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Welcome to another episode of Christ with Coffee on Ice. I am your host, Ali Yost. It is a joy and honor to be here with you guys today. We are having our very first pumpkin spice latte of the season today. So we do have our coffee on ice, and it's exciting because it's pumpkin spice. Yeah. Thank you, Lord, for a pumpkin spice latte. I'm not ashamed to admit that that. That is something that I have been so looking forward to in this season of coming up into the fall. And we also have our Christ today. We have our word of God. So today is going to be a really interesting podcast for me, considering I. And this isn't new for you guys. I mean, this is just kind of how it goes sometimes. I don't always know exactly what we're gonna talk about, but I will say that I woke up today with a bit of a revelation from the Lord that I think would be really fun to just break down and talk more with you guys and just, I guess, process with y' all out loud. I think a lot of times maybe I come on this podcast, and as we gain listeners and this podcast gains traction, I think that a lot of times there's a temptation for me to really feel the pressure of that and feel like I need to show up and basically be a. A preacher or a pastor and. And deliver, like, a crazy sermon. And, you know, some of the episodes might be giving that sometimes where it feels like there's a very specific message and maybe it could feel like A sermon. But, like, I'm not a pastor, you know, I'm just a girl who fell in love with Jesus and is here to just share what she knows from the short time that I've been walking with him. And so I think today it'd be really cool to just. Maybe I'm even preaching to myself. Like, I just want it to be a conversation and a place of where I'm just sharing, maybe just to testimony, you know, and. And what I believe the Lord has walked me through when it comes to this topic, which is healing, you know, Jesus. A huge part of who he is and what he does is he heals. And so, yeah, I. I had this revelation this morning. I woke up and this. This really. It just comes from obviously my own experience. And then, you know, seeing our brokenness, that is still very much a thing in the church. You know, it's like, obviously I had so much brokenness from the world, but that. I just think that that's something, whether you're in the church or, you know, if you're a believer or not, that hurt and brokenness and trauma and trauma responses and. And pain and the things that are. It's just life, you know, and it's something that we all carry. Like, every single human being has their brokenness and has their trauma and. And their things that they're carrying and the burdens. And I think a lot of times that can even lead to carrying shame on top of that. And so I woke up with this feeling of, like, how important it is to invite God into our hearts and really open that door of like, okay, God, I want your healing powers in my life. I want you to heal parts of my heart that I either know are broken or things that I don't know are there. And I think that there's just a really sad reality to. To resisting that healing. And maybe sometimes we know that we're doing it, maybe sometimes we don't know that we're doing it. A very real thing that I felt the Lord show me this morning was that if we resist healing from him, it doesn't just affect us, right? Because, I mean, if we're resisting healing, then that means we're choosing to carry a bondage and chains that we don't need to carry, which is exhausting and it isn't true freedom in Christ. You know, like freedom in Christ is also knowing that, like, every burden, every gunky, gross thing that could be living inside of us, we get to surrender that to the feet of Jesus and receive his healing. And his compassion and his grace and his love, right? Those are the very fruits of who he is that truly heals us from the inside out. It's his blood. It's him, right? So not only are we robbing ourselves from being able to receive that kind of freedom from him, if we're like, no, we don't. We don't want to look at those things. We don't want to touch those things. We don't want to acknowledge the brokenness. We just want to push it down. We want to suppress it. We want to avoid it. We're robbing ourselves of that freedom. But also, there is something so real about choosing not to heal that really does affect everything around you in your life. You know, I've seen so many times, even in my own life, as I'm tested in, you know, relationships, and sometimes the people closest to you and the people that you love the most, you actually end up hurting because you've resisted that healing, you know, and so I think healing does come down to a choice with God where he's never going to force his hand on us. You know, we. We hear that all the time, and we've even said those things here on the podcast, but he's never going to force his healing. He's never going to force himself onto us. I think healing is also a daily choice where we're like, okay, God, I want you to examine my heart and reveal to me the things that might be really painful to see, you know, because like I said, it's like, we could have brokenness, that we're like, oh, yeah, no, I know I have issues in this department of my life, or I know I have trauma, you know, in this department of my life, we could probably know about some brokenness, but there's also a lot of brokenness. Even from my own experience, I'm like, oh, wow, God, I did not know that that was in me. You know, my biggest prayer, and I hope that it's the biggest prayer of a lot of ours, is like, I want to be more like you, Lord Jesus. Make me more like you. Like, today. I want today to be another opportunity to reflect more like you and walk more like you and be an example, like, create me more. I want to be made more into your image. I think a lot of times I've prayed that prayer thinking that, you know, it's going to be like, sunshine, rainbows, and butterflies, but then the Lord gives you something in your life. It could be a relationship, it could be a person. It could be a situation where maybe he's pruning you and he's. He's testing you, and he's showing you that that very prayer that you prayed was real. But sometimes there are real situations that he'll put us in that will bring up those things and you'll go, oh, this wasn't exactly what I meant. Like, this wasn't exactly what I thought. I think there's two things that I have learned most about what healing looks like with Jesus. Because there's a lot of things out there in the world that offer you healing. There's a common saying that says that time heals. And granted, I think just from life experience, time can definitely make things better. But I don't know if it actually fully heals. I've never experienced that. There's been nothing in this world that's been actually able to fully heal me and deliver me from true burdens and things that I've carried for probably a majority of my life or for many, many years. Nothing else has worked the same way as the healing power of God. And so a question that some of you guys might have right now is like, okay, well, what if I really want healing, but I don't know how to be healed by God in this area? Or maybe there's something that you really, really tried to receive healing in, but maybe you don't know the right way to go about it, or you're like, I don't know how. I feel like I've been focusing on this thing and I've been asking the Lord to heal me in this area, but I just. I haven't been able to get there. Two things that I've learned when it comes to healing with God is truly his presence alone. A lot of times for me, his presence alone has healed me. Meaning there have been so many times where the Holy Spirit has revealed to me things in my heart and has literally delivered me and been like, yes, we're not gonna. We're not gonna walk in this anymore. We're not gonna believe this lie anymore. And that was me just being in the glory of God. That. That was me, like, having no intentions or honestly, maybe I. I had no awareness that there was something in my heart that needed to be healed in that moment. And so just literally being in his presence healed me. I mean, we. We think back to all the healings that Jesus did when we read the Gospels and, and we read in the Bible, it was just the. The presence of Jesus, of him just touching someone or them, just grabbing on to the corner of his cloak and it healed them. I mean, it's, it really is just Jesus. It's his presence a lot of times has healed me. And so I've gone into moments being like, I just want to worship Him, I just want to spend time with Him, I just want to be with Him. And then I've received healing from just being with Him. It goes back to that scripture of like, seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all else will follow. I believe all else also has healing in that. So seeking for just be with him. Like, just seek Jesus wholeheartedly, just be in his presence, hang out with him, read His Word. And a lot of times just being in his presence actually is healing. It's like nothing else in this world. Because there is nothing else like Jesus. Like, he's it. He is the way, the truth, and the life for a reason. That's number one that I've learned in healing is like, how do I heal? Well, just be with Him, Just be in his presence. Just be in love with him, just have a relationship with him, be in a friendship with him, hang out with him, abide with Him, Love him and you will receive healing. Thanks for selling your car to Carvana. Here's your check. Whoa, when did I get here? What do you mean? I swear it was just moments ago that I accepted a great offer from Carvana online. I must have time traveled to the future. It was just moments ago. We do same day pickup. Here's your check for that great offer. It is the future. It's. It's the present. And just the convenience of Carvana. Sorry to blow your mind. It's all good. Happens all the time. Sell your car the convenient way to Carvana, pick up. Times may vary and fees may apply. Another way that I have learned how to heal is to be humble at the feet of Jesus, acknowledging that I am a broken person and that I'm probably not always going to navigate situations, relationships, life, the way that is perfect. And that's okay. I mean, that's because I need Jesus. We all need Jesus. We can't do life perfectly. If we could, we'd never need Him. And so the second thing that I've really learned in healing with Jesus is, is being so humble to admit that and say, I actually, really, really need you, Jesus. I really need you. And I need you to examine my heart. And that could be any type of thought process that we have. I mean, it could be pride, it could be anything. But also, I don't think that it pleases the Lord for us to come into agreement with things that are truly not for us and not actually a part of our identity or who we are. And so if there are past experiences and trauma and things that you have been taught through the world, or what people have spoken over you, or how people have treated you, or whatever that trauma looks like to you and for you is very real. But I think that doesn't please the Lord. I'm actually not happy. And I'm not satisfied with the fact that my child believes this about themselves or that they believe that they are supposed to be treated in a way, or they don't believe that they're worthy of X, Y, Z, like, whatever that looks like. That I don't believe that pleases God. That prayer of, like, anything that could be in my heart or anything that could be broken in me. God, that does not please you, Lord. I pray that you bring it out of me and you help me in that, and you heal me in that, and you show me in that. We said this on the episode with Lola Sheen when she came on and shared her testimony about how she was going to therapy and she had struggled with depression and some other anxieties and things like that. And she said that it helped, but it didn't actually bring her full healing. And so I say all these things, and I also want to acknowledge that, like, I. I do believe that there are resources that can help us with these things, you know, with healing and acknowledging the roots of things and how far deep things and hurt could go in us. I do think that there's serious use in professionals who know how to navigate those things. I will say, as a Christian, though, I think it would be important to have people like that in your corner if that's the route that you decide to go in, or if you have mentors in the church. But like, I would imagine it would be very important to make sure that the people who. Who are helping you through those moments also have the same core values and morals and beliefs as you. And so I think Christian counseling, things like that are really beautiful things. And I'm not against any of that. I am speaking from a version of myself right now who actually doesn't use any of those things. Not because I don't believe in it. I actually would love to one day. But I want to also testify and say that if you are not in a position to have those things, maybe you just don't have those kinds of resources near you or you don't have the money or the finances for it, because I think you Know, those things can really add up and become expensive, whatever that looks like. Okay. Or maybe you just don't. It's not the season for you to get into those things. Or maybe it's not for you. That's okay, too. But I am coming from somebody who has received healing from the Holy Spirit alone. And so I also think that it's important to mention that the Holy Spirit can speak to you and show you and counsel you through moments I've experienced. I've literally experienced that where God has quite literally counseled me through moments that I was not understanding. I was like, I don't know what's coming out of me right now, God. I don't know why I'm bawling my eyes out. I don't understand this, but it hurts really bad. And so I am going to need your help with this and understanding what is happening. And I think that that is quite biblical to believe that the Holy Spirit can be your counselor or your therapist in a moment where maybe if something is bubbling up and you're like, ooh, what is this? That's being rooted out of me. Because it says in Scripture that the Lord said that he was going to send an advocate for us, somebody to. To speak for us and to us. And so the Holy Spirit, the Holy Spirit, why we need to be utilizing the Holy Spirit. But, yeah, it. It is a choice of humility to sit at the feet of Jesus and admit, I, I cannot do any of this without you. And I. And I know I am a broken person and I need you, Jesus. And so I think being at a heart posture of humility in the sen. Like, being at a heart posture of, like, I am so dependent on you, God, in every aspect of my life, including healing, that I. I need you to examine my heart and to show me the things that need to be healed. And I think it also is a daily choice with God, too. So, yes, there's. There's a lot of, like, moments where, you know, you could just be in the presence of him and then you're being healed. But there have been also other experiences where I've had to choose and say, okay, God, where in my life do you want to refine me more? Where in my life is there opportunity for me to become more like you? And then saying, you are the only one that can reveal that to me. And so show me that, God. So it's not only a daily choice in being like, okay, I am submitted to you, Lord, and I need you to reveal to me the things that are in me that are places of opportunity to be healed. Right. But then also, it's been a daily choice for me, too, that after the Lord has revealed something in me, right where he's been like, ding, ding, ding. This. This is not a place that I want you to be operating in anymore. Or this is a lie that I need you to come out of agreement with and stay out of agreement with. So it's one thing to let God reveal it to you, and then it's another choice and kind of another battle in itself to choose to resist that. Because a lot of times, too, like, if we have been believing something and kind of operating in something for a long time, we kind of get into this place of, like, obviously we're kind of conditioned to it. You know, like, if your mind has been so used to thinking in a certain way, or if. If you have been so used to reacting in a certain way for a long time, it is a daily choice to be like, okay, I am choosing to do what, honestly, my flesh has always wanted to do and what I've. What I've always chosen to do. I am now going to kind of go against the grain in a way because God's shown me that that actually isn't the way I'm supposed to be living and being like, okay, I am going to resist and every day to not go down that same path. And it is a fight. Yeah. I mean, we could. We could let God reveal to us, but we still can be like, okay, and. And. And choose to continue to do those things. Something I wrote down this morning was, as Jesus brings up and reveals things that need healing, it is a daily choice to be healed. Jesus can reveal things in us that need to be healed, but it still is also a daily choice for us to be healed. Meaning there have been times that God has revealed something to me, and I've said, you're right, I don't like that. And then there's. There's an opportunity following, maybe the next day, the next week, whatever, where I could do that thing again. Let's use an example of, like, quick to anger or quick to assumptions. There will come opportunities where you could either choose the path that you've always been on, and sometimes it's like, we've been so conditioned. There's so much grace, y'. All. There, like, truly is so much grace. God has an unbelievable. In like, an infinite. He has an infinite amount of grace for us in these things. But we, in a lot of times can be so conditioned to a certain way of thinking. Or even just, like, how we operate, how we just move through life, you know, if. If you're used to living in a certain way, especially if you didn't ever see a problem in it, and now the Holy Spirit has revealed to you, hey, so this is a lie that you've been coming into agreement with, and I don't want you to act this way anymore. I don't want you to think this way. I don't want you to react this way anymore. Revealing it to you is one thing, but then moving forward, seeing that there's actually now there's going to be opportunities where you can kind of be tested and say, all right, am I going to choose the way that I've always done, or am I going to choose to go the other way of where Jesus is encouraging me to go? And sometimes we won't always crush it. We'll go right back into what we know. But then sometimes you will. And I think that if you are truly opening your heart to healing from Jesus, and you're like, no, I really want to get better in this place because I know it's gonna make me a better person. I know it's gonna give me more freedom. I know that I'm gonna be able to show up as a better friend, a better partner, a better mom, a better dad, a better son, daughter, whatever that looks like, a better boss. I'm open to this healing because I. I know the fruit that comes from it. If your heart is truly open to that kind of healing, you will see progress in yourself. You will. Like I said, you might fall a couple times and you might not crush it every single time. But the more that you walk in that healing with Jesus, you are going to see that thing start to slowly diminish out of your habitual patterns. Is that what I want to say? I don't know. But, like, you're going to notice how. Wait a minute. I actually. I'm not doing that thing anymore. There have been times where I know that, like, a past version of myself would have acted in a certain way, in a certain situation, and I handled it in a way that was, like, so wisdom from God. Like, I. I know I passed the test. I know that, like, what Jesus taught me, I wrote it down, applied it to my life. It's now wisdom and not just knowledge anymore. And there is no better feeling than being like, dang, God. Like, you really did that. But then also, there is, like, pride that you feel for yourself, where you're like, no, I let God heal me in that way I was willing to meet him to do the work and make the efforts to resist the ways that I've always been living, you know, and go down this path and, and there's so rewarding about that in itself too. When you turn around, you're like, no, I. Like I'm not that person anymore. Like I don't do those things anymore. The things that I honestly didn't even know were a problem until God revealed it to me. But then I let him walk me through it and like I don't do it anymore. And even that strength, like, only has to come from God. But yeah, it's the coolest thing when you start to see the results of allowing God into your heart and heal you in ways that maybe you you never knew you needed healing. Meet Natural Cycles, the only FDA cleared and CE marked birth control app that's 100% natural hormone free and side effect free. Here's how it works. 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Now another POV that I'd love to bring to the table here too is that I think something that and I've seen this in the church and you know, it is what it is. But sometimes I think that we can chase the healing more than we're actually just chasing Jesus. Meaning there have been times where I've just observed that there's parts of the church where we almost over spiritualize healing in the sense of like obviously acknowledging our brokenness. But now it's like that's all we're looking at is like I know I'm broken, I know I need healing, I need more healing. I'm still broken. And it's like we're just looking and chasing the healing versus like just chasing Jesus and then letting His Holy Spirit reveal those things or deliver us from that. And then the healing comes from that. Yeah, I've just seen environments where it's like, okay, what do I, what do I need healing? And now, okay, God, deliver me from this thing now, okay, next thing, next thing to be lifted up out of me and, and get it out God. There's a good heart posture with that. Obviously, like, the healing from Jesus is like the best thing ever. But I just fear that if we're a little too hyper focused on the fact that we are broken and we need healing, I actually feel like there's such a lack of peace in that mindset because it's just like, I'm going to be honest, guys, there will probably always be things for us to be healed from, delivered from. There will always be opportunity for Jesus to heal us because we will be broke and imperfect until we're, you know, on the other side. But, like, I can't imagine being in a state though, where we are just like, I need to be fixed Jesus. It's true. I mean, he's the only one that can. But let's not make that the center and focus. Let's just make him the focus also live. Let's just like, have fun with him sometimes. Listen, I know that there is still a lot of brokenness in me right now as I'm speaking. There have been things that God has delivered me from and has showed me and I'm so grateful for, and I am definitely a better person now than I was even a few months ago, a couple years ago. Hallelujah. I know that there's still stuff in me right now, but I'm also going to just, like, enjoy my life with Jesus. I'm going to just be with him and hang out with him. And I feel like that's just kind of a warning too. It's like, we don't, don't need to be so hyper focused on our brokenness. It really is just Jesus. It's just about him. It's just about being with him and all else will come. And so don't get too caught up on, like, the healing and the trauma and the brokenness because yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. That's all so real. But let's not, let's make sure we're not going down this, like, crazy path of, like, where that's all we're looking at is our brokenness. I think there's a healthy balance of being humble at his feet, acknowledging that there's brokenness and needing healing, but then also being like, but I'M trying to live, laugh, love with you, too, God, you know, and so there's always a balance of that. You know, we don't need to, like, ask God every morning, okay, God, what else needs to be fixed in me today? All right, God, I know I'm still broken, so get it out. It's a good prayer, and it's a good thing to want healing from Jesus, but I just feel like there's. There's always a scale. There's always a scale on a spectrum and scale of spectrum that we were talking about at the beginning of this episode is not acknowledging it at all and resisting healing and then watching everything in your life probably crumble and not go the way that you would prefer for it to go. And your relationships are unhealthy because you have all this gunk that you are literally resisting and want nothing to do. And then there's another side of the spectrum that's like, hyper spiritualizing, hyper fixated, obsessive. Oh, my gosh, I'm broken. I need to be fixed every second of the day. I believe that the Lord is a right here God, where he's somewhere just right, perfectly in the middle, happy balance, you know? But to speak back to, like, you know, healing in general, I want you to know, too, the thing is, is healing is not sunshine, rainbows, and butterflies. If you guys have experienced healing from Jesus, I actually think we kind of touched on this a little bit in an episode that I made months ago where we were talking about grieving, and I had shared with you guys that my. My cousin Kelly had passed away. And at that time, I was, like, really going through some serious grief that I had never faced in my life. Like, I never experienced that kind of grief or lost somebody that near and dear to my heart. And so that was, like, such a painful time for me. But I had shared on that episode that letting Jesus into my grief was, like, actually so painful. And looking back now, I'm like, oh, it was painful because he was healing me. And so anytime that there is an opportunity for Jesus to heal us, it hurts. It hurts so bad. I don't know, maybe a lot of us are thinking, oh, well, what do you mean? Like, it's Jesus. Like, he's the best. And it's not that he's, like, punching you in the face and, like, intentionally hurting you, but the healing process is painful because it's like putting disinfectant in a wound. There is a process of acknowledging it and letting him heal you in that. And it hurts. And so I think a lot of times, like, healing isn't even that tempting, if I'm going to be honest. Like healing with Jesus, especially because he gets it done. Let me tell you, he. If anyone's gonna get healing done, it is Jesus, because he does it the right way and he does it the way that the human soul needs it. And we were made for him. So, like, he's gonna do it the right way, but with that it hurts. And so it's not going to be tempting. Because the other part of it too is like, in healing means that you also are acknowledging that there is hurt in your heart and brokenness. And that is not a fun thing to look at. It's not a fun thing to look at if there are things that are in us that hurt, things that you didn't even know were there. And maybe you've ended up hurting people in your hurt. That is not a fun thing to look at at all. Actually. I think if it was up to all of us, we would just suppress it and hide it and push it way, way, way, way down and never look at it again. But the pain of healing is so worth it when you see the fruit. The pain of healing is so worth it when you see the way that your relationships are flourishing, the way that your decision making changes, the way that you may even observe in yourself that you're showing up as just like a better person for other people. The way that you don't feel heavy waking up in the mornings anymore, not having to carry those burdens and that bondage of past hurt and trauma, like you're gonna feel the difference. And so, yes, it's so painful. But the fruit of it all is what makes it worth it. And I can say that because I've experienced it where I'm like, wow, God, that was the most painful, pruning, refining season of my life. Hardest season of my life, actually, because my biggest prayer was like, make me more like you. And sometimes it's not always like the cutest route. Sometimes it's really, really painful. And so there have been plenty of times where I've been like, God, this is, this is actually the hardest season I've gone through. I have never been so emotionally drained. I've never been so physically exhausted from the emotional exhaustion. And it can take tolls on you. But I would do it over again because now I see what the Lord was actually doing in me and I'm like, oh, I love this version of Ali that you've created. I want more of it. Yeah, I just Encourage you guys in that. I encourage you in that kind of healing. And it really is as simple as inviting the Holy Spirit into your life and being like, all right, you know what? What do I know? God, help, help me. And yeah, it really can be just in the secret place, spending time with him. It can be through community, it can be through prayer. Wherever the Holy Spirit is, here he comes. He's going to heal you. And he can do it in a lot of different ways. Sometimes it's a bit mysterious, actually, where it can really be like a one and done thing, where you're like, oh my gosh, I don't struggle with that thing anymore. Or it's a little bit of a process because the Lord has a plan for that too. And maybe there's a little bit more refining and testing. I also think that one of the biggest ways to really receive healing too, especially if we're talking about trauma or like, things of our past, maybe the ways that people have treated us or things people have said to us or about us. I think a huge life hack to receiving healing from Jesus is choosing forgiveness. I've heard this a few times where, like, a lack of forgiveness and choosing to carry bitterness and resentment is actually like the biggest roadblock to any kind of deliverance or healing or just improvement, you know, in your soul and in your journey with Jesus. Like, if you are not willing to forgive and let things go, I don't know how you could ever heal. Because there are things that I have experiences with and things that have happened to me in my past where had I not decided to forgive that very person or that situation, or if I hadn't extended forgiveness and truly surrendered the thing to Jesus, ain't no way I'd be where I'm at in that area of my life now. You have to forgive. Forgiveness is a huge vehicle, in my opinion, to healing. This is just another perspective I'd like to share with you guys. I hope this episode has been helpful so far for you guys. Another perspective I'd like to share too is, I think closely related to forgiveness is also having a lot of compassion not only for yourself. Have so much compassion for yourself. Can I tell you that? Please have compassion for yourself. Forgiveness also applies to yourself too. Please forgive yourself. Like, if there are things that the Lord has revealed to you and you're like, ew, no shame, no shame. Compassion, have grace and forgiveness for yourself. You're just doing your best. If you're not blatantly like, going out of your way to hurt people, you know like, we all hurt. I don't know. Actually, maybe sometimes we do, but it all comes from such brokenness. What I'm saying is, like, be so kind to yourself and understand that you really are doing your best. Okay? You're doing your best. I think also understanding that a lot of times I believe we are hurt by people is because they are also hurt. I think people hurt people because they are also acting out of their own hurt. You know, you think back to, okay, this person did XYZ to me, and now I have all this trauma and baggage, and I can't see myself right because of it. This is just an example. But, like, I think having compassion, this could be a really challenging thing. But I know. I know it's the way of Jesus because this is the way that he has compassion for us before we ever even loved him back is having compassion for that person and saying, you know what? But I know that the only reason I got hurt by them in that way was because they were hurting in blank. And, like, let the Lord even minister to you about that. Like, what? The Holy Spirit is so freaking awesome. He can show you the root of where you came into agreement with that lie. He can show you the root of when that very thing started, and then he can show you the root of why that happened. Even in that person. It could go back to like, oh, okay, so I now see that that person was able to do that to me because they were treated in a. Or they were carrying this, or they were insecure, whatever. And then it literally, if you follow it back, you're gonna go all the way back to Adam and Eve where it all began. But it really is like, it just. Our sin and our brokenness trickles down back generations to generations to generations. And so it's really just like our brokenness. It's all of our brokenness, and it's our hurt that ends up hurting others. And God just wants to heal us in that. He wants to heal us in that. And I think that is another beautiful thing that comes from healing, is if we choose Jesus and we choose to let him heal us in these things, we can't physically pass on that hurt to anyone else anymore. There's a good chance that we will actually end up hurting other people less if we allow Jesus to heal us in the hurt that we're carrying in. Because then we're not. We're not. We're no longer operating in that hurt anymore and hurting the people that we love most because we've let them let the Lord come in and heal us in that very thing. So to stop that very thing that might have been car carried on from generation to generation, your family or whatever that looks like, let him in and let him heal that so that it doesn't go on any further. But yeah, I think it also takes a lot of wisdom to acknowledge that a lot of those things can just keep going back and back and back and back. And that person taught them that, and that person taught them that, and that person showed them that. Like, it really can go back so far. Okay. I just wanted to end the episode with this, so I. Okay, listen, I know I've. I've said, okay, this is my thing. I know that I've said some things about Chat gbt and I will say this is another thing where I think balance and discernment are important. Okay. I don't think we need to be going to Chat as our Holy Spirit. I think that it is a tool for us to absolutely use and I think it can be used in our walks with the Lord. I actually do think it's a very good resource, but when used in a healthy balance to make sure that it's not just like replacing the Holy Spirit or God for us. Okay. But sometimes I do like to ask Chat some questions. And so I asked Chat. I said, how can Jesus heal my heart? And this is what Chat said. First off, Chat said, that's a really tender and important question. Bringing your pain to Him. Honestly, prayer doesn't have to be fancy. You can just talk to him, even if it's messy. Jesus, my heart hurts. I need you. He already knows, but he wants you to share it with him. Reading His Word. Guys, that was actually the very thing that introduced me to the Holy Ghost for the first time was the word of God. And so healing can truly, truly come through scripture as well. And the Holy Spirit showing you and guiding you and speaking to you as you're reading Scripture. Scripture carries comfort and truth. Verses like Psalm 34:18. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted, reminds you that he's not far away, letting him carry your burdens. Jesus said, come to me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. That's Matthew 11:28. We've talked about that verse a few times on the podcast. It's like one of my favorites. Healing often begins with surrendering what you can't fix on your own. I feel like we kind of touched on that a little bit where, you know, going to the feet of Jesus humbly and saying, I know that I can't fix this, God. Like, I literally need you. Community and support. Sometimes Jesus heals through others. Friends, church counselors who embody his love and help you walk through pain, because those people also carry the Holy Spirit. And so whether that's through prayer or counseling, community, church mentors, like we mentioned, love, time and trust. Healing is often a process. Jesus tends to wounds gently, layer by layer, bringing light into dark places that makes you want to cry. If you let him. See if you let him. Ugh. Okay, so I actually did a pretty good job on this episode because I feel like maybe we touched on all of these. Right, because he needs the invitation. He's never going to force his hand on us, Right? He's never going to force his healing onto us. So if you let him, he can turn heartbreak into deeper strength, loneliness into closeness with him, and sorrow into hope. Oh, and then Chat says, this is actually cute, you guys. Would you like me to share a short prayer you can say when your heart feels heavy? Here's a gentle prayer you can use when your heart feels heavy. Jesus, my heart is hurting and I don't know how to carry it all. I bring you my pain, my fears, and my brokenness. Please take what I can't handle and hold me close. Fill me with your presence that goes beyond understanding. Heal the parts of me that feel shattered and remind me I am never alone. Thank you for loving me just as I am. Amen. Chat said you can whisper this as is or even just say, jesus, help me. When words are hard, he hears every prayer, even the smallest. Would you like me to also suggest some Bible verses that bring comfort when you're praying through heartbreak. This is precious. Wow. Wait. This is amazing. I'm glad you said yes. Here are some powerful verses you can lean on when you're asking Jesus to heal your heart. Oh, it's so sweet. Psalm 34:18. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Matthew 18:28 29. Come to me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Psalm 147:3. He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. John 14:27. Peace, I leave with you. My peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. That verse, I think, is Jesus clearly saying, I don't give to you what the world gives meaning. My healing is not like the healing of the world. His peace is different than any other peace that's out there. His peace is the one that surpasses all understanding. It doesn't actually make sense. Isaiah 41:10. So do not fear, for I am with you. Do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. And Revelation 21:4. He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain. Yeah. So then the last thing I just want to encourage you guys in right now is be open to healing with Jesus. Don't put a bunch of pressure on yourself that you need to get healed of everything all the time right now and tomorrow and the next. Like, just abide with him and in his spirit, and the rest will truly follow. It will. And he'll show you. He'll show you, and then he won't just reveal to you the very thing that needs to be healed, but then he's going to walk with you through it. I love that chat said that he really, like, helps us layer by layer sometimes depending on the kind of healing that you need. But, like, if there are layers to it, like, he is okay with taking the time and intentionality that is his love is being like, okay, we're gonna peel this back layer by layer, and I'm not leaving your side through any of it. Like, yes, this is probably gonna stink to, like, see and feel, but I'm with you in it. I'm not abandoning you in it. And I'm gonna be here to peel back each layer with you. Yeah. There's also no pressure to, like, feel like you have to heal alone and be like, okay, I know that I have this problem now. I have to figure it out. No, Jesus will reveal to you the very thing, and then he's going to walk you through it and show you exactly what you need to do, step by step. So I hope that this episode was helpful. I hope that it was helpful. You guys, thank you for tuning in this week. I love you all to pieces. Hey, can we do something cool today, though? Can we show somebody how cool Jesus is? Can we walk more like him, talk more like him, be more like Him? I'm really, really proud of you guys, and I will see you next time. Bye. Are some of y' all still listening? Okay, if you're still here, that means you're a real one, which is why I'm about to share this with you. If you've already caught up on all the episodes so far and you don't want to wait until next Friday for a new one. I have really good news for you. 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