Second Date Update Classic: Red Flaggy Much?

Summary

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Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update Classic — “Red Flaggy Much?”

Date: November 24, 2025
Hosts: Brooke & Jeffrey, featuring show commentators/co-hosts
Guest participants: Jordy (listener seeking the second date), Harper (his recent date)

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Episode Overview

In this episode of "Second Date Update," listener Jordy seeks help from Brooke & Jeffrey to understand why he was ghosted by Harper, a waitress he met and felt a connection with after a promising first date. The show dives into generational dating red flags, expectations around availability, and the games people play in modern romance—delivering both awkward laughs and candid insights into why some connections inexplicably fizzle.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Setting the Scene: Real-Life Dating vs. Online Trends

• Brooke highlights that the majority of new couples now meet online, not in real life—making Jordy an outlier (“bucking all the latest trends”).
  • [05:33] “Because recent studies have shown about 50% of couples now meet online compared to just 22% only five years ago.” —Brooke
• Jordy explains he met Harper at a German bar where she worked, after a friendly, responsible gesture (he asked her to cut off a drunken friend of his).

2. The First Date: From Bocce Ball to ‘Quickie Loran’

• Jordy describes his nerves and embarrassment, mispronouncing “quiche Lorraine” as “quickie Loran,” which became a lighthearted moment with Harper.
  • [09:09] “I said quickie Loran. You know I didn’t take French in high school.” —Jordy
  • The hosts affirm that self-deprecation and humor can be endearing on a date.
  • The date ended with a kiss and a positive, enthusiastic text from Harper, who wrote she couldn’t wait to see Jordy again.

3. The Ghosting Mystery

• Ten days pass with no follow-up date secured, despite apparent mutual interest. Jordy is confused—the hosts brainstorm potential reasons (work schedule, family emergency, another romantic interest, etc.).
  • [10:09] “You’ve had a solid first date. You kissed her at the end…and she’s the one saying ‘I can't wait to hang out again.’” —Brooke

4. Making the Call: Confronting Harper

• Once Harper is on the phone, she reveals her reason for pulling back:
  • Jordy was “too available”—he offered her Friday, Saturday, and Sunday for their next meet-up.
  • Harper shares a belief she and her friends hold: men aged 24–32 who are this open in their schedules are “losers” and unlikely to be ambitious or successful.
  • [14:54] “If they have that much time to hang out, it really means that he’s a loser.” —Harper
• The hosts challenge this logic, arguing Jordy might simply be making an effort and being respectful of her schedule as a service worker:
  • [15:43] “You’re a waitress…He’s probably just trying to give you options because it’s probably hard to align schedules.” —Jeffrey
  • [15:56] “Because nowadays we hear from a lot of women who say guys don’t put in enough effort...Jordy sounds like the total opposite.” —Brooke

5. Red Flags, Games & Expectations

• Harper clarifies that she expects a guy who’s “grinding away, planning for his future,” not available every night. She seems to value a sense of pursuit or challenge.
  • [17:08] “It just seems like he’s just wide open to do whatever, and we're trying to build who we are as people.” —Harper
  • She further says her “perfect guy should never have all the time in the world for me.”
  • The hosts react with sarcasm and disbelief, seeing it as an example of unnecessary dating “games.”

6. Jordy Responds: Honest Confusion

• Jordy is asked to react directly to being called “a loser who has too much time on his hands.” He’s baffled, reiterating he was only trying to show interest and that “playing games” feels childish.
  • [19:35] “I just don’t understand why you want to play these games. Like, we met in real life. I thought you were a good person.” —Jordy

7. The Dealbreaker: No Second Date

• Brooke offers Harper a paid second date with Jordy; he jokes that he’s now “all booked up for a while” after the experience.
  • Harper rejects, disliking what she calls the “games” Jordy is now playing by acting less available.
  • [20:55] “I mean, I’m not really into these games that he’s playing with me, and I’m not gonna fall for it now.” —Harper

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Memorable Quotes & Moments

On Modern Dating Double Standards

• [16:24] “He should be grinding away, planning for his future…not working or like working on a promotion...” —Harper
• [16:50] “Maybe that’s why his hygiene is so good. He’s got time for it.” —Jeffrey

On ‘Playing Games’

• [19:28] Jeffrey (joking): “Tell her you don’t want to date!”
• [20:02] Jordy: “Look, Harper, let’s rewind. Pretend I didn’t call you for two weeks. Are you turned on now?”
• [21:05] Jordy (to Harper): “Look in the mirror. Sweet.”

Host Reactions (Lighthearted and Wry)

• [19:09] “For your future, stay in your lane and keep not tipping people after they give you great service.” —Brooke
• [20:49] “Finally, he got it.” —Jeffrey, when Jordy claims to be ‘booked up’ after Harper’s critique

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• [05:33] — Data on how people meet, set-up of Jordy and Harper’s meeting
• [08:11] — Jordy describes asking Harper out and their first date details
• [09:09] — Mispronouncing “quiche Lorraine”/date highlight
• [10:09-11:00] — Aftermath: first date follow-up and Jordy’s confusion
• [13:13] — Harper joins the call
• [14:54] — Harper explains the “loser” theory about availability
• [16:24] — Further justification of her red flag reasoning
• [19:35–20:00] — Jordy counters and tries to understand Harper’s logic
• [20:32–21:00] — Final offer and rejection of the second date; summarizing the disconnect

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Episode Tone

• Conversational, playful, sometimes exasperated—the hosts balance gentle encouragement for Jordy with disbelief at Harper’s rigid “red flag” rules.
• The exchange is full of dry, sometimes sarcastic humor, with both empathy and sharp edges.
• The show ultimately lampoons the contradictory messages and games of modern dating, giving listeners both entertainment and a bit of catharsis.

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Final Thoughts

This episode stands out for its exploration of modern dating contradictions—“effort” vs. “try-hard,” “being available” vs. “too available,” and the generational or social media-driven mindsets that turn simple courtship into a psychological labyrinth. Both hosts and guests acknowledge how confusing these rules can be, leaving listeners questioning which “red flags” truly matter.

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For more “Second Date Update” episodes, check out:

• Brooke & Jeffrey on iHeartRadio
• Apple Podcasts
• Spotify

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Transcript

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[Jeffrey]

Welcome to your second day podcast. It's Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning and I know someone who has a lot of opinions about restaurants in this room. I'm looking at him.

[Brooke]

Oh, is it me?

[Jeffrey]

It's you. Sure.

[Co-host/Commentator]

He's getting taken on dates. No, no, no.

[Jeffrey]

I mean Would someone screwing up at a restaurant be a huge red flag for you?

[Co-host/Commentator]

What do you mean by that? Well, like, screwing up. Like, what do you mean?

[Podcast Narrator]

The order.

[Jeffrey]

I can't tell you exactly because it's coming up in the second. Okay. It's going to happen while he's still holding the menu at the beginning.

[Co-host/Commentator]

Okay. Well, you should know how to go on a date at a restaurant. So obviously this would be a red flag.

[Jeffrey]

Okay. Jose's not dating you, but you know what? I don't think that's what he's asking for. Anyway, you're going to hear what's going on in this second date. But we love to start with your comments because you mean so much to us. That's true. That's true. We're thankful for you. We are in Marin comments a lot, but I like this one. They said I might. Might be weird, but I like spoilers or teasers. So I read the comments before I listen.

[Co-host/Commentator]

I actually know someone. Like, wait, you do that? Alexis, don't you watch movies or, like. Yeah, she loves this.

[Jeffrey]

I know. And I skip to the end of the books first, and I read what happens at the end before I go.

[Co-host/Commentator]

I was like, somebody around in my life does this too.

[Jeffrey]

What is wrong with you? I need to know what happens so that I can read in peace or watch in peace.

[Co-host/Commentator]

So you relate to Mary Marin.

[Jeffrey]

Anyways, thanks for leaving the comments. And Alexis, I love it. Your second date starts right now.

[Brooke]

Second date update. The results are in. It's Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Because recent studies have shown about 50% of couples now meet online compared to just 22% only five years ago.

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That's crazy.

[Jeffrey]

That's a huge jump.

[Brooke]

Yes.

[Jeffrey]

It's like the pandemic. Like, super.

[Co-host/Commentator]

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[Brooke]

So now, going forward, Brooke, if you want to spice up the relationship with your husband, you're gonna have to make him a dating profile.

[Co-host/Commentator]

Oh, okay. At least you get to pick his.

[Jeffrey]

You know, I think I could make him a really good one. I mean, to be honest.

[Brooke]

Well, I think. Joke's on you. He already has one.

[Jeffrey]

Wait, what?

[Brooke]

Apparently, you guys are. You're looking for a third right now, according to him. And we're not going to go into that because.

[Co-host/Commentator]

Wait a minute.

[Brooke]

I want to talk right now.

[Co-host/Commentator]

I'm excited for that day.

[Brooke]

To Jordy, the listener who wrote into our show because apparently he met a girl out in real life bucking all of the latest trends.

[Jeffrey]

You're in the minority now, irl.

[Brooke]

Jordy.

[Jeffrey]

Good work.

[Brooke]

Welcome to the show.

[Jordy]

Hey, guys.

[Jeffrey]

Hey. So where'd you meet this woman?

[Jordy]

So I met Harper at this German bar, actually, you know, I was playing bocce ball. Do you guys know what that is?

[Jeffrey]

Bocce ball. I've heard of it.

[Co-host/Commentator]

Bocce ball on my rooftop, on my apartment complex.

[Brooke]

Like, you toss big. These like, big, colorful balls onto, like, a field, and then you try to toss other balls towards the one goes farther.

[Jeffrey]

And it's an ital in game playing at a German bar, but whatever.

[Brooke]

Yeah, yeah.

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[Brooke]

So you said her name was Harper?

[Jordy]

Yeah, yeah, she was actually a waitress there.

[Jeffrey]

Oh. Oh.

[Brooke]

I assumed that she was gonna be, like, playing in the stall next to you or something like that, right?

[Jordy]

No, no, no, no, no. She was super cute. And, I mean, she was super helpful, too, because I actually had to have this, like, long talk with her to tell her to cut off one of my drunk friends.

[Jeffrey]

You cut off your friend? Lame.

[Co-host/Commentator]

You had to do it, like, n. Tell them I told you.

[Jeffrey]

I'm sure that's happened to you, and you just don't.

[Co-host/Commentator]

If you have good friends, if anything.

[Brooke]

Probably makes you look kind of good to her because you seem like a responsible guy.

[Jordy]

Oh, yeah, exactly. It's like watching Jerry Springer. It's like you look better than those people.

[Jeffrey]

Oh, can I ask real quick? Was there an indication that she was interested in you? Because cute waitresses get hit on all.

[Co-host/Commentator]

The time, and they smile and they're do their jobs, and everyone thinks they're getting hit.

[Jeffrey]

I know.

[Brooke]

Brooke tries to get them to be the third in her relationship.

[Jeffrey]

I mean, Harper is a hot name.

[Brooke]

But again, sorry, that is a conversation for another day. Jordan, tell us. How did you work Harper? That's not the right way.

[Co-host/Commentator]

Jordan, how did you.

[Brooke]

How did you get Harper to agree to a date?

[Co-host/Commentator]

There it is.

[Jordy]

Well, I just simply asked her on the way out. I was like, look, are you single? And she said, who's asking? And I said, I am.

[Jeffrey]

Good response.

[Jordy]

Yeah. And I just said, I'd love to take you out sometime. And she actually gave me her number.

[Jeffrey]

Oh, dude, if we dial this and it's our loser line.

[Co-host/Commentator]

Oh, we are on the loser.

[Jeffrey]

Awesome.

[Brooke]

Is that your only meetup, or did you guys actually have a date?

[Jordy]

No, no, we had a date.

[Brooke]

Okay. Okay, so it is her number.

[Co-host/Commentator]

Because we all thought, oh, she probably just gave you a number to get ready, Right?

[Jeffrey]

So what did you do?

[Jordy]

We went out for drinks, a little food. You know, she looked amazing. I mean, when she was, like, out of her waiter outfit.

[Jeffrey]

Didn't need to mention the second part.

[Brooke]

She knows.

[Jordy]

Yeah, I mean, I did have one embarrassing moment on the date. We tried to order some key char. I said quickie Loran. You know I didn't take French in high school. Like, excuse me.

[Co-host/Commentator]

Yeah, well, you're also clashing with the bocce ball and the German.

[Jeffrey]

Don't want to be elitist by being able to say quiche.

[Brooke]

That's a tough word. What was her reaction?

[Jordy]

She totally laughed it off. It was a little embarrassing, but after that, like, I think it kind of lightened the mood a little bit. And from there, like, the day was great.

[Jeffrey]

Especially if you can be self deprecating about it. Yeah. You know what I mean? Like, it could almost even turn into like your inside joke together.

[Brooke]

Yeah.

[Co-host/Commentator]

Oh, let me order the next thing. I speak German and then you just ruin it. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Jordy]

So we actually like kissed at the end of the day, so that was nice. And she was the one who texted me that night saying that she got home safe and that she couldn't wait to see me. So, like, it seems super clear. Right?

[Jeffrey]

Are you sure you didn't read that wrong too? There's no way to read that wrong.

[Jordy]

No, no, it was in English, I think.

[Brooke]

Okay, so you. You've had a solid first date. You kissed her at the end of it, she's the one saying, I can't wait to hang out again.

[Jeffrey]

And how long has it been?

[Jordy]

It's been like 10 days or so.

[Co-host/Commentator]

Well, something must have happened in her life. Like, I already have a feeling this is not your fault.

[Jeffrey]

Oh, I can see that. Like where? I don't know. Maybe work out crazy or there's a family emergency.

[Co-host/Commentator]

She rekindled something and was just. Who knows?

[Brooke]

But what's happened in those 10 days? That's a long time. Have you asked her? Like, what have you done?

[Jordy]

Yeah, I mean, there was one time where I thought one date was going to work, but then she asked about a different date, so I don't know.

[Jeffrey]

Okay, so yeah, hot bocce ball player came into her work.

[Jordy]

Might be.

[Brooke]

Okay, well, we can reach out to Harper for you and see if she agrees to going out with you one more time. If not, then you might have a backup option because Brooke and her husband, you know.

[Jeffrey]

But in the meantime, Jeffrey is not online.

[Brooke]

Oh, that's right.

[Jeffrey]

Yeah, we only like the online one.

[Brooke]

Yeah, you need to be able to keep some distance.

[Jeffrey]

Yeah.

[Brooke]

Sorry. But you know what? We'll work on Harper first and try and get you your second date update right after this second date update. We're in the middle of a second date update with our listener, Jordy. And Jordy likes cute waitresses at German bocce ball bars. He likes to mispronounce quiche Lorraine just to seem vulnerable and flawed.

[Jeffrey]

How did he say it? Kiki, Somehow.

[Brooke]

Yeah, something you said. Quickie. What did you say, Jordyn?

[Jordy]

I said quickie. Loran.

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[Brooke]

Loran.

[Jeffrey]

Which is.

[Brooke]

And he really likes to receive texts saying, I can't wait to see you again, because that's exactly what his date Harper said to him after they went out. So why is she not jumping at the chance to hang out again?

[Jeffrey]

Yeah, she's the one that said she wanted to.

[Brooke]

Jordi, you think there's another guy who mispronounces French words even worse than you do? Maybe that's her thing.

[Jordy]

Yeah, maybe.

[Jeffrey]

Yeah.

[Co-host/Commentator]

Yeah, he tried to order me a quabernet savignon.

[Brooke]

Oh, go.

[Jeffrey]

Oh, yeah.

[Brooke]

That's hot.

[Jeffrey]

Yeah. I don't even know how you mispronounce du jour.

[Jordy]

Yeah.

[Co-host/Commentator]

How do you do it so much?

[Jeffrey]

You can't mispronounce it.

[Jordy]

I mean, look, Harper's a really cute waitress. She probably has a lot of guys asking her out.

[Jeffrey]

Oh, my God. I bet she's saying no 50 times.

[Co-host/Commentator]

A day like every other table.

[Jeffrey]

It's so annoying. But that's why you're so special, is that she said yes to you and you guys had a great date and.

[Co-host/Commentator]

She went out and she said she loved you.

[Jordy]

Yeah, but, like, look, guys, if that's it, if that's the thing where she has another guy, like, just convince her that I'm a good guy.

[Brooke]

Oh, okay.

[Jeffrey]

She thinks that already, you know, in the five minutes we've spent with you. Totally will vouch for you.

[Harper]

Thank you.

[Jeffrey]

You're welcome.

[Co-host/Commentator]

Like a good guy. I mean, honestly, not even kidding.

[Brooke]

Yeah, a lot of good guys insist how good they are.

[Jeffrey]

That's right.

[Co-host/Commentator]

Okay, maybe that is a red flag.

[Brooke]

So I'm. We're just going to trust you on that and we're going to call Harper. Let's see if she answers.

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Okay.

[Jeffrey]

All right.

[Brooke]

I don't know you. I mean, you seem nice from a little bit. We've spoken.

[Co-host/Commentator]

Okay, you just stay where you're at, though, buddy.

[Brooke]

We don't know you.

[Jeffrey]

Yeah, let's get her on the phone.

[Brooke]

Here we go.

[Harper]

Hello?

[Brooke]

Hey, is this Harper?

[Harper]

Yeah, who's calling?

[Brooke]

We're a radio show calling called Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.

[Jeffrey]

Hi.

[Co-host/Commentator]

Good Morning.

[Jeffrey]

Hi, Harper.

[Brooke]

That half of the room isn't very excited to talk to you, obviously, but.

[Jeffrey]

I don't think she's excited to talk to us.

[Brooke]

This half of the room is very confused.

[Jeffrey]

Just don't want to come in too hot.

[Harper]

Jeff, what are you calling for?

[Jeffrey]

See?

[Brooke]

Yeah, we're working. Yeah, this is. This is something we do called the second date update. And one of our listeners named Jordy asked us to reach out to you.

[Jeffrey]

Ringing bells, I said o.

[Harper]

What do you want me to say?

[Brooke]

You remember Jordy? Okay, we're just trying to help him out because according to Jordy, he says he's been putting in a lot of effort trying to figure out a good time that would work for you to meet up just because he felt like you guys bonded, connected.

[Jeffrey]

Is it just something where the schedules aren't aligning?

[Harper]

No, there was just like a lot of effort. That's kind of a problem.

[Jeffrey]

What?

[Brooke]

Too much effort?

[Jeffrey]

What do you mean?

[Brooke]

Yeah, can you elaborate?

[Harper]

I mean, like, on the surface, when I met him, like, I was working and then we went and hung out and like, he was a good guy and. Well, that's kind of like what I was looking for.

[Jeffrey]

Yeah, like he's what you were looking for. I mean.

[Harper]

Yeah, like, I thought so.

[Jeffrey]

Okay, so what changed?

[Harper]

So we hung out and it. It wasn't until after that I realized something was off.

[Jeffrey]

What?

[Harper]

Like, I had every intention to go out again.

[Brooke]

Okay, okay, what's the problem?

[Co-host/Commentator]

Is this something about him?

[Harper]

Yeah, he gave me three options to hang out all in a row. Like Friday, Saturday, Sunday. Like, why is he so available?

[Jeffrey]

What?

[Co-host/Commentator]

Wait, what do you.

[Brooke]

Hold on.

[Co-host/Commentator]

Did he want a three day date or he was just like, pick a day and we can do that one?

[Harper]

No, he was like, these are all the days that I'm available. And I have this belief, me and my friends do, that there's a guy between the age 24 and 32 ish. If they have that much time to hang out, it really means that he's a loser.

[Brooke]

Loser.

[Jeffrey]

Yikes.

[Brooke]

You're calling him a loser because he gave you multiple options of times where he wants to hang out because he likes you.

[Harper]

Yeah, because like they're all in a row and it's like he should be grinding away, planning for his future, maybe not working or like working on a promotion or getting somewhere.

[Jeffrey]

Maybe he is like, in my mind, you're a waitress. So he's probably just trying to give you options because it's probably hard to align schedules. Like, he probably figures you work on the weekends.

[Harper]

I mean, that sounds like an excuse he'd use.

[Brooke]

I guess it sounds like he's doing it for you. Because nowadays we hear from a lot of women who tell us guys don't put in enough effort. They want the easy thing. They don't really care. Yeah, Jordy sounds like the total opposite. Like he's willing to do whatever just.

[Jeffrey]

To see you plans the other days that you say you can't.

[Harper]

Yeah, but he didn't say that. He was like, I'm wide open. And I'm like, well, what else are you doing with your life? Just pursuing me.

[Jeffrey]

Okay. What?

[Co-host/Commentator]

Okay, sadly, this makes sense, but doesn't mean we agree with it.

[Jeffrey]

I don't know that it does make sense to me. He's not a loser. Like, you liked him. You liked everything about him. You said that he checked all your boxes. Basically, yeah.

[Harper]

I mean, he did. He actually had decent hygiene, which, See?

[Medical Information Narrator]

Okay.

[Jeffrey]

But a big box.

[Brooke]

But he's too available for you.

[Jeffrey]

Maybe that's why his hygiene is so good. He has got time for it.

[Co-host/Commentator]

He showers daily.

[Jeffrey]

I mean, I get. You don't want to date someone who wants to hang out every single day. Sometimes, like, they need to have a life.

[Brooke]

Well, sure.

[Jeffrey]

Oh, yeah.

[Harper]

And especially in the beginning, getting to know who they are. And it just seems like he's just wide open to do whatever, and we're trying to build who we are as people.

[Jeffrey]

What would you want his response to be when you say, hey, I can't wait to see you again? What should he have written back to you?

[Harper]

He shouldn't have. He should have just let me hang for a bit.

[Brooke]

Okay, now that was a red flag.

[Jeffrey]

Okay, well, it's kind of like a game.

[Brooke]

I don't. I don't even want to tell you this because. Oh, no, it's not that. He's, like, super available to talk to you at any time. That's not what this is.

[Jeffrey]

He was so busy. It's like we had to call him so many times to be able to.

[Brooke]

Do this just in the middle of his extremely hectic day. He's taken a little bit of time to jump on the phone right now to talk to you because Jordy's there.

[Jordy]

Hey, Harper.

[Harper]

Oh, so you've been on the phone.

[Brooke]

Just a little bit.

[Jordy]

Yeah, just a little bit.

[Brooke]

It's like, barely.

[Jordy]

I heard you call me a loser who has too much time on his hands.

[Harper]

Well, yeah. They asked me to be honest. And I was honest. They asked me.

[Jordy]

What was that?

[Jeffrey]

I mean, that's What Jordy wanted, he.

[Co-host/Commentator]

Wanted to know he did want.

[Jordy]

So you think I'm a loser because I want to go out a second time? Like that part doesn't make any sense.

[Jeffrey]

It's just.

[Harper]

It's just a little red flaggy to be able to hang out three nights in a row. And like, my perfect guy would never do that. He shouldn't have all the time in the world for me, you know?

[Jeffrey]

I'm sorry, my perfect guy shouldn't have all the time in the world?

[Jordy]

To be totally clear, I didn't want to hang out with you three nights in a row. I gave you three options.

[Harper]

You're just being a little way too chill at this time of your life. You know, now's the time to work hard and we're going to chill later.

[Jeffrey]

Yeah, well, girl, you're serving steins in a German bar. Like, I mean, I'm just saying, she probably makes more than I do here. Yeah, well, it's just like, what are you doing to do the same thing?

[Harper]

Well, you don't even know me, so how about you shut your mouth?

[Co-host/Commentator]

Yeah, Brooke, shut your mouth.

[Brooke]

Michael, who are you complaining about people bringing you alcohol out of anybody in this room?

[Jeffrey]

I think being a server is a great job, but she's like expecting him to like do all these big great things. Like what are you doing to plan.

[Brooke]

For your future, stay in your lane and keep not tipping people after they.

[Podcast Narrator]

Give you great service.

[Jeffrey]

I just like, I hate when people do that.

[Brooke]

This is about Jordy. Jordy, she's concerned that you're too free and you're too available. Prove to her that that's not true.

[Jeffrey]

You're busy.

[Brooke]

Show how busy and how. How much you got going on.

[Jeffrey]

Tell her you don't want to date.

[Jordy]

Yeah, I mean, it sounds would be more attractive to you. I mean, I. I just don't understand why you want to play these games. Like we met in real life. I thought you were a good person.

[Co-host/Commentator]

Okay, that's actually a point.

[Brooke]

And how busy are you right now?

[Jordy]

I mean, I. I'm kind of busy. I'm not totally busy. I mean.

[Brooke]

You'Re super busy, right? Slam.

[Jordy]

Okay, like, look, I'm looking to get busier.

[Co-host/Commentator]

Right?

[Jeffrey]

See?

[Harper]

Red flaggy much?

[Jeffrey]

I think he sounds like a nice guy.

[Brooke]

That's not what she wants. She doesn't want that, Brooke.

[Jeffrey]

But you wanted that night.

[Jordy]

Look, look, Harper, let's rewind. Pretend I didn't call you for two weeks. Are you turned on now?

[Harper]

It hasn't been two weeks. It's only been 10 days.

[Jeffrey]

Harper.

[Harper]

I mean, the reality is, you sent me a lot of freaking texts with, like, a lot of freaking dates, and now you have me on a radio show.

[Co-host/Commentator]

Yeah, it does look bad.

[Jeffrey]

Gives her the ick, huh?

[Co-host/Commentator]

It's pretty bad.

[Brooke]

You know what? The thing is, we made him do it.

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[Co-host/Commentator]

We got all the time in the world.

[Brooke]

He didn't even want to be here.

[Jeffrey]

He didn't have time to. No.

[Brooke]

But he was kind enough to take a little bit of time out to do this with us. Just so that I could ask you if you would like to see Jordy one more time, and we would pay for that date. I don't even know if he's free. Honestly, Jordy, are you even free?

[Jordy]

Not anymore. I'm all booked up for a while now.

[Jeffrey]

Finally, he got it.

[Brooke]

I'm sorry.

[Co-host/Commentator]

She's like, so I'll see you next weekend.

[Harper]

I mean, I'm not really into these games that he's playing with me, and I'm not gonna fall for it now.

[Co-host/Commentator]

You don't like the game?

[Jordy]

Look in the mirror. Sweet.

[Brooke]

Oh, God. Talking like Brooke now, this is not good. Okay, you know what? No second date, all right?

[Co-host/Commentator]

We are not tipping them either.

[Brooke]

This is going bad.

[Podcast Narrator]

Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.

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That diagnosed me told me on a.

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[Brooke]

Got a text into 78592 that says, with that outlook, I hope she's ready to die alone.

[Jeffrey]

Oh my God. I mean, honestly, I think she just doesn't actually want a boyfriend.

[Brooke]

Yeah.

[Jeffrey]

You know, like everybody's saying that she's like looking. She says she's looking for something, but she found it.

[Co-host/Commentator]

Because what she just wants to be wanted.

[Brooke]

And the outlook that I think they're referring to is the theory that if a guy says he's available to hang out with you multiple nights in a row, that means he's a loser and must have absolutely nothing going on.

[Co-host/Commentator]

Can I correct that? Because when girls try to hang out with me and I tell them I'm sorry, I got two jobs, I'm streaming video games every single night. It also deters them.

[Jeffrey]

Yeah.

[Brooke]

It also matters what you're busy doing.

[Jeffrey]

I got my DND club on Friday and Saturday night, so I can't hang.

[Co-host/Commentator]

Out, but I make tons of money. Hello, hello?

[Jeffrey]

Hello?

[Brooke]

Guys, just give me give up. It's going to be easier if you just quit because actually they're going to feel more attracted to you that you've given up on them.

[Jeffrey]

Really hard to not define all women based on her. Yeah, I mean, just too late.

[Brooke]

She speaks for all women and now we know how it works.

[Jeffrey]

Hey, I just got canceled on my.

[Podcast Narrator]

Two guys.

[Brooke]

Who saw that coming. But you know what? If you need help with your dating life, go ahead, email the show. We'll call that person who isn't calling you back. And go check out all of our podcasts. We are the home of the second Date Update wherever you get yours at.

[Jeffrey]

Brooke and Jeffrey Brooke and Jeffrey in.

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[Medical Information Narrator]

Don't take Zepbound if allergic to it or if you or someone in your family had medullary thyroid cancer or multiple endocrine neoplasia Syndrome Type of 2. Tell your doctor if you get a lump or swelling in your neck. Stop Zepbound and call your doctor if you have severe stomach pain or a serious allergic reaction. Severe side effects may include inflamed pancreas or gallbladder problems. Tell your doctor if you experience vision changes, depression or suicidal thoughts before scheduled procedures with anesthesia. If you're nursing pregnant, plan to be or taking birth control pills. Taking zeppan with a sulfonylurea or insulin may cause low blood sugar. Side effects include nausea, diarrhea and vomiting, which can cause dehydration and worsen kidney problems problems.

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[Brooke]

What a matchup we got y'.

[Jeffrey]

All.

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