Podcast Summary: “Why Women Lose Respect for Weak Men”

Biohack-it with Iman Hasan
Guest: Sadia Khan (Sadia Psychology)
Release Date: January 29, 2026

Overview

In this episode of Biohack-it, host Iman Hasan sits down with Sadia Khan, the viral and controversial psychology content creator known for her candid takes on modern relationships, high-value men and women, gender dynamics, and cultural contrasts between East and West. They dive deep into viral controversies, Sadia’s personal journey, and her unfiltered opinions on why women lose respect for "weak" men, redefining what makes a relationship thrive and the cultural forces shaping women’s (and men’s) expectations.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Setting the Record Straight: Online Controversy & Reputation (02:26—11:10)

• Viral Clip & Legal Issues:
  • Sadia addresses a viral, damaging audio clip wrongly interpreted as evidence of her being with a married man. After legal review, she explains the clip was a distorted, years-old private conversation taken out of context and weaponized for online clout.
  • Quote: “The venom that you must have to hold onto that, snip it, and then give it to online just to destroy somebody's reputation and career… is a very common trait.” (04:13, Sadia)
• Privacy & Public Persona:
  • Sadia emphasizes why she keeps her private life, marriage, and family completely offline to shield them from online hostility.
  • Reflects on the dangers of mixing personal and professional: “I don't talk about [my family]...because they didn't sign up for any of this.” (09:25, Sadia)
• High-Value Content vs. Qualifications:
  • Explains her role as an educator and therapist, and why her expertise comes from both global client experience and academic background (addressed later at 71:14–73:00).

2. Cultural Identity & Value Systems (11:10–13:10; 63:06–66:39)

• Both Iman and Sadia reflect on their South Asian and Eastern heritage, discussing how values of collectivism, nurturing, and community influence their approach to life and relationships.
  • Sadia: “Happiness is an outcome of being really useful as a man. In the western world, they chase happiness first.” (55:17, Sadia)
• Sadia maintains pride in her background, pushing back on the Western narrative:
  • “I'm so glad I'm not Western. I'm so proud to be Eastern.” (00:21, Sadia)
  • Iman adds: “We always gravitate to what's familiar to us. Right. And so that sense of home is what I've been searching for.” (45:48, Iman)

3. Modern Dating Problems & Social Media’s Impact (14:14–15:22)

• Social networks and dating apps have warped expectations:
  • “Similarity feels like settling, when really, it’s exactly what they should be going for...Now they're thinking, I need a 10 out of 10 Instagram baddie.” (14:14, Sadia)

4. Defining ‘High-Value’ Men & Women (15:22–22:23, 33:22–35:30, 35:47–39:35)

• High-Value Women:
  • Self-care, selectivity in partners, personal achievement, and reciprocity.
  • “If you are unable to reject men that are bad for you, you cannot be high value… the main thing is you give as good as you get.” (15:34, Sadia)
• High-Value Men:
  • Self-control, problem-solving, decisive leadership, and provider mentality—but not in a way that breeds “submission” when paired with the wrong woman.
  • “If he's not a good decision maker, can't solve any problems, and has zero self control, he's just a mess.” (18:33, Sadia)

5. Gender Roles & Submission vs. Partnership (20:36–24:00)

• Eastern upbringing instills mutual roles; nurturing isn't shameful; partnership means delegation, not submission.
  • “Really intelligent high-value women, they're not submissive. They just know when to delegate and there's a big difference.” (22:23, Sadia)
• Submission should be a natural outcome of a man’s good leadership, not a blanket expectation.

6. Why Women Lose Respect for Weak Men (24:47–29:02)

• Therapy and social media have promoted hyper-feminized, emotionally indulgent men (often termed “soy boys”), which paradoxically turn off women.
  • “They don’t want a man that’s going to sit there and cry about his dad…they want to know: what are you going to do about it?” (25:11, Sadia)
  • Dominance is mischaracterized but, when healthy, is the trait women most crave in men:
    • “Number one trait that they’re craving in a man is dominance...not abuse, just he’s into you, initiating, and setting a direction.” (27:10, Sadia)

7. Family Dynamics & Loyalty (29:02–36:50)

• Brooklyn Beckham case: Is loyalty to spouse “dominance,” or does it slide into manipulation/submission?
  • “If you can't stand up to your wife, or your mom, you're just a bitch.” (32:37, Sadia)
• Both argue true strength is in being able to balance loyalty, not being “brainwashed” by either side.

8. The Importance of Male Intelligence & Unmanipulability (35:47–39:35)

• Women, consciously or unconsciously, test men’s boundaries. When a man can’t “catch” manipulation, he loses respect.
  • “There’s only one thing all women want, and that is a man that they can never manipulate.” (35:51, Sadia)

9. Provider vs. Protector: What Matters More? (39:35–41:21)

• While intelligence and awareness are important, provider status still wins out for women seeking to start a family.

10. Safe Nervous Systems, Emotional Regulation, & Honesty (43:51–47:44)

• Both women reflect on relationships where emotional safety, calmness, and reliability are more valuable than “fireworks.”
  • “As a regulated woman, you want to look for a man that soothes your nervous system, makes you feel safe.” (43:55, Iman)

11. Financial Security, Ambition, and Fair Gender Expectations (48:03–49:51)

• Sadia and Iman push back on the idea that wanting financial security is “materialistic” for women.
  • “We shouldn’t be shaming women for thinking financial security and stability is a bad thing.” (48:48, Iman)

12. The Role of Children and Family Fulfillment (50:32–60:43)

• “You simply cannot keep providing when pregnant, kids, everything. It’s just too much for a woman...” (39:45, Sadia)
• While not all women need children to feel fulfilled, Sadia sees unconditional love for children as a unique kind of purpose, more stable than that from partners.

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

On Viral Attacks and Cancel Culture

• “There's a loud segment of society that's waiting for the downfall and would try and engineer it so that they can try and destroy you as much as they can.” (05:05, Sadia)
• “You saved my marriage… but you're just a whore.” (69:12, Sadia, reflecting on ungratefulness of the online mob)

Why Women Lose Respect for Weak Men

• “If I can manipulate you, anyone can manipulate you. You're just a bitch.” (32:37, Sadia)
• “Submission should be a natural outcome of his good decision making…but wherever he can’t make the good decisions, she actually has to step up.” (23:05, Sadia)

Cultural Clash

• “I'm so glad I'm not Western. I'm so proud to be Eastern.” (00:21, Sadia)

On the Role of Dominance

• “Dominance is seen as an ugly word when really it's what women truly respond to.” (28:32, Sadia)
• “We almost would rather a dominant strong man than a submissive weak man.” (28:57, Sadia)

Dating in the Age of Social Media

• “They’ve got these standards that they’ve kind of got from Instagram and TikTok...applying it to their little world, which just simply doesn’t apply.” (14:14, Sadia)

Attraction, Admiration, Adoration

• “Go for attraction. Then you have admire who he is, and then he shows you some love and adoration back.” (87:47, Sadia)
• “If you bypass attraction and think: he treats me well, so kind to me… the intimacy will drop, and you almost become like brother and sister.” (87:51, Sadia)

On Generational Gender Differences

• “Men will get to 70 and still think: ‘Where do I meet women?’” (51:24, Sadia)

Important Timestamps by Topic

| Time | Topic | |-------------|--------------------------------------------------------------------------| | 02:26–11:10 | Online controversy, privacy, and the viral audio clip | | 14:14 | How social media distorts dating expectations | | 15:34 | What is a “high-value woman?”/self-selection | | 18:33 | What defines a “high-value man?” | | 20:36–24:00 | Gender roles—provider, nurturer, partnership vs. submission | | 24:47–29:02 | Weak men, the consequences, “soy boys,” and why women seek dominance | | 29:02–36:50 | Family loyalty, Brooklyn Beckham, and cultural contrasts on family roles | | 35:47–39:35 | Women test men’s intelligence/manipulation and respect | | 39:45 | Provider vs. intelligence: what matters more? | | 43:51–47:44 | Emotional safety and 'stable' relationships—what Iman/Sadia value | | 50:32–60:43 | Children, family structure, and women's fulfillment | | 71:14–73:00 | Credentials, the “Sadia Psychology” brand, and online attacks | | 87:47–89:46 | Three essential “must-haves” for women choosing partners |

Practical Relationship Advice for Women (87:47–89:46)

• Find physical attraction: Don’t bypass sexual chemistry—it builds intimacy and connection.
• Admiration is critical: Admire your partner for something—be it success, humor, or character.
• Adoration from your partner: Your partner should express genuine appreciation and love. This fosters security and reduces anxiety.
• These three ebb and flow over time, but solid foundations endure.

Closing Thoughts

Iman closes the episode reflecting on how direct and refreshingly honest she found Sadia, emphasizing the Biohack-it mission: to be curious, challenge viral assumptions, and weigh all perspectives through personal conversation. Sadia’s advice ultimately centers on honest self-assessment (for both men and women), cultural wisdom, and resisting online groupthink.

Overall Tone

Unfiltered, culturally rooted, candid, and pragmatic. Both women blend personal experience, psychology, and cultural perspective—balancing vulnerability with outspoken clarity.

Episode Recommended For:
Anyone interested in the intersection of modern relationships, cultural values, gender dynamics, and personal development. Especially relevant for women navigating dating, marriage, and self-actualization in a noisy, online-first world.