EP 26 - Kelsey Pt. 2

Summary

Betrayal: Weekly - Episode 26: Kelsey Pt. 2

Overview

In the gripping second part of Kelsey's story on Betrayal: Weekly, host Andrea Gunning delves deeper into the harrowing experience of betrayal Kelsey endured at the hands of her partner, Morgan. This episode meticulously unpacks the unraveling of a relationship built on deceit, manipulation, and hidden truths, offering listeners a profound exploration of trust, resilience, and personal healing.

Rising Doubts

Almost two years into her marriage, Kelsey begins to suspect that something is amiss with Morgan's purported terminal cancer diagnosis. These suspicions are ignited during a family Christmas gathering, where Morgan's behavior doesn't align with Kelsey's experiences with her own mother's breast cancer survival.

“I suddenly was like, why am I feeling like something's wrong?”
— Kelsey [02:43]

The Cycle of Broken Bones

Morgan's narrative of cancer becomes increasingly suspicious as she frequently breaks bones, attributing each incident to her illness. What starts with a broken hip quickly escalates to a broken elbow and rib, raising red flags for Kelsey.

“She took some drugs, and then she slept, and she slept for, like, a week.”
— Kelsey [03:30]

Despite Kelsey's growing concerns, Morgan dismisses these injuries as part of the cancer progression, urging Kelsey to trust her and the doctors.

“I need to see your paperwork. Like, I need to see the doctor's recommendation that this is okay, because clearly it's not.”
— Kelsey [06:26]

The Breaking Point

The relentless cycle of injuries and the emotional toll pushes Kelsey to her limit. Seeking solace and clarity, she decides to transfer schools and move to a new city, effectively distancing herself from Morgan.

“I just literally packed everything in my car. I got a job and a place to live.”
— Kelsey [07:15]

Discovery of Deception

As Kelsey begins to rebuild her life, unexpected financial troubles surface. Mounting debts and collection notices linked to shared accounts compel her to investigate further, revealing that Morgan never filed for divorce as previously claimed.

“I have been avoiding the reality of this forever.”
— Kelsey [14:30]

The Role of Morgan's Mentor, Joanne

A pivotal moment occurs when Kelsey receives a message from Joanne, Morgan's mentor, who exposes the truth about Morgan's fabricated cancer diagnosis. Joanne provides concrete evidence that Morgan was diagnosed with factitious disorder (formerly known as Munchausen syndrome), revealing a pattern of deceit that Morgan meticulously crafted.

“I've been down a rabbit hole about Morgan, and I have proof that she had been diagnosed with factitious disorder before she ever met you.”
— Kelsey [17:03]

Uncovering the Lies

Kelsey and Joanne collaborate to piece together the extent of Morgan's lies, uncovering a web of deception that spans multiple facets of Morgan's life. From falsified medical records to fabricated personal histories, each revelation deepens the sense of betrayal.

“My entire existence with her was a lie. All of it.”
— Kelsey [27:12]

Morgan's manipulations extended to using others' identities and manipulating those around her to sustain her fabricated narrative, ultimately isolating Kelsey from potential sources of truth.

“There's a lot more to this story than we even know between the two of us.”
— Kelsey [23:17]

Emotional Journey and Financial Struggles

The discovery of Morgan's deceit plunges Kelsey into a tumultuous emotional and financial struggle. With debts mounting and trust irrevocably broken, Kelsey takes decisive action to sever all ties with Morgan, culminating in a painful but necessary divorce.

“I sent her a letter along with the check and I said I paid off everything you owed.”
— Kelsey [28:25]

Final Resolution

Armed with the divorce decree and legal support, Kelsey finally gains control over her life, free from Morgan's manipulative grasp. The emotional relief is palpable, yet the scars of betrayal linger, prompting deep self-reflection and healing.

“I can finally at least separate myself from whatever lie she is or is not telling herself or me.”
— Kelsey [11:13]

Kelsey's Reflections and Lessons Learned

In the aftermath of her ordeal, Kelsey grapples with feelings of shame and questions her ability to recognize the truth. Through introspection, she acknowledges her vulnerability and the human desire to love and protect, even at the expense of one's well-being.

“When I do tell the story to other people, I notice my own shame.”
— Kelsey [33:37]

Kelsey emphasizes the importance of dismantling the stigma around manipulative relationships and encourages others to prioritize their own safety and truth over misplaced trust.

“If that trust has been breached, then it's time to go. You don't have to wait for evidence to leave.”
— Kelsey [36:18]

Conclusion

Episode 26 of Betrayal: Weekly offers a poignant exploration of deception, the complexities of trust, and the arduous journey toward personal liberation. Kelsey's story serves as a powerful testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the imperative to seek truth, no matter how painful it may be.

Notable Quotes with Timestamps

• “I suddenly was like, why am I feeling like something's wrong?”
  — Kelsey [02:43]

• “She took some drugs, and then she slept, and she slept for, like, a week.”
  — Kelsey [03:30]

• “I need to see your paperwork. Like, I need to see the doctor's recommendation that this is okay, because clearly it's not.”
  — Kelsey [06:26]

• “I just literally packed everything in my car. I got a job and a place to live.”
  — Kelsey [07:15]

• “I have been avoiding the reality of this forever.”
  — Kelsey [14:30]

• “I've been down a rabbit hole about Morgan, and I have proof that she had been diagnosed with factitious disorder before she ever met you.”
  — Kelsey [17:03]

• “My entire existence with her was a lie. All of it.”
  — Kelsey [27:12]

• “There's a lot more to this story than we even know between the two of us.”
  — Kelsey [23:17]

• “I sent her a letter along with the check and I said I paid off everything you owed.”
  — Kelsey [28:25]

• “I can finally at least separate myself from whatever lie she is or is not telling herself or me.”
  — Kelsey [11:13]

• “When I do tell the story to other people, I notice my own shame.”
  — Kelsey [33:37]

• “If that trust has been breached, then it's time to go. You don't have to wait for evidence to leave.”
  — Kelsey [36:18]

Final Thoughts

Kelsey's narrative is a compelling examination of how trust can be manipulated and the profound impact of uncovering painful truths. Her journey from deception to empowerment provides invaluable insights for anyone grappling with similar experiences of betrayal and serves as a beacon of hope for healing and reclaiming one's life.

Transcript

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[Andrea Gunning]

I'm Andrea Gunning and this is Betrayal, a show about the people we trust the most and the deceptions that change everything. This is part two of Kelsey's story. If you haven't heard part one, you should go back and listen to that first as a listener note. Names and locations have been changed to protect privacy. Almost two years into a marriage with Morgan, a seed of doubt had been planted in Kelsey's mind about her wife's terminal cancer diagnosis. It started when they were home with Kelsey's family for Christmas. Her mom had survived breast cancer, and something about Morgan's behavior wasn't adding up to her.

[Kelsey]

I suddenly was like, why am I feeling like something's wrong? And so this is the very beginning of the conversations we started having about how serious really is this? And that was when she started breaking bones.

[Andrea Gunning]

At first it was her Hip.

[Kelsey]

She took the dogs out for a walk and came back, and she was dragging herself back into the apartment. I was like, oh, my God, what happened? She's like, I think I broke my hip. I said, oh, my God, what do we do? Do I need to take you to the er? And she's like, no, this happens. Like, the cancer must now be in my hip.

[Andrea Gunning]

Kelsey was at a loss for what to do, but Morgan told her this was just part of the dying process. Her doctors told her to expect it.

[Kelsey]

And she's like, I need to sleep. I need to sleep. So she took some drugs, and then she slept, and she slept for, like, a week.

[Andrea Gunning]

Morgan recovered from the hip injury and went back to physical activity.

[Kelsey]

A few weeks after that, she was walking again.

[Andrea Gunning]

One day when Morgan was out on a walk, she fell again, and this time she broke her elbow.

[Kelsey]

I could see it. It was bruised, and it had been obviously smashed. And then she had a sling. As she was healing her elbow, the.

[Andrea Gunning]

Broken bones became a cycle. After her elbow, Morgan broke a rib.

[Kelsey]

She had fallen, and she came back, and she just was like, oh, my gosh, my rib, my rib, my rib. We looked at it. It was broken, and. And she took herself to urgent care.

[Andrea Gunning]

She came back with X rays showing her broken rib. The doctors told her to rest. At the time, they lived in an apartment complex, and they were friends with their downstairs neighbors. They usually went over every week for.

[Kelsey]

Game night after she had broken her rib. Morgan was at home for a couple weeks, and we had missed a game night, and I had gone down personally to, you know, apologize for missing a scheme night and to ask how things were going. So I was in person in their apartment. I was like, explain, oh, my God, her rib. And one of them was like, oh, my God, someone's got to say it. I saw her. I saw her with her rib, and I was like, I don't know what you mean.

[Andrea Gunning]

There was a cement wall in the back of their apartment complex, and their neighbor had seen Morgan behaving strangely.

[Kelsey]

And she's like, the day that she broke her rib, I saw her falling onto that cement wall, like, jumping onto this wall.

[Andrea Gunning]

Her neighbor saw Morgan throwing herself against a cement wall. And it wasn't just one time.

[Kelsey]

She was like, I watched her do it several times. I thought it was weird. And I was really defensive. I was like, oh, you might have just, like, missed. Understood the situation, because that doesn't make any sense. And they're like, you need to talk to your wife about this.

[Andrea Gunning]

Kelsey felt like her neighbors Were accusing her of lying. And the neighbor's story didn't make any sense. If they saw Morgan falling, why wouldn't they help her?

[Kelsey]

I remember coming home and being like, why did the neighbor think that she saw you? And she's like, it was a really big fall. I'm surprised she didn't make sure I was okay. I was like, yeah, that seems weird. Like, I just get a weird vibe from them. Like, I really don't think they want to be friends with us anymore. And she's like, well, we don't want to be friends with anyone who think we're liars anyway. Like, why would anyone lie about this?

[Andrea Gunning]

Regardless of how Morgan had broken her rib, she was clearly injured again. Morgan's doctor recommended she stay physically active. But to Kelsey, this seemed unsafe. So she told Morgan, you have to.

[Kelsey]

Stop leaving the house like this, and I need to see your paperwork. Like, I need to see the doctor's recommendation that this is okay, because clearly it's not. And it was a huge argument. It was a huge blow up that I was too controlling, that I was obsessing over her death. And I finally was like, okay. And then I left the apartment.

[Andrea Gunning]

Kelsey went on a walk around the block alone for the first time in a long time.

[Kelsey]

And so I was on this walk thinking, I don't know how to manage this anymore.

[Andrea Gunning]

Between Morgan's cancer, her constant injuries, working to support them both, and her graduate school program, Kelsey couldn't take it anymore.

[Kelsey]

On that walk, I called my friend and I was like, I'm not okay. I think I need to leave.

[Andrea Gunning]

That night, Kelsey made up her mind. She was going to transfer schools, move to a new city on her own.

[Kelsey]

The academic advisor called me the very next day and was like, oh, we'd love to set you up for an interview. And so I flew that Thursday and did my interview in person.

[Andrea Gunning]

She was in a frenzy. Before she was even accepted, she made plans to move. Everything in her body was telling her to get away from Morgan.

[Kelsey]

So I just literally packed everything in my car. I got a job and a place to live. When I went to interview, I just moved at lightning speed.

[Andrea Gunning]

When she told Morgan she was leaving.

[Kelsey]

She was just shocked. I was like, I think we just need a little bit of breather space. You stay here, you've got everything that you need. I'll continue paying for rent here. I'll pay for your food, I'll pay for everything, but I have to go do my master's program. And then I left. She might have thought I was having a mental breakdown, because, honestly, I was.

[Andrea Gunning]

That night, she drove 15, 15 hours straight.

[Kelsey]

On my way, I called my sister. My sister was like, you are a really terrible person. Like, I can't believe that you would leave in this way when Morgan could die at any time.

[Andrea Gunning]

At the time, she wasn't ready to share her doubts about Morgan's diagnosis with anyone else.

[Kelsey]

I just felt like I didn't have enough evidence of that. I just wanted it to be behind me.

[Andrea Gunning]

Still, her sister's words made her feel horrible. Because of this guilt, Kelsey stayed in touch with Morgan over the phone as much as she could, Especially when, right after her move, Kelsey needed emergency surgery for her appendix. Now the shoe was on the other foot, and Kelsey needed Morgan's support.

[Kelsey]

I remember calling Morgan at the er. She's like, oh, my God, I'm so sorry.

[Andrea Gunning]

While Kelsey was in the hospital recovering, she received a strange text.

[Kelsey]

I actually got a text from her mom, and it was almost like the fourth wall broke.

[Andrea Gunning]

The last time she had heard from Morgan's mom was before they'd gotten married. And that was over email. The emails where she called Kelsey the devil, they had never texted.

[Kelsey]

And she sent the most thoughtful text to me. It was like, I'm so sorry this is happening. We're hoping you. You heal.

[Andrea Gunning]

This was at odds with everything Kelsey knew about this woman.

[Kelsey]

I was like, what? Like, Morgan didn't have relationship with her parents, and suddenly they knew this very intimate detail about my health.

[Andrea Gunning]

That text from Morgan's mom opened a door to what might be a different reality. She decided not to tell Morgan about it.

[Kelsey]

It suddenly felt like I was uncovering something.

[Andrea Gunning]

After Kelsey recovered from surgery, she settled into her new city. She could finally feel the relief of being away from Morgan. The next time they talked, Kelsey asked for a divorce. And to her surprise, Morgan agreed.

[Kelsey]

She's like, okay, I've got a family friend who's married to a divorce lawyer, and she will start working up the divorce paperwork. Because I had no idea how to divorce. I just assumed it would be complicated.

[Andrea Gunning]

So she let Morgan handle the paperwork. It was clear to both of them that their relationship was over. Morgan took it really hard.

[Kelsey]

The divorce had activated her eating disorder, so she was going back into an eating disorder clinic in her home state.

[Andrea Gunning]

Kelsey felt intense guilt for leaving Morgan. She'd spent two years taking care of her. She'd seen the broken bones, the nausea, the exhaustion, all of the medications. But the more time Kelsey took for herself, the more she realized Morgan was hiding something. What it was she didn't know for sure. But what she did know was that she needed a fresh start.

[Kelsey]

I can finally at least separate myself from whatever lie she is or is not telling herself or me.

[Andrea Gunning]

Kelsey tried to move on and put this relationship behind her. She wanted a clean slate.

[Kelsey]

I felt like it was the start of a whole new chapter of my life. It was the first time I was dating someone new who didn't have a health crisis. This is when I was in a master's program. I just loved my school. I loved being with my dog. I loved the new life I was creating. And I reflected back on the years when before. And I really felt like I had missed everything. And so I felt like this was the start of something brand new.

[Andrea Gunning]

Part of that reset was acting like the relationship with Morgan never happened.

[Kelsey]

I felt stupid for having been in this dynamic for so long. It would be so much easier to start completely over if I just don't bring in this very, very complicated backstory that I now had with my ex.

[Andrea Gunning]

But she still had to communicate with Morgan about the divorce paperwork.

[Kelsey]

I would have to check in and be like, wait, where is this divorce happening? Like, I was always just kind of, like, dragged back to the reality of something I really didn't want to face.

[Andrea Gunning]

As the months went by, the divorce still hadn't been finalized.

[Kelsey]

And throughout this whole time period, there'd be times where I was, like, checking in, and Morgan would be like, oh, I'm filing paperwork, and it's still being processed.

[Andrea Gunning]

While Kelsey was in the middle of her emotional recovery, she got a red envelope in the mail.

[Kelsey]

I started getting collection notices. The first big one was the car.

[Andrea Gunning]

Morgan had stopped paying her car payment, so it went to collections. Kelsey assumed, like, she's getting the same.

[Kelsey]

Notification, so she's going to pay for it, right? That was the first notification. And then I started getting mail constantly. Phone bills, credit card debts, things that had my name and her name on together. And it was significant. It was, like, thousands and thousands of dollars.

[Andrea Gunning]

The notices weren't slowing down, and the debt was impacting Kelsey's credit.

[Kelsey]

I was just starting to get really frustrated. I was like, how? How is this happening? So the very first thing I did was try to contact her. She didn't answer. She had blocked me, Morgan had blocked.

[Andrea Gunning]

Her, and their divorce still wasn't finalized. So Kelsey decided to take matters into her own hands.

[Kelsey]

So I paid an attorney to check all the legal processes in every state we had lived in to see if they had started divorce paperwork at all. And Morgan had never Ever filed.

[Andrea Gunning]

Morgan told Kelsey with confidence that she had filed for divorce. And Kelsey believed her, trusted her.

[Kelsey]

I was like, there's no way she would lie about this.

[Andrea Gunning]

But she had lied. Kelsey's lawyer had the proof. The time Kelsey spent trying to put Morgan behind her now came with a price.

[Kelsey]

Oh, my God. I have been avoiding the reality of this forever. Like, I haven't ever thought to check anything regarding our divorce paperwork. I didn't know to, like, flag her on any of my banks, to not have access to my stuff. Like, we were legally married. And so suddenly I realized there were so many connections that I still had to her and didn't know the gravity of until I was presenting this lawyer this debt paperwork.

[Andrea Gunning]

Morgan's debt had piled up to an astonishing number.

[Kelsey]

Just the payoff alone, like, just what I knew collectors had sent to me that was dinging on my credit report was about $60,000.

[Andrea Gunning]

Kelsey hadn't been able to reach Morgan. She had no idea where she was living. But she was clearly still alive, charging credit cards with Kelsey's name on them. So they hired a private investigator to track Morgan down and serve her the paperwork.

[Kelsey]

My lawyer sent the paperwork to her, and she signed. So now I can also file a financial restraining order against her. I remember leaving the courthouse and just sobbing. Like, walking to my car and just crying. It was the first time I had, like, a binder in my hands of our marriage certificate and our divorce decree, and I finally could put a stop to anything more happening.

[Andrea Gunning]

With the divorce decree in hand, Kelsey believed that Morgan and the chaos that came with her was now truly behind her. She wasn't avoiding it anymore.

[Kelsey]

I was really surprised when, in late 2020, I got a Facebook message from Joanne.

[Andrea Gunning]

It was Morgan's mentor, the woman who'd been like a second mother to her. Kelsey hadn't spoken to her since that awkward road trip visit years ago. Joanne said she needed to speak with Kelsey. It was urgent.

[Kelsey]

So we get on a Facebook video call, and she's like. A couple months ago, I was listening to a podcast about factitious disorder, and it just sounds so much like Morgan that I just, like, couldn't shake this feeling.

[Andrea Gunning]

Factitious disorder is the official term for Munchausen syndrome, which is when someone fakes being sick for sympathy and attention. Joanne went on to explain.

[Kelsey]

I've been down a rabbit hole about Morgan, and I have proof that she had been diagnosed with factitious disorder before she ever met you. And I had proof that she was faking breaking her bones.

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[Andrea Gunning]

Just as Kelsey was finally feeling in control of her life, she got a Facebook message out of the blue. It was from Joanne Morgan's mentor. Joanne had uncovered something that she needed to share with Kelsey.

[Kelsey]

This is when she broke down all of her Findings which she could, on paper point to and say, like, no, I got this record. This was a lie. And this statement from this person's a lie.

[Andrea Gunning]

Joanne had met Morgan when Morgan was a college athlete. She'd taken Morgan in when she was going through a hard time with her family. And Joanne was there when Morgan broke her wrist for the first time. When Morgan came back from the hospital in a cast, she told Joanne the doctors had found bone cancer.

[Kelsey]

Morgan had told Joanne that she needed to start cancer treatments. And so she had supplies that she had brought back, and she was having Joanne administer cancer treatment intravenously. That's why Joanne had confirmed to me that she had cancer, because she's like, yeah, I was doing treatments with her when she had cancer. It was really, really scary. And so they bonded over that. It was like, oh, my gosh, of course I'll help you. You're away from family.

[Andrea Gunning]

This all happened before Kelsey ever met Morgan. Now, years later, Joanne was coming to Kelsey with proof that the story they'd both been told was a lie.

[Kelsey]

Joanne had found out that Morgan had secured saline and, like, supplies to give herself IV treatments. But they were never actual treatments.

[Andrea Gunning]

Joanne got medical records that told the real story, what was actually happening.

[Kelsey]

Morgan would come out of the hospital, like, having fixed her broken wrist, and then would break it again and tell everyone that it was cancer related, that her cancer had come back. But in reality, she was going back to the doctor and being like, oh, my broken bone, Will you fix it? And they would fix it. But after four or five times of this happening during that school year, they had actually had to blacklist her from the hospital because she had, like, exhausted the hospitals in that area.

[Andrea Gunning]

It was a bombshell. Finding refusing care and blacklisting someone from a hospital is a very big deal.

[Kelsey]

The fact that Morgan had been assigned this label and not allowed to get treatment at these hospitals anymore was, like, a really serious thing. And they had officially listed it as factitious. At the time. It was called Munchausen. That's how they formally called it on her record. Like, do not treat her. This is unhealthy. And they had kept encouraging her to get psychiatric care.

[Andrea Gunning]

But according to the records Joanne had, Morgan didn't get psychiatric care. Instead, she went to summer camp.

[Kelsey]

And so after lying about it to all the doctors in the city of her college, this is the summer that she met me.

[Andrea Gunning]

After Morgan and Kelsey met, Morgan didn't need Joanne anymore. She had a new caretaker. The tension Kelsey witnessed between Morgan and Joanne when she saw them the last time was real. Joanne was starting to question Morgan's story.

[Kelsey]

Joanne was mutual friends with someone, and that person didn't even know that Morgan was dying of cancer. She just started kind of hitting parts of the story that didn't make a lot of sense. That's why she kept trying to, like, tell me something, but felt like she didn't have enough proof to tell me.

[Andrea Gunning]

But now Joanne had the proof, and the two of them could begin piecing everything together.

[Kelsey]

We started comparing stories and realized there's a lot more to this story than we even know between the two of us.

[Andrea Gunning]

A key component of Morgan pulling off this deception was keeping people isolated from each other. If Kelsey and Joanne were going to find the truth, they needed to connect with other people in Morgan's life.

[Kelsey]

This is where it really blew open.

[Andrea Gunning]

Kelsey went back to the very beginning, to the mutual friend who vouched for Morgan at camp.

[Kelsey]

Even my friend from camp knew one version of the story. She had never mentioned having cancer ever to this friend. So that was the first, like, oh, she was lying from the very beginning.

[Andrea Gunning]

Even parts of the story that Kelsey never questioned before now seemed like they could be lies, Starting with the letter Morgan said she received from the camp director warning her that her eating disorder was interfering with her job performance.

[Kelsey]

She had never been talked to by camp staff about being removed from camp, ever. That was never even a conversation. No one actually knew anything about her eating disorder.

[Andrea Gunning]

Kelsey couldn't believe this fundamental part of their origin story could be fabricated. But the lie was confirmed when she.

[Kelsey]

Discovered she had never been hospitalized for an eating disorder. The clinic that she gave me was a fake name.

[Andrea Gunning]

Every new person Kelsey talked to had been told a different story. Sometimes it was an entirely different story.

[Kelsey]

It wasn't always cancer that the lie was about. It was oftentimes, oh, I found my birth mother. So there was, like a birth mother network of lies.

[Andrea Gunning]

One lie in particular was extremely difficult for Kelsey to accept.

[Kelsey]

Morgan had actually maintained a relationship with her family the whole time I knew her.

[Andrea Gunning]

Kelsey tracked down Morgan's siblings. That's when she learned her family had no idea about Morgan's cancer. And when Morgan told the family she was dating a woman, everyone was accepting of her. So who sent the hate emails?

[Kelsey]

I did some digging on the emails that her parents had been sent sending me, and all of them went back to the same computer that I had bought her, which meant that all of the emails that her parents had sent me when we first started dating were from Morgan. Morgan had written them this hateful homophobic rhetoric came from my partner that was so devastating because I had such trauma and so much internalized shame for being gay.

[Andrea Gunning]

So much of Kelsey's decision to support Morgan was because she had no family left. They'd all disowned her because she was gay. It was just lie on top of lie.

[Kelsey]

Every single component of the intensity, like the first four months of knowing her, was completely fabricated in every way at the time.

[Andrea Gunning]

All of the intensity felt very real to Kelsey, from the hate emails to Morgan's symptoms, the fatigue, the vomiting. How could Morgan fake all of that? Well, Kelsey found out.

[Kelsey]

I learned that she was taking medications that made her throw up, that made her really lethargic. They're seizure meds. I learned that she would steal medications.

[Andrea Gunning]

Morgan didn't come up with the whole plan by herself. She had source material.

[Kelsey]

This is when I had seen the movie the Fault in Our Stars and realized that she was feeding me the same lines from the book and from the movie.

[Andrea Gunning]

The Fault in Our Stars is a book by John Green that was adapted into a film. It follows two teenagers with terminal cancer. Some of the exact lines from the movie were things Morgan had said to her, like claiming that her cancer scans quote, lit up like a Christmas tree. Kelsey felt like her relationship had been scripted.

[Kelsey]

My entire existence with her was a lie. All of it.

[Andrea Gunning]

Now that Kelsey had broken open Morgan's lies, she wanted to make sure that there were no remaining ties with her. She discovered there was still one bank account open that they shared. It was an account Kelsey never knew about, but her name was on it. In order to close the account, she had to move the money out of it.

[Kelsey]

It was technically my account to close because we were both on it.

[Andrea Gunning]

There was $20,000 in this account, all of Morgan's checking and savings.

[Kelsey]

I suddenly had access to all of her money. After all these years, years of piecing this story together, like I suddenly have access to everything. In order to close it, I had to put the money somewhere, so I had to do something with the money.

[Andrea Gunning]

So she asked her friends and family what to do.

[Kelsey]

Everyone was like, keep the money. Like that is your money. She couldn't dispute it, even if she wanted to. And I was like, no, no, no. I'm not taking any of that bad karma.

[Andrea Gunning]

Kelsey had financially supported supported Morgan for years. When they separated, she took on $60,000 of Morgan's debt. Even after all of that, Kelsey decided to send the money back to Morgan. She was ready to wash her hands of the whole thing.

[Kelsey]

I sent her a letter along with the check and I said I paid off everything you owed. I could have taken thousands and thousands. I could have taken everything and it still would not be a drop in the bucket of what money you took from me. You lied to me. I know every lie you've ever told. Never talk to me again. And I really hope that you're getting the help that you need. And that was the last thing I sent.

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[Andrea Gunning]

After nearly five years, Kelsey was finally free of Morgan and her deception. Liberated from the lies, the financial and emotional burden that she endured. Today, Kelsey thinks back on the innocent woman at Girl Scout camp who walked right into Morgan's web.

[Kelsey]

Like, I was the perfect person for Morgan to meet at camp could not have been more perfect. Like a history of family dysfunction, the tendency to get in relationships where I'm caregiving, and I had a mom who.

[Andrea Gunning]

Had cancer before Morgan, Kelsey had never even heard about abuse in a lesbian relationship.

[Kelsey]

So as a queer person, I almost felt safer with women than I ever felt with men. Like, I never thought that that would happen to me in this intimate or precise or manipulative way.

[Andrea Gunning]

For a long time, Kelsey struggled to tell other people what she went through. Would they believe her? Would they judge her?

[Kelsey]

A common question I get is, how did you not know? Or if you were married, how did you not know? The medicine or the doctors? Especially because this story with Morgan is so extreme. I agree. If I was on the outside, I listened to plenty of true crime and factitious disorder stuff, and I'm like, obviously you would know.

[Andrea Gunning]

So how did she not know? Well, the short answer is that she believed a woman she loved. The question used to bother her, but now she understands where it's coming from.

[Kelsey]

I really think it comes from a deep desire to feel like it couldn't happen to us. And more than that, it comes from this desire of, like, protecting ourselves, hearing other people's pain. And I can sympathize with that completely.

[Andrea Gunning]

When she does tell the story to other people, she notices her own shame.

[Kelsey]

Whenever I cringe telling this story, I've had to pause and ask myself, what part of me is cringing? And the part of me that's cringing is always coming from a shameful, guilty place.

[Andrea Gunning]

It's a relatable experience. All of us can point to a moment in our lives and cringe at our choices. Kelsey's come to realize shame doesn't work.

[Kelsey]

Shame has never been a motivator of change for me.

[Andrea Gunning]

She's had to reflect on her own part in the relationship, those key moments where she chose to stay with Morgan even when she knew something wasn't right.

[Kelsey]

It's so easy to hear my story and be like, this terrible thing happened to this great person. And to be honest, I have had to reckon with My own inner demons about this. Like, what parts of me were attracted to a person that needed to be taken care of. I can reflect back on a lot of my early childhood, where to be caregiving and to be codependent in that way were very much rewarded. So it's not just like, wow, this terrible thing happened to me. Truly. It's like, I can see what I said yes to in this complicitly. I can see where I turned an eye away from what I knew in my body was the truth because I didn't want to lose something I loved. Or I'm embarrassed I didn't leave sooner because I was afraid of what it would look like. And it's true.

[Andrea Gunning]

Kelsey has cultivated sympathy for the younger version of herself who made those choices. After all, she was acting out of love.

[Kelsey]

When I hear other people's horrific stories of things that have happened to them, I now have a lens of what a human experience to love so deeply that we're willing to suspend disbelief. That high is like, I truly believe that deception really comes from a deep desire to be loved. And I can sympathize with the desire to be loved.

[Andrea Gunning]

There's a meta element to Kelsey's story. It was a podcast that helped Joanne and then Kelsey discover the truth.

[Kelsey]

And I remember listening to that podcast and thinking like, that is so brave, because I was so embarrassed about my own story. And I still struggle with that with myself, but it's like, I want there to be less stigma around manipulative relationships.

[Andrea Gunning]

Kelsey feels like it's come full circle. She's telling her own story now for someone else who needs to hear it. We end all of our episodes with the same question. Why did you want to tell your story?

[Kelsey]

I didn't want to tell this story ever again. The thing that made me is knowing that it took me so many years to untangle myself from the shame of not recognizing that as trauma sooner. But there are so many little things that feel important to say out loud that we should be making more space for people to be critical of their interpersonal relationships without shame. Like, if that trust has been breached, then it's time to go. You don't have to wait for evidence to leave. I think we need more models of that happening. And so I truly believe that I can reflect this story with love and also hold someone accountable for doing something truly terrible.

[Andrea Gunning]

On the next episode of Betrayal.

[Kelsey]

If he can lie about that, he can lie about anything. He used his dead mother's name. He used his dead father's name. He used. I think his aunt, he used my name. All these people.

[Andrea Gunning]

If you would like to reach out to the Betrayal Team or want to tell us your Betrayal story, email [e-mail] that's betrayalpodmail.com we're grateful for your support. One way to show support is by subscribing to our show on Apple Podcasts. And don't forget to rate and review Betrayal. Five star reviews go a long way. A big thank you to all of our listeners. Betrayal is a production of Glass Podcasts, a division of Glass Entertainment Group in partnership with iHeart Podcasts. The show is executive produced by Nancy's Glass and Jennifer Faison, hosted and produced by me, Andrea Gunning, written and produced by Monique Laborde Also produced by Ben Federman. Associate producers are Kristen Melchuri and Caitlin Golden. Our iHeart team is Ali Perry and Jessica Krynczyk. Audio editing and mixing by Matt D'Alvecchio Additional editing support from Tanner Robbins Betrayals theme composed by Oliver Baines Music by library provided by My Music and for more podcasts from iHeart, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts.

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