When Stubbornness Has You Stuck

Summary

Change Church Podcast Episode Title: When Stubbornness Has You Stuck
Host: Pastor Dharius Daniels
Release Date: May 26, 2025

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Introduction

In the episode "When Stubbornness Has You Stuck," Pastor Dharius Daniels delves deep into the biblical narrative of the two thieves crucified alongside Jesus, drawing lessons on stubbornness and self-sabotage. As the concluding sermon of the "Goaded All Year" series, this episode focuses on overcoming personal resistance to fully embrace God's intentions.

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Biblical Foundation: Luke 23:39-43

Pastor Daniels begins by reading from Luke 23:39-43, highlighting the interaction between Jesus and the two criminals crucified beside Him:

"Don't you fear God since you're under the same sentence? We are punished justly, for we're getting what our deeds deserve. But this man has done nothing wrong." (00:03:51)
"Jesus answered him, truly, I say to you today you will be with me in paradise." (00:04:11)

He emphasizes the often-overlooked response of the second thief, using it to explore the theme of stubbornness that can hinder one's spiritual progress.

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Stubbornness vs. Sinfulness

A key principle Pastor Daniels introduces is:

"Some of our self-sabotage is not always a result of our sinfulness. Sometimes it's a consequence of our stubbornness." (00:03:51)

He argues that obstacles in fulfilling God's purpose are not solely due to sin but often stem from a "stiff neck," an Old Testament term describing resistance and unwillingness to change.

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Scriptural Insights on Stubbornness

Pastor Daniels references Exodus 32:9, where God describes the Israelites as a "stiff-necked people," emphasizing their resistance despite witnessing God's miracles. This metaphor underscores the recurring biblical theme that stubbornness impedes divine intentions.

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Modern Application: Overcoming Resistance

The discussion transitions to contemporary life, urging listeners to identify areas where stubbornness holds them back. Pastor Daniels posits that:

"The obstacle to God accomplishing His intention in your life isn't always sin. Sometimes it's stubbornness disguised as independence." (00:04:24)

He challenges believers to shift their mindset from self-reliance to surrendering control, allowing God to guide necessary adjustments for growth.

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The Cross as a Symbol of Struggle and Purpose

Pastor Daniels elaborates on the crucifixion context, noting that Jesus was crucified alongside two other men. He uses this trio to illustrate different responses to suffering and divine purpose:

"Three men on three crosses. Jesus is in the middle." (00:07:55)

By comparing the two thieves' reactions, he highlights how stubbornness can lead to self-sabotage, while surrender opens the door to redemption.

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Shame and Redemption

Addressing the weaponization of shame, Pastor Daniels warns:

"Shame is a weapon of warfare. It is insane." (00:13:06)

He encourages believers to embrace God's redemptive nature, which transforms embarrassment and shame into tools for liberation from societal opinions and personal insecurities.

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Purpose in Suffering

A significant portion of the sermon focuses on finding purpose in personal suffering. Pastor Daniels suggests that:

"Maybe the cross is actually a symbol of inconvenience." (00:20:38)

He posits that suffering positions individuals to minister to others in similar pain, fostering a sense of community and mutual support rooted in shared experiences.

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Five Practical Takeaways

Towards the end of the episode, Pastor Daniels outlines five actionable points to combat stubbornness and prevent self-sabotage:

1. Stubbornness Contributes to Self-Sabotage:
   Refusal to adapt or change strategies leads to missed opportunities.

   "Some people's open mouths are what keep closing doors." (00:24:25)

2. Recognize Personal Faults:
   Ownership of one's actions is crucial for personal growth and avoiding stagnation.

   "Because there's no ownership, there can be no adjustment." (00:25:51)

3. Rethink Your Strategy:
   Aligning methods with missions ensures flexibility and effectiveness.

   "Stubbornness won't let you rethink your strategy." (00:27:02)

4. Release Grudges:
   Unforgiveness stems from stubbornness and blocks entry into paradise.

   "Paradise is a grudge you refuse to bury." (00:25:51)

5. Repurpose Suffering:
   Transforming suffering into purposeful action prevents stagnation.

   "Stubbornness self-sabotages because it won't let us repurpose our suffering." (00:30:06)

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Personal Testimony and Legacy

In a heartfelt conclusion, Pastor Daniels shares his personal journey, emphasizing the importance of legacy over inheritance. He recounts the values instilled by his father, highlighting dedication, excellence, and prioritizing family. This testimony serves as a testament to overcoming personal crosses through faith and surrender.

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Closing Prayer and Call to Action

The episode concludes with a fervent prayer, urging listeners to embrace God's plan over personal desires. Pastor Daniels encourages everyone to:

"My answer is yes. Before you ask the question. My answer is yes." (00:35:25)

He calls for a collective commitment to prioritize divine calling over convenience, fostering a community dedicated to growth and mutual support.

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Key Quotes

• Pastor Daniels:

  "Some of our self-sabotage is not always a result of our sinfulness. Sometimes it's a consequence of our stubbornness." (00:03:51)

• Pastor Daniels:

  "Shame is a weapon of warfare. It is insane." (00:13:06)

• Pastor Daniels:

  "Stubbornness won't let you rethink your strategy." (00:27:02)

• Pastor Daniels:

  "My answer is yes. Before you ask the question. My answer is yes." (00:35:25)

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Conclusion

In "When Stubbornness Has You Stuck," Pastor Dharius Daniels offers a profound exploration of how resistance and stubbornness can impede spiritual and personal growth. By examining biblical narratives and applying them to modern life, he provides listeners with actionable insights to overcome self-sabotage and fully embrace God's intended path. This episode serves as both a spiritual guide and a motivational call to surrender personal control, fostering a deeper connection with divine purpose.

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Transcript

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Something significant there. All right, well, I'm in this series called Goaded All Year and where I am arguing that Jesus is more than a redeemer who simply wants to get you to heaven. He's a rabbi who teaches you how to live on earth. And so because he's the greatest of all time, we're saying the goat Jesus is a lamb. And the lamb is teaching us, has been teaching us all month how to circumvent self sabotage. So I'm not done with goaded. But this sermon will be the concluding sermon in this volume two, focusing on self sabotage. And so I want to read a few verses in Luke chapter number 23, beginning at verse number 39. You got time for a word today? I say, you got time for a word today, right? Luke 23:39 says, One of the criminals who hung there hurled insults at him. Aren't you the Messiah? Save yourself and us. But the other criminal rebuked him. Don't you fear God since you're under the same sentence? We are punished justly, for we're getting what our deeds deserve. But this man has done nothing wrong. Then he said, jesus, remember me when you come into your kingdom. Jesus answered him, truly, I say to you today you will be with me in paradise. I want to stop the reading of scripture there. Typically, when this text is taught, the focus is on the thief on the cross that acts to be with Jesus in paradise. Today I want us to pay attention to the other thief on the cross because he's got something to teach us as well. And so I want to use him to teach us something today that's captured in this subject. When stubbornness has you stuck. I got that response at the other two services. When stubbornness has you stuck, clap your hands if you're ready for a word from God. This passage in Luke 23 introduces a powerful principle that can be captured in the following phrase. I'm going to see if I can get three Amens right here. Some of our self sabotage is not always a result of our sinfulness. Sometimes it's a consequence of our stubbornness. In other words, we can end up stuck in seasons we don't have to be in, not because of recklessness, but because of resistance. The issue that contributes to immobility and under optimization for many individuals isn't just that they are evil, it is they are uncultureable. I'm simply using this introduction as an opportunity to suggest, family, that the obstacle to God accomplishing His intention in your life isn't always sin. Sometimes it's stubbornness disguised as independence. And we see examples of this all throughout Scripture. As a matter of fact, it is God who who regularly and repeatedly attributes this issue to being the Achilles heel for his people in the Old Testament. His people that he wanted to bring out of Egypt into Canaan, out of a land of not enough, into a land that was agriculturally rich, flowing with milk and honey. A metaphor for the life that God has designed for us to live in in Christ. And God very often said to this people, your issue that keeps you stuck in a season you don't have to be in is that are. Here's the word stiff necked. He says it here in Exodus, chapter 32, verse number nine. He's speaking to Moses and says, I.

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Have seen these people.

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They are a stiff necked people. What is a stiff necked people? What did God mean when he said stiff neck?

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It sounds shady to me. Like what? I don't even know what that mean. I don't want to be that. What does he mean?

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He's using an agricultural metaphor. My God, referring to imagery. He's using imagery of an ox or a donkey that refuses to turn their.

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Neck in response to the master pulling on reins.

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Did you hear what I just said?

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He's.

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He's using an agricultural metaphor, referring to an ox or a donkey who refuses to turn their neck when the master is pulling on their reins. So it speaks to one who refuses to turn, who refuses to shift, who refuses to yield. It is an individual who is uncoachable and unteachable, and they are stuck not because they lack ability, but because they're.

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Unwilling to make adjustments.

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And what if I told you you.

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Are one adjustment away for something that.

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You'Ve been praying for?

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What if it's possible that you are adjustment away for something you've been believing for?

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What if it's possible that the elevation.

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That you want is on the other side of an adjustment you don't want.

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To make, and the enemy keeps us.

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Stuck by keeping our neck stiff so.

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We are unwilling to move when the.

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Cloud moves and shift when God says shift.

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But I want to know, am I.

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Talking to anybody at the 1215, 1230 who are in a season of your life where you have come to the conclusion and the consensus with yourself, I have nothing else to prove. I am not trying to be right in this season. I want to win. Let me go to this side. I said I am not trying to be right in this season. I want to win. So if the way that I am working isn't working, let me know so I can shift. If who I'm working with isn't working, let me know so I can shift. If where I'm working isn't working, let me know so I can shift. And if you'll shift, God will shift it, too. Hallelujah. I said if you will shift, God will shift it, too. If you sense a shift getting ready to take place in your Life, take about 18 seconds and thank him for a shift.

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Stubbornness, stiff neckness.

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And what we see here in the.

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Old Testament isn't an isolated issue. It's an issue that shows up repeatedly all throughout Scripture. And it shows up all the way at the foot of the cross. Because stiff neckness doesn't always look like open rebellion. Sometimes it's quiet resistance. Sometimes stiff neckness isn't. Watch. This isn't refusing. Excuse me. Sometimes stiff neckness isn't saying no to God. Sometimes it's just refusing to say yes. Sometimes stubbornness isn't your answer. It's your silence. And in Luke Chapter number 23, we find two men that are a picture of what I'm attempting to proclaim. We find two men in the same situation on the same day hanging on the same cross.

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But they have two different responses to the same cross.

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Pastor, what do you mean contextually? Here's what's happening. Jesus, watch this is hanging on a cross. We know this. But he is not on the cross by himself.

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Did you know that when Jesus was crucified, it was not an isolated crucifixion. It was three crosses? Three men on three crosses. Jesus is in the middle. Three men on three crosses. Jesus IS in the middle. Three men on 3 crosses. And Jesus is in the middle.

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One more time.

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Three men on three crosses. Jesus is in the middle. Two of them deserve to be there. I'm in the text because the thief on the cross said we deserve to be here. One of them doesn't.

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And isn't that just like life? I'm gonna see if I can find some honest people here. I said, isn't that just like life? One more time. Isn't that just like life? Well, you find yourself in situations where.

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You'Re not comparing, but you're assessing. I'm not comparing, but I am assessing. I know why they here. Y' all too quiet in this service for me. I'm not judging. I'm just assessing. I can see what they did to get here, but why am I here?

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I can see why they are in this place, but why, God? Why am I in this place? I'm too smart to be in this place.

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I'm too gifted to be in this place. I'm too wise to be in this place. I'm too anointed to be in this place. I'm not saying I'm better than here, but I definitely don't belong here.

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And maybe God would agree, maybe you don't belong on this cross. But what God might say is, keep that same energy when I put you in the castle. Cuz you don't belong there either.

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So God can't be right when he puts you in the castle. But then he's wrong when he puts you on the cross. There's some adversity you dealt with you didn't deserve. And there's also some opportunities you got that you didn't deserve. And if you deserve every door you walk through, be quiet. If you deserve every opportunity he gave you, be quiet. But if you know he looked beyond your faults and met you at the point of your need, keep that same energy.

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Now here's the issue with crucifixion. I want you to understand, here's the issue with crucifixion. Crucifixion was Roman capital punishment. Make sense? Roman capital punishment. So American capital punishment would be lethal injection or the electric chair. Crucifixion was Roman capital punishment. So when we wear a cross, I don't have time.

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But whenever you wear a cross, you're wearing a testimony of how God is able to redeem and repurpose a thing.

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Every time you put a cross on.

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Your cross is testifying that the enemy wanted to use it one way, but God put his hand on it and turned it around. And now when I look at the cross, I don't think electric chair, I think, what can wash away my sin? Nothing but the blood of Jesus.

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He is experiencing Roman capital punishment because the Jewish religious leaders charged him with blasphemy. Because they said you, said you God. But they could not perform an execution under Roman occupation. So they had to collude with civil authorities to change the charge into treason. Because Jesus claimed to be king. So he's falsely accused, wrongly convicted and unfairly sentenced to capital punishment. And here is what made crucifixion so unique in Rome. Tario.

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Their goal was ultimately listen to this.

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Execution, but it was also humiliation. They'd strip you, they beat you, they'd mock you. And they do it publicly to send a message that this is what happens when you mess with wrong. It's one thing to suffer, but it's another thing to Be embarrassed while you suffering.

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I'm trying to find the real believers in here today. Come on here. I said it's one thing to suffer, but in the suffering exacerbated when you embarrass on top of something. It's one thing for me to suffer, and I know it's another thing for me to be suffering and other people. My Y' all not talking. My trouble is somebody else's teeth. No, no, no, no, no. The issue is exacerbated.

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When it's embarrassed because that's what the enemy wants to do. He wants to embarrass you. This is why shame is a weapon of warfare. It is insane.

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Satan's arsenal. He wants to use shame to debilitate you, shame to discourage you, shame to detour you. But God is redemptive not just in his actions. He's redemptive in his nature, which means he can't help but redeem. He can't help but repurpose. It's in his nature to put his hand on a thing and say, devil, you meant to use it this way, and I'm going to use it another. So the enemy wants to use embarrassment to destroy you, but God will use embarrassment to deliver you. Come on here. I know we talk about deliverance from issues, but God wants to deliver some of us from. Through embarrassment, not from embarrassment, through embarrassment. He may not have sent the embarrassment, but he'll use the embarrassment as an instrument to deliver you from what? The opinions of people who are not critical to your destiny. Hallelujah. Once you live through a season of embarrassment and you see what people thought of you, didn't put any more food on your table. It did not take care of your kids. It did not make you sleep better at night. You get free from the prison of people's opinions. So God use their talking to let you know they're talking. Can't curse what God. Y' all better come get me today. They're talking. Cannot curse what God has blessed when God. What God has blessed, no man can curse.

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It's quiet in this section right here.

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I need to hear amen from somebody that's thanking God. He's delivering you from the opinions of people who are not critical to your destiny. Jesus is on the cross.

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We have to go in the middle of two thieves.

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Listen to this.

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He's on the cross in the middle of two thieves. Listen to this. Because maybe God is at work. When we find ourselves in the middle of something that doesn't make sense. Maybe God uses your pain to put you into proximity with other people who are part of your purpose. Maybe he allows you and I to get on a cross because you getting on your cross actually puts you in the proximity to somebody else that's on theirs. And your assignment is to minister in your misery.

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So maybe God says the reason I.

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Let you get on the cross is.

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Because you being on the cross is going to put you in the proximity to somebody I've assigned for you to help them get off theirs. Maybe. Maybe God meant what he said when.

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He said your life is not your own.

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Maybe everything you go through isn't about you. Gosh, maybe some crosses we find ourselves on are crosses that put us into.

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Proximity to other people.

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And it's really hard to help somebody on a cross if you don't know what it means feels like to hang on one. But when you have hung on one, you can look at them and say, I know what you're going through and I know what you're feeling. But the same God that is keeping me is the God that can keep you. I got Bible.

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Joseph, you didn't deserve to be in that prison.

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But you don't meet the butler and.

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The baker if you're not.

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Am I in the book?

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I got another. Paul, Silas, you were unfairly put in a Philippian jail. But maybe you weren't just there for you. Maybe I knew I had built enough spiritual perspective in you that the prison wouldn't suffocate your praise.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

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Maybe. Paul and Silas, you were actually part of a rare number of people I could trust with prison ministry. Because when some people get in prison, they stop doing ministry.

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When some people get in pain, they stop doing ministry. When some people go through a hard time, they stop doing ministry. When some people need help, they become so obsessed with the help they need, they are no longer aware of their assignment to help other people in the time of need. And the enemy wants us so inundated with thoughts of our own issues that we fail to realize that maybe God wants to use us on our cross to help somebody else on theirs. And at midnight, Paul and Silas prayed.

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And sang praises unto God and the prisoners heard them. And suddenly there was a great earthquake. So that the foundations of the prison were shaken.

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And immediately not just Paul and Silas door. But the text says all the doors were open and everybody's bands got loose. Maybe God put you in prison because somebody else needed a prison break and because y' all not talking to me. And your activity in prison gives them an activity, access to a Breakthrough they wouldn't get if you didn't bring it. I got to go. Cause some of us are waiting on God to bring a breakthrough to us. Not realizing God wants to use you to bring a breakthrough to somebody else. And I need somebody that's committed to your calling to just shout. Breakthrough is here. When I walked in the office, breakthrough walked in. When I walked in the room, breakthrough walked in. Because I'm not just committed to convenience.

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I'm committed to my calling. You got to help while hurting. I'm hurting right now. Right now. Because maybe Dontaro. Maybe what God is after is not just your convenience. Maybe the cross is actually a symbol of inconvenience. You have two men on the same cross. And they respond differently to the same cross. So maybe the problem is not your cross. Somebody winning with that cross.

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Somebody going to paradise with that cross. That same Gosh. That same cross. Come on. That same hand you say you being dealt. Somebody is winning with that cross. Maybe it's not the cross.

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Maybe God's trying to use the cross to show you a mirror. As a mirror to show you the cross, not the problem. Two men. Same cross, different response. Let me make this loop. We going home. Here it is. Who barbecuing? I'm pulling up. Who got. Okay. All right. Here it is. Watch this. Two men are on the cross. One goes to paradise, one doesn't. And both are equally sinful. I'm in the text. Doesn't the man in the text say, we have done deeds to be here? So one goes to paradise, one doesn't. And they both equally sinful. But one stubborn. And this stubbornness won't allow him to submit to God's way of dealing with his sin. So his stubbornness, not the cross, is actually what sabotaged him. Because somebody else on the same cross, they go to paradise. So it's his stubbornness, not the cross, that causes him to self sabotage. Who in your life do you know would be at a different place if they were not committed to their way? We done? I just want to show you a few things. I'm practical. I got a minute left. Can I just run through five things? Okay, here it is. Here it is. Here's what I want you to see. I want you to see how stubbornness. I see this shows up in the text as a way to influence us to self sabotage. So here's the first thing I see in the text. Stubbornness contributes to self sabotage. Watch this. This is interesting. Because stubbornness won't let you and I reframe Our speech. See in the text, this man, Notice the way he spoke on the cross. Aren't you the Messiah? Save yourself and us. He's talking at Jesus, not to Jesus. He's complaining, not confessing. And it's no surprise that he didn't properly manage his life because he's not properly managing his word. And some people's open mouths are what keep closing doors.

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How many blessings have people taught themselves? Themselves out of how many opportunities have people talked themselves out of? How many relationships have been ruined because people didn't know how to reframe their speech?

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Here's it. Because stubbornness makes an idol out of who you've been. And it shows up in language like, this is who I am, because people are confusing who you are with how you've been. All right, number two. Y' all tired? Here it is. Number two. Here it is. Number two. Stubbornness won't allow us. Uh oh. To recognize our stuff. See, there are two thieves on the cross, and only one exercises ownership because you can't improve what you won't own. And so the stubborn thief can't make adjustments because their pride won't let them own responsibility.

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Gosh. You see, stubbornness isn't just a problem, it's an expression of other problems. So pride, fear, control, selfishness are all roots that produce the fruit of stubbornness and self sabotage. And some people stay stuck because their stubbornness won't let them recognize that their stuff.

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So just like Adam and Eve in the garden, God goes to Adam and say, adam, all right, let's be accountable here. He say, the woman you gave me. Then God go to Eve, she say, the serpent deceived me. So nobody takes ownership. So because there's no ownership, there can be no adjustment. And when you're unwilling to make adjustment, God sets boundaries. So the eviction out of Eden was God setting a boundary. And the angels with the flaming swords not allowing them to get back in is God's way of saying, listen, I'm not done with you. But I could have got to put a boundary between me and you because this current version of you, not safe for either. You won't own your stuff. Number three. Now, if you go to. I know some of you, we create these sermon supplements every week. So it's a devotional, it's small group questions, it's personal reflection questions. So on your sermon supplements this week, if you go to the app or lifechange.org you're going to see four points. But on my way to church today, I got a text Message from heaven.

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And I got five.

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And the supplements were already done.

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But y' all gonna get these five today.

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Alright? So here's four. Here's three. I'm sorry. Three. Rethink your strategy. Stubbornness won't let you rethink your strategy. This stubborn thief had a strategy, it just wasn't a surrendered one. His approach to the moment was simple. Mock the Messiah, demand deliverance and avoid ownership. He's a man that's probably used to manipulating his way into what he wants. I'm dantario. And all manipulation is. Is a warped desire to control the uncontrollable. And sometimes there needs to be a shift in a strategy because just because it's worked in the past doesn't mean it's. But people who suffer from stubbornness, they date the mission and marry the method when you should marry the mission and date the method. Number four. Stubborn won't let us watch this release our grudges. One of the most overlooked aspects of this crucifixion scene is that the one thief is dying. But he's still petty. He's bleeding, but he's still bitter. He's on a cross and still holding a grudge. He's moving, mocking Jesus while gasping for air. And that's what stubbornness will do. It'll make you waste your last breath on bitterness. Because unforgiveness isn't always a result of ignorance. Sometimes unforgiveness is a result of stubbornness. And what grudge is your pride keeping alive? Because sometimes the only thing standing between you and paradise. Paradise is a grudge you refuse to bury. Then number five. Stubbornness. Self sabotages because it won't let us repurpose our suffering. Both men are suffering on a cross, right? I said both men are suffering on a cross, right? One leverages his suffering into a better future. The other one didn't. Can I say something to you? Say. Can I say something to you? God wants to use your suffering, but you decide if your suffering gets used.

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To. To tell.

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To teach that suffering itself changes people is to teach something that's inconsistent with scripture. Jonah's in the belly of the whale three days. Did he suffer? Did he change? No. If you stop reading that chapter three, you'll think he changed. But the book of Jonah doesn't end in chapter three. The book of Jonah ends in chapter four. And in chapter four, Jonah is so mad that God gave grace to Nineveh that Jonah sits under a tree and he's pouting, upset even. Ask God to take his life. You would think out of all those days in the well he would have changed. But the change lasted as long as his memory. And some people stay changed as long as they remember what the whale feels like.

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And then as soon as they forget what the whale feels like, they revert back to the same behavior. Because suffering doesn't change you. You decide.

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If you will allow God to use the suffering to change you. I refuse to cry for nothing. I refuse to hurt like this for nothing. I refuse to go through and not grow through God. If I'm a suffer, I need you to pull me into paradise. When this suffering is over and I'm done, I'mma pray over you. And I want you to receive this prayer. Because all none of us are the none of us are Jesus. So just in case we wondering in the text none of us are Jesus. We either the thief that's stubborn. Are we the one that surrenders? And I want to be the one that surrenders because maybe God. God meant what he said when he said your life is not your own. Maybe God's priority is actually not your convenience. Maybe it is your calling. And I came with an attitude today because I believe the Holy Ghost is after something. He's after a yes. I'm getting ready to pray. Nobody moving. Listen to me, graduates. I want you to have your dreams. I want you to have your plans. But I just want you to write them in pencil. Because at the master you need to be with to shift. I'm here today because my dream is in the tomb. This is my calling. It was not my dream. My dream was a courtroom. My dream was to live a life free from the bubble of religious expectation. My father was a pastor. I grew up in this. I didn't want this. You always right. You're always wrong. Right in some people's eyes, wrong. And some people I didn't want the bubble. Watching what you wear, watching where you go. Watching what you post. Me and my sister. My dad was a bi vocational pastor. He was a welder during the day and a pastor like the church couldn't. It couldn't even support him. That's why I get my hustle from. That's why I got business. That's why I get my. My dad did because he was called to. He's. My dad sold insurance and worked on how he did whatever he had to do. And I remember like. And we still struggle in. My dad taught me something. He taught me the difference between legacy and inheritance. He gave me legacy so I can create inheritance. Inheritance is what you leave for them, legacy is what you put in them. So he put legacy in me. Say, son, I can't give you inheritance, but I can give you legacy.

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I can put what it means to.

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Be a Daniels on the inside of you.

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I can put what it means to.

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Prioritize your family on the inside of you.

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I can put what it means to look a man in his eye when.

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You shake his hands. Excellence.

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I can teach you to do your want to do's before your got to do's before you do your want to do's. And if you'll do your got to do's before you do your want to do's, you'll always be able to do your want to do's. And some people can never do their want to do's because they do their want to do's before they do they got to do's.

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Gave me legacy so I can give my kids legacy and inheritance. But man, he would get mocked. He would have stuff the church not even responsible for. They would have something to say. I didn't want that. And even to this day, if God gave me an option, I wouldn't choose it. What am I telling you? I'm telling you life, not yours. I'm telling you I didn't just put that dream in the tomb and walk away. And it never called my name. I have to fight the temptation of what if. Regularly. Yes. That's a cross. That is trust. That's faith. That's saying you know best. Because what I thought would have been my dream. Maybe you saved me from a nightmare. God, you know what I needed to do. And you put me in this position because not only is it best for the people I called to serve, it's best for me too. I put a dream in the ground. My answer is yes. Before you ask the question. My answer is yes. I don't get to live the life I want. I live the life you chose for me. That is the only way this works. He's coming for a yes.