Podcast Summary: Becoming NEXTonSCENE™ Episode Title: How To Start Changing How We Speak To Ourselves And The Negative Stories We're Telling
Host: NEXTonSCENE Media, LLC
Guest: Jackie Roby, Relationship Mindset Coach and Inspirational Speaker
Release Date: August 1, 2024

Introduction

In this inspiring episode of Becoming NEXTonSCENE™, host from NEXTonSCENE Media, LLC, returns from maternity leave with an energizing marketing tip centered on the importance of "showing up for yourself." The episode delves deep into the transformative power of altering our internal dialogue and overcoming negative narratives, featuring the expertise of Jackie Roby, a renowned relationship mindset coach and international speaker.

Guest Introduction: Jackie Roby

Jackie Roby joins the podcast as an esteemed relationship mindset coach dedicated to helping individuals establish healthier relationships—not just with others but crucially, with themselves. She emphasizes that relationships extend beyond romantic partnerships to include family, friends, colleagues, and even fleeting interactions with strangers. Jackie’s mission is to empower high-achieving women of color and allies within people-focused organizations to rise above "analysis paralysis" and self-doubt, fostering an executive-level mindset rooted in self-trust and belief.

Notable Quote:
"If you're not showing up, somebody that really needs to hear what you have to say is missing out on that opportunity." — Host [00:00]

Journey to Becoming a Relationship Mindset Coach

Jackie shares her personal journey, revealing that her initial career in sales and marketing within the travel and hospitality industry was a coping mechanism—a response to childhood trauma and the role of peacemaker in her family. This environment, focused on pleasing others, led to a realization that true fulfillment wasn't achieved until she ventured into her own business. The pandemic-era slowdown provided Jackie the space to connect deeply with her innate gifts, receiving affirmations from others that she possessed qualities like being a "wisdom giver" and a "truth teller."

Notable Quote:
"I always pictured myself in the background... but I was able to create that change instead." — Jackie Roby [03:56]

Incorporating Human Design into Coaching

Jackie discusses the integration of Human Design into her coaching practice. Human Design is a blend of various disciplines, including astrology, the Hindu chakra system, the Kabbalah tree of life, the Chinese I Ching, and quantum physics. It serves as a tool to help clients understand their unique decision-making processes, energy expenditure, and pathways to self-acceptance. By recognizing their inherent design, individuals can alleviate the pressure of immediate decision-making and foster a balanced approach to personal and professional challenges.

Notable Quote:
"Human Design shows you how you best spend your energy and make decisions, creating a sense of ease." — Jackie Roby [07:10]

Tackling Analysis Paralysis and Overgiving

A significant portion of the conversation focuses on analysis paralysis—the overwhelming state that hinders decision-making—and the tendency to overgive, especially among entrepreneurs striving to prove their worth. Jackie outlines her signature talk, "Say Goodbye to Analysis Paralysis in Three Steps," providing practical tools to overcome these barriers. She highlights how overgiving often stems from a place of not feeling "enough," leading to burnout and imbalance in both personal and business relationships.

Notable Quote:
"Overgiving becomes a problem when it hurts you and no longer includes you in the equation." — Jackie Roby [17:18]

The MAGIC Acronym for Personal Transformation

Jackie introduces the MAGIC acronym—Mindfulness, Articulate your feelings, Gain insight, Integrate new beliefs, and Choose the life you desire—as a framework for personal growth and overcoming negative self-talk. Each component serves as a step towards rewiring the brain for positivity and self-acceptance, facilitating calmer and more informed decision-making.

Notable Quote:
"MAGIC is a system, not a process. They come up at different points in time but work together to soothe what I call the self-doubt monster." — Jackie Roby [13:04]

Practical Mindfulness Techniques

Jackie shares actionable mindfulness techniques to combat the negative internal dialogue that fuels overachieving and overgiving. Simple practices like tracing the fingertips of one hand with the other or taking deep, controlled breaths can help center the mind and reduce stress. These methods create "new neural pathways," promoting a state of calm that enhances decision-making and personal well-being.

Notable Quote:
"Just noticing those sensations gives you a necessary pause and builds new mental muscle towards calm." — Jackie Roby [19:02]

Embracing Authenticity on Camera

Addressing the fear of appearing on camera, Jackie advises embracing vulnerability and authenticity as a means to build genuine connections. She recommends preparing mentally through calming rituals like deep breathing, practicing gratitude, and affirming self-worth to mitigate anxiety. By fostering a positive mindset, individuals can confidently present themselves, enhancing their personal and professional relationships.

Notable Quote:
"Leading with your heart ensures you make the right decision." — Host [22:55]

Conclusion and Call to Action

As the episode wraps up, Jackie invites listeners to connect through her website, InspiredJourneyConsulting.com, and her Instagram page. She offers a complimentary "magic moment session" to help individuals identify and quell their unique negative narratives. The host encourages everyone to engage with Jackie's transformative work and apply the discussed strategies to lead more fulfilled and balanced lives.

Notable Quote:
"Write out what you love about yourself. Boost your calm and self-worth, and remember you are deserving of the life you desire." — Jackie Roby [26:08]

Final Thoughts

This episode of Becoming NEXTonSCENE™ serves as a powerful guide for anyone looking to transform their inner dialogue and break free from limiting self-perceptions. With Jackie Roby's expert insights and practical strategies, listeners are equipped to cultivate healthier relationships with themselves and others, paving the way for personal and professional success.

Follow Jackie Roby:

• Website: InspiredJourneyConsulting.com
• Instagram: @InspiredJourneyConsulting

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