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Cappy Hour
Hosted by Sober Cappy · EN
I'm Brian “Cappy” Cappello — 50% Italian, 99% Irish (I should probably go by Sully). Designed to be fun! And to be THE go-to recoverycast for learning & laughing while killing time. We'll talk sobriety, plus life's 98 other problems: ADHD, people-pleasing, perfectionism, self-love, trauma, connection, regrets, forgiveness, authenticity, inviting discomfort & embracing the cringe. Short on backstories, long on witty, educated banter. Whether needing saving and/or braving, this is your pod.
I once quit for 3.5 years and am right back there w/27+ months of sobriety, going on infinity. Rebirth: 3/18/24
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Can You Really Moderate Alcohol? The Truth Most Drinkers Learn Too Late | Cappy Hour Ep. w/ Sober Megan
3d ago00:43:29Tap to summarizeThere's a voice that lives inside anyone who's struggled with alcohol. It whispers exactly when you're most vulnerable. It knows all your weaknesses. And it never takes no for an answer. How do you stay sober long-term? Can alcoholics ever drink in moderation? In this episode of The Cappy Hour Podcast, Sober Megan Wilcox shares practical long-term sobriety tips, alcohol relapse prevention strategies, and the neuroscience behind alcohol cravings and addiction. What we get into: • Why you still crave alcohol after years sober • The moderation myth explained • How alcohol affects dopamine • Why your brain romanticizes drinking • Understanding alcoholic neuropathy symptoms • How sobriety can reverse biological aging This is Part 1 of a two-part conversation. 💬 Leave a comment. Share your story. As Megan says, shame dies when stories are told in safe places. 🔔 Subscribe for more honest conversations about alcohol-free living, recovery and maintaining long-term sobriety. Connect with me here: Instagram :- https://insta.openinapp.co/ubf66 YouTube :- https://yt.openinapp.co/5x05t Spotify :- https://spotify.openinapp.co/wtlc2 Connect with Megan here: Website :- https://sobahsistahs.com/ Instagram :- https://www.instagram.com/sobahsistahs/ Facebook :- https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100088525735377 #sobriety #recovery #alcoholfree #addiction #dopamine #neuroscience #WhyYouCanNeverModerateAlcohol #sobercommunity #soberlife
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Why I Finally Stopped Trying to Do Sobriety Alone and Built a Community Instead
2w ago00:37:37Tap to summarize2+ years sober and I was still struggling. Isolating. Skipping the gym. Pulling away from community. Even doing shots of NA bourbon just to get myself to film this Podcast. Nobody talks about this part. The part where you've already done the hard work of getting sober and then slowly, without even noticing, you start letting it all slip. This episode is me being completely honest about what happens when you stop doing the work. How it sneaks up on you. How the voice gets louder when you pull away. And why community is the single most important thing standing between you and a relapse - no matter how long you have been sober. What we get into: What isolation actually does to your sobriety Why I stopped showing up and what it cost me The ADHD connection nobody talked to me about Why community changes everything How I got back on track — and what finally worked If any of this sounds like where you are right now - the quiet slipping, the pulling away, the doing it alone - this episode is for you. If you're early in sobriety and you haven't found your people yet, please don't wait. Community isn't a bonus. It's the work. It is the thing that keeps the voice quiet. That is exactly why I built "Rewired Nation" Join my community here: https://openinapp.link/nr9s1 Connect with me here :- Instagram :- https://insta.openinapp.co/ubf66 Youtube :- https://yt.openinapp.co/5x05t Spotify :- https://spotify.openinapp.co/wtlc2 #SoberLife #SobrietyPodcast #AlcoholFree #RecoveryPodcast #SoberCommunity #ADHDAndAlcohol #SoberLiving #AddictionRecovery #SoberStrong #AlcoholRecovery #RecoveryCommunity #SoberAndThriving #SoberCurious #SobrietyMotivation #AlcoholFreeLife
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Why High Achievers Become Secret Alcoholics… And Nobody Around Them Sees It
4w ago00:49:29Tap to summarize"I drank for happiness and became unhappy. I drank for joy and became miserable." That's how powerful alcohol addiction really is. Alcoholism doesn't start with the vodka under your desk. It starts with a couple IPAs after a stressful day. Then a four pack. Then a bottle hidden from your wife. Then drinking before your 7 am meetings. In this episode of the Cappy Hour Podcast, I sit down with my friend and high-tech sales executive Derek Donahue - someone I never would have thought as having a drinking problem. Derek shares about his secret battle with alcohol addiction and what finally made it stop. We talk about: * How a successful corporate sales career masked a hidden drinking problem * Why alcoholism is a progressive disease and how it sneaks up on you * How COVID and workplace stress accelerated his addiction * The IPA to vodka pipeline that nobody sees coming * Why hiding alcohol from your family is part of the disease * How isolation makes addiction ten times worse * Why relapse starts long before you take the first drink * What 19 months of sobriety actually feels like day to day * Finding community in AA even when the steps aren't for you * Why willpower has nothing to do with beating addiction If you've ever felt like you were living two different lives, hiding something from the people you love, or wondering if your drinking has gone too far… this conversation will change how you think about alcohol forever. Subscribe for weekly sobriety and mental health conversations. Connect with me here :- Instagram:- https://insta.openinapp.co/ubf66 Youtube:- https://yt.openinapp.co/5x05t Join Community :- https://openinapp.link/nr9s1 #sobriety #alcoholrecovery #addictionrecovery #progressivealcoholism #relapseprevention #adhd #soberlife #alcoholism #dopamine #corporatestress #soberpodcast
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How I Finally Rewired My Brain For Sobriety (After Years Of Failing) | ADHD and Alcohol recovery
May 1601:15:00Tap to summarizeWhat if failing at sobriety wasn't about weakness - it was about never understanding how your brain actually works? For years, I told myself I just didn't have enough willpower. That I was the problem. But the more I dug into ADHD and addiction, the more I realised something nobody had ever told me: my brain wasn't broken. It was doing exactly what it was designed to do — seeking relief from the chaos, the overwhelm, the noise that never stops. Alcohol was never the real problem. It was the solution my brain found first. In this episode of the Cappy Hour Podcast, I sit down with Tracey Goodwin - who has helped many ADHD minds find their way back to themselves. We talk about perfectionism, ADHD & Alcohol addiction, and why doing the deep inner work isn't just helpful -it's non-negotiable if you want long-term recovery. I'll be honest with you - I spent years failing at sobriety before I understood any of this. I'd wake up every morning planning to stop, and by the evening that voice in my head had already talked me out of it. I didn't need more willpower. I needed to understand what was actually happening inside my brain. If you've ever used alcohol to focus, to calm down, to get through a social situation, to silence the racing thoughts- you're not weak. For an ADHD brain, that was a completely logical response. The question is, what do you replace it with? That's what Tracey and I are here to talk about. In This Episode: * Why ADHD brains self-medicate with alcohol and how to break the cycle * The "Wonder Twins" theory: sobriety + ADHD = a unique superpower * How perfectionism fuels procrastination and relapse * The role of childhood trauma in addiction * Cold showers, dopamine hacks, and morning routines that actually work for ADHD * Why isolation leads to relapse and what community truly does for your brain * The whisper before the craving: how to catch it before your midbrain takes over * Accountability partners and the power of processing out loud Tracy also shares details about her free virtual event Make ADHD Your Genius —definitely worth checking out, link below. 👇 HAVE YOU EVER SELF-MEDICATED YOUR ADHD WITHOUT EVEN REALISING IT? Drop your story in the comments. 🔔 Subscribe for weekly conversations on sobriety, ADHD and recovery. Connect with me here :- Instagram:- https://insta.openinap... Youtube:- https://yt.openinapp.c... Join Community :- https://www.skool.com/... Connect with Tracey here:- Instagram:- https://www.instagram.com/lessentheoverwhelm?igsh=MTU1cWJnN3plbjBheg== Tracy Goodwin's Make ADHD Your Genius Free Virtual Event:- https://linktr.ee/traceybromleygoodwin?utm_source=linktree_profile_share&ltsid=a6257c73-6d80-4b3b-a95b-a94ed70879e4 #adhd #alcoholfreejourney #SelfMedicating #adhdaddiction #sobrietypodcast #dopaminedetox #alcoholrecovery #CappyHourPodcast #TracyGoodwin #mentalhealth #adhdbrain #soberlife #perfectionism #adhdawareness #brainrewiring
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Why Your Brain Keeps Pulling You Back to Alcohol ?
May 801:04:07Tap to summarize“I almost died… and I still went back to drinking.” That’s how powerful addiction can be. Alcohol addiction doesn’t start with the drink. It starts with the voice that tells you this time will be different. In this episode of Sober Cappy Podcast, I sit down with Chris Follari, who shares the reality of alcoholism and relapse after surviving open heart surgery and a stroke. We talk about: • The mental obsession behind alcohol addiction • Why relapse starts long before the first drink • Why people relapse after months or years sober • ADHD and addictive behavior • The role of isolation in recovery • Cross addiction after quitting alcohol • Recovery communities and therapy • Learning how to rebuild your life sober If you’ve ever struggled with alcohol, relapse or feeling trapped in unhealthy cycles, this conversation is for you! Topics covered: Sobriety, alcohol recovery, addiction psychology, ADHD symptoms, dopamine, compulsive behavior, recovery motivation, mental health awareness and emotional healing. Subscribe for more sobriety and mental health conversations. Connect with me here :- Instagram:- https://insta.openinapp.co/ni4im Youtube:- https://yt.openinapp.co/9msxp Join Community :- https://www.skool.com/rewired-nation-2374/about?ref=4133616860744a2e8e27820c49c9145f Connect with Chris here :- Linkedin :- https://www.linkedin.com/in/christopher-follari-6101a84?utm_source=share_via&utm_content=profile&utm_medium=member_ios Threads :- https://www.instagram.com/transformationkitchenorg?igsh=MTJnZHQzdmMwZ29raA== #sobriety #adhd #addictionrecovery #alcoholrecovery #recoverypodcast #dopamine #selfimprovement #relapseprevention #adhd
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Breaking the ADHD Procrastination Cycle: Simple Systems That Work
Apr 2701:04:42Tap to summarizeProductivity isn’t about doing more… it’s about making things easier to start. In this episode, I sit down with ADHD author Karla Genj (Ivy Castillo) to unpack the real challenges of staying productive with ADHD. From dopamine dips and procrastination to time tracking, routines and accountability… this is a raw, honest conversation about what actually works in day-to-day life. We also explore: Why motivation is unreliable How small actions create momentum ADHD-friendly productivity systems The role of environment and habits Practical ways to stay consistent as an entrepreneur If you’ve ever said “I’ll start later” and never did… this episode is for you. Connect with me here :- Instagram:- https://insta.openinapp.co/ni4im Youtube:- https://yt.openinapp.co/9msxp Join Community :- https://ilept.mn.co Connect with Ivy here :- https://www.ivycastillo.com/tr/2/13330042/12757166006/41079934/380572552dd4c7d264dcde54f7d5d0cc1f8dd8b92 https://www.ivycastillo.com/tr/2/13330042/12757166006/41079935/380572552dd4c7d264dcde54f7d5d0cc1f8dd8b92 https://www.ivycastillo.com/tr/2/13330042/12757166006/41079936/380572552dd4c7d264dcde54f7d5d0cc1f8dd8b92 #ADHDAwareness #ADHD #Productivity #Procrastination #ADHDTips #FocusTips #TimeManagement #SelfImprovement #Consistency #MentalHealth #Dopamine #Habits #Motivation #DeepWork
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ADHD Productivity Secrets That Actually Work (No Burnout)
Apr 1701:00:01Tap to summarizeWhy is it so hard to start tasks… even when you know they matter? In this episode of The Cappy Hour Podcast, Bill Widmer breaks down task initiation paralysis, ADHD and why most people struggle with consistency. We dive into the concept of the "minimum effective dose" for building habits without burnout, and how small, sustainable actions can completely change your productivity. We also discuss daily routines, mental clarity and the role of supplements like creatine in improving focus and headspace. If you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed or unable to start… this conversation will change how you approach work and habits. Connect with me here :- Instagram :- https://insta.openinapp.co/ni4im Youtube :- https://yt.openinapp.co/9msxp Join Community :- https://ilept.mn.co Connect with Bill :- Website :- https://www.billwidmer.com/ Community :- https://www.foundersguildhq.com/ #ADHD #ADHDAwareness #ProductivityTips #MentalHealth #FocusTips #TimeManagement #SelfImprovement #EntrepreneurMindset #Podcast
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Gray Area Drinking, Sobriety & Alcohol Free Life
Apr 1101:02:09Tap to summarizeDoes Your Drinking "Not Look Like a Problem" to Anyone Else But You Know It Is? Maybe you never lost your job. Never got a DUI. Never hit rock bottom. But you think about drinking more than you should. You start over every Monday. And deep down you know something needs to change. That is gray area drinking, and it is more common than you think. In this episode of The Sober Cappy Podcast, I sit down with Erica Wiechnik — a mom of two and alcohol-free mindset coach with over three years of sobriety. From the outside, Erica had it all together. Morning workouts, healthy meals, a growing family. But every night she was reaching for a drink she did not really want. And every morning she was waking up anxious, ashamed and telling herself today would be different. That's her story, and it might be yours too. What's covered: • What a gray area drinker actually is and how it's different from alcoholism • Why quitting alcohol is never just about willpower • How to handle a sip after long term sobriety • How alcohol quietly destroys your sleep and mental health • How life actually feels after you quit • Why community, coaching and doing the work matters more than just willpower • Why moderation is harder than quitting If you have ever felt like you were suffering on the inside while everything looked fine on the outside, this episode is made for you. Connect with me here :- Instagram :- https://insta.openinapp.co/ni4im Youtube :- https://yt.openinapp.co/9msxp Join Community :- https://ilept.mn.co Connect with Erin :- Instagram :- https://www.instagram.com/the.ericaw/ #Sobriety #QuitDrinking #AlcoholFree #SoberCurious #GrayAreaDrinking #MentalHealth #SelfImprovement #Recovery #HealthyHabits #Podcast
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How To Actually Be Productive With ADHD? (Part 2)
Apr 200:47:02Tap to summarizePart 2 with Karla is here and this one goes deep. We pick up right where we left off and this time we're getting into the real day to day stuff. What it actually looks like to live with ADHD in recovery every single day? How do you build routines your brain will actually stick to and why are so many people still struggling even after they put the bottle down? This episode gets honest. It gets a little messy. And honestly that's kind of the point because that's exactly what living with ADHD feels like. If Part 1 was the wake up call, Part 2 is the game plan. What We Cover: Why ADHD and addiction are more connected than most people realize How alcohol damages dopamine and why sobriety alone doesn't fix the brain Why ADHD meds can be abused the same way alcohol is The calendar system that actually works for ADHD brains Time blindness, task paralysis, and how to finally work around them Cold showers, sunlight, and exercise as natural dopamine hits Morning routines, meal prep, and the small daily habits that add up Why accountability partners change everything and the stats to prove it How ADHD impacts relationships and communication more than people expect Plus a mention of the books ADHD Women In Relationships and ADHD Men In Relationships by Ivy Castillo If you've ever felt scattered, unproductive, or like your brain just won't cooperate no matter what you do... this one is for you. Drop a comment, share it with someone who needs it, and don't forget to like and subscribe. Connect with me here :- Instagram:- https://insta.openinapp.co/ni4im Youtube:- https://yt.openinapp.co/9msxp Join Community :- https://ilept.mn.co Connect with Ivy here :- https://www.ivycastillo.com/tr/2/13330042/12757166006/41079934/380572552dd4c7d264dcde54f7d5d0cc1f8dd8b92 https://www.ivycastillo.com/tr/2/13330042/12757166006/41079935/380572552dd4c7d264dcde54f7d5d0cc1f8dd8b92 https://www.ivycastillo.com/tr/2/13330042/12757166006/41079936/380572552dd4c7d264dcde54f7d5d0cc1f8dd8b92 #ADHDaddiction #Sobriety #Vyvanse #Ritalin #Adderall #ADHDProductivity #AddictionRecovery #ADHDAwareness #Dopamine #ADHDBrain #Sobriety#Recoverypodcast #Sobercommunity #ADHDTips #Naturaldopamine #ADHDCoach #ADHDAdults #ADHDrelationships #TimeBlindness #ADHDparalysis
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Can You Manage ADHD Without Medication?
Mar 2800:48:00Tap to summarizeEver wondered why so many people with ADHD end up drinking too much? Or why getting sober does not automatically fix your focus and productivity? This episode gets into all of it. In this episode, I sit down with Carla, an ADHD accountability partner based in Australia, for a raw and honest conversation about what it actually feels like to live with ADHD. We get into the real connection between ADHD and alcohol, why so many people with undiagnosed ADHD end up self medicating, and what dopamine actually has to do with all of it. We also dig into ADHD medication. What works, what does not, the difference between extended release and regular meds, why seeing a psychiatrist matters more than most people think and whether you can actually manage ADHD without medication if you put the right systems in place. If you have ever felt like you can perform at work but completely freeze when it comes to your own goals, this one is for you. 👍 If this resonated with you, please like this video, consider following the podcast and sharing your thoughts in the comments. 🔔 If you’re enjoying these real conversations around ADHD, sobriety and self-growth… feel free to follow the podcast and thanks so much for listening. Connect with me here :- Instagram:- https://insta.openinapp.co/ni4im Youtube:- https://yt.openinapp.co/9msxp Join Community :- https://ilept.mn.co Connect with Ivy here :- https://www.ivycastillo.com/tr/2/13330042/12757166006/41079934/380572552dd4c7d264dcde54f7d5d0cc1f8dd8b92 https://www.ivycastillo.com/tr/2/13330042/12757166006/41079935/380572552dd4c7d264dcde54f7d5d0cc1f8dd8b92 https://www.ivycastillo.com/tr/2/13330042/12757166006/41079936/380572552dd4c7d264dcde54f7d5d0cc1f8dd8b92 #ADHD #ADHDMedication #ADHDAndAlcohol #Adderall #Vyvanse #ADHDParalysis #SobrietyAndADHD #ExecutiveFunction #DopamineDisregulation #ADHDAwareness #MentalHealth #ADHDPodcast #SobrietyPodcast #RecoveryPodcast #ADHDTips #ManagingADHD #ADHDWithoutMedication #ExtendedRelease #ADHDCommunity #CappyHour
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