Podcast Summary: Call Her Creator with Katelyn Rhoades

Episode: Stop Caring What They Think: Choosing Yourself + Building Real Confidence Online
Host: Katelyn Rhoades
Date: October 1, 2025

Episode Overview

This episode centers on overcoming the fear of judgment from others, embracing self-confidence, and strategies for showing up authentically online as a creator or entrepreneur. Katelyn Rhoades vulnerably shares her personal experiences with self-doubt and external opinions, offering actionable mindset shifts and tactical strategies to help listeners build sustainable confidence both in life and business. She also introduces her new program, Social Media School, designed to remove guesswork and empower creators to thrive online with actionable systems.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Truth About Other People’s Opinions (04:35 – 09:50)

• The Inescapability of Opinions: Katelyn explains that people will always have something to say, good or bad.
• The Futility of Chasing Approval:
  • "If you chase approval, you're going to be running forever trying to get the approval of others that truly don't even care about you." (06:00)
  • "Someone is always going to think you're too loud. Another person is always going to think you're too quiet ... You literally cannot win if you're chasing everyone else's opinions." (06:30)
• Projection vs. Reality: Many times, others project their own fears and insecurities, which shouldn't define your truth.

2. Defining and Choosing Confidence (09:50 – 15:00)

• Self-Choice as the Core of Confidence:
  • "What decision makes me proud? What choice makes me feel expansive and not small? What would my future self thank me for?" (10:50)
• The Myth of Fearless Confidence: Confidence doesn't mean the absence of fear or perfection.
  • "Confidence is showing up anyway. It's doing the thing while your voice shakes... Every time you show up, despite your fear, you're building a brick in your confidence foundation, and those bricks stack." (12:00)

3. Practical Tools to Build and Maintain Confidence (15:00 – 28:00)

• Celebrating Micro-Wins:
  • Katelyn shares how celebrating small achievements helps her and encourages listeners to do the same.
    • "Celebrate that win. I'll be honest with you guys..." (16:50)
  • She candidly recalls moments of comparison and rejection, specifically not being invited to an Instagram creator summit, but reframes her focus on her own recent successes.
• Keep “Receipts” of Praise:
  • Katelyn takes screenshots and makes her team share their wins via Slack.
    • "If they get a good email or someone DMs them ... I tell them to put it in our 'brag about it' channel because I want to brag about them." (19:40)
• Daily Affirmations:
  • "Today's affirmation is: 'My voice matters. My presence shifts rooms.'" (20:20)
  • She humorously shares using ChatGPT for affirmations and personal coaching.
    • Examples:
      • “Every room I walk into expands because of my presence and my energy.”
      • “I am unapologetic about my goals and unstoppable in my pursuit of them.”
      • “I choose courage over comfort, knowing confidence is built every time I show up.” (21:05)
• Mindful Self-Talk and Reparenting:
  • Recognize when insecurity is a triggered response and offer self-comfort, like you would to a child.
    • "Notice when that part of you is activated and tell yourself, 'This isn't me right now. This is my younger self feeling unsafe.'" (23:01)
    • Comfort your inner child: “I see you. It’s okay to feel scared. Hey, I’m not going anywhere. You’re safe with me.” (24:00)
• Curating Your Circle:
  • Be intentional about your relationships, even if it means muting or unfollowing draining connections.
    • "Spending time with people who expand me and not drain me... sometimes that can come in the form of friends..., family... It can just mean muting people on social." (25:20)

4. Community and Support Systems (28:00 – 32:00)

• Surround Yourself with a 'Social Tribe':
  • Having a group of cheerleaders boosts confidence, especially when posting content.
    • "When we post something, let's be each other's cheerleaders ... that's going to make your confidence go up too." (30:49)
• Normalize Feelings of Rejection:
  • Katelyn reminds us it's "so human" to feel rejected or unconfident, and that support can make visibility less intimidating.

5. Systems Create Confidence (32:00 – End)

• Bridging Mindset with Strategy:
  • Many confidence issues stem from not knowing what you're doing; clear systems provide a foundation.
    • "The lack of confidence usually isn't about who we are. It's just about not knowing what we're doing." (33:30)
• Introduction to Social Media School:
  • Program offers step-by-step frameworks: Core 5 content framework, Rule of Three, engagement method, hooks, sales psychology, templates.
    • "When you have a framework to follow, a strategy that works, and the confidence that comes from clarity, you stop second guessing and you start showing up boldly." (34:00)
    • "Confidence plus systems equals unstoppable online presence." (34:40)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On External Opinions:
  • “What other people think of you is none of your business.” (08:00)
• On Comparison:
  • “Be confident in what you have built. Be confident in your wins.” (18:40)
• On Confidence:
  • “Confidence is not about never feeling fear. It's not about being perfect. Confidence is showing up anyway. It's doing the thing while your voice shakes.” (12:00)
• On Personal Growth:
  • “At the end of the day, you are the one living with your choices. Not your mom, not your best friend, not the person from high school watching your stories. It's you.” (11:20)
• On Community:
  • “Surrounding yourself with good people, with a good tribe... having your little social tribe... that's going to make your confidence go up too.” (31:00)
• On Business:
  • “Your business can't grow if you let the fear of judgment keep you silent. Someone else's opinion is not going to pay your bills.” (32:40)

Key Takeaways

• People’s opinions aren’t your business—focus on yourself and your journey.
• Confidence is action in the face of fear, built slowly brick-by-brick by showing up.
• Celebrate every small win and keep tangible reminders to boost self-belief.
• Use affirmations, intentional community, and supportive systems to grow confidence.
• Having clear frameworks and strategies (like those offered in Social Media School) allows you to show up online with clarity, purpose, and pride.

Important Timestamps & Segments

• [04:35] – Opinions and why they don’t matter
• [09:50] – What true confidence is
• [12:00] – Confidence is about showing up in fear
• [16:50] – Katelyn’s story about comparison and micro-wins
• [19:40] – Keep receipts; create a “brag about it” channel
• [20:20] – Affirmations and ChatGPT
• [23:01] – Reparenting and inner child comfort
• [25:20] – Curating your circle
• [30:49] – The value of a social tribe
• [33:30] – Why confidence issues are often knowledge gaps
• [34:00] – Social Media School frameworks explained

Final Message

Katelyn closes with an energizing reminder: choose yourself, celebrate yourself, and never let someone else’s opinion dictate your growth or happiness. With the right mindset, community, and actionable systems, you can confidently and consistently build the business and life you truly want.