Dead Weight | EP 3 | Saskia's Story

Summary

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Betrayal Weekly: "Dead Weight" | EP 3 | Saskia's Story

Podcast: Betrayal Weekly
Host: Andrea Gunning
Episode Date: February 12, 2026

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Episode Overview

This harrowing episode of Betrayal Weekly centers on Saskia’s story—a devastating account of intimate betrayal and violation by her husband, Mike. The episode unravels Saskia's sudden discovery of her husband's secret life as a cam performer and the horrifying realization that she had been unknowingly filmed and broadcast in intimate situations. Through Saskia’s voice and those of her close friends, listeners are taken through the trauma, disbelief, and aftermath of discovering such a profound breach of trust, as well as the difficult path toward justice and safety.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Night of Discovery (02:07–04:14)

• Setting: Saskia wakes up in the middle of the night to see her husband’s laptop open, displaying a partially naked image.
• Saskia’s immediate confusion and grogginess, but somewhere deep down, she pushes herself to remember what she’s seeing, particularly the words "Chatterbait" and “1600 followers”.
• Quote:
  “I was so out of it. It was like I was in a dream. But I also knew this was really serious.” — Saskia (03:14)

2. The Morning After & Initial Confrontation (04:14–11:19)

• Saskia wakes filled with dread and petrification, pieces together the fragments of what she saw.
• She confides in her sister Marisa, who is confused and unable to grasp the situation but recognizes its gravity.
• First confrontation: When Mike returns home, Saskia secures his laptop, confronts him, and his reaction is alarmingly detached.
  • Quote:
    “I know things are over with us, but you can’t tell my work and you can’t tell my oldest daughter.” — Mike (08:52)
• Mike admits to performing on Chatterbait and that people pay him to view his sexual content. The emotional distance in his confession is chilling.
  • Quote:
    “He explained to me, see all these tokens? People pay me money to look at my stuff. Then I can use those tokens to look at other stuff.” — Saskia (11:07)

3. Realization and Immediate Danger (12:06–13:55)

• Saskia realizes the image on the screen is, in fact, her—captured while she slept, without her consent.
• Mike confirms this.
  • Quote:
    “I remember looking, and I saw a picture and I was like, that’s my underwear… Is that me? And he said yes, that's you.” — Saskia (12:12, 12:31)

4. Calling for Help & Rallying Support (18:13–19:39; 30:13–34:19)

• Saskia reaches out to her brother-in-law Ronnie for physical and emotional support, who, upon learning the truth, insists Mike leave the home.
• Friends (Heather, Megan, Colleen) mobilize quickly:
  • Heather receives a distraught call and realizes her earlier suspicions about Mike now make sense (30:28–31:35).
  • Megan and Colleen help Saskia navigate immediate safety concerns and validate her trauma.

5. Uncovering the Extent of the Betrayal (21:02–24:37)

• Together with Ronnie, Saskia uncovers dozens of images of herself naked, thumbnails from live streams Mike made without her knowledge.
• The horror deepens: Saskia realizes Mike had broadcasted her naked body to thousands while she was unconscious, for years.
  • Quote:
    “They were thumbnails of videos that had been livestreamed on Mike’s page. Mike had been videotaping her while she was completely undressed, broadcasting it to thousands of strangers on the Internet.” — Andrea Gunning (21:30–22:10)
• Mike begins deleting evidence in real-time; Saskia fears he will escape accountability.

6. Law Enforcement & Systemic Challenges (24:37–37:29)

• Saskia calls the police but is met with skepticism; only one thumbnail remains as evidence.
• Officers advise her to get a protective order and change the locks, rather than taking immediate investigative action.
  • Quote:
    “One police officer said, how do we know that these are his pictures? And made me feel like I was in the wrong.” — Saskia (24:37)
• Friends accompany Saskia to the local Family Justice Center but are told without more concrete video evidence, little can be done.
• Deep frustration and trauma erupt into a breakdown at the Justice Center.
  • Quote:
    “She let out this blood curdling scream and ran down the hall... She was just in shock, like, what is going on? I think the magnitude hit her at that moment.” — Colleen (37:03)

7. Evidence, Assault, and Truth (37:29–41:12)

• Megan takes matters into her own hands, searching online using Mike's username and finds thumbnail images, then 10-second video clips ripped from live streams.
• The content is devastating: the videos show beyond unwanted exposure—they reveal sexual assault while Saskia was unconscious.
  • Quote:
    “In these videos, she was being raped by her husband.” — Megan (40:29)
• Megan ensures Saskia does not see the videos but provides one as evidence to the authorities.
  • Quote:
    “She was just dead [in the videos]… dead weight.” — Megan (40:22)
• With actual video evidence, Saskia finally secures a protective order and pushes for justice.

8. The Road Ahead & Legal Obstacles (41:12–42:41)

• Anticipation of the legal battle: Mike’s likely defense will claim Saskia’s awareness and consent, despite overwhelming evidence to the contrary.
  • Quote:
    “This isn’t a case of did the sex happen... This is a question of did she agree to it or not.” — Andrea Gunning (41:48)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• The moment of realization:
  “I said, how could you do this to me? How could you show people my body? And he said, well, I guess I thought it was sexy.” — Saskia (17:31)

• Blame deflection and gaslighting:
  “I guess we’re both a little bit crazy.” — Mike (17:43)
  “No, no, no. I have mental health issues. You’re a predator and you’re a monster.” — Saskia (17:49)

• The extent of betrayal:
  “He was using me and I knew nothing about that.” — Saskia (19:21)

• On the aftermath:
  “I was terrified because I knew my life would never be the same.” — Saskia (23:19)

• On evidence and justice:
  “Nothing goes away on the Internet. Once it’s there, it’s there.” — Megan (37:57)
  “She was just dead... dead weight. And the footage revealed something else. In these videos, she was being raped by her husband.” — Megan (40:22; 40:29)

• The horrifying reality for viewers:
  “People in the chat, is she alive? Is she okay? People thought she was dead and they were watching it and paying for it.” — Megan (42:23–42:30)

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Key Timestamps

• 02:07 – Saskia’s first inkling something is terribly wrong
• 03:37 – Saskia notices “Chatterbait” and “1600 followers”
• 08:17 – First direct confrontation with Mike
• 11:19 – Mike nonchalantly describes being paid for sexual content
• 12:12 – 12:31 – Saskia realizes the image online is her
• 18:29 – Ronnie arrives, helping Saskia physically confront Mike
• 21:02 – Saskia finds dozens of images—her body, broadcast without consent
• 24:37 – Police dismissiveness and advice to “just” seek protective order
• 31:20–32:46 – Friends mobilize in a network of support
• 33:55–34:45 – Colleen and Megan coordinate to secure safety/legal help
• 37:57 – Megan searches the web for videos and evidence
• 40:29 – Detail that videos show actual assault
• 41:48 – Introduction to anticipated legal arguments around consent

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Episode Tone

Raw, emotional, deeply empathetic. The episode is guided by Saskia’s harrowing account—marked by confusion, terror, rage, and grief—and punctuated by the practical, determined responses of her support network. The hosts and contributors maintain a supportive and validating tone, honoring Saskia’s resilience while refusing to look away from the horror of what happened.

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Next Episode Preview

• The story will continue as Saskia’s legal battle unfolds. There is significant focus on the public’s response in chatrooms—viewers wondering live if Saskia is even alive.
  • Quote:
    “People in the chat, is she alive? Is she okay? People thought she was dead and they were watching it and paying for it.” — Megan (42:23–42:30)

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Resources

• For resources on sexual violence: RAINN.org
• National Sexual Assault Hotline: Text HOPE to 64673 or call 1-800-656-HOPE

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Summary prepared for Betrayal Weekly, Episode 3: “Dead Weight — Saskia’s Story.”

Transcript

[Andrea Gunning]

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[Saskia]

The open screen was facing me. I saw what looked like a mostly naked back and butt with some light blue underpants on.

[Andrea Gunning]

Mike was turned away from her. He didn't see that she had woken up. She blinked against the blur of the computer light, trying to get her eyes to focus.

[Saskia]

I was so out of it. It was like I was in a dream. But I also knew that this was really serious.

[Andrea Gunning]

She fought to keep her eyes open. Her meds were pulling her to sleep. But as her mind shut down, something within her whispered, remember this moment. Remember that screen.

[Saskia]

I don't know how I was able to do this, but I remember looking and I saw the name Chatterbait. And then I remember seeing 1600 followers. I didn't know what that meant, but I just knew. Just remember these things. These are significant. And I passed back out.

[Andrea Gunning]

I'm Andrea Gunning and this is betrayal. Season 5 Episode 3 Dead Weight the next time Saskia opened her eyes, it was morning. Sunday morning. The street outside was quiet and daylight streamed through the blinds. But as she lay in bed, she could feel panic rising in her chest.

[Saskia]

I woke up feeling so scared, like petrified.

[Andrea Gunning]

Her mind was flooded by that underwater feeling and her body felt heavy, as if she were unable to move. But those feelings were interrupted by the image of the person in their underwear and those words. Chatterbait. Sixteen hundred followers. She remembered. What did it all mean? And what was Mike doing on his laptop?

[Saskia]

I still didn't know what was happening and I don't know what he knows.

[Andrea Gunning]

She had no memory of whether Mike had turned around and caught her looking before she blacked out again. But that morning, Mike seemed normal. He came back in the room to

[Saskia]

get dressed and he was like, I'm going to get the kids.

[Andrea Gunning]

At this point, three kids of theirs were staying with them. Saskia's two children and Mike's younger daughter. They'd all spent the night at her sister Marisa's house nearby. For Mike, this was any other Sunday. He had to drop his younger daughter off at his ex wife's house about an hour away.

[Saskia]

I figured I would let him do that and then I would talk to him.

[Andrea Gunning]

Mike left to get the kids from Maurice's house. Before Saskia could even think, her fingers dialed her sister's number. Marisa remembers picking up the phone when

[Saskia]

I spoke to her first. She was not really with it yet. She was incoherent and she was trying to explain what she saw and she was distraught.

[Andrea Gunning]

Saskia was trying to relay information as quickly as she could and she was still in the fog of sleep. Marisa could barely understand her.

[Saskia]

I was like, what are you talking about? And she said something about chatterbait. And I remember her saying that for the first time and just not having a clue what she was talking about.

[Andrea Gunning]

She tried to get Saskia to slow down, to walk her through what had happened. But just then, Mike arrived to pick up the kids. They hung up the phone and she

[Saskia]

texted me, like, call me, call me when you can.

[Andrea Gunning]

Marisa didn't grasp what was going on. Neither did Saskia, really. What she did know was that Mike was doing something behind her back. And it involved something called chatterbait. Whatever that was, her gut told her this was bad.

[Saskia]

It was like right away she knew the significance. Her life was falling apart.

[Andrea Gunning]

While Mike drove his daughter home, Saskia tried to prepare herself for the confrontation. She had no idea what Mike had been doing online. She couldn't help but go to worst case scenarios.

[Saskia]

My mind was just starting to go everywhere. I actually thought that maybe he's not who he says he is. Maybe he's on the run. Or maybe he has a family somewhere else.

[Andrea Gunning]

The man she'd slept next to for seven years suddenly felt like a stranger. The more she thought about it, the more she realized she had no idea what Mike did. Every night after she took her sleeping meds, she was always out cold. In those hours, he could be anyone. When Mike walked in the door a couple hours later, she was ready. Not with a thought through plan of what to do or say. She was ready in her bones to confront him.

[Saskia]

I told him I needed to talk to him. I had his laptop and I put it under my pillow in the bed. And I was sitting on it so that he didn't know where it was and so that he couldn't try to take it. I told him what I had seen the night before. And immediately the mask came off. His face totally changed.

[Andrea Gunning]

And then, as if he was throwing his hands up, the first thing he

[Saskia]

said to me, I know things are over with us, but you can't tell my work and you can't tell my oldest daughter.

[Andrea Gunning]

Tell them what? She didn't recognize this mic. He Was calm as always. But behind his eyes, there was nothing. Suddenly, she was scared. So much so that she thought about calling the cops. But this might be her only chance to get answers from him. So she told him what he needed to hear.

[Saskia]

I said, I need you to tell me exactly what you're doing, and I'm not going to tell the police or your job or your daughter if you totally come clean and you tell me what has been going on. So he explained that for many years, he'd been using this website called Chatterbait.

[Andrea Gunning]

Chatterbait, he said, was a popular camming website. It's a place where everyday people perform sexual acts live on camera, and anyone can watch, comment or pay for private shows. Mike worked at a bank. He often traveled for work. Now, he admitted to Saskia that for the last seven years, whenever he'd go

[Saskia]

on these trips, every time he would be camming with women,

[Andrea Gunning]

he used the site to watch live streams and video chat with women directly. Was that what Saskia had seen last night? A private show? That woman, who was she?

[Saskia]

When I immediately said, how do you know these people? Is it the same people that you do it with? He said, sometimes. Then I said, like, are you in love with somebody? And he was like, what?

[Andrea Gunning]

Saskia thought Mike was playing dumb. There must be someone else. A woman he talked to after she went to bed. So she opened up Mike's computer. If he wasn't going to come out with the information, she'd look at the website herself. She found her way to Chatterbait and demanded that Mike log in and walk her through it.

[Saskia]

The way he was explaining to me was like explaining how to fold a fitted sheet or something. It was so detached from any emotion or any remorse.

[Andrea Gunning]

And what he was describing went far deeper than calls with other women.

[Saskia]

He explained to me, see all these tokens? People pay me money to look at my stuff, Then I can use those tokens to look at other stuff.

[Andrea Gunning]

Mike wasn't just watching other people cam. He was performing. People were paying him for sexual content.

[Saskia]

I was in shock. I was in disbelief. I felt like I was in the twilight Zone. I think that's where he hoped it would end.

[Andrea Gunning]

Instead, Saskia took control of the computer. She started scrolling through the website, trying to make sense of it all.

[Saskia]

I was still trying to just take information in.

[Andrea Gunning]

That's when she saw it. The image that made her blood run cold.

[Saskia]

I remember looking and I saw a picture and I was like, that's my underwear.

[Andrea Gunning]

The image she'd seen the night before on his computer screen was now right in front of her in focus and it was posted publicly under Mike's profile.

[Saskia]

I said is that me? And he said yes, that's you.

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[Andrea Gunning]

Saskia was scrolling on Mike's chatterbait account when she saw a still image of herself. It was a picture of her sleeping in their bed in her underwear. She stared at her husband, too shocked to speak. The woman she'd seen on his screen. It was her.

[Saskia]

He explained, I've been doing chatterbait for a long time. I didn't start using us into the last year or a couple of years.

[Andrea Gunning]

Using us. She'd never heard of Chatterbait. She never agreed to have her image published on the web. She never even knew this photo was taken. And by Mike, the man she trusted more than anyone.

[Saskia]

I said, how could you do this to me? How could you show people my body? And he said, well, I guess I thought it was sexy. I said, did you ever love me? And he just stayed silent. It was just no answer. He said, I guess we're both a little bit crazy. I said, no, no, no. I have mental health issues. You're a predator and you're a monster. We need to talk about what's going to happen. And when I said that, he started walking frenzied around the house he was beginning to panic.

[Andrea Gunning]

Saskia had the laptop. She knew Mike wouldn't leave without it. She needed to hold on to it. She also knew it wasn't safe to continue confronting Mike alone. Her mind went to Marisa, but her sister was busy with her kids. So Saskia called her brother in law,

[Saskia]

Ronnie, and I said, I really need you to come over, please.

[Andrea Gunning]

Ronnie couldn't be interviewed for this story. He passed away in 2022. Saskia remembers it was a relief to have Ronnie there. He was twice Mike's size. Mike wouldn't do anything with him around. Immediately, Ronnie tried to defuse the situation.

[Saskia]

He came over and he was like, what's going on, guys?

[Andrea Gunning]

But before Saskia could share what she'd just seen, Mike took control. He pulled Ronnie aside. He tried to explain, you know, guys

[Saskia]

look at porn, right?

[Andrea Gunning]

It seemed like Ronnie was buying Mike's story that this was no big deal. Saskia had to get him to understand the gravity of the situation. This wasn't about Mike looking at porn or even talking to other women.

[Saskia]

He was using me and I knew nothing about that.

[Andrea Gunning]

Mike posted a naked photo of her online. A photo from when she wasn't awake. As she spoke, she watched Ronnie realize this wasn't right. He understood he was on her side and he made it clear Mike needed to leave the house right away.

[Saskia]

Mike looked terrified. I said, what are you so upset about? What are you so scared of? Like you did this. And he said, I'm afraid of losing all this, like his stuff in his house.

[Andrea Gunning]

It was so strange and so unbelievable. Mike was already worrying about dividing up their things. He seemed sure their life together was over, all because of one photo. Sasuke just needed Mike out and eventually he agreed. Ronnie stayed by her side. As Mike began packing a bag.

[Saskia]

He said he would leave and go to a hotel. I said, you're not coming back here until I say it's okay. And if you do everything that I ask you to do, I won't call the police. He acted like he was leaving, but then he came back up the stairs and told me he needed the laptop twice. So the second time he did that, I actually did start to call the police and he ran out.

[Andrea Gunning]

Finally, Mike was gone. And as soon as he drove away, Saskia and Ronnie went back to the laptop. They had to know what else Mike was trying to hide on this website and if he'd posted any other photos of Saskia.

[Saskia]

We sat at my little kitchen island. Ronnie did a search and he said, you're not going to be Happy. And that's when I saw a ton of images.

[Andrea Gunning]

What she saw on Chatterbait, it wasn't just the one photo. It wasn't even 10 or 20 photos. There were dozens.

[Saskia]

They were all of me naked, without clothing.

[Andrea Gunning]

When she'd first seen the website that morning, she'd been groggy. Her sleeping meds were still wearing off, but it was the afternoon now she was more alert. And now she realized that the photos Mike had taken of her weren't really photos at all. They were thumbnails of videos. Videos that had been live streamed on Mike's page. The image she'd seen earlier. It was just a preview. A thumbnail showing one of Mike's past livestreams. The word 1600 followers now made sense. Mike had been videotaping her while she was completely undressed, broadcasting it to thousands of strangers on the Internet. And seeing these thumbnails on Mike's profile, she could tell he'd done this many, many times.

[Saskia]

You don't see my face in most of them, but you see his face. And just the look on that face was just so painful for me to see who he really was.

[Andrea Gunning]

After he went to sleep, he turned their bedroom into a set. She recognized her walls, her sheets. But looking at the body in those images, it was like seeing someone else. It was her underwear, her tattoos. And yet she had no memory of any of these videos being taken. All those nights she'd been knocked out, all those nights she thought she'd been sleeping soundly next to the man she loved. Her body was there in bed, living a nightmare.

[Saskia]

I was terrified because I knew my life would never be the same. I knew I would never be the same. I knew my family would never be the same. I was just terrified. Like, what am I going to find out?

[Andrea Gunning]

There was a video behind each of these images, but the videos had only been live. They weren't accessible anymore on the site. She wanted a fuller picture of what Mike was doing to her while he was streaming. Just as her brother in law was about to dig deeper to see if there was any way to access past

[Saskia]

streams, Ronnie couldn't get access anymore. He was like, oh, this stuff's not there.

[Andrea Gunning]

Suddenly, the thumbnails of Saskia, the only proof they had of what Mike had done, began disappearing from Chatterbait right before their eyes. Mike was deleting the evidence.

[Saskia]

And that's when I started freaking out, because I knew then he was going to try to get away with this.

[Andrea Gunning]

Within a matter of minutes, there was only one thumbnail remaining. But that wasn't going to stop her. Uploading nude videos of her had to be a crime and Mike needed to be held accountable.

[Saskia]

So I did call the police and two officers came and I showed them one of the pictures that was still there. One police officer said, how do we know that these are his pictures? And made me feel like I was in the wrong.

[Andrea Gunning]

Saskia didn't feel like the cops took her seriously. To them this was a routine domestic issue and the one picture wasn't enough to convince them otherwise. She pleaded with them, but they basically

[Saskia]

told me to file for a protective order and then to get the locks changed.

[Andrea Gunning]

So the police left and Saskia was at a loss. Then she felt her phone buzz. She looked at the screen and her stomach dropped. It was Mike. He texted her from his hotel.

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[Andrea Gunning]

Us, him and Saskia together. But so far as Saskia was concerned, he'd taken every one of those videos without her consent, without her being conscious. To her, this text was an admission of guilt. And that's when Saskia knew she didn't just want him out of her life, she wanted him behind bars.

[Saskia]

I wanted justice and I promised myself that I was going to do anything possible, anything necessary to try to get it.

[Andrea Gunning]

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[Andrea Gunning]

The day after discovering what Mike had been hiding, Saskia started calling her friends. Anyone who might be able to come and be with her as she navigated next steps. Her friend Heather was at work when she got the call.

[Saskia]

I answered the phone and it was the most horrible sorry, the most horrible scream and cry I've ever heard out of another person. And she could barely get the words out. I was just like, what's wrong? What's going on? She didn't even know how to put together what she had seen and what she had experienced.

[Andrea Gunning]

Saskia was still putting the pieces together about what Mike had done to her. It was difficult to process, let alone communicate to another person. But Saskia recounted the story as best she could of seeing these thumbnails on Mike's computer.

[Saskia]

As soon as she said the computer, my mind flashed back to what she had told me about the night before the wedding.

[Andrea Gunning]

Two years before, Saskia had told Heather about waking up to Mike on his laptop and seeing people on screen. But at the time, Heather and Saskia wrote it off. Now it was clear he was testing

[Saskia]

the waters that night before the wedding. If that was a testing of the waters and had not been something that

[Andrea Gunning]

he had done before, this was serious. She knew. If Mike had been using these kinds of sites since before the wedding, the thumbnails Saskia had seen were just a sample of what was to come. The day Saskia called her with this, Heather was dealing with an emergency at work. She couldn't leave.

[Saskia]

So I called Megan and I was like, megan, you have to go see what's going on with Saskia.

[Andrea Gunning]

Megan is another friend of Saskia's. At the time, Saskia and Megan were sisters in law. At the Halloween party the night before, Saskia had been drinking. And once again, she suddenly lost control. For Megan, it was a breaking point. She'd seen Saskia get like this one too many times.

[Megan]

I was like, I'm never speaking to her again. Tonight is the end of our friendship. We're done. I'm not going to make it awkward for our family, but I am not going to be her friend anymore.

[Andrea Gunning]

But when Megan got the call about what Mike had been doing, she drove straight to Saskia's house.

[Megan]

I forgot about everything in those moments because it didn't matter anymore. When someone needs help, I will jump right in and help.

[Andrea Gunning]

Meanwhile, Saskia was spreading the word about what Mike had done. She posted on Facebook and many people saw it, including her work friend, Colleen.

[Colleen]

I was at work and I Saw on Facebook, she posted something like, I need help. Mike turned off all of his social media profiles. This isn't a joke. And I was like, oh, my God.

[Andrea Gunning]

Colleen couldn't understand how this could be. Maybe Saskia had been hacked. Just to be sure, Colleen checked Mike's

[Colleen]

page and his profile was gone on Facebook. And I was like, oh, God, that's true. This is true.

[Andrea Gunning]

As a social worker at child protective services, Colleen had experience responding to crisis situations. She headed right to Saskia. When she arrived, Megan was there too. Finally, Saskia had people around to help her.

[Saskia]

I felt so grateful to them.

[Andrea Gunning]

Here's Colleen again.

[Colleen]

We went to the apartment and she came out and was crying and kind of screaming. And bit by bit, things came out.

[Andrea Gunning]

She told Megan and Colleen the full story, as much as she knew of it anyway. Megan could hear the weight of Mike's actions in Saskia's voice.

[Megan]

She just found out she was being violated by her husband. She was just beside herself, and I don't blame her. She was just a mess.

[Andrea Gunning]

Sasuke couldn't think. So Megan got to work in planning the best next step.

[Megan]

We needed to protect her from this man who is now a monster. I was like, we need to go to the courthouse right now and get a protective order.

[Andrea Gunning]

Before they could think about any kind of criminal investigation, they had to make sure Saskia was safe. Colleen agreed they should go get a protective order right away.

[Colleen]

People who've been found out or who are about to lose control are really dangerous. That's when you see people getting desperate and doing things, killing themselves, killing other people. That's the highest risk time period. So the first thing was to have immediate safety.

[Andrea Gunning]

So Megan, Colleen and Saskia drove to the Montgomery County Family Justice Center. It's a one stop shop for victims of intimate partner violence.

[Colleen]

The Family justice center in our jurisdiction does a really good job of being co located with sheriffs, with state's attorneys, connecting people with social workers and victim advocates in one location.

[Andrea Gunning]

The day is a blur for Saskia, but she remembers going with Megan and Colleen to meet with a social worker about getting the protective order. They all waited together in a small room.

[Saskia]

I had the laptop with me and someone came in and I started to tell them about what happened. And the lady said, there's probably nothing that we can do.

[Andrea Gunning]

Remember, Saskia only had the one thumbnail that was left on Chatterbait. All the others on Mike's page had been deleted, and the videos themselves were only shown live. They weren't accessible on Chatterbait. After they aired with only that one thumbnail. Saskia might be able to get a temporary protective order for a few days, but there wasn't enough evidence to secure a longer term protective order. Saskia thought Mike recorded the videos on this computer. Surely there would be copies of the video stored somewhere on the laptop. Megan recalls Saskia pleading with the authorities.

[Megan]

She was like, his computer has all the videos on it. And they were like, we can't do the computer without a search warrant. We can't get a search warrant without video evidence. We need video evidence. You have to produce videos.

[Andrea Gunning]

It was a catch 22. They were stuck.

[Saskia]

Of course. I was devastated and I completely lost it and started running around.

[Andrea Gunning]

Colleen went after her.

[Colleen]

She let out this blood curdling scream and ran down the hall and the family justice centers co located with the sheriffs just because of the high risk of domestic violence. And the sheriffs came sprinting. They didn't know what had happened. They just heard this scream and came sprinting down after her. She was just in shock, like, what is going on? I think the magnitude hit her at that moment.

[Saskia]

I just flipped out because of how wrong I knew it was and how traumatized I felt.

[Andrea Gunning]

While Colleen tried to calm Saskia down in the hall, Megan remained in the room with the social worker. She was determined to find evidence against Mike. Even though Chatterbait doesn't save the live videos and Micah deleted most of the evidence of prior streams, there had to be videos out there.

[Megan]

Nothing goes away on the Internet. Once it's there, it's there. So I just searched my phone because luckily, thank God, that idiot gave her his username.

[Andrea Gunning]

Saskia saw Mike's username earlier that morning. So Megan searched and searched. She found Mike's username listed on other porn sites. But she kept running into the same issue.

[Megan]

All I could get were pictures. So I saw that these videos did exist somewhere on the Internet. But the only things that I was getting were thumbnail pictures.

[Andrea Gunning]

Megan showed these additional images to the social worker, hoping that more photos would be enough to move ahead with the case.

[Megan]

She's like, that's not good enough. We need video. So I'm just like, okay, there's got to be video on here, like somewhere.

[Andrea Gunning]

So Megan continued to dig and she found even more photos of Saskia.

[Megan]

They were all over the Internet.

[Andrea Gunning]

On the one hand, finding this content was a good thing. With every image, she became more sure that they could prove this. On the other, these were photos that anyone could find. Her friend's image was blasted without her consent. Across pornography websites.

[Megan]

The amount of stuff I found online with her in was tragic.

[Andrea Gunning]

In our interview, Megan went on to share what she saw. And I'll just say this. These images exposed the most intimate parts of Saskia's body.

[Megan]

It was deep, dark, searching, like I searched for a long time. Luckily, there's a website that rips footage from live streams and from cams.

[Andrea Gunning]

Bots sometimes enter the streams and record them for exploitation on other sites and

[Megan]

they'll give you 10 second grabs of the videos so that you can pay for the full video. So I found those.

[Andrea Gunning]

She located four of these video previews. Megan's known Saskia since she was 5 years old. She's seen Saskia asleep, drunk, even blackout drunk. This was different.

[Megan]

She was just dead.

[Andrea Gunning]

Dead weight. And the footage revealed something else.

[Megan]

In these videos, she was being raped by her husband.

[Andrea Gunning]

Mike hadn't just been taking intimate photos and videos of Saskia. He'd been using the moments when she was knocked out to assault her. As Megan watched, she thought back to all those times Saskia was too tired to go to an event. Why it was so hard for her to get out of bed.

[Megan]

After seeing that, it made sense why she wasn't functioning. She wasn't getting good nights of sleep. She was being tortured.

[Andrea Gunning]

The videos were deeply disturbing and I

[Megan]

did not want her to see them.

[Andrea Gunning]

But they were also proof of what Mike had done. So often victims of intimate partner violence only have their own word. With these videos, Megan thought there was clear documentation of Mike's crimes. These were just 10 second clips, but she hoped they could get Saskia the protective order she needed to keep Mike away from her and for investigators to get a warrant for the computer. So Megan played one of the clips for the social worker and that was enough. Mike would later claim that Saskia willingly participated in chatterbait on many occasions. That she was not a victim, but an active participant in his online fantasy life. We know that's going to be their defense. This isn't a case of did the sex happen. That's not an issue. This is a question of did she agree to it or not. And that's always a hard question in any sex assault case where consent is the defense. On the next episode of betrayal, People

[Megan]

were paying to see this go down. People in the chat, is she alive?

[Andrea Gunning]

Is she okay?

[Megan]

People thought she was dead and they were watching it and paying for it.

[Andrea Gunning]

For resources on sexual violence, visit rainnn.org betrayal that's R A I N N.org you can also get free confidential 247 support through RAINN's National Sexual Assault Hotline. Just text HOPE to 64673 or call 1-800-656-HOPE you are not alone. If you would like to reach out to the Betrayal Team or want to tell us your story, email [e-mail] that is betrayalpodmail.com or follow us on Instagram etreyalpod. To access additional content and to connect with the Betrayal community. Join our [e-mail] we're grateful for your support. One way to show support is by subscribing to our show on Apple Podcasts. Don't forget to rate and review Betrayal. Five star reviews go a long way. A big thank you to all of our listeners. Betrayal is a production of Glass Podcasts, a division of Glass Entertainment Group in partnership with iHeart Podcasts. The show is executive produced by Nancy Glass and Jennifer Faison, hosted and produced by me, Andrea Gunning, written and produced by Kaitlyn Golden. Our supervising producer is Carrie Hartman. Our story editor is Monique Laborde. Also produced by Ben Fetterman. Associate producers are Olivia Hewitt and Leah Jablo Production management by Kristen Melchiori Additional support by Curry Richman. Our iHeart team is Ally Perry and Jessica Krynczyk. Voice acting by Steve Lelinsky Audio editing by Tanner Robbins with additional editing and mixing by Matt d'. Alvecchio. Special thanks to Saskia, her friends and family, and special thanks to Will Pearson and Carrie Lieberman. Betrayal's theme is composed by Oliver Baines Music Library provided by MyB Music and for more podcasts from iHeart, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts.

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