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Beyond Your Number
Hosted by Faith and Community · EN
You’re not just a type — you’re a whole story. Beyond Your Number is a conversational Enneagram podcast where Damon & Kelly explore real-life growth through personality. From relationships to team dynamics, we help you go deeper than the label. New episodes every Wednesday. Formerly EnneagramU.
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Enneagram Conflict Styles, How Each Type Reacts (1-9)
2w ago00:33:26Tap to summarizeWhy does the same disagreement feel completely different to a Type 8 versus a Type 9? Your Enneagram type shapes how you react.Damon and Kelly walk through the knee-jerk conflict response for all nine Enneagram types and what to do instead. Plus, the 20-minute rule for getting untriggered.Quick guide to each type's conflict response:Type 1: Criticizes others or themselves Type 2: Becomes overly helpful or manipulates Type 3: Spins the situation to avoid failure Type 4: Withdraws emotionally Type 5: Detaches and goes silent Type 6: Fires off endless questions Type 7: Escapes through distraction or humor Type 8: Intensifies and pushes harder Type 9: Avoids, numbs, or accommodatesWhat you will learn:The automatic conflict response baked into each type Why criticism, withdrawal, escape, or accommodation can damage relationships. How to pause and respond instead of react.Damon shares a moment where he told a room full of people "I am not where you all are" and why that one sentence worked better than silence or argument. Kelly explains how knowing your conflict response, and your team's, turns destructive arguments into constructive ones.Whether you are navigating a hard conversation at work, a disagreement with your spouse, or just trying to understand why your coworker shuts down while you want to push forward, this episode gives you a practical map.Mentioned in this episode: The Path Between Us by Suzanne StabileNew episodes every Wednesday.Follow us on Apple Podcasts and leave a review:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagramu/id1691530997Follow us on Spotify and leave a review:https://open.spotify.com/show/2kbIVeByJn4WDoN3kFlUId?si=65a99542c46a49fa
Transcribe →Enneagram Communication: What Each Type Needs to Slow Down
3w ago00:22:30Tap to summarizeHow do you communicate better through your Enneagram type? Each number has one habit to slow down. Here is the breakdown for Types 1 through 9.Kelly and Damon use James 1:19 (quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to become angry) as the lens for this episode, walking through one specific slow-down practice for each Enneagram type.What each type should slow down:Type 1: criticism. Notice the judgment and ask what is underneath it.Type 2: their yeses. Every yes is a no to something else.Type 3: everything. Rest is not optional, even when work feels energizing.Type 4: comparison. The envy cycle starts here.Type 5: hesitation. Share the insight before you have all of it.Type 6: fear. Process feelings on the way to worst-case scenario, not after.Type 7: reactivity. Borrow the gear before you buy it.Type 8: intensity. Even when you are right, the volume can lose the room.Type 9: agreement. Sure is not the same as actually agreeing.Kelly also shares a real-time story about slowing her 8 intensity during a credit card dispute, plus a shoutout to friends from a recent Enneagram and Communication workshop at Morning Glory Christian Counseling in Moberly, Missouri.If you have ever felt like your communication style works against you, this episode gives you one practical lever to pull, tailored to your number.New episodes every Wednesday.Opus 4.7AdaptiveFollow us on Apple Podcasts and leave a review:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagramu/id1691530997Follow us on Spotify and leave a review:https://open.spotify.com/show/2kbIVeByJn4WDoN3kFlUId?si=65a99542c46a49fa
Transcribe →Enneagram Types of Friends & Landman Characters
Apr 2900:29:52Tap to summarizeWhich Friends character shares your Enneagram type?Damon and Kelly walk through all 9 Enneagram types using characters from two beloved shows: the classic Friends and the Taylor Sheridan drama Landman.Friends gets the full treatment first. Monica the perfectionist 1, Rachel the image-driven 3, Phoebe the unique 4, Ross the wise 5, Chandler the loyal 6-wing-7, and Joey the joyful 7. Then they head to West Texas for Landman: attorney Rebecca Falcone, Angela and Tommy Norris, Monty Miller, Cooper, Ainsley, and engineer Dale Bradley.Along the way: why most TV characters reflect the unhealthy side of their number, Kelly's recent mission trip to Jamaica, and Damon's switch from ChatGPT to Claude.A fun, accessible way to learn the Enneagram through stories you already know.Follow us on Apple Podcasts and leave a review:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagramu/id1691530997Follow us on Spotify and leave a review:https://open.spotify.com/show/2kbIVeByJn4WDoN3kFlUId?si=65a99542c46a49fa
Transcribe →Enneagram TV Characters, What The Office Reveals About Personality
Apr 800:32:33Tap to summarizeWhat if your favorite TV characters can actually help you understand personality better? In this episode, Damon and Kelly have some fun using the Enneagram lens to type characters from The Office, Friends, Parks and Rec, and Landman. Along the way, they compare their own takes with AI’s guesses, debate a few tough calls, and talk about why certain casts feel so complete and memorable.You’ll hear how different Enneagram patterns show up on screen, why some characters are obvious and others are harder to pin down, and how wings, stress, and personality dynamics shape the way fictional people solve problems, create tension, and make us laugh.Follow us on Apple Podcasts and leave a review:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagramu/id1691530997Follow us on Spotify and leave a review:https://open.spotify.com/show/2kbIVeByJn4WDoN3kFlUId?si=65a99542c46a49fa
Transcribe →Enneagram Nature vs Nurture, How Each Type Develops and Why It Matters
Apr 100:38:00Tap to summarizeAre you born your Enneagram type, or does life shape it? In this episode, we finally stop trying to pick a side and walk through what both nature and nurture could look like for all nine types.Damon and Kelly break down how each type might show up from birth, how life experiences reinforce it, and the underlying “strategy” each type develops to feel loved, safe, or secure. If you’ve ever wondered why you are the way you are, or how much control you actually have to change, this conversation will help you connect the dots between your wiring and your story. Follow us on Apple Podcasts and leave a review:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagramu/id1691530997Follow us on Spotify and leave a review:https://open.spotify.com/show/2kbIVeByJn4WDoN3kFlUId?si=65a99542c46a49fa
Transcribe →Nature vs Nurture, Are You Born with Your Type or Does It Develop?
Mar 2500:34:32Tap to summarizeAre you born with your Enneagram type, or is your personality shaped by family, environment, and early experiences? In this episode, Damon and Kelly dig into the nature vs nurture question through the lens of the Enneagram, childhood temperament, birth order, attachment, and growth. You’ll hear why this question matters, what psychology and lived experience suggest, and why your story still matters even if parts of your personality were set early.Follow us on Apple Podcasts and leave a review:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagramu/id1691530997Follow us on Spotify and leave a review:https://open.spotify.com/show/2kbIVeByJn4WDoN3kFlUId?si=65a99542c46a49fa
Transcribe →Enneagram Growth Path, How Each Type Can Move Toward Health and Wholeness
Mar 1800:37:03Tap to summarizeWe’ve talked motivation, fear, and sabotage, and now Damon and Kelly bring the series in for a hopeful landing with real growth steps for every Enneagram type.You’ll hear what growth looks like for Types 1 through 9, from letting go of perfection, to asking directly for help, to resting without earning it, to staying present in discomfort, speaking up, and taking action. If you have ever wondered what real change actually looks like for your number, this episode gives you clear next steps you can start practicing right away.Follow us on Apple Podcasts and leave a review:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagramu/id1691530997Follow us on Spotify and leave a review:https://open.spotify.com/show/2kbIVeByJn4WDoN3kFlUId?si=65a99542c46a49fa
Transcribe →Enneagram Self-Sabotage, When Your Greatest Strength Becomes Your Biggest Problem
Mar 1100:34:08Tap to summarizeEvery Enneagram type has a strength that helps them shine, until it gets overused and starts causing damage. In this episode, Damon and Kelly unpack how each type’s greatest gift can quietly turn into a defense mechanism, and how to spot that shift before it hurts your relationships, leadership, or self-awareness.From Type 1’s integrity becoming criticism, to Type 9’s peace becoming disappearance, this episode walks through all nine types with practical examples and honest reflection. You’ll learn where each type’s strength crosses the line, what that feels like for the people around them, and how to notice when your “superpower” is starting to sabotage you.Follow us on Apple Podcasts and leave a review:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagramu/id1691530997Follow us on Spotify and leave a review:https://open.spotify.com/show/2kbIVeByJn4WDoN3kFlUId?si=65a99542c46a49fa
Transcribe →Enneagram Core Fears, Type 1–9 (What Each Type Avoids and How It Drives Behavior)
Mar 400:25:32Tap to summarizeOkay BYN friends, this one’s a little ominous, in a helpful way. Damon and Kelly walk through the core fear underneath each Enneagram type, and how fear becomes a “silent motivator” that can hijack your tone, your choices, and your relationships when you’re not paying attention.What you’ll learn in this episode:Why core fears often run the show subconsciously, especially under stressThe core fear for each type (1–9) and what it tends to look like in real lifeA simple awareness prompt to use this week: “Where am I noticing this fear driving me?”Core fears by type:Type 1: fear of being wrong (or corrupt)Type 2: fear of being unwanted (and abandoned)Type 3: fear of being worthless (or unseen)Type 4: fear of having no identity (being ordinary)Type 5: fear of depletion (energy, time, resources)Type 6: fear of being unsupported (leading to loyal-to-a-fault patterns)Type 7: fear of pain (leading to avoidance and distraction)Type 8: fear of being harmed (driving control and protective walls)Type 9: fear of conflict (driving self-forgetting and disconnection)Share this one with a friend, unless you’re a 9 and you’re afraid it’ll cause conflict. (Damon said it.)Follow us on Apple Podcasts and leave a review:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagramu/id1691530997Follow us on Spotify and leave a review:https://open.spotify.com/show/2kbIVeByJn4WDoN3kFlUId?si=65a99542c46a49fa
Transcribe →Enneagram Motivation Explained, Core Drivers for Types 1–9 (Approval, Security, Control)
Feb 2500:37:00Tap to summarizeMotivation is the “why” underneath what we do, and it’s one of the easiest Enneagram concepts to misunderstand. In this episode of Beyond Your Number, Damon and Kelly break down Enneagram motivation in a clear, practical way, starting with the three triads and then moving into how each type expresses its core driver.You’ll learn why the Heart Triad (2–4) is driven by approval/validation, the Head Triad (5–7) is driven by security, and the Gut Triad (8–1) is driven by control, agency, and autonomy, plus what each group tends to scan for in relationships and teams. They also share simple growth practices for each triad, including how to catch the negative bias that makes motivation sound “bad,” and how to notice the early signals (especially anger and fear) before they run the show.Follow us on Apple Podcasts and leave a review:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagramu/id1691530997Follow us on Spotify and leave a review:https://open.spotify.com/show/2kbIVeByJn4WDoN3kFlUId?si=65a99542c46a49fa
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