Sherman Smith (18:03)
He was giving me a full breakdown, but it was. It was awesome. We had a few other conversations. PT6 is out there and just want to say thank you to everybody who engages with us. I feel like the comments I get about for the dads and Papa Team 6, they, they. They warm the heart the most. They do. But if you want to be featured on the show, we have. We do comments. So if you leave comments on YouTube, ideally within the first 48 hours of dropping that's when the guys kind of go through the comments and go through everything for the potential next week's show because we never know when we're going to film the next week's episode with everything else going on in our world. It could be Friday, we film it, could be over the weekend, could be Monday, we film it. But to be featured on the show, you can leave comments whether on social media or on YouTube. We see a lot of YouTube comments that we kind of dive into. And then also 601, the dads are hotline. You can call and drop a voicemail and we will play it and you'll be featured on the show. But this first one comes to us from Andrew fox on on YouTube Papa Papa Fox pt. 6 from Sussex County, Delaware, checking in. Happy father of two beautiful children, two and a half year old daughter and month old baby boy. Love the pod. Look forward to it every week. Shouting out the whole pot. I'm a teacher in a high school lacrosse coach of 10 years. Do you want, do we want merch? You can shoot us some merch. We would love that. Kids are my life. My students and my players are my kids basically. So obviously being a dad is the best whole world. I love my children and I love the girl dad culture, but been taking some hard times with my daughter as we're transitioning to having another child in house. The tantrums, the fight back, the regressions have really put me in a feeling of being a bad dad while also keeping my emotions in check and showing love to my newborn son. The question is Will, how did you, how did you, how did you doing that, how did you doing that when you had, how did you do that when you had Scottzilla? How is Rue? I think that's how you spelled it. My math teacher brain. What were some of the things that seemed to work or didn't work? Finally, while I've been going through this, the pod has helped reminding me that this too will pass and that everything will be better. Thank you Andrew. Appreciate the question, my friend. I would say what worked for us and I've kind of given a couple of these dad hacks in the past episodes. But one thing that we did coming out of the hospital is introducing rude to Scotty while Scotty wasn't in mom's arms. Because you know, I was seeing, honestly I was just seeing this stuff on Instagram that when your kid is like walking in to check on mom and they see the, the newborn in mom's hands, it's like you the, the first One, you are. You are their world. They are your world, and they see you holding a different world, and you're introducing them. So one thing we did do was have somebody else holding Scotty when Ru came in to check on mom and see mom and everything else, Obviously, that's already. That's. That's pastry, but a couple good pieces of it. Your dad hacks, tips, whatever you want to call them is we would get Rue. We got Rue a gift from Scotty, and it was like, Rue at the time loved Frozen. Still loves Frozen, but loved Frozen Love on. And Elsa. So we gifted her, like, this, like, Elsa necklace or this, like, little jewelry set or whatever. From Scotty to Rue when we brought Scotty home. Like, Scotty has you a gift waiting at home. Another dad hack, I would tell you, is something that we tried intentionally and consciously doing because it's very hard when you got two kiddos and your older one, your first one, they want to play or they want to do stuff that'd do this or put me down first or, dad, I want you to hold me. I don't want you to hold Scotty. Is instead of telling, rue, rue, I'm holding Scotty right now. I can't do it. Or roux. I can't do this because I'm doing X, Y, and Z with Scotty. I still do that from time to time, but I got to catch myself saying it. And I just. Instead, I'll tell her, okay, that I can do that. And then I will look at Scotty and say, scotty, whenever I'm done holding you, I got to pick up your sister Rue, because the little one, they have no clue what's going on. Yeah, but almost, you know, if you're older one, your first one is telling you something and say, you can do it, but you just can't at the moment. Or you will later, but you can at the moment. Instead of like, telling them, I can't do X, Y, and Z because my responsibilities with your younger sister right now. You need to understand that my hands are full and dead ass trying. But I got to tend to your younger sister right now. It would be more. So I tell her, yes, I nod my head, we'll be able to do this. Hang on. Let me just tell Scotty something really quick. So then I'll tell Scotty whatever I got to do with her and say, but when I'm done, I have to play with your sister. So that way, Rue. Rue is hearing me say that, then it allows me to then look at Rue, say, Do you hear what I told Scotty? I just said, you know, let me, let me change your diaper, let me get you into your outfit. But the moment I'm done, I'm gonna play. I'm gonna play with Rue and then I'll look at Rue. I'll be like, just give data these couple minutes, I'll knock it out quick and then we'll start playing. So those are like a couple little hacks and a couple little tips. That's the only experience I have. Rude does get jealous and stuff at times with Scotty, but she ruse honestly, she's been a pretty good big sister for the most part. And I, I do feel a lot of it has to do with like making them feel included in the conversation of whatever you're doing, responsibility wise. With the younger one, it's just more so look at them say everything you're going to do to them while the, while the older one hears you. That way they feel part of this solution, the problem solving that's taken place. So that's what I'd say.
