Tinder’s Height Filter, Short Kings & First Date Red Flags

Summary

BFFR Episode Summary: "Tinder’s Height Filter, Short Kings & First Date Red Flags"

Release Date: July 7, 2025

In the tenth episode of BFFR, hosts Sydney Leroux and Ali Riley delve into a mix of personal anecdotes, modern dating dilemmas, and heartfelt discussions, all wrapped in their signature humor and honesty. This episode, titled "Tinder’s Height Filter, Short Kings & First Date Red Flags," offers listeners a candid look into the highs and lows of life both on and off the soccer field.

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Surviving "Naked and Afraid"

The episode opens with a lighthearted debate about who would last longer on the survival show "Naked and Afraid." Ali teases Sydney, saying, "You. I'm not a camper. I'm not a, like, build a fire type gal" (00:00). Sydney confidently responds, "I'll be naked, but I'm not going to be afraid" (00:12), showcasing their playful chemistry.

BFFR Moments of the Week

Ali introduces the segment by sharing their favorite BFFR moments, highlighting unique and often chaotic listener submissions. They reflect on family traditions, particularly their involvement in holiday 5Ks. Ali shares a nostalgic story: "My mom ran it when she was pregnant in July" (04:35), emphasizing the deep-rooted family bonds formed through these runs.

Sydney’s Speeding Ticket Fiasco

Sydney recounts a recent mishap involving a speeding ticket: "I got a speeding ticket heading to training" (05:00). She humorously details her frustration with the traffic school process, admitting, "I'm gonna forget to write this letter. Be for real" (07:42). The story culminates with her facing the possibility of having a warrant out for her arrest, blending humor with the realities of navigating bureaucratic hurdles.

Tinder’s Height Filter & Celebrating Short Kings

The conversation shifts to the evolving landscape of online dating. Ali brings up Tinder's new height filter feature: "Tinder is trialing a new feature. Users can filter out matches if they are above or below a certain height" (13:32). Sydney quips about the potential dishonesty on the platform: "Men lie. So I want to see your ID and then I'm going to take 2 or 3 inches off your ID" (13:38).

Ali and Sydney champion the concept of Short Kings, celebrating charisma and personality over physical stature. Ali shares an amusing story about a friend: "Lucas's friend said he's into short men even if it means flipping them over" (15:17), highlighting the unexpected depth and attraction beyond height.

Navigating First Date Red Flags

Delving deeper into dating dynamics, Sydney outlines her first date red flags: "I've been paying for men my whole life. I ain't paying for you, period" (17:00). She emphasizes the importance of setting clear boundaries from the outset, advocating for honesty and mutual respect in budding relationships.

Supporting Pride Month and the LGBTQ+ Community

Responding to a listener's message, Sydney and Ali passionately discuss Pride Month and their unwavering support for the LGBTQ+ community. Ali states, "We feel like we have the energy and we want to stand up for what we believe in, even if we aren't a part of the LGBTQ community" (36:32). They stress the importance of creating inclusive spaces and taking actionable steps to support equality beyond mere celebrations.

Listener Interaction: Favorite Things & Personal Reflections

In the "Last Call" segment, Sydney and Ali answer heartfelt listener questions. Ali shares what she loves about Sydney: "You're my shoulder to cry on. You're someone I completely trust, with my life and with my kids' lives" (39:07). Conversely, Sydney appreciates Ali's ability to bring joy and laughter during challenging times: "When we have challenges, you always know what to say to make me laugh" (39:07).

Closing Remarks and Future Plans

As the episode winds down, Sydney and Ali encourage listeners to subscribe and engage with their content across various platforms. They tease upcoming bonus content and express gratitude for their growing community, ending on a humorous note about their playful banter and mutual respect.

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Notable Quotes with Timestamps

• Sydney on Not Paying for Dates: "I've been paying for men my whole life. I ain't paying for you, period." (17:00)

• Ali on Tinder's Height Filter: "Tinder is trialing a new feature. Users can filter out matches if they are above or below a certain height." (13:32)

• Sydney on Traffic School Forgetfulness: "I'm gonna forget to write this letter. Be for real." (07:42)

• Ali Celebrating Short Kings: "Short kings, they'll surprise you." (15:17)

• Sydney on Supporting LGBTQ+ Community: "Having the power to, like, be yourself is something that I will always stand behind." (35:48)

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BFFR continues to blend personal experiences with broader societal topics, making it a relatable and engaging listen. This episode underscores the importance of honesty in relationships, celebrates diversity, and highlights the deep friendship between Sydney and Ali, inviting listeners to join them in their unfiltered journey.

Transcript

[Ali Riley]

Who would survive longer on naked and afraid?

[Sydney Leroux]

You. I'm not a camper. I'm not a, like, build a fire type gal.

[Ali Riley]

Like, you could be naked, but as soon as you're afraid, you're definitely.

[Sydney Leroux]

I'm. I'm a naked person. I'll be naked, but I'm not going to be afraid. Yes, hello.

[Ali Riley]

What? We're. We're back.

[Sydney Leroux]

Double digits.

[Ali Riley]

Episode 10.

[Sydney Leroux]

Can't believe it.

[Ali Riley]

Let's go. We don't. We don't go to the club anymore, but I can imagine that's what it feels like.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah, we just had the club right in here.

[Ali Riley]

Yeah. Episode 10. Thank you for sticking with us for, Well, I guess nine episodes. But you're. You're here for episode 10.

[Sydney Leroux]

You are.

[Ali Riley]

So thank you. And you probably are. But in case you're not, don't forget to follow us at BFFR show on socials, Spotify, Apple, podcast, wherever else there is to listen and watch. BFFR show.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah.

[Ali Riley]

Tune in, rate and review, please.

[Sydney Leroux]

Five stars. You know this, though. By now. You know it.

[Ali Riley]

The hotline is open. 1-833-txt-BFFR.

[Sydney Leroux]

That's 1-833-898-2337.

[Ali Riley]

And after last episode, we got a lot of DMS. Sid doesn't know, but I know.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah, she has a surprise for me and I'm trying to see what's going on here.

[Ali Riley]

Keep them coming or email us. We are inclusive. You can email [e-mail] or DM.

[Sydney Leroux]

Allie.

[Ali Riley]

Yeah, that's fine too.

[Sydney Leroux]

That works.

[Ali Riley]

So how you doing, Sydney?

[Sydney Leroux]

Oh, I'm good. You know, you're rolling, you're moving. I'm moving, I'm rolling, I'm running, I'm playing. Everything's good.

[Ali Riley]

Yeah. And this is a Fourth of July. This is right after the Fourth of July. We are filming this before the Fourth of July.

[Sydney Leroux]

We also have practice, but yeah, on Fourth of July, on the 5th. So we probably aren't going to have any crazy stories for you, but.

[Ali Riley]

Yeah. But here's to our future fourth of July selves. Hope we both had a great time.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah.

[Ali Riley]

Lots of fireworks.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah.

[Ali Riley]

Which actually takes me to my BFFR moment. And unfortunately it was not me saying BFFR to someone else. It was someone else saying BFFR to me. Because there's the little, like, trend funny videos of people saying that they married into a family that runs 5Ks on holidays. And Lucas said, be for real, Ali. That's you.

[Sydney Leroux]

You are that family.

[Ali Riley]

We are. And I've never thought about it like that.

[Sydney Leroux]

Could never marry.

[Ali Riley]

Thanksgiving, Christmas Day. We did like a two hour hike. And 4th of July, this will probably be the. The first year it won't be in the Palisades because there is always a Pacific Palisades 5 and 10K. It is moved. But the family. I did my first 4th of July 5k in second grade. I was wearing Converse. I had one red sock, one white sock, and my Converse were navy blue. She was patriotic.

[Sydney Leroux]

Wow.

[Ali Riley]

And I ran the first mile. It was all downhill, easy. Started to go up and I said, dad, I don't want to do this. And he said, it is equally as far now to the finish line as it is the starting line. And I can't leave you here. So will you walk a tree and run a tree? And so I did that for another two miles and I was just so over it.

[Sydney Leroux]

Were you pissed off?

[Ali Riley]

I was pissed off, yeah. But I. I saw that finish line and I just put on the gas and we just had a great photo of me sprinting, but I was like, hair down. We can imagine sprinting to the finish line in my, like little American flag shorts. The Converse. And yeah, we. Someone from the low Riley family has run in a 4th of July 5 or 10k for as long as I was I've been alive. My mom did it when I was pregnant in July.

[Sydney Leroux]

When you were pregnant or when she was pregnant?

[Ali Riley]

When she. Did I say I was pregnant? Oh, my God. My mom ran it when she was pregnant.

[Sydney Leroux]

I'm like, have you not told me something? Whoa.

[Ali Riley]

And yes, it was in July and then I was born in October. So there's nothing stopping this family. So Turkey trots.

[Sydney Leroux]

Oh, the turkey trots are fourth of July.

[Ali Riley]

And now as a. As an injured human being, I'm like, what were we thinking? I can't wait every day off. I'm just celebrating. So, yeah, bffr.

[Sydney Leroux]

She's the family.

[Ali Riley]

That.

[Sydney Leroux]

She's the family.

[Ali Riley]

Yeah. Okay. What about you?

[Sydney Leroux]

I mean, imagine me, like, marrying into a turkey trot family. I'd be like, no, I mean, you wouldn't.

[Ali Riley]

I feel like you would clear that up on like, one of the first dates. Like the guy.

[Sydney Leroux]

You gotta clear everything on the first date.

[Ali Riley]

Yeah, we, We.

[Sydney Leroux]

We're gonna get into that.

[Ali Riley]

We are gonna get into that. But what was your.

[Sydney Leroux]

My BSFR moment? Okay, so last year I got a speeding ticket heading to training. And like, once I. Yeah, of course I was late. And like, I pulled me over and I looked at him, I'm like, yeah, he's gonna give me a ticket for sure. And that he did.

[Ali Riley]

And I didn't get out of it.

[Sydney Leroux]

No.

[Ali Riley]

I'm disappointed in you.

[Sydney Leroux]

No, no, no. What was that movie back in the day with the. Remember that movie? What's it called? With the. Like the guys and they wore these tight little.

[Ali Riley]

Oh, what's that movie with the. With the. They're not police. The highway patrol.

[Sydney Leroux]

Sheriff something. What is it?

[Ali Riley]

Super Troopers. Super Troopers.

[Sydney Leroux]

It was a super trooper. It was a super trooper who pulled me over with the mustache and everything. I'm like, yeah, I'm not getting out of this. There's no way. And so he was like, do you know how fast you're going? I was like, no, honestly, like, I'm just trying to get to. To work. The kids took forever. You know, I'm pulling out things from my ass. Who knows? Didn't care. So I got a ticket and then ticket came in and I was like, oh, like it says that I can just do traffic school. So I, I signed up for traffic school. Then I forgot how this ends. Yeah. Then I forgot about traffic school. And then I get this email that, like, they're going to take away my, my license and I'm going to be.

[Ali Riley]

Like, have a warrant.

[Sydney Leroux]

And I'm like, wait, wait, wait, wait. So they're like, you have to pay this before July something. But it's the weekend, so everything's closed down. And I'm like, I'm going to have a warrant out for my arrest because of a super trooper. Anyways, I called. They're like, no, it's closed. You didn't do traffic school. So there's gonna, like, be a point docked from your whatever. And so I was like, well, you know, I was like going through a lot. I was like, how, like, can I get traffic school again? And she was like, yeah, you're gonna have to write a letter to your honor.

[Ali Riley]

Oh.

[Sydney Leroux]

So I'm gonna, I'm gonna do that and then I'm probably gonna forget. You are second?

[Ali Riley]

Absolutely. Gonna forget to write this letter.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah, but I have the whole thing, your honor. I'm just a single gal, single mom, working two jobs, trying to make ends meet. And I couldn't. I couldn't remember. Be frail. Let me do it again. Be for real. That was pretty brutal. So I don't know if there's still a warrant out for my arrest, but if you see me with handcuffed on the side of the road, mind your business.

[Ali Riley]

Wow. Wow.

[Sydney Leroux]

I don't even know if I told you that I got a speeding ticket.

[Ali Riley]

No, no, you didn't. You didn't. Well, those that.

[Sydney Leroux]

I don't know what's worse, getting a speeding ticket or getting a speeding ticket or being, like, married into a turkey trot family, you might. You might take the cake.

[Ali Riley]

Which makes you say BFFR more.

[Sydney Leroux]

They're running. They're running for fun. When we do it for a job.

[Ali Riley]

I don't know. That's up to you. Anyways, those were our BFFR moments of the week. We got some good ones in the dms. We will share. We will share and pick apart all your BFFR moments, but keep them coming. DM us. Call the hotline, whatever you do.

[Sydney Leroux]

Like I said last episode, we want to hear something wild.

[Ali Riley]

Yeah.

[Sydney Leroux]

Like unhinged so that we can do a deep dive.

[Ali Riley]

We did not name this show BFFR for nothing.

[Sydney Leroux]

Exactly.

[Ali Riley]

Hello.

[Sydney Leroux]

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[Ali Riley]

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[Sydney Leroux]

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[Ali Riley]

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[Sydney Leroux]

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[Ali Riley]

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[Sydney Leroux]

Let's talk about Tinder.

[Ali Riley]

I love talking about Tinder.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah. That is how Ali met her husband.

[Ali Riley]

Swedish Tinder. Tinder.

[Sydney Leroux]

Oh, it's more intense than Tinder. Yeah. Talk to me about Tinder. Talk to me about dating apps.

[Ali Riley]

Okay, so, well, Tinder is the only dating app I have been on. It was 2016. No, hadn't. It hadn't reached Sweden yet.

[Sydney Leroux]

Okay.

[Ali Riley]

There was only Tinder. And it was really, really new in Sweden, and there was only, like, 20 guys on the app. So I would go through, and then I swear to God, the deck would, like, turn over and the same guys would come through again.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah.

[Ali Riley]

Eventually, I was like, fine, I'll swipe right on this Lucas guy. But no, we, like, we're looking for completely different things.

[Sydney Leroux]

What was the bio?

[Ali Riley]

I didn't read the bio.

[Sydney Leroux]

Your bio.

[Ali Riley]

Oh, mine. I definitely didn't mention soccer.

[Sydney Leroux]

Good for you.

[Ali Riley]

When I chatted with guys, I said I was studying in Sweden abroad. Yes. And Lucas happened to know because he followed women's soccer, which was a green flag. Knew Who I was.

[Sydney Leroux]

He was on his best behave.

[Ali Riley]

But he was also looking for a one night stand and I was looking for a rebound after a very terrible dating experience. So it was very strange that we somehow just like our world.

[Sydney Leroux]

Did you have the one night stand on the first day? The first night. The first date.

[Ali Riley]

It was the second date. Sydney.

[Sydney Leroux]

Saucy. Wow. Second day.

[Ali Riley]

Yeah.

[Sydney Leroux]

Giving it up that early.

[Ali Riley]

First wow date was the night I came back from the Rio Olympics. And we had been. We matched the day before I was leaving. And so we didn't have a chance to meet again. We weren't actually trying to be in a relationship with each other. And so it just ended up that the whole time, about five weeks when I was in Brazil, we started chatting, we started Snapchatting. I thought he was Snapchat. I thought he was sending me Snapchats. And I was like, oh my gosh, he's flirting with me. And then I saw they were also on his story. So they were just very generalized snaps to probably a lot of women.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah.

[Ali Riley]

And then eventually we started texting and then calling and then facetiming. We went through this entire crazy. All the steps in these five weeks. The day I got back from the Olympics, we met. He had a hard out. He's like, I have to go see the boys in an hour.

[Sydney Leroux]

Oh, I know this story, Lucas.

[Ali Riley]

And then after an hour, he was so just over overcome with just love that he invited me to hang out with the bros. The rest of the story I will tell another time. But we are a Tinder success story.

[Sydney Leroux]

Okay.

[Ali Riley]

And yeah, had some spicy first dates. But the reason we are speaking about this is because Tinder is trialing a new feature.

[Sydney Leroux]

Oh wow.

[Ali Riley]

There's a height filter.

[Sydney Leroux]

So you have to say your height.

[Ali Riley]

Well, users can filter out matches if.

[Sydney Leroux]

They are above or below, but men lie. So I want to see your ID and then I'm going to take 2 or 3 inches off your ID.

[Ali Riley]

Don't they measure you when you do your ID?

[Sydney Leroux]

No. You just tell them, oh, I'm 6 5. No, sir, you're 5 8.

[Ali Riley]

So do you like this filter?

[Sydney Leroux]

First of all, I. You're not gonna find me on that. But yes, but it's. I still think they're gonna lie.

[Ali Riley]

You still think you could get tricked?

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah. Oh, sorry. No offense to short kings. I've already been there, done that, and I'm not going back.

[Ali Riley]

We did celebrate Short King week.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah. Last month in May, during my birthday.

[Ali Riley]

55 2:59. Shout out to all who celebrate Short kings. Yeah. How was that being with a short man? We won't say king.

[Sydney Leroux]

No. Yeah. You know, I love a. I love a heel.

[Ali Riley]

You do?

[Sydney Leroux]

I love a heel. Can't wear a heel.

[Ali Riley]

So it stopped you from wearing heels. You didn't want to know.

[Sydney Leroux]

Or you got to do that weird thing where you're like, my God. You got to do that thing with.

[Ali Riley]

You look like you're on America's Next Top Model.

[Sydney Leroux]

You gotta do that thing with your neck and, like, crouch down.

[Ali Riley]

Why did you want to not look taller?

[Sydney Leroux]

Because I want to feel like a little baby.

[Ali Riley]

Okay.

[Sydney Leroux]

I want to be okay, I'm just a girl. But I'm like, I'm just a girl.

[Ali Riley]

Oh, my God.

[Sydney Leroux]

Stop.

[Ali Riley]

So one of Lucas's best friends is a. Is a short king.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah. And short kings, though, they'll surprise you.

[Ali Riley]

They will. They will. And I won't name names, but Lucas's friend, he said he went on a date with a much taller woman, and I, of course, had to ask him all about it.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah.

[Ali Riley]

Lucas's friends are used to this by now. And he said, we're all the same height lying down.

[Sydney Leroux]

You're not, though.

[Ali Riley]

And I was like, but are you.

[Sydney Leroux]

I mean, I get that your heads.

[Ali Riley]

Are in the same place. And then he did say when they were kind of, like, getting into it, that he did kind of want to, like, you know, like, flip. Flip her over. And he was sweating strength.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah.

[Ali Riley]

But he was like, I'm into it.

[Sydney Leroux]

Some people are. Some people are. And like, women. Some women are like, yeah, let me dominate you.

[Ali Riley]

But I would say most of my tall friends are looking for a tall partner, and it is hard for them.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah.

[Ali Riley]

And they do get a bit catfished. So I am hoping that this filter don't lie.

[Sydney Leroux]

Come on.

[Ali Riley]

You are going to meet in person, and then.

[Sydney Leroux]

And then they're going to see that you're short, and then, like, they probably would have gone on a date with you regardless, but you started off lying, and that's a red flag.

[Ali Riley]

Do you have any other first date red flags?

[Sydney Leroux]

I got a couple. Let's see. If I get asked on a date, I'm not bringing my wallet.

[Ali Riley]

Oh, you're not even gonna do the reach?

[Sydney Leroux]

No, I'm not even gonna pretend that it's in there. No. No. You asked me on a date. I want to be treated a certain way.

[Ali Riley]

Yeah.

[Sydney Leroux]

And you're upfront about that? I am very upfront about that. Like, sorry, no. I've been paying for men my whole life. I ain't paying for you, period. Period. What's your red flag? Also, you gotta pick me up. I don't care how far away I live in la.

[Ali Riley]

You want them to know where you live?

[Sydney Leroux]

No, you gotta, like, get them to pick you up with friend. Like, I'm with my friend at Casa. Pick me up there.

[Ali Riley]

Okay.

[Sydney Leroux]

See you later.

[Ali Riley]

Okay. I've never been on a first date like that, so I don't really know, but for me or.

[Sydney Leroux]

You're paying for my Uber, that would be really nice. Yeah? Yeah. And then I know people are going to be like you, blah, blah, blah. Trust me when I say this. When you want to have a partner and you want the life that you want, put it out front. No games. Yeah, that's what I want.

[Ali Riley]

Well, then they're not later gonna be like, oh, you expect me to pay for.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yes, I do.

[Ali Riley]

Yeah, exactly. I think that's really good that you're.

[Sydney Leroux]

Thank you.

[Ali Riley]

Honest about that. I am not bringing the wallet at all.

[Sydney Leroux]

No.

[Ali Riley]

Yeah, that's.

[Sydney Leroux]

No. I'm sorry, I. You brought me here.

[Ali Riley]

Yes. I think the person asking.

[Sydney Leroux]

I'm never gonna ask someone on a date.

[Ali Riley]

Okay. What about later on?

[Sydney Leroux]

Oh, later on for sure.

[Ali Riley]

Like, I've got this one. Yeah, of course.

[Sydney Leroux]

But the first time.

[Ali Riley]

Yeah.

[Sydney Leroux]

You're asking me to go 50 50. I'm asking to go home.

[Ali Riley]

Yeah. Lucas did. I think the food was on the house because he and the boys always went to this place. But he did. He did get my salad. That and my drink that first night. I know, I know.

[Sydney Leroux]

It's not a red flag, it's a green flag.

[Ali Riley]

Yes.

[Sydney Leroux]

I don't know. That's just kind of my thing. I don't know.

[Ali Riley]

For me, I'm trying to think if there was an activity that I wouldn't like.

[Sydney Leroux]

Hiking.

[Ali Riley]

I would love a first date hike.

[Sydney Leroux]

A first date hike. To me, in my mind, you're taking me up to the mountains and you're going to kill me.

[Ali Riley]

You watch way too much of that true crime stuff.

[Sydney Leroux]

No, you're going to kill me. Why do you want to go on a hike with me? Do I look like a hiker?

[Ali Riley]

Well, you're athletic. Okay, so you want to be wined and dined, right? Yes, I'd like to be in the outdoors, but I'm also afraid of committing to something. So when I blame Lucas on having like the hard out, I was like, thank God. Because I'm like, we can meet from 8 to 9pm because if this isn't happening, I'm out.

[Sydney Leroux]

Except you were there until 4 or 5 o' clock in the morning because. So the hard out was. Was gone because you were feeling it.

[Ali Riley]

We were feeling it. But I now I think I have grown up a little bit, but I had a very superficial state of mind where I'm like, if in the moment I see someone I'm not attracted to them, I'm hightailing it out of there.

[Sydney Leroux]

I don't really like the whole like, oh, it's about the personality. You have to be attracted to the person for sure. Like, if there's no attraction and they have a good personality, you're like, yeah, you have a good personality. But, like, we can be friends. We can be best friends.

[Ali Riley]

I do think that attraction can build, though, over time.

[Sydney Leroux]

I agree.

[Ali Riley]

And I feel like.

[Sydney Leroux]

I agree.

[Ali Riley]

I see that more now. And I think that probably would have changed, like, some of the people that I was interested or what I wasn't interested in but could have been. Like, I had a very.

[Sydney Leroux]

Like, when I was younger, I loved a medium ugly man because you thought that, like, hey, come on, you're gonna treat me like a princess. And then they don't. And then they don't.

[Ali Riley]

And you're like a medium ugly man.

[Sydney Leroux]

Medium ugly is my favorite. Was my favorite.

[Ali Riley]

College.

[Sydney Leroux]

Sorry. All my boyfriends in college. Yeah, no, they were like, I had some of the best boyfriends, truly, but didn't work out.

[Ali Riley]

Okay, so to finish this segment, as the pros call it, if you are on a dating app and this filter was available, are you using it?

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah, 100% same. 100%. I'm not shallow. Actually, maybe I am because I've had a lot of frogs in my life. Now I want the prince. I'm going for the prince, period. Hello. All right, we've filtered out enough men for the day. It's time for happy hour. We need a drink. Let's go. First of all, love the hat.

[Ali Riley]

This is my win. Starting it right off. Tori again. Tori, who made the awesome basketball jersey, made us our unofficial merch here. Check out be real hats. So thank you, Tori.

[Sydney Leroux]

Thank you, Tori.

[Ali Riley]

I'm wearing a baseball hat with BFFR on it in case you are listening to this. And it's really cool. So thank you, Tori. Amazing fans. Amazing fans. We're very lucky. So that's my win. I got a new cool hat. And obviously there's a couple for Sydney as well. Okay, what was your one of the week?

[Sydney Leroux]

Said I got, like, a nice little date night, which is even far. What is it? Few and far Between. Far between.

[Ali Riley]

Well, you're busy.

[Sydney Leroux]

She's busy. Al. He's busy.

[Ali Riley]

Did he pay?

[Sydney Leroux]

Of course.

[Ali Riley]

Did he pick you up?

[Sydney Leroux]

Didn't even have my. Didn't even bring my purse. He knows that he shouldn't bring us that. That's why we love them. Yeah. We had a nice little date night. No kids. That's important, you know, so. Yeah, we had. We had a nice little time.

[Ali Riley]

Well, I have a loss for both of us.

[Sydney Leroux]

You do?

[Ali Riley]

Because this is a doozy.

[Sydney Leroux]

Okay, so what happened? It happened to me and you.

[Ali Riley]

No, but, like, you will be sad for me.

[Sydney Leroux]

Oh. Okay.

[Ali Riley]

So I threw my keys down the trash chute at my apartment. Yeah? Yeah. And I have thought about this happening every single time. I have thrown the trash away because you have to use the fob to get back in. Okay, so you go out, you go into the trash room.

[Sydney Leroux]

That makes sense.

[Ali Riley]

Open the chute, and then you throw the trash in. And every single time, and Lucas and I have even talked about it, how easy would it be to just chuck your keys in with the trash? I'm not that careless. I had my keys on a lanyard around my wrist. Locked in, locked in and holding the door. It was this way. As I threw the bag in, it somehow caught on my key and dragged the. And like, my arm starts going down the chute. So, like, I let.

[Sydney Leroux]

You went down.

[Ali Riley]

So better the keys than. Than me, right?

[Sydney Leroux]

Did you go?

[Ali Riley]

So I run down. I can hear, like. So I run down the stairs. I look in the trash bin at the bottom, and this room is God awful stinky. So smelly. Flies everywhere and trash everywhere. And I look in the bin underneath the chute, and all the trash bags are white and mine is black. So then I'm, like, looking up the. Looking up the chute. Nothing. So then I go. I'm on the fifth floor. So I go on the first floo floor. And I'm looking, and I thought maybe if there's bags, like, stuck. And I'm looking, I'm looking. And so I had to go to leasing office and say I threw my keys down the shoe. And she didn't want to hear about my whole story. Like, it was on my wrist, like.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah.

[Ali Riley]

She said, you know, I don't think you're getting them back, but I will call maintenance. And this guy I had changed into old clothes. I was ready to go dumpster diving.

[Sydney Leroux]

Okay, good for you.

[Ali Riley]

Thank you. So he looked in and said, I'm sorry, there are no black bags. And I said, is there any way it could be stuck. And he's like, will you please wait outside?

[Sydney Leroux]

Right? Outside of where?

[Ali Riley]

The trash room.

[Sydney Leroux]

Okay.

[Ali Riley]

And so I stand around the corner and I'm like, okay, I'm not gonna get in his way. And it's probably unsafe being in there. And I hear, like, banging, and I can hear, like, bags coming down to shoot and I hear banging. They were really disgusting. I had to obviously throw away the lanyard, but he got them. So, like, it. It has a happy ending.

[Sydney Leroux]

Okay.

[Ali Riley]

But it was. That's mortifying. It was horrifying. And I felt so.

[Sydney Leroux]

I would have loved to be a fly on the wall, like one of a thousand flies in the. In the trash place just to watch you.

[Ali Riley]

I had, like, old Angel City gear on and I was running up and down the stairs and, like, about to dumpster dive.

[Sydney Leroux]

Okay.

[Ali Riley]

Not as bad as you crouching down the side of the 101, but it was like. I did think you would have laughed if you saw me do.

[Sydney Leroux]

I absolutely would have laughed, and I would have done that, like, two years ago. So. Yeah, you're fine.

[Ali Riley]

Thank you. Thank you. Let's talk about something we're loving.

[Sydney Leroux]

Something we're loving. Let's hear it.

[Ali Riley]

So I have been talking about him now for a month, but I went to Jay Shetty's tour on purpose. I actually saw the sign, and I have, like, a little bit of dyslexia sometimes, and I thought it said no purpose. And I was like, yeah, I mean, we're all here. Like, Jay, help us out. Like, we're right.

[Sydney Leroux]

We have zero purpose here.

[Ali Riley]

But no, it's on purpose. The tour is over now. But I just. Every single thing he said, I just felt like it was useful for my life. And Jimmy Kimmel was. Was the guest on the show, and he was so vulnerable and he was cracking jokes when he was uncomfortable, but then actually allowed Jay to ask him these questions and, like, really go there. And it was very inspirational as a fellow podcaster, but just, like, as a human being. And one of my favorite things that he said was, there's like a common misconception or a lie that we're told that you can be anything you want. And I was kind of like, oh, my gosh, I'm always saying that. And he said, that's a lie. Oh, but what you can be is everything you are, and that's enough.

[Sydney Leroux]

I love that. Like, also, I want to say that Ali came into the training room while I was working out, and she had a full blown story that we All I had to stop. Our PT had to stop. And we were just locked into Allie, and she was just like, yeah, yeah. So I. I was supposed to go, I know, but, you know.

[Ali Riley]

You'Re busy.

[Sydney Leroux]

Kids, Kids.

[Ali Riley]

So anyways, I just, like, can't get enough. And he is my number one wish for the guest list here to come on bffr. So if anyone is listening.

[Sydney Leroux]

Jay, please. Jay, Ali loves you. It would be my dream also. So do I, because you. You gave me a lot of good points.

[Ali Riley]

It would be my dream. Anyways. Are you loving anything as much as I'm loving Jay Shetty?

[Sydney Leroux]

I don't think I'm loving anything as much as you love Jay Shetty, but I did make. I mean, I'm loving cooking again. Yeah, you're always talking about back and forth, back and forth, but I do love cooking. And, like, I just get lazy and I'm like, whatever, I'll just ubereats. But when I cook, I'm like, you savor it. And I'm like, man, Sydney, you are so good at what you do. I really think that because I made these unbelievable tacos, and it was just like, I made them for my friend, and my friend was like, these are the best tacos I've ever had in my life. Like, I can't even. And I'm like, I know, I know, because I can cook. So I'm. I'm loving cooking every other week. I love it.

[Ali Riley]

Yeah, that feels accurate.

[Sydney Leroux]

Cheeky.

[Ali Riley]

Have you bought anything recently?

[Sydney Leroux]

Oh, well, I've been telling you that I'm, like, redoing the house since August, and I still have zero.

[Ali Riley]

August of last year?

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah, August of 2024. And, like, I was going to get. I told you I was, like, working with a. An interior designer, but I'm like, I want to, like, I want to do my own thing. And you're a great decorator, but it takes time.

[Ali Riley]

It does.

[Sydney Leroux]

It takes time. And, like, I have, like, my big pieces, but. But, like, art is extremely hard. And, like, I. I have, like, a mixture of, like, visions. Like, I love organic, modern, but I love mid century. But I also love contemporary. I love a little vintage. So, like, I want to bring them all together in a way that, like, it's not gonna be like, the. The 2000s, gray and white. Okay. You know, so, yeah, I ordered. I ordered a bunch of things, and now they're on their way, and this house is about to be a home.

[Ali Riley]

Okay. One year later. Good job, boo boos.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah, but I could have just, like, bought stuff to buy it. But I really, like, took my time on this.

[Ali Riley]

You were very intentional.

[Sydney Leroux]

I was very intentional and I'm very proud of myself.

[Ali Riley]

I can't wait to see it.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah. Art is expensive, by the way.

[Ali Riley]

It is very expensive.

[Sydney Leroux]

Holy.

[Ali Riley]

And these aren't like original Picasso's, but, like, prints are really, like.

[Sydney Leroux]

I'm sorry, why is this $6,000? Yeah. Told the kids, go get a canvas and draw on it. Yeah.

[Ali Riley]

Yes. Will there be any original work on the walls?

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah.

[Ali Riley]

Okay.

[Sydney Leroux]

There will be.

[Ali Riley]

I love that.

[Sydney Leroux]

You know how I love to pick up a hobby.

[Ali Riley]

Yes, yes. I meant the kids. But I'm glad you also are going to put something out there.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yes.

[Ali Riley]

Well, we just sound kind of old. But I will say adult because what I have bought is new cookware.

[Sydney Leroux]

Oh, wow.

[Ali Riley]

I've never purchased cookware before.

[Sydney Leroux]

Really?

[Ali Riley]

Yeah. Like, when I would move from team to team or a club, it would always, like, be an international ordeal. And that was the one thing.

[Sydney Leroux]

When you arrived, your cookware there.

[Ali Riley]

When I would leave, I feel like maybe another player would get it or it went back to the club.

[Sydney Leroux]

Okay.

[Ali Riley]

And then when I would come proud of you. They like provide it to you.

[Sydney Leroux]

It's a game changer.

[Ali Riley]

I know. Also very expensive. But I. I'm excited and I. The stuff that I had here was from when I arrived at the Orlando Pride.

[Sydney Leroux]

Oh, wow.

[Ali Riley]

So, yeah, this is. We'll see. We've got this non stick and some stainless steel.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah, stainless steel is good. Non stick. You have to be careful.

[Ali Riley]

Yeah.

[Sydney Leroux]

No plastics, no nothing.

[Ali Riley]

Right. Exactly. So we've chucked everything out and. Well, I gotta go home and cook something, so.

[Sydney Leroux]

Well, you know, I love my knives.

[Ali Riley]

Yes. You have some very fancy knives.

[Sydney Leroux]

I do love my knives. Cut my finger open, but worth it. Worth it. Absolutely worth it. Yeah.

[Ali Riley]

Something we're watching. I just watched the original Lilo and Stitch because I do want to see the new one. I know I'm so behind the kids.

[Sydney Leroux]

Want to see the new one. You should go. Because June said she saw it and she was crying.

[Ali Riley]

Yes. And it. I mean, it's a kind of dark tale. Like, I didn't remember how much Lilo and her sister, like, are really struggling after their parents die and, like, they're in a tough spot. Like, child services is coming and knocking on the door. Like, this is just stuff you don't think about when you're a kid. You're like, oh, alien is there and they're best friends now. Like, it was intense. So I'm excited to see if by the time we do it, it's still in theaters, but excited to see this, the live action. And I've heard, like, the singing and the acting is. Is really good.

[Sydney Leroux]

So I've been watching Pulse, and so have the kids, because once I get involved in a show, there's nothing that stops me. And so now the kids every night are like, can we watch Pulse?

[Ali Riley]

I don't want to.

[Sydney Leroux]

It's a hospital show with, like, blood and stuff and blah, blah, blah, and sissy's all. I'm like, close your eyes. And the kids are like this. And there's like, oh, geez. And I'm like, you're gonna sleep with me.

[Ali Riley]

Like, anyway, so.

[Sydney Leroux]

Get to know the real stuff. So we're in the middle of Pulse right now. Loving that it's a family affair. It's a family affair. If you've seen Pulse, it's not a family affair, but it is for me. And also, I just finished. I completely binged the sherry papini. My mom says sherry panini, but it's papini. The case. Like, her murder. It's not a murder. She, like, faked a kidnapping. And then we watch the. Like this. There's a show that comes out that's, like, not her, but, like, someone acting it. And then she comes out with her own story. And I'm like, girl, you're still being caught in lies. Like, what do you mean, tough? And I'm like, of course I'm a girl's girl. But I'm like, I don't believe you.

[Ali Riley]

Sherry. Sid has some advice.

[Sydney Leroux]

Sherry, Sherry, relax and just be honest.

[Ali Riley]

Well, before we go, it's time for Last Call.

[Sydney Leroux]

Our favorite part. Our favorite part.

[Ali Riley]

Yeah. Let's hear our question. Comments.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah, we need to get into it.

[Ali Riley]

Yeah, let's hear it.

[Sydney Leroux]

Let's hear it.

[C]

Hi, my name is Heather. I am from San Diego, California. I have been one of Angel City's biggest fans from day one since June is Pride Month, which means rainbows, everything, glitters everywhere, and, of course, extra excuses to celebrate love in all forms. Women's soccer has long been one of the strongest supporters of the LGBTQ community, and you two have been amazing allies. So in the spirit of both celebration and reflection, what does Pride Month mean to you personally as allies in a sport that embraces diversity so fiercely? If you could give a shout out to my wife Allison, that would be amazing. Thanks, guys.

[Sydney Leroux]

First of all, shout out to Allison.

[Ali Riley]

Shout out, Allison.

[Sydney Leroux]

Shout out to Allison right away. Love that you're from San Diego. But you're a true Angel City fan.

[Ali Riley]

Yes, yes.

[Sydney Leroux]

The Wave, they're playing really well right now, but let's just.

[Ali Riley]

But Angel City till we die.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah. Angel City till we die. Well, I always call Ali Ally Riley because that's just sense, you know? But I feel like, like, you love who you love, and there's nothing that anyone can do about that. And I think that it's so important now to be able to feel comfortable in loving who you love, whether you're in a heterosexual relationship or not. Like, having the power to, like, be able to be yourself is something that I will always stand behind.

[Ali Riley]

Yeah. And the truth is that people don't feel like they have that power and they're not supported. And that is why it's so important for us when we have this platform and that we haven't faced criticism and discrimination for our relationships. And so we feel like we have the energy and we want to stand up for what we believe in, even if we aren't a part of the LGBTQ community. And so I think any moment we can. We love to talk about how important PRIDE is to us. And obviously, June being Pride Month and having the Angel City Pride games, hopefully you were able to come out, because I think it really makes people feel welcome and included in our space. And then it's just a reminder that we all need to put even more effort to make sure that people feel that way in every single space. And I love just the rainbows and the fan everything. It is such a celebration. But there also has to be action as well, and especially now. I think, yeah, we have a long way to go in terms of making sure that LGBTQ + rights are not taken away when they definitely are threatened right now. So it's just something that's really important to us. But thank you for your message, and thank you for just being an Angel City fan and coming out with your wife. And, yeah, we hope that we can interact and meet you at a game.

[Sydney Leroux]

All of our friends are lesbians. Let's be honest. We love them. We love them. But, yeah, I would say that, like, coming to an Angel City game, being a part of the LGBTQIA plus community is probably, like, one of the most unreal, like, environments, because I just feel like everyone is so accepted, and that's, like, beautiful to see. We. We love that, and we hope to continue to push for more acceptance everywhere.

[Ali Riley]

And we are in July now, but that does not mean that Pride is over.

[Sydney Leroux]

Pride never ends.

[Ali Riley]

So keep wearing your merch, keep spreading awareness, and Keep fighting for everybody's rights to love whoever they love. Okay, well, we're lucky because it's not over. We are going to answer some fan questions for from the socials.

[Sydney Leroux]

Ooh.

[Ali Riley]

So, Sid, what's your favorite thing about me?

[Sydney Leroux]

My favorite thing about you is that I am, like, fully myself always. And I never feel uncomfortable. I think that, like, being around you, anyone who's around you feels like they can be their, like, complete, authentic self. And I just, like, you're my shoulder to cry on. You're like somebody I lean into all the time and someone, like, I completely trust, like, with my life and with my kids life. And I think that that's. I think that's, like, really hard to find, but, yeah, that's what I think of you.

[Ali Riley]

Oh, well, thank you. Yeah, I. I think my favorite thing about you is that similarly, when we have had such challenges in our lives, and that you always know what to say to make me laugh. And you know me so well, and you know when, like, something is off, and especially these last, like, I don't know, 12, 16 months, like, to have someone that just knows you that well, because you need a reminder. Like, you need perspective. You need a reminder that there is more to life than soccer, that I am enough even if I can't play. Like, you've just been so consistent with your messaging because you've been so loving, and I think that kind of, like, loyalty. We joke about you being terrible at texting back and answering your phone, but, like, the very, very deep level, the most important things that I've needed in my life, and, like, those. The worst, worst, worst period in my career and, like, the worst time for my family with the fires. You have just been everything I have needed in my life. And so, yeah, I just really, really appreciate you. You know what I need all the time.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah. I feel like we know each other so well. Like, I can look at you and be like, something's off. Yeah, I'm gonna have to, like, talk to her later. Something's off. I just. I just feel it.

[Ali Riley]

Yeah.

[Sydney Leroux]

And, like, that's. I think that's, like, what we like to do for each other. Just, like, help us help each other through, like, the really shitty times and then really enjoy the good ones.

[Ali Riley]

Yeah. And we don't need to. We don't like, doing the same things. We don't need to see each other every day. Like, it's more.

[Sydney Leroux]

We talk every day.

[Ali Riley]

We talk every day, but we don't need to, like, socialize, surface level all the Time. Yeah, but, like, if we need each other, we're there.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah. 100.

[Ali Riley]

And we do like to have a good time.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah, we do.

[Ali Riley]

I think this is kind of easy. I think. Who would survive longer on Naked and Afraid and why you?

[Sydney Leroux]

I'm not a camper. I'm not a, like, build a fire type galaxy. Remember when, like, we talk about, like, the zombie apocalypse, I would just, like, just bite me and I will be a zombie because I just can't deal with the stress.

[Ali Riley]

Like, you could be naked, but as.

[Sydney Leroux]

Soon as you're afraid, I'm. I'm a naked person.

[Ali Riley]

But, like, there's no naked and afraid. You're like, why am I doing this if I'm afraid?

[Sydney Leroux]

Right. I'll be naked, but I'm not going to be afraid.

[Ali Riley]

Exactly. Exactly. I. Yeah. I don't know if you'll find either of those. No, I don't know if you'll find either of us on those types of shows.

[Sydney Leroux]

You're a Nike person too, though.

[Ali Riley]

Yeah, but I don't know if I would do Naked and Afraid. I'd rather do Dancing with the Stars naked. Yes. That's a new one that we are coming out with.

[Sydney Leroux]

Just a nice little.

[Ali Riley]

Just the kicks and the twists.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah.

[Ali Riley]

Give the people what they want.

[Sydney Leroux]

Of course. Of course. For sure.

[Ali Riley]

Well, thank you for sticking with us.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yes.

[Ali Riley]

For another wild ride on the BFFR show.

[Sydney Leroux]

We love it.

[Ali Riley]

Make sure you're subscribed. Spotify, Apple, podcasts, YouTube, five stars. Raider review.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah, don't be mean, though, because I've been seeing some on Facebook that I'm not really happy with.

[Ali Riley]

You've been on Facebook?

[Sydney Leroux]

I know, because I like Facebook Marketplace.

[Ali Riley]

Oh, of course. If it's shopping related, I do like.

[Sydney Leroux]

Facebook Marketplace for the house.

[Ali Riley]

Well, we really are putting out bonus content now, so don't forget to check out the YouTube page. Check out Instagram. You know, you followed us for that original content in the beginning.

[Sydney Leroux]

Yeah.

[Ali Riley]

We're coming back with more. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And keep sending us your questions via the BFFR hotline. 8txt. BFFR.

[Sydney Leroux]

Chicken. What do you have to say? What do you have to say to the people?

[Ali Riley]

Chickens. Chickens. Done with us.

[Sydney Leroux]

Give us five stars. Oh.

[Ali Riley]

See you next Monday.

[Sydney Leroux]

Chicken.

[Ali Riley]

Language.