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Andrea Gunning
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Narrator
We originally released it in two parts, but for this rerelease we're combining both.
Andrea Gunning
Parts for you so you can hear.
Narrator
Her full story all at once.
Andrea Gunning
One thing we love about Dhonielle's story is the ending where she finds love again. And as you'll hear in the episode.
Narrator
She and her new husband got married.
Andrea Gunning
At the Thanksgiving table. They said their vows between dinner and dessert surrounded by all of their family. We will be back next week with a brand new episode. And in the meantime, for those celebrating Happy Thanksgiving, we are so grateful to all of you, our listeners. Thank you for everything. So without further ado, here's Dhonielle's story.
Danielle
One of my children saw his dad dressed all in black and he said that it seemed like his dad was mad at him because he yelled at him to go back to bed. And the night before that, he had actually told my oldest child to rack a sledgehammer that we had that had a really bright yellow handle in black electric tape and find a black raincoat for him to wear. And she was like, okay, dad.
Andrea Gunning
I'm Andrea Gunning and this is Betrayal, A show about the people we trust the most and the deceptions that change everything. One night in 2017, Danielle Oliver Chauvet was awoken by the FBI and state police. They were pointing guns at her, demanding to know where her husband was. That night she learned the man she had spent 20 years with was hiding some very big secrets. This is Danielle's first time telling her story. She's been reluctant to share what she went through because, as you'll hear in part two, her husband has other victims. She wants to be respectful of their experience and suffering. But this episode isn't about her husband's crimes. It's about the 20 year marriage Dhonielle built with him, the ways he deceived and violated her, and the shocking betrayal that ended it all. It's also the story of being totally in the dark about your partner's double life.
Danielle
I used to watch Lifetime shows and I used to be that person saying, oh, she had to know something. So I totally understand why people say things like that. But until you are actually walking in those shoes and living with a person who can be completely double faced, living a completely separate life, all I know is the life that he had with me and our kids. That's all I saw. He was able to do everything else completely separate.
Andrea Gunning
Danielle grew up in a happy, tight knit family in California.
Danielle
Family is very important to me. We were just over at my parents, all of my siblings, and we all just get along really well. There's hardly ever any arguments within our family and when there is, it's resolved within the day.
Andrea Gunning
Growing up, Danielle's parents were her role models. They had a respectful and happy marriage. It was an environment that nurtured her easygoing and trusting nature.
Danielle
I had a really good childhood and so I didn't grow up with a lot of strife or bad things happening in my childhood where that trust was broken down.
Andrea Gunning
She was raised with a strong sense of faith. That's still one of her core values.
Danielle
I know some religions can be like really strict, you can do this, you can't do this. I wouldn't even Say that mine is a religion. It's a relationship with Christ.
Andrea Gunning
Danielle's one of those rare people who loved high school. She was popular and she had a long time high school boyfriend named Billy.
Danielle
When we were teenagers, everybody thought for sure that we were just going to be together forever. You know, we were the thing.
Andrea Gunning
Right before their senior year of high school, Billie proposed to her and she said yes.
Danielle
But then I actually had to move to Hawaii because my dad was working for the military and we moved there.
Andrea Gunning
She ended up spending her senior year in Hawaii. Then she got accepted to college in Illinois. She was ready to start a new life there without her high school boyfriend. Giving up her first love was hard, but she wanted to prioritize her independence. Danielle thrived in college. She loved her major, which was art. And she also loved going to Bible study on campus. That's where she met Chad.
Danielle
He was raising his hand and answering the questions like right away. And he was answering the way I would have answered those questions, right in line with the way I believed. So I was attracted to that immediately.
Andrea Gunning
She knew Chad was special.
Danielle
The first time I met him. I said to my parents when I got back that I was going to marry him. So it was pretty much love at first sight.
Andrea Gunning
She felt comfortable around Chad. It was easy, like they'd known each other for years.
Danielle
We actually met at my parents house and watched a couple movies and I made him lasagna and he changed my oil in my car. That was our first date.
Andrea Gunning
From the start, Danielle was serious about Chad.
Danielle
When I'm dating someone, I'm deciding whether or not this person is the person I want to marry. So I was looking for specific things that I wanted in a husband when I was dating him.
Andrea Gunning
And Chad checked all the boxes.
Danielle
There was lots of things. He grew up in a Christian home. He had a good relationship with his parents. He was business minded, like he was able to support me.
Andrea Gunning
Everything about him felt right. He was pursuing a degree in finance. He had dreams of starting his own business. And like her, he also wanted a big family. But most of all, she just loved being around him.
Danielle
I had fun with him, you know, we would laugh about lots of things. I was just attracted to the way I felt around him while they were dating.
Andrea Gunning
He went above and beyond to woo her.
Danielle
Something about Chad, you have to know, he likes to do everything big. It always has to be the best and the grandest and the most showy.
Andrea Gunning
It's not who she is, but Chad said she deserved the best and it was flattering. After about Two years of dating. He made a particularly grand gesture. He bought her an expensive dress, rented a limousine, and took them to a dinner theater.
Danielle
And during that intermission, he excused himself. I thought he was going to use the restroom, but he actually, it turns out, had set up beforehand with the theater that he would go on stage and ask me to marry him from the stage. And then he got down on his knee and, yeah, it was quite the show.
Andrea Gunning
She said yes. He brought her out of her comfort zone, and it felt like a fairy tale.
Danielle
I was 100%, this is the one that I'm gonna spend the rest of my life with.
Andrea Gunning
Chad was involved in every step of the wedding planning, which Danielle loved. And he also wanted to go to pre marriage counseling to discuss their expectations.
Danielle
We discussed who would be the breadwinner in the home, you know, what would be the different roles of both husband and wife as far as who did what in the household. It was thoroughly discussed how our marriage would go before we got married. I mean, as far as you can, right? We did know that I wanted to be a stay at home mom, so that was talked about.
Andrea Gunning
Danielle had been managing her own money in her early 20s, and although she was good at it, it was a relief to be marrying someone who had expertise in finance. It made her feel safe. And so they agreed that while she would manage the household, Chad would manage the money.
Danielle
And I had full trust in Chad to be able to do that, too. Because of his business degree, he was really good at money since he went to school for it. I didn't have any, you know, worries about him taking over the finances for the family.
Andrea Gunning
She was happy with this arrangement. She's a do it yourself kind of person. It's an attitude that's well suited to raising kids and running the household.
Danielle
My dishwasher broke down several years ago, and I wasn't about to pay somebody because I'm going to figure out how to fix it. I laid all the flooring in the house that I'm in right now. I didn't know how to do that, but I looked it up, just went on YouTube and figured it out. So I'm that type of person.
Andrea Gunning
After they got married, the couple decided to move to Chad's hometown in Illinois. To call it a small town is an understatement. The entire population could fit in one high school football stadium.
Danielle
Well, the town we live in, erie, is only 1900.
Andrea Gunning
It's small, small, but perfectly suited to the life that they were building. A life that centered around family and community. Plus, Chad had grown up there, so he knew nearly everyone in town, and everyone seemed to adore him. In fact, he'd been the high school valedictorian. Once they moved back to Erie, the couple also joined Chad's church, the church he grew up in.
Danielle
We were really involved with that church, and his parents went to that church too. And we led a Sunday school together as a couple.
Andrea Gunning
Their life was falling into place. A happy marriage, a strong foundation based on shared values, a community that supported them, and a church they felt welcomed by. And Chad was making progress in his career. He began the certification process to become a financial advisor. He wanted to start his own firm.
Danielle
He did it all online, like went through classes online and got his certificate online and all that.
Andrea Gunning
She was proud of him. And for the time being, she kept working too.
Danielle
I also worked for the post office for a little bit, but that was not part of our marriage plan. I didn't want to be a working mom. I wanted to be a stay at home mom. Pretty much as soon as we got married, we started trying.
Andrea Gunning
But conceiving their first baby didn't happen as quickly as Danielle hoped. The months turned into a year, and during that year, Chad made a shocking confession.
Danielle
He came home from work and sat me down and said, I need to tell you something really important. And just said, I had an encounter with a guy in the bathroom and I think we need to go see somebody and talk to like a counselor about it. And so I was just like, what is going on? It just blindsided me, like, what just happened?
Andrea Gunning
She asked him point blank if he was gay. He said, no, he wasn't. She wanted more details about what actually happened, who it was with and what they did.
Danielle
But he never really gave a straight answer. It was just, we need to go talk to somebody, like a counselor about it.
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Andrea Gunning
Danielle was shaken and confused about her husband's confession to a one time fling. But at the same time, Chad was doing everything he could to make it right. He confessed to it immediately. He wanted to get help and most importantly he was coming to her with sincere remorse.
Danielle
He was crying, I was crying. He was saying sorry.
Andrea Gunning
Chad wanted to get help quickly and so the next day they did.
Danielle
We actually went to the pastor and asked for advice about who we should as a marriage counselor. For us, we were given a name of a Christian counselor.
Andrea Gunning
They had multiple sessions with the counselor, Some sessions together as a couple and some separately. During a one on one meeting, the counselor gave Danielle some advice.
Danielle
He advised me, you should really think carefully about this marriage. You know, you actually have a right to end this marriage if he is being unfaithful to you.
Andrea Gunning
The counselor said he'd seen a situation like this before and he wanted Danielle to know that divorce was an option.
Danielle
I understood that. I knew that that's something that it's perfectly fine for me to file for a divorce, but I didn't want to. I wanted to make this marriage work. I didn't even want the word divorce to come up in our marriage. Like when I made a commitment in our marriage at the wedding ceremony, my promise was a promise. I didn't take my vows lightly. In sickness and in health or richer, for poorer. I was going to walk through it with him. I wanted to help him resolve whatever it was that he was going through because I loved him and I wanted our marriage to work.
Andrea Gunning
This one, infidelity. It felt small and manageable, especially compared to the years they'd spend together. Getting to know each other, studying the Bible together and building a life. She really trusted Chad.
Danielle
I felt like I could 100% trust him. Even though he had done whatever he had done, I believed him 100%.
Andrea Gunning
They got a workbook on overcoming infidelity and even did the homework together. And they decided to lean on their faith to help them rebuild their relationship. Church became an even bigger part of their lives.
Danielle
He was an elder in the church. We jointly were leaders for kids Christian camps. We were very involved in our faith.
Andrea Gunning
Their marriage began looking up, especially when a year later they welcomed their first baby. A baby girl.
Danielle
She was an amazing first child. Super easy baby, smiling all the time, happy alert. It was a great, great first mom experience.
Andrea Gunning
Danielle was on top of the world. So filled with love for her first daughter and her young family, it confirmed to her that she really did want to be a stay at home mom. She just felt whole.
Danielle
People that we would meet walking through a mall always stop and say, oh, you have the cutest baby. She's the cutest thing I've ever seen and your family is so cute.
Andrea Gunning
The difficulties she and Chad faced in the first year of marriage started to feel like they were in the rear view mirror at that point.
Danielle
I felt totally in love with him and close to him. I felt like I had the perfect.
Andrea Gunning
Life that baby would be the first of six.
Danielle
I knew that you could get pregnant even when you were still nursing and before you had your first cycle after pregnancy. I didn't think it was going to happen to me, but it did.
Andrea Gunning
Soon, Danielle's life became consumed by full time childcare. As their kids got older, she started homeschooling them. And she loved every minute of it.
Danielle
I wouldn't have it any other way. I know a lot of people are like, wow, six kids, that's a lot. But, you know, each one of them is unique. It has their own personality. Each of them is just amazing. I love it. I absolutely love it.
Andrea Gunning
With a growing family came more financial demands. But luckily, Chad's business was taking off. They even had the ability to upgrade their house.
Danielle
He had been starting to look at this property that he really wanted. It was a huge house, way bigger than we needed. Enormous, huge living room, huge family, huge dining room, huge, huge master bedroom, you know, basement that looked like a bowling alley. And so he started looking at it and dreaming about it and eventually decided that he was going to try to purchase it.
Andrea Gunning
Danielle didn't think it was the most practical choice, but the house made him happy. After they moved in, he tried to tell her how to run the house, but she stood her ground. She trusted him to handle the finances. So when it came to the housework, he needed to trust her.
Danielle
He wanted me to do things a certain way, like do laundry on a certain day, do the dishes on a certain day, or, you know, do dusting on a certain day. And I was like, no, I will do it when it needs to be done. When I see that it needs doing.
Andrea Gunning
I'll do it, you know, and there were a lot of things that needed dusting. Chad was a collector. It was a quirk that Danielle accepted Precious Moments figurines.
Danielle
And he was very much a Hallmark fan. So he had millions of Hallmark ornaments, tons of DVDs. I mean, we had two huge walls full of DVDs.
Andrea Gunning
They loved watching movies as a family. And after the kids went to bed, the couple would watch their favorite TV.
Danielle
Shows, Dexter and Breaking Bad.
Andrea Gunning
Every summer, Danielle, Chad and their six kids would take family road trips.
Danielle
Yellowstone, the Grand Canyon, Mount Rushmore. We hit all the tourist places in the United States. We had a lot of really fun times as family on these trips.
Andrea Gunning
They'd stay in huge rental homes. Chad always wanted the best of the best for the family.
Danielle
And they were very nice, very nice rented houses. Some of them I was like, okay, guys, don't touch anything. You know, like expensive paintings on the walls and glass decorations.
Andrea Gunning
One summer, about 15 years into their marriage, the family was on one of their regular road trips. And on this trip, their rental home was in a remote area.
Danielle
I woke up around 2 in the morning. I know it was the middle of the night. All the kids were asleep. And I got up to go to the bathroom or something and turned over, and he was not in bed with me. I looked around the house to see if he was just up somewhere. He was not there. I went out into the garage area. The car was gone. So I started being like, where did he go? There was no note as far as he left somewhere. He didn't leave a message on my phone. He was just gone.
Andrea Gunning
It was the early 2000s, so she didn't have a smartphone to look at his location. She started to worry that something terrible happened.
Danielle
So I started calling around to the hospital, around the area. And is there any Chad Skipper admitted into this hospital? No, ma'am. Thank you. Call the next hospital.
Andrea Gunning
Around 3am the phone rang.
Danielle
It was Chad, and he said he was at Walmart. I was like, okay, why are you at Walmart? I just thought I would pick up some stuff. But, you know, you can kind of tell when somebody's calling from the middle of a store. You can hear the hum of everything. There was no shopping cart sounds, no, like, cashier beeping and stuff. There was none of that. It did not sound like he was in a shopping area. I hung up the phone and just was like, how? What is happening? I don't understand. He says he's on Walmart, that it's hours away. That doesn't make any sense. And I just sat in confusion, shaking, until he got home.
Andrea Gunning
When Chad got back, he tried to explain it away.
Danielle
He apologized. He said, I'm sorry I didn't tell you where I was going. You know, everything's fine. You're good, the kids are good, I'm back. We're safe. He blew it over.
Andrea Gunning
Whenever they got in a disagreement, this is what he'd tell her.
Danielle
His favorite phrase was, don't make a mountain out of a molehill. You know, you just get really emotional about things. It's okay, you know, calm down. Always made me feel like I was crazy.
Andrea Gunning
Abandoning the family in a rental house in the middle of the night with no good explanation. It just didn't sit right with her. So Danielle called her mom.
Danielle
She was like, oh, wow. Yeah, that is really weird. I'm glad you're okay. You know, I'm glad it all worked out, but that is really weird.
Andrea Gunning
Dhonielle was the full time caretaker for six children under 15. She didn't have the energy to fight with her husband.
Danielle
I didn't confront him. That's one of my personality quirks is I don't like confrontation. I would rather just not talk about it than have a huge argument about something which is not healthy. I think it's much healthier to communicate and work it out, but at that point I just didn't want to deal with it.
Andrea Gunning
Plus, whenever she did question him, it always ended up coming back on her.
Danielle
On the rare occasions when I would ask questions, I would be shut down and told I was crazy or that is totally not how it went. You have, you know, blown this out of proportion and you don't remember the actual facts that actually happened. This is how it actually happened.
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Andrea Gunning
When Danielle woke up on a family vacation to find her husband missing, he said he was picking up something for work at a Walmart in the middle of the night. She didn't quite buy the story, but she knew Chad was busier than ever growing his financial advising firm. Around the same time, he decided to start making passive income by buying rental properties in town. It started with one small house, then two, then an apartment building in their hometown. He was so busy that he often worked from home at nights. He renovated their basement to become his home office. He even put in a king size bed.
Danielle
I didn't understand why you would need a bed in your office, but he insisted on having it. And his reasons were that if he needed a nap, he could just hop into bed and take a quick nap and then get back to work.
Andrea Gunning
It bothered her, him staying up late like this and sleeping in his office. It also bothered her that he locked the door. He said it was a security measure because he had important financial documents in there.
Danielle
And in the back of my mind I'm thinking, well how do you work at night? If you are a financial advisor, you can't meet with clients at night. So it was just very confusing to me. And I do remember one time just crying my eyes out to him saying I really want you to sleep with me. You know, at night I just feel closer to you when we're sleeping together. I feel like we're more like roommates.
Andrea Gunning
He started coming to bed with her until she fell asleep Then he would slip out and go back to work. She would only realize it when she woke up and found him gone.
Danielle
One night, I actually got up out of bed and was knocking on his basement door, and I heard no answer. And so I actually got in the car and was driving around thinking maybe I would see his car somewhere. I never did. But it got to that point where I was, like, starting to look to see if I could find anything.
Andrea Gunning
She never found any proof that her husband was cheating or having an affair. She didn't have the energy to start a fight with him. He insisted on sleeping in the basement. Eventually, she became resigned to the fact she couldn't change his mind.
Danielle
At that point in our marriage, I felt very distant from him. Like, I felt like there was a wall up and we never would discuss anything. If I ever wanted to talk about anything, it was always, I'm too tired, or, can we talk about this tomorrow? Or, let's talk about this this weekend. But nothing ever got talked about.
Andrea Gunning
In this period where Chad was sleeping in the basement office and they were bickering. Danielle knew that their marriage needed to improve, so she sought help for herself.
Danielle
I actually went and saw a counselor a couple times on my own because I felt like me having these issues with our marriage was kind of my fault. I felt like there was something wrong with me not feeling close to him. But I wanted our marriage to be a really good marriage, and I didn't feel that it was a good marriage.
Andrea Gunning
She even suggested they try counseling again as a couple. But this time, Chad resisted.
Danielle
He refused to go to more than one or two sessions with me. He felt like it was useless or he didn't want to tell somebody else our problems.
Andrea Gunning
With each passing month, Chad spent more and more time out of the house, renovating the rental properties. And some nights, tenants would call with emergencies.
Danielle
There would be nights where he would say, oh, I gotta go. There's a sewage leak. I have to go really quick and fix the sewage leak.
Andrea Gunning
Despite their rocky few years, she still trusted him. She had to.
Danielle
You can't have a marriage without trust. It doesn't work. You know, if one of the partners say, I'm gonna go do this outside the home. You have to trust that they're actually doing what they're saying they're doing. Like, if I say I'm gonna go shopping, he has to trust that I'm actually shopping. If he says, I'm gonna go to, you know, fix the sewerage system in his apartments, I have to trust that he's actually Doing that, otherwise there's no relationship.
Andrea Gunning
Plus, the rental properties added financial security to their lives. She believed that at the end of the day, he was working so hard in order to provide for the family. She often overheard him practicing conversations he needed to have for work.
Danielle
He had this weird quirk where if he was going to have a conversation with somebody, he would write down the conversation that he was going to have and then memorize it. And then I would often see him, like, pacing and doing weird things with his hands and with his mouth. I think he was, like, rehearsing in his mind how the conversation would go and what he would say in response to their responses.
Andrea Gunning
There was one big meeting in particular Chad was preparing for. It was with an older couple that went to their church, a couple that taught Sunday school. They had known Chad for nearly his whole life, and they were wealthy. Chad set up a meeting with them to pitch his financial advising services.
Danielle
He was trying really hard to get them to be one of his clients.
Andrea Gunning
In the end, they decided not to use him. He was dejected. He'd been counting on their business. After that meeting didn't go as planned. He started talking about selling his financial advising business and instead getting into the storage industry.
Danielle
There's a little plot of land that would be perfect for storage units. So he had said that, you know, we're going to buy this land over here, and I'm going to start building storage units. And so we need to set up this llc.
Andrea Gunning
He wanted Danielle to sign paperwork to help set up the business.
Danielle
If we have you as the president, then it's better for taxes because you're a woman.
Andrea Gunning
He asked her to go to the bank with him that day to get it set up. And there, out in public, she noticed that her husband looked disheveled.
Danielle
He was not bathed. He didn't shave. I was surprised that he went to the bank in the state that he was in. I just thought, well, he must be so tired. He's trying to sell his financial business, and he's trying to get these storage units ready. And he's not getting much sleep, so he just must be really stressed out.
Andrea Gunning
Later that day, one of Dhonielle's kids, he said that last night he'd seen something strange in the driveway of their house.
Danielle
One of my children said that he got up and saw his dad dressed all in black. And he said that it seemed like Chad was mad at him because he yelled at him to go back to bed.
Andrea Gunning
This was alarming because another one of her kids had confessed something bizarre the.
Danielle
Night before that he had actually told my oldest child to rack a sledgehammer that we had that had a really bright yellow handle and black electric tape and find a black raincoat for him. And she was like, okay, dad.
Andrea Gunning
Immediately, she tried to get in touch with Chad, but he wasn't answering his phone. After they went to the bank, he'd left the house to work on a rental property.
Danielle
There were several rental places that he owned that he was either renovating or was currently renting. I texted him asking if he could call me as soon as possible. I was starting to feel like, okay, what's going on? I hope he's okay. I hope he's not in an accident. He called shortly after and explained that he had accidentally fallen asleep at the rental and that he was still feeling a little disoriented, but reassured me that he was fine.
Andrea Gunning
If it sounds like Danielle is reading off of a piece of paper, it's because she is. She's reading from a written statement documenting this day.
Danielle
Nothing is as it seems. Absolutely nothing. This is my living nightmare and what I can remember that has happened in the last few days. At 4:22pm, I texted him asking if he was okay. No response. I Texted again at 5:06pm and his response was, yep, you. I told him I was just wondering what happened. And he texted, what do you mean? And then around 5:30, he called and said he was sorry he didn't see my text and that he must have been in the basement and hadn't gotten it right away.
Andrea Gunning
That night, Chad didn't come home for dinner. At the time, she assumed he'd fallen asleep at the rental property again. But she couldn't leave her six small children to go check on him. So around 11pm, after putting the kids to bed, she went to sleep herself.
Danielle
Next thing I heard was banging and breaking glass and then yelling, state police. State police. Hands in the air. I came out of my bedroom with no glasses on, hands in the air, wondering if they were actually police because I can't see very far. I can only see about a foot in front of me without it being blurry. In my mind, I was thinking, well, either I'm being robbed and they're posing as state police, or something's happening and I have no idea why there's state police in my house with a gun pointed at me.
Andrea Gunning
It was becoming very clear very quickly. This was actually the state police and the FBI. There wasn't a mistake. They were looking for Chad and they were incredibly serious.
Danielle
They asked if anyone else was in the house and I said yes, just me and the kids. Assuming Chad was at the rental, my whole mouth got super dry. I could not hardly even talk. I asked them if I could go back into the bedroom to get some water because I kept water by my bed and they're like, no, you can't go anywhere. You have to stay right here. I wasn't even allowed to wake up my kids. They actually went and woke up all of my kids. They were asking if there was hiding places in the house and it threw me for a loop because I'm like, I mean my kids hide in little places when they play hide and seek.
Andrea Gunning
Then the police asked her about the elderly couple that went to their church, the ones Chad wanted as clients.
Danielle
Why are you asking me questions about them? And where is my husband?
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Danielle Oliver Chauvet woke up in the middle of the night on February 8, 2017, to find her house swarmed with police and FBI agents.
Danielle
Something's happening and I have no idea why. There's state police in my house with a gun pointed at me. So I think at that point they were suspecting me. They thought I was involved.
Andrea Gunning
But a suspect in what? Danielle would soon find out. Chan Skipper, her husband of nearly 20 years and the father of their six children, hadn't come home that night. He said he'd been renovating one of their rental properties. The police were screaming questions at her about where Chad was, asking if she had any hiding places in the house. And most confusing of all, the police were asking about an elderly couple who taught Sunday school at their church.
Danielle
Why are you asking me questions about them? And where is my husband?
Andrea Gunning
The police wouldn't give her any information about what was happening or why they were at her house. But it was clear that whatever it was, it was urgent. The police took her in and began a long interrogation.
Danielle
I went into the interrogation room and they started asking me questions. They asked me about this couple, and I was thinking, that's a weird question out of the blue. Why would you ask me specifically about these people? Yeah, we know them for sure. We've known them for a long time.
Andrea Gunning
They were also asking questions about the family's finding finances, questions Danielle just didn't have the answers to.
Danielle
I was shaking. I was just so confused. Like, why are you asking me this? All I was worried about was his safety, like if he was still alive. It didn't even dawn on me that it could be what it was.
Andrea Gunning
After hours of interrogation, the police let Danielle go. She went to a friend's house where her kids were waiting for. She repeatedly tried to get in touch with Chad without any reply. Then, first thing the next morning, her phone rang. It was Chad's father.
Danielle
She asked me, do you know where Chad is? And I said, no, do you? I said, I don't know anything. If you know anything, just tell me what's going on, because I need to know what's wrong with my husband on where he is. And his dad just said there was a rumor going around that this couple has been kidnapped. And the rumor is also that Chad did it. My brain was not registering. It was like, wait, what? No, that's impossible. This is Chad we're talking about. That rumor's wrong. And I was thinking, there's just no way that it's actually my husband. I know my husband would never do anything like this. That's not who he is.
Andrea Gunning
Unbeknownst to anyone, that couple from their church had been missing for three days. We're not saying their names because Danielle wants to respect their privacy. Before this, they were friends. And Danielle believes that their story is their family's to tell, just like her story is hers to tell. So for this episode, she's going to.
Danielle
Call them his victims. I had known them since I had met Chad. He had known them since the time he was born because they were part of his church. They were our Sunday school teachers. We would often go over to their house, and sometimes we would have, like, a pool party. Sometimes it would be a Bible study. So we knew them really well. They were amazing people.
Andrea Gunning
The day before police raided Danielle's house, a woman had walked into a bank and asked for a Cashier's check for $350,000 from her own savings account. Before the teller cut the check, the woman slipped her a note. She was being held for ransom. Her captor was waiting down the block with her husband in the trunk. If she didn't return to the car with the check, her kidnapper said he would kill her husband. She needed to walk out of that bank, check in hand, so they gave it to her and let her go. And as soon as she walked out of the door, the teller called the police. That call initiated a statewide search for the kidnapped couple and their captor. Immediately, it became the top story on the local news.
Danielle
It all started just before 5pm on Wednesday, when the sheriff's office received a call from first trust and savings bank in Albany.
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Andrea Gunning
The morning after the raid, Danielle was still in the dark about what was happening. She was reeling and desperately trying to get in touch with her husband. She didn't want to believe the wild theory that Chad could have kidnapped this elderly couple. That was until she saw his picture on the news.
Danielle
My whole world got flipped upside down at that moment when I saw his picture and the police update and what he had done.
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Developing story in whiteside county.
Investigators say they've never seen anything quite like it.
Andrea Gunning
A man accused of kidnapping a couple at gunpoint from Erie, Illinois, is facing four felony charges in connection to the kidnapping.
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Chad skipper handcuffed the couple to their bed and threatened to shoot them with.
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His gun if they didn't pay him $350,000.
Danielle
At that point, all I knew was that he abducted somebody. And that's where I just broke down and started crying my eyes out and fell to the floor and was just didn't know what to do.
Andrea Gunning
In that moment, she understood why the police woke her up in the middle of the night.
Danielle
When the police knocked down my door, asking if I had any hiding areas in the house, I'm sure they were looking for the people that he abducted. They were wanting to know if there was a place in that house where they could be hidden. As far as they know, I know where the kidnap victims are because I'm his wife. I mean, most people would assume that the wife would know, but I had no clue.
Andrea Gunning
Over the following days and weeks, Danielle discovered the full extent of her husband's horrifying crimes. This is what she learned.
Danielle
A couple days before the police knocked down my door. He must have gone to their home. I think that's what the sledgehammer was for, to break into their home. He had my daughter duct tape it with black duct tape so that the yellow handle wouldn't be seen in the dark. I heard that he had a voice changer and that he was all dressed in black. And I also heard that he broke into their home and sat in their kitchen for several hours before going upstairs to wake them.
Andrea Gunning
He just sat in their kitchen for hours in the middle of the night before he finally entered the bedroom where the elderly couple was sleeping.
Danielle
He tased the guy and threatened his wife and then said, where is your God now? And took them from their home forcibly. They didn't even have a chance to get Their clothes on. And I know that he had told them that it wasn't just him, like he threatened them, that it was like a group of people who were doing this.
Andrea Gunning
After the police showed up at the bank, they called in the FBI, who traced the cashier's check and found the couple's names and address. When they searched their home, they discovered signs of forced entry, evidence of a deployed taser, and small drops of blood in the bedroom. But the house was eerily quiet. No one was home. In fact, by the time the police were alerted, no one had heard from the couple in three days.
Danielle
He had her call around and tell a false story about them deciding to go on vacation. I think he even took their car to the airport.
Andrea Gunning
While Chad was committing this elaborate crime, Danielle was at home taking care of their kids, going about her business just as usual, completely unaware that her husband had violently kidnapped their family friends and was holding them for ransom. But where was Chad? And where was he holding the couple? Danielle had no idea. When the police were finally alerted, they knew time was of the essence. They relied on the FBI and state police to use all resources possible to find the missing couple. Ransom kidnapping cases like this often end in tragedy, especially considering the money was already exchanged. They were running out of time. With each passing hour, the search grew increasingly urgent. Then the FBI got a tip about a car matching the description of the one seen leaving the bank with the kidnapped victims. A silver 1990 Chevy Caprice. But Danielle didn't know anything about a Chevy Caprice, so maybe they had the wrong guy. The police tracked the car down, but when they went to pull it over, the driver sped up. It was all over the local news.
Danielle
Around 4:30, 30am the car crashed here outside Port Byron.
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Danielle
That vehicle, and they took off at a high rate of speed.
Andrea Gunning
The police approached the crash vehicle and found that the driver was indeed Chad Skipper. He was injured but alive and arrested on the spot in connection with the kidnapping. Law enforcement was hoping to find the victims with Chad alive in the trunk of his car. But no one else was with him. Instead, the police found clear plastic painters, tarps, a saw, duct tape, and a shovel. Now that Chad was arrested, the only priority was finding the missing couple. There were still a few places the police hadn't searched Chad's rental properties. After he was arrested, Chad gave police the address where he said the couple was being held.
Danielle
When he was arrested, I thought that house was still rented. Like, I thought people were in the house renting it from us.
Andrea Gunning
When police showed up. It looked like a construction zone. The surfaces were covered in sawdust and power tools, the doors were taken off their hinges and there was a ladder in the middle of the living room, but it also looked like someone had been squatting there. There was trash everywhere, plates of half eaten food, electronic wires and cables dangled from the outlets. Police searched every room but no one seemed to be in the house. Then they double checked the bedroom where they took a closer look at a computer monitor laying on the floor. It appeared to show a surveillance feed. Six live feed images of a windowless room where two figures relying on a mattress covered by blankets on the wall next to them were hooks and shackles. There was a secret room somewhere in this house and Chad's victims were in.
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Andrea Gunning
The night of Chad's arrest, police began searching one of his rental properties for a secret room, a dungeon, where he was holding two people captive. From what they could see on the surveillance feed, it was a windowless room somewhere in the house. The couple was lying motionless on a mattress. It wasn't clear if they were alive. But then one of the FBI agents moved a dresser in the closet and lifted up a piece of carpeting to reveal a locked steel hatch.
Danielle
And the only entry and exit to that dungeon room was through a steel trap door with a lock on the outside in a closet hidden under a dresser or something. He walled it off with cement blocks and soundproofing. You would only know it was there if you knew it was there.
Andrea Gunning
Police used bolt cutters to open the door. They found an eight foot drop into a dark windowless room and they went in. That's where they discovered the couple miraculously still alive. They had been tortured and chained. Chad said he had people watching their kids and grandkids so if they tried to escape or get help, he would kill them.
Danielle
They were in that dungeon for a couple days. I can't even imagine thinking that you're going to die, thinking that your children are going to die hooked up on this thing, your hands up in the air for so many hours that you're basically shaking and can't even stand and having their kids and grandkids threatened.
Andrea Gunning
Once he got the money, he was planning to kill them.
Danielle
I mean, what's he going to do, go, oh, I'm going to let you go now. Forgive me, everything's fine. How else could it end and Judging.
Andrea Gunning
By the contents of his car, it seemed like he meant it. This what if still haunts Danielle. Chad was charged with felony home invasion, aggravated kidnapping, and unlawful restraint. His bail was set at a million dollars. Overnight, Danielle had to reckon with the fact that her husband of nearly two decades and the father of her children was capable of a violent crime. In addition to processing that shock, she didn't understand. Why was it all for the money?
Danielle
I didn't know that we were having financial trouble. I'm a penny pincher, so I don't know where all the money was going, and I don't know why he needed that.
Andrea Gunning
To answer that question, Danielle started looking through Chad's basement office. There, she made a series of shocking discoveries. First, why he targeted the people he did.
Danielle
He had gotten ahold of their finances and knew how much they had in the bank because he had asked them to be clients of his for his fake financial business.
Andrea Gunning
His fake financial business. She also found out that he was never actually a certified financial advisor or planner. So what did he do for a living? From what she gathered in his office, he charmed elderly people into letting him be their financial advisor, where he would skim from their accounts for years. In fact, after he was arrested, his own parents sued him for stealing over $400,000 while he claimed to serve as their financial advisor. But not only did he steal from his own parents, he also stole from from his grandmother.
Danielle
It was around that same amount, something like 300,000. Maybe he felt like he needed to steal that from his victims in order to repay the money that he had stolen from his grandma.
Andrea Gunning
He never confessed to this, but it added up for Danielle. What never made sense, though, was the construction of the dungeon.
Danielle
I found the plans and bills from it in his office.
Andrea Gunning
Chad had been hiring a contractor to build the dungeon piece by piece over the past two years.
Danielle
I can't even imagine how much that cost. It had have been thousands upon thousands, and I don't think the person who did it ever got paid honestly.
Andrea Gunning
The shocking fact that he'd built a dungeon to hold the kidnapping victims kept the story in the headline for months.
Danielle
In a News 8 exclusive tonight, investigative.
Andrea Gunning
Reporter Chris Minor shows us a photo.
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Of that actual room where it's believed.
Danielle
The couple was held against their will.
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Danielle never slept another night in the big house that she and Chad had shared with their kids.
Danielle
I did not want the kids to be back in the house knowing that he had done that, knowing that he was capable of kidnapping people that he'd known for his whole Life. I didn't want them back into that house and I didn't want to live in that house anymore.
Andrea Gunning
She and her kids moved into her parents home while she got her bearings. For the first few months after Chad's arrest, Danielle's dad would accompany her to the old house to continue excavating Chad's office. The police had already collected the evidence they needed, and she was left to clean up the rest.
Danielle
Every day that we went into his office, there was another thing. Oh, he lied about this next day. Oh, he lied about that too. I remember at one point we were both looking at each other on our way to the house thinking, I wonder what else we're going to find in his office today. What else could there be?
Andrea Gunning
There was insurance fraud.
Danielle
One of the things we found in his office was that he actually claimed that my wedding ring was lost and took insurance out for it. So even our wedding ring he lied about.
Andrea Gunning
There was credit card fraud.
Danielle
He had fraudulently signed credit cards in his dad's name. He'd gotten credit cards in my name. He had forged my name.
Andrea Gunning
She also found lies about herself, stories she'd never heard before.
Danielle
We found several papers that had conversations written down on them that had lies about me as far as, like, I had to go have a brain surgery in Minnesota or somewhere, just, you know, lies like that in order to gain control or gain sympathy from the people that he was talking to. There were just like conversations written down on a piece of paper. Some of them were to credit card companies because it was with credit card stuff. Some of it was to different potential clients that he was going to have.
Andrea Gunning
And some things she discovered were just.
Danielle
Suspicious hiking boots that he never wore, a wetsuit that was still wet and had a little bit of dirt on the cuff. And, you know, it's like he didn't ever go scuba diving. So why does he have a wetsuit? And where would he have used the wetsuit in the Mississippi River? You know, just strange things that we never found an answer to.
Andrea Gunning
One of the most haunting things she found in his office was a set of life insurance policies on everyone in their family, policies she never knew existed.
Danielle
He had life insurance policies out on me and the kids. I think mine was a million, and I think my kids were a quarter of a million each. It messes with your mind really hard. I never felt like I was threatened or my kids were threatened for our lives. It was only after his arrest and when we started going through the stuff in his office that I was like, whoa. If I had confronted him about any of this stuff. If I had known about it, I don't think I would be here.
Andrea Gunning
Danielle didn't want his explanations. She cooperated with the police and prosecutors and gave them any evidence they needed.
Danielle
One of the things that the police told me is that in all of their cases, they said they have never come across a case that was so cut and dried. With the amount of evidence for this guy, I was like, wow. And he thought he was so smart.
Andrea Gunning
She sent him one letter in jail where she said she would be praying for him but needed to cut off communication. After that, she filed for divorce. But letters from Chad never stopped coming. Every few weeks, there'd be that distinctive envelope in their mailbox.
Danielle
Every time I got a letter from him, my whole body would just. I would get sweaty palms, hard to breathe. But as soon as I saw that envelope, I'm like, not another one.
Andrea Gunning
She never replied, hoping his letters would finally stop coming. But one day she got a letter that was different from the others.
Danielle
On the outside of the envelope, it was not addressed as him. It was addressed as Eloisa May. And that threw me because I'm like, well, this is definitely a letter from that jail, But Eloisa May is kind of weird. I don't know in Eloisa May. And there was no like, return address. It was just the name. And so when I opened it and it wasn't in his writing either. I was thinking, okay, that's weird too. There's something off. The whole letter is written in this weird southern accent. I felt like I was reading Huckleberry Finn.
Andrea Gunning
This is how the letter began.
Danielle
Howdy there, missy. My name is Eloisa May. You don't know me, honey child. But maybe we can remedy that with this here letter.
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CT mobile.com While Chad sat in jail, Danielle was trying to rebuild her life. That's when she began to get strange letters in the mail. The return address just said the name Eloisa May. This is what the letters were about.
Danielle
It's this fake character who supposedly lives I think in Arkansas or something, but she moved to Illinois because her daughter is in Illinois. She had a stroke and so now she's in the hospital and she came across my story and she starts telling me how her husband was an alcoholic and at one point he physically abused her. And so she left him and went to live with his parents.
Andrea Gunning
Finally, Chad or Eloisa May got to.
Danielle
The point she ended up deciding to get a divorce because, you know, she didn't want to deal with his abusive addictive issues. He ended up killing himself. And because of her decision to get a divorce, her daughter and son are having issues in their lives and they take the blame for him dying. I felt like it was a threat. If you divorce me, I'm gonna kill myself and your kids are gonna feel like it was their fault. That's the feeling I got from the letter.
Andrea Gunning
The letters were four, five, six pages long, written in a tiny, neat handwriting that didn't look like Chad's at all. She assumed that either he was disguising his handwriting or got someone in the jail to write it for him while he dictated. Either way, the character Chad was putting on was so transparently manipulative, he didn't.
Danielle
Directly say, how can you divorce me? But through the character of Eloisa, May.
Andrea Gunning
Was basically saying that she suspects that he made the character Southern to try to pull on Danielle's heartstrings because her grandmother was from the South.
Danielle
A little bit later, he goes, I feel the good Lord telling me to do something, and I got a little eager. Danielle, sugar and may I declare, darlin'that, is one of the most beautiful and unique names I've ever heard. Something we have in common, sweetie.
Andrea Gunning
Chad also used his extensive knowledge of the Bible to try and make Dhonielle question her decisions.
Danielle
He basically has a sermon in there and quotes Bible passages about God hates divorce and gives me examples of different characters in the Bible who wanted to get a divorce but didn't because it's not the right thing to do.
Andrea Gunning
The Eloisa May letters almost amused her, but they also felt like an insult. Did he really think she would fall for this?
Danielle
I think he had a very, very low opinion of me, or still does. I struggled with that with my marriage too, because he treated me like a child.
Andrea Gunning
She kept the Eloisa May letters to remind herself of just how delusional and scheming Chad really was. A year after his arrest, Chad pled guilty. But before he faced a sentencing hearing for the kidnapping, they had their divorce trial.
Danielle
He actually did not have a lawyer to do those proceedings. He was pro se, and so he questioned me on the stand, which was really, really nerve wracking.
Andrea Gunning
Danielle was awarded full custody, and shortly after she attended her ex husband's sentencing hearing it started with the victim's statements.
Danielle
There were no dry eyes in that courtroom. They're amazing people.
Andrea Gunning
The judge was stunned by Chad's crime, especially the premeditation that had gone into building the dungeon and the torture the victims endured.
Danielle
From what the judge said when he sentenced him, he wanted people to know this is not acceptable in society. Like, it's heinous. You can't just do that type of a crime and get away with it.
Andrea Gunning
The judge gave Chad the maximum sentence possible today.
Danielle
Chad Skipper, in a packed courtroom, listened.
Andrea Gunning
As he awaited his jail sentence. 60 years. The rest of his life in prison.
Danielle
I was thinking he was only gonna get 20 years. And so when it was 60, I was surprised.
Andrea Gunning
Surprised, but grateful. She sees how dangerous Chad is and doesn't want him anywhere near her or their children ever again. She says she forgives him, but forgiveness can include boundaries.
Danielle
I have a big, big problem with some of the ways that Christian pastors portray forgiveness, that every marriage, 100% of marriages can be resolved. And I was like, that is very, very untrue and very, very dangerous to say if there's an abuse happening, that's not true.
Andrea Gunning
Danielle decided to stay in that small town of Erie, Illinois. Chad's victims still live there, too, and Danielle has seen them around town.
Danielle
I have seen them, yeah. I've seen them. I've seen their kids. You know, I smile at them when they see me. I don't know if they recognize me or not. I don't know if they see me when I see them. I really don't know.
Andrea Gunning
She's even thought about reaching out to apologize for the pain her husband caused and to grieve with them.
Danielle
I would love to talk to them directly. I haven't, because when I was speaking with my lawyer and also the police even said something about, don't reach out. And so I just kind of, like, took a step back. I don't even know what their thoughts are towards me, if they feel like I was part of it, or if they know that I had no idea what was going on. One of the reasons why I haven't reached out is because I really don't want to cause them more pain.
Andrea Gunning
Some people in their community just didn't believe that. Danielle was in the dark about her husband's double life when he first was arrested.
Danielle
There were some posts on Facebook about it. People were saying, oh, she knew, and.
Andrea Gunning
All that kind of stuff around town. She's noticed that people don't smile and wave as much as they used to.
Danielle
I haven't had anybody approach me and accuse me of anything. It's just, you know, when you're walking around in a small town, sometimes you get looks, just kind of a weird side look like, I know who you are. Don't look at me. Don't interact with me.
Andrea Gunning
She's had to reckon with blaming herself for not knowing who her husband actually was and what he was really doing. All those nights he claimed to be in the basement working, I couldn't have.
Danielle
Known he didn't show that part of himself to me. All I know is the life that he had with me and our kids. That's all I saw. He was able to do everything else completely separate. I can't blame myself for something that he did without me knowing.
Andrea Gunning
As part of her healing process, she's learned about people like Chad and the tactics they use. Tactics that felt very familiar when I.
Danielle
Was doing my studies of narcissistic behavior. One of the things that really spoke to me was a thing called word salad. And I totally was like, yep, that's exactly what it was. Just words that twist anything that I said. He would twist it around and jumbled up like a salad and then shoot it back at me. And my mind would just be like, I don't even know what's going on.
Andrea Gunning
These kinds of things helped her understand how he had subtly manipulated her for so long. But that didn't ease the self blame or the sense that she couldn't trust anyone around her or even herself.
Danielle
If my husband can pull the wool over my ass so easily and I thought that he was an amazing person, does that mean that this amazing person can also pull the wool over my eyes? Like, what are they actually behind closed doors, Are they the person that they are presenting to me as, you know, a loving brother, a loving friend? But then when we are not in each other's presence, are they somebody else? Like, okay, this pastor seems like he is everything that a pastor should be. But now that I've been through what I've been through, is he who he says he is, or is this just his presentation of who he says he is?
Andrea Gunning
For Dhonielle, trusting the wrong person, building a life with them, left her all alone and a single parent.
Danielle
All the weight of the responsibility is now mine. Because I know I had six kids and I had to support them. Now.
Andrea Gunning
She found work as an online English tutorial, and she built a business writing and selling knitting patterns.
Danielle
My business is called Knitting nicely, but then nicely spelled with a K in I'm really proud that I have a Business that I absolutely love and enjoy.
Andrea Gunning
After her divorce, she decided that she was done with romantic relationships.
Danielle
My whole view of the loving, caring relationship of marriage got trashed. Even when I would see couples in church or shopping holding hands, or I would see a post about somebody celebrating an anniversary, it would kind of turn my stomach. It just felt ew to me because of what I went through. You know, having trust in someone and then having that trust completely destroyed. I didn't want to go through what I went through again. I didn't want to put my kids through. Through that again. So for me, I was like, okay, I am going to do this single mom thing, and we're going to make it. But then.
Andrea Gunning
But then she saw a post on Facebook from her high school boyfriend Billy, the one who proposed to her 30 years ago. They'd since drifted apart and hadn't talked in nearly a decade. But in his post, she saw that his fiance had recently passed away, so she reached out to lend support.
Danielle
We were just, like, being there for each other, you know, I kind of wanted to uplift him and make him come out of the hole that I felt like he was about to go into, just to have somebody to talk to, to be able to laugh with. But then the conversations got longer, and then we ended up staying up all night talking over messenger. And my daughter was starting and say, who is this that you're talking to all this time? And I think she knew before I knew that I was starting to fall in love again.
Andrea Gunning
Danielle and Billy planned a FaceTime call where they would see each other for the first time in years.
Danielle
And as soon as I saw his smiling face, I knew that was. That was it. I was gonna pursue that relationship for sure. The trust issue was not even an issue in the situation, because I had known him from when I was a teenager. There wasn't that, is he really who he says he is? Question.
Andrea Gunning
So they started dating again.
Danielle
Both of us were like, this is weird. How could this actually be happening again? Donnie and Billy 2.0.
Andrea Gunning
After a few months of dating again, they got married surrounded by their families at the Thanksgiving table.
Danielle
So we had Thanksgiving dinner, and then between Thanksgiving dinner and dessert is when the wedding happened. Yeah, it was really cool. I loved it. Wouldn't have it any other way.
Andrea Gunning
We end all of our weekly episodes with the same question. Why did you want to tell your story?
Danielle
Knowing that you're not alone is so helpful. That's huge for people who gone through stuff like that. That was one of the main things that helped me knowing that people have actually survived it and are happy again. That was really huge. My main reason for wanting to tell my story is to give people hope that even though you may feel like your world is upside down and it can never become upside up again, there is a light at the tunnel. Maybe really tiny and small might be a little tiny speck, but there is a light.
Andrea Gunning
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Betrayal: Weekly – Episode: RE-RELEASE: Donielle Pt. 1 & Pt. 2
Introduction
In this re-release episode of Betrayal: Weekly, host Andrea Gunning delves into the harrowing yet inspiring story of Danielle Oliver Chauvet. Originally aired in two parts, this episode combines both segments to provide listeners with Danielle's comprehensive journey from marriage bliss to unimaginable betrayal and her subsequent path to healing and resilience.
Background and Marriage Bliss
Danielle grew up in a tight-knit family in California, where trust and faith were foundational values. Her parents' respectful and happy marriage served as her role models, fostering her trusting and easygoing nature.
Danielle (04:46): "Family is very important to me. We were just over at my parents, all of my siblings, and we all just get along really well."
In high school, Danielle was popular and engaged in a promising relationship with her boyfriend, Billy. Their bond seemed unbreakable until circumstances led Danielle to move to Hawaii due to her father's military job. She later pursued her education in Illinois, where she met Chad Rutherford at a Bible study group.
Danielle (06:41): "He was raising his hand and answering the questions like right away. And he was answering the way I would have answered those questions, right in line with the way I believed."
Their relationship blossomed rapidly, leading to a grandiose marriage proposal orchestrated by Chad during a dinner theater performance. Danielle was immediately convinced that Chad was the one she wanted to spend her life with.
Danielle (09:07): "I was 100%, this is the one that I'm gonna spend the rest of my life with."
After their marriage, they moved to Chad's hometown of Erie, Illinois, a small community where Chad was well-regarded. They were active members of their church, leading Sunday school and immersing themselves in community life. Danielle embraced her role as a stay-at-home mom, homeschooling their six children and managing the household with diligence and creativity.
Emerging Red Flags and Initial Betrayals
Despite the seemingly perfect marriage, subtle signs of Chad's deceit began to surface. Danielle noticed unusual behavior, such as Chad working late from his basement office, maintaining a disheveled appearance, and citing various emergencies to explain his absences.
Danielle (12:32): "I had to move to Hawaii because my dad was working for the military and we moved there."
One alarming incident occurred during a family vacation when Chad disappeared in the middle of the night, citing an urgent task at Walmart. His vague explanations and mysterious actions started to erode Danielle's trust.
Danielle (23:04): "So I started being like, where did he go? There was no note as far as he left somewhere. He didn't leave a message on my phone. He was just gone."
Chad's evasiveness and lack of transparency led Danielle to seek counseling, both individually and as a couple. However, Chad resisted further counseling, claiming it was pointless, which deepened the emotional distance between them.
Danielle (17:13): "I didn't want the word divorce to come up in our marriage. Like when I made a commitment in our marriage at the wedding ceremony, my promise was a promise."
The Night of the Raid
On February 8, 2017, Danielle's life took a dramatic and terrifying turn. While preparing for a family dinner, police and FBI agents stormed her home, pointing guns at her as they searched for Chad. The authorities were investigating the kidnapping of an elderly couple from their church, a crime directly linked to Chad.
Danielle (43:22): "Something's happening and I have no idea why. There's state police in my house with a gun pointed at me."
Confused and fearful, Danielle was interrogated about the missing couple and questioned about any hiding places in her house. It became evident that Chad was the prime suspect in the abduction.
Unveiling the Betrayal
As the investigation unfolded, Danielle discovered the full extent of Chad's deceit. His basement office revealed a web of lies, including fraudulent financial practices. Chad was never a certified financial advisor; instead, he had been embezzling funds from elderly clients, including his own parents and grandmother.
Danielle (61:06): "He charmed elderly people into letting him be their financial advisor, where he would skim from their accounts for years."
The most shocking revelation was the construction of a secret dungeon in one of Chad's rental properties. This hidden room was meticulously designed to hold captives, equipped with steel trapdoors, soundproofing, and restraints.
Danielle (58:26): "The only entry and exit to that dungeon room was through a steel trap door with a lock on the outside in a closet hidden under a dresser or something."
Chad's meticulous planning and the discovery of his dark side left Danielle grappling with betrayal and disbelief.
Chad's Arrest and Aftermath
Chad's arrest came after a high-speed chase ended in a crash. Police found him injured behind the wheel of a stolen Chevrolet Caprice. Despite hopes of finding the victims alive in the trunk, only Chad was apprehended. Upon returning to one of his rental properties, police uncovered the secret room and rescued the kidnapped couple, who had endured days of torture and restraint.
Danielle (50:57): "From what the judge said when he sentenced him, he wanted people to know this is not acceptable in society. Like, it's heinous. You can't just do that type of a crime and get away with it."
Chad was charged with felony home invasion, aggravated kidnapping, and unlawful restraint, receiving a life sentence without the possibility of parole.
Healing and Moving Forward
In the aftermath, Danielle faced the daunting task of rebuilding her life as a single mother to six children. She confronted feelings of self-blame and struggled with trust issues, both in herself and others. Through therapy and personal resilience, Danielle began to understand the manipulative tactics Chad employed, such as gaslighting and creating confusion to maintain control.
Danielle (78:22): "If my husband can pull the wool over my ass so easily and I thought that he was an amazing person, does that mean that this amazing person can also pull the wool over my eyes?"
Danielle found solace in her faith and entrepreneurial spirit, starting a business selling knitting patterns and working as an online English tutor. Her journey towards healing also led her to reconnect with her high school boyfriend, Billy. Their rekindled relationship provided Danielle with a renewed sense of hope and trust.
Danielle (82:35): "We were just, like, being there for each other, you know, I kind of wanted to uplift him and make him come out of the hole that I felt like he was about to go into."
Their unconventional wedding ceremony, held between Thanksgiving dinner and dessert, symbolized rejuvenation and the triumph of love and trust over betrayal.
Danielle (67:14): "If you would like to reach out to the Betrayal team or want to tell us your Betrayal story, email us@betrayalpodmail.com that's betrayal p o-mail.com we're grateful for your support."
Key Takeaways and Insights
Trust as a Foundation: Danielle's story underscores the fragility of trust and how easily it can be shattered by those we hold dear. Trust is the invisible force that holds relationships together, and its betrayal can lead to profound emotional devastation.
Signs of Manipulation: Chad's subtle manipulations, such as gaslighting and creating unnecessary conflicts, highlight common tactics used by individuals with narcissistic tendencies to maintain control and hide their true selves.
Resilience and Healing: Despite the immense betrayal, Danielle's journey demonstrates the power of resilience, support systems, and personal strength in overcoming trauma and rebuilding one's life.
Seeking Help: Danielle's decision to pursue counseling, even when met with resistance, emphasizes the importance of seeking professional help when navigating marital challenges and personal trauma.
Forgiveness and Boundaries: Her ability to forgive Chad while establishing boundaries showcases a healthy approach to moving forward without enabling or re-engaging with past abusers.
Empowerment Through Storytelling: By sharing her story, Danielle provides hope and inspiration to others facing similar betrayals, highlighting that recovery and happiness are possible even after profound personal upheaval.
Notable Quotes with Timestamps
Danielle (04:46): "Family is very important to me. We were just over at my parents, all of my siblings, and we all just get along really well."
Danielle (09:07): "I was 100%, this is the one that I'm gonna spend the rest of my life with."
Danielle (17:13): "I didn't want the word divorce to come up in our marriage. Like when I made a commitment in our marriage at the wedding ceremony, my promise was a promise."
Danielle (23:04): "So I started being like, where did he go? There was no note as far as he left somewhere. He didn't leave a message on my phone. He was just gone."
Danielle (35:28): "If we have you as the president, then it's better for taxes because you're a woman."
Danielle (43:22): "Something's happening and I have no idea why. There's state police in my house with a gun pointed at me."
Danielle (61:06): "He charmed elderly people into letting him be their financial advisor, where he would skim from their accounts for years."
Danielle (78:22): "If my husband can pull the wool over my ass so easily and I thought that he was an amazing person, does that mean that this amazing person can also pull the wool over my eyes?"
Danielle (82:35): "We were just, like, being there for each other, you know, I kind of wanted to uplift him and make him come out of the hole that I felt like he was about to go into."
Danielle (83:10): "Knowing that you're not alone is so helpful. That's huge for people who gone through stuff like that."
Conclusion
Danielle Oliver Chauvet's story is a powerful testament to the enduring strength of the human spirit in the face of deep betrayal. Through her unwavering faith, resilience, and the support of her loved ones, Danielle not only survived but also found love and happiness again. Her narrative serves as both a cautionary tale and a beacon of hope, illustrating that even after experiencing profound deceit and manipulation, it is possible to rebuild one's life and trust in others.
If you or someone you know has experienced similar hardships, Danielle's story underscores the importance of seeking support, trusting your instincts, and believing in the possibility of healing and renewal.
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Credits
Produced by Glass Podcasts in partnership with iHeart Podcasts. Executive Producers: Nancy Glass and Jennifer Faison. Hosted and Produced by Andrea Gunning. Written and Produced by Monique Laborde and Ben Federman. Associate Producers: Kristen Melchiori and Caitlin Golden. Audio Editing and Mixing by Matt D'Alvecchio with additional support from Nico Aruka. Theme composed by Oliver Baines. Music Library provided by Mib Music.
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