Cody Sanchez (0:00)

If it feels like it's hard to you right now, like everything's more expensive, everybody's buying houses, but you can't. It's not working like you thought it was going to work. You feel behind compared to your peers or you just don't understand what the future is going to hold because what you've built to date hasn't been enough. This episode is for you. I'm going to talk about why you're not crazy. It is really just hard out there. And I'm going to tell you all the stats so at least you can stand on solid ground knowing that you're going to have an uphill climb. And then I'm going to talk about what it's going to take for you to to the next level of the game because it's not going to be anything like what people tell you today. This is me raw in this podcast. I'm going through a bunch of things right now, but I want to have a conversation with you because I think it's really important today. This is the Big Deal podcast and I'm Cody Sanchez. It is not just in your mind. You are not crazy. It is more expensive for you than it is for any other generation. Right now, credit card debt has hit a record $1.28 trillion trillion dollars. 49% of people cannot afford their rent or to buy a house today. Most of us are sitting here trying to figure it out when they told us learn to code, that hasn't turned out well. Meanwhile, electricians are making like a hundred bucks an hour. And we went and got these grad degrees that have on average $76,000 in student debt. And oh, by the way, they're non forgivable, meaning that debt will follow you around for the rest of your life. Not to mention, look at this video. And if you can't see it right now, this is what it is. It's how all the boomers told us that we were lazy little shits that bought too much avocado toast and had lattes. And it turns out they were full of shit because look at how much more expensive it is to buy a house for us than them. Back when boomers were buying houses, it was four years of salary on average. You know what it is today? 12. 12 years. I don't know how much avocado toast you eat, but I don't think that's sufficient. You know, and I was thinking about that today because we're sitting here this week and I'm not a geopolitical expert. I have no idea if we should have gone to war with this country or that country. What I do know is that we said, hey, government, we can't pay rent. We can't buy homes. Remember, 49% of us can't. And government said, best we can do, bomb Iran. What the fuck? You know, it's actually crazy. If you were to go and look, I will pull this up for you because it's out of control. If you were to look, go to Grok on Twitter. That's. That's Twitter's AI. And you were to ask it how much money we have spent in the Middle east on wars, the answer would be $8 trillion. That's 100x the annual fee. Federal spending on roads and bridges. So you're right. They, the collective, they pick whichever politician you want to are using your tax dollars to do things that will never touch you in the U.S. like, imagine how affordable groceries would be for the average person if we had spent things on, I don't know, maybe making it easier for us to farm. I saw this beautiful thing where in like, as only Europeans do, really, but in Europe, they bought every household six chickens and they eviscerated the egg industry overnight. Like, nobody needed the egg industry overnight because you're allowed to have these chickens and these coops and. And it turns out you gave extras, so you gave them to your neighbors. And of course this wouldn't work in super urban centers, but like, really, we can drop $120 million on a bomb, but we can't buy Americans some chickens. So I just want you guys to know it is actually really hard out there. And then I saw this other thing today that I want to read to you because I was like, tell me if this hits you in the gut like it did for me. Employee goes, it looks like we made $1.3 billion this year. Boss goes, that's terrible news. Employee goes, that's a lot of money. Why is that terrible news? Boss goes, because last year we also made $1.3 billion. An employee goes, all right, I forgot. It's not enough to make an insane amount of money. We also have to make more than than we used to. Boss goes, that's right. And simply paying our executive seven figure salaries won't cut it. We need more. Employee goes, all right, I guess we could try making our product better to sell more. Boss goes, sounds expensive. Employee goes, how about we create some new products to sell? Boss goes, that's going to take forever. I need an immediate solution I can implement right now, something that Makes me look really good. Takes basically zero effort. Employee goes, oh, please, no. And boss goes, layoffs. And I just kind of think that that's what's happening in this world. So right now, if you feel like nobody's hiring you, it's probably not your CV is bad. It's that most people hire friends and relatives and people they know and colleagues. And they get jobs based on handshakes and looking each other in the eye. And if you're not actually out there talking to somebody direct, you're probably not going to make it. I was looking at some stories about people. For instance, there's a guy yesterday, MBA from Wharton, nice house in the suburbs. He was a big company employee his whole life, you know, like a big, huge corporation. He was laid off six months ago, and he kept getting to the final round, and he's 54 years old. Like, that is rough. It's rough right now. And I don't think. I'm not a pessimist. I don't think this is going to be this way forever. But I do think that we need to be honest about what's happening around us, that we have to normalize that. If you want to win, you have to be almost a little bit delusional, that you have to do things most people won't. You have to believe you're the one. You have to go after it relentlessly. You have to focus so intently on the few things you want, as opposed to spray, like the system taught you to apply to a thousand places, to use, indeed everywhere, to go to college and hope that somehow somebody picks you. No, it's. It's so hard, but it's so true. Nobody will ever pick you. No one is coming to save you. No one is coming to pick you. You have to introduce yourself. And if you don't introduce yourself, you're just not going to get ahead. And I was looking at this, you know, today I did this post talking about how it's kind of not fair that we're spending all this money on other people in other countries. And right here, your tax dollars that you work so hard on, which, listen, it's not that, like, I'm like, oh, fuck everybody who's not an American. That's. That's not true. I'm just saying you didn't sign up to give away your life force, AKA your time that you trade for a salary to give it to everybody else. When you're not doing so great, when you're doing good. When the average American, when 50% of Americans can afford rent and a house and afford groceries. Awesome. Let's help a brother out. In the meantime, why do we say, take care of yourself? Why do we say, you can't pour from an empty cup? Because you can't. If you guys aren't doing okay, then everything else, the world can't be getting more than you can. I think about this often. Like, how many once in a lifetime things do we got to go through, you know, now we have AI coming, which is something totally different. Now we have, you know, a, a 50 year mortgage is basically what they've given us as, as a solution. When we all know that AI is going to disrupt a lot of jobs in the next five years. So it's kind of like, all right, 50 years, but I have no idea what's going to happen in the next five. I don't know if you've noticed it, but I certainly have. I travel all over the country a lot right now, and I've sort of seen it in like grocery stores and airports and people walking down the street and government buildings. Everybody looks a little drained, right? Everybody looks a little worn out. And I think that is a warning sign of how hard it has been in many ways for many people. And I just want you to know, I think there's three answers to this only. And the first answer is, is that you can never quit. That, like, once you figure out what you want out of life, the secret is just keep going until you figure it out. Because usually the thing you want is right on the other side of the time that you quit, gave up, stopped too early. And I know this sounds like hustle porn, like, Cody, nobody can afford houses. Just don't quit. I'm sorry, there's not a better answer than that. The first and best answer is prove that you are a person that doesn't quit. Because those are the type of people that get hired, that get money from investors, that get more opportunity, that things get attracted to them. That's just it. Period. End of story. Like, if you go into an interview and you don't say to them, I am the type of person that is so relentless that if you don't hire for me for this job, I'm going to keep bothering you. Like, I am meant to come do this thing. Like, I need you to have an unreasonable amount of belief in yourself. Not that you can achieve anything, you don't even have to go that far, but that you just, you're a dog on a bone, you know, you're. You're that pit bull that grabs and locks on and won't let go. And every single successful person I've ever met has that. They are just a dog on a bone, unapologetic for the fact that they will not quit. They will not let up. And that has to be you. And the second thing that I've realized is you have to. You have to lock in this year. You're going to have more distractions than you've ever had in your entire life. And you're gonna have to figure out, like, one or two things you can focus on per day, where at the end of that day, you feel like you made it. Every. Almost every morning, I call my president, Mark, and I have a shit ton. And he has a shit ton of activities. And I go, hey, okay, here's what I'm working on. But if I get these two things done today, today was a win. How about you? And he goes, yeah, yeah, these are my two. We're like people with really big jobs, but we know every day there are the crucial two. And we kind of kill anything that isn't that. Because the world will try to take your attention, and it can seem rude. You know, people come up to me sometimes. They're like, hey, can I talk to you about this? I'm like, not right now. No, actually. Or they'll say, hey, can I do this? Can I have your phone? Can I? And I go, no, not right now. I'm working on something else. It is that relentless. Because maybe, maybe in the past, when everything wasn't so crazy, you could just get by by being a personality guy. You know, you could be like, that guy's nice. So it just, like, he just nices his way through stuff. That could be enough, but I don't think it's enough anymore. You're gonna actually have to kill distractions. You're gonna actually have to set boundaries and not, like, fake. With all due respect, I am also millennial. Not, like, fake millennial boundaries. Like, I don't work or answer my email after five. Good fucking luck. Good luck. I mean, I love disconnecting. I'm like a. I tell pretty much everybody on my team always, unless we have something going on. I go, I work all weekend. You can ignore me. If I really need something from you, I'll text you. But, like, you can ignore me in slack on the weekends. Like, just ignore me. You can ignore me usually after work, but you should probably check it and, like, listen. Like, I'm gonna get raised for this on the Internet, but it's just true. You're going to have to lock in, work incredibly hard, set boundaries, but important ones that allow you to focus on the things that work. You know what's crazy? According to the Federal Reserve, nearly 40% of Americans wouldn't be able to cover a 400 emergency expense without borrowing or selling something. So when you worry about why making it feels impossible in the US right now, you're not being dramatic, you're actually being honest. Wages haven't kept pace with costs, attention's fractured, and the old playbook, you know, work hard, get ahead, feels slower every year. So here's what's changed. Leverage now lives online. And the people building real momentum, they aren't chasing virality, they're building own audiences. This is why this episode is sponsored by Beehive. Beehive is the all in one platform to publish, grow and monetize your newsletter. 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You ask questions over time and most people have a maybe a three to one talk to listen ratio. You know, my mom always said God gave you two ears so you could listen more than you talk. I never listened to her about that, but that's what she said. But most people actually don't ask enough questions. And I think that is going to be the key today. What should I really work on? What matters? Where is my curiosity driving? Because do you think you're gonna be able to win if you're like a kind of curious person? I mean, maybe this is the last one. Like if I will take a confident executor with a sprinkle of delusion over almost anybody else, the Entire game is almost all confidence. I love that little clip from Marty supreme where she's like, what if you fail? And he says, I don't even allow that kind of thought to enter my reality.