Will Compton’s Car Ride From Hell + Sherman’s Delivery Room Lessons | For The Dads Podcast

Summary

Podcast Summary: Bussin' With The Boys

Episode: Will Compton’s Car Ride From Hell + Sherman’s Delivery Room Lessons | For The Dads Podcast
Release Date: July 9, 2025
Host: Sherman (Featuring NFL players Will Compton & Taylor Lewan)
Description: Join Sherman and guests as they delve into the highs and lows of fatherhood, sharing personal stories, parenting hacks, and lessons learned along the way.

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1. Episode Overview

In this heartfelt and candid episode of Bussin' With The Boys, Sherman shares his tumultuous experiences as a new father, blending humor with genuine emotion. The episode features discussions on Sherman’s challenging car rides, lessons learned from the delivery room, and the importance of mentorship among dads. Listener call-ins add diverse perspectives, creating a rich tapestry of fatherhood experiences.

2. Community Building and Listener Engagement

Sherman emphasizes the importance of building a strong dad community, affectionately referring to members as Papa Team 6 (PT6) and Papa Seals. He encourages listeners to subscribe, engage on social media, and share their own stories to strengthen the community bond.

"Subscribe to the channel... our YouTube channels at For the Dad's Pod."
(03:30)

3. Shared Parenting Stories

The episode features heartfelt shout-outs to listeners like Hunter Pal and Blake Lee, who share their victories and challenges in parenting. Hunter speaks about the healing power of being a present father, while Blake recounts overcoming sleep training woes with the help of ChatGPT.

"Sherman, the best gift you can give your wife is being the dad she always wanted."
(03:48)

"Chat GPT has walked me through the absolute war zone of sleep training..."
(04:12)

4. Sherman and Jill's Delivery Story

A significant portion of the episode is dedicated to Sherman and his wife Jill’s labor and delivery experience. Sherman narrates the intense moments in the delivery room, highlighting Jill’s strength and resilience.

"Jill's survival kit was nutso, dude. And so like, we really were set up for the absolute worst that, thank God, never happened."
(31:03)

Sherman describes Jill’s rapid dilation from 4 to 10 centimeters within three hours, illustrating the unpredictable nature of childbirth and the importance of being prepared.

"She shows up two centimeters... then they hit her with the pitocin."
(20:19)

5. Parenting Challenges and Solutions

Sherman discusses common parenting struggles, such as handling tantrums and balancing personal time with family responsibilities. He shares his strategies for de-escalating tantrums by stepping away to regain composure and emphasizing the importance of emotional regulation.

"We're not going to sit here at the pool. We're not going to stay until this is all kumbaya."
(43:16)

6. Discipline and Emotional Regulation

The conversation delves into effective discipline techniques, advocating for firm yet compassionate approaches. Sherman reflects on his own upbringing and the evolution of his disciplinary methods, stressing the need for consistency and emotional control.

"Your voice, your presence, and yes, your backyard. Save this for the days you wonder if it's enough. Because it is."
(101:00)

7. Listener Call-ins

Throughout the episode, listeners call in to share their own parenting anecdotes, ranging from managing sleep schedules to coping with the challenges of long car rides with young children.

Example Call-In:

• Betsy from Minneapolis, MN shares her excitement about potentially becoming a first-time mom and seeks advice on how to surprise her husband Tyler with the news.

"I'm hoping to surprise my husband by telling him when we are expecting our first baby. So what would you guys recommend as a good surprise for my husband?"
(86:24)

Sherman and co-hosts respond with creative ideas, blending humor and practical suggestions to help Betsy make the announcement memorable.

8. Lessons and Takeaways

The episode concludes with inspirational lessons on fatherhood, emphasizing the significance of presence over materialistic gestures. Sherman highlights an Instagram post that underscores how simple, everyday interactions build a child's emotional and cognitive development.

"You don't need a $5,000 Disney trip to build a happy childhood. You need a garden hose, a popsicle, and a parent who's present."
(103:20)

Sherman reflects on how routine and emotional safety outweigh expensive experiences in fostering resilient and emotionally secure children.

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Notable Quotes with Timestamps:

• "We are Papa Team 6. I'll start out with Hunter Pal."
  (03:31)

• "Jill wants to keep the mood light going into labor. That is my only assignment to you, Sherman."
  (20:35)

• "These tantrums, bro. I'm talking insane."
  (43:12)

• "You need to have a mentor that is far or further along in fatherhood than you are."
  (113:00)

• "Survival kit. Survival kit."
  (77:48)

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Conclusion

This episode of Bussin' With The Boys offers an authentic glimpse into the joys and challenges of fatherhood. Through personal stories, listener interactions, and practical advice, Sherman fosters a supportive community for dads navigating the complexities of raising children. The emphasis on emotional presence, mentorship, and shared experiences provides valuable insights for both new and seasoned fathers.

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Transcript

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Papa Team 6 welcome to another episode of for the Dads. This is episode five. You might be listening to me in your car right now. Maybe you're listening to me. Maybe you are in the rocker trying to get the little one back to sleep. Maybe you're at work. Just so you have one AirPod in listening during a meeting. Maybe you're hanging with your wife. Maybe she's giving you a little bit of an earful that you deserve. And for whatever reason, you're tuned out a little bit listening to this podcast. For the dads, this is episode five. We are on a new YouTube channel. Thank you all for showing up to this YouTube channel. But also dads boomer dads listen. I know men. Our our attention span can be short and very fleeting. Please subscribe to this channel. If you're part of Papa Team 6, you are subscribed to for the dads. There are wives out. There's mom, there's wives. There's there's a lot of people tuning in whether you're a dad that's in it, about to be in it, whether you just want to listen to the guys, chop it up and talk. You want to be part of Papa Team 6. You are subscribed to this podcast. And.

If you're a real sicko.

If you're a real sicko, dude, if you're a Papa Seal right now, you might not even be a dad yet. And you're just dropping in. Semen Team six. Seed Team six. I love that you like that.

Yes.

Subscribe. Subscribe to the channel. The views have been awesome. A lot more views than there are subscriptions. I get that it's a little. It's a. It's a. It's a process. I know. Last week when we were shouting out the podcast, it was so super hard to find because you had to be specific on typing in at for the dad's pod. No spaces, nothing. Just like a username in YouTube to even find this channel. Now you can just type in for the dads and find it. But again, make sure you're subscribed to the boys. We are on all socials at for the dad's pod. Yeah, our YouTube channels at for the dad's pod. But yeah, subscribe. Leave comments. The comments have been amazing. They've been nice. Comments have been awesome.

Dude, I was.

The community is growing.

I was over. Overwhelmed. I. I'll save this later, but I was overwhelmed by all the comments and people that reached out in my dms. I was overwhelmed. It was crazy.

You want to read a few?

Yeah, I would love to.

First off, shout out to people dropping comments. They got to know that we're there, that we're showing up.

That we're showing up 100%. And to your point, shout out to the 8.5k sickos that typed in at for the dad spot.

I like to think they all typed in that for the dad spot.

All typed it in. And they're absolutely sick. Goes. They're Papa Team six. I'll start out with Hunter pal. He said, sherman, the best gift you can give your wife is being the dad she always wanted. My wife grew up with absent dad as well, and she has told me watching me be a dad and her knowing our daughter will grow up with the dad has healed so many wounds for her. Being vulnerable in the comments is sick. Shout out Hunter pal for that.

Shout out, Hunter. I'm reading this one from Blake. Blake Lee. 464 fellas. And this is a little. This. This could be a little bit of a dad Hack. Because I didn't even. I didn't even think about this one. Fellas, here's a major W from the first member of Papa Team 6. Chat. GPT has walked me through the absolute war zone of sleep training with my two and a half year old. Slept nine hours straight by herself last night for the first time in two years. Four nights ago, I was asking myself, am I built for this? Am I built for the A gap? Am I truly a member of PT6? And this morning I woke up and realized I might just be himothy huge dad W for this dad of two. Shout out the boy Blake.

That was Blake that said that.

Yeah, that was Blake, dude.

Shout out Blakely Blake Lee.

Four. Six.

Four from PT6 in two years, dude. I'm sitting there two nights and I'm thinking, oh, man, like, I don't know how much longer I can do. Two years.

Two years, dude. Sleep. Sleep training is hard, man. Like, I, you know, knock on wood, I was lucky with the first two Rue took a little bit longer than Scotty and again, shout out that 12 hours and 12 weeks book. But it's a. It's a war zone.

It's a war zone.

It's a process. Yeah, it's a process.

It's something that Papa Seal can only take on. And to that point, Mike Cody 8182, he kept it short and sweet. He said, Papa Team 6 with the flex. And don't forget trash day. Remember what got us here. Trash day got us here. But also shout out Papa Team 6. I took a photo today. Today is actually my trash day. We record on Monday. I took a photo. I forgot to tweet it. That's the first thing I'll.

You got to stay on it. Papa Seals now, Papa Team Six, we got to get out the. That's the way we engage and build the community. Because people probably wondering, like, I did see people wanting the fatherhood. I think I saw a lot more for Papa Team 6.

A lot of Papa Team 6.

At first I was more of a fatherhood guy, but then I got to thinking, I'm like, Papa Team six is just more fun because you know me, I'm a little sicko. I like to. I like to rally the army up every now and then. I like to just, you know, I never know what the. How to refer to it as. Just say, like, hey, you know, for example, when I went to war with Expedia a couple years ago.

Yeah.

It was getting the army taking our nation into a war and. And be ready to not come back. There's a part, there's a fantasy I have where you just rally Papa Team 6. Whether it's in the comments, you have fun on social media. You know, I have those little fantasies, but also, like playing into it. It's like, you know, you. Let's say, for example, you post a photo of your kid. It's like, welcome to the fatherhood. Welcome to Papa Team 6.

Yes.

You see the fatherhood, I feel like that feels way more universal and generic. Even though I think it's sick, I think it's cool. And I do think we should get those upside down fatherhood hats made.

Yeah.

But it seems like something that's normal. Right. If you see like, welcome to Papa Team 6. Like anybody that's outside of the audience that for whatever reason might be on the page.

Yes.

At. For the dead spot and they see welcome to Papa Team 6. It kind of makes you pause for a second.

They're probably googling it.

Why is everybody saying Papa Team 6? It's kind of funny, kind of like an inside joke, kind of like an inside community thing that only Papa Seals understand.

You know. You know who the real, real sickos are in Puppet Team 6 are those guys that we have been doing PT Sal6 on Twitter. I've seen you do it. I've done it myself. I've seen a couple others. People on my wife's Instagram post posting a picture of Scarlet and people in the comments. Welcome to PT6, Sherm. I'm like, that's a sicko.

We need.

In a good way.

We need to mobilize Papa Team 6. Not. Not for the wars that probably will be had at some points in time with the tick tock bombs of the world who might come across clips of ours and you know, it's bound to happen at some point.

It will happen, but it will happen.

Even for recruiting purposes. Yes. You just see somebody, you tag in somebody else's video. We need to get this guy on Papa Team 6. This is Papa Team 6.

Potential shout out Chef too. He had an incredible idea for some merch of just some dads coming through, like clearing a room. And you have one with the spatula. You got one with tongs and he's like on a grill. Another one coming in. Maybe he's got the burp cloth and he's got the bottle. But they, like, look military.

They look like night vision goggles. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

That would be electric.

Maybe a dad with strapped with a carrier with the baby on the chest.

Double strapped he's got one on the back.

On the back.

It'd be so good with the backpack on.

And then out of the side sleeve, you just see the top half of a bottle.

Yeah, Yeah.

I love the detail.

The bomb diffuser would be just a guy with a baby breeza and he's like, computing on the baby Visa. Be so good.

BWTB.com that's where you get our merchandise. And I do. I. I love the detail that our merchandise has. Like, there's one. Oh, man. I was. I was posting about it yesterday, but I was kind of going through all the detail of the wolf working out in the weight room, like, blood, sweat, and beers, like, on his shirts, like, for the dads or something. And, like, you know, something down off to the side. But there's a lot of, like, cool detail that I. I feel like we get to have fun with now that.

We get to make our own merch 100%. And just to tease the merch in general, we get. We got a shipment in of the busing summer beat the heat merch in last week, I believe. And just seeing some of that.

Yeah.

And I. I can't. I'll just tease it. It's insane.

Which product are you talking about? Because it's Wednesday. Like, we have new merch that just dropped yesterday.

Okay. Well, we do have the Hawaiian matching set.

Hawaiian theme matching set fire.

And I don't, like. I really don't want to tread in water that I'm not supposed to on teasing this merch. Do I have permission to go into detail?

Yes.

There's some polos coming in that are on.

Are we talking good material Polos that some golf dads can wear?

Yeah. And one that is. There's some girl dad homages with one of the polos that I'm telling you, I cannot wait to be on the golf course. I'm. This is not a pitch for the merch. I want to be on the golf course in this one polo immediately. So keep your eyes out for that. It's so sick. So sick.

Get us juice. Get the boys rocked.

Let's go.

Get the boys rocked up on a Wednesday morning. Let's go. Dad's out there just getting the trash can bins out to the curb. Just getting rocked up listening to that little teaser.

There's so many W's with the L's, dude. There's so many W. So many W's, buddy.

There are so many L's in parenthood. And again, if you're new to this show, we run Over a lot of different things. We talk about our dad losses. You know, we talk about what we crack a cold one to.

Yep.

What are the odds?

Yep.

Shout out fanduel survival kit. What to put in the survival kit. Some dad hacks.

Yup.

Some lessons that we're learning along the way in fatherhood. To be a Papa Seal quote. We go through voicemails, call in 601. The dads people call in. We've had a lot of call in. Chef. Chef Jack in the back. He. He has about, what, four lined up for us today.

Four good ones.

Yeah, four good ones. Even a mom called in. Even a mom called in.

She knows what we're talking about.

He knows what we're talking about.

And Chef got a shout out on the voicemail. And just a little cheat code for anybody that's won their voicemail to be put on the show. You shout out Chef at the top. There's a good chance he's probably gonna listen to the rest of it.

That is true.

Just a little dad hack. Just a little dad.

Massage him a little bit.

Yo, hey. And shout out Chef.

Yeah, Jack, I know you're listening to this right now. Breaking down this voicemail. Let me put a heater on you real quick.

Oh, yeah.

Let me put a question up for the boys real quick. Yeah, that'll probably get you. You fast track to the front of the line.

That will fast track you. They. He pulled one of them up. And the shout out to Chef was strong. And I started hitting Chef when I was listening to it, I was like, that guy knows what he's doing.

Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. 601. The dads you call in. That's our hotline. We go through. We go through calls, and at the very end of the episode, we roll credits. And the credits that we roll are moments of parenthood, of fatherhood that you have with your little one. Maybe it's a gender reveal. Maybe you're doing like, you're acting and you're playing dress up with your daughter or your son. Maybe you're in the backyard running around and playing. Maybe you're having a nice dinner moment. Whatever it is. We like to roll some feel good moments at the end of the episode in our credits. Just embrace. Just to embrace the fatherhood that goes on out there.

Embrace the fatherhood. Another quick shout out. We'll have a plug at the end of episodes, you know, moving forward for future episodes. But for the time being, the national parent helpline. We shouted them out last week. We'll shout them out again, really quick. That's 1-855-427-2736. That's the National Parent Helpline. Open 24 hours. They you. Sorry, go ahead.

I was gonna say the national parent hotline. That's where you go for real.

That's where you go for real help, guys. If you're calling in and you got some actual issues, stuff that you need to get off your chest, you need some help at home, you will be matched with a. A master's in counseling that is there to help you 24 7. So shout out natural parent. Yes.

Because we don't have a master's degree. No, this is not an expert. This is not an expert podcast.

Which, by the way, in Pt. 6 got a master's degree. You do.

Pt. 6.

You do.

Which is fun. You know, a lot like you. We just. We talk through this stuff, all things fatherhood. But again, we are not experts on the show. And to go off that, I did have a bone to pick with Chef Jack.

Oh, no.

Because I said it last week. I think I gave you a title or a caption for the episode. And I go on and I see Will Compton gives parenting advice for your first child. And for whatever reason, I get triggered by giving parenting advice, being on, like, YouTube and coming across like, this is. This is where you go for advice. I don't mind that people enjoy and consume it and use. Use tips, use stuff that we talk about and help, like, help relate it to their situation. And it might turn out to be advice for them, but it's more of, like, the positioning of Will gives parenting advice. Because I hate feeling like I'm like, you know, talking to a group saying, this is what you should do. This is what you shouldn't do.

Yeah.

More of just, like, our own life experience. But that's a tip you can write down for yourself, Chef Jack, because I know you probably got it from somewhere else and they probably signed off on it. You won't say who it is and.

Can I put Chef Jack?

But I'll come in hot on a phone call and say, I don't give a shit if the SEO and this wording is better for the YouTube algorithm. I personally don't like projecting that I'm the expert and I'm the one giving advice and.

And to. I've been in that seat with busing with the boys. And to put you on game, Chef Jack, the best move you could ever do is as soon as they sign off on a title copy, paste it, text it to this guy solo. And say, hey, team likes this, and this guy will rip it in five seconds ago. Fuck that. Go with this. And then all you have to do is hit those people back and say, will's going with this. You're good. You're good. Oh, yeah.

That's good advice. That's expert advice.

I learned you have a master's. I learned I have a master's in keeping Will Compton happy with his podcast. So if. As long as you run it by.

Will, you're good, I just pop on and I just. It's the first five words. Will Compton gives parenting advice. And I was. I was wanting to break the screen. I didn't do it because I'm. I didn't want to hit up Chef Jack. We just started our Fourth of July break. I don't want bad vibes going on. It was a wonderful Fourth of July.

A new intern.

New intern. I know, I know. I'm not trying to come off hot. You know what I mean?

But some of my favorite texts are those 6am texts that you will. I'll wake up to. It's a beautiful book that you put together. And I. I truly. I giggle a little bit. I am a little scared because I'm like, I want to make Will happy, but I do giggle a little bit. Imagining you in your garage weight room typing out that text message in the.

Middle of a set, stewing on it for a couple sets, just sitting there. All right, I got three minutes rest on this one. I'm gonna fire this one. Sure.

What the.

I'll type in, like, half of it and then go hit a set and come back and be like, all right, here, here.

No, no, I can't say that, because I told him. I told them not to do that.

I know. I'll sit here and second guess myself. Did I not say this? I could have swore I said this.

Been there, been there.

Yeah.

It's a learn. It's a learn, dude.

It's an intern loss.

It's an intern loss. Brought you by, chef.

It's something you crack a cold one to as an intern.

Watch him just kill this next title.

Chef just sitting back there, nodding. Yep.

The goat. The goat.

Should we dive in?

Yes, I'm in. To dive in.

We had. I mean, all. An incredible weekend all around. We went back home from Missouri for the Fourth of July. Some good parenting stories from that that we'll dive into. But you're a dad, bro.

It's crazy.

You. Oh, you're a couple claps, just a couple laughs. There's only Three of us here. And I apologize if you heard that thunder. It is raining outside. It is storming outside. So I apologize if you hear that.

That was me and upstairs clapping, saying, yo, what up?

Fired up for you, maybe. You're a new dad. You're officially a Papa Seal. No more soon to be dad.

Yep.

You are now in it. Yes. In it. In a way to where? We got to keep this show under an hour, dude. We gotta keep it tight.

And we gotta keep it tight because I gotta get back to my girl. She'll probably see this when it comes out on Wednesday.

Your first pediatrician appointment.

First pediatrician appointment. Honey. I will be there. I know that we're watching this in the future. I will be there. I love you. And I just checked my phone. I don't know if that was on camera. I'm checking the phone to see if you texted me.

Gotta keep it under an hour.

Gotta keep under.

Gotta keep it under an hour.

Because I want to be a Good Papa Team 6 member. Do you want me to run through it just, like, really quick dad loss? No, no. Like, run through the day.

Oh, yeah, of course.

I can just run my brain.

Yes.

No, you're fine. Huge shout out to everybody that reached out. That'll be my. What are the odds this week? But going into the day was incredible. Jill's a nurse. She is always prepared for the worst because she knows what the worst can be. And we know that every single birthing experience is different. Every delivery experience is different. We've got to hear about Will's 48 hour scenario. 48 hour labor with Sweet Charles sitting at 4 centimeters.

When they texted me and said we're at 4 centimeters right now, I truly.

I texted Will because we get. Yeah, let's skip to that. I'll skip to that point. We. We fall asleep. We both fell asleep the very first night. So we get in there. I was blessed with a recliner chair.

You son of a. I know you had a recliner.

I didn't even want to say it.

Are you even a Papa Seal?

Not.

You didn't sleep on the couch.

I. If you have your masters In Papa Team 6, I am quite literally freshman year of my undergrad in Puppet Team 6.

We need to make something where you can put, like, the little patches.

Oh, yeah.

And so you almost know, like, oh, he experienced the couch.

You're a five star general.

That's what I'm saying. Like, yeah, you ain't gonna get that patch.

No, I'm a private. I'm a. I'm a buck private in. In Puppet Team 6. And I'm sitting in my room. Skip the line.

You get a recliner. Hey, let me. Let me say this. Good for you. I am happy for you that I.

Am a little envious. Yeah. Yeah.

I know a lot of dads out there swinging at the air right now, pounding on their steering wheel.

Oh, yeah.

You didn't have to sleep on a couch.

I sent it to the boys and I have a college group chat. Shout out Mike Evans. They'll know what that means. But I sent that picture of the recliner. I'm sure some of those dads in there. What the fuck?

Fuck this.

Of course.

It's almost like that's how you earn your stripes.

Oh, yeah. Now that was the delivery room. I will say post delivery room, no recliner. Couch was terrible.

But how long were you in this post delivery room?

Oh, a full day into the night and then another full day to about.

7Pm so you slept on the couch?

Slept on the couch.

Are you lying to me?

Not lying to you.

Are you lying to me?

Not lying to you. I. I can call Jill if I need to.

You slept on the couch.

She might tell you that I slept too much on the couch.

Okay. All right.

She might tell you I slept too much on the couch.

Buddy, anytime we facetime, you look vibrant.

I. That's what I'm saying. That's what I'm saying.

We had. So what did somebody. They said somebody on here? Yeah, Sean was like 12 hours is insane. You talking about how you slept 12 hours last week? My nine month old boy is teething right now and we woke up six times last night. It's all part of it. Hope everything goes well. Sure. Hey, let you know, Sean, it sounds like everything went very well for our boy. For our boy. Sherm.

Sherbs doing great.

You mentioned you got a. You got a mani pedi while you were in there?

I did. We had. We had the Roku stick. Huge dad hack. We brought the Roku stick in there.

So we can stream smart.

It was incredible. We got Tommy boy rolling on the tv. Jill had never seen Tommy boy shout out. Tommy boy, nice. But Jill's overall note was I want to have fun and keep the mood light going into labor. That is my only assignment to you, Sherman, is I want to keep it light. And I don't know if people that follow me on Twitter, Instagram, saw that college football hype video style. I put it to scrilla.

Oh, buddy, it was awesome. I loved watching it.

Made that hype Video. I didn't show it to her right before delivery. I'm. As. I'm sure people saw. We're reading it. Go. This.

My question I have is, was she the one filming you?

She wanted to. Yeah, she wanted to film me. Okay, so that shot when you.

When you're sitting there in your headphones and going. I'm like, laughing to myself thinking, are they at the hospital right now? And Sheriff's like, hey, jelly bean, you. You mind. You mind just hitting a little recording for me? As I just kind of sit with my headphones on.

There's four people in the waiting room watching it go down, too. And they're probably looking at us like these idiots.

They probably just. A quick timeout. Are. Are people hearing this?

I would assume they hear the rain, but not to the degree. That would be like, it's pretty loud right now. It is right now. It is. But even with the AC that was, like, running in the back. Oh, it just got even louder.

I know, I know.

We might want to wait for it to die down just a little bit. Or we can press on. Take five.

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Yeah. Yeah, we had to. We had to just get on the bus because it helps with the. The sound as the rain was getting so loud. I don't know if you guys were hearing it in your audio, but it gets so loud, it. Sherm's voice gets a little bit more faint. So we had to make a pivot. We had to make a call because we got to keep this under an hour.

We got to keep it under an hour.

Got to keep it under an hour.

I told Jill 2:30. It's 1:43.

Yeah, we'll keep it.

We'll keep it under an hour.

And if not, you know it. I don't want to talk hypotheticals. I don't talk hypotheticals.

Honey, I love you. I'm going to make it to that.

But if you're home at 237, that's fine. It's a dad loss.

Dad loss.

Good for the show.

Great for the show.

But we had to make a change. So we're in. We're in a different studio right now. We're on the bus with the boy studio. Appreciate you tuning in. Make sure you subscribe. But sometimes you gotta. You gotta adapt on the, the environment, the elements get to you. Yeah, we got some elements. Sometimes you're gonna want to be at a pool thinking you're going to be at the pool for about four hours and it's going to cut short and go to 2 because someone's losing their mind. I'm talking to you r. But carry on with. Carry on with your story. I kind of forgot where we were, but I did have a. What are the odds?

Oh, you have a. What are.

I had a. What are the odds.

I like that.

I had a what are the odds? Shout out to. Shout out to partner. Fanduel in the background. But I had a. What are the odds? What are the odds that Jill stayed at fort. We got somebody coming in.

Oh, is that Mitch?

Oh, it's Matt. Yeah, we're recording.

Hey, shout out. Matt entered.

Matt, what are the odds that Jill sat at 4cm over under an hour. What are the odds that you had an incredibly smooth delivery, One that a lot of parents would be jealous of.

One that people legitimately would get angry about. Like when I FaceTimed you yesterday and you were checking in on the fam and yeah. How'd it go? Blah blah blah. Like a part of me, it hurt a part of me to tell you how our experience went because it was so good.

It was just what everybody wants.

Which is what everybody, if you have.

An experience like I'm thinking like mine, like who knows how it's going to go in there. The you hear how great everything was. If, if anything as a dad, I don't want to tell Charo how smooth it went. Yeah. Cuz she's going to be. I'm just kidding. She's going to.

No, but truly, I mean for some of these moms and stuff, like they get there too late, they don't get their epidural.

Yeah. But everybody, everybody hopes for the of course delivery you're about to tell us about.

Of course. And Jill, I mean absolutely kills it. My, one of my favorite moments I'll never forget forget is we both fall asleep. Jill though is like sleeping in our intervals or like an hour 30 interval because nurse is coming in and checking her.

Yeah.

Because they gave her the induction in the mouth.

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And I forget the name of that pill, but that's not the Pitocin Pitocin. That's not the. It's the one before Pitocin. Pre Pitocin Pre Pitocin pill. So they give her pre Pitocin pill. It didn't really do anything. So during the middle of the night while I'm snoozing on recliner, being dad.

Of the year, they sweetheart, I just edited up this video. You did a great job.

I'm a pass up, which is literally what I did.

You good over there? You might get some. You might have some shot. You're doing great.

I Mean, I'm in the recliner doing this. I'm going like this here in the bed. I'm holding her hand. I like, truly was so comfy, dude. It's kind of insane how well it was.

This is you in the recliner.

Yes, Me in a recliner with Jill. Brought these like silk pillows and I have a barefoot dreams blanket.

Like, I tell you what you like. Your survival kit was ready to go.

Because of Jelly Bean. I mean, Jill was so freaking dialed, dude. And when we have more time, I want to do a full survival kit breakdown to everybody because it looked like we were going on a two week vacation with those bags that we were bringing in. Worth. We used every single thing we brought and I swear to God we did. Because the luggage, it may look like that was all clothes. It was really like a ton of gear. Burp cloths, diapers. What is it called? A preemie diaper. Because Scarlett was tiny. Five, five pounds, seven ounces when she came out. Five pounds, seven ounces. She's smaller than a baby doll. And so we're having to use the preemie diapies and all this stuff, but we'll, we'll do that another time. And like, that could even be a great, like if Jill wanted to do a call in or something.

We need to have the wives on.

Yeah.

People calling for it. It's gonna happen.

Yeah. Jill's survival kit was nutso, dude. And so like, we really were set up for the absolute worst that, thank God, never happened. And so my favorite moment was waking up at like 6am and it was truly like the scene in Saving Private Ryan where he loses his hearing on the beach and that guy's and says, what do we do now, sir? Jill's like, over me. Netflix says, are you still watching blah, blah, blah, like on the screen? And she's like, honey, I'm contracting. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I get out of the recliner, she's doing the. To what? Unbeknownst to me, in the middle of the night, that thing that they put in her mouth, they then did it in the downstairs later that night to see how that would go. Well, she went from two. She showed up two centimeters dilated. And for the dads at home, that's just the cervix, which is kind of the gate that the baby has to go through to enter into the opening where the baby's going to come out. So she shows up at 2. That little thing that they inserted got her to a 4. Nurse comes in, checks her, she's at 4 centimeters, in my head, I go, oh, Bob. Because we have a family friend that said at 4 centimeters. Well, for a long time, not as long as Charo, but a long time. So I hear 4 centimeters. I think of you, and I think of our family friend. I text you, and I say, we're at 4 centimeters. And in my head, it's like, we're at 4 centimeters. We're at 4 centimeters. I'm just like, oh, no, that, like, the trigger number. Oh, please, please, please. So then they hit her with the pitocin. We go about three or four hours. All of a sudden, Jill is like, I want really feel pressure. Like, I. Sherman, I feel pressure, and it feels like I need to poop. And they say that if you feel like you need to poop, you're gonna have your baby. And so she tells nurse, it's only been three hours since the pitocin. So nurse is kind of like, we'll get the midwives in here in a little bit. We'll have them check you. And then she kind of stopped, and she looked at Jill, and she was like, how much pressure? And Jill was like, a lot of pressure. Well, she gets her flashlight out, goes underneath the hood, goes, we'll get the midwives. Midwives come in, they go fully dilated. She went from four to ten in three hours.

Oh, my.

Four to ten centimeters in three hours.

The white walkers were at the wall, at the wall.

And this watcher on the wall was having to get in the zone. In that moment, it was like everything stops. And thankfully, Jill had kind of like, trained me and put me through the ringer to know what to expect.

So do you have your coffee?

No. Didn't have coffee the entire time I was there. But the one thing that I forgot to say, dude, is Jill was like, I want to feel some of the contractions before I get the epidural. But, Sherman, it's your job. Make sure that I get on that epidural. I don't want to miss it. Blah, blah, blah. When she was sitting at 4 and, like, contracting really hard, like, before they came in to say she was at 10, she's like, I don't know. Should I get on the epidural? I'm, like, in my head, like, Rocky 2 or Rocky 4, throwing the damn towel. Like, I'm sitting there going, take the epidural right now. What do you. Why are we waiting? She's like, I want to finish my yogurt because I can't eat after I have epidural. I got the yogurt. I'm force feeding her yogurt. I'm like, finish this freaking yogurt. Because you like, girl, you got to get the epidural. We get the epidural. They come in, she's at a 10. We gotta start pushing right before we're about to push. They're like, hey, we don't have an OR room open for Jill in case things go south. So we have to suspend pushing as long as we can, Jill, until an OR room, an operating room opens up in case things go south. In the meantime, would you want anesthesiologists to come in and give you another hit? Because it. It seems like you have a lot of discomfort. Jill is like, yes, that was the biggest blessing in disguise. They came in, dude, and mainlined some stuff into Jill. And Jill gives me that look after 15 minutes of getting mainlined with what? Whatever they put in that cocktail. She's like, I'm ready to push. I. I feel good. Like, I'm ready to go. And they came in, they tell her, hey, you're going to do three pushes per round. It looks like this, dad, you're going to hold feet. The other nurse is going to hold the other foot.

You're holding feet. So you're south of the wall.

I was a watcher on the wall. I had. I was able to see south of the wall where the white walkers were coming and I was. Or, sorry, north of the wall where the white walkers are coming and south of the wall. So I was able to see both concentrating on Jill, but also, like, interested in seeing what's going on down there. Because Midwife was like, dad, if you want to look, baby's head is literally right there. That was before we even started pushing. It's because little Scarlet is so small, dude. She just positioned well, positioned well.

She knew her.

She knew her role. She was like, I'm ready. We're doing this right now. I do. I've never been more proud of Jill. Jill was such a gangster dude, like, such a stud. During the pushing, she did four rounds of three pushes. And each time, like, on the third push, I'd be like, there's not a shot in hell she's going to give it what she did. The first two, the third one would always be the strongest. Scarlett would move the most. On the third one, you would hear the midwives go, good, there it is, there it is. And I'm sitting there and I'm like, jill's a beast, dude. She just covered in sweat. And each time, just Taking the biggest breaths and. And just bearing down. I was like, God, I'm so proud of her. Like, she's freaking killing it. And then on the fourth round of pushes, Scarlet came out on the third round. Midwife looks at her right before we start the fourth round of pushes and looks at Jill and goes, hey, it's a really cool moment for moms that I can get her out very easily. I'm not worried. I'm going to get her to her torso and you can reach down and physically pull her up if you want to do that. Are you interested in that, Jill? And Jill was like, yeah, I want to do that. She was like, okay, when I tell you, you reach down, you'll. You'll grab her, and you just bring her to your chest. And on that third push, they got Scarlet out to her torso. She was holding her umbilical cord like Batman doing his, you know, little gun. She comes out like this, and. And Jill just reached down there and grabbed Scarlett and brought her to her chest. It was unreal.

Dude, that is incredible.

I'm looking at my wife like, who are you? Like, that's so sick.

And it. Isn't it wild seeing your wife go through that?

Yes. And I told her, like, beforehand, I don't know, because I don't know childbirth, but I'm like, if there's anybody that can do it, it's you. Like, she's such a pusher. She's such a grinder. She. You like? Yeah, she just has that mentality, but she also has a lot of fearfulness and anxiety.

Yeah.

And beforehand, I was like, if anybody's got it, it's you. You're gonna destroy this. And then to see her go out on the field and perform, like, you think she's going to make a coach proud? Make a coach proud, dude. And then that moment with Scarlet, man, I, I, I can send you some pictures, Chef, if you want to put on the episode. Dude, I'm Waterworks. Obviously. Y' all saw me last week, dude, it was amazing. It was amazing.

That's incredible, bro.

And for you, man. Yeah. And I, I hope that on, like, everybody that has a delivery coming up, expecting fathers and stuff. You wish that on everybody, but we were blessed enough to have that, and it was awesome.

Any. Any lapses on your part? Any, Any dad losses?

I actually have a dad loss, but it's a, It's a. This week. Oh, do you have a dad loss?

I do have a dead loss.

Do you want to go first? Or I can do my mother.

Yeah. So my dead loss this week is going to go to a dead loss that I took losing. I lost control of myself, losing control of Rue.

Oh, no.

Yeah. So we got back from our Fourth of July. From our Fourth of July weekend. We got back on Saturday and we went to the pool on Sunday, and we were expecting to be. We got there early, so that way we had a good, good little spot, good little setup, and we're going to enjoy a little pool day. And we're hoping to be there probably around four hours. And it got cut short two, two and a half hours because Rue ended up losing her mind, throwing a tantrum. And it was one of those ones where she was. She was throwing a tantrum and it was like, all right, we. We told. Like I told her, I'm like, hey, if you don't stop doing this, I'm gonna have to take you somewhere else. We're gonna have to leave the pool and walk somewhere until you can calm down.

Oh, no.

Because she wanted. She was very particular. It's like you have a three year old and their brains, they're just, their vocabulary is growing. They're. They're understanding a lot more, but they're also limited in how they can, like, verbally communicate. So they, so they're, they're just dealing with big emotions on how to communicate perfectly. Because she's very particular.

Yeah.

And she, we were like playing this game in the pool where, you know, she had this crab and she wanted to either drop the crab down underwater and go down and get it by herself, but she couldn't do it by herself. So I'm like, do you want that it help you? No, I can do it by myself. And I'm like, okay, do it by yourself. No, no, I can't. I can't. And so you're just caught in this argument of like, what do you want? Yeah, like, notebook. What do you want, Rue? Yeah, what do you want, Ru? Like, you have to. You're telling me you don't want help, but I'm like, okay, you go ahead and do it. I can't. I can't do it by myself. Okay, well then you need me. What do you need me to do? And we're kind of caught in this back and forth. So I figure out my, all right, we're going to have to get out of the pool, go and remove her from the situation. Remove her from the environment. She's having a tantrum. You can't communicate well when they're having a tantrum. So you're just Trying to. You're just trying to, like, be there for them so that way they can calm down.

You're getting her to the sideline. You're. You're showing her tape.

Yeah. And these tantrums, bro. I'm talking insane. Oh, no. It's like, I hate to be like, the dead law. You'll see one day, but it's like, bro, they're, like, shaking. They're. They're stiffening their bodies up. Like, you try to. I try to pick them up, and I'm trying to, like, hug her and trying to force hugger and let her know to calm down. And she's just, like, full stiff. Yeah. She's like, I want mom. I want Mama. And I'm like, I'll take you to mama if you can just calm down just a little bit. We'll go over to Mama. Because, you know, they're. They're out. We're like. We're in public. So you feel like you're getting the looks. You feel like you're getting all these things. Yeah, I'm probably in my own head about it a little bit. I'll take you back over to mama when you can calm down. And she's screaming like, mama, see Mama. See Mama like this. That. The other rule. You have to calm down.

Like, she wants to see Mom.

You're gonna work yourself up. You're gonna. It's. It's going to hurt. You're trying to, like, say all these things to her, try to get her to calm down. And I'm standing there, and she's just, like, sitting down in the corner, and she continues to scream. And I just. I lost it. I lost it.

What you do?

There's like a. Like a demonic part of my soul started to fill up. I was getting so angry inside, and I was trying to stay calm. I was trying to stay collected.

She saw that NCAA impact player, Nebraska.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And I was like, for people watching, they just see my face. They probably know what I'm talking about, too. And I just reached down there. Like, it's like. It's like I'm sitting there, I'm thinking about all the times my dad would just spank me. And I'm thinking, I'm not gonna spank her. And I just. I just grab her. I'm like, rue, hey, I'm gonna. I'm gonna. We're gonna go to mama. We are gonna go to mom right now. And she's, like, looking away. I'm like, look at me. And she's like, looking away. And I grab her by the face and look over. I'm like, look at me. I'm gonna take you to mom, but you better stop right now because this is. And she's, you know, she's. I have her face grab looking at me, and she's trying to, like, calm down because she's, like, hyperventilating. Yeah.

Yeah.

So she's not really making noise anymore. She's just kind of, like, breathing. And I, like, take her. She's got her goggles on, her little rainbow goggles. Goggles. And I, like, rip her rainbow. Rainbow goggles off. And you, like. You just, like, grab them and pick them up, and you're, like, whipping them around on your body. You're like, I'm gonna take you to mom, but you are going to calm down as I walk over here.

You're not hurting her, but you're also showing her, hey, dad has got some strength.

Yeah.

You want to play with that?

Yeah. Yeah. It got to a point to where, like, all right, we're this whole. I'm gonna be calm and we're gonna play. I'm gonna be nice and be this parent that you're just gonna stay polite. Toys. And you're gonna just sit there with them and be there with them. No, that. That turned off my heart turned black.

That's. I. So far, this kind of sounds like a. A win.

I know the part where you feel like it's a dad loss is you feel bad about it when you're driving home. Or I'm, like, thinking about it all day because I got down there, I got on her level, and I grabbed her face, and I, like. I, like, put it over to mind. I'm like, look at me. You're gonna stop this right now. And picked her up, like, you know, like, grabbed her goggles, ripped it off of her head. And I'm, like, marching over, over to my wife, and I can just hear her hyperventilation, her, like, little breasts. And that's what makes me feel bad is I'm like. I'm sure I shocked her in the moment, which. It's like she needed that in my brain. I'm like, hey, she did. That's what the moment calls for. That's what you had to do. I had to stop the bleeding. I walk over there, and I just, like, kind of toss her. Like, toss her down on the chair.

Here's your daughter.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. She wants you.

She wants to talk to you.

She wants you. I can't do this right now. I Like, go and take a walk. And we have to leave because she, like, she works herself back up again. And we're just like, hey.

Oh, really?

We're like, yeah, we're leaving. We're not doing this. We're not doing. She's got to know that she cannot act this way. She cannot behave this way. We are leaving.

Yeah.

And so we end up going home and everything else. And I was so upset. We were both. Charl and I both. We were both upset. We both did a little bit of yelling.

You're just disappointed at y' all or her?

At her? Like, we're getting in and she's still, like, worked it up. Charles snaps at her.

So, Charles, on your side in this moment. Yeah.

Because she's. She's.

Well, yeah, but of how you handle.

Yeah, yeah. She didn't, like, she didn't mind it. She didn't mind how I handle. We talked later and we were kind of, like, laughing about it. Hey, I gotta tell you, like, I went down. I got on her level and I grabbed her by the face and, like, jerked it over to mine.

Oh, yeah.

And it's like, you wanna. I wanted. I want. Wanted to tattoo her ass, bro.

Oh, yeah.

And, dude, I've.

I think you did a great job in that moment of expressing. It's like those tick tocks of, like, the parents that tried to exhibit that. Like, I know you're feeling bad right now, but how can I help you in this situ. As you're having a tantrum.

Yeah.

Can't do that.

Yeah. No, you're.

It called for it.

Yeah, it called for it. It's just like, like, it's like you're thinking about it the rest of the day. Because when I'm reacting, I'm not doing it as, like, a predetermined. This is the right move to do.

I'm like.

I'm like losing my. I'm like losing all my emotion to where I'm, like, physically, like, grabbing her and jerking around and turning her face, ripping her goggles off. And I'm like, thinking on. I'm just, like, thinking back to my. I'm like, man, I lost full composure because I was pissed off. I know that's gonna happen, but that's like my dad. Because it's funny because your little. Your little boy, your little girl, whatever it is, they're like the only being in the world where you can be so mad. I'm talking so mad to where you will stay mad at him. Like, I wasn't cool with Rue for A good couple hours.

Yeah.

Or a good hour to where it's like, hey, no, if you. You want to apologize to us, you're not going to do it sitting on the couch over there and just say, I'm sorry. I'm sorry for acting that way. No, you're going to walk over to me and you're going to look at me.

You told her that?

Yeah, yeah, yeah. You're going to say sorry to me, and you're also going to walk over and you're going to look at your mom and you're going to say sorry to mom. You're going to give us both hugs. She did good. She did it. And it's like, it's. And then later on, I had to get a sweat in. Char knew I kind of needed a moment. She's like, hey, I'm going to go take rude to the grocery store. Yeah, you do whatever you got to do. So I kind of had an hour to, like, decompress and everything else.

Yeah.

And what I was going to say is, like, this little human. They're the only one. They're the only beings in the world that you can be so mad at. But the minute she gets home and I. I'm upstairs and I hear from downstairs like, dad, that. Where are you? Dad, dad, dad, dad, look.

Come.

Come look at this. Come look at this. And you, like, have a smile on. On your face because you're, like, excited to see them again. And you're just like, well, their brains just move on because they're dealing with. So, you know, they're dealing with all their big emotions. And I'm kind of, you know, you're kind of. You kind of go from all the way at 100 to where it's just completely gone when they come home and like, dad, dad, come yoke, come yuk. Dad, where are you? You're like, oh, sweetheart, it's good to see you.

Yeah, don't stand a chance. In a good way. In a good way.

I chalked it up as a dad lost. Now, talking through and talking to you now you've made me feel better about what my decisions and actions were good. But I just felt like it got to that moment to where all this. This. What do you need from me? Was out the door.

Yeah.

Hard. Had to turn black. Papa Seal. Papa Seal had to go in full effect in the trenches.

100%, dude. And, like, for my dad, I feel like had a very healthy dose of discipline with my brother. And I have an older brother. Four. Four years. Shout out. Jordan Very healthy discipline. It was never too much or anything like that. Healthy relationship with dad growing up. But all mom had to say sometimes was, you wait till your dad gets home from work. Yeah. And, bro, that's all I had.

That was. That was my kind of. I mean, he would tan my ass, bro.

Oh, yeah. It got to the point where that's all she had to do. I'm up in my room bawling, and then I hear the garage door open. I'm. I'm cooked.

Yeah.

What the hell was I thinking?

Yeah.

And so, like, I. I think. Not that you, like, showed force, but, like, you. You showed her that. Hey, if you get to a level like dad, as might be your favorite person, but he is not cool with that kind of behavior.

Yeah. I. I strongly believe it's like, yeah, they have to. They have to understand there's going to be consequences.

Yeah.

I think everybody agrees with that 100%.

And she never got.

We're not going to sit here at the. The pool. We're not going to stay until this is all kumbaya and then you're going to go back in the pool. We're going to have fun. Because then to me, in my brain, I'm thinking We're just enabling.

100 that behavior was.

Until you got what you wanted.

Yeah.

Because once you started working back in, like, Charlie and I, we were both wanting a pool day. Like, I'm wanting to sit out there and catch some rays. I'm honestly pissed that we're having to leave, but I'm like, we have to leave because she has to know that this is not all right.

Yeah.

Because Scotty was being great, and again, the vibes were good, and, man, we wanted to go. A good pool day.

That's the dad loss in it all.

Yeah. It's just like the dad lost. Losing out on a good pool day. Yeah. That's the dad loss.

That's the dad loss.

That's the dad loss.

You need a good pool day. Yeah. And I love that, like, she didn't get what she wanted in the moment. Slash didn't get the residuals of that moment because she's getting to the age where she realizes mamas and dadas wanted to be at the pool, too. And I'm guessing family friends were there, right? Was this.

No, it was just us. We still got back into Nashville on Saturday. We went on Sunday morning.

Okay, cool. But I mean, still a fun time. She knows mamas and dad has one to have a fun time at the pool, too.

No talking this Out. You're right. You're right. The loss was not having a full pool day for the fam.

Okay, good.

Was the parents not having a pool day.

Good.

Because you're right.

I, I. Yeah. As you were going through that, I'm.

Kind of grabbing by the face, guys.

Like, I was waiting for. For, like, the spanking or whatever, and when it never happened, like, you feel.

It's more of, like, you know, you, You. You beat yourself up when you, like, I, like, lost myself. You know what I mean?

Yes.

Even though it's, like, talking through it, like, hey, that's what the moment might have needed, or that's how I'm just fighting my head.

Yeah.

Could be right, could be wrong. Whatever. It's like I'm thinking back like, I lost full composure of myself because I got so.

And I know. I know that I'm speaking way out of turn. We just said I'm a buck private for Papa Team 6, but I know for a fact that Papa Team 6 doesn't sit in that helicopter with a little air horn calling down, going, hey, you better stop that. Don't do that. Yeah, that helicopter's landing. Ropes are coming down.

We're.

We're descending, and we're getting in the. We're getting in the firefight. If you're Papa Team Six.

Yeah. This is a moment where you wanted to. I wanted to waterboard.

Yeah, that's okay.

That's okay. You might think that you didn't do it.

Thinking about it.

What was. We got to keep this.

Yeah, we have 20.

Yeah.

Okay.

Gotta keep it under an hour.

My is actually really quick this week. Which. Which will help. Left. Left Scarlett this morning unattended for five seconds on the chain on the changing table. And what did you have to do?

What was the. What was the.

I was changing her, and I didn't have the right diapers. We have the newborn diapers, and like we talked about earlier, Scarlett is quite literally the size of a peanut. So we're having to use premium diapers right now, or else you're having to use the actual newborn diapers, and you're rolling those suckers over, like, three times.

Yeah.

Just to get it to where, like, it's fitting on her. So I go, oh, the preemies are on the kitchen counter, and her nursery is right there. I mean, I could get there in eight steps, max. So I'm like, oh, go grab it. Just not even thinking, like, she's on the changing table. It's the. You know, it's shaped like u Shaped. It would take a lot for her to roll off in my dad brain. I'm like, and she's good. Yeah. I got, I gotta get to work. I gotta get her change. And so I left the room, and Jill goes, what do you need? I go, I need the premium. And then she sees that I have no baby in hand. She goes, where is she? And I go, she's on, she's on a changing table. Full sprint. Full sprint. And, like, we have hardwood floors. I mean, it sounded like the mama bear was charging, and she held back on me. I, I thank her for holding back on me. Me. I did. When?

Chef, tell me you didn't say, sweetheart, they can't roll. Oh, oh, I, I, you got to zip it up.

I knew I up real quick because that's a pure.

That's just a moment with the wife. I wouldn't necessarily. It's like, you know, you went, you grabbed the debt, you grabbed the preemie diaper. It's not, they're really not going to go anywhere. It's a few seconds, but we're not going to say that. Matter of fact, if you're listening right now, jelly bean, you did not hear us say, no, baby's not going nowhere in five seconds, though.

And also, if Jill and Charl have their own podcast, that's like, Jill's dad loss, essentially. It's like, what the fuck was Sherman thinking? Like, why did you think that was okay? Which I understand that now. I understand that now. And Chef heard me on a phone call with Jill before we started recording. You heard a lot of yes, ma' ams in that phone conversation, I'm sure. Lottie. Yes, ma'.

Am.

Yeah, you got to be dialed right now.

I'm a little bit. I'm not in the doghouse, but let's just keep this thing under it.

These are moments you're just gonna have to take in and accept and absorb.

Yeah. Whether.

Right. Wrong. Indifferent.

Oh, yeah. Did not fight her. Honey, I am so sorry. Honey. I really am so sorry. I. What? I also didn't know. This is kind of a dad loss, too. I do have a dad boss loss. I have been waking up at the feeding time, so I had a 2:30 feeding time, a 5:30 feeding time last night.

Yeah.

I woke up at the feeding times unbeknownst to Jill. So I really wasn't feeding her until like, 3, 3:30. 6, 6:30.

You gotta get the ball. You got to get it ready.

Yes. And get her changed and stuff. Like, piss her off before you feed Her. So then she's, like, awake and, you know, ready to feed. And so Jill realized that this morning because I had a seven o' clock feeding time. And she walks in there and it's, you know, like 7, 45, 8. And she's like, are you just now feeding her? I was like, yeah. Like, so proud. So proud. So proud. In that moment. Yes, honey, I'm feeding her. And she. Honey, she's taking it down. She already got one ounce down. She's only got another ounce to go. And she. I could tell. And just so much rage in her mind. She did a great job of just in that moment, stopping and communicating. You need to be waking up at least 45 minutes before the.45. Oh, yeah. 30 to 45 minutes before the feeding time because she needs to be changed. And bottle in mouth by feeding time because, like, you all know, it takes me a while to get out of bed. So 45 minutes. She's going off. She's going off Sherman's hun. Yeah. She was like, that bottle needs to be in mouth at feeding time.

This is where you. You harness. For the dads out there listening, you harness these moments.

Yeah.

And these are nice little conversations in chemistry builders with your little one.

Yeah.

Hey, mama didn't like that I left you for. For five seconds, we're gonna keep the secret between us that you're gonna be okay. I know you know that. I know. I know. You're not rolling. Yeah. She's doing a great job. She just. She went through a lot. There's a lot going on that she can't control. We're just gonna keep this between us. I knew you were good. You knew I was good. You knew I was gonna be back quick in five, 10 seconds. Hey, those.

Those 20 different babies that came into her hospital when she was a nurse.

Yeah.

That had skull fractures because this exact thing happened. I know you're not gonna do that.

I know you're not gonna get a skull frapped. What?

Come on. And she's. Tell me that very calmly.

Yeah, very sweetly.

Honey, I have seen over 10 cases of this myself. You cannot do that.

Okay.

Yes, ma'.

Am.

I'm so sorry I didn't handle it great.

Yeah, you handled it great.

And what stunk do you can't. Can I segue that into my crack a cold one?

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Okay. To segue into my crack a cold one. Jill has got me fully dialed on feeding. Like I feel good, dude, and I know it's a day to day thing. People are probably listening. They're going, Sherman thinks he's got it all figured out but like I gotta find the wins where I can find them. And I was so freaking nervous and scared about diabete changes, feeding and stuff. And Jill has me like a well oiled machine. I'm just going off her playbook.

Yeah.

And I love that all the feeding techniques are named after football terminology. You have football, three points of contact, you have sideline.

Yeah.

I'm like, I, I can roll with this.

Yeah.

I was like, I'm gonna go with football, I'll do football. And they're like, all you gotta do is piss her off, change her, her tires, her diapers, get her pissed, turn all the lights on, wake their ass up, take the onesie off, let them sit there a little bit on the changes table, let them get cold. Yeah, they start doing the.

Yeah, they're.

Trying to spaz and then as soon as I see that mouth go, I get her in football and bottle in mouth, dude. And she's got a really good suck. Even the nurses were like, weird terminology. But the nurses were like, yo, you.

Gotta, you gotta, you gotta eat her.

I got an eater, dude. She is a peanut. But boy, she likes food.

That's good. It's good. Like you saying it'll change and you got to find the wins where you can find them but it's better to be absolutely dialed every step of the way. So that way when you get a little off track or something happens or something changes or she starts to get a little pissed off or adversity is going to strike.

Yeah. Yeah.

You're going to be so dialed in on step one that hey, you'll be ready to learn. Step two. Yes. You'll be ready to roll with the punches.

We'll be ready to roll with the punches. So that 5:30 feeding, that's my crack. A Coleman for. We got Bud Lights here. Shout out Bud Light for sponsoring the podcast. Sponsoring the podcast.

Yeah. My cracker cold one's going to go to. Speaking of cracking a cold one and drinking a lot of Bud Lights and some neutrals. The Fourth of July party. I think there is a moment where we're all sitting around and I made the comment like this. The party now looks a lot different than, than it did a few years ago because a few years ago it's like you're not married. Maybe somebody has a young kid or like a newborn or something. But other than that, some of the friends that we have, it's like their kids are like in high school and we're all these not married men, still boys, like introducing our wives or girlfriends or whatever it is. And now years later, we're sitting there and I'm looking around and you got one of the boys that were in high school, he's graduated high school. I got two kids in my own. My best friend Nick and Chuck, they got two kids of their own. Like, we have all these little kids, we have all these babies.

So sick.

Adam Foal. Shout out the boy Adam, who is our, you know, host at the St. Louis Cardinals. Oh, yeah, he's up, he's, he's with the Cardinals, but he's got, he's got four kids and his like eight or nine year old McKinley, she's helping out. You got people like Scotty's sleeping on Caitlyn, my brother's girlfriend. It's more of like this tribal mentality where having this party and I'm sitting around looking and mentioning to Kenny and to everybody, like, how different this party looks now that we all have families and we all have kids. Because there's a water slide up now, like the annual cornhole party still happens.

Where do y' all host this again?

At Kenny's house. Shout out the boy, Kenny Farkus. But we go to his spot.

He's got a spot, dude.

Yeah, he's got a great setup. He's got a garage to where you can have the cornhole tournament out there in the gravel. We got the backyard set up to where there's tents because we've learned how hot it gets every year. You need more, more tents. There's tents, yeah, tailgate tents. There's big fans because you know there's going to be kiddos and little children because you're wanting, you know, the parents to stick around as long as we can until it's Bedtime. And it's just one of those moments to where you just crack a cold one to the moment because you're looking around and you see all your friends to where there's new families, there's the friends of ours that has their kids, and he's. They're graduating. They're later in high school. You know, you got some kids that are helping out with the other kids. Everybody's kind of lending a helping hand, knowing that everybody's got kids now, and you're kind of just sitting there with your boys that you grew up with, that you're having all these, Whether it's barbecues or whatever, to celebrate us graduating high school, us going off to college, us graduating college.

Yeah.

And now we're at the point to where we're all sitting there with our families. And even though it only happens once a year, it's like you're cherishing those moments because you don't know how many times you get to see all your friends and all your close ones. Yes. In the same spot with each other, with the kiddos around the same age, and they're making friends. And you hope it continues to be something where we get with each other more than just once a year.

Yeah.

So you just know, like, ru, hey, we're going back to Missouri. We're gonna have a Fourth of July party. And she knows she's gonna go back and see Hudson, Grady, Chip, all of them.

Dude, to. I think this will make that even better for you. Not to make it about myself, but I grew up with a very similar situation. Shout out Possum Kingdom Lake for all the 817ers and 214s in the DFW area. We'd go to the same lake house. I'd see my two favorite or like, same favorite friends, Natalie and Emily. We'd stay at their lake house. And, dude, I'm telling you, fourth of July is my favorite holiday because of that. I mean, we did it for, like, almost 10 years straight. Yeah. And so fires me up. Yeah. R. And Scotty are going to appreciate.

That, like a tradition and just look forward to even, you know, get the once a year to get around. Get around everybody.

That's going to mean a ton to them when they get older.

Yeah. But crack A. Cole went to those moments. Yeah, Cole. One of those moments, man. Because we're all. We're all grown. We're all in the parenthood. We're all in Papa Team six together.

We are. Do you mind not to put Jill on the spot, but do you mind if I call her and see if I can't get.

10 extra minutes?

10 extra minutes.

Go ahead. Okay, Papa Team 6, this is an example. When you are up against the clock and we've all been there, We've all been there with our boys, and, you know the time's gonna get. Probably get pushed a little bit, and you're trying to do some damage control, so. Postpartum, Mother. A few days postpartum. Sherman's making the call right now. He's dropping in with some knock night vision.

Hey, honey. Hey, honey. How did the chairs go?

Oh, I. I don't know. They haven't come yet.

Oh, okay. So I'm calling on the podcast because I'm looking at the clock right now. It's 2:20.

You got it.

I just. I just wanted to confirm. What time did you want me home by?

2:30.

2:30. Is there any way that that could be closer to 245? 250 if we're almost done.

Yes, I. Let's. Let's do 245.

Is 245 okay?

Yes. We're just gonna. I. I just want to have extra time because it's raining and it's our first appointment, so I just don't really know where to go. And we're gonna have to sign paper, so.

Absolutely. She's right.

Right?

She's right.

Absolute max. 245. I love you. Thank you. Will wants to say hi really quick.

You're a saint, Jilly Bean. You're a saint. You are a saint, and we love you so much, and we are so happy you're doing well.

Thank you, guys. So whatever y' all need to do is fine by me.

Oh, Jill, you are the best. Thank you, sweetheart.

We love you. You are my priority. And I love you so much, and I cannot wait to see see you.

Okay. I'll see you soon.

All right. 245. Love you.

Goodbye, Papa Seal. Mission accomplished. Mission accomplished. Oh. All right. We gotta lock in. We gotta lock in.

We gotta lock in.

Gotta lock in. Survival kit.

Survival kit.

My survival kit edition will be Go to Music in a Long car Ride. So preface this. We drove back to Missouri on Thursday. Morning. Morning.

Okay.

On Wednesday, our AC upstairs went out. Both kiddos were getting over sicknesses. Good.

Yeah.

Got to be dialed in good. We were. We were in the trenches. I had to get an H vac guy over, shout out the boy Robbie. They fixed the problem. We needed, like, some compressor or some new part that broke or whatever. It was. Yeah. But the upstairs was sitting at 90 degrees and it was blowing out hot air, bro. Thankfully, the first floor was good. So the kids are napping on the first floor. But all to say, like, you're kind of backs up against the wall. We're about to travel again. Long car ride to Missouri. About a five hour drive. Recently we went to Florida. And that's like an eight hour, eight, nine hour drive. Yeah, both. Both of them there and back was absolute hell. And all I'm thinking of, I thought.

It was going the other way.

Hell, Hell, bro. And so you're going into this five hour crawl ride and you're just hoping. Hoping for the best. Yeah, I. You not. It was one of those situations to where I would conservatively. Conservatively say at least three and a half hours of that five hour drive. One of them were screaming. One of them was screaming. Oh, well, it was mostly Scotty. And it was bumming me out because she's our little seven month going on.

Eight months old, little saint.

Yeah, yeah. She's the best, dude. And it's like she's starting to get a little more wiggly. She's starting to not want to be confined to the car seat. And she was just blaring, bro. And Charles back there, God bless her, she's trying to rock her and sing to her and do all the things because you're not wanting to take him out of the car seat. Like that's a bad thing.

Yeah, yeah.

And she's like shaking a couple hard extra times. And I'm. I'm up there. She's like, scotty, come on, come on. Like, I'm. I'm right here. I'm right here. Because she's a big mama's girl right now.

Yeah. Yeah.

And I'm singing Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star just on repeat up while I'm driving. And I'm doing the Shh. Trying to create white noise. We're playing white noise. We probably get them both down for an hour. But it was. It was hell, man, because it gets so loud. Rue was doing a great job trying to be patient. She starts off really rocky. We're like, dude, we can't do this. Yes, it's a long drive. She's like, I don't want long drives. Why is this so hard? And she heard phrases right now is, why is this so hard? Hard, and I can't do it. And it's like you're sitting there, you're like, it's only as hard as you make it R. You start to get worked up, and you're trying to, like, talk them down. Like, dude, we're locked in a car. You think that wants to be locked in a car? You think I want to drive 5 hours locked in 4 doors with you guys screaming? No, that doesn't want that. But is that at crying? Is that saying, how hard is this? No, you got to embrace the hard rule. You have to embrace the suck. We're in the suck.

Let your heart turn black.

R. Yeah.

Apply yourself and you can.

What can we look at out there? The window? Can we start trying to guess letters? What's on this side? What's on that? What's on that side? Do you want us to do a song? I can't do it. Oh, dog. Can't with this kid. I can't with this kid right now. She ends up getting calm, but then Scotty is pissed about being in the.

Car seat, and you can't talk.

Then it gets to where the. Rue's like, you're yelling. Hurts my ears. It hurts my. I'm like, rue, sweetheart, that's not helping her. She's a baby. She doesn't know. You did this when you were little. My comment that they had to sit through, you gotta just. No, I didn't try and calm her down. No, stop. It hurts my ears. Well, if you're yelling, it's gonna hurt her ears, too. It's hurting my ears. You're just going back and forth like, God help us. God help us all. God help us all, dude. And finally.

Oh, my God.

The white noise helped and knocked them both out for an hour. Because we're telling her, sweetheart, just fall asleep. You said you're tired. Like, just. Just close your eyes. I can't. Why is this so hard? Dude, stop with that, man. But she ends up falling asleep. We get. They're both up for an hour, but the last probably 45 minutes home. Scotty's upset, but Rue. This is where the survival kit go to music in a long car ride. She ends up talking like, I want the word song. I want, like, the font. It was the phonic song. The phonic song by Gracie's Corner. Oh. And she just, like, goes through the Alphabet. A stands for apple. Apple. I don't know. It's this phonic song that we just played on repeat because you get to where you might have a Rolodex of songs, but they only want to listen to one song over and over and over. And it was Phonic Song by Gracie's Corner. Nice. Little catchy, kind of hip Hopish song to where you can kind of dance a little bit rude. Doesn't want you to sing the words.

Don't help rue dad.

That you don't have to say the words. I got you, sweetheart. It's just catchy. I want to sing it. No, I don't want you to sing it. Cuz she's trying to memorize the song.

I've been. Oh, hey, shout out that video that you sent me of her memorizing the book.

That was crazy, bro.

It her tell the listeners about that.

So Ru can memorize her books. And kids have a very good memory when they're around that age. And it's weird, like situations that they. They can recall whether it's a year ago or an old memory, whatever it is. And you're kind of just surprised.

Yeah.

By them being able to remember that. Remember that. She does better with names, like remembering people's names better than I do.

Yeah.

And she can memorize these books, dude. And sometimes, you know, it's like, go dog, go. Old hat, New hat. You know, smaller books like that. But bro, she has this book, Ziggy and the Three Pigs. You know, the three Tale of the three Little pigs with the Big Bad wolf.

Yep.

Well, in this. In this day and age, and there's now a few fourth pig, his name is Zicky, who doesn't live in a house at all. He lives under the stars. And he wants to go swimming. And he goes by his three little. Fred, Ned and Ted.

Yeah.

Who have the house made of straw, sticks and bricks. He asked them, you want to go for a swim today? Haven't you heard? The big bad wolf is coming to town. I would be sheltering up if I were you, Ziggy. No, I don't want to stay. I don't want to go inside. I think I'm going to go enjoy the water. Suit yourself, buddy. Big Bad wolf comes and blows every house away. Even the brick.

Even the bricks.

Even the brick house. Because old Ned, Ted or Fred. Whoever. Whoever lives in the brick house.

Yeah.

He's got a new grate that sits on top of the fireplace. So. Hey, big Bad wolf, don't even think about coming down the fireplace because I fixed that too. And I'm gonna huff and I'm puffing. I'm gonna puff and I'm gonna huff and I'm gonna blow your house down. House made of bricks. They're all gone. All the pigs are squealing. Where do we go? They run to the ocean where Ziggy was having Swim. That day he was building sand castles. Now he built a little raft out on the water. Ziggy, hey, just swim out to the shore. Let me do the talking. If he blew down our houses, what do you think he's going to do to you? He's.

He.

He ate us for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. He's going to have you for a midnight snack. Just swim out here and let me do the talking. Big bad wolf comes out. He's out of breath. If you don't come off that raft, I'm a huff and pluff. I'm going to huff and puff and blow you to pieces and do it. Ziggy starts talking shit to the big bad wolf. Hey, last I checked, I heard you. You don't have a strong enough breath to blow out a birthday candle. Gets the wolf all worked up. And right when the wolf's just about to blow that raft to smithereens, Ziggy lifts the sail. The wolf blows him out to sea. They have a pool day, and they're happy that Ziggy went swimming that day. But this book has. I'm talking like eight to 10 lines.

Multiple lines, multiple lines.

And Rue knows the entire book word for word.

You need to send that video to Chef and let it play out. Like, for listeners of or like viewers.

We'll play it right now to the beach.

Ziggy stopped at Ned's house. Ned was pointed gray on this to me. What's that for the Ziggy Jesse after.

Big bad wolf protection, they would no.

One come down 10 chimneys, you know, but this way is guarantee what I would imagine in there and going to swim, says Ziggy.

Same was that video when I sent it to you?

Absolutely unreal. Because as I'm watching it, I'm like, yo, wait, is she reading? I was like, how is she reading at that age? Wait, how old do you learned to read?

Can't read.

Can't read.

They don't know how to read.

Because I remember you being like, she can't select music on Spotify. She doesn't know how to read. Chef going or. Well, you just watched it going word for word. I'm going down the line with her, and it's word for word, dude. She's got a noggin.

And she'll read the page and, like, look up when she turns and looks up at me with this biggest smile, and it just. It just lights up the room, dude. I'm like, oh, rude. That is awesome. That is so proud of you. That's. That takes a Lot of focus and effort and hard work. And you're trying to, like, you know, encourage them and pat them on the back for, like, the attributes and characteristics that go into it other than being like, you're so smart. But it is, it's fascinating seeing these little kids and what their, what their memories are like, bro, it's crazy, dude. It's hard being biased, not thinking, yo, is this kid going to be. This kid's going to be something special, Way better than her old man.

I'm having that issue with, with. I talked to you this morning about Scarlet. I think she potentially could be the cutest baby of all time. Potentially.

Potentially. Cuz my baby's also the cutest baby of all time.

And see that?

And there lies the problem. Viewers right now, their baby's the cutest.

Baby of all time. That's what I'm saying.

So you say that. I'm thinking, okay, let's have a little cute off.

That's the, that's the question I've been asking Jill is. I go, honey, I think she's so cute, but is she really that cute?

Dude, it's the best Is she really that cute feeling in the world, man. You're just so enthralled and so in love with your child, man. It is. It is the best feeling. And I was telling you this morning that you are, because you were talking about how. How it's just the best and it's the greatest thing in the world, and the best thing is. And parents know this too. Like, you are in the best days, and the best days just get better. Like, I felt like every month was my favorite month, and they just keep getting better. Now I will say I'm at a point to where three is the hardest age that I've dealt with, to where it's my favorite because I love being in these moments and I love that we only have so many years. But also, three is a right now at the Compton household, because Rue, she is independent, wants to do everything on her own. But they are like, bro, it gets better every month. And when people are like, oh, wait till they get six months or wait till they get eight months, like, I'm sure I'm gonna make those comments to you. Wait till they get 12 months or 16 months. Not the good ones, but it's like, it's gonna get even better. And you're just gonna be thinking, yo, Scarlet at two months rips like, why weren't they saying two months is the best month? Like, it just. It weirdly gets better. Dude, it's awesome. I'm so fired up for you.

She rips right now. She rips right now. I'm like you. You sleep like crazy. You're awesome at sleeping. You eat like crazy. You're awesome as. And look how small you are. Yeah, like, oh, my gosh. Okay, so we do survival kit.

We got to keep it under an hour.

Survival kit. I. I might skip survival kit because we have eight minutes.

Skip it, skip it, skip it, skip it.

Dad act pulling the burp cloth. All right, you put, you put your baby right here. If you're burping over the shoulder.

Yeah.

One thing you can't do is baby's face into your shoulder because then. Yeah, they can't breathe.

Yes.

How do, how do I adjust my baby's head? I'm scared I'm going to break her neck. Blah, blah, blah. Burp cloth, baby. Then grab burp cloth, pull out.

Ooh, move there. It moves their head. Good dad hack.

And that, that comes via Jill. But such a good dad hack on your dad hack. Such a good. Well, I've been doing it. I've been doing it and it. Dude, you feel like a pro. You put her on there and you pull that out and that hair head turns and then you just. And you hear that.

Oh, when they get the burp, dude, it's a celebration. Cuz sometimes it's a battle getting that burp out. And you're just like, sweetheart, just burp. It's going to make you feel better.

Yeah. As soon as she burps back down to football. And then. Wait, wait, wait.

Boom. Yes. And just easy, easy.

She got from somewhere.

Dad hack. Unpack the suitcase when you get home. Yeah, unpack the suitcase when you get home. Time and time again, I'll listen. I've been, I've been two and oh, with the last two times. But there'll be times when I get home. You just want to kick their feet up. We're finally home. This is nice. Like, you want to kick your feet up on the couch. You want to maybe enjoy a snack. Don't do that, fellas.

Don't do that.

Don't do that. Just unpack the suitcase with your wife. Cuz your wife's not going to stop. They're going to be going around. Let's unpack, sweetheart. Why don't we just. I got to get the. I got to get r suitcase unpacked. I got to get Scotty's suitcase unpacked. I got to unload. I got to unload the food and snacks. We got back into the pantry. I got to unpack my stuff. I don't like having. I don't like when it just sits.

On the floor and you probably got touch it. You're probably fighting that car. That car ride, everybody.

I will sneak in a little two. I'll sneak in a two. Sweetheart. I'm going to go to the bathroom real quick and then I'll be be ready to go. But just unpack the suitcase. If nothing else, unpack the kids suitcase and the stuff that goes back into the pantry in the refrigerator so that way mom knows. Hey, you're dialed in just the way she is. Yes, teamwork makes the dream work. Because I'm still the cat that doesn't unpack my suitcase when I get home. Yeah, I'll leave mine sitting there at the edge of the bed or down by the side of the floor because you never know what I might dig back into to pull out. I never really unpack the suitcase when I get back home. No, I don't.

I was about to say I'm terrible at that.

And mine will sit in there until my next trip. I and then I'm like, all right, then I'll unpack the suitcase and then repack it for my next trip. Papa Team 6.

Papa Team 6.

However, dad hack unpack the suitcase when you get home. Just put the head down, put the helmet on. Dude, strap up. Get the night vision goggles on.

Yep.

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With everybody, everybody else with with your wife. Take the kid's suitcase to a room, unpack it. Sometimes you look in the suitcase. I don't know where this goes. Wife will know where it goes, but at least place it out so she knows. Oh, you're dialed in. Got something back in the fridge.

Hand it to Rue.

Yeah, you can leave your suitcase for the dad. You can leave your suitcase packed just to be clear, but unpack the other suitcases.

Good call.

Unpack the other suitcases.

Good call.

We call ins.

Call ins. We have four of them.

Let's get to them.

And we have five minutes. First call in.

Do I have this?

Do you have what?

I'm scrambling.

Oh, no, no, I have it.

I have it right here. You have them to play.

First one. A lot of anonymous this week. The only one that wasn't anonymous is a mom.

Oh, let's go. First mom calling.

First mom calling.

Gotta keep it under an hour. Let's go.

Let's go.

[Unnamed Female Speaker]

Boys. We're in a situation. Soon to be father. Long time, soon to be. My wife's in the first trimester and she's feeling like absolute dookie. So hope to be a first time dad, but I'm also a first year head coach at the age of 25. So I'm just driving back from the school at 11:30pm Camp tomorrow morning. I pull into the driveway, literally sitting in the driveway right now, being the hero in all realms. You know, husband, coach, teacher, hopefully father, you know, God willing. And I'm sitting in my driveway, just got a bad bunch of crap done prepared for tomorrow. Knowing that, I told my wife I do the dishes today because she loves a clean kitchen and she hasn't been doing much since the first trimester, God bless her heart. And I just know I'm about to go to battle with these dishes at 11:30pm right now. And so I texted my assistant coach, told him be ready for violence in the morning. And to be honest, I don't know if that can wait till Then I just. Yeah. Anyways, appreciate you boys. Keep up the podcast. Love you, buddy.

[Unnamed Male Speaker]

That, that calling right there is. I've always loved the idea of coaching. I love, I love, love it. I would love to do it.

You'd be phenomenal.

And the only thing that's held me back is just the T. Like the time you have to pour in because he. He's hopefully right, knock on wood. Soon to be dad. Hopefully all goes well, all goes smooth. But you're also like the dad of like an entire football team. You're also the guy that's operating the coaching staff. You have to get stuff ready. You're late nights, it's early mornings. Everything in between. You also want to be a family guy at home. All of that stuff, I could not. I can only imagine the stress that man feels sitting. Sitting in the driveway, 11:30 at night thinking, I got to go Oklahoma drill and meet these dishes in the A gap.

But he's going to do it. He's a future dad. He sounds like he's got dialed in.

Yeah. 25 year old head coach. Hats off to you, bro. That is. That is awesome. Shout out to you for listening to the pod. Can't wait to open. Can't wait to welcome you with open arms in the papa scene. Top Papa Team 6. I hope the dishes went well because you are right, bro. The, the, the ladies, they want a clean kitchen. They don't like clutter in the house. We have to declutter. We have to think about this because it's hard for us to think about this because you don't always remember to get all the boxes. I've talked about the boxes issue before. Then they just start putting stuff away that you're like, I didn't even know we were. We're taking time right now to put stuff away, but just, you got to be on your shit. He's somebody that's going to be away from the house a lot. But you got to be dialed in. You got to be dialed in. You got to go full. What is it? They circle around. Bull in the ring. You got to be ready for it. Shots at every angle.

Yep.

And you got to know you were walking into a bull of the ring situation when you get home. Because I know he cares about his career. He wouldn't. If he didn't care about his career, he wouldn't be a head coach at 25 years old. Yes, you have to be dialed. You got to want violence and expect violence.

Yes. I'm quite literally facing the exact same situation as Far as I. I have two minutes.

Yeah, let's go next. You got to stay under an hour.

Got to stay under an hour. Next caller, please go fast because we got to stay. This is our first mom call in.

Okay.

I will. In German. My name is Betsy. I'm from Minneapolis, Minnesota. I'm a huge fan of the podcast, even though I know I'm not a dad. And I'm actually not even a mom yet, but hoping to become a mom. And I would love your guys advice. I'm really hoping that I can get that president that positive pregnancy test in the next couple of days. And I want to surprise my husband by telling him when we are expecting our first baby. So what would you guys recommend as a good surprise for my husband? His name is Tyler. When we get that first two pig lines test. Thank you, guys. Love the pod.

Betsy, let's go, Minneapolis, Minnesota, and shout out.

Her husband Tyler, a member of semen team six.

Right? Yeah. Right now he's on semen or seed team six. Yeah, he's on that squad. Right now Betsy is wanting to show him a positive test result. Acting, asking for advice on how she should show him.

Yep.

Who knows if he watches the podcast, but maybe that's a spoiler alert right there. Hopefully not, because what I personally would think would be sick. We get her, Chef Jack, this is on you. Get her merch asap.

Get her merch app.

Hey, I got you something. I know you're hopefully Tyler's a listener busting with the boys. Yeah, I know you're a fan of busting with the boys. So I went ahead and got you some merch. He opens it up and it's some for the dad's gear. It's for the dad's gear with a positive pregnancy test. And Betsy, sweetheart, I would love for you to film it.

Oh, please film it, please.

And I hope this isn't. I hope we're not ruining the surprise right now.

Should we film a video and send it to Betsy of us saying dial it in?

We could, because he's also going to be on the episode.

This is their moment too. The other. And this is also on that first.

Mom call in future Mom, I hope everything goes completely smooth. Betsy, thank you so much for calling in for the dads. Fires me up that we had our first or that we had our first female call in. I love it. That's what we should do, though. Jeff. We got it. We gotta. We gotta dial that in. We got to get her address ASAP and we got to tell we Got to tell the. We got to tell Garrett. We got to tell the team. We got to overnight this shit, because I think that would be a great gift.

That'd be safe.

Got to keep it under an hour.

Got it.

Can you play one more?

I literally. I literally have to go.

You have to go. How do I play?

Okay, so really quick, since we're on air technology, the two that you need to play is this one and this one. After you played this one.

Yo, Will.

Sure, Chef.

Double click. Which one? And this is also a dad hack. Fireworks. Get out of here.

Okay.

I love everyone. I love everyone. Hey, call in your dad lesson. You said you had one. Or video it in and we can put it at the end.

Oh, that's smart. That's smart. I'll video my dad lesson. Love, everyone.

Love you, too, bro. Good luck out there.

Thank you, guys.

Let me know how it goes. Tell Joey. Love her.

Well, we love Jill. We love Chef. We love Will for the dad.

I love that. Some dude. 2%.

Kids can't have that right now.

I'll start this over. I'll start. Yo, Will. Sheriff, Chef.

This is a W. And this is also a dad hack. I got a two for one special.

Dad had.

Dad had glowing wifey going shopping. Costco, big box. She gets the wrong milk. 2%. Kids can't have that right now. It's okay. Scoreboard got her that hack, sweetheart.

Don't worry.

I'll return it. Here I am 45 minutes later by myself, taking a break. I did the return, looked around a little bit, maybe I got some things.

Got this. Got that. Here I am backing into the garage.

Put the game face on. Do with that information. What you will love the show Sherm by the time this hits you. Congratulations, sir. All right, boys. Big hugs, tiny kisses.

Hang on.

Let me just hit. You hit pause on that.

What was his name?

He was anonymous.

That was a anonymous.

Anonymous caller.

Anonymous caller. That is a great dad hack. And it fat W for the scoreboard, because you're not only going to walk back in your house with the game face on, you're going to walk back in the house a hero because you went and got the correct milk. Now, the dad hack in that moment, because he said something here that all dads and Papa team six need to understand. When those moments arise, you're the first to raise your hand and say, I'll go get this. Because it is. It buys you a little break. It buys you a little break getting out of the house. Listen to maybe what you want to listen to. It gives you some alone time, nice little freedom time because you're ultimately doing what needs to be done. You just want to be the first in line to say, hey, I will go pick up the milk. Hey, I will go get this grocery. Oh, we don't have frozen french fries for dinner. What kind of side do we want for dinner? I'll run down to Trader Joe's right now and go get that. And you get in the car and you enjoy. You enjoy that little freedom that you have for a fleeting moment because you're going to have a smile on your face, maybe crack a window. But that is a dad hack. That is a dad W right there. And that needs to be in everybody. Every dad's playbook is if something's not right at the house and you can go get it. Go, go now. Go get it now because you're going to get yourself a little window of a bit of a break. You're going to get yourself a little bit of a break. We don't need any moms to see this clip. We don't need any moms to hear this episode in that part. Because moms, they might throw it back on us now. Now that they know this, now that they know that that's in the little playbook. Moms might, they might be first in line doing something. Something like that. Then you're stuck at home with the kiddos. Yes.

CVS is just a mile away and you're gone for an hour. What was going on?

I'll take. Sometimes I will take my time. You kind of sit in, catch up on a couple things, you know, work related, of course. Yeah, of course. But then you pull in, you sit in the driveway. I love that he's backing it. You know, he's just sitting in the driveway buying a few extra minutes before he walks back into the war zone. However, you got the milk in hand, you're a superhero. But appreciate that call Anonymous caller. We can get to. Oh, yeah, I have to do the final caller.

Yeah, just click sure. And tell you where to click.

Fireworks anon.

Yep.

Boys, I'm over here right now.

I just turned 30 this week. All right.

And I got a question for you. I don't understand why, but I'm getting real grouchy with all these neighbors blowing off fireworks. Got the 18 month old trying to sleep all night. And when I was a kid, I was blown off fireworks like the rest of them.

God bless the usa.

I'm patriotic as. But there's got to be some respect. Midnight 1am, 2am 3am we shouldn't be blowing off fireworks, boys. What do I do? Because I'm about to walk outside and beat somebody ass right now. Sorry, I don't know if we're allowed to swear. Kid show, kid show, kid show, let me know. Bye Papa Seal. Thank you for calling in. And I, I agree with them here and that's like a turning of the tide. Like yo, are we becoming Karens by feeling like fireworks shouldn't be just, I mean two or three in the morning? You're, you're. If you're past midnight and you're hearing fireworks go off, I think you have, you have the right to step outside and full dad mode on some kids. I think you have full on right to say, hey fellas, pipe down a little bit. Trust me, I was in your shoes. I love blowing up slugs and blowing up fireworks late into the night hours. I'm not a cop, I'm not going to call the cops. But I need you to tone it down because I got an 18 month old upstairs and these loud noises. I have to check on her every time because it scares me that she's going to get woken up. And if she gets woken up, you can bet your candy asses that I'll be out here and the cops will be called. So you better straighten your up, young man. Look at me when I'm talking to you. Yeah, you cut the shit out. I don't want to come back out here again because I swear to God I will reign hell if my 18 month old gets woken up by your little, by your little fireworks. Because I'm with you. I'm with them. I was that little degenerate kid that wanted to stay up as long as possible. My parents would always make me come inside. But if I did have the flexibility to be out as late as I possibly could shooting off fireworks, I would do that. Because you don't know any better. You don't know how to think of everybody else and that there's families going on. But even when the fireworks were going off at like 10pm And Scotty's sleeping, thank God she didn't wake up. But every time a pop goes off I'm like checking down on her to see if she's going to get woken up because I'm thinking, God, we gotta have some time limit. And then I'm like, oh Will, you're getting a little too old. You're getting a little too. That's kind of some, some boomerism coming out of you right now. So I feel his pain. That's how I would probably handle it, is if it's going on past midnight. I think you have. You gotta go. You gotta go. You gotta go pop a seal. You gotta go outside. You gotta set the expectation. You gotta let them know, hey, I'm on your side. I was where you were at. But if you keep this up, I don't want to call the cops. I want you guys to have a great time. But if you keep this up and my daughter or my son wakes up, bet your sweet little ass. I will be right back out here and the sirens will be going because I will call in the entire army on you guys for interrupting my daughter or my son's sleep.

You have a dog too, right?

Waffle Waffles. Terrified of fireworks. She goes. And she goes in, like, Nestles in a corner.

Corner.

That's the other.

Some people probably have dogs that bark.

I was with some dogs get all.

Worked up during the fireworks.

Freaked out from the fireworks. It was the same thing. They were going off to, like, the neighbors. I was up with my girlfriend at her family's house, and they have four dogs, and they were not. It wasn't good. And the fire was going to about midnight, and it was right next to them.

Yeah. Yeah. You're not opened up to all of this, I feel like, until you kind of become a parent or you. You're an adult with real responsibilities, where maybe you have to be up the next day and some of this stuff's going off and you're thinking, you know, the loud music. But when you're a kid, you're not. Man, why they got to be such a party pooper? Like, why does he. Why do they have to be like that? Like, we're just having fun out here.

Yeah.

I don't know about you, but, like, even at 23, there's a few things where I remember as a kid. I'll be like, my. My old man would get pissed off about stuff, and I'm like, dude, what? You know, you need to relax. And even at 23, I'll sit there and I'll be like, that motherfucker's driving too fast down through our neighborhood. And I'm like, holy. I'm turning into my dad. And that's terrifying.

But, like, you'll. It'll be more and more. Especially once you. Once you get the family going. Yeah. Because now you'll be a lot more cautious driving faster down certain roads. Driving down roads. Just driving in general, because you just never know. Like, you have your little one they're like exploring. They don't know you're trying to teach them, but can happen like that, dude. Appreciate the calling, though. Appreciate the calling. And we will get into our last, Our last segment, which is a quote, a lesson or something that has marinated with us that we would like to share or maybe something that we're trying to learn ourselves to become. Become just better fathers in general. And I came across something on, I came across something on Instagram that I will just, that I will just share. Let's see here. Children. I do have a collection where it just says children. So that way I can throw in the stuff that I see. I'm like, oh, I like that. I want to come back to it. But I was thinking too, because a lot of times as parents, you want to be able to provide your kids with like, great experiences or trips or take them somewhere because you think it's going to be an awesome memory. A lot of times it is because you're just there and you're just present. But I know there are a lot of people that can't afford every trip in the world and they probably question themselves on if they are being the parent that they, that they should be, that they want to be, that they are to their kid because their friends might be doing something cool and they might not get. They might not get. Oh, my wife's calling me. Hang on, boy. What I was going off of, I kind of lost my train of thought.

Talking about, you have a kids thing on your phone.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. I was, I was scrolling through Instagram and I saw this and I know me as a kid growing up, I didn't always get to go on cool trips that I thought, you know, my friends were going on and everything else. So for those parents out there, there's something I saw on Instagram that I thought would be fun to read. Shout out at Modern Parents Guide. Good follow on Instagram. You don't need a $5,000 Disney trip to build a happy childhood. You need a garden hose, a popsicle, and a parent who's present. And here's the science behind why the backyard is enough. By each five, your child's brain is 90% developed. It's not shaped where you go, but by how safe and how connected they feel. The brain doesn't store luxury. It stores emotion and repetition. The moments that happen again and again become the wiring beneath everything. Backyard play offers the perfect recipe for healthy brain development. It offers predictable rhythm, emotional co regulation and sensory rich learning. When your child feels safe in your Presence, their nervous system calms and the brain opens up to learn, explore and grow. This happens best in everyday spaces. So sprinklers, mud puddles, bare feet in the grass. These aren't just fun. They build the sensory maps that wire attention, Attention movement and emotional control. A $1 popsicle lights up more, lights up more Joy than a $1,000 theme park if it comes with attunement. Your face is what makes the memory magical. Children don't. Children don't need constant stimulation. They need responsive presence. The brain develops best when life slows down enough to feel. And research shows its repetition with emotional safety that wires long, long term regulation. That means the same swing, the same snack, the same smile. You're not depriving your child when you stay home more. You're giving them space to rest, to attach and to trust. The most resilient adults often had childhoods filled with routine, attunement and calm nervous systems, not expensive plans. One day they won't say my childhood was magical because of where we went. They'll say it was magical because of how I felt at home. You already have what they need. Your eyes, your voice, your presence, and yes, your backyard. Save this for the days you wonder if it's enough. Because it is. The little things don't just matter. They build the brain. Shout out at modern parents guide for more insights on raising, raising emotionally secure kids. So a little, you know, a little shout out to a profile that I follow. And I saw that too. And I just think it'd be cool for. I thought it'd be good for just parents to hear because at times you battle with I want to take him here or this would be really cool for him. And sometimes it might not fit the schedule, it might not fit the budget, it might not fit, it might not fit the madness that goes on in all of our lives. But all those like reminders on the small things are the best things. Those daily traditions or weekly traditions or monthly traditions. Just your presence alone, alone, it builds. It builds who they are. So that was, that was the lesson that I wanted to share. Something that kind of resonated with me that it's true.

I mean, you remember, I mean as a kid growing up, like hanging out with, being with my dad and brother is what I always remember a lot. Playing sports in the backyard or whether it's going riding my bike around or walking to the neighborhood pool. You know, I was fortunate we got to go on trips and stuff, stuff because my dad traveled so much, like for work that we were Able to, he got points and stuff and they always tried to expose me and my brother. But like the stuff that I always remember is like that time you spend and like, you know, sometimes you make, you make fun with what you have. And I was still, I think I was like the last probably generation or age where we didn't grow up with screens. So I grew up, I rode my bike, I got on my bike and you went over to, you know, my buddy Warren across the neighbors, the Edwards, and we would go play football in the backyard or go build a fort. And it wasn't until like maybe like seventh grade now, probably fifth grade when like the ipod and iPhone started coming around. But that was still like, that's how we grew up. We went outside and you know, spent a lot of time doing that, so.

And just making the most of what you have.

Yeah, you don't need a lot to have fun. That's kind of the best part.

Heart.

And I hope that's, you know, it better. Like, I guess kids nowadays with like screens and stuff like, yeah, you put that in front of someone. Like I worry about like that kills creativity and like kills like imagination and stuff.

Like yeah, the screen stuff is such like a unique topic because it's like you just battle like I feel like we do a pretty good job and it's almost like, you know, when we got done with that car ride to Missouri, it's like Charles ends up making the comment to me like once we get to the, the Airbnb that we were in, he's like, we kind of do it to ourselves because we don't like put. You could easily just throw a screen in front of them and just keep them occupied. But you think about the long term of, you know, in those situations giving them a screen, then they're dependent, they start to get dependent on the screen. Then anytime they act up or misbehave or you're having those moments where you just, you'd rather just put a screen in front of them than leave the pool. And then it's like that's how they start to co regulate or that's how they start to regulate their emotions by being like, oh, I need a screen. And then you chalk it up as like, that'll keep their, their attention on this and not present in the moment or you're battling through boring moments, moments of tantrums. All the things that like, it's hard for the parent in the moment, but the longevity of it or the long term frame from it is like, you know, you get to where I was, I was reading something. To where it's like, if you're putting screens in front of them and I'll have this sharpened up for the episode next week. But if you put screens in front of them now and you're doing it to kind of ease the short term pain, then they get dependent on those screens. And then when they get to school and they realize there are no screens there or the work that they can do that might not be on a screen, or maybe it is on a screen, but their attention is so low locked in on focusing on a screen that they don't have the attention to stay locked in, you know, in a classroom or when they're in group settings to where, you know, all the ADHD and stuff kind of starts to spike up or come about or come to the surface a lot more these days, I feel like. And then, you know, you're starting to medicate your kids. All because it's like in the, the building block developmental brain stages of just fighting, like putting a screen in front of them just because it'll take their attention away from the current moment to put them on a screen and that'll just, you know, it'll be this bad ripple effect that happens like when they do get in school or when they're becoming adults because they just don't have, they don't have that brain development that they should have had when they were little.

I agree. And it's kind of like, I don't know about when you were growing up, but like, I never. My parents were very adamant. Like, no TV in my room. Like, I know some parents had grown up. I had friends who had, they had a tv. And whether it was TV time or something, my parents are like, no tv. Because we know you and your brother, you guys will turn it on it. You'll stay, you'll act asleep and then get up in like midnight and watch like a movie or something.

Yeah.

But I.

That's how we were.

That's.

That's how we were.

Well, they were adamant. So I grew up instead, which I actually like at the time you're sitting there. Maybe when you, when you're growing up and you're kind of pissed off, like, Billy gets up tv.

Yeah. You know, and you're.

I have to it. But then looking back at it, I'm like, oh, man. Like, I'm kind of glad because I learned instead of doing that, I read like, I, that was a normal thing. Like, I read all the time to go to sleep and it's Something that even as I'm getting older I'm like I, I find myself on tick tock and stuff and I'm like that will keep you up. Like I've learned that I now doom scrolling the doom scrolling man. And I, I have to put my, I put my phone away. Like for anyone that has issues with that, what I've started doing is that no tick tock, no Instagram reels three hours before bed. Like I said a hard no. And that's like I've started sleeping so much better. Yeah, it's like I, I feel you on that where it's like you get worried about.

You're right though. Like if I even think about my. Like we, I had a t. We had a TV in our room and I watch tv. I'd fall asleep to the tv. We've like even though we didn't have screens. Like you know once computers were a thing and you could play backyard baseball or Sims or roller coaster tycoon we'd be fighting over to have like computer time. And I just feel like with that I was in the generation in high school where the iPhone came out to where there was MySpace and Facebook just started. But thinking of myself now, like there'll be a lot of times like I can just admit that the phone will consume me at times or where my attention is like fleeting. We don't have a TV in our room now. Like Charles a big believer not having a TV in the room and everything else. But Cody was, was somebody who had like the like adhd. And if I think about my brain on how my attention works at times I feel like I can think back to those things and be like, yeah, I was like a menace with whether playing video games or watching tv. Playing video games late at night, wanting to stay up late or sneaking in.

Catch it, trying to play video games late.

Oh yeah. And you know you get reprimanded from it and get disciplined sometimes on weekends. Not. Not enough or not like we probably should have. But if you're just thinking about the screens and everything else, like TRO and I are big on just I guess just eating and leaning into the fray and just. It's like making it hard on ourselves I guess to protect what we feel like screens would do if we're putting in front of our kids all the time because we'll get pissed off when one she ran out of TV coupons last week. You know we do that coupon system and she used up her last 30 minute coupon tour. It was like the next Day. Hey, you don't have any more. Like, I know you want to watch TV. Trust me, I would love for you to watch TV. So I could just take a break. But your 30 minutes, your coupons ran out. You're just gonna have to know next week. Hey, you're gonna have to spread them out a little bit better.

Just deal with it. I by the way, recommended that to a couple I saw this weekend. They have a little three year old boy, shout out Townsend. And the dad, Logan, great guy. He looked at me, he's like, I don't know, dude, he's a demon.

Dude. I'm telling you because like, she'll get pissed like that. I kind of watch more. Yes, sweetheart, you have like 15 more minutes. Yes, you can watch more. Like she's always checking, like, am I able to watch more? Yeah, you have like 15 more minutes. But when it's done, it's done. You have to turn it off. Yeah. And sometimes it's a battle just because like you're giving them a little bit of screen time and again. The screens are just like gravitating. They love to be on those things. And so Charl and I, we fought our asses off not to, not to like go to, you know, she doesn't know what an iPad is, but like give her an iPad or give her a screen. When we're in the car traveling, do.

You think it's inevitable that sooner or later. Yeah, like, of course it is. Like, yeah, growing up. But like you're gonna just hold out as long as possible.

You know, I'm not sure until we get there. Like again, like my only experience, experience right now is we, I have a eight month old and a three year old. Like I don't have, you know, an eight year old, a nine year old, a ten year old, somebody who's going to school and they might have, you know, screens. And I'm sure that they'll, you know, with the AI movement, just technology in general, they're gonna have to, they're gonna have to like understand that world. But I don't know, we talk about it like we don't want them to have social media, even through high school, don't want them to have social media. Just the stuff I'm reading in, the strong father, strong daughter stuff, the data. It's just scary to think about. I, I'll start, I'll continue to put like a framework or something to go by later, like as she gets older. But I know like right now we want to do whatever we can not to, not to have them, like, depending on screens or definitely not social media or having their own phone. That those are like, what. The conversations we. We're having now as she's a three year old. So I don't know how it'll develop or adapt in the future, but I know it's like, you know, it's one of those things. We want to be very. We want to be very cautious.

Yeah. I think that's all good. I think you guys have a good mindset of it as someone who's not a parent, but I can. That's kind of stuff that I even. I'm like, ah, man. Like, a lot of that stuff's scary. Social media is a big one, dude.

People circulate. Depression is getting more real at the young age.

You start to base your life off of, like, that social presence.

Yep.

And it's like, it's just so dangerous. And I'm like. And that was. I mean, you said high school is when MySpace came out. My. When I was in, like, middle school, Snapchat became big. Then Instagram, and those were ones that. And then, like, just naturally. I think my age is like some of the first that really, like, you grew up and you started. I think I had an Instagram account when I was, like, in middle school.

Yeah.

But it's like.

Yeah.

You start to, like, you know, look around. You do a lot of looking.

Yeah.

You do a lot of comparing comparisons. And just.

And people can think it's, it's, it's, it's weird or, like, disagree with it. But I think even us as adults, like, even we struggle with it. Yeah. You get caught comparing, looking at everybody's highlight reels. You want to know you, you know, post all the best things on your social media, even if you're not somebody who posts a lot. Like, I'm sure you sit there and you scroll. Like, even we struggle with it as adults and it's like, you know, these, these kids that just don't even have a fully developed brain or they don't understand how the world works and they're getting how the world works from social media and everything that's not even real consume their brain. Yeah. I think it's like a slippery slope. So we've started having those conversations, but I'm sure we'll continue to formulate whatever it is. Yeah. And you both just approach it with teamwork, man.

Yeah, man.

Arm in arm, staying strong. We sure we don't want to let her watch some bluey right now? We sure we don't want to let her watch something just to there needs to be down right now.

It needs to be a parent team six.

Yeah.

Along with Papa team six.

Yeah. Parent team six.

You guys are both in it.

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Love you boys. I shot this horizontally. I hope it works, Chef. Thank you for patching this into the episode. Will, here's my lesson of the week. Lesson of the week is to have a mentor that is in far or further along in fatherhood than you are. Will is that for me. And I told him this morning that he was going to be my lesson of the week. And I don't think Will and I ever really planned or, you know, I never really asked Will to be a mentor to me. It just kind of naturally happened through conversations that we had with each other about family planning and his kids and his marriage with Charo and my marriage with Jill. And those conversations just kind of flowed very naturally and easily. But it has been a relationship in my life that I have learned so much from. And not that your mentor can't be like a father in law or your own dad because obviously they've, they're further along in fatherhood than you, but somebody that's a third party, somebody that's like outside of your family, maybe outside the traditions of your family, that has their own thing going on with their kids and just being able to see another perspective here, another way of doing things, seeing Will even interacting with his kids and seeing Charo interacting with her kids, it's cool. And so I've just learned a ton from, from Will over these past couple months and having these conversations with him that it really has brought not only the confidence to start a family, which we've already touched on in the podcast, but it's probably a lot of confidence in just being a dad. Just in these first, I'm like, what? Day four of being a dad. So I hope that that message finds anybody well that is planning to start a family or has just started a family, or maybe you got kids in high school, kids in college. I think that that can apply to anyone and everyone. So just finding a mentor, finding a friend, or accountability, accountability, buddy. That is further along in the fatherhood process. And maybe for those pt6 sickos out there finding somebody that is just becoming a dad, being that mentor to somebody I know it meant a lot to me. Will kind of coming alongside and teaching me and showing me the ropes on a lot of different stuff and having convos with me. So any pt6 sickos out there that want to recruit their friends into the fatherhood or just be a mentor or guide to them, maybe actively seek out some of those young guns future dads. That's my lesson of the week. I hope you all enjoyed the rest of the podcast. I know Will probably killed it. And again Chef, thank you for patching this into the episode. I hope everybody has a good week. I hope we kept it under an hour. Peace of mind. See you guys.

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