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Yeah, I think the most important thing is the flexibility with these strategies. So it's not when adjusting to a condition like ms, which is progressive and it changes and as the years progress, the condition progresses and also the people change. We change. We all change. We have different priorities in life. Yeah, we enjoy different things at different stages. So it is important to have almost a toolbox of different strategies and different techniques and then draw on those and be able to just pick and choose which one serves you best at the time. What we usually tend to do, we all do that. We have a couple of things that their favorite things and we go for them. So we feel upset, we play video games and this is what makes us feel better. So every time we feel upset we play video games. But that's responsible or that coping strategy, it's useful, but it's not always useful. So it's, it's important to have this kind of flexibility. And again, sorry, going back to my, my research because I think people come with the best idea. So just what people say. So again, kind of within the interviews when we're talking about what, what they found helpful was kind of the sense of people were doing kind of a couple of things. So they were either scaling back on what they were doing, so they might be, I don't know, they were loving attending their garden and then maybe they had someone helping them with a bit more heavy digging type of stuff and they were kind of planting because they found that easier. So they kind of scaling back what they were doing. So they were still doing the things that they always enjoyed but they were doing them in a different way, in a more scaled back way, or they were adapting the kind of things they like. So if they like kind of hosting family dinners, they stop hosting family dinners. But they were going to someone, you know, someone else from the family was taking that on. So they were still doing that. So they were finding other ways to. Yeah, to still kind of do things that they enjoy, but in a different way. So it's either scaling back or adapting. And they were kind of like a back and forth of this. And what was interesting was that people who were able to either scale back or adopt and then move through different strategies, they seem to feel more kind of satisfied with their life and more kind of happy with how things are, are. And there were some other people who were kind of feeling like, I don't know, there's nothing I can do, I can't think of anything I can do anymore. And they were kind of disengaged of. Disengaged completely from, from the process. And what we found again in the research is that people who. It was really helpful. The, the environment people were in was also helpful. We, we do talk about the individuals and what individuals can do, but people's environment is so important. So if you have an environment where you have family members or friends who are helping you with this kind of flexibility, giving you ideas, supporting you with the decisions you are making, it's so much easier to identify the strategies that work for you and also be flexible with those strategies compared to if you, yeah, your environment is either not helpful or you don't have as many kind of links with families and family, family and friends. So. And then kind of going to the, the identity part that you mentioned, which is very, very important of kind of, because that comes quite a lot in a lot of the work that I've done, either in interviews or in group sessions I had with people with progressive ms, this kind of sense of identity, you almost say you lose it. You feel like you're losing it. And one important thing that people could do is to identify their core value, what is really important for them. So for example, if someone is the breadwinner, the main, the main bread breadwinner of the family, their value of course, is not, I am the one who makes money. I'm the money. It's not, it's not the money. The, the, the real thing, the kind of, the essence of, of, of what is important them, the essence might be that they like providing security to the family or they like, this is a way to show love to the family because they love the families. Kind of. That's, that's the thing that's how they express the law. So identifying what is that core and what is that the important thing for them and then trying to find other ways. So what other ways you can find to provide the security to your family that doesn't involve you making, you know, the main salary in the household? And that usually helps when you identify really what is important for you and then finding other ways to satisfy that and then that helps with the sense of identity. So it's still you, the things that are important to you, they're still important to you and you're still. Your actions are aligned with this. The things that are important to you, but you have found different ways to satisfy those. Yeah. Core values that you have, your personal values.