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We're keeping up to date on what's going on around the country, around the world. We'll let you know when the President supposed to speak at some point today. And we are finding out what the response is going to be from what could be a reigniting of the war in Iran. But war is nothing new. To my next guest, he's Angelo AJ Pascuti. Marine veteran, speaker of an author of a brand new book called Dark Horse Harnessing the Hidden Potential in War and in Life. Angelo, welcome.
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Thank you so much, Brian for having me.
B
So I mean it's a big book about your life. You would think you were like 60 years old but you joined the military right after.
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Yes, sir. Yes. So I was a senior in high school when 911 happened. Technically I was 16 at the time. Had to wait 3 weeks before I could talk to a recruiter. Was influenced by a high school history teacher who was also a Marine who introduced me to my first recruiter and then joined right afterwards and then shipped off right after I graduated high school.
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Why the Marines?
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You know, they were the toughest I saw. You know, I didn't know the Marine Corps had jobs inside of it. I thought all of the Marine Corps was just infantry. And you know, as a young man who had, you know, ideas of self doubt and self efficacy issues, I thought that why not try to climb the highest mountain I could.
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And how'd it go?
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You know, it went well. I struggled at first a lot, as anybody does. Parris Island, San Diego. So Marine Corps Recruit Depot in San Diego. Cause I'm from Northern California originally and stepped into that and you know, was able to find my footing eventually. But you know, what I wanted to write inside of the book itself was that failure is often the first part of the first step in success. And so I write a lot of my struggles in there to be able to be open to young men and young women who think that failure is final for them. And so I wrote about that So,
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I mean, you had two active wars going on shortly after you had Afghanistan within months, and then you had Iraq. They were ramping up for Iraq right after. What was your experience?
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So my experience was when I went into boot camp, there was kind of rumbling. So I went into boot camp in July of 2002 so that we knew that Afghanistan was going on and the rumblings of Iraq began. But we're pretty isolated when we go to boot camp. And then right after that, I graduated the School of Infantry in December of 2002, arrived to my first unit in January of 2003, and shipped off to Kuwait three weeks later.
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And then from Kuwait, you were part of the invasion.
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I was. I was 18 years old. It was a rifleman in 3rd Battalion 5th Marines. Where the book gets its name is Dark Horse. So it's kind of a double entendre. Dark Horse is the call sign for 3rd Battalion, 5th Marines out of Camp Pendleton. And also Dark Horse is for anyone who feels underestimated, who thinks a little of themselves and kind of a challenger, that people may not expect something.
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So what did you learn in the battle? We know about the Thunder run with the 3rd Infantry. Where were you guys?
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So we run up Route 1. Our biggest day of fighting was in a place called Diwania, or a little north of Diwania. It was a Republican Guard training camp. And so also what we had, Fedayeen, was their kind of.
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We didn't know anything about Saddam Fedayeen. Right. That was bad intel, not knowing that they had guys in plain clothes were going to take you out.
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And that confuses everyone because look at that time frame. We're looking for a conventional military. And so then we're fighting a conventional military. This is the first time that's exactly
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first person Gulf War.
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Exactly correct. And so then all of a sudden we see these guys who are in, you know, non standard uniforms who are fighting us. And it started the. The very beginnings of what would eventually become the insurgency. But, you know, the Marine Corps, you know, we fought 2003. It was a maneuver warfare, fast paced, striking the enemy so that to prevent their ability to make war. And that was war on our terms.
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What was the first. What was the big adjustment from training to actual war?
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The big adjustment for me, I think, was the gravity of the situation. So training, you know, there is a level of, you know, understanding of what could be. And then all of a sudden, once that first bullet snaps by your head, there's this realization of, like, this is not a game anymore. And the stakes are pretty real. And I was pretty honest in the book itself. I made a lot of mistakes. Very. I tripped over my own rifle, jammed my rifle with mud, and there's chaos and missiles and all kinds of things going on. And I'm trying to figure myself out. I was only steadied because of a very strong team leader at the timeframe. And really what I saw through Dark Horse and the thread that I pull through it is that people, you know, that we were all in this together, right. No one was coming to save us. And so people looked to be able to help carry my load physically, emotionally, and mentally until I could carry it myself.
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How long until you could. And how great is it to have a leader that doesn't judge, just fixes?
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Right, that's exactly correct. I really wanted to be able to emphasize that inside of the book. How long did I feel that, you know, I'm still waiting on that to happen, you know, to. To feel confident in every decision that we make. And that's really what I wanted to do, is inspire young men and women to. To recognize that, you know, if you're. If you're afraid, right. If you're uncomfortable, you're growing, and to be able to push into that. You know, I eventually moved over into the sniper program as soon as we moved back to Camp Pendleton after one and started to move through, you know, a sniper indoc and kind becoming a sniper and struggled with that as well. And so there's no secrets that I have left in, you know, I can't. There's nothing left to hide. You know, I've kind of written all of my failures, but really as a purpose to show people that progress is part of it.
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And what did you think about the operation in particular and your role as a sniper? Well, because you're killing terrorists.
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Yes, yes. So specifically.
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So is it gratifying or is it also taxing?
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So the answer to both is yes. So there is a humanity side that you understand that we are out there and we are killing other human beings. The hard part for us is we also do want to do our job well. The way that we look as ourselves, as snipers is, yes, we have a bolt rifle. Yes, we have eyes and ears, and we can see further and touch farther than a lot of the conventional infantry. We saw ourselves as protectors. So since we could reach further than conventional infantry could, what we wanted to do was be able to be angels on their shoulders effectively. So we went into the Battle of Fallujah. I was a sniper in training in a Sniper platoon during the Battle of Fallujah, and then eventually after that battle, became a sniper, like a school trained sniper.
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So was it amazing? It's amazing for me, as an outsider, how underappreciated the military was in adjusting to the battlefield. We also avoid urban warfare. Well, it happened, yes. We gotta take this town. Well, how do you do that? You cordoned off the whole thing. You gave people ID cards, you found out who they were, and then you found out who the terrorists were. That's a difficult taxing. People's lives were lost. I mean, it's amazing what you guys learned on the fly, how you adjusted. I think it's totally underappreciated.
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I do appreciate that. You know, thank you for saying that. Really, what we come back to the Marine Corps is it is we are the sum of all of our parts. And we come together. Every single person is integral to making sure that, specifically with Fallujah, that Fallujah happened the way that it did. No person was more important than the other, and the only thing that mattered was the man and woman to your left and right. And that really carries us through. So writing a book, you know, how do you write a memoir without sounding like a narcissist? What we tried to do with Dark Horse was use my story as a through line to tell all of these individual Marine stories through the entirety of the book.
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Were you taking notes at the time?
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So instead of taking notes. So my mother is a plein air, pastel and oil painter. And so I grew up with kind of an artistic background. So instead of writing normal letters like, hey, mom, my feet smell, I'm hungry. I wrote stories of what I witnessed along the way and being a good mom. What she did, she saved all of my letters. And I've included the majority of my letters from combat in the book. And so you can actually see where I'm at in a mental snapshot at 18 years old in OIF 1, 20 years old in Fallujah, and then 21 on my third tour in Iraq.
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And what do you think about the operation overall?
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So overall, I think what happened was we. In some aspects, what we did was the dog caught the car. Right? We did everything that we needed to do to be able to have a military victory. And then I think what happens is I think we kind of lost the plot. At some point. It became about nation building, and we ended up kind of being mired into a place where we were no longer fighting the war on our terms. We were fighting it on other people's
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Terms insurgency, yes, absolutely. Having to push back. But no, it also is underappreciated because the economy collapsed right after was the surge. Yeah, we had 2008, we had the market crash. But prior to that, despite all the pushback, General Keane, David Petraeus, a lot of other MVPs came up with a plan. George Bush greenlighted it and even lost a lot of his party in doing it to combine with the tribes and give them back their country. And it worked to the point where Barack Obama basically said, why do we even have any troops there? I promised to end this war, let's just pull everyone out. Which ended up being a mistake because in comes ISIS afterwards. But having said that, do you find that people just wanna say, oh, the Iraq war was a mistake and they don't understand the victories that were there and that they've had, I don't know, 15 elections since.
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Correct. So that's a fantastic question. I write about that as a young man sitting at, you know, the idea for me is democracy. What we wanted to do was provide a fledgling country who was with an autocratic dictator. We wanted to give them the opportunity at democracy. What I always say is that any form of revolution has to be, you know, born from within. The people have to want it and they have to earn it. We provided the stability. I write a letter in there in 2005, where I'm sitting, I'm sleeping in the election, or in the first election site in Iraq in 40 years, famously
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had their fingers up in the air.
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That's exactly correct. And the gravity was not lost on me as a 20 year old. What we were fighting for, what we felt we were dying for, was the opportunity for democracy. At that point, it becomes Iraq's and the Iraqi people's decision of how they want to go. That was our job, was to provide them the space. And it was up to them to be able to decide where they want.
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And they're doing that now. And now they have a situation where we have a presence there in the area and there's no longer Saddam Hussein. When people want to run down the Iraq war, go ahead. But when people say things like stupid war, I think about the people that fought it. And I just ask you go back
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to that time, right?
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Go back to 91 and the criticism on Bush 41 for not finishing the job and Bush 43 finishes the job and they say, great. And all of a sudden the insurgency happens. They go, well, this whole thing was a mistake. And then after it, you can't have it. Every way. And then you gotta say, what if we did leave Saddam Hussein in peril? What if we did relieve all the sanctions? Do you think that he would have just wilted into the, into the woodwork? No, he would have been the menace of the Middle east and we would have had two crazy terroristic powers instead of just one.
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Yes.
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Meaning Iran being the other.
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In 1991, Saddam's military was the fourth largest military in the world, you know, backed largely by the Soviet Union as far as the weapons systems. And so for me, what I've been able to study through a lot of my own historical research is, you know, Desert Storm was a huge success because that was the right type of enemy for the right type of military that the United States had at that time frame. We had professionalized our military since the ending of Vietnam. And 1991 was this perfect opportunity for us to be able to overthrow within four days or 96 hours, take down the fourth largest military in the world and pacify them for a very, very long time. And then, yes, eventually this thing starts to percolate and you know, instability is something that we as a nation like to fight. We want to be able to provide an opportunity again for democracy. You know, Iraq is, when we look back on it, it's always easy to look back on with, you know, rose colored glasses or with the, you know, the clarity of when you're in the situation. You know, again, I was a young man, I was a lance corporal, E3, you know, and all of these things. I was really just trying to be able to save my friends lives and get out of it alive myself. As we went into Fallujah. You know, there's an old saying that as soon as the first bullet passes by your head, politics goes out the window. And you know, I write a lot about that in this book. A friend of mine said this book is deeply, deeply political. It's nonpartisan. What I do is I show the world that through my experience as a young man fighting for democracy, fighting for his country. You know, I've read a lot of your work and specifically one of the books that I enjoyed the most was on the Secret six. Right. Nathan Hale. Right. You know, my only regret is that I have but one life to give to my country. The majority of the Americans who join the United States military believe that and they want that and they will that and they're very proud to bring that forward to defend the values that the United States carries forward with American home shield.
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Right. So what leadership lessons did you learn? Now? You said you're always a learning progress. I understand that the humility is important, but you've learned a lot, right?
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Yes.
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And you're still young. You're still. How old are you?
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I'm 41.
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41. So what did you take out of that? Knowing. Putting your life on the line most of the four or five years. Right.
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So I ended up doing 21 years inside of the service itself, but in a hot war. How long until 2000. My last combat diploma was 2014. I moved into special operations at that time frame in Afghanistan and North Africa. What I learned was that for me, learning has to be central to your core. You have to be able to teach an old dog new tricks. But the core message inside of Dark Horse is make them better than you. Here's what I want people to take from the book. I want them to understand young Americans who suffer from their own ideas of self efficacy. First, you have to be able to do hard things. If you're uncomfortable, you're growing. Second is that failure is often the first step to success. And the third thing is that when you achieve your own individual success, whatever that looks like in any walk of life, the job now, your obligation is to turn around and make the next generation better than you. I tell people all the time, if you want to know what I learned over 21 years of service, the very last page of the book is called Letter to the Leader. And I write an open letter to anybody who wants to be a leader from any walk of life. If you want to know how I learned that or what I did to be able to learn that lesson, those are in the pages of the book itself.
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Right. And by the way, Angelo A. Couldn't be. You're all Italian, right?
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Oh, super Italian.
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I'm half Italian. Angelo AG Pescutti.
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Yes, sir.
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Okay, I got it right. Marine veteran, speaker and author of a brand new book, Dark Horse Harnessing Hidden Potential in War and in Life. Just let me bring it to today before we go. What would you like to see happen in Iran? Knowing so many of your people that you serve with were killed by EFPs as well as the insurgency, would they help finance and fuel.
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Yes, Great question. You know, I sat and I had a long conversation with Sean Ryan about this. We talked for eight and a half hours and he Asked a lot of these things.
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Eight and a half hours.
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Yes, sir.
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Is that all online on the podcast?
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It is. It is. And so you kind of get to understand, here's what I say as a service member, is that the social contract, when we sign up to join the United States military, we write a blank check to the United States, payable with our lives. What I want to understand. What I want people, politicians, you know, regular, everyday Americans to understand. That bond that we share with one another has to be protected. And that sacred bond, it has to be wielded carefully whenever we go anywhere in the world to be able to defend the values or, you know, be able to stabilize country countries for the sake of democracy. We have to have, I would say, clear objectives, a sound mind, and a clear heart before we do that.
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So do you think this is clear enough?
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In my personal. Now I understand I don't have a clearance anymore. So there's two things I understand. I am no longer the man in the arena, and I'm never going to talk poorly on the men and women who are in the arena. I have turned in my badge.
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But you are more qualified than 97% of the people in the country to comment.
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That's correct. I do appreciate that, yes. I think that the objective needs to be clearly laid out as far as a battle plan. We have to have a North Star, an idea of what we want to accomplish through there. And I think as a regular, everyday American now, I don't see those going to argue that Iran is not an issue. I'm never going to argue that they have not fought us through proxies for the last, you know, three to four decades at this point. Never going to argue that. But I think that there are some professional military agencies who have a pretty good idea of what to do. And I think that what I've written in the book is sometimes that our policymakers need to let our military men and women make some of the decisions on the ground and not get in the way.
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Right. So let them finish the job.
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Yes, sir.
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Right. Especially because if you look at the Middle east, you actually have a shot at. So many of these countries care about their economy more than their religion. You know, I'm more than being a zealot or a fanatic. I look at the uae, Saudi Arabia, Bahrain, look at Oman. They're looking to grow their society for the first time, maybe in my lifetime. And it seems like where you turn, Iran just sits in the way.
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You know, it does. And it is a cultural center for it. And maybe not. Yes. To finish the job. I think that having a very clear outline of what needs to happen and allowing our military makers to work towards that. To work towards those goals.
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Pick up dark horse Harnessing hidden potential in war and in life. Angelo, great meeting you. Sorry we don't have eight and a half hours, but this has been great. Thanks so much. Appreciate it. And thanks for serving.
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The pleasure was mine. It was my honor to serve. Thank you.
Brian Kilmeade Show
Episode: "Make Them Better Than You" – A Marine Sniper's Brutal Truth From Fallujah
Date: May 30, 2026
Host: Brian Kilmeade
Guest: Angelo “AJ” Pescuti, Marine Veteran, Speaker, and Author of Dark Horse: Harnessing the Hidden Potential in War and in Life
This episode features an in-depth conversation between Brian Kilmeade and Marine veteran Angelo AJ Pescuti about his military experiences, leadership lessons, and his new memoir Dark Horse. The discussion explores the realities of combat from the invasion of Iraq to the Battle of Fallujah, the challenges of transitioning from training to the battlefield, and the psychological toll of war. Pescuti shares hard-won insights on leadership, personal growth through failure, and the importance of inspiring the next generation.
“I was a senior in high school when 9/11 happened. Technically I was 16 at the time. Had to wait 3 weeks before I could talk to a recruiter…” – Pescuti (01:02)
"I thought all of the Marine Corps was just infantry... I thought that why not try to climb the highest mountain I could." – Pescuti (01:19)
Boot Camp and Deployment:
First Combat and Adjustments:
"Once that first bullet snaps by your head, there's this realization of, like, this is not a game anymore." – Pescuti (03:52)
Emergence of the Insurgency:
“This is the first time... we see these guys who are in, you know, non-standard uniforms who are fighting us. It started the... beginnings of what would eventually become the insurgency.” – Pescuti (03:26)
“We saw ourselves as protectors... We wanted to be angels on their shoulders effectively.” – Pescuti (05:32, 06:10)
“You can actually see where I'm at in a mental snapshot at 18 years old in OIF 1, 20 years old in Fallujah...” – Pescuti (07:43)
“We did everything that we needed to do to be able to have a military victory. And then I think what happens is I think we kind of lost the plot. At some point, it became about nation building...” – Pescuti (07:47)
“Any form of revolution has to be, you know, born from within. The people have to want it and they have to earn it.” – Pescuti (08:55)
“The majority of the Americans who join the United States military believe that... they’re very proud to bring that forward to defend the values that the United States carries forward…” – Pescuti (12:13)
“When you achieve your own individual success... your obligation is to turn around and make the next generation better than you.” – Pescuti (13:34)
“That bond... has to be protected. And that sacred bond, it has to be wielded carefully whenever we go anywhere... We have to have, I would say, clear objectives, a sound mind, and a clear heart...” – Pescuti (14:35)
“So many of these countries care about their economy more than their religion... and it seems like where you turn, Iran just sits in the way.” – Kilmeade (16:13)
Pescuti's appearance brings forward the honest, unfiltered reality of being a Marine–including mistakes, growth, and the weight of leadership. His message is one of hope and resilience for the next generation: embrace hardship, learn from failure, and always strive to make those who come after you “better than you.” For those curious about the real cost, achievement, and humanity of war, this episode and Pescuti’s memoir provide a powerful window into a Marine’s journey.