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Brit
Call it, crew. And welcome to another episode of short and sweet.
Jessica Capshaw
Sweet.
Brit
I need to talk about this, you guys. Okay, so obviously, like, I'm not American. I went to college for, like, a minute. I never rushed a sorority. So this is. This is all new to me. Right. Okay. And somehow the algorithm for my TikTok was like, you know what? She needs to. She needs to be involved in Bama Rush. And I was like, I don't even know what I didn't do. You know what? Bama rushes.
Jessica Capshaw
Is it out? Is it at Alabama?
Brit
Yeah, yeah, it's the Alabama State University. Whatever it is.
Jessica Capshaw
Yeah.
Brit
Alabama Together. Yeah. Well, I didn't know that. I was like, bama Rush. I was like, maybe that's. I literally thought maybe that was the name of the sorority. Like, it was like, Kappa Kappa Delta. And then there was just Bama. And it was like, you gotta drink.
Jessica Capshaw
I'm. I'm. I'm. You know, go ahead.
Brit
I had no idea the presence this has on TikTok. Let me just explain this to you.
Jessica Capshaw
Well, first, can you explain what it is?
Brit
Okay, so for people that are not American. Well, I might have to have you explain it. This is what me Brit thinks. Okay.
Jessica Capshaw
Okay.
Brit
Okay. It's like a movie. There's a sorority row at a college, and they have these, like, mega mansions and then their houses and their houses. And they actually get to live there. Yeah, well, they get to live there.
Jessica Capshaw
If you want to.
Brit
If you want to. Okay, so you get to. I would want to. I've seen these houses. I'm like, yeah, 25,000 square feet. Look at that. The White House. Yeah. Anyway, so, okay, so you arrive as a freshman, and then they all have, like, Greek letter. Yes. Okay. So. And then they have, like, names, though, like, Kappa Delta Kappa. Kappa Gamma Kappa Kappa Gamma Zeta. Oh, Zetas. Zetas all over the. The web, the websites. And you go and you hope to get into.
Jessica Capshaw
To get ruited.
Brit
To get picked to be in a sorority. Basically, you don't show up in camp on college campus in the US and just be like, hey, I'd love to be part of the sorority. They're like, yay, come in. They pick you. It's like a club social nightmare.
Jessica Capshaw
Yeah. Oh, I was not in a sorority. And the idea of being in one or rushing or. Yeah, it gives me anxiety.
Brit
So you go. And then there are cuts. Like, you meet them, and then there's certainly trying out for a sports team a week. It's not just like a job interview where you go, like, once and you meet them. They're like, no, you're not a fit. Like, you're put through an entire week of events where they analyze you. Look at your social media. Apparently, look at what you're wearing.
Jessica Capshaw
I've learned kind of apparently, look at what you're wearing. What you're wearing is a very big deal.
Brit
Well, here's what I'm hearing. Moms of these girls are. Some of these girls are even more into it than the girl. And so they're like, you. You need the Hermes bracelet with the earrings with the Van Cleefs, and this is what you need to say. And the moms, as much like some of these moms are flying and staying there the rush week to basically, like, be cheerleaders as they're going through, which is just so crazy to me. Can you imagine Cape Capshaw coming down for a Kappa Kappa Gamma Delta week? I don't think so.
Jessica Capshaw
No. I don't. I don't see it happening.
Brit
There's no way.
Jessica Capshaw
I. I mean, I saw something. My algorithm threw me. I mean, it didn't. It didn't throw me the TikToks, and I didn't go down the rabbit hole that it seemingly.
Brit
Oh, I'm in.
Jessica Capshaw
No, yeah, you're in. Is. Is that there are actually consultants that can talk to you before you even get there about which sorority is best. Like, it's almost like you did your college applications. Hopefully you're at the right school. And now you have to do a whole nother process where you figure out which sorority is right for you, and then they shepherd you through the process.
Brit
It's called a rush coach.
Jessica Capshaw
So. So you know what?
Brit
This is a hundred percent. I said the algorithm's been feeding me.
Jessica Capshaw
Okay.
Brit
Stuffed.
Jessica Capshaw
Okay.
Brit
It's a rush coach. And so some of these girls are online, and they're like, I got here, and I was gonna start rushing, and then everyone was like, oh, when does your rush coach arrive? What? Yes.
Jessica Capshaw
Okay. And what does a rush coach do?
Brit
Coaching you how to, like, on the things to say. Apparently, there are five B's. Have you heard of the five B's? Oh, my God. You're not. These are things you're not supposed. You're supposed to avoid talking about.
Jessica Capshaw
If you're coached, then you're not being authentically yourself, and then you have to live the next. I mean, you have to keep up the act is my.
Brit
For sure.
Jessica Capshaw
Why would you pretend to be something that you're not if you actually then have to keep up the act for your. The entirety of your college experience?
Brit
I mean, this is true, but I guess it's almost like. I agree, but I guess it's almost like a job interview. You go into a job interview, like, putting your best foot forward and kind of making it seem. Definitely making it seem as if, like, this is the work culture that you're going to thrive in and you're the best person for the job and all those things, and you might not like it, but I think that these girls have no idea really, what this sorority is really like. I mean, they don't know any of these girls, and they're just sort of, like, hoping that they get the opportunity to be in whatever sorority it is. And so, yes, they're putting their best foot forward, which might not be a good representation of themselves. Hmm. So this is what I've heard you are not supposed to talk about, really, when you're being interviewed in rush. Okay. You're supposed to avoid boys, ballots, booze, Bible and bucks and. Oh, somebody. I don't know what that is. Yeah. Beliefs. I even heard Biden. I saw Biden on there one time, and it was. I was cracking up. I'm like, what? If you mentioned Biden, like, your. Your bid's gone. They're like, get her out of here.
Jessica Capshaw
So what's a bid, by the way?
Brit
I don't know what I'm gathering.
Jessica Capshaw
I think it means you've been. You've been selected. You make a. Isn't it. I don't know. Do you make a bid for the sorority, or does the sorority make a bid for you?
Brit
I don't know about that. I think the bid is you bidding. I don't. I don't know what it is, but let me tell you what really was.
Jessica Capshaw
Is there competition? Like, is there a girl who's, like, the one that all the sororities want to get?
Brit
Yes. Okay. So it's called the. The Crush. So there's always a girl that's like the sorority crush, and it's like the girl of the season. And what's happening now in 2025 is that these girls, the person that kind of like, you know, is the shiniest, newest thing, is becoming a social media sensation from it.
Jessica Capshaw
But doesn't it just make you feel like.
Brit
I mean, this is how I feel.
Jessica Capshaw
When people talk about all like what it takes to get into college, I think I don't. I just wouldn't have gotten in.
Brit
No, I, I wouldn't have gone into college.
Jessica Capshaw
I wouldn't have gotten into a sorority. I'm in a shame spiral. This is giving me anxiety.
Brit
I know. And let me tell you, every single morning, they're like, this is my fit for the day. It's rush day and I'm wearing. And they go through their head to toe fit and it's whatever they're wearing for the day.
Jessica Capshaw
Is this a show or just a TikTok thing?
Brit
This is not a TV show. This is just TikTok. This is social media. It's. It's like a frenzy online right now. And here's how crazy it is. This is the last thing I'll say about it, but here's how crazy it is.
Jessica Capshaw
No, no, no. We were in already.
Brit
We're in already. Okay. There are women our age that are posting on TikTok and they're making, they're breaking down because they're seeing the tiktoks from all the girls that are like rushing. They're like, okay, I think this girl's gonna end up with zeta. This girl's gonna of the season. And it's almost like a football pick. It's like their super bowl. And they know the ins and outs and the backstories and who's, you know, who's. Who's legacy and who's not legacy and why this. And there's drama happening behind the scenes and there's. It's insane. If you haven't heard about. Next up, live music. Tick Tock's biggest music talent show yourself. Seriously missing out.
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Jessica Capshaw
Can we go back to the five Bs.
Brit
Yeah.
Jessica Capshaw
Okay. The first B was.
Brit
There's a lot of Bs. Honestly, boys. It was boys.
Jessica Capshaw
Okay, so you're not talking.
Brit
Is it like a. I think you're not supposed to be like, they're. Here's what I'm gathering. This is what I'm assuming is that you're there. Like, how are you. Tell us about yourself being like, oh, my boyfriend Craig.
Jessica Capshaw
Oh, because they want you to be single.
Brit
No, I just don't think you make it your whole personality. And sometimes I think that girls. Or be like, oh, my God, what are the boys like here? I think you're just. You're all about the girls. You're all about the girl and the friendship and the sister.
Jessica Capshaw
The sisterhood. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Brit
Okay, the next one is ballots. Booze. You don't talk about alcohol.
Jessica Capshaw
Well, because you don't get sloppy.
Brit
No. And you can't. You can't roll up and they're like, how was last night? And you're like, I got faced. Journey. Mean, like, we're not going to talk.
Jessica Capshaw
I don't feel like that's going to curry favor with anyone. Once you're in, by the way, maybe.
Brit
It'S a different story. Yeah, yeah. Once you're in, all of these are fine. The bees are back in. Once you're in. Are you kidding? You mean they're not talking about boys and booze?
Jessica Capshaw
You get all your B's back and politics.
Brit
Okay, so, yeah, that's why maybe Biden was a B. Yeah. But I don't know who's going up and being like, you know, how's your day? I just fucking love Biden.
Jessica Capshaw
Okay, so booze.
Brit
Okay, Booze. Okay. Beliefs. And this is beliefs or Bible. So, like, your religious beliefs. Off the table. Off the table. Bucks, I guess. How rich you are. Is that what I'm assuming?
Jessica Capshaw
Like, listen, everything you just described, where people are, where you've got, you know, you're hiring consultants and then you're figuring out which Hermes bracelet you're gonna wear. I mean, I'm thinking this is reserved for incredibly wealthy people, this situation.
Brit
Well, well, I. What? I'm. What? I'm. Well, I don't. I. I don't know if it necessarily is incredibly wealthy people, but of course, a sorority costs money.
Jessica Capshaw
Well, yeah, but so does an Hermes bracelet. I mean, in a Van Cleef.
Brit
Oh, yes. I have to say, though, like, I'm seeing that, but I'm also seeing a lot of girls that are wearing, like, real cute stuff from, like, local Stores that are not, like, crazy expensive.
Jessica Capshaw
I wonder if it's like that movie Some Kind of Wonderful where it's like, the really. The really, like, the super popular girl, the crush was from the wrong side of the tracks.
Brit
Oh, my God. Jessica. I just thought about. I literally just thought of a movie for us. I'm pitching it to Hollywood right now, and if anybody takes this, I'm gonna take this podcast to court. Hey, are you ready for this? You and I are exceptionally young moms to 18 year olds. We don't know how it happened.
Jessica Capshaw
The Bees.
Brit
Five years, Rivals. And we are sorority. We need those girls in sorority.
Jessica Capshaw
Yeah, it's like Bride wars, but not. It's Russia Wars.
Brit
It's Bride wars, but it's Sorority Wars. And it's like, but moms. But moms. I. I'm not even kidding. And then our kids don't really care, so maybe we end up rushing as them. Almost like, what's the movie? Never Been Kissed when she goes back to high school. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like, we're so. Yeah. Yeah. Jessica, I. I see it swore you.
Jessica Capshaw
Well, it's funny because people get all, you know, fiery when you're. They're like, oh, my gosh, can Hollywood come up with any new ideas? Everyone's, you know, using all this IP and remaking stuff. But Poppy said to me the other day, because she was talking about her favorite movies, and she was like, why were the movies so good in the 90s?
Brit
They are amazing.
Jessica Capshaw
They were.
Brit
She loves. I wonder. I'm not kidding. This is a great idea.
Jessica Capshaw
Well, we better get on it, because I feel like we're like, we're two.
Brit
Moms or we're two rush coaches and we have our, you know, like, dance.
Jessica Capshaw
Oh, yeah, I can wait. All of a sudden, I just saw us in, like, slow motion with our.
Brit
Clipboards and our watch, and it's like, we're complete rivals. But in the end of the day, we realize the five B's are fine. That's the moral story.
Jessica Capshaw
I was gonna say friendship's really the most important thing, but it's really the 5B.
Brit
Really? We realized you can talk about the 5B's sometimes. And that's where the movie ends and the credits roll.
Jessica Capshaw
And we find love with some professors on campus.
Brit
Yes. Oh, my God. Wait. Yes. This is so fantastic. I love this so much. Hollywood, don't steal it. I know how disgusting you are.
Jessica Capshaw
Well, we just created the IP just now. How's that? Suck it.
Brit
You got to buy it. Yeah.
Jessica Capshaw
From us.
Brit
Yeah. Sorority Wars. And we already said the exact story. The five B's are in there. Maybe coaches or moms. Anyway, I'm sucked in. Bama Rush on Tick tock.
Jessica Capshaw
All right, well, now I'm gonna go check it out and. And then we're gonna. I'll have some ideas once I've done that. It's really research is what it is.
Brit
It is research. It's crazy. It really feels like sorority super bowl. And then people open up their things at the end and they record themselves. You know how when you get into college and you, like, record yourself, like, opening up the acceptance. People are recording themselves opening up the acceptance letter. And sometimes they're like, super happy, but sometimes they're like, oh, my God, I can't believe I just got into that shitty. And they still post it. I'm like, dude, you're gonna be there next week and you just post it online, like, clearly disappointed. I digress. My point is, is it's rush week. Godspeed to all of you girls going through this rush. It looks like so much work. Truly. I hope that you do find great friends there because it makes, I'm sure, the college. I wouldn't know, but I'm sure it makes it.
Jessica Capshaw
They'll be hard earned, those friends. You've done a lot to get there.
Brit
So can you see Eve? Are you gonna end up having to be a sorority mom?
Jessica Capshaw
Oh.
Brit
Oh, I know.
Jessica Capshaw
Oh, not after all the things you just said.
Brit
I don't know. They might sound.
Jessica Capshaw
You don't. I'm not gonna lie. You don't. You don't make it sound. I'm sure that it's got to be fun, otherwise they wouldn't be doing it.
Brit
But I think it's fun because you don't know anybody. Right. And so it's a way to feel part of a big community. And they put on a lot of events and stuff like that.
Jessica Capshaw
Yes.
Brit
No.
Jessica Capshaw
Yes.
Brit
And they do work in the community.
Jessica Capshaw
And still it down to what? The reason that it exists. I think it's probably, you know, wonderful.
Brit
Yeah. All right, well, call it the end of the episode.
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Episode: Call It Short & Sweet: Booze, Boys, and Bama Rush
Hosts: Jessica Capshaw & Camilla Luddington
Release Date: August 20, 2025 (iHeartPodcasts)
In this "Short & Sweet" episode, real-life best friends and Grey’s Anatomy alums Jessica Capshaw and Camilla Luddington (referred to in the transcript as "Jessica" and "Brit") take a deep dive into the social media sensation of "Bama Rush" – the University of Alabama’s sorority recruitment week that has gone viral on TikTok. With playful banter and unfiltered curiosity, they discuss the wild world of sorority culture in the South, the influence of social media, and the pressures facing young women navigating this tradition, all with their signature wit and warmth.
(03:01 – 07:32)
“I never rushed a sorority. So this is all new to me...somehow the algorithm for my TikTok was like, you know what, she needs to be involved in Bama Rush.”
— Brit (03:02)
(05:37 – 07:19)
“It's almost like you did your college applications. Hopefully you're at the right school. And now you have to do another whole process…rush coaches shepherd you through it.”
— Jessica Capshaw (06:37)
(07:21 – 15:53 and 14:21 – 15:56 for recap)
“So this is what I've heard you are not supposed to talk about…boys, ballots, booze, Bible and bucks…”
— Brit (07:39)
“Once you're in, all of these are fine. The B's are back in. Once you're in. Are you kidding? You mean they're not talking about boys and booze?”
— Brit (15:13)
(09:03 – 11:04)
“There are women our age posting on TikTok…making picks like it’s the Super Bowl…and there’s drama…It’s insane.”
— Brit (10:15)
(15:53 – 16:27)
(16:27 – 18:47)
“But at the end of the day we realize the five B's are fine. That's the moral story.”
— Jessica Capshaw (18:03)
(19:08 – 20:22)
“Oh, not after all the things you just said.”
— Jessica Capshaw (20:01)
“It's like a job interview, but you have to keep up the act for years.” (07:39)
“If you're coached, then you're not being authentically yourself, and then you have to live the next—I mean, you have to keep up the act…” (07:32)
“Can you imagine Cape Capshaw coming down for a Kappa Kappa Gamma Delta week? I don't think so.” (06:22)
“It's Bride Wars, but it's Russia [Rush] Wars. And it's like, but moms. …I'm not even kidding. And then our kids don't really care, so maybe we end up rushing as them. Almost like, what's the movie? Never Been Kissed?”
— Brit (17:05)
“People get all, you know, fiery when they're like, ‘Oh, my gosh, can Hollywood come up with any new ideas?’ Everyone's remaking stuff…” (17:30)
The episode is lighthearted and full of genuine curiosity, blending British outsider naiveté with American nostalgia. The hosts riff off each other with inside jokes, self-deprecating humor, and relatable millennial anxieties about fitting in—whether in college, online, or as parents.
Jessica Capshaw and Camilla Luddington provide a hilarious, revealing look into Bama Rush, the viral sorority recruitment spectacle sweeping TikTok. They unpack the arcane rules, celebrity "rush coaches," the parade of social media fashion, and how social class weaves through it all—mixing their signature blend of candor, empathy, and pop culture references. By the end, listeners leave with a deeper understanding of why Bama Rush has captured the internet’s obsession—and why, for all the drama, at its core, it’s about the search for community and friendship.