Podcast
Built Elite
Hosted by Calen Martens · EN
This Podcast is for those who understand life is a choice. Life has a meaning and we're not sure where to start. But we want success.
Our friends are partying on the weekends and all we want is a life worth living. What's next and where do we go from here? How do we create a life worth living when we have just graduated High School?
Or have found ourselves turning 30+ and don't know where we are going. And life seems to be sliding out from underneath us.
Those who want to change. And want to be apart of something bigger than themselves. A way of life. To be Built Elite.
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Episodes
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69 - MMM - Stop Being So Nice Intro.
Apr 21, 202500:26:41Tap to summarizeExplore the core ideas from No More Mr. Nice Guy that help men reclaim their power through setting boundaries, saying no, and seeking respect over external validation.Key Idea: Nice Guys often lack clear personal boundaries because they fear disapproval or rejection.Quote from the Book:“Nice Guys believe that if they are good, giving, and caring, they will be loved, get their needs met, and live a problem-free life.”This belief leads them to be boundaryless, sacrificing their own needs.Main Points:Boundaries aren’t about controlling others — they’re about controlling what you allow into your space.Without boundaries, resentment builds.Setting boundaries is a form of self-respect and self-responsibility.Practical Application:Practice using phrases like:“That doesn’t work for me.”“Let me get back to you on that.”“I’m not available for that right now.”External Reference:Brené Brown on boundaries: “Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others.”Key Idea: Nice Guys fear saying no because they think it will make them unlikable or cause conflict.Quote from the Book:“Nice Guys are terrified of rejection, and they’re convinced that saying no is the fastest way to get rejected.”Main Points:Saying no is an assertion of your identity.It allows room to say yes to what truly matters.“No” doesn’t make you rude — it makes you honest.Actionable Tool:Practice low-stakes "no's" to build the muscle — e.g., decline an invitation politely or state a preference.External Resource:Greg McKeown’s Essentialism reinforces the importance of saying no to non-essentials so you can say yes to purpose.Key Idea: Nice Guys prioritize being liked and accepted over being respected — but this often leads to self-abandonment.Quote from the Book:“Nice Guys believe that if they are loved, they will be accepted and valued. But they try to earn love by being who they think others want them to be.”Main Points:People may “like” you for being agreeable, but they’ll respect you for being authentic.Seeking validation is rooted in external identity; respect comes from inner congruence.Respect = being seen and valued for who you actually are.Mindset Shift:Ask yourself, “Would I rather be admired for a mask or respected for my truth?”External Quote:David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man:“Your edge is your real gift to the world. People may not like it, but they will feel it and remember you for it.”
Transcribe →68 - MMM - Waiting on the World to Change
Oct 21, 202400:27:28Tap to summarizeNo description available
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67 - MMM - Don't Do what I Did in your 20s
Oct 7, 202400:10:14Tap to summarizemy 20s seems like a blur but it was more of a journey. Realizing im half way to 60 seems wild. Questions like, did i doo enough in my 20s? What did I miss? What did I overcome? What did I learn? Would I have done things differently provided the chance? I look at where I am now and I can confidently say that I wouldn’t change the out come. I’m so thankful for my wife, son, and the life we have.
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66 - MMM - Discover Power in your words
Jun 3, 202400:15:11Tap to summarizeDiscovering the power in how we talk about ourselves and how we can make our words work for us discovering the RAS and how it guides us to what we want in life!
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65 - MMM - Attention and Intention
May 20, 202400:16:58Tap to summarizeWalk with me through a day in the life of the average human and their habits that lead to a feed back loop that they will never escape unless they are intentional and give more attention to the one resource we don't have enough of and can never get back....
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64.5 - MMM - Show the F*ck Up as Father.
May 6, 202400:17:10Tap to summarizeLook like I missed the count on my Episodes. So this is episode 64.5. Where I talk about the attention to scheduling and challenging your mindsets. Fatherhood is not just a Its all I have ever known.
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64 - MMM - Fixed In Place Or Growth For Life
Apr 22, 202400:17:47Tap to summarizeEvery decision you make is a vote for the person you choose to become. So take care in your decisions and be intentional about your actions. They lead to results that are either controlled by you, or those you choose to surround yourself with. Come join me in a discussion around Fixed mindsets and Growth mindsets.
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63 - MMM - Better Relationships Start With This
Apr 8, 202400:23:06Tap to summarizeTalking about two heavily predicting factors of the success of your relationship. If you want to help your relationship to thrive and become stronger and grow. Then you can be sure to trust these Tools as you implement and start moving forward with how you show up!
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62 - MMM - Straight From The Heart!
Mar 18, 202400:22:14Tap to summarizeDive into the one thing that has guided me to the life that I have today. That Has blessed me with opportunity, A wife, a Son, a Business, and a podcast.
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61 - MMM - Why Is Rock Bottom So Hard?
Mar 11, 202400:12:47Tap to summarizeCome hangout for a quick session on why we do what we do when it comes to the lowest points in our lives.
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