Podcast Summary: Call Her Creator with Katelyn Rhoades

Episode 109: Wake Up the Woman You’re Becoming – The Identity Shift That Changes Everything (Part 3)
Host: Katelyn Rhoades
Date: December 16, 2025

Episode Overview

In this third installment of the six-week Reinvention Challenge, Katelyn Rhoades guides listeners through the pivotal step of awakening the woman you are meant to become. This episode moves past superficial resets and dives deep into identity, self-awareness, breaking unhelpful patterns, and the actionable process of realigning your life. Katelyn’s mission is clear: help you recognize and reclaim the real, powerful version of yourself, setting a foundation for 2026 and beyond. Expect thought-provoking journal prompts, guided visualization, raw personal stories, and empowering truth bombs that make you want to get out your notes app mid-episode.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. This Challenge Is Not Fluff—It’s a Transformation

• Setting the Stage (02:05):
  “This is not a cute little reset. This is not another fluffy vision board exercise. This is a line in the sand. During these six weeks, we are waking up the woman that you are meant to become. Not the watered-down version of her. Not the people-pleasing version of her...” (Katelyn, 02:05)

2. Why Do We “Go To Sleep” On Ourselves?

• Gradual Disconnection (05:38):
  Disconnection occurs slowly—not by conscious choice, but through incremental self-sacrifice to make others comfortable or by surviving hard times.
  • “Most women do not wake up one morning and say, ‘You know what? I'm gonna disconnect from my own desires today...’ It just happens slowly.” (06:01)
  • Reminder that feeling disconnected is a sign you’re a survivor, not a failure.

3. The Lost Self: She’s Not Gone, Just Buried

• Remember Your Past Self (08:22):
  Reflect on who you were before hard times or routines dulled your spark. Katelyn encourages visualization: “She’s not gone. She’s just buried under false expectations, under survival, under being realistic. And that can be scary. How do we get her out? Is she lost forever? No. You just gotta find her again.” (08:52)

4. Common Patterns That Keep You Stuck

Katelyn identifies four powerful sabotaging patterns—inviting listeners to do a gentle self-audit:

• Numbing Instead of Noticing (12:25):

  • “Are you resting during these bad habits, or are you just numbing yourself so you don’t have to feel the real things that are going on?”
  • Examples: doom scrolling, Netflix, mindless snacking, a glass of wine you don’t even want.

• Overcommitting (14:45):

  • “If your schedule is so full that you have zero white space to hear your own thoughts, that's not just a time management issue, it’s actually a self-avoidance issue.”
  • Overachievers stay busy to avoid confronting deeper life questions.

• Shrinking Your Dreams to Match Confidence (15:55):

  • “The confidence you’re waiting for is just actually on the other side of the thing you’re avoiding.”
  • Personal example: Starting her business before the “perfect time” and how going for it changed everything.

• Self-Betrayal to Keep the Peace (17:03):

  • “That’s what we call self-betrayal... You are putting yourself behind to make someone else comfortable.”
  • Introduces concept of self-loyalty: “My boundaries are valid. It is safe to honor what I need. It is okay to say no to you right now.” (17:57)

5. Alignment vs. Misalignment—And How It Feels

• Physical and Emotional Cues (18:40):

  • Alignment is not perfection—it’s honesty.

    • Feels like: exhale, relaxation, “this fits me, even if it’s challenging.”
    • Misalignment feels like: dread, tight chest, robotic motion.

  • Journal Prompts to Identify Alignment (20:35):

    • Where do I feel dread in my day?
    • Where do I feel energized?
    • What parts of my life feel like performing, not living?
    • “Alignment is choosing the life that fits your soul, not the life that looks the best from the outside.” (21:43)

6. What Is Self-Leadership? What Is Self-Loyalty?

• Self-leadership (26:40):

  • Not about controlling yourself harshly but lovingly: “I am responsible for my own choices. I am responsible for how I should show up for myself.”
  • Invites you to list leaders or mentors you admire—discover the qualities you see in them, then embody those qualities for yourself.

• Real-Life Story (27:50):

  • Katelyn’s “full plate” week—Chicago trip, podcast, hair appointments, her daughter’s events—and how her body signaled STOP.
    • Memorable moment: “You could not pay me a million dollars to get out of this bed right now. I am not doing it.” (29:16)
    • Lesson: “At some point, your body is literally going to say, not doing it.” (29:36)

• Self-loyalty (31:01):

  • “Self-loyalty is you saying things like, ‘I am on my own team. I will not throw myself under the bus to keep the peace... I am willing to disappoint others in order to stop disappointing myself.’ That is the big one for me.” (31:11)
  • Self-loyalty may mean saying no, protecting your energy, or prioritizing your dreams.

7. Guided Visualization: Meeting the Woman You’re Becoming

• Powerful Visualization Exercise (34:14):
  • “Imagine you’re walking into a house that represents your inner world... you see this door you haven’t opened in years. The sign says: ‘The Woman I Was Meant to Become’...”
  • “She’s looking at you with so much love and excitement... She’s saying, ‘I knew you would come.’”
  • Key questions for your inner, future self:
    • What did I forget about myself?
    • What have you been waiting for me to remember?
    • What do you need me to stop tolerating?
    • What do you want me to start honoring?
  • Step “into her”: “You can feel her steadiness, her clarity, her courage. You’re not pretending to be someone else. This is actually you—it’s just the very best version of you.” (37:19)

8. Weekly Journal Prompts & Mini-Assignments

• Prompts to Anchor Your Identity:
  • The part of me I stopped listening to was...
  • I noticed I started abandoning myself when...
  • The ways I currently numb out instead of feeling are...
  • I feel most aligned when I am...
  • I feel most like myself when I am...
  • Self-leadership for me would look like...
  • Self-loyalty for me would sound like...
• Two Affirmations to Write and Repeat:
  1. “The part of me I’m waking up again is...”
  2. “The woman I am becoming over the next six weeks is...”
  • “Don’t be vague—be as specific as you can. Whisper it if you have to, but say it out loud.” (41:31)

9. Reinvention Challenge Homework

• Choose One Pattern to Retire:
  • “This week, I am disrupting the pattern of...”
  • e.g., numbing with your phone, people-pleasing, overbooking
• Read Your Two Sentences Every Morning
• Share Your Mission with Someone:
  • “Let someone witness your decision, because reinvention doesn’t happen in isolation. We’re meant to grow in a community.” (43:38)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

“You did what you needed to do to make it to this moment. But the fact that you’re here, listening... tells me something else. It tells me those buried parts of you are starting to tap on the glass, right? They’re saying, ‘Hey, you said you’d come back for me.’ This week is you keeping that promise.”
— Katelyn, 10:33

“Are you resting during these bad habits, or are you just numbing yourself so that you don’t have to feel the real things going on?”
— Katelyn, 12:35

“Waiting for that perfect moment is never going to be a thing. Stop waiting for it.”
— Katelyn, 15:55

“Self-leadership sounds like, ‘Hey, Katelyn, I noticed you’re tired. Let’s not commit to that extra thing. I am here for you.’”
— Katelyn, 28:41

“Self-loyalty is putting yourself first. Sometimes, even if you know you might upset someone.”
— Katelyn, 31:45

“You chose honesty over autopilot. You chose self-leadership over self-abandonment. You chose self-loyalty over people-pleasing. You chose to wake up.”
— Katelyn, 44:38

Timed Breakdown of Important Segments

• [02:05] – Challenge framing: “This is not a cute little reset...”
• [06:01] – “Most women do not wake up one morning...” (on disconnection)
• [12:35] – Numbing vs. noticing, bad habits
• [15:55] – Shrinking dreams, “perfect timing” myth
• [17:03] – Self-betrayal and self-loyalty
• [18:40] – Alignment vs. misalignment (physical/emotional cues)
• [26:40] – Self-leadership and self-loyalty explained
• [29:16] – Real story: “Not getting out of bed for a million dollars...”
• [34:14] – Guided visualization exercise
• [39:21] – Journaling prompts introduction
• [41:31] – Two “anchor” sentences and morning ritual
• [43:38] – Challenge homework and sharing commitments
• [44:38] – The closing, memorable closing lines

Action & Homework (Katelyn’s Challenge)

• Pick one pattern to disrupt this week
• Read your “awakening” and “becoming” sentences every morning
• Share your mission with someone you trust or with Katelyn on Instagram

This episode is both a gentle wake-up call and a how-to manual for women ready to shift internally before 2026 arrives. Katelyn’s blend of vulnerability, actionable steps, and “you’re not alone” reassurance makes this an empowering listen for creators and any woman seeking her next level.