Lea Hard-Launches Her Man and Reads Your Confessions | Golden Hour

Summary

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Bachelor Happy Hour: Golden Hour

Episode Title: Lea Hard-Launches Her Man and Reads Your Confessions
Release Date: December 29, 2025
Hosts: Kathy & Susan
Guest: Leia from Paradise

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Episode Overview

In this lively, candid episode of Bachelor Happy Hour's "Golden Hour," Kathy and Susan sit down with Bachelor in Paradise alum Leia for her much-anticipated "hard launch" of her new relationship. The episode delves into Leia's dating journey post-Paradise, what makes her boyfriend Ricky special, and plans for the future. In the second half, the trio has fun reading and reacting to anonymous listener confessions about love, relationships, and a bit of the wild side of dating life.

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Main Segments & Key Discussion Points

Leia’s Relationship Reveal & Journey (03:14–15:15)

• Leia’s “Hard Launch” of Her Boyfriend Ricky

  • Leia is back in LA and glowing — thanks to “a very special man.”

  • Ricky is a LA-based musician, music director, and drummer for reggae artists (05:02–05:20).

  • They met backstage at a music festival "thanks to a mutual friend" before Leia’s time on Paradise.

  • First Impressions?

    • Leia admits she found him “very cute,” but wasn’t seeking anything serious before Paradise (06:08–06:13).
    • She and Ricky stayed in touch until after her Paradise run, when she reached out again.

  • How Things Took Off

    • After Paradise, Leia texted Ricky: “I just texted him and I was like, ‘Hey, I’m back from that show...’ We got dinner and we’ve been inseparable ever since.” (07:26–07:34)

  • What Makes Ricky Different

    • “I was finally ready...I want to find my person.” (07:55–08:04)
    • Ricky is described as “family-oriented,” “kind,” “patient,” and “gentle,” which Leia deeply values.
    • “He’s just someone who has accepted me 100% for who I am and encouraged me and kind of like, he’s never dulled my sparkle. I think he’s just brought it out even more and more.” (09:08–09:22)

• Will There Be an Engagement Soon?

  • The hosts press for details:
    • “Are you getting engaged?” — Kathy (09:22)
    • Leia laughs it off but reveals: “He actually asked me, he was like, ‘So, like, when do you want to, like, get engaged?’ And I was like, probably you can propose next year — like, early next year or 2026.” (09:39–09:53)
  • Leia is 25 (“about to be 26 in February”), Ricky is 30 (10:00–10:53).

• Comparison to Other Relationships

  • Leia has struggled with superficiality in the LA dating scene.
  • “I honestly, truly have never met a guy in LA who is as family oriented as him.” (10:35–10:39)

• Being Open with Followers

  • Leia plans to share more about Ricky after a “brand deal” featuring him goes live.
  • “I had to give you guys the first dib.” (12:00–12:12)
  • TikTok followers “are definitely more nosy. They love it!” (12:00)

• Cute, Memorable Moment

  • Leia shares the quirky moment she knew Ricky was “the one”:
    • “I put on a bald cap and a suit, and I was dressed up like Steve Harvey, and he thought it was adorable. Where one might think it’s weird. And that’s how I knew he was the one, because he kissed me in a belt in a bald cap.” (14:32–15:01)

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Listener Relationship Confessions: Advice & Commentary (21:24–38:13)

• Format: Kathy, Susan, and Leia read anonymous audience confessions and react with advice, snark, or empathy.

• Notable Confessions and Reactions:

  • Infidelity

    • “My husband doesn’t know I hooked up with a colleague on a work trip.”
    • Leia, shocked: “Oh my gosh. You dirty, dirty girl.” (22:13)
    • All three agree the spouse “deserves to know.” Leia: “I don’t ever condone cheating and if that happened to me, I might go to jail.” (23:32–23:46)

  • Body Count Honesty

    • “My husband thinks I’ve only been with one other man besides him. But in reality, it’s ten.”
    • Susan shrugs: “I don't think that's that important that he has to know every single person you were with.” (24:07)
    • Leia: “I wouldn't… be with a man who is so stuck on the past… that's an ego issue and a confidence issue.” (24:32)

  • Taking Off Engagement Ring While Out

    • “I take my engagement ring off when I’m out with friends.”
    • Leia: “I think you just probably don’t love your fiance maybe. And you’re still looking. And that’s okay to still be looking. But if you’re engaged, you just have to unengage yourself.” (25:55–26:06)

  • Snooping Through Partner’s Phone

    • “I read my boyfriend’s text once a week…”
    • Leia: “I think people need to meditate, and I think people need to be more grounded… I think we’re both just healed individuals that trust each other very deeply.” (26:31–26:57)
    • Susan warns: "Be careful what you're looking for. Some things you don't want to know." (27:08–27:13)

  • Kissing the Best Friend

    • “After I met my future husband at a party, I kissed his best friend later that same night...”
    • Leia laughs: “I think that’s kind of funny and, like, iconic.” (27:51)
    • Susan: “That’s cool.” (27:54)

  • Faking Pregnancy

    • “I told my boyfriend I was pregnant so he would be nice to me.”
    • Leia: “Then I think you need to leave your boyfriend if he’s that much of an asshole. You shouldn’t have to trick him into being nice.” (28:14–28:23)

  • Not Telling about Bisexuality

    • “I never told my husband that I'm bisexual."
    • Leia: “I think you should share. If you love that person and you trust them and you should be able to share openly, like, who you are and not be ashamed of it.” (33:12–33:21)
    • Susan: "Are you going to act on it? Do you need it?" (33:24)

  • Wanting More Kids than Partner Agreed

    • “I want another baby. My wife and I agreed to only two.”
    • Leia: “Maybe just ask. People are so weird. Just talk about it.” (34:04–34:14)
    • Susan: “Communication, it’s key.” (34:19)

  • Crushing on Assistant

    • “I get butterflies for my assistant at work.”
    • Leia: “You just might have to move departments. That's fine.” (34:37)
    • Kathy: “If this is the worst confession you have, go back and live life again.” (34:43–34:56)

  • Hating the In-laws

    • “I hate my husband’s mom and sister. They were mean to me.”
    • Leia, empathetic: “That was honestly one of the things that ended the relationship [for me]... Ultimately, if you marry that person, that’s your family too. You don’t marry the person, you marry their whole family.” (35:20–35:53)
    • Kathy and Susan share personal stories and stress the difficulties of these situations.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Self-Acceptance in Relationships

  • Leia: “He’s never dulled my sparkle. I think he’s just brought it out even more and more.” (09:08)

• On Dating Perspective

  • Leia: “I always think about dating as, like, I hate to put it this way, but like a job interview… you gotta get to know... you gotta put yourself out there.” (20:03)

• On Cheating

  • Leia: “I don’t ever condone cheating, and if that happened to me, I might go to jail.” (23:44)

• On Trust

  • Leia: “I think we’re both just healed individuals that trust each other very deeply.” (26:54)

• On Being Seen

  • Leia (about Ricky appreciating her Steve Harvey costume): “That’s how I knew he was the one, because he kissed me in a belt in a bald cap.” (14:32)

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• Leia’s Relationship Background & Hard Launch: 03:14–13:46
• Engagement Plans & Relationship Values: 09:22–11:16
• Quirky Relationship “Aha Moment”: 14:32–15:07
• Listener Confessions & Honest Reactions: 21:24–38:13
  • Cheating: 22:02–23:46
  • Engagement ring off: 25:33–26:14
  • Snoop texts: 26:31–27:13
  • Kissing best friend: 27:16–27:57
  • In-laws drama: 35:20–37:21

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Episode Vibe & Takeaways

Breezy, funny, and at times deeply genuine, this episode gives Bachelor Nation a peek behind the curtain at real relationship struggles — from finding “the one” after a reality TV heartbreak, to navigating family, trust, and honesty. Leia’s candidness about her romance serves as inspiration, while her and the hosts’ playful chemistry make the confessions segment as relatable as it is hilarious.

Encore moments:

• Kathy’s persistent teasing about getting engaged on the podcast
• The running jokes about Ricky, Leia’s now-public boyfriend
• The trio’s mix of wisdom and sass when giving advice to listeners

Listener takeaway: Whether you're looking for love or learning to own your relationship journey, this Golden Hour proves you’re never alone, and there’s always room for laughter — and maybe a little juicy confession.

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Transcript

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[Kathy]

Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour. Thanks so much for joining us today. As always, we're so excited to be here. How are you today, Susan?

[Susan]

I am great. I'm ready to end this year, but it was a fabulous one, so I'm not that much in a hurry, but hopefully the year to come is going to be even better. And today we have a very special guest, Kathy. She's special to you and me. I know. Please welcome from Paradise, Leah.

[Kathy]

Hi, Leia.

[Susan]

Welcome to Golden Hour.

[Kathy]

Hey there, beautiful.

[Susan]

How are you? You look amazing.

[Leia]

Thank you, Susan. So do you.

[Kathy]

And we know. We know why you look so beautiful. Where are we speaking to you today? We're going to get into things real quickly. But where are you?

[Leia]

I'm still here in LA in my cute little apartment.

[Susan]

And that smile that won't stop is from.

[Kathy]

Oh, no. So we're going to get into this. So here's the thing. There's. Everyone knows I was in paradise with Leah. Love her to pieces. She taught me how to do makeup. And the proof is if you could see her right now, she looks absolutely gorgeous. Stunning. So we're gonna get started right away. But I have to first say, in paradise, you did not find love. You got a little upset a few times because you were trying to make silk out of a sow's ear, otherwise known as Jonathan. I love Jonathan.

[Leia]

Jonathan knows better than anyone. She's wiped many a tears.

[Kathy]

But I love you and I love Jonathan. But I do know how ready you were to meet your man. And so now you are going to please spill the tea. Tell us all about. I want the whole. All the deets, as they say. I wanted all of your boyfriend, Ricky, how did you meet him? Tell us all.

[Leia]

So Ricky is from la. He's a musician and he's a music director and a drummer. He plays the drums. And I was at a music festival. I'm from Hawaii. I love reggae music. And he plays for a few reggae artists. And I was backstage at a festival because I know another band member shout out to Rebel Wills from Rebel Soulja. But he got me tickets to get backstage. And then while I was backstage, I met Ricky. And then it was actually really funny though, because when I met him, he was with a friend of his who, like, is lesbian and she was like, chopping it up with me. And I think, like, she, like, low key, like, took his, like, mojo and he was like, super quiet. He's definitely More reserved.

[Kathy]

When you looked.

[Susan]

At each other, was there a feeling.

[Kathy]

More reserved? Go ahead.

[Susan]

No. Was there a feeling, you know, that. That initial chemistry. Is that what you had when you saw him, or did this come in time?

[Leia]

I think that I definitely thought he was, like, very cute.

[Susan]

Okay.

[Leia]

But I think at the time, I wasn't, like, super. Like, this was before paradise, actually. And I think before paradise, I wasn't dating super seriously. I was kind of just like, you know, enjoying my singleness, kind of like figuring out who I was. And also, I kind of knew that paradise was coming up.

[Susan]

Yeah.

[Leia]

So it's kind of just like, oh, like, yeah, you know, I didn't want to start anything too crazy, but so we kept in touch. And then I was actually talking on the beach with Keith, and I was like, oh, Keith. Like, I'm so sad that paradise panned out this way. But, like. And we were kind of just like, oh, is there anyone back home that, like, maybe you're interested in? And I was kind of like, well, there's this one guy that, like, I would love to, like, circle back with. And he was like, do it. And then I was like, okay, I'll update you. And he's like. I was like, what about you, Keith? And he's like, yeah, there's this one lady. And I was like, okay, like, let's make a pact. We're going to reach out to these people when we get home.

[Kathy]

Yeah. Well, I'm going to tell you, I'm going to give a little news flash here. That wasn't intended. It didn't work out for Keith, so carry on. But it did.

[Susan]

Okay. So did you. What happened after Paradise? Did you go to another concert or.

[Leia]

I just texted him and I was like, hey, I'm back from that show. I said I was gonna film. And then we got dinner and we've been, like, so inseparable ever since.

[Kathy]

How is he different, Leah? Tell me. Because I. You and I had lots of talks in paradise about what you were looking for. So tell me. Obviously, it wasn't love at first sight, because you came to paradise. But tell me, right? I mean, hey, there it is. But tell me what. What makes him different?

[Leia]

Yeah, Well, I think one. I think, like, personally, it was, for me, it was also my stage of readiness. I think he was, like, such a wonderful human being, but one, I think I was finally ready to like, okay, like, I. Paradise is out of the way. I want to find my person. Like, everyone did. All my friends did. Like, let's start dating, seriously. And he is someone who is so family oriented. That's so very special to me. And I've always wanted someone who values family the same way I do. And he's very, like, kind. He's so gentle with me. And Kathy, you know me, I can be a handful. So I've. I've always said, like, I need someone that's very patient. And he's so patient with me, and I think that is, like, the. Like, we align on all of our. Our big things. So, like, he's very family oriented, he's very kind, he's very patient. I think we approach life in very similar ways, and I think we align on so many of the big things in. And I think we approach life in a very similar way. I think the biggest thing, though, is he's very gentle and very patient with me. I know I'm a big personality. I can be a handful.

[Kathy]

No.

[Leia]

He'S just someone who has accepted me 100% for who I am and encouraged me and kind of like, he's never dulled my sparkle. I think he's just brought it out even more and more. Yeah.

[Kathy]

Wait, so let me tell you, since you align on everything and he's made you the person you are and you're sparkling even more. Are you getting engaged?

[Susan]

Any rings coming in the future?

[Leia]

I. I mean, that's.

[Kathy]

Break it here. Leia, Leia, break the news here. Break the news here.

[Leia]

It's a little soon, guys. It's a little soon, but I think that is the goal. He actually asked me. He was like, so, like, when do you want to, like, get engaged? And I was like, probably you can propose next year. Like early next year or 2026.

[Kathy]

This 2020?

[Leia]

No, no, not 2020. Like 2027. Like one more year.

[Kathy]

How. How old is he, leia?

[Leia]

He is 30.

[Susan]

And tell me, how is he different than any other guy you dated?

[Kathy]

Well, she said he's patient. He's. Well, not.

[Susan]

Any other guy wasn't patient, I think.

[Leia]

I mean, I date in la, which is always really rough. I think dating anywhere can be really rough. But I think a lot of the guys that I've dated here have been, like, very superficial sometimes. I think they value things that, you know, are so fleeting. And I honestly, truly have never met a guy in LA who is as family oriented as him.

[Susan]

Yeah. And that says a lot.

[Kathy]

And you want kids, right?

[Leia]

Yes, I want kids. I want them.

[Kathy]

Okay. Did I give you good advice on Paradise?

[Leia]

You gave the best advice, Kathy. I wish they aired more of our skin together.

[Kathy]

Okay. So do I. How old are you, Leia?

[Leia]

I'm 25. About to be 26. February.

[Kathy]

Okay. All right. You can wait another year. I was just gonna say, you know, if you get engaged a year plus from now, and then you gotta take a year or two to plan a wedding. You know, I'm. I'm all about love. So is Susan. I say get engaged in 2026 and see where it goes.

[Susan]

Okay, So I want to know, do you.

[Leia]

I did tell him to stay for the ring.

[Kathy]

Hey, listen, have him call me. I have a jeweler.

[Susan]

Start saving.

[Kathy]

I got a guy. I'll take care of him.

[Susan]

Are you sharing this with all your followers?

[Leia]

Oh, I haven't yet.

[Susan]

Yes. Are you keeping private about it?

[Leia]

I think I want to definitely share more, but to be transparent, I just had this, like, really fun brand deal, and I wanted to, like, hard launch him with that, and it just went live, so I'll probably post more of him now. Okay, good, good.

[Kathy]

Wow. Well, what about your TikTok followers?

[Leia]

They're definitely more nosy. I think they love. I think they love it. I think they're very curious. I'll probably do, like. I'll probably share a little bit more, but I had to give you guys the. The first dib.

[Susan]

Yes, we're the hard launch here.

[Kathy]

Well, listen, here's what I'm saying. Can't you just get engaged for the sake of our podcast? And then you can rethink it next week?

[Susan]

You can do it on it. We'll have Ricky on as well. Okay. He can propose on the podcast.

[Kathy]

Oh, come on. What? Maybe the most. That would be so romantic.

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What?

[Kathy]

Getting engaged on our. I can't think of anything more. Leave it.

[Susan]

He's going to step behind you. We're going to know about it. We can figure out the scene. Did he watch your shows? Has he seen your. Has he seen you on either show that you were on? He has watched it after meeting you. He watched it or prior to meeting you?

[Leia]

We watched a few. Maybe, like, two episodes of paradise together.

[Susan]

Okay.

[Leia]

But nothing before that. He's. I mean, he's. I've shown him, like, little clips that I thought were funny.

[Kathy]

But what if. What. Wait, what if Ricky had been on the Bachelorette or Paradise? How would that. Tell me how that would.

[Leia]

I would have swooped him right up. Y' all would have got an engagement out of me, Sue.

[Susan]

Like, that would have been perfect.

[Kathy]

Wait, so you're saying you would have swooped right in on him?

[Leia]

100. That's my husband, Kathy.

[Susan]

Oh, I love this.

[Kathy]

I love it. Oh, wait. Excuse me. Could we say that again for a cut? For this? I would like. I would like everyone in Bachelor Nation to know. Leia just said she has met her husband, and we are so happy for you. And I want to come to the wedding.

[Susan]

What is his greenest green flag? Like, what's the best part? Just one word.

[Podcast Announcer]

What?

[Susan]

Do you have.

[Leia]

One word? Probably, like, just kind. He's very kind.

[Susan]

I like this. I like it.

[Kathy]

Tell me, Leia, what was the moment? I mean, women use this term all the time about feeling safe and being seen. I actually need to start using that terminology for myself as soon as I meet the guy, because I hear women say that all the time. That that's why they fell in love. They felt seen, and they feel safe with that person. So was there a moment that that happened for you? I mean, you said he was kind and all that, but what was. Was there a moment? Tell me.

[Leia]

Yes, I think there was. I think one time he was like, I wanted ice cream. And he was like, perfect, I'll pick you up in a few minutes. Just be ready to go get some ice cream. And I put on a bald cap and a suit, and I was dressed up like Steve Harvey, and he thought it was adorable. Where one might think it's weird. And that's how I knew he was the one, because he kissed me in a belt in a bald cap.

[Kathy]

You're saying because you didn't look beautiful, glamorous, didn't have your makeup done, you were just kind of hanging loose? Is that what you're saying? You weren't?

[Leia]

Yeah, I was just like, I think he just.

[Susan]

I love it when they get you, you know?

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[Kathy]

What about your relationship might surprise your fans?

[Leia]

Surprise them? Probably just the whole thing. I think that I've been such a man hater online, and now they're like, oh, my gosh, she looks so happy. And so I think, yeah, fans are probably just. Yeah, they're probably just like, whoa, like, who is this guy? I think they're just really curious.

[Susan]

Leah, if any, what advice would you give to your fans who are still waiting to find their person?

[Leia]

Definitely, I would say be open. Date them all. Because I think that while you're in that exploratory phase of, like, still finding someone, you're. You need time. Like, I always think about dating as, like, I hate to put it this way, but like a job interview, you're not going to hire the first person that you meet off the street. Sometimes you got to interview a few people. You got to get to know. You gotta put yourself out there. I think just being open and making sure that you're finding the positives in the journey and the experience and not being like, oh, this sucks. Like, I'm not finding anyone. Like, instead, be like, oh, that day was wonderful because I learned this about him or this about myself or I got a nice dinner. Sometimes it's not always like, yay, I found my husband. But, like, you can find, you know, little friends along the way.

[Kathy]

Yeah. This is a new Leia from the Leia I knew in paradise. What? How do you.

[Leia]

How do you. Why do you mean that? What do you mean?

[Kathy]

I love this. Well, no, I just. Listen, I love how happy you are, how happy you seem. I'm so glad you have found your person that you're getting engaged on our podcast that he's calling me to find out what ring you want. I just, I'm so thrilled. But listen, today, not only are we Celebrating your love. But we're going to try something new on our podcast. Okay.

[Susan]

This is going to be fun.

[Kathy]

We asked our listeners to submit their confessions to us anonymously online. We're going to read them, speculate, respond, you name it, we're just going to talk about it. Are you ready to join in on that with us?

[Leia]

Let's do it.

[Kathy]

It's going to be. I mean, who doesn't want to tell their deepest, darkest secret anonymously? I mean, I know I do. So you ready?

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[Leia]

Let's do it.

[Kathy]

Have you ever done this? Just real quickly, have you ever given a confession, deep, dark confession to anyone anonymously?

[Leia]

I don't think so. I'm a pretty open book though.

[Susan]

All three of us, I think.

[Kathy]

Here's the first one. My husband doesn't know. I hooked up with a colleague on a work trip. What do you think?

[Leia]

Oh, my gosh. You dirty, dirty girl.

[Susan]

Whoa. I have questions.

[Leia]

Yeah, I have a lot of questions.

[Susan]

We hooked up with a work colleague. Is it continuing or is it just a one time thing?

[Kathy]

I'm sorry, does it matter?

[Susan]

I mean, it doesn't.

[Leia]

It really doesn't.

[Susan]

It doesn't. But. There's a but.

[Kathy]

What's the but? I can hardly.

[Susan]

Like, some people make a huge mistake. They drank too much or whatever and they kiss somebody and they're like, oh, my God, next day.

[Kathy]

I need to explain to you vernacular. Hooked up does not mean a peck on the cheek. Leia, would you explain to. Because I've tried millions. Yeah. What hooking up means.

[Leia]

So the penetration was there.

[Susan]

Yeah, to me.

[Leia]

You don't like that.

[Kathy]

I mean, it could happen to anybody. You ate a chocolate bar, you had sex. It just happened.

[Susan]

Once again, my hooked up still means just kissing.

[Kathy]

Sorry, it doesn't.

[Susan]

Hooked up, we're getting late.

[Leia]

Yeah, I think, yeah, maybe we don't know what it means, but I do think that your spouse deserves to know and maybe like work. Either work through that or.

[Kathy]

Oh, wait, that was my question. So do we tell your spouse? You. Hey, Ricky, Ricky, Ricky, I gotta tell you something here. Leia hooked up with her boss last night at the Christmas party. How you feeling, Leia?

[Leia]

First of all, Kathy, I'm unemployed, I'm self employed. But no, that's terrible. I would, I don't, I don't ever condone cheating. And like, if, if that happened to me, I might go to jail. Like, you know what I mean?

[Kathy]

Not.

[Susan]

Okay, all right, how about this one? My husband thinks I've only been with one other man besides him. But in reality, it's 10 oh period queen. I mean, everybody has a past. Yeah, I don't think that's that important that he has to know every single person you were with.

[Leia]

Yeah, I agree.

[Kathy]

Oh, wait a minute. If Ricky says to you, aren't you glad we know Ricky? Now if Ricky says to you, darling Leia, I'm buying you a five carat emerald and diamond. I'm having it handmade. Kathy's helping me work this out. And I'm so glad to know I'm your first.

[Susan]

Oh, first.

[Leia]

Well, but, but here's the thing. I personally, my personal preference. I wouldn't. I don't think I would be with a man who, who is so stuck on the past and is like so like consumed by what happened before we met. You know, I don't think that. I think that's like an ego issue and a confidence issue.

[Kathy]

So wait, if Ricky. I can't. Poor Ricky. But I keep bringing him in. But if a man that you're dating. Oh wait, that happens to be Ricky asks you, hey, Leah, how many guys have you slept with before? Would you say, well, I need my fingers, my toes and my every strand of hair to count them all, or are you gonn make up some random number?

[Leia]

No, I would just tell them. And like, if you are. Are being weird about it, then that's an issue that you have because that has nothing to do with where I'm at now, who I am now.

[Susan]

Right, right. It's a past.

[Leia]

Exactly. Past. And I don't think there's any like, reason you need to bring it into your current.

[Kathy]

All right, I like it. All right, here's one for you, girl.

[Susan]

What she writes.

[Kathy]

Yeah. How about this one for you? I take, you know that engagement ring you don't have yet.

[Podcast Announcer]

Okay.

[Kathy]

I want you to pretend you have it on your hand.

[Leia]

Okay.

[Kathy]

I take my engagement ring off when I'm out with my friends. Somebody confessed to this online.

[Susan]

Not.

[Kathy]

She takes her engagement ring off when I'm out with my friends. What do you think?

[Leia]

Well, I think you just probably don't love your fiance maybe. And you're still looking. And that's okay to still be looking.

[Kathy]

But if you're engaged, that's it, I.

[Leia]

Think then you just have to unengage yourself because clearly you're not. There's nothing. There's a wife and you're taking it off.

[Susan]

Somebody better comes along. Is that the idea?

[Leia]

So curious.

[Kathy]

Yeah, that's why the divorce rate's so high.

[Susan]

Oh boy. Okay. I read my Boyfriend's text once a week to see if he's talking about me to his friends or family.

[Leia]

Oh, okay.

[Kathy]

So she reads her boyfriend's text once a week. She. She's in that phone. What do you think?

[Leia]

Okay, I think people need to meditate, and I think people need to be more grounded, and I think people have a lot of hurt that is unhealed because there's no reason I don't. I've never gone through Ricky's phone. He's never gone through mine. I think we're both just healed individuals that trust each other very deeply. And I think that's like, an inside.

[Kathy]

Issue of control of that answer. I was going to go with a much simpler answer. Have a 24 number password that she can't possibly memorize.

[Susan]

You know, be careful what you wish for, be careful what you're looking for. Some things you don't want to know, you know?

[Podcast Announcer]

Yeah.

[Susan]

That could start a huge problem.

[Kathy]

I say delete what you don't want known. All right. After I met my future husband at a party, I kissed his best friend later that same night. We never told anyone, and my husband still doesn't know to this day. They weren't engaged yet. They. I mean, they may have been engaged, but they weren't married. No, it says, I met my future husband at a party, so they weren engaged. It was. She ultimately married this guy, but she kissed his best friend that same night. So she meets the guy that night and kisses his best friend. I say this is much ado about nothing, but what do you say?

[Leia]

Yeah, I think that's kind of funny and, like, iconic.

[Susan]

Yeah, that's cool.

[Leia]

It's like. Yeah, that's funny.

[Susan]

Yeah.

[Leia]

Who cares? Okay.

[Susan]

Oh, my gosh. I told my boyfriend I was pregnant so he would be nice to. To me. Wait a minute. Was she making it up that she was pregnant? I'm hoping that she really was pregnant.

[Leia]

No, I think she wasn't pregnant. She just wanted him to be nicer.

[Susan]

Oh, my God.

[Leia]

Then I think you need to leave your boyfriend if he's that much of an asshole.

[Susan]

Really?

[Leia]

You shouldn't have to be nice. Yeah, you shouldn't have to trick him into being nice.

[Susan]

Why would he be nicer if you're pregnant?

[Kathy]

I mean, I'm thinking if he doesn't want a baby, he's gonna be a dick. He's a dick. I mean, I'm saying he's gonna give you the plan B if he'. What the hell are you thinking? I don't think that's I. I don't even. I don't. That one doesn't even make sense. All right, let's move along. Oh boy.

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[Kathy]

I never told my husband that I'm bisexual.

[Leia]

I think you should share. If you love that person and you trust them and you should be able to share openly like you're who you are and not be ashamed of it.

[Kathy]

No, I mean, this is the problem.

[Susan]

Is are you going to act on it? Do you need it?

[Leia]

Yeah. But I think it makes me sad that they didn't feel comfortable enough.

[Susan]

Yeah, okay. I want another baby. And my wife and I agreed to only two kids, but I can't stop thinking about having a third.

[Leia]

Well, I think that's something you need to mutually agree on. And a child is so much responsibility.

[Susan]

Oh, baby. You know how people think that's going to save the marriage? They're just going to have a baby and when they're struggling in marriage and it doesn't it really?

[Kathy]

Well, I wonder do you think he's talked to her about it? He doesn't say. Here. He said, I can't stop thinking about it. I want another baby. They only agreed to having two. I want to know if he's talked to her.

[Leia]

Yeah, maybe just ask. Yeah, people are so weird. Like, just talk about it. Just ask.

[Susan]

Because they agreed on only too well.

[Kathy]

Yeah, but that doesn't mean they've had the conversation.

[Susan]

Maybe. Yeah.

[Leia]

Yeah, just chat it up. I think people are too scared to chat with each other, and I don't know why.

[Susan]

Communication, it's key. Oh, wait. I get butterflies for my assistant at work.

[Leia]

Oh, my gosh.

[Kathy]

I mean, you're not supposed to where you sleep, but if you're both single, who cares?

[Susan]

But just getting butterflies is okay. But are they single?

[Kathy]

You don't know.

[Leia]

Oh, I mean, yeah. You just might have to move departments. That's fine.

[Kathy]

Like. Like, get another job. I mean, I don't think there's anything wrong with having. I don't either. I read some of these things. I'm like, if this is the worst confession you have, go back and live life again.

[Leia]

I know.

[Kathy]

Wait, I have to read this one because I think the word is very strong, but I lived it. I lived it. Okay, Now, I wouldn't use the word hate, but close enough. I hate my husband's mom and sister. They were mean to me. So mean. What do you think about that, Leah?

[Leia]

I think that's so tough because I've definitely experienced some tough, like, in past relationships, like in laws, and once again, like, I'm such a family girl. So that was very, very. That was like, honestly one of the things that ended the relationship. But I think it's tough, and I think you just need to work with your partner and be a unit and be a team and. And kind of unpack that and maybe, like, try to get to the bottom of it, because ultimately, if you marry that person, that's your family, too. You don't marry the person. You marry their whole family. So.

[Kathy]

Well, Whoa, wait. I'm sorry, since I got interrupt, but look, what if the mom and the sister are just downright mean to you? They're. They're just. They dis. They. They diss you. They're mean to you. They don't care because you took their little boy away.

[Susan]

Ew.

[Leia]

Then, like, you have him, like, you date him. Then, like, no, you're married.

[Kathy]

You love your husband.

[Leia]

Why did you marry him?

[Kathy]

Well, because when I married my husband, he loved me and made me his life. But his Mother. Well, his sister. What? He had two sisters. One sister just a mean cow. She still is. The other one is fine because my husband was only son and he was her, you know, he was everything, her gold. I got in the way. It happened.

[Leia]

Did your husband ever like set boundaries with his family?

[Kathy]

He tried, I think.

[Leia]

Then there comes a point. It's his job. What's that, Kath?

[Kathy]

No, I'm agreeing with you. It was his job. But it's very difficult. And I hope for your sake, Leah, that you never have a mother in law who's like that. Because I can tell you I have friends who are living it right now. And it's not fun and it's not easy and it's hard on holidays and birthdays and other family events.

[Susan]

It's hard on the marriage.

[Kathy]

I want to take all these mother in laws, shake them till their teeth or false teeth or dentures rattle and.

[Susan]

Say, and I want everyone anonymously that wrote in, give us a little more detail so we can really give a good opinion. Some of them I'm guessing, like, right.

[Leia]

We're assuming things.

[Podcast Announcer]

Yeah.

[Kathy]

Yeah.

[Susan]

Get butterflies for your assistant at work. Are you married and you're having butterflies for the other person.

[Kathy]

You know, we'd like your name and what Susan saying.

[Susan]

No, I don't care about the name.

[Kathy]

And phone number to confirm though.

[Podcast Announcer]

Just give me a little more.

[Leia]

I need visuals.

[Susan]

And keep writing, keep sending them in because I like these confessions.

[Kathy]

We want even juicier ones. We know those you out there, we know that you've got some juicy confessions to make. It is anonymous. It's not like the irs. We're not tracking your IP number. Do it. Let us know who you. Let us know what you've done and we will talk about and we'll let you know whether you were right or wrong because you really want to know that.

[Leia]

But I think it's cute that the.

[Susan]

One girl said, I met my future husband at a party but I kissed his best friend at the same thing. Like that's adorable. She's being honest. Like that's the worst you have. You're fine, babe.

[Kathy]

That's what I said.

[Podcast Announcer]

Yeah.

[Kathy]

That's why I want some juicy ones.

[Leia]

It will always work out how it needs to because clearly you married your husband.

[Susan]

Yes. Yes.

[Kathy]

Look at. She's such an eternal optimist. Okay, well, I say that's gonna do it for today's episode. Leia, thank you for joining us. Thank you for sharing your wisdom, your beauty, your kindness, the fact that you're gonna get engaged on our podcast. All of these things.

[Leia]

All of thanks for having me, you guys. I adore you both.

[Susan]

We're so happy to have you on here. And you. You got us. We're. You're in our heart. Trust me. We wish you all the very best and thanks to everybody else that's listening out there, we wish you the best as well. Be sure to follow Bachelor Happy Hour as we have new episodes coming out every week that you do not want to miss.

[Kathy]

Exactly. And listen to Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour on the iHeartRadio app or wherever you listen to your podcasts. Until next time, have a great week.

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[Leia]

Guaranteed human.