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Ryan Deiss
That's what leadership looks like. That's what extreme ownership looks like. If any of it is yours, it is all yours.
Roland Frazier
Hey, everybody. Welcome to another episode of Business Lunch.
Ryan Deiss
I am your host, Roland Frazier, and my counterpart, Ryan Deiss on the other side of the screen for me. How are you doing, Ryan?
I'm doing very, very well. I'm doing much better than one of our clients. They had kind of a rough. They had kind of a rough end of the week last week, and I thought it might be fun for us, not fun for them, but I thought it might be fun for us to kind of break down what went down and maybe give them some advice, because I. I think there's a really good chance that pretty much everybody who's listening here, if you have team members, that you're going to have a similar experience. So here's what happened. They kind of found out through the grapevine that some. Some of their team members were basically talking a whole lot of smack about them, Right? And so I think we all know that there are times when our teams will disagree with certain decisions and things like that. But in this case, apparently a number of team members went out for some drinks after work one day. They got together and they were talking, and they basically just spent the entire time badmouthing the CEO, bad mouth and the boss. And one person who was there kind of felt bad about it and then essentially went and ratted on everybody else. And so it kind of creates this weird dynamic because, you know, obviously there's an issue that's taking place. You know, obviously there's some people who aren't happy. And, you know, these are folks that the CEO values. You know, from a team perspective. They were surprised by it. They were understandably hurt by it. The word. I felt betrayed. The word betrayed was used a little bit, you know, in this, and having been in this experience myself. I know this can really, really suck because you feel like you're doing everything. You know, you're not doing anything right, but you feel like you're doing the best that you can, and you hope that your team feels that as well. And then to find out that not only do they think that you kind of suck, but they're also going to kind of talk crap about you behind your back. So what do you do about that? Right? How. How do you handle it? How do you make sure that. And now you got this other person. You don't want them to seem like a total narc right now. Everybody's going to hate them. So it's A challenging dynamic. It seems like doing nothing, you know, is kind of tough. So I had some feedback, I had some ideas. I'm just curious what you would do in that instance.
I mean, it's. It's really uncharted ground for me because, I mean, I'm generally loved by everyone.
Well, you would first have to make a mistake, which has never happened.
Roland Frazier
Yeah, I think that it's.
Ryan Deiss
We had this with one of our friends, Sam, who. I don't know if you know this or not, but he had. He has a real estate company and an escrow company, and the escrow company, basically he found out through one of the people that the entire escrow company was not only unhappy, but leaving to go work for his biggest competitor and weren't going to. Wasn't going to say anything to him. And so I think that you have to understand first that people are going to do what's in their own interest. And so I get the feeling betrayed, but you just have to understand the people that work for you, anyone you pay to be your friend is not your friend. And so, like, you have a relationship that is a business relationship with everyone that you pay to do something for you, including the people that work for you. And so you have to understand their loyalty is first to themselves. And that's how it should be to themselves and their family. They got to take care of that. So I think if you understand that, maybe it makes it hurt a little bit less. It's never fun to find out that people were saying, you know, nasty things behind your back. But unlike what I used to do, which is, you know, where can I go on the dark web to hire.
Roland Frazier
A hit team to kill them all.
Ryan Deiss
Now, the slightly more mature version of me says there must be a failure of leadership if the entire group is doing that, and that falls to me, how can I improve to fix the situation? And so I think that's like, truly, that's how I would try to look at it in between the, you know, pepperings of contempt. But, you know, and I'm like, you know, hey, these people used to be.
Roland Frazier
Of value to me.
Ryan Deiss
I'm just kidding again. But so I think that for me, it would be. I would approach it, them each individually and say, listen, I'm. I'm trying to figure out how to do things better. And I'd love to get your honest, sincere feedback. Off the record, no, you know, no strings attached to it. Tell me how you think, you know, what do you think we're doing wrong and what do you think we're doing right. And what specifically do you think we could do to improve it? And I would try to put in my own pip, my own personal performance improvement plan to, to do better. What are you. What are, what is our friend doing and what are you thinking?
Well, I'm not quite sure what they're going to do yet. They're still, they're still swirling around in the emotional aspect of it. And I do think. I love what you said there. It is important that you give yourself. If this happens to you, you've got to give yourself enough space to kind of let just the emotion of the, probably the dopamine or whatever the chemical is that just got unleashed into your bloodstream. You kind of got to let it fade. So they were ready to fire off some emails. I was like, you have to sleep for at least. And it was a Friday, right? I was like, please do not do this on a Friday and have it lingering.
Like, I remember you and I having conversations about not sending an email.
I have learned this from the best. Um, and so, yeah, I think that is the first thing is, is you have to pause, right? That is thing number one is you just have to. To pause. And in that pause, I love what you said. I think. And I asked them and it's funny, I did have this conversation with Sam, who's not the person I'm referencing. And so we know two people that this has happened to literally in the last, like couple of weeks. I'm embarrassed to say that this has happened to me four times that I can remember where I've heard through the grapevine that people that I trusted. So I want to, I say that just so that, you know, if you've had this experience as a CEO, it doesn't mean that you're fundamentally broken or that you're a failure. I don't know a single CEO who is operating a team at any scale that isn't going to have this happen to them. I think the first thing again is pause. The second thing is to ask very sincerely, after you've paused, how much of this do I own? And I remember chatting with Sam and being like, well, are they right?
You know, excellent first question, right?
And it was the same question I asked this person. I was like, based on what they.
Roland Frazier
Said, are they right?
Ryan Deiss
And I think that's a really important question to ask because, look, if they're right, even 1%, then I think your follow up posturing needs to be at least in the beginning to own 100% of that. I think that's really, really important. 1% is 100%. That's what leadership looks like. That's what extreme ownership looks like. If any of it is yours, it is all yours. Now, clearly they have their own mistakes that they've perhaps made in the communication of it. We can talk about that, but I don't believe that those mistakes would perhaps invalidate the overarching kind of issue challenge, which may just be kind of a cultural one, so we can come back to that. So I do think that those are the first two things.
You have to also understand that they are, or it helps to understand that they are at that point, they have lived with whatever it was for long enough that it's percolated to the point where they feel a need generally in a spontaneous explosion of emotion, to vent. And that's okay also, because people say things that they don't mean when they're venting. And people can be unnecessarily mean when they're venting and they're frustrated too. So that's the other thing is that.
Roland Frazier
You know, think about your worst thought.
Ryan Deiss
That you've had in any situation where you were unhappy and if you had it articulated, because clearly those comments were not meant to reach the ears of that CEO. However, it also is indicative that maybe there could be a better communication structure put in place for feedback so that it doesn't get to the boiling point that causes that explosion.
Yeah, and if anybody's ever been guilty of doing this yourself, then you gotta provide. You gotta have some empathy for the person doing it to you. Hard in the moment. That's why you got to sleep. But I think all of us have been guilty of saying things that we didn't mean because very often we think thoughts and it's not until we hear ourselves say them that we put them to any kind of truth test. And then we hear ourselves say them. And now if we say them in a group, you'll have people in the group who don't necessarily agree with you, but just to not make things awkward or just to be kind of. They'll go along with it. And we know this happens. So I think it's also important to acknowledge we can see this as like this almost conspiratorial betrayal. Like, ah, everybody's against me. And very often the other people who are there were just trying to like de. Escalate the situation, you know, agreeing just to sort of move on. So I think it's really, really important just that you have this context in mind that you give everybody the Benefit of the doubt.
And then you're advocating a head of the snake kind of strategy. Right. Then you find the ringleader and then terminate them, like with a police escort out of the building.
And you could call it head of the snake. You call it a prison yard strategy as well, where you show up in just the first, you just beat them to a pulp. Yeah, would that. Yeah, that's true. I guess I'm thinking that. No, here's. Let me. So that's a good transition. Here's what I. Yeah, here's what. I don't think that you should do that. I have, I've never done this, but I've been tempted to do it and this person was, was considering it. They were like, I really think that I probably should just fire the people that were involved. And I'm going to encourage you, don't do that. Firing people is always an option, which is why you shouldn't do it first. Right. So don't just go out there and fire. You need to get the full. Even if you're quote unquote right, even if there isn't a legal liability, culturally speaking, it sends a message to the rest of the team that if you speak ill, you're going to get fired. So we don't want that. So just going in and firing people, obviously violence is never the answer. If anybody wasn't sure we were joking ahead of time. Here's another thing that I have done that you shouldn't do. Don't send a passive aggressive memo to the entire company. I've done this. I've been like, it's come to my attention that some of you in the team aren't happy about certain things and you know, just know that blah, blah.
Roland Frazier
Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
Ryan Deiss
Well, here's what happens. Everybody pretty soon figures out exactly what's going on, including the people who never would have known, never would have been impacted. And it winds up causing weeks long kerfuffles and doesn't actually address, you know, the real issue issue. So please don't send some kind of passive aggressive memo also. And I think this is just as important. I've tried this before too. You can't just act like nothing happened. And that's something that I, that I have attempted multiple times. You know what, they probably didn't mean it. You know what? Everybody's busy. You know what, it's stressed out. You know what, some of this is my fault. I'm just going to let it go. I'm just going to let it slide every time that's happened. The situation wound up getting worse, you know, not better. So I don't think you should do any of those things. What I would do. And you kind of said it, you've got to go out, reach out to the individuals directly. Right? I think that's, I think that's really, really important. You got to go out to them directly, you've got to go out to them individually. I like to do it via email so that they have time to process it and not get defensive. So if you walk up to them and you're like, hey, I understand this happened. Good chance that they might get defensive. And I'd be like, oh, so. And it becomes very unproductive. So I like to send an email that's just like, hey, just want to make you aware. Kind of heard through the grapevine that you're unhappy about some things. I just want to be clear. Everybody in this company is entitled to their own opinion. Also, having given it some thought, I'm sure that I own a lot of this. I would really appreciate the opportunity to have a conversation with you and maybe share the why behind why we're doing what we're doing or why we've done what we've done. And so I think it's important individual outreach. Let's have a conversation, share the why. Now you might be thinking, because I've dealt with this before with fairly low level team members and it was a little bit frustrating because it's like I don't really want to have to spend time in my day talking to essentially entry level folks who don't even report to me. But I felt like it was important and when I've done it, it was really, really effective and it was positive again to sort of reset and to establish kind of a cultural piece. So had the one on one meeting said, I want to hear you out. You know, I don't care about like what was said or how it was said. Not really worried about that right now. You know, I want us to kind of come to a general, you know, agreement on what's going on and why, you know, why things happened. So just that's what I've done. That was my recommendation. Agree, disagree.
Changes, nuances, Nuances. I think that because chain of command is so important that if you're going to reach out directly to do that, that it could jeopardize that. And so my suggestion would be that you would have a conversation with the supervisors or whoever the direct reports were to you to get to those people and say, got a Little bit of a breakdown in, in culture and employee satisfaction. This is what his kind of, you know, I heard. I want to fix it. I need, I want to collaborate with you to figure out what you think is the best way for us to, number one, improve our communication so that you feel comfortable telling me if you know, if you didn't know, how do we let. How do we make it so that the employees feel comfortable telling you so that you know? And then what are we going to do to. Based on your recommendation, using 1, 3, 1.
Roland Frazier
Right.
Ryan Deiss
To which I'll let you explain in a second to. To fix it.
Yeah, I was going to say that is what I did. Yes. If it is, I failed to mention that because the assumption in this case, everybody is this person's direct report. But yeah, in the example that I gave, if they are not your direct report, you've got to loop in their manager. They, they, they need to be looped in as well. Even if you're the one that's having the conversation, don't be like, you go talk to your people and ask them why the heck they're saying these things about me. Don't do that. But they should be. Yeah, they should be in the loop. Yes. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for. For mentioning that. Sorry. Go ahead.
Yeah, that's it. I think, I think if you do that, then you have that collaborative approach, it becomes a learning opportunity and ability to, you know, improve the overall culture and communications channels of the company, fix whatever it was that was wrong, get better feedback. And, and at that point, then once you've gone through that, if you have somebody that's just a troublemaker, then let them go. But at least you've gone through a process to determine, have I done everything that I can to remedy the situation. And, you know, and the only problem isn't me or the company or the things we're doing. It's just this person's going to be unhappy. Which. There are people like that. Right. There are people who get joy from pointing out all the things that are wrong and telling other people about them behind your back. And those are generally employees you don't want.
Yeah, they're. They're the political types, I can tell you. So I'll give you the structure of how I've held this conversation, how I encourage our client to do it, how I encourage our listeners to as well. So when you have the conversation, kind of the first aspect of it is let them talk. Say, I just want you to vent. And again, like, we can have. We can have a conversation and break everything down. But I just, you know, I just want you to vent. I want us, I want, you know, you to have the opportunity to share with me what you're thinking, feeling, and then I would like to have the opportunity to kind of explain the why behind maybe we did what. What we did. Right? Because. Because usually this happens because, you know, you made a strategic decision, you made a move that they just fundamentally disagreed with because, you know, maybe it impacts them negatively. And, you know, more times than not, this comes from a lack of clarity in the why behind it, why the decision was made. And so because. Because they don't have the context, because they don't know, they just think the whole thing was dumb. And as a result, they kind of think that you're dumb. So I let them go first. Then I take the time to explain. Well, just for context, here's why this decision was made. Because one of our core values is at all of our companies is seek the why. That's really, really. If you don't know why something is being done, you can't say because that's what somebody told me, or because that's the way we've always done it. You know, if you are unsure about something, it is incumbent upon you, and we talk about this in the interview process and the onboarding process, for you to seek out to understand the reason why something is happening. And so kind of my final thing is, thanks for bringing this to me. My only concern in this situation is the way that you sought the why wasn't the most productive manner. I hope, I hope you can see that in the future, if you're this frustrated, I would appreciate it if you would run that up the flagpole. You know, talk to your manager, come to me directly, send me an email. But seeking the why is a big important aspect. And so that's kind of where the conversation goes. The way that I end it, though, and I found that this really does provide a good, you know, a good reset because normally when I give them the opportunity to speak, they're typically very apologetic, they're typically a little bit embarrassed, and they're typically a little bit scared. So they look for opportunities, you know, to understand. But what I say at the end is great. So in the future and in this time as well, you know, now that you didn't understand, you know, we talked about the why behind it. You sought out the why. I've given you the why. You have three choices. You can. Option A is become a true believer. Having heard the why. Behind it, having heard the additional context, you are fully bought in. And you know you're going to go around and tell everybody how you think that this thing, even though you disagree with it before, you now think it's the best idea. And here's why. So that's option A, don't have to come to that one. Option B is disagree and commit. And disagree and commit is you still disagree with it, but you trust me. You trust the leadership of this company enough to, as far as anybody's concerned, you're all in. You're certainly not going to say like that you think that it's stupid or do that because you know that's unproductive. Right? So it's possible to disagree with something but still say, I'm a part of this team, I'm going to go with it. That happens in teams all the time. So disagree and commit is option B. Option C is recuse, quit. Right. If you, having sought the why and heard the why, if you disagree and you can't become a true believer and you don't feel in your conscience that you can disagree and commit, then you got to just quit. You got to let me know bitching and collecting a paycheck is not an option. And I say it just like that, because I want to drive the point home that you are free to disagree here, but you're not necessarily free to disagree in the way that you did. That isn't productive to the team as a whole. It sounds kind of aggressive, and maybe I can get away with it more than others can because I'm not necessarily the most intimidating figure. But. But I have found that giving. Giving people those three options and explaining that, you know, we can't keep doing it the way that we did it before, that tends to get it set, and it creates a really nice cultural redirect, a reset. So what do you think about that?
I like it. I don't know that I would. That I would let them know that I heard about the bitching. I think that that's a back channel that I would be interested in probably keeping open. And so I would probably. I don't know. I mean, what I would be weighing would be the opportunity to say what you said, which is, you know, hey, that's not the way we do things. And then weigh that against the. Let's just fix it and not worry about it because it is a bit confrontational and it does create defensiveness. And I think that you're less likely to get. You're less likely to get the answers that you actually want when they're scared and intimidated or called out or embarrassed or whatever than you are. If you just said, I'm going to see if I can fix this thing that's wrong and, and then if I hear that that didn't work, I don't know, that's a tough one for me. I would have a hard time.
I should be on set a little bit. If in fact what they said was dead on and you did screw up and you haven't been communicating, then yeah, you own all of it and say, look, I want to be clear. Thanks so much for this feedback. Next time please bring it directly to me. I'm going to look to improve on this end in the same way that if you mess stuff up, we're going to look to give you the room to improve. So I'd appreciate your grace on this. Thanks for bringing to me. Next time, you know, come and let's have the conversation and look forward to, you know, working together productively. If that is a thing where you really do own a significant, you know, chunk of it and you can do things to fix it. The situation I'm referencing, the, the stuff that people were mad about, they were just off. They were just wrong. You know, we had, we had made, you know, a shift I think in like pricing or something like that and they felt that it was unfair to the customer or something like that happens all the time.
You're, you're not, you, you are, you are a leader. You have to make decisions. The people that work for you are not necessarily going to agree, but everyone has to just understand it's your company, you're the leader, you make the call and you try to get buy in. And if you can't ultimately agree to, you know, disagree and commit or you know, disagree and quit, that's, that's kind of the, the options.
Roland Frazier
Well, I like it.
Ryan Deiss
I think that's, I think that's a, a helpful topic. Hopefully, hopefully you guys found that valuable today. It is something that maybe you'll be fortunate enough never to come into, into your world and have that experience. It'll happen, but it probably will happen.
Roland Frazier
Okay.
Ryan Deiss
And so then they're just kind of pondering it right now to decide what they're going to do.
I believe they're going to follow, they're going to do the, the kind of individual outreach. What they're trying to weigh is exactly what you said, how much, you know, they don't want to throw the kind of, the reporting party under the bus. So I Think they're figuring out, you know, how to do that. But at the end of the day, what I said to them is tell the other person, hey, I really think that we should bring this directly to, you know, in this case, the boss lady. I think we should bring this, you know, to the, to the CEO. I bet we would be heard and say like, and if they're unwilling to do that, say like, I'm going to let them know that, like, that some people are unhappy. I'm not going to say everything but just say, hey, there's some stuff going on and we should probably have a conversation about like, so I'll go if we won't. And so I think they're going to hope that this person's hope right now is that the other person who reported it will convince everybody else to come to them so they don't have to do it. But I think the only choice, if you see that there is some people who are disgruntled in your organization, you've got to take the first step. If they're unwilling to do it, you've got to reach out to them. You gotta reach out to them with humility. You gotta reach out to em with curiosity, a sincere desire to know and understand their position with the goal of everybody being better because of it. So I think that's where they're gonna wind up. Hopefully they come to them.
Roland Frazier
Awesome.
Ryan Deiss
Well, hopefully you guys found this to be helpful. If you did, please share it with a friend and we will see you the next time on Business Launch.
Roland Frazier
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Ryan Deiss
What most people don't realize is you.
Roland Frazier
Can acquire highly profitable businesses with no money out of your own pocket in pretty much any country in the world, regardless of your credit, and without having to go find a bunch of investors or needing any experience. Look, I've been acquiring businesses for over 30 years now and I cover the whole process in my EPIC Investing Strategy training and I want to give it to you 100% free. Just visit businesslunchpodcast.com epic to get your free access to my EPIC Investing training right now while it's available. Hey, Roland Frazier here. If you're looking for a way to grow your business exponentially to get more customers and ultimately increase your wealth, there's no faster way to do it than to acquire other businesses that already have the customers, products, services, teams and media that you want. If you want to double your sales, just acquire a company that has the same sales as yours. It sounds simple, but far too many people end up starting new businesses that fail and forget that they could skip all the hard stuff and just acquire one that already exists. There's a reason why private equity firms, family offices, big companies like Apple, Google, and some of the smartest entrepreneurs on the planet do not start new businesses from scratch. They acquire already successful businesses and when they do it, they instantly increase their sales, their profits. If they want market share, they increase that. They can get new products and services to offer, all instantly. Hey look, 90% of new businesses fail. 90%. Why not acquire an already successful business and increase your chances of success by 900%?
Ryan Deiss
What most people don't realize is you.
Roland Frazier
Can acquire highly profitable businesses with no money out of your own pocket in pretty much any country in the world, regardless of your credit, and without having to go find a bunch of investors or needing any experience. Look, I've been acquiring businesses for over 30 years now and I cover the whole process in my EPIC Investing Strategy training and I want to give it to you 100% free. Just visit businesslunchpodcast.com epic to get your free access to my EPIC investing training right now while it's available. Hey, Roland Frazier here. If you're looking for a way to grow your business exponentially to get more customers and ultimately increase your wealth, there's no faster way to do it than to acquire other businesses that already have the customers, products, services, teams and media that you want. If you want to double your sales, just acquire a company that has the same sales as yours. It sounds simple, but far too many people end up starting new businesses that fail and forget that they could skip all the hard stuff and just acquire one that already exists. There's a reason why private equity firms, family offices, big companies like Apple, Google, and some of the smartest entrepreneurs on the planet do not start new businesses from scratch. They acquire already successful businesses and when they do it, they instantly increase their sales, their profits. If they want market share, they increase that. They can get new products and services to offer all instantly. Hey, look, 90% of new businesses fail. 90%. Why not acquire an already successful business and increase your chances of success by 900%?
Ryan Deiss
What most people don't realize is you.
Roland Frazier
Can acquire highly profitable businesses with no money out of your own pocket in pretty much any country in the world, regardless of your credit, and without having to go find a bunch of investors or needing any experience. Look, I've been acquiring businesses for over 30 years now, and I cover the whole process in my EPIC Investing Strategy training and I want to give it to you 100% free. Just visit businesslunchpodcast.com epic to get your free access to my EPIC investing training right now. While it's available.
Business Lunch: Decoding Influencer Marketing
Host: Roland Frasier
Guests: Ryan Deiss
Release Date: June 20, 2025
In this episode of Business Lunch, host Roland Frasier engages in a deep and insightful conversation with Ryan Deiss, delving into the challenging dynamics that arise within leadership roles when confronted with internal team conflicts. Contrary to the episode's title, "Decoding Influencer Marketing," the discussion centers on leadership, team management, and handling negative feedback within organizations. Below is a comprehensive summary capturing the key points, discussions, insights, and conclusions from their conversation.
The episode begins with Ryan Deiss presenting a real-world leadership dilemma:
"[02:35] Ryan Deiss: I mean, it's really uncharted ground for me because, I mean, I'm generally loved by everyone."
Ryan describes a situation where a CEO discovers that several team members were badmouthing her behind her back during a social gathering. This revelation leaves the CEO feeling betrayed and hurt, raising critical questions about handling such internal strife.
Ryan emphasizes the importance of recognizing that people act in their own self-interest:
"[04:04] Ryan Deiss: ...people are going to do what's in their own interest. And so I get the feeling betrayed, but you just have to understand the people that work for you..."
He underscores that employees' primary loyalty is to themselves and their families, which can sometimes lead to behaviors that seem disloyal to their leaders.
A pivotal theme of the discussion is extreme ownership in leadership:
"[06:46] Ryan Deiss: ...I don't believe that those mistakes would perhaps invalidate the overarching kind of issue challenge, which may just be kind of a cultural one..."
Ryan advocates for leaders to take full responsibility for team dynamics, suggesting that any shortcomings in leadership could be the root cause of employee dissatisfaction.
The conversation shifts to strategies for addressing negative feedback within teams:
"[07:27] Ryan Deiss: ...give everybody the Benefit of the doubt."
Ryan advises leaders to pause and process emotions before reacting. He recommends acknowledging any valid points in the criticism, irrespective of how minor, to demonstrate accountability.
Effective communication is highlighted as essential in resolving internal conflicts:
"[13:07] Ryan Deiss: ...you have to reach out to them with humility. You gotta reach out to em with curiosity..."
Ryan and Roland discuss the importance of individual outreach, recommending that leaders communicate directly with disgruntled employees to understand their grievances and seek constructive solutions.
The duo explores methods for dealing with persistently negative employees:
"[14:45] Ryan Deiss: ...if you have somebody that's just a troublemaker, then let them go."
After exhausting collaborative efforts to improve the situation, Ryan suggests that it may be necessary to terminate relationships with individuals who continue to undermine the team’s harmony.
A significant takeaway is the proactive establishment of a transparent and communicative organizational culture:
"[17:50] Ryan Deiss: ...seek the why is a big important aspect..."
By encouraging employees to understand the rationale behind decisions, leaders can reduce misunderstandings and foster a more supportive work environment.
Concluding the discussion, Ryan reiterates the importance of leading with empathy and accountability:
"[21:43] Ryan Deiss: ...you're a leader. You have to make decisions."
He advises that even when decisions are unpopular, leaders must own their choices and ensure that the team remains united moving forward.
"That's what leadership looks like. That's what extreme ownership looks like. If any of it is yours, it is all yours." — Ryan Deiss [00:00]
"It's never fun to find out that people were saying, you know, nasty things behind your back." — Ryan Deiss [02:35]
"If you don't know why something is being done, you can't say because that's what somebody told me, or because that's the way we've always done it." — Ryan Deiss [15:31]
"You are a leader. You have to make decisions." — Ryan Deiss [21:43]
In this episode, Roland Frasier and Ryan Deiss provide a thought-provoking exploration of leadership challenges, particularly when facing internal team conflicts and negative feedback. They offer practical strategies for leaders to take ownership, communicate effectively, and foster a positive organizational culture. This conversation serves as a valuable resource for current and aspiring leaders seeking to navigate and resolve complex team dynamics.
Note: The episode includes promotional segments by Roland Frasier advocating for his EPIC Investing Strategy training. As per instructions, these sections have been omitted from the summary to focus solely on the content-rich discussions.