Ariel Winter Spills on Modern Family, New Movie “Pools” & Going Undercover to Catch Predators

Summary

BFFR with Sydney Leroux & Ali Riley

Episode Title: Ariel Winter Spills on Modern Family, New Movie "Pools" & Going Undercover to Catch Predators
Release Date: September 1, 2025

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EPISODE OVERVIEW

Professional soccer stars and best friends Sydney Leroux and Ali Riley bring their signature candor and humor to another episode of BFFR, blending unfiltered conversation about life on and off the field with celebrity guest banter. This week, they sit down with actress Ariel Winter, best known as Alex Dunphy from Modern Family. The wide-ranging conversation covers Ariel’s new indie film "Pools," her candid stories about growing up in the spotlight, her undercover work catching online predators, her life as a dog mom of six, and much more—sprinkled with laughter, vulnerability, and a few memorable rapid-fire confessions.

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HOST CATCH-UP & LISTENER LOVE (00:00–12:08)

Highs, Lows, and Life Updates

• Ali shares her emotional return to dressing for Angel City FC for the first time since her injury in April 2024, reflecting on the surreal feelings, supportive community, and her process through recovery.

  “It’s a privilege. And it’s something, again, I didn’t dare really hope I would get to do again. …I’ll never forget it.” —Ali (02:14)

• Sydney celebrates her niece’s gymnastics skills and recounts a wild Uber drop-off and scooter ride after getting traded, a moment fans hilariously captured in photos.
• The hosts delight in fan engagement, billboards, and legendary moments from previous episodes, especially the popularity of Sid’s cake recommendations and the infamous “soccer underwear” social media post.

  “I think people who, like, when you ask someone, hey, where’d you get that? And they’re like, ‘Oh, I can’t tell.’ I’m like, you’re a loser. No gatekeeping here.” —Sydney (09:50)

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INTRODUCING ARIEL WINTER (12:08–12:46)

• The hosts hype up Ariel’s multi-hyphenate talents—acting, producing, an Instagram-worthy cooking journey, and a dog mom to six—and tease her new indie flick "Pools".

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ARIEL WINTER INTERVIEW

On "Pools" and Not Being a Swimmer (12:50–14:52)

• Ariel reflects on filming "Pools," confessing her lack of swimming skills:

  “I can barely do it. Not good at flying, floating—like, doggy paddle? I don’t know who that is.” —Ariel (13:10)

• Humorous behind-the-scenes tales: Swimming in sandals, the cast’s collective poor aquatic prowess, and playful on-set shade.

Kissing Scenes & On-Screen Awkwardness (14:52–17:15)

• The actresses ask Ariel about the realities of kissing scenes:

  “If a person makes it awkward, but if you have a good friendship...It’s our job.” —Ariel (15:09)

• Ariel references Jennifer Lawrence’s trick of eating onions before love scenes, to general amusement.

Transition from Alex Dunphy to New Roles (17:32–19:36)

• Ariel shares her excitement to take on "authentic, age-appropriate" roles after years playing the younger, brainy Alex Dunphy:

  “I played Alex Dunphy for so long...but now I’m, like, ready to play my age and play the real life things that somebody my age is going through.” —Ariel (18:14)

Growing Up on Modern Family & the Cost of Fame (19:36–22:50)

• Candid discussion on the realities of child stardom:

  “They don’t see young people, like child actors...as children. So that was hard. I definitely don’t think I’d want my kid to do it.” —Ariel (20:10)

• The group bonds over challenges of being women in the public eye.

On Undercover Work with Sosa (22:50–28:15)

• Ariel describes her passion for working with Sosa, an organization catching online child predators.

  “It’s the work I’m most passionate about in my life, more than really anything.” —Ariel (24:36)

• She details the disturbing prevalence of predators online, why anonymity doesn’t protect kids, and why she feels compelled to act:

  “There’s no amount of love or attention or care you can give your kid where they aren’t a potential victim...because they’re online.” —Ariel (28:07)

Career Bucket List & Turning to Producing (28:45–29:58)

• Ariel is producing (including a cooking show), launching a new podcast, and going with the flow to pursue what excites her.

Life After Modern Family (29:58–32:21)

• Navigating public recognition (or anonymity), funny stories about being mistaken as “the girl with the big boobs” or literal family status, and maintaining close ties with castmate Nolan Gould (“that’s my brother”).

Voice Acting: Sofia the First (32:25–35:36)

• Ariel demonstrates her “Sofia the First” princess voice to the hosts’ delight:

  “Hi, I’m Sofia, and I’m so happy to be on the BFFR podcast.” —Ariel as Sofia (34:17)

• Insights into voiceover work and preserving the “Disney princess magic” for young fans.

Life as a Dog Mom (36:02–39:08)

• Ariel talks about her six dogs: three shepherd-pit mixes, a Samoyed, an Australian shepherd, and a terrier mix; costume traditions; and the challenges (and humor) of Halloween photoshoots with the pack.

Cooking Joys & Dream Dinner Menu (39:29–40:22)

• Ariel’s go-to dinner for guests is Greek food, especially Greek lemon chicken and a dish called Uvet (braised lamb), tailored to dietary preferences.

Rapid Fire Faves & Confessions (40:25–46:58)

• TV Binges: "Supernatural," "Law & Order," "Blacklist," "FBI"
• Favorite cocktail: “I love Fireball...I love a Fireball and a Coke. But I do love a Dirty Shirley as well.” (42:31)
• First concert: Jingle Ball (missed Bruno Mars!), discussed against hosts’ epic concert firsts—No Doubt, Destiny’s Child (43:26).
• Most used emoji: “The one with, like, the crying happy eyes.” (44:46)
• Celebrity crushes: Ariel—Ryan Phillipe; Sid—Jim Carrey ("He’s hilarious!”); Ali—Chad Michael Murray (“the plot is just Chad Michael Murray”); Michael B. Jordan gets a shout-out as current okay-to-crush pick.

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LISTENER QUESTIONS & BFFR ADVICE (48:10–54:46)

Buying a House with a Partner Before Marriage? (48:10–51:48)

• Anonymous listener worries about a friend house-hunting with her boyfriend after only a year.
• Syd: “No, you need to call her regardless of how she takes it...I don’t necessarily think a year is enough to be purchasing something so big.” (49:11)
• Ali shares her own pre-marriage contract advice: “It’s like a prenup before the prenup.” (51:13)

Anniversary Shout-Out (51:55–54:46)

• Listener Allie asks for a shout-out to wife Cynthia for their 9th anniversary.
• The hosts celebrate their fandom and love:

  “Thank you for supporting the league, us, the show, women’s sports. It means so much to us.” —Ali (52:54)

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MEMORABLE QUOTES

• “I just wanted to do something different. And I felt like it was different, but still a character that I could relate to.” —Ariel (19:01)
• “You can’t gatekeep cake or soccer underwear or anything else here.” —Sydney (09:50)
• “There’s no amount of love or attention or care you can give your kid where they aren’t a potential victim...because they’re online.” —Ariel (28:07)
• “Hi, I’m Sofia, and I’m so happy to be on the BFFR podcast.” —Ariel as Sofia (34:17)
• “If a person makes it awkward, but if you have, like, a good friendship...It’s our job.” —Ariel (15:09)

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NOTABLE TIMESTAMPS

• 00:00–03:43: Ali’s emotional Angel City FC comeback, listener and fan love
• 12:08–12:46: Ariel Winter introduction
• 13:10–14:52: "Pools" movie stories, confessing that she can’t swim
• 15:09–16:20: Filming on-screen kisses
• 19:36–22:50: Growing up on Modern Family—candor about child stardom
• 22:50–28:15: Sosa undercover predator-catching work
• 32:25–35:36: Sofia the First voice acting showcase
• 39:29–40:22: Favorite dishes and hosting dreams
• 42:31: Favorite cocktail—Fireball
• 48:10–51:48: Advice for a friend thinking about buying a house with a partner early on
• 51:55–54:46: Nine year anniversary shout-out to dedicated show listeners

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TONE & STYLE

Playful, deeply personal, and honest—with a warmth and humor that keeps the conversation flowing even as the topics turn serious. The BFFR vibe is always “real talk with friends”—with plenty of laughs, supportive energy, and generous advice.

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SUMMARY

This BFFR episode is a ride through friendship, fame, influence, and activism. Ariel Winter is engaging, vulnerable, and funny, seamlessly moving from tales of being a not-so-confident swimmer on a pool movie set, to the unglamorous parts of growing up in the limelight, to her undercover work bringing online predators to justice. Sydney and Ali provide their trademark support, empathy, and banter, creating a conversation that's as enlightening as it is entertaining.

Listeners are left with laughter, actionable advice, and admiration for the candid, multi-faceted Ariel—and for Sydney and Ali’s commitment to keeping things “BFFR” (be f***ing for real).

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Pools releases nationwide on September 5th—catch it for more of Ariel Winter’s work.

Be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss future episodes of candor, chaos, and fresh perspectives from Sydney, Ali, and their all-star guests.

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End of Summary

Transcript

[A]

Did you have a celebrity crush growing up?

[B]

I liked Ryan Phillipe. I watched Cruel Intentions, and so I was like, this is it.

[A]

Oh, he was. He was a babe. Who was?

[C]

He still is, actually. Yeah. Mine was Jim Carrey.

[B]

You know what I love? I love it for you.

[A]

Most of us were going, like, on looks alone, and that shows your depth of character.

[C]

It's like, actually, really, really. I did find him so hot in the message.

[B]

Can't.

[A]

Hello.

[B]

What?

[C]

Welcome to another episode of BFFR with Ally and Sid. Me and chicken.

[A]

Make sure you're following FFR show on all socials. Hit the subscribe button. Rate, review five stars.

[B]

And it's.

[A]

It's everywhere. We're everywhere now, guys. So wherever you get your podcasts, subscribe, please.

[C]

And don't forget to call us at 1-833-txt-BFFR 1-833-898-2337.

[A]

We are so excited about today's show. We have a very special guest joining us.

[C]

Very special. You know her as Alex Dunphy from Modern Family, but she's a little more grown up now.

[A]

Yeah. She's doing a million things. Acting, producing, cooking. And she has a new movie pools.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

Plus, of course, we had to get into Modern Family. And she has six dogs.

[C]

Six. Yeah.

[A]

I mean, it's hard enough with chicken. This big guy here.

[C]

So we have probably the biggest news ever. Ali is back with Angel City. She dressed for the first time since.

[A]

April 2024. A long time. She's back a long time. I didn't get on the field. I didn't get to play.

[C]

You put the jersey on.

[A]

Yes.

[C]

It counts.

[A]

Thank you. I couldn't have done it without Sid. Obviously. I've had a lot of support, but this was. Yeah. A moment that I didn't know would ever happen. And being there, just feeling the energy from on the field instead of high up in the player suite and getting to do the pregame huddle and just standing side by side with the girls. It's. Yeah. It's a privilege. And it's something that, again, I didn't dare really hope that I would get to do again. And I don't know if I. If I will get to do it again.

[C]

I did tell her, though.

[A]

She did. I know.

[C]

Every day. I tell her.

[A]

I said it every day and every episode. And I. I don't know if it will happen again. Obviously, we had some players leave. June. June, yeah. Had a small setback. So the squad will change again. And that's. That's life. That's how it Goes. So I knew I just had to make the most of that night. And I think I really did. Like, I think it, it. I feel like very at peace with what's happened with this injury and that night. I don't know, it's just made me feel really, really lucky and it's a milestone I didn't know that I would reach after getting off sei. So thank you to all of you who listen, who I got to see a couple days later at the season ticket member event for Angel City. Of course, everyone was asking about Sid, but was like, we understand she's a mom. And I was like, yes, she is.

[C]

She's busy.

[A]

But like, so many people I was telling Sid were coming up and saying that they listened to us and they love the show and yeah, just couldn't wait, obviously to hear about how that Orlando game night was and it was really, really special. So thank you. Sid said. And thank you to everyone who has written messages and, and DMS and hit the hotline to show me support. So, yeah, I'll never, I'll never forget it.

[C]

Amazing. It was amazing, but emotional.

[A]

Yes, very. Yes. I think I cried for.

[C]

I can always see her cry once the eyes start to. Well, I could see it in pictures. I could see guys, of course, before.

[A]

I got to the locker room, I had cried four times. Like from the Uber to taking the photos walking in. And then every staff member who came up to me and congratulated me, I cried again. And so I got to the locker room and the girls were like, ally already?

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

Really? And then I saw the jersey Meg Reed had gotten me. Flowers. Diana Kutaya also. Thank you. Shout out. I know she's listening. Gave me the most insane bouquet of flowers after the game. And yeah, I cried a lot. But then I was like, lock in. Like I might go in. We never know. Yeah, but it's okay that I didn't.

[C]

Yeah, I think it's like a really crazy thing to give your life to soccer and not know if you're ever going to play again. Yeah. So I feel you.

[A]

And then I was excited about my athleticism and how I was able to come back. And then I got to see my niece, Rue LaRue, killing it. I got videos. I mean, is this Dominique Dawes or what?

[C]

She's crushing.

[A]

She's a gymnast, guys. We know what she is.

[C]

All she does is cartwheels. And now one handed cartwheels. And I'm like, what's going on? You're athletic.

[A]

She's athletic.

[C]

She's Unreal. She loves it. I'm so excited. I'm putting her in twice a week at this point. And now Cashes is in, so.

[A]

Well, he can't have let her have her.

[C]

Of course not. Cash just has his own thing with boys. Um, and, you know, he's unreal with his flips and all of the things, so it'll be really fun to watch.

[A]

Yeah, no, she's fearless running up. I mean, the. The coach or whatever, like, talking to the other girl and then turns and Rue's already bouncing up onto this.

[C]

Ru is like, you're done now.

[A]

Yes, I'm coming.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

Oh, my gosh. Also, last week, a fan sent us a photo of the BFFR billboard. We haven't even seen it in person yet, but it was somewhere on the way to. BMO is on the way to the game. It's between the 10 and San Pedro Street. If you see that DM US, send us a pic.

[C]

Unreal.

[A]

We want to see it.

[C]

Unreal. We didn't even know we were that cool, but. Yeah, well, we did.

[A]

Well, we. And we like to see ourselves.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Yeah. No one likes to see themselves more than Sissy, though. We'll tell you. That's true.

[A]

She might be getting it from us.

[C]

Yeah, possibly. I spoke about, you know, my terrible Uber experience, about how I was dropped off when I first got traded here. I was dropped off in the Uber drop off parking lot and not where we're supposed to go when you're part of the team. And someone sent in a photo of that day as I was speeding along.

[A]

Her scooter.

[C]

On the scooter.

[A]

We have the photo. Thank you for your service.

[C]

I thank you.

[A]

I love it. Especially when it's throwback pictures of Sid.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

Whether it's after winning a international tournament or scootering to where the players are supposed to arrive. So, again, yeah, keep the photos coming.

[C]

And of course, of course I would take a photo. Photo.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

Even though I shouldn't have been there.

[A]

Yeah. There was, like, a little bit of fear behind your. Behind the smile in your eyes. Oh, my gosh. And we're catching up on all the things here. A lot of you liked the cakes recommendation. A lot of you also liked when Sid whipped the cake off her breast on the show.

[C]

No problem. No problem.

[A]

And M. Malius. Sorry if I butchered that. Asked, which cake do you recommend? There's so many types, I have no idea what I'm looking at yet. Very sure. You guys changed my life, so. Yeah, you're welcome.

[C]

Yeah, you're welcome.

[A]

How do you choose them?

[C]

Okay.

[A]

Choose them. Yeah, let's. Let's go.

[C]

Okay. So I have two types. I have the big one, and then I have the triangle one. Triangle one is like, for a bathing suit when you're around kids. Like, I always think about, you know, sometimes I'll wear a shirt, and I don't realize that the headlights are out. And I'm like, oh, my goodness, I'm going to school. And so, you know, you just got to pop them in. And, yeah, it's great. But I think, get it all, get them all, get it all. I have, like, two pairs because I'm scared if I lose one, but they're amazing. And I try to put everyone on.

[A]

Oh, my gosh. Oh, and also the soccer underwear.

[C]

Funny thing about the soccer underwear. I posted it, and one of my agents was like, did you just post this randomly? And I was like, yeah, because everyone wanted to know what underwear I was talking about. And he was like, deleted. And I need to talk to Amazon. And I was like, you need to get paid for this. It was free press. Daigon Die Dean Seamless Songs for Women no show. Don't be afraid to send me all the new colors.

[A]

Yeah, it's the one with, like, six photos of black songs. Like, yeah, we'll put it up here.

[C]

So, yeah, there's other colors, too. The pink one's super cute. Every kind of pink that you could imagine, but.

[A]

And, yeah, you're always going to share the goods.

[C]

I am. I think people who. Like when you ask someone, hey, where'd you get that? And they're like, oh, I can't tell. I'm like, you're a loser.

[A]

No gatekeeping here.

[C]

Like, what? Okay. It's ugly. Like, I don't want anything to do with it now.

[A]

I changed my mind.

[C]

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[A]

She's an award winning actress, you know, and love her as Alex Dunphy on one of my all time favorite shows. I still binge it Bev low and I. Oh God, we love this show, Modern Family. She's now starring in the new indie feature called Pools. She's on a cooking journey. Her Instagram posts are amazing. A dog, mom of six and just an all around badass. She is changing the game and she's really, really doing good work. She's going to tell us all about it. Please welcome Arielle Winter.

[B]

Hello. Hi. Hi.

[A]

Okay, well, Arielle, we have to start with your new movie, Pools. Obviously we got to have a little sneak peek of it because we are going to get to interview you. So we were lucky enough to have watched it and seen you in many, many pools. But what was that like? And yeah. Do you, do you really like swimming?

[B]

Yeah. So it was actually a lot of fun to do the movie. I had a great time with the cast and the crew. It was like such an interesting project and so different for me to do. I do have like a funny thing about the fact that I can't really swim. I definitely, I know that sounds like a little bit doing like a movie about pools and pool hopping. But yeah, I'm a bad swimmer. Like I can barely do it. Not good at flying, floating like doggy paddle. I don't know who that is. And Odessa, she is not an amazing swimmer either. And so like we struggled a little bit, maybe more than a little. And I did opt at One point to, like, swim in, like, my sandals. Because for some reason I was like, I don't want to run across or I don't want to run across the. The ground, like, without sandals. And they were like, okay, well, then to swim in the sandals. And I was like, yeah, yeah, that's fine. That's fine. Way harder on myself. It was a whole ordeal. And, like, I heard. I think it was. I think it was our stunt. Maybe it was this. I don't know, Somebody on our set was talking about us not being able to swim very well and, like, being, like, a little bit low key, shady about it. But you know what? Like, everything they were saying was so entirely accurate that, like, to the group. And I was like, you know what? Like, we can't even be pissed. Like, they were so right. They said that, like, why are we out here doing a movie when we don't even like water and we don't swim very well? And the answer is because we want to do the movie. And the movie looked so awesome, and we thought we were cooler at swimming than we actually were. So long story short, it was great and fun.

[C]

Amazing. Well, we did see a little kiss go on. And we're like, very. We have no idea.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

Can you tell us?

[A]

We don't know any actresses.

[C]

Can you tell us what it's like kissing somebody that is maybe not your partner?

[B]

You know, it's interesting. It's. It's definitely. It can be awkward, for sure. Like, if a person makes it awkward, but if you have, like, a good friendship with the person, if you, like, if they're cool and you're cool and you're like, all right, like, this is our job. I think there is, like, an unspoken thing, like, in our industry that, like, it's gonna happen. Like, you're gonna have kisses with people on set, on screen. You're gonna have, like, sex scenes.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

With people on screen.

[C]

Oh, my gosh.

[B]

It's gonna get weird. It's like. It's weird and awkward, but as long as I think you have, like, a feeling of safety with the person and, like, understanding that it's fake and you know that it's just, like, a friendship thing. And we're here for work like any other job except for, like, we're, like, touching faces and mouths. One small detail, you know, just like a small detail, then it's fine. Mason's a really, really cool person. He's really sweet, and we just laughed a lot about it. The fact that, like, you know, it's. We're like, making out underwater on screen, just, like, you know, in front of a room of people and, like, know that's just what we're doing.

[C]

So what happens when you get a bad kisser? Because I could imagine. Oh, it's tough.

[B]

You know, I'm. I'm one of those people where, like, I do. I'm not about to be like, damn, that was bad. Like, I'm definitely not about to shame like that, because I feel like the karma would come back on me.

[C]

And then you're like, maybe I'm the bad kisser.

[B]

Yes. Somebody. Like, if that karma came back on me, I think I would perish. One spot. I would perish. But, yeah, it's. Yeah. I once read something. I think it was like, Jennifer Lawrence said that she, like, ate a bunch of onions and garlic before going into a scene with somebody. And I was like, that is so diabolical. I, like, don't even know how to put that into words. I think I would be so upset, and I just don't know if I can do that to somebody. But you know what? I'm sure it was hilarious.

[C]

Yeah, you should try. You should try.

[A]

Yeah. Well, between the. Between the two of us, one of us really, really likes onions, so I could see Sid pulling that prank on somebody. If you ever find yourself in that situation.

[B]

I do love onions as well.

[A]

Well, Modern family, Obviously, we grew up to modern family, and Even though I'm 10 years older than you, but it is my mom and my favorite show, and I just. I couldn't believe that we were gonna have you on bffr. But from Alex Dunphy to Sophia the first, and being a V, where did Pools fit into kind of your resume and the roles you're used to playing? Because it felt really, really natural. Like, it felt like you got to be. Yeah. This young person having fun. Yeah. Going through things that young people go through. But it just felt like you were really, really thriving. But then I'm like, she's a good actress, so, I don't know. You felt like you were thriving as Alex Dunphy, too.

[B]

Thanks. I appreciate it. Yeah. I mean, I think that a lot of the characters that I've been fortunate enough to play have, like, had a lot of really great writing behind them. Like, the stories have been really interesting and felt very authentic, and the characters have felt very authentic in so many ways. And there have been things that I've been able to relate to in all these characters, and that makes it a lot easier to play them. You know, I might not relate to every Single thing. But I can also draw, like, from personal experiences of people I've met who might be similar to the characters, people I'm really close to. So I think. Think that helps. But I really wanted to play a different character than, like, the normal characters that I've played. And I played Alex Dunphy for so long, and Delaney was really different. And the movie was just. It just seemed fun. Like, it just seemed like a lot of fun. Like, a group of people that were my age at the time, because I was used to playing, you know, the daughter on Modern Family, and I was like, wait, but now I'm. I'm 21. Like, I'm. Or actually I was 23. So I was like, I'm. I'm, like, ready to play my age and play, you know, the real life things that, like, somebody my age is going through and be that, like, authentic vibe. So I just wanted to do something different. And I felt like it was different, but still a character that I could, like, relate to.

[C]

Yeah. What was it like, you know, growing up basically on Modern Family? You were on there for so long. What does that feel, Feel like? What is it like?

[B]

Oh, gosh. I mean, it's interesting. It's interesting to grow up on tv, I'd say, like, I had a great experience with the people that I worked with. I worked with a lot of really great people, and that was really lovely. I learned a lot of really great things. And, yeah, I had so many experiences outside of the show that were so, like, that were a lot that kind of, like, can cloud it in a way. So it's kind of hard to answer that because I just think it's complicated. But in a way, like, growing up on TV is definitely like, you gotta have thick skin for it because, like, they treat you like you're an adult. Like, they expect you to be an adult. And I get it. You know, it's a hard industry and it's long hours and they, you know, it's. It's a lot of work and they need you to show up and be ready. And I'm not saying this is exactly for Modern Family, because that wasn't, you know, it, but just in the public eye as well. Like, it's harsh. They don't see young people, like child actors and whatever, as children. They're kind of just like, you know, people on TV of any. Which doesn't matter. And so that was. That was. That was hard. I definitely don't think that I would want my kid to do it.

[C]

I feel that way too with our sport. Yeah, I feel that way, too. It's tough.

[A]

Yeah. Watching the show, you were just. Yeah. As a young person, you're so enraptured by the storyline and the cast, and when you're young, you don't realize that we weren't on social media at the time when this show was going on. And then now, as an adult, seeing what you and other people, public figures have gone through, what we, as athletes in the public eye go through when people really feel like they can say whatever the fuck they want on social media. And Sid and I, again, just when we heard the news that you would be willing to come onto bffr, I think we really identify with some of your experiences and are also really, really appreciative of how you have spoken up about it publicly, because that's not easy either. But you definitely have a fan in us and how you've been so real and even just sharing how you would feel about your own child. And Sid has talked a lot about what it's been like with her kids and with their athletic endeavors and just what we've experienced with the public eye. We really, really appreciate how honest you've been. It's not easy. You've been very, very vulnerable, and you're also using your platform to do a lot of good, which we also are big, big fans of. So tell us how the. The Sosa and going undercover, what that has been like for you. Talk about a completely different role as well from Alex Dunphy.

[B]

Yeah. I mean, thank you so much for. For saying that. I mean, I really, really appreciate it. It's. Yeah, it was an interesting thing that. I mean, we all have experienced and. And gone through, and, like, it's. It's so hard. So I. You know, to all of us, we've all made it through, and, like, yeah, it definitely shapes you and changes things. So, like, we all. We all made it through that. The Sosa stuff. That all started because I watched their first show that they had called Undercover Underage, and I was watching it, and I was like, wow. Like, I just, like, I admire them so much. Like, this group of women who is working with law enforcement and going undercover and, like, just doing, like, incredible work, real work. They're actually getting justice. They're not, like, going out and, like, catfishing. Well, I mean, you know, in a sense, but they're not going out and, like, shaming people publicly and then, like, going home and, like, getting views and, like, whatever. They're, like, working with law enforcement, and people are going to jail. Like, justice is served in a way. I know that sounds, like, corny to say, but, like, that is the.

[A]

No, it's so real.

[B]

And I just was like, wow. Like, I admire them so much. Like, I wish I could do that. And I messaged them and was like, hey, like, you know, if you whatever, want, like, a volunteer. So I talked to Rue back and forth for, like, a year. Rue's the founder of Sosa. I talked to her back and forth for, like, a year, and then finally she was like, hey, do you want to join us on an op? She was like, I don't usually do this. Want to join us? And I was like, I would love that you'd never ask. And I joined, and I was just allowed, Like, I just, like, watched and was able to, like, see what was going on. And I was only originally supposed to be there for, like, two days, and I ended up staying the whole time. And I canceled, like, a birthday party for it. I did, like, because I just was so. It moved me so much. And from that moment, I've worked with them ever since, and I've done multiple decoy operations, and I just, like, I've discovered it's the work I'm most passionate about in my life more than really anything. Like, I've just. I've been that kid so many times over and over again, and I have eight nieces, and, like, it's just something that I feel like is not as, like, dealt with as much as it should be. It's not talked about as much as it should be. And so for me, like, it just. I'm real passionate about it. So, yeah, that's how it came to.

[C]

Be going on the show. Did it make you realize that this is happening so much more than you ever thought?

[B]

Well, first, I want to say, just in case. Anyways, want to watch it? It's now called sosa undercover on YouTube. Undercover underage was old show, but now it's so YouTube for anybody if they want to.

[C]

Okay.

[B]

But I don't think I. I mean, yeah, in a way, like, I think I always was. My eyes were pretty open to, like, how much is going on, because I was that kid. But, like, I do think, in a sense, like, just the volume of people, men really, like. And I'm not saying that. I'm not picking one or the other. I'm just saying that, like, you know, and I've had somebody come at me and be like, why aren't you talking about women, too? And the only thing that I'm saying is that, like, you know, they hunt in different places is how I put it. It's different. Like, one is more personal and emotional, and the other one is immediate, instant gratification. And so what we see mostly in the short period of time we have for operations as men and the amount of time and the volume of men is absolutely insane. And they might not all meet, but they'll. The kid for their instinct, gratification. You know, they'll send the pictures. They'll be like. And it's just. It was so disheartening and disgusting to see, like, just how turned on they were by disgusting crowd. By being 10, 11, 12 years old. And how many were okay with that? It's not just like this, the. A couple that'll come and meet. It's like so many hundreds, thousands of thousands in cities that, like, you'll go to. And they don't look like a specific type of person. It's anybody. They could look like the most, like, normal, typical guy. They're young, they're old, they're middle, they're anybody. And so it's definitely. It sometimes makes you go, like, all right, is there, like, who do you trust? But I think at the end of the day, like, when I'm there, I don't think about that. I. Like, I have my job to do and that's it. But, yeah, I definitely think it's. It's eye opening, for sure. And I think people, when they watch it too, it's sometimes hard for them to. To watch it because they're like, I don't want to think about this. I don't want to think about the fact that it's so, like, common and everywhere and you'll never know until you know.

[C]

But it's important.

[B]

Important to know and, like, what your kids are doing and also that, like, you can't, like, there's no, like, amount of love or attention or care you can give your kid where they aren't a potential victim of this kind of abuse because they're online.

[C]

If they're online, anything can happen.

[B]

It's possible. So I. Yeah, it's. Yeah, it's important to me.

[C]

My gosh. Amazing.

[A]

Yeah. Well, you're very brave and thank you for bringing awareness to this. And obviously having you as. As part of that definitely amplifies the work that's being done by Sosa and by Rue. So that's. Wow, that's. It's heavy stuff.

[B]

I know. It kind of. It's. It's sometimes like. I know, like, it's like, heavy. I don't want to, like, bring down the vibe, but, like, no, no, no.

[C]

This is the real. This is.

[A]

Yeah, no, we're.

[B]

We agree, like.

[A]

Yeah, no. And thank you. Thank you for sharing. So clearly you have done so many things in different spaces. Is there anything left on your bucket list?

[B]

Oh, I mean, gosh, I'm sure that there's so much left that I want to do that I'm trying to do. You know, I have gotten into producing, and there's a couple different things that I'm producing once. A cooking show.

[C]

Yeah, we heard you like cooking.

[A]

Yes, I love it. Oh, my gosh.

[C]

Wow.

[B]

You know, like, I'm not. I'm not a chef or anything, and I'm Never fooled me. Like, but I. I just like to do it. It's relaxing, it's fun. I like feeding people. And, you know, it's like, I get a sense of accomplishment when I make a meal that I'm like, yes, people like it. I like it.

[C]

It's a love language.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Yes, I love it. Got that. I'm actually going to start a podcast with my friend, so I'm doing that, and I'm excited about that, too. I'm kind of just, like, going with the flow and seeing what's exciting and seeing what I have an interest in.

[A]

Well, you. You have grown up a lot since Modern Family wrapped, but do people come up to you and say, alex Dunphy, like, do you still talk with the cast? Obviously you. Your on screen brother help present an award. That was really, really cool to see. But how. Yeah, how is that kind of the post Modern Family life?

[B]

It's. It's definitely interesting because some places I go, I'll get recognized, like, everywhere. And some places it's, like, nowhere. And I'm not sure, like, it's one or the other. Sometimes I have a different hair color, and people will be like, no, that's not her. I've got recognized from just my voice, which is crazy to me. Like, just recognizing my voice. And that happened the other day, and I was like, really? And I asked them. I was like, like, you didn't even see me. It's like you just heard my voice and you. And they were like, yes, absolutely. Wow, that's crazy. But I think I was kind of lucky in the beginning because I didn't have the same, like, Persona outside of work as Alex Dunphy. Like, I think some of my castmates, it was like there wasn't as big of a difference. And so they'd go somewhere, and it was like they got Swarmed. I think I remember one time I was a little kid. Like, I. I think it was in the first season, so I would have been, like, 11 or 12. I got asked to take a picture of the whole cast, like, with, like, have somebody else be in it and me take the picture. And I just thought that was so funny because they were like, she's not in the cast. Like, she's just walking with them. And honestly, I thought that was pretty awesome. I like to go and, like, have, like, anonymity places. But, yeah, it's. It's definitely been interesting. I think for a couple years, it was like, people were just calling me, like, Alex. I think for, like, one year in high school, I was like, the Modern Family girl or Boobs.

[A]

Oh, my gosh.

[B]

I think I had, like, the second or third biggest boobs in the grade. And so, you know, you get nicknames. You get nicknames. You hear about them. So, you know. But now I think it's a little bit different. Like, people know me from more things. Like, I've friends in the grocery store, and I talk to them about, like, the recipes I'm gonna make, and they're my buds. I love chatting with them about the recipes and stuff like that. So, yeah, it's. It's definitely interesting. Yeah. Nolan's one of my absolute best friends. Like, Nolan's my actual brother. That's my family.

[C]

That's so nice. It's amazing.

[B]

That's my family for life.

[C]

Speaking of people knowing your voice, can you walk us through, like, voice acting?

[A]

Yes.

[C]

Can you give us something like, what are you talking about?

[A]

Yeah, exactly.

[B]

Yeah. So voice acting is something. I literally started that, like, first. I started that when I was, like, four, I think. I didn't do TV and film until I was like. And so I did commercials and voiceovers when I was, like, 4, and it was just. Always felt like second nature to me. I don't know. Like, maybe I was just always, like, a very expressive. A kid, probably. I mean, probably. And that's kind of what is important, because, you know, when you're doing a voiceover, you're animating your voice is animating a drawing. You're, like, bringing it.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

Seeing you talk with your hands, nobody's seeing your facial expressions. You're literally like, your voice is doing it all. And so it can be hard in some ways. But when I got Sophia the first, it was just so cool because, like, being a Disney princess is so fun. Like, you know, who doesn't want to do that? And she was like, the first, like, little kid Disney Princess. So that was cool. But, yeah, I do the voice sometimes for kids. I'll send, like, voice memos to some kids because I don't want to, like, ruin the magic for some of them. Like, if I know they're a certain age that they, like, won't understand. Like, I don't want to be like, hey, it's not real. Like, I do. Yeah, for you. Totally ruin it. So I send them, like, a voice message and, like, say something or, like, you know, if their parents are like, hey, that's her, and I meet them in public or, you know, something like that. But, yeah, it's cool. Sometimes I do the voice and just, like, it freaks out some people, and they, like. I don't know. They, like. They're like, oh, my gosh. Like, I can't believe you just, like, did the voice. I can do the voice.

[C]

Can we hear?

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

Yeah, we want to hear it.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Hi, I'm Sophia, and I'm so happy to be on the BFFR podcast.

[C]

I could never do that.

[A]

That is.

[C]

That's unreal. You're, like, a different person.

[B]

I know. It's. It's a. It's a. It's a funny thing. My voice, like, never. Like, I never. I stopped being able to do that. Like, it never went away. Some boys, when we have them, like, cast as, you know, different characters on our shows, like, we have to recast them every so often because their voices. That is different. Yeah, but, like, a lot of the times, like, for me or some of the other, like, female actors we've had on the show, like, we just, like, we'll keep that random voice that we've been able to do, like, our whole lives, and, yeah, I've never lost it. It just stays there, and I just do it sometimes.

[A]

Try it. If you were princess.

[C]

Say it again.

[B]

And, I mean, you could just say your name.

[C]

Hi, I'm Princess Sophia.

[A]

Well, you're Princess Said.

[C]

Oh, hi, I'm Princess Sit. That was really good.

[B]

It's actually pretty good.

[A]

She's like, it was okay. I'm like, well, I have a really long voice.

[C]

Well, you know, hire me. Hire me.

[B]

That was actually pretty good.

[C]

Well, I have kids, so, you know, it's really good.

[A]

Oh, my gosh. I'm crying.

[C]

We're gonna delete that.

[A]

No, no, no. Any. Any casting agents out there. Call the hotline. Your next Disney princess. Oh, my gosh. So shook.

[C]

We have chicken here. She's a big part of our show.

[A]

Yeah, we heard you have fur Babies.

[C]

And we heard that you are also a dog person. Chicken is not even two pounds, but she is the best. Look at. She wants to talk. Yeah. That's so seduced.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

So cute. Okay. Chicken, the name for a dog, first of all, so awesome. Like, so awesome. I love that it was. And the fact that it's like little like that is so iconic.

[C]

Oh, yeah. It was between chicken or cake pop. My daughter named her. But every single time I have to go to the vet, I'm like, what? They're like, what's the name? I'm like, chicken. They're like, it's a chicken. I'm like, no, no, no, no. That's her name.

[A]

It does came up quite a few people when we speak about chicken all the time.

[B]

That is so funny, though. Oh, so cute. Yes. I have six dogs.

[A]

Six dogs.

[B]

They are. Yeah. I put them outside of the room just so that we could do this in peace because I would have them like literally all over me. One like jumps up and actually multiple dogs jump up and sit on my lap and they're like pretty big. So I'll have like one of the 80 pound dogs just on my lap and he'll be like covering my face.

[C]

Yeah. What kind of dogs?

[B]

Sure. So I have shepherd pit mixes. I have three of them. And then I have a Samoyed, an Australian shepherd and a terrier mix.

[C]

How's the shedding and the hair in the house?

[B]

I put the work in. I put the work in. We gotta get to just live carefree.

[C]

Perfect.

[A]

Is it true that with Halloween coming up, your dogs may have Halloween costumes this year?

[B]

Might be true.

[C]

Yeah. We'll have to wait. We'll have to wait.

[A]

Yeah. I may have seen something from Halloween's.

[B]

Past, but, yeah, every year I put them in a Halloween costume and then I get like, I put them all next to each other and I get like a big picture of them and they do pretty good. They'll like sit for me and they'll all like, let me take a picture of them together and their little costumes. And it's cute. But I get like a very short period of time, especially if I want to put like a hat on one of them. Because immediately, like, yeah, it's gone. Like, I'm gonna help you out. Hat gone. So, yeah, it's like a short period of time. But I do like to change the costume every year. You know, as many costumes as I can find for dogs. I. I do my best. Yeah, it's fun.

[C]

That's funny. I need to do that to chicken, but I think. I don't think she would fit into anything.

[A]

Yeah, true.

[C]

Maybe knit something. Maybe pre baby clothes.

[B]

That would be so cute.

[A]

Oh, my gosh. Yeah. Sid. Sid and I both really, really like Halloween. But Sid has such good, epic family costumes. But as you were speaking, I was really remembering that maybe it. The dogs haven't been included in the. In the Halloween squad.

[C]

So this year, maybe it's time.

[A]

Could be the year. She also has a poodle.

[C]

Yeah. I also have a standard poodle. And I mean, this is the queen of the house chicken. You.

[B]

It's the poodle.

[C]

Can't even look at her.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

Without her growling.

[B]

So it's always the small dog.

[C]

100%.

[A]

Okay. I want to get back into the cooking. We also love cooking, and I was just wowed by recipes. But if Sid and I were to come over for dinner, what would be on the menu?

[B]

Oh, boy. Okay. I mean, I would definitely ask what you guys like. I'm definitely one of those people. Like, I want to make sure that everybody likes what they're eating. Like, like, follow dietary restrictions. But if you liked Greek food and if you ate, like, all types of meat, I'd probably make you some sort of Greek food.

[C]

Nice.

[B]

Maybe, like, a lot of people, like, I make this, like, Greek lemon chicken with, like, lemon potatoes. That's been a thing that people like, but I like. It's called, like, Uvet. It's like a braised lamb over, like. And I do love them.

[C]

Wow.

[B]

I do love them. Wow.

[C]

Love that.

[A]

Well, we're coming.

[C]

We're coming over tonight, so.

[B]

I would love that. I love a dinner party.

[A]

Okay, well, would you mind if we did a little rapid fire? I'm like, it's not a podcast without a rapid fire.

[C]

Right? Yeah, for sure. For sure.

[A]

Okay. Okay. Take it away, Sid.

[C]

All right. The last show you binged or Guilty Pleasure TV show.

[B]

Ooh, last show I binged. Well, I'm binging Supernatural again right now for the third time, so I'm gonna see that because. Well, I mean, I also just binged Law and Order, so.

[A]

Oh, okay.

[C]

Nothing new.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

Sm.

[B]

I haven't seen Untamed yet. I did watch Hunting Wives.

[A]

Hunting Wives.

[B]

I haven't started it yet, but I need. I did watch Adolescence that. But there's not. I feel like a binge. Like, you need more episodes. Like, a couple episodes. Like, a lot of episodes. Oh, gosh. I. I binged the blacklist. Pretty.

[C]

Oh, that's a good. That's a good show. Yeah.

[B]

And FBI. I Binged all of those. I love a show with a ton of episodes and a procedural.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

I'm like, I'm guilty of that for sure.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

That's my worst nightmare. I love nine episodes. We're done.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

And there's no season two.

[B]

Oh, my gosh. You hate when it comes to.

[C]

No, I. I mean, I love season two when, like, it's growing. Like, you know, Modern Family grows. You're, like, growing with the characters, but it's like, what are you gonna do now that everyone's dead?

[A]

Yeah. Hunting wives. I don't know.

[C]

Coming a lot, you know? Yeah, yeah. It's like, then you got them coming back alive, and I'm like, I'm done.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

Pretty Little Liars really threw me for a loop with all the. Now she's the bad person. Oh, it's him. Or, like. But yeah, I summer I turned pretty is what I'm, like, pretty heavily addicted to right now. So we'll see if the wedding can be stopped. I'm team Conrad. Anyways, what's your favorite cocktail? You've also shared some very interesting cocktail recipes that I'm dying to try.

[B]

So I. This is gonna be, like. So, like, you might side eye me. I love fireball. I know this sounds like, a little bit ridiculous of me. Like, I am. I love Fireball. Like, I love a fireball on a Coke. But I do love a dirty Shirley as well. I like things that are really sweet. I have also recently gotten into, like, amaretto sours, which is not. But I kind of liked that.

[C]

These are specialties, though. Yeah.

[B]

Yeah. I'm not, like. I'm not a huge drinker in general, so when I do drink, it's like, fireball.

[A]

Let's go for it.

[C]

Give me a bottle of Fireball.

[A]

I'm not a drinker, but I do fireball shots.

[B]

But when I do drink, it's fireball.

[A]

Yeah, I like that.

[C]

Perfect.

[A]

Sponsor us the first concert you attended.

[B]

Okay, so the first concert I attended, I think, was, like, a jingle ball type situation. I think I was, like, 11, maybe 12. Yeah, yeah. And I remember because Bruno Mars didn't get to perform. Oh, I was excited.

[C]

Yeah. Yeah. Did you get your money back?

[B]

I did not. It was an event, sadly. I was just so excited. And he did not perform. Like, he was, like, pulled off the stage, and I was. I was pretty sad, like, oops.

[A]

Bruno.

[B]

I was like, cool.

[C]

What's your first concert? Mine, I feel like, is the most epic of all Yours.

[A]

Yours is the most epic. So I'll Go first. Mine was no Doubt.

[C]

Oh, wow.

[B]

Oh, my gosh.

[C]

That's a good one. That's a good one.

[A]

Stefani fan.

[C]

Oh, yeah. Mine was Destiny's Child.

[A]

I mean.

[B]

Oh, my God. That's way.

[C]

Yeah, yeah.

[B]

Throw Jingle Ball out the window, but.

[A]

You got to see a lot of artists at a good old Jingle Ball.

[B]

Yeah. But, like, I mean, I literally would have, like. Yeah. I mean, Jingle Ball can kiss it.

[C]

Since Bruno for Destiny's Child.

[A]

Yeah, yeah.

[C]

It was unbelievable.

[A]

And no one can do that again, like.

[C]

Yeah, yeah.

[B]

Iconic lore.

[C]

Ah. What's your most used emoji?

[B]

The emoji that has, like, the, like, crying, happy eyes and like this. The laughing.

[A]

Oh, yeah.

[B]

It's like. You know how they have the emoji that has, like, the sad eyes. That has, like, the sad eyes, but, like, it's happy.

[C]

Yeah, yeah.

[A]

I like how you're doing.

[C]

It has, like, a little tear on both.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

Is that the one we're talking about?

[A]

Yes.

[B]

Because I like, like, makes me, like, happy. I don't know. I like that emoji. I think it's cute.

[C]

Perfect.

[A]

Oh, did you have a celebrity crush growing up? You are a celebrity yourself. But.

[B]

I liked Ryan Philippe. I watched Cruel Intentions, and so I was like, this is it.

[C]

Yeah, Yeah, I understand.

[A]

Yeah, I. I watched Cruel Intentions. I'm not sure I understood what was going on at the time. I have since watched it a couple more times, but. Oh, he was. He was a babe.

[C]

He still is, actually. Yeah. Well, yeah, mine was Jim Carrey.

[A]

Yeah, sorry.

[C]

That was, you know, this. Yes.

[A]

Child celebration. And now. Ish.

[C]

Yeah. Everyone makes fun of me, but I'm like, he's hilarious.

[B]

You know what I love? I love it for you.

[C]

He's hilarious. So, yeah, I would say, Jimmy, most.

[A]

Of us were going, like, on looks alone, and that shows your depth of character. It's like, actually. Really?

[C]

Mm. I did find him so hot in the mouth.

[A]

I can't. I can't.

[C]

Oh, yeah, yeah.

[A]

Mine was Chad Michael Murray, and he still looks exactly the same. And I'm watching Sullivan's Crossing, and it's like one of those things where you're like, oh, I'm watching it for the plot, and the plot is just Chad Michael Murray because the show is like, I could fall asleep, but that man is aging like a fine wine. I need to see Freakier Friday because. Wow. Wow.

[C]

Well, actually, I'll take Michael B. Jordan now.

[A]

Yeah. That's your. That's your crush now.

[C]

Five.

[A]

Five. We're like, 10.

[B]

He's like, yeah.

[C]

Okay. Probably.

[B]

Probably.

[A]

Yeah. Oh, my gosh. Well, thank you so, so much for being on the show. Honestly, we.

[B]

Thanks for having me.

[A]

It was really nice. We can't wait to come over for dinner.

[C]

We will be there in an hour.

[A]

Yes. And do fireball shots. But pools releases nationwide on September 5th. Everyone go see it. It's super fun, and Arielle's amazing in it, and now you know so much about her and unfortunately, even more about us. So definitely go and check it out. And honestly, this was so fun. And thank you, thank you. Thank you for being on bffr.

[C]

Yes. Thank you for having me. Hello. All right, we went a little long with Ariel, which was worth it. So we're canceling happy hour, and we're going straight to last call.

[A]

Too many fireball shots.

[C]

Too many. Too many dogs. Too many fireball shots.

[A]

What a combo.

[C]

We apologize for ignoring you. So now we're going to try and make it up to you.

[A]

Okay, let's check in.

[D]

Hi, Sid. Hi, Ali. Huge Angel City fan. I'm not going to say my name because I want to be anonymous, but I have a BFFR question I'm hoping you can help me with. My best friend has been dating her boyfriend for only about a year. She recently told me she and her boyfriend are looking at houses to buy together, but they are not married, and he hasn't proposed yet, and I don't know if he plans to. Personally, I think it's risky to buy a house with someone who hasn't put a ring on your finger yet. I want to be a supportive friend, but I think this is a risky investment. And I don't want to say anything to her because she has not taken criticism well in the past. But I'm worried that if the relationship doesn't work out, she might have to sell the house and lose money on her investment. Should I stay quiet and mind my own business, or should I woman up and tell her she needs to bffr? Thanks, y'. All. Bye.

[C]

Well, well, well, well, well. Let me tell you from experience. No, you need to call her regardless of how she takes it. And you need to say, I don't know about this idea. Yeah, because anything can happen. Like, I mean, I remember when I was going through everything with me, like, we had bought a house, and then he told me after I kicked him out that I needed to pay him rent for me and the kids staying there. So I don't think you want that to happen. And I would just say, like, if. If you can't do that, have A conversation, yes, you can be supportive, but also like, be fucking for real. I don't necessarily think a year is enough to be purchasing something so big.

[A]

You know what? Sid and I don't always agree on the relationship calls, but man, it's a red flag. Almost A little bit, A thousand percent. I will tell you that in Sweden, I don't know if something like this exists here. I guess you can write up any type of contract, but in Sweden, when you live together with someone, they're called your sambo. And so Lucas and I, we weren't married and he hadn't put a ring on it yet, and we purchased something together and we didn't put the same amount in, which also kind of complicates things because you're like, if this doesn't work out, are we splitting it 50? 50? Like, what are we doing? So we had an agreement drawn up and this is really common. And it said, this is how much we put in when we sell. This is how much we will each get out. And then if the value goes up, we agreed that anything that increases, we would split. And Lucas did a lot of renovations and so we agreed that that would be fair. And we're actually selling right now.

[C]

So if.

[A]

If your friend wants the apartment in Sweden, maybe they should move.

[C]

See how. Yeah, See how they could do a contract. No, I. I agree. It's like a. It's like a prenup. Before the prenup. Yeah. Yeah. I just think my first question would be like, does he have a job? Because that's tough. Yeah, that stuff. I still. No, I think you got to go to her. She may be mad at you, but you're only looking out for her best interest. And let me tell you, don't do that.

[A]

Yeah, it's a no. Woman up. Tell her to be ffr.

[C]

It's a no from us.

[A]

Okay. We're actually going to do two this week to make up for it. So what do we have next? Producer Chelsea.

[B]

Hi, Ali.

[D]

Hi, Sydney. My name is Allie. I'm just wondering if you guys would mind giving a shout out to my wife Cynthia. She is a long time women's soccer fan. NWSL fan from the beginning. And our nine year anniversary is coming up on September 3rd. So if we could get a shout out, that would be amazing. Thank you for everything you guys do. And we'll continue to avidly watch and support the show. Thank you.

[A]

Oh my gosh.

[C]

Nine years.

[A]

Nine years. Almost as old as the nwsl.

[C]

Wow. Yeah. Truly older than Cassius. Wow.

[A]

Congratulations. Ally and Cynthia.

[C]

Yeah. That's amazing. I can't imagine how much love you guys share. And thank you so much for being a fan of our show. Ally and Cynthia, give it up for them.

[A]

We love you. Thank you. Thank you for supporting the league, us, the show, women's sports. It means so much to us. It's why we can have this show. And we know that women's sports fans, everything that's happening now, that there are fans from everywhere and there are men who support women's sports. But we know, like the OG fans who were around before you could buy merch, before you could watch us on TV, before YouTube. Yeah, they know you know about the YouTube. That's how I would watch you back in the day.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

You are definitely one of those. One of those real fans. And we og, we appreciate you so much. And congrats on nine years. And this episode will come out right before the big day.

[C]

So.

[A]

Yeah. Sending all our love to you and hope to meet you.

[C]

Yeah. I hope the celebrations are amazing.

[A]

Yeah. If you ever want to renew your vows, we.

[C]

Yeah, we'll be there.

[A]

I.

[C]

Yes, I.

[A]

You're now a voice actress.

[C]

I'm a voice actress. And what else? What. What am I? What can I do? What's the talker at the wedding?

[A]

But everyone will have to stand the whole time.

[C]

Yeah. I won't forget.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

But, yeah, I'm ordained and I think.

[A]

That I take good videos.

[C]

I'm very good at my job.

[A]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. So we're available.

[C]

Ah.

[A]

We'll give you a friends and family discount maybe. Yeah, we're expensive. So. Thank you again, Ali and Cynthia. We love you. And that is a wrap on this week's episode of bffr. Thank you to Arielle for joining us. Thank you for the dogs. The dogs. Thank you for the voice messages and make sure you're subscribed on YouTube, Apple, podcasts, Spotify. No excuses.

[C]

No, zero, zero excuses. Excuses. I mean, follow us. Did you already do that one?

[A]

No, but you should be following.

[C]

Yeah, you should be following us at BFFR show. But also see you next Monday.

[A]

We will see you next Monday. Thank you for tuning in.