, steady, unsexy. That is how you grow wealth.
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Emma Greed
Give me an example of those slow.
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Nicole Lapin
And steady and Growing S&P 500 index fund.
- [30:33]
Emma Greed
Give me Index fund. Not like some brand that you love that just went public. Right. You're not like my favorite C2C brand. And now they've, like, gone Republic. That is not it. We're talking about old school, established, like Mark Stalwart.
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Nicole Lapin
Yes.
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Emma Greed
Got it.
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Nicole Lapin
Yes. All day. And you know Warren Buffett, one of the greatest investors of our time.
- [30:54]
Emma Greed
We love Warren.
- [30:55]
Nicole Lapin
I love you. Warren put that in his will for his own wife to do with his money when he passes.
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Emma Greed
Wow.
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Nicole Lapin
He is the greatest investor. If he is saying, like, it is so hard to beat the market, why are we trying to beat it? Just join it.
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Emma Greed
Yeah. Well, as. As Warren would say, nobody wants to get rich slow. And meanwhile, it's the single best thing to do from one of the richest guys in the world.
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Nicole Lapin
We all want, like, this quick fix. And I realized that there was no quick F and there was no easy, like, elevator to the top.
- [31:23]
Emma Greed
So you just gotta educate yourself. You need to be aware, be out there and know that actually there are better things to do with your money than A, spend it, or B, try to think that jewelry or clothes might be an investment. It really is about choosing these, like, slow, steady investments that, you know, over time, yes, boring, but over time are actually gonna perform for you.
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Nicole Lapin
Totally. And I think that that's the most exciting of them all. And that's what actually gives me security and safety. We think that the purchase is gonna do it, and it never does. You're just masking something else. And don't get me wrong, I think that the sweet spot is somewhere in between. I don't know where it's different for everybody, but thinking you're gonna live forever and thinking you're gonna die tomorrow, because we actually tend to be on one of those two extremes.
- [32:11]
Emma Greed
Yeah, totally. Well, and also, I mean, you've just gone through, like, a huge life trauma. Right? So after losing your house in the fires in the Palisades, you must be sitting there with, like that, like, it's right there in front of you. Right. You've lost every material thing you have, but I'm guessing if you practice what you preach, you're okay.
- [32:32]
Nicole Lapin
Yeah, I had a lot of stocks, but I also had a lot of stocks burn. They don't burn.
- [32:37]
Emma Greed
They don't burn.
- [32:38]
Nicole Lapin
But I also had a lot of stuff, and I wish I had more stuff and stuff.
- [32:42]
Emma Greed
You do.
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Nicole Lapin
I really do still, you know, and everything that you think is going to bring you stability, it's just. It's shaken everything. I thought about what that looks like because you can you can lose your house, you can lose your office, you can, you know, if you think a house is going to bring you stability, it's not.
- [33:02]
Emma Greed
And you have the thing that matters. You have. And that's not the stocks, just for the avoidance of doubt, but it's like you have your family, you have like everything that you've worked for in that sense. And so that's just so much more meaningful at this point. Yeah, it has to be. All right, thank you for that. So, switching a gear, I really want to know, with all of your experience, what's the best financial advice you have been given?
- [33:29]
Nicole Lapin
Oh, definitely buy low, sell high, and also to run what the numbers are. I think taking anything as gospel is not great advice. You know, buying a house, not buying a latte. The reason I started into this was hearing a lot of these so called financial experts yell at me for buying a latte and then yell at me to buy a house. And I'm like, there is no one size fits all for everybody. Like I wanted to buy a latte and rent and the financial gods didn't kill me. Like worse. We're good. There's. If you want to move around, it's probably not a good idea to buy. We've been told that this idea of home ownership is the path to wealth. It could be, but maybe it's not.
- [34:13]
Emma Greed
Do you think that's changed now? Because that's one of the things that I wanted to ask you about. I mean, my whole life I've been raised to think that the most important thing that you can do for wealth creation is to put your money into bricks and mortar. Buy a house as soon as you can, have a mortgage, rent, like take rent off the table. Do you think that's completely like ill advice at this point?
- [34:35]
Nicole Lapin
Depends on who you are. You know, renting is not throwing away money. When you buy, there's so many costs.
- [34:41]
Emma Greed
I feel like a newsletter. It's like renting is not throwing away money. Please tell me why.
- [34:46]
Nicole Lapin
It's because there's an opportunity cost. So a lot of people also become house poor, which I certainly don't advocate. And we can talk about the numbers here, but they don't account for the closing cost costs, the insurance, the property taxes. Even if you pay off your house after 30 years or whatever mortgage you get, you're still going to have property taxes, you're still going to have insurance that's only going to go up and you still have maintenance. So like the house, you know, the roof falls down, that's you, you're in charge of that. You have to pay for all of these other hidden costs and you're missing out on this opportunity cost of this down payment. So opportunity cost is really important. I mean, a lot of rich people rent, especially if they're moving around a lot.
- [35:24]
Emma Greed
So. But just. I just want to make sure I understand that properly. When you talk about opportunity costs, you're talking about what you would have in as a down payment. What else can you do with that cash?
- [35:32]
Nicole Lapin
Can you put it in the market? Can you invest? Can you get 10%? You know, over time? Housing is 4 or 5%, but that's not keeping pace with the overall stock market. Absolutely.
- [35:42]
Emma Greed
Now granted, as you've just told us, right. So you could actually take that money that you were thinking of as the down payment to your house and decide that that's what you're going to put in the markets and make it work for you and then you have the compound in interest.
- [35:54]
Nicole Lapin
Totally. I see. You have to just, just again run whatever the numbers are. Don't assume that it's the right investment for you just because you've been told that over and over again. It is a really accessible investment for a lot of Americans to try and put equity into a house. A house is not a good investment. It is a home. It can be a whole bunch of other things. You can decide to buy a house because that makes you feel good and you want that for your family. That's a different discussion than being a good investment. Being a good investment, it is owning an asset that appreciates. That could be a house, that could be a stock, that could be a business. Owning an asset that appreciates is a good investment. House is not necessarily a good investment. Also, it's 10 years. If you think you're going to move around before 10 years, it's not a good idea to buy. You have closing costs, you have other stuff. You know, you're not going to get that capital appreciation that you would think. And you're not necessarily perhaps incorporating inflation. We hear these stories. Grandma bought a house, you know, for 25 grand. Now it's 250 grand. It's the best investment. Like how much were movie tickets when grandma bought the house?
- [37:00]
Emma Greed
Exactly. It's a different day. We don't hear those stories anymore. It's a totally different time. But I was gonna say, do you advocate against buying a house? Then would you say that's just not your recommendation now?
- [37:12]
Nicole Lapin
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- [38:52]
Emma Greed
I'm interested to know what your own portfolio actually looks like. Like what do you do?
- [38:58]
Nicole Lapin
So I love low cost S&P 500 index funds. So should we just unpack really quickly what the heck that means?
- [39:04]
Emma Greed
Please.
- [39:05]
Nicole Lapin
So let's just start with an IND So when you hear on the news like the Dow is up, the Dow is down. That's an index. It's just like a barometer of what the overall market is doing. The dow is the 30 biggest, most powerful stocks. You know, the s and P 500 are 500 stocks. The NASDAQ is another index. It's tech heavy. So when you're buying an index fund, you're buying a piece of all of those companies basically. And so instead of putting all of your eggs in one basket, you're buying an investment that will give you some exposure to all of those companies.
- [39:36]
Emma Greed
So it's basically like hedging a little bit. You're hedging your bet.
- [39:39]
Nicole Lapin
Yeah. And what's great about these indexes is if they suck, they get kicked out.
- [39:43]
Emma Greed
Wow.
- [39:44]
Nicole Lapin
So you're, you're really like you're somewhat critical. Quality control is good, but again, it's over time that those are yielding.
- [39:51]
Emma Greed
How much time are we talking? Like two Years, three years?
- [39:54]
Nicole Lapin
What's the amount of time, big swaths of time.
- [39:57]
Emma Greed
Do you have, like, hard and fast rules for how much you should be putting? You know, how much should you save, how much goes into your retirement fund, how much should you invest? Like, how do you think about that?
- [40:07]
Nicole Lapin
So generally for a portfolio, the basic rule of thumb is put your age in bonds. So what the heck is a bond? It's, you know, it's a safer investment. It's fixed income. It will give you your initial investment back plus a little extra.
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Emma Greed
So you put your age, however old.
- [40:22]
Nicole Lapin
You are, as a percentage.
- [40:24]
Emma Greed
As a percentage.
- [40:24]
Nicole Lapin
I'm 41, so I'd put 41% in bonds and then I'd put the rest in more risky investment investments, stocks. So, you know, 60%, 59% in stocks, or you take a little bit of that. I would say no more than 1% in fun stuff like crypto.
- [40:41]
Emma Greed
I was going to ask you about crypto. Do you believe in crypto? How do you feel about crypto?
- [40:46]
Nicole Lapin
Crypto? I say no more than 1% of your net worth. And everybody has a net worth.
- [40:52]
Emma Greed
You don't have to more than 1%.
- [40:55]
Nicole Lapin
Because 1% you can afford to lose, but you also can't afford to lose out if that 1% becomes 100%.
- [41:03]
Emma Greed
Okay.
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Nicole Lapin
So I personally, if you're going to play in the crypto party, I would stick to bitcoin. Bitcoin is a scarce asset. So there's only 21 million bitcoins mined ever. And that's going to happen in the next century. There's about 19 million mined so far. So the scarcity of, of supply and demand is potentially relevant.
- [41:29]
Emma Greed
But you are perfectly fine. But you're perfectly fine with crypto as a means to build wealth. Like in the same way that you're not to the same degree, because you make that clear from a percentage point of view of your overall portfolio. But when you're thinking about whether or not to put a little, have a little bet on crypto, you're basically like, yes, just make it small for me.
- [41:49]
Nicole Lapin
Yeah, just don't go wild again. The mentality behind that is it's a get rich quick idea. Like, okay, I found the shortcut. There's again, no shortcut.
- [42:03]
Emma Greed
I really want you to say that more. There's no shortcut. I feel like all we hear are the outlier stories, right? It's like, I have a friend and he puts on this TikTok about this.
- [42:12]
Nicole Lapin
AI thing about the more often.
- [42:15]
Emma Greed
No, that is actually not happening. And Those stories are very few and far between. And when they do happen, it is. It's down to a lot of other things, but oftentimes luck.
- [42:24]
Nicole Lapin
Yeah. And it worries me that because we don't have the language to talk about it, a lot of people get screwed. And a lot of people think that they're hearing this great new opportunity, but ultimately get screwed. And so I think when you're thinking about just starting, I reframe a budget as a spending plan, it feels more sustainable. It doesn't feel, again, it's all about this little wording that you can change in the same way as a diet feels like a crash, terrible thing, but an eating plan feels like you can eat chocolate or some small indulgences so you don't end up binging later on, if you start on a crash budget, people will say, in the beginning of the year, Nicole, you'd be so proud of me. I cut out the latte. I'm so good.
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Emma Greed
I'm like, not sustainable.
- [43:11]
Nicole Lapin
By April, you bought a Gucci purse.
- [43:15]
Emma Greed
Exactly.
- [43:17]
Nicole Lapin
You could have bought the coffee shop for, you know. And so it's these, like, extremes that we get into. Ideally, 70% of your overall spending plan should go to the essentials. So your food, your housing, your transportation, and all of that stuff. 15% to the extras. So buy a latte. Buy whatever it is that does it for you, and then 15% to your end game, at least. 15% to what?
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Emma Greed
Your investments are only 15%.
- [43:42]
Nicole Lapin
No. At least.
- [43:43]
Emma Greed
No, but wait a minute. I want to go back to the middle. 15%. Only 15% is your. Your ext. Yeah.
- [43:51]
Nicole Lapin
That's good. What do you mean? So of the essentials, half of that to housing. We ended up spending a lot more on housing.
- [43:58]
Emma Greed
Yes, but don't you think. Come on. The women that I know are putting more than 15% of what they make into their hair and their upkeep and the clothes and the things. And the things. But what you're saying is that stuff, like, everything in that bucket ought to be only 15% of what you spend on an annual basis. You look shocked. I'm looking around going, I think that my girls are spending more than that. They're all, like, holding onto their chairs. You remember?
- [44:30]
Nicole Lapin
I've heard it all. I've heard it like, oh, but it's a. You know, it's part of transportation. I'll put it in here. Like, oh, you know, it's an essential. My eyelashes.
- [44:37]
Emma Greed
I don't know.
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Nicole Lapin
Like, Right.
- [44:38]
Emma Greed
But think of all the things that people do now, there is no. I think there's very, very certainly here in LA. 15% would be on the low, low, low end.
- [44:49]
Nicole Lapin
Yeah. Rich people stay rich by acting like they're poor, and poor people stay poor by acting like they're rich.
- [44:54]
Emma Greed
You heard? Yeah, she said it. She said it. Okay, so you gotta get hair, lashes, clothing, all of this stuff tanning into.
- [45:03]
Nicole Lapin
But you can also. You can.
- [45:05]
Emma Greed
15%, you can move it around.
- [45:06]
Nicole Lapin
Just say, like, that's the.
- [45:08]
Emma Greed
You're not moving it around to like 30% a month. Because if that's the framework you need to stay within. Because we're talking about, about building wealth. And I think that everybody wants to build wealth for themselves. Right? None of us want to worry about money. It is so miserable to worry about money and stressful and all of the rest of it. So having a framework, having a budget, as much as you would have a plan for your career, a plan for your life, I mean, it's an imperative.
- [45:36]
Nicole Lapin
You were in all the businesses, right? Do you just, like, wing it? You just like.
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Emma Greed
I'm the least wingy person. I'm the most, most planned to. I mean, I told you I know the price of everything. I haven't been grocery shopping in I don't know how many years, but I can tell you the price of everything in my fridge. That's just intrinsically who I am. But I know where that comes from. It comes from a place of scarcity. It comes from a place of not having and absolutely imagining that everything is going to run out in my life. So I'm not saying it's healthy, but that's just the way that I manage it. I work on a budget. I'm furious about letting, like just knowing everything that's incoming, everything that's outgoing all the time. There is nothing that is spent on my watch that I don't know about. And that's just the way that I like to keep control. But in that same way, I think that I have my own framework. I start with a yearly budget and I think about all the things that I can do. But it's definitely, I think that 15% piece, if you are on a regular wage, I would say like a woman in America is probably spending a lot more than that on what you call their free, you know, their free budget. How did you frame. You said it was their extras. The extras. The extras.
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Nicole Lapin
Well, if you cut back on transportation or something else, you can move a little bit here or there. I do think we don't actually know how much it is. And that's the bigger issue. So I think we suffer the unawareness. Yeah. We suffer in general more in imagination than in reality. Let's just sit with that for a moment. We are so scared of finances because we just think that if we don't know, it's not going to hurt us. Right. It's like not stepping on the scale and we're fine. Right. It's the same idea. And so I think confronting it and realizing that it might be better than you think it usually is. You know, we think of these crazy stories like, oh my God, I'm going to get arrested for taxes. And I'm like, you know, people have, have stories that really scare them about what the worst case scenario is. Not to get all philosophical, but stoicism has been really helpful to me.
- [47:44]
Emma Greed
Yes.
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Nicole Lapin
And imagining that worst case scenario too. So for me, getting through some of that financial trauma that I had was like, okay, let's address the fear of being broke, alone and homeless. What's going to happen? Say I lose all my streams of income. I have nothing. What, what, what next? Well, I'm gonna go to Sarah's house. Like I'm just gonna sleep on the couch, like it's gonna be okay, whatever that is. And so it's helped me get out of some of that financial trauma anxiety that we all have.
- [48:15]
Emma Greed
I mean, you're an entrepreneur, so how do you think that your awareness around finance helped you start your business?
- [48:22]
Nicole Lapin
You know, there's a lot of female founders who even get to great, amazing exits that are rare and stunning and keep that money in their checking account.
- [48:34]
Emma Greed
You are 100% right. I might have had that very conversation with, I don't know, I can't tell. It's embarrassing to think how many founders, and I'm talking prominent, brilliant, as you say, really meaningful exits and their money is sitting in a check in account in perhaps even like a, you know, what do you call it? Like a, A not an international bank, you know, like in a local kind of. And I, my mind is blown. I'm like, you know, that money could have been working for you. And that is just not even in their mind's eye. That's just not. It's nowhere to be found.
- [49:09]
Nicole Lapin
10 I found without a Bob's Bank.
- [49:11]
Emma Greed
Yeah, I mean, to me, it's taken out of Bob's bank. To me, I just will never, I'll never understand that. And I think there's so much of it is because a again. And women don't talk about these things as much. So we're not having those bro down conversations, which is like, hey, come and meet my guy over at JP Morgan and da, da, da. Like, that is not a conversation that happens between women typically.
- [49:31]
Nicole Lapin
Let's do it. We're doing it now.
- [49:32]
Emma Greed
We're doing it now. We're doing it now. If you sell your company, your money should not be in your checking account. It's just that simple.
- [49:38]
Nicole Lapin
It's true, though. Like, I have great girlfriend, sold her company for nine figures, managed a P and L managed employees. All the things like, like, brilliant. The exit happened, the check came, and a couple months later I'm like, so what's going on? It's in the bank of America checking account. I am losing it. I am just like, how is there this block? Because now we're making more money, which is amazing. So wage gap is getting shrinking, the entrepreneur gap shrinking. The investment gap is wider than ever. And so I think it's again, we're making more money, but it's not about how much you make, it's how much you keep and how much you grow that matters the most at the end of the day.
- [50:20]
Emma Greed
So how do you change that? How from a societal point of view, I think having conversations like this is really important. But what's the behavior that ultimately needs to change?
- [50:29]
Nicole Lapin
I hope that this moment in the world is a big wake up call too. You know, I think that this is a huge opportunity we're seeing, you know, potentially a recession. We're definitely in a, a low market, bear market, which just means we're down, but it's actually great buying opportunities. So great fortunes have been made during recessions. And so thinking of this as an opportunity and not being scared, looking at it as, okay, wow, things high quality investments. Not everything is on sale. High quality stuff is on sale. I can get in on this.
- [51:03]
Emma Greed
And even if you're not ready to make that investment, taking it as a learning opportunity, right? Watching what's happening, listening to the stories, talking to people. I feel like sometimes, you know, you listen to a conversation like this and be like, okay, the market's down. Like, what next for me? Well, it's like just open your eyes to it. Like, listen and start to figure out what you might do next time. Because I feel like so much of the information is like, that's not for me. That's not, that's not interesting for me. So it's like, it is for you if you actually want to create generational weight.
- [51:32]
Nicole Lapin
Well, yeah, just know that it is free. Money is for you. Money for you.
- [51:36]
Emma Greed
Money is for all of us. We absolutely need money, right?
- [51:39]
Nicole Lapin
But you can figure out, like, how to connect the dots to what you're hearing, you know? So the idea that interest rates are going up, like, oh, my God, that's so bad. Is it bad? Nothing's good or bad. It's just relative. So if you're a saver, it's amazing because you're making more money on your money, so you're gonna make more out of bank. If you're getting a mortgage, it might not be the most amazing, but they're all. The way. That the financial system works is really cool once you can actually see it and not be so, so intimidated to join these companies.
- [52:12]
Emma Greed
It's the intimidation piece that I think is the worst. What do you think are the best financial education tools that are out there?
- [52:18]
Nicole Lapin
I use books, podcasts.
- [52:21]
Emma Greed
Listen to your podcast as an example.
- [52:25]
Nicole Lapin
I have a whole financial network of people who are looking at finances in different aspects every single day. So whether it's the market, whether it's advanced investing like options, or different things that I wouldn't suggest for a beginning investor, but looking at it as an overall meal for somebody who's curious about money is what I spend most of my time on lately, again, I'm so surprised. Sometimes I'm really surprised. I'm like, I know this, or I'm making this.
- [52:56]
Emma Greed
Totally.
- [52:56]
Nicole Lapin
And so it's always like. It's still just, you know, a moment of like, wow, I figured this out. But also, we've, like I said, figured out harder things in life.
- [53:05]
Emma Greed
Oh, we figured out so many hard things. I think for me, it was really like, you know, the curiosity has always been there. But as somebody who's dyslexic and finds numbers really difficult, I'm definitely guilty of being that person who's like, this is not for me. Numbers are not for me. And I started just like, my husband listens to those. Those, you know, cnbc, like, every morning. You know what? Who is it? Like, Jim Cramer's on the tv, and I'm just like, I would almost blank it out. And then I started to just listen. And then you read in the news, and then you start connecting stories. And it really can be as simple as that. And when you start asking questions, it's really surprising in your own social groups, like, who's investing? And that was the biggest thing for me. I suddenly realized that I had a bunch of people around me who were making investments or, you know, had stocks in this and shares over here and bonds over. And I was just blown away. And so I feel like once you are a little bit curious, you'll probably be surprised by who else in your orbit actually has an interest. And, like, leaning into that can just be the most simple thing to do because I don't have a bunch of, you know, apps or things that I look. I look at the, like, Apple stock apps, like, every single day.
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Nicole Lapin
But that's.
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Emma Greed
That's it, really. And I just read a lot. The awareness has to be there. You. Again, you have to know what you're doing, and you can never be ignorant to those facts. There's certainly no one that has power of attorney for me. There's. I sign everything, I read everything there is. That's just how it goes. And even, you know, too much information. But between my husband and I, right, there is a. There's an element of trust that happens in a marriage. But I. I have my own representation. I have my own way of looking at things. And. And I've always done that because I would never want to be in a situation where I'd outsourced what I have earned to anyone else. It's as simple as this.
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Nicole Lapin
That's a bar.
- [54:52]
Emma Greed
Yes. I'm telling you.
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Nicole Lapin
So you had a prenup or you.
- [54:56]
Emma Greed
I had a pretty.
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Nicole Lapin
You ready?
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Emma Greed
It's a great conversation. I remember it like it was yesterday. We went to an Italian restaurant. I was living in London at the time, just before we got married. And it's like, obviously not a romantic subject, but we're in a very romantic restaurant. And we sat down face to face and hashed out our prenup and an AB Guinness. Yeah. But like, it was, you know, like, it was any other negotiation. I was like, well, if this happens and this happens, then I would want this. And he would like, well, if this happens on the other side, this is what it will be. And we just, like, went at it like an actual negotiation. And. And that was before I have what I have now, so. Well, because that's just my mindset. You know, it's like that I'm. I'm not. I'm not parting with anything I've worked hard for.
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Nicole Lapin
I love that.
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Emma Greed
No way.
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Nicole Lapin
I think it's important to take back the conversation, too. I think a lot of women think he's making me sign a prenup. This idea of, like, he's making me is like, no.
- [55:47]
Emma Greed
What.
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Nicole Lapin
What about all of the. The. The wealth that you've created or. Or business that you've created? Bring that up. Like, have it ready to go.
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Emma Greed
Yeah.
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Nicole Lapin
Own that conversation because you're going to have it anyway.
- [55:59]
Emma Greed
You, you 100% the government.
- [56:01]
Nicole Lapin
Why do you want the government to decide or the state to decide what happened to you? These are hard conversations.
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Emma Greed
Take control.
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Nicole Lapin
But like, but also talking to your significant other about money doesn't have to be like an interrogation. Right. You're talking about your hopes and your dreams. Dreams have price tags, you know, A dream without a plan is just a wish. And wishes are amazing, but they don't pay the bills. Like you need to just figure out the life you want and then reverse engineer it to figure out how to get the money and all those contingencies around it.
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Emma Greed
So I have a couple of questions for you that are from my group chat. So first one, and it's because, you know, we're on that topic of partners, does it ever make sense to have a joint account with a partner?
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Nicole Lapin
Yeah.
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Emma Greed
When in those circumstances, I think it's.
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Nicole Lapin
A yours, mine and out hours.
- [56:43]
Emma Greed
Yes. I love that I have that kind of setup. Yours, mine, ours.
- [56:47]
Nicole Lapin
Yeah.
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Emma Greed
Especially when you have children.
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Nicole Lapin
Always have yours.
- [56:51]
Emma Greed
Always, always, always, always.
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Nicole Lapin
But the hours can be weighted too.
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Emma Greed
Okay.
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Nicole Lapin
So if somebody makes more money, then they're putting in a percentage so it feels more equitable.
- [57:03]
Emma Greed
Oh, that's nice.
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Nicole Lapin
Because if one person is making a million dollars and one person's making a hundred thousand dollars, ten thousand dollars is going to mean or feel like a different amount to them.
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Emma Greed
Okay, so a weighted share, that makes, that makes a lot of sense for.
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Nicole Lapin
Like the communal stuff.
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Emma Greed
Yes. Yeah. Under what circumstances should you borrow where.
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Nicole Lapin
You can make more money with that money? Yeah, money is, I mean the way the rich people, and I don't even think we dug into this, but they'll borrow against their assets and use that debt to pay for a house. House. You, you then just pay the interest on that loan so you don't have to liquidate investment. So like a non rich mindset I would say is you have a million dollar portfolio, you want to buy a million dollar house, you take out $200,000, you put a down payment on it. The rich person mentality is look at that million dollar portfolio. Take out a $200,000 loan against that portfolio. Pay a small amount so you never have to to sell those investments and those investments continue to grow.
- [58:06]
Emma Greed
And then the last question from the group chat, how can you sustainably build multiple streams of income? I feel like this is such a thing now with everybody having a side hustle. Do you advocate for people having multiple streams of income? I feel like you do.
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Nicole Lapin
Yeah, but not in the way that you would think. So the average millionaire has seven streams of income. So even if you don't have a side hustle or, you know, 14 businesses that you're running or whatever, like a stream of income can be dividends, it can be interest. So if you set up your investments to get dividends, dividends, just fancy word to say, like they give you a little present every once in a while from that investment. That's a stream of income. It doesn't require you to go out and do more things.
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Emma Greed
So before we end, I want to ask you some rapid fire questions. The first thing that you do in the morning, what is that?
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Nicole Lapin
Check my phone. I should, I should drink lemon water.
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Emma Greed
You shouldn't do anything manifest. You only have to be truthful. That's all I ask. You check your phone. And that's honest. Are you checking the markets? Is that what you're doing?
- [59:06]
Nicole Lapin
Yeah. Yeah, totally surprised.
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Emma Greed
What's the last thing you do before bed?
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Nicole Lapin
Sometimes I would gratitude journal and all this stuff lately, I'm just not, I'm checking my phone and I'm going to bed.
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Emma Greed
That's true, for it's honest. I think a lot of people can relate.
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Nicole Lapin
Yeah.
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Emma Greed
And you're doing it as you wake up in the morning and before you go to bed.
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Nicole Lapin
That's right.
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Emma Greed
Fair enough. What are you currently aspiring for in your business life?
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Nicole Lapin
So interesting. I'm aspiring to not move the goalpost for a moment. And I'll double click on that for one second, please. But I think that the reason we never feel like we can have it all is because we never define what it all is and we constantly change the goalposts on ourselves mid game. I don't know much about sports, but like that's, you know, if you keep moving the goalpost, you're never going to get there. And so I think celebrating what those wins are, but first defining what that is is how we can have it all, so to speak. And so saying like, these were my goals, I got there. We, we're good. Like, I'm not a failure because now all of a sudden I just saw somebody's yacht on Instagram and I don't have one. I was like, hold on, was that on my list of the things that I wanted? No, it wasn't. So like, be aware of that.
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Emma Greed
It's a fantastic answer. I really, really love that answer. What are you aspiring for in your personal life?
- [60:20]
Nicole Lapin
Learning how to raise a baby. Knowing what to do with a baby. I think I Don't know. I. You know, I had a baby when I was 40.
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Emma Greed
Good for you.
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Nicole Lapin
I don't know. I don't know.
- [60:32]
Emma Greed
Great timing. Thank you.
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Nicole Lapin
So trying to keep her alive and happy.
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Emma Greed
I love that. What is the biggest misconception about your profession?
- [60:44]
Nicole Lapin
That it's a guy's thing. And that it's like a. A fancy club that you can't be part of if you didn't grow up in it. And I'm here to tell you, you can be.
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Emma Greed
Yeah. And you really did that today. Is there a book that changed your life?
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Nicole Lapin
Not in the way that you'd expect. My first company was named Nothing but Gold, which people think is about bling bling and like money, but it's actually a line from Anna Karenina that I love Russian literature. And it was this idea that, you know, Anna in the book, in her most depressed times, looked at the beach and I'm gonna butcher this. But looked at the beach and saw just small specks of gold in the sand as happy times. Like there was just so few and far between. But she wanted to look at the beach and see nothing but gold, Nothing but joy.
- [61:33]
Emma Greed
Wow. And so that is beautiful.
- [61:35]
Nicole Lapin
I know I should have said some money thing, but it's.
- [61:37]
Emma Greed
No, not true. No. I love to see all these sides of you. It's so lovely. What's something that you valued when you were starting out that you don't value anymore?
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Nicole Lapin
Stuff.
- [61:49]
Emma Greed
Stuff. And what's something that you value now that you didn't back then altogether?
- [61:56]
Nicole Lapin
Stocks.
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Emma Greed
I love that stuff. And stocks. That will be my big takeaway. Thank you so much. Love. This was.
- [62:03]
Nicole Lapin
Emma, you're the best.
- [62:04]
Emma Greed
Absolutely amazing. Thank you. You gave so much wisdom, so many gems. This was heaven. Thank you. If you're loving this podcast, be sure to click follow on your favorite listening platform. While you're there, give us a review and a five star rating and share an episode you loved with a friend. We'll be so grateful. Aspire with Em Agreed is presented by Audacy. I'm your host, Emma Greed. Our executive producers are Corrine Gilliatt Fisher, Derek Brown and me. Our executive producers from Audacy are Maddie Sprung Keyser, Leah Reese, Dennis, Arsha Salouja and Jenna Weiss Berman. Justine Dom is our senior producer. Our producer is Kristin Torres. Sound design and engineering by Bill Schultz. Angela Peluso is our booker. Original music by Charles Black. Video production by Evan Cox, Kirk Courtney, Andrew Steele, Carlos Delgado and Arnie Agassi. Social media by Olivia Homan. Special thanks Go to Britney Smith, Sydney Ford, my teams at Jonesworks and wne, Maura Curran, Josephina Francis, Hillary Schuff, Eric Donnelly, Kate Hutchinson, Rose Tim Meecol, Sean Cherry, and Lauren Vieira. If you have questions for me, you can DM me at Aspire with Emma Greed. Greed is spelled G r e D e. That's Aspire A s p I r e with emigrate greed. Or you can submit a question to me on my website. Emagreed me.