After betrayal, one of the most painful questions couples face is: Do we stay… or do we leave?

In this episode, we explore why that question feels so urgent after betrayal—and why clarity rarely comes through forcing a decision. This episode is for couples navigating the messy middle—where nothing is fully resolved yet, but healing is still possible.

Staying is not a lifetime contract. Leaving is not always immediate clarity. Discernment is a process, not a deadline.

Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing

If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.

Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:

Join me at a Retreat or Intensive

If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners.

Email Hali⁠ to join the⁠⁠⁠ Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth.

Help Her Heal Intensive — a powerful, immersive 4-day men’s intensive — is designed for men who are ready to move beyond and truly learn how to support their partner’s healing after betrayal. Held in a confidential environment in Spanish Fork, Utah, this experiential program blends trauma-informed workshops, real-life practice, and expert coaching to help participants cultivate empathy, emotional capacity, and integrity in their relationships. This intensive offers experiential learning, feedback, and concrete strategies to grow personally and relationally.

Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community.

The ⁠Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive⁠ takes place August 25-28 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust.

Free Resources & Downloads

Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal.

👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal

👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal

Upcoming Course: Reclaiming You After Betrayal

If you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.

This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system.

👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!

Listen to My Other Podcast

If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma.

This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength.

👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal

Join My Newsletter

Stay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising Weekly

Connect With Me Between Episodes

Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing

👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick

👉 Website: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com

#153 Staying or Leaving After Betrayal — Discernment for Both Partners