Transcript
A (0:12)
Hi everyone. Welcome to our show. Chief Change Officer. I'm Vince Chen, your ambitious human host. Our show is a modernist humility for change. Progressives in organizational and human transformation from around the world. Today's guest is Dr. Reza Lewis, Emergency medicine physician, educator and co author of the book titled Micro Skills. She's also our first guest in medicine. Dr. Lewis knew early on she didn't want to be boxed in by gender roles. She chose a specialty where she could think fast, move freely and lead in real time. Over the past 25 years, she's worked in trauma base, taught ultrasound across the world and trained others to stay calm when the room is anything but. In this two part series, we talk about what drew her to emergency medicine. How confidence is built through preventing and preparation and how more practiced behaviors, I.e. micro skills, can shift. How we show up under pressure in life and in career. Let's get into it. Good morning, Dr. Lewis. Welcome to my show. Welcome to Chief Change Officer. You are the first medical doctor I host on my show. Thanks for joining me.
B (2:26)
Good morning. It is wonderful to be with you and what an honor that I am the first medical doctor to join the show.
A (2:35)
I told you before, becoming a doctor was my childhood dream. I didn't pursue it in the end, but I've always had deep respect for medical professionals. Growing up, I had health issues and spent time in a hospital. So doctors really made a difference in my life. That's why it's such an honor to have you here today. And a big thank you to Chris Hare, connecting us. Now you've got this fantastic book called Micro Skills, which I know isn't written just for doctors. We'll get into that soon. But first, let's start with your personal story. Give us an overview of your journey and then I'll dive into some key turning points in your life and career. Why medicine? What drew you to that path in the first place?
B (3:40)
Thanks for this question. And I've thought about this, like, how do we put together our narrative? Like, how do we become who we become? And I believe I'm one of those people that it's always been in me. It's a calling. Medicine has been a calling. And the reason I share that is some people, they're told you should become a doctor or they have a parent who's a doctor. And in my case, nobody in my family is a physician. And I grew up in a small town in the smallest state in the United States, so in Rhode island. And I went to the public high school and I would say that My parents, when they decided their parenting style with my brother, my sister and myself, they had very traditional values and roles and expectations. They definitely had this line of, boys do this, and boys are expected to do that when they grow up. And in contrast, girls do this, girls look like this. And girls have different societal expectations and what they may do professionally. And those sort of divisions and those expectations really rub me the wrong way. And I think from childhood, from early childhood, I saw the differences and I didn't like it. And so I think I've been on a journey to prove that I want to do and become the individual that I want to become. And it has nothing to do with gender roles. And there's one story that I tell that kind of. I didn't even know why it rubbed me the wrong way. But every night we would sit down as a family for dinner at 6pm dinner would finish and my father would say, okay, girls, help your mother clear the table. And I would always say, why do you say girls? Like, why do we have to help mom clear the table? How about everybody clears their own dish? And then he would look at me and say, risa, help your mother clear the table. And then I would say, what about him? What does he do? Meaning my brother? And he said, he takes out the garbage. And I actually said, I prefer to take all the garbage. I'll take out the garbage and he can do the dishes. And it sounds like, so bizarre, but I ended up reading a book during my early career that completely explained why this bothered me so much. And it was called Women Don't Ask Negotiation and the Gender Divide. And they actually used almost that exact example about, again, this is the household I grew up in. These, quote, traditional values. I realized everybody's household was different. They put out the explanation that girls are given these chores, these roles in the house that promote dependence rather than independence. Also, they're often like the monotonous everyday things that need to get done in the household. They're not these isolated events or once a week events. There's two or three times a day events. And they're much less likely to get, for example, monetarily rewarded. You might not get an allowance, but say you take all the garbage or say you actually mow lawns and you can go to the different neighbors in the street and ask them if you can mow their lawn and get paid. Same thing with shoveling snow. And I literally always wanted to do those types of activities as opposed to the ones in the house. One sort of final little piece to this Story at the American Thanksgiving. Again, it was just in me. The meals would end, the main meal, and there was a break between the main meal and then coffee, dessert. And all the women would get up and clear and all the men would sit and relax and talk. And I would sit and intentionally, purposely. And my father would look at me and he'd say, risa. And I'd say, dad. And he'd say, risa. And I'd say, dad. And said, you going to get up and help clear? And I said, no, I want to sit here and relax and let my meal digest and enjoy just the way you are. Again, I just didn't like this division. And it was really because I really wanted equal access, equal opportunity and equal support and encouragement to be and pursue the things that I wanted to pursue and be as an adult, as a professional, and in my personal life as well.
