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You know that feeling where you look at your life and you're kind of just like, I know I'm meant for more than this. Like, there's a version of you who's confident, consistent. Maybe she's disciplined. Maybe she's a little softer, more powerful. Maybe she's magnetic and she's just sitting on the other side of the chaos that you're currently managing. Lately, so many of you have been in my dm, saying stuff like, caitlin, I feel stuck, or I feel lost, or, oh, my God, this episode really spoke to me. I feel so behind. I feel like I'm watching my life instead of living it. And I hear you, sisters. I hear you. Because I've also had seasons where I felt disconnected from myself, where, like, things just felt loud or cluttered or heavy. This actually, like, really happened heavy to me this summer, and I knew something had to change. Not later, not next year, then now. So today we're going to talk about my disappearing for 60 days framework. Specifically for the first six weeks. I'm going to break this up into two different parts. So you're listening to part one right now. So if this is your first time listening, make sure you watch out for part two. But the six weeks that we're going to go through can completely rewrite who you become in 2026. This episode is powered by my friends at Stan. If you're ready to step into your creator era and actually make money from your expertise. So Stan is the hottest tool out there. It's how I run all of my digital products, my automations, my membership, my courses, everything. It's all inside of Stan. And I do have a free trial for you in the show notes. I also have to shout out Stanley AI. I can get you $10 off your first month. Stanley AI will scrape all of your socials and give you content ideas, like, not just, like, the generic stuff that you get off chat GPT, but like, really good stuff based off what's already performed really well on your profiles. So check out both of those links in the show notes and peace out to my best friends over at Stan. I love you guys. Thank you for making the creator economy so much better. All right, let's get into it. So we're going to break this up by six different weeks just because I felt like if I gave you daily tasks, that might be too much. So we're gonna go break it up by weeks, and what I would tell you to do is maybe get a notebook out or a planner so you can kind of write out what your weeks are gonna look like. And then that gives you a goal for every Friday to make sure you're hitting these different things that we go through. Okay, so week one is gonna be where the identity shift starts. And it's not typically the sexy part. It's not the Instagramable part. It's just your foundation. Because the truth is, nobody becomes that girl by accident. You don't just stumble into discipline. You don't just drift into it. Confidence doesn't just come. You actually have to build it through those tiny, boring, daily TAs tasks, those little micro decisions you're making every day. So what would this first week look like? So, number one, we're gonna wake up at the same time every day. This does not mean you have to wake up at 5am or 4am every single morning. Unless you want to. I may. I mean, through the week. I'm a mom, so I have to get up around six every morning. Let's say I didn't have kids and it was just me. I'd probably set, you know, an alarm for like seven or eight. I'm gonna wake up at seven or eight every single morning for, know the first week. And you're going to keep this going. But for this first week that you're doing, set your goal. And it's just a consistent time so that your body learns safety and rhythm. Okay? It's going to be really good for your body to wake up at the same time every single day. Next step is we're going to move your body every day. So a walk, Pilates, strength training, it doesn't really matter what you do. What matters is that you're consistent with it. So I go on a walk every single morning with my husband. I call them money walks. And I'll put on my headphone, I'll listen to a really good podcast that teaches me something, because your creative juices flow in your brain whenever you're actually doing movement. So I will do those. I'm gonna put my money walk playlist in the show notes for you guys too, just in case you're new to walking and walking is boring for you. You can totally pop in one of these podcast episodes and it will get ideas flowing in your brain so you feel productive doing it. I also on some days, like to go to. What do I go to? To I. For a while there, I was going to Tabata, Monday, Wednesday, Fridays, and then I totally fell off. So I'm gonna start all of this on Monday. I truly, truly am. I'm gonna do this Whole reset with you guys. And I'm gonna try to get back into the studio for working out but also doing my walks. My walk is just a non negotiable number three. Protect your mornings. This might be unpopular, but if the first thing you see is other people's opinions, you've already lost your day. So do not reach for that phone when you wake up. Just wake up slowly, stretch, take a shower if you want to start some coffee journal, read a little snippet of like you know your, your bible or rub your dog or walk outside and just smell the sun and just take that moment to have a slow morning. We want to protect our mornings because what happens at the beginning of your morning typically will make your whole day go that way. So you want to start it soft, slow, happy, no stress. And then, you know, go through your day and then by the end of the day build a nighttime routine. Maybe your morning actually starts the night before. So I actually do this where I'll sit in bed and I'll like kind of journal out my week or I'll read a devotional or something to set the tone for the next morning. Sometimes I'll set my clothes out for my kids and for myself and pack up bags for the next morning just so I can have that non chaotic morning morning the next day. So you could actually work that into your nighttime routine if you wanted to. But just don't sit there and doom scroll because scrolling is going to give you anxiety and you want to just signal safety to your brain. You want to just let your brain excel, exhale and just calm. Namaste. And then the last goal of this week one is to do one hard thing. Maybe it's every day, maybe it's every other day, but just do something hard for yourself. That's what's gonna build that muscle of confidence. This builds confidence actually faster than anything. And it just, it, it works out that muscle for you to do something hard and you'll make it easier. So for like something for me is I'm really bad at tough conversations and phone calls and I'll just text somebody instead of calling them. So right now I'm working on, you know, giving my best friend a call instead of just texting her and just chatting for a little bit and working that muscle of using the phone. So hear me when I say this routine isn't about being super rigid. It's just about respecting yourself. It's about telling your brain we are someone who follows through with what we want to do. So this is the Week, your new identity starts to just take root. Okay? You're growing those roots so that you can grow really, really, really, really tall and bloom throughout all this. All right, week number two is actually going to turn to the digital side now. You're going to keep week one still going, right? You just worked one. You're. You're in the groove. So take those habits to week number two. And then week two might get a little more uncomfortable because you're going to look at your digital world and ask yourself this question. Does this expand me or does it shrink me? Because most women don't really struggle with the lack of discipline. They just struggle because there's too much noise, especially in the digital era. There's just too many opinions, too many things going on, and your growth is just getting choked by the clutter out there. So it's time to clean up your digital life. So first thing you're going to do here is maybe that Monday of that first week, just sit down for a little bit, and you're going to unfollow any account that makes you question who you are or how you feel about yourself, because comparison is the thief of joy. I always tell people that, and I am so bad at comparing myself. So sometimes I literally will put my phone in another room just so I don't doom scroll. But mute people, unfollow them, unfriend them. If you don't have to be friends with everybody. I've gotten so good at muting people. If they're just like, if their posts are making me feel a type of way, mute, click on it. That doesn't mean you're unfriending them. So they won't know that you unfriended them. They won't know you mute them, but you just won't have to see them anymore. No guilt. Just release it. And then the next step here is to delete some apps on your phone that are creating chaos. Or maybe they're just fueling your anxiety. Delete those apps. I've got apps on my phone. I actually don't really download apps on my phone because of this. I'm such a crazy person. One, I feel like it burns my battery, but two, I get anxiety if I'm overwhelmed with stuff. So I will definitely delete apps. I deleted Snapchat for a long time because it was giving me anxiety, but then I got it back because we have, like, a group chat for the girls, so I had to see what everyone was doing with their life. But if there's any apps that you find yourself getting on a lot and they're giving you anxiety. Just delete them for a little bit. We can always download them back if we really, really miss them. But just get rid of two or three, and then the next thing you want to do is clear out your camera roll or your notes. Get rid of things that don't bring you joy anymore. Get rid of things that don't matter anymore. You will be shocked at how much mental clarity you gain whenever you clean your camera roll in your notes. I still have notes from a grocery store list from like 2022. And just clearing that. I was like, oh, just decluttered a little bit. And content ideas. Maybe you have. Maybe you've been posting on Instagram or TikTok. Maybe now's the time to take your notes app and put down some content pillars. I'm actually having a girl work with me on my Instagram page for call her creator just because I can't handle all of my accounts right now. And I just put in a couple different pillars for her. I just really worked on content pillars that make sense for me, that I looked at my data on my Instagram page and saw what's working, what's not, and so got very clear on what I want my content to be. So we're not starting from scratch every single week. So clarity is. It comes when you remove some things. It comes from removing what never deserved you in the first place. All right, week three, they say it takes two weeks to. To. What do they say? Build, not progress, but make a habit. They say it takes two weeks to make a habit. So by week three, you should be pretty habitual with some of the stuff that we've worked on, at least the goals that we had for week number one, those should start to become some healthy habits for you. You're waking up at the same time, maybe you' doing some movement. You're doing quiet mornings. That should be a habit by now. So week three, we're gonna build those confidence reps. So if week one builds discipline, week two builds clarity, week three needs to build confidence and courage, because here's the tea. Your lack of confidence is not the problem. It's your lack of working out those confident muscles. So confidence is a skill and it can definitely be learned. So here's how you're gonna learn it this week. So first step of this week is to post the content that you're scared to post. If it's a reel that scares you, or maybe it's your story that you've been holding onto that scares you. That's usually the content that's going to build more connection with your audience. So it's time to just post the thing. So for week three on that planner, that journal you're going to write in big, huge capital letters, post the thing. And then step two, you're going to say the things that you've been pushing down your throat, the things that you've been swallowing, the things that you've been too scared to say out loud because your voice matters and your opinions matter and your feelings matter and you need to use them. So stop hiding behind yourself. Say it out loud. Number three. This one's scary, okay? But number three is to do one thing that feels out of character for you. So this is going to shake your nervous system a little bit, but it's going to shake you out of fear mode. So some examples I can think about here. This is so funny. My sister in law did exposure therapy and she had to go to the grocery store and order like some type of steak or I don't know if she was ordering steak, meat, some kind of meat, fish, whatever it was, she had to order it and make the butcher, I guess you'd call them, she had to make them cut it, package it for her, and then when they gave it to her, she had to say, actually, never mind, I don't want it and give it back to them. Which I'm not telling everybody to go do this, but this was something that she did. It was very out of character for her. She's someone that is such a people pleaser. She's so sweet. She's the sweetest person ever. But she was working on that muscle to just be, I don't know, more human, less people pleasing. And I almost melted thinking about having to do that. I don't think I could ever do that. But I'm trying to think of some things that are out of character for me. I think just maybe saying my opinion on things when they don't align with the person that I'm sitting with. Like if you're ever having a conversation with somebody and they have a different opinion than me to avoid conflict, I typically will just keep my opinion about that to myself because I don't ever want to make them feel bad about their opinion. But maybe for me this is just an example speaking out loud for you guys. Maybe I could maybe voice my opinion and, and have deeper conversations with people even if I don't agree with them. I think that's me working out my people pleasing muscle. As well, But I don't know. I'd love to know what is something that feels out of character for you that you are going to work on for week three. I'd love to know what it is. So send me a dm because it would probably be fun for all of us to share this. These things so that we can, like, I might hear what you have to say and be like, oh, my God, I need to work on that too. So that would be super duper helpful. The next thing is practice talking. Get in front of your camera, jump on Instagram stories, and just start talking. Every creator has to train their voice, and the more you get on camera, the more you talk, the more you do, you're going to feel more confident in it and you'll start doing it more. So practice talking stories, reels, whatever you want to do. I think stories is the easiest way to start. And then you can just keep getting better and better and maybe move on to reels and all that stuff. And then the last step for this week is to do something alone. So maybe you go eat lunch by yourself, or maybe you go to the movies by yourself, or maybe you go, I don't know, you live in Orlando. Go to one of the parks by yourself. I've always wondered what that would be like to go to, like, Universal by myself without my children who are screaming and getting pissed because the ride line is too long. But I would never go by myself because I like to enjoy experiences with somebody. But this is just something to work on too, is just. Just doing things by yourself. Try to do it alone. Something too, for you guys to think out, think about, and repeat it after me. Okay? This is like a mantra we can tell ourselves. I don't want to be confident. I want to be capable. Because capability is what creates confidence. And this is so true. Like, if you think about school, I. I realize this now as an adult, but I didn't when I was in school at the time, like, think about homework and practicing stuff before a big test. I was such a bad test taker. I would think that I was doing my homework and studying. But then the test came and I did terrible. But I think if I st. Maybe I wasn't studying hard enough. Honestly, I wasn't. I didn't. I did not. I would try. I have so bad. I had such bad, undiagnosed ADHD for a long time, and I think that's kind of what my problem was. But me not practicing over and over again, of course I'm gonna flunk that quiz or do really bad on that test. So the same goes with your confidence. You have to work on it daily to grow it. And this week is where women start dming saying something like, something's different about you. Like, what's going on with you. Like, you might get a DM or a text or something from someone that's going to notice that you are changing, and that's okay. I give you full permission to be like, yeah, I'm stepping into my power. Just leave it like that. You don't have to explain anything. You just tell them, yep, stepping into my power, girlfriend. You want to do it too? I've got this whole reinvention season. What do we call this? Hold on, hold on. I've got this whole. What was I going to call this? It's like the disappearing reset. I've got this whole disappearing reset in six weeks. You want to do it with me? Maybe you ask them to do it with you. Who knows? Maybe I'll make this a challenge. I don't know. I love that. Okay, next step. Next week is week number four. Reinvent your identity online. So now we're going to move into that brand reinvention. This is the week that you stop posting like the old person you were and you start posting like the woman you're becoming. If you guys need a real example of this, you can totally go to my Call Her Creator Instagram account and like, scroll, scroll, scroll, scroll. And you will see my content has changed a lot. My branding has changed, my messaging has changed, and I just kind of just one day had to be like, okay, I really want to start talking about this, actually. I really want to start posting about this, actually. And I just did it. So what you can do here, too. And I've done all of these steps for Call Her Creator, so they're super easy. One, you want to audit what your Instagram bio says. Does it reflect who you're stepping into? If not, it's time to revise all of that. You can totally use ChatGPT. I used chat. They asked me some questions. I actually said, like, hey, I want to revise my Instagram bio based off of X, Y, Z. Can you ask me some questions that will help me dig deeper into a better profile that reflects this? And so it asked me some really tough questions that I got to answer, but then it also spit out a really good bio for me. So you can do that for this first step. And then next up, you're gonna choose two to three content pillars, and you're gonna Commit to those. And they're gonna be simple, simple content that reflects your goals. And I'm telling you this simple content is what's profitable because you become passionate about it and you post about it more and you become more consistent and it, it just, it works. So make yourself the main character with all that too. Your life isn't boring. You're not just documenting it. Like, you are going to step into that content. Like, hey, I'm here. Here's what I'm gonna teach you. Fourth step on this is, and I actually did a podcast episode on this a couple weeks ago. This will help you create recognizability and authority because people are going to know that you are the go to expert for xyz. So starting a signature series, this is when you're gonna do it on week four. And then lastly, with all of this, show your face, more people are gonna buy from real humans, not the faceless brands. So this is your point. To show up online and just to go back for a minute, start. Starting a signature series has honestly been one of the best things that I've done for my Kaitlyn Rhodes account. We started doing like a what's trending this week carousel. And I'm reaching so many more people than I was a couple months ago. And it's because I've got this reoccurring series that I post every single Friday. If you need examples on that, like I said, go listen to the podcast episode. I've also got a really good blog influence with an eStudio.com blog. We have a really good signature series blog on there with specific examples depending on what niche you you're in to get your brain going for what kind of signature series that you could start. But when you change how you see yourself, the Internet is going to adjust to that too. You just have to show up as her. All right, week five, this is when you're going to build some systems with your business. So this is where the transformation becomes a little more sustainable. So most women don't fail because they're not motivated enough for it. They just fail because they don't have a system in place. So they're not staying consistent and they just fall off the bandwagon. So for week five, there's a couple things I want you to do. One is I want you to pick a weekly schedule for posting and stick to it. So what days are you gonna post? What days are you gonna create? And you're gonna stick to that every single week. And I also want you to practice batching content on week five as well. Like set a set aside a couple hours, make yourself look good, feel good, and just start filming. Maybe you've got some scripts to film videos, maybe you punch out some carousels, whatever it might be, just take that time and spend it batching content. We just did this for my personal account, Caitlin Rhodes, and it is saving me so much time and I've been so much less stressed. I was actually cooking breakfast this morning and my husband's like, you don't seem as stressed as you typically are. And I was like, well, knock on wood. Where's wood? Knock on wood. I've got things under control right now and I'm not having to think about content every single morning. It's already kind of done for me. So I think batching content has been such a stress, stress reliever for me and I highly, highly recommend you doing that. The third part of this for the creator systems, like that's really gonna help you is if you use my rule of three, it's really gonna save you some time too. And what I do there is I take one idea and I turn them into three different reels. So one idea for a talking head video. One that same idea, turn it into a video with turning audio. And then that same idea, use it as a reel, but put make it very text heavy. And I have an episode on this one too. It's called the rule of three. I get very nitty gritty about what, what all you do for this. I also have a blog post for this as well on influencestudio.com blog. But you can go in there and learn the rule of three. It's basically going to take one simple idea that you have and turn it into several different posts for you so that you can make more content in less time. And then to wrap up this week is repurposing. Make sure that you are repurposing content that has hit the first time. Do it again, change the audio on it, redownload the same reel, maybe change the hook. You can always type over it in. In the edits app, I use something called fast save video.net and that allows me to download the reel without a watermilk, without a watermark so that I can re upload it again and then I just change like one tiny detail on it. Make sure too with all of this that you're tracking your numbers too. Like don't. You don't have to be upset, obsessive about it, but just like just enough to learn what's working and what's not so that you're not trying it over and over again when it's clearly not working. Like, for my podcast page, snippets of podcast episodes were just not working for me. And I had hired an editor for that, and I was paying her, and I finally was just like, okay, I need to cut her. Cut these snippets. They're not doing crap for me. And I completely shifted my strategy there. And now we're very close to 10,000 followers on call her creator. But I was not getting there with a snippet, and I was wasting money. So make sure you're tracking your numbers. Your next level is not going to require more effort. It's just better systems. This week five is so powerful because you start to feel a little bit more organized and grounded and more in control because you're getting systems into place. So week five is very, very important. And then the last week of all of this for part one, again, we're going to have part two of this because we're going to do a full 12 weeks of becoming that girl. But this last week six is to strengthen your mind, and it's massive. This week is massive because the only thing separating the woman who you are from the woman that you want to be is that story that you have inside of your head. So if you don't shift your mind, you're not going to be able to shift your life. So here's your mental upgrade this week. So the first one is I want you to do 10 minutes of reading or listening. So maybe it's a book book or maybe it's a podcast. I do not care. But I want you to feed your brain something that grows you 10 minutes. That's all I'm asking for. Number two is I want you to rewrite your limiting beliefs. So I'm inconsistent. I'm too late. Nobody cares about this. These are thoughts and they're not facts. So you have to rewrite those. Like, I am consistent. I am not late. People do care about what I have to say. Like, rewrite those in a journal. Write them out loud down, because they'll become habits for you. And then I want you to think about the version of you that you want to become, because you have to honestly believe that you are already her. And this is another journal prompt that you'll want to do, too. You want to write with her in mind. You want to think like you're her. You want to decide on things like you're her. That's how you step into your power. Is by becoming her. Okay. And you have to reduce the noise with all of this too. Less gossip, less negativity, less consuming nonsense, less doom scrolling. You are stepping into your new era and you have to let go of all of those negative things that you were doing before or you're not gonna be able to turn into this new person that you wanna be. And remember with all of this that your mindset is the engine of your entire life. So you need to curate what you're feeding your brain. So it needs to be positive, it needs to be life loving, it needs to be happiness, joy, all the good things is what you need to feed your brain. And I know you know we're gonna have some bad days too. But for the just thinking positively and only consuming good stuff, your bad days are going to lessen. I promise you. If your mind is weak, your discipline will also collapse too. So make sure you surround yourself with people that want the best for you. The people that want to see you become her. So think about who you're hanging around to when it comes to all of this. They are totally going to be a big part of this transformation that you're stepping into as well. Well, so the first six weeks of disappearing to become her look like this routine. Clarity, confidence, reinvention systems and then your mindset. And this is going to be the blueprint for stepping into 2026 with your power, softness for you. Not burnout, confidence, not chaos. And I want you to hear me on this. You are just one identity shift away from your next level. You can step into her without panic, without chaos. You just have to envelop yourself into all of this that I'm telling you. If you will follow this six week plan, I promise you, you are going to come out on the other side of it so much stronger and happier and vibier. And I'm so, so, so excited for you. So if you want to take this as a little step further, I do have a free podcast playlist in the show notes that I'm going to drop for you. This could be used on your money walk that I told you guys to do. It's a part of Reinvention season actually and I have an episode in there too called Reinvention season. But I want you to make walking a part of your daily routine and in doing so you can listen to the Call Her Creator podcast and reinvent a whole new version of success for yourself. So stay tuned for part number two. But I hope you loved this part number one. And I will see you next week.