Christ With Coffee On Ice

Host: Ally Yost
Episode: "how could i possibly be lovable?"
Date: May 16, 2025

Episode Overview

In this heartfelt episode, Ally Yost dives deep into the universal struggle of feeling unlovable or unworthy—especially in the context of faith and the Christian journey. With refreshing vulnerability, she draws from her personal story and Scripture, encouraging listeners to embrace God’s unconditional love, shed lies about their worth, and receive healing and hope. Ally guides listeners through a time of communion, shares honest struggles with accepting love, and offers spiritual tools to walk in newfound confidence rooted in Christ’s sacrifice.

Key Discussion Points and Insights

1. The Struggle with Worthiness

• Personal Reflection: Ally opens with her own ongoing challenge of accepting how deeply God loves her, even when she struggles to love herself.

• Main Point: Our sense of worth is not self-derived—it comes from Jesus declaring us worthy by His sacrifice.

  • Notable Quote:

    "Even when you don't love yourself, even when you don't see yourself as lovable, even when other people don't love you, even when you've been rejected... He loves you so, so, so much."
    (03:30)

2. Finding True Worth in the Cross

• Theological Foundation: We are not inherently worthy due to our actions; our worth is given because Jesus said we are worth it, shown by His death on the cross.

• Clarification: Ally is clear we did not earn Christ’s sacrifice; it was a gift of pure love.

  • Notable Quote:

    "We're not worthy in our own nature. We're not worthy because we deserved it from the beginning. The only reason that we can sit here and say that we are worthy of anything good is because Jesus said that first when he died on the cross for us."
    (05:10)

3. Collective Communion Moment

• Interactive Worship: Midway through, Ally invites the audience to join her in taking communion as a community, using it as a time of repentance and embracing God’s truth over lies about their worth.
• Prayer Focus:

  • New mercies every day

  • Repenting for believing lies about our identity

  • Sealing our new perspective with Christ’s blood

    • Memorable Prayer:

      "Thank you for the gift of repentance, God, that it is not shameful... but it's actually just an opportunity to call out the very thing that is not true... and turn to the truth, which is who you say we are, God."
      (10:21)

4. Roots of Insecurity and the Enemy’s Tactics

• Personal Vulnerability: Ally shares her history of repeated negative experiences in relationships and being made to feel unworthy, particularly before knowing Jesus.

• Spiritual Warfare: She frames these patterns as the work of the enemy trying to embed lies from a young age, emphasizing spiritual realities behind toxic cycles.

  • Notable Quote:

    "...the enemy... he does not care about how young you are... that's actually probably the best scenario for the enemy is to get us as young as he can."
    (23:15)

5. Breaking Free and Relearning Worth

• Testimony: Transitioning from “BC Ally” (Before Christ) to “NC Ally” (New Creation), she describes how God broke those patterns and taught her to recognize her value.
• Encouragement: For listeners (especially women) struggling with self-worth, Ally asserts that the cross is the unchanging proof of value and love.
• Application:

  • Accept God’s love unconditionally

  • Understand God’s love is not earned

  • Embrace God’s view of your potential, not just your deeds

  • Notable Quote:

    "God actually sees your potential and loves you for who you are, not just for what you do."
    (43:10)

6. Practical Reflections and Next Steps

• Scriptural Encouragement:
  • Turn to the Bible as a “love letter” from God
  • Reflect on verses about His unconditional love
• Forgiving Yourself:
  • The importance of extending yourself the same grace and forgiveness God does
• Prayer for God’s Perspective:

  • Asking God to “help me see myself the way you see me”

    • Powerful Prayer Prompt:

      "God, give me the eyes that you have for me. I want to see myself the way that you see me..."
      (49:05)

7. Serving Others and Finding Purpose

• Emphasizing Service: Ally highlights that serving and loving others as God does can also affirm our worth, as God delights in using us as vessels of His love.
• Reframing Receiving:

  • Just as we want to give good gifts to those we love without them “earning it,” God’s desire to bless us is even greater.

  • The act of simply accepting God’s love is an act of humility and trust.

    • Notable Quote:

      "You can only give to a person who's willing to receive... if we're not willing to receive the good gifts that God has for us, he's never going to force his hand on us..."
      (59:15)

8. Summary Encouragement and Sending Forth

• Simplicity in God’s Love: Ally circles back to the simplicity of accepting God’s love, even when it doesn’t make sense.

• Final Charge: She invites listeners to choose a posture of receiving and to go show someone “how cool Jesus is” by walking in His likeness.

  • Parting Words:

    "You are so, so worthy... And I will see you guys next time."
    (01:04:50)

Important Timestamps

• Theme Introduction & Purpose: (00:00–05:15)
• Communion Moment & Prayer: (08:10–15:45)
• Ally's Personal Story: Feeling Unworthy in Relationships: (18:00–34:00)
• Transition to New Creation & Application to Listeners: (35:00–47:00)
• Prayers for God’s Perspective and Self-Compassion: (49:00–54:00)
• Serving Others and Receiving God’s Love: (55:00–59:45)
• Summary, Charge, and Farewell: (01:00:00–End)

Memorable Quotes

• "We're not worthy in our own nature ... The only reason that we can sit here and say that we are worthy of anything good is because Jesus said that first."
  (05:10, Ally)

• "Thank you for the gift of repentance, God, that it is not shameful to repent ... it's actually just an opportunity to call out the very thing that is not true."
  (10:21, Ally)

• "The enemy ... he does not care about how young you are. ... There were lies ... being embedded in me at such a young age."
  (23:15, Ally)

• "God actually sees your potential and loves you for who you are, not just for what you do."
  (43:10, Ally)

• "God, give me the eyes that you have for me. I want to see myself the way that you see me."
  (49:05, Ally)

• "You can only give to a person who's willing to receive ... he's never going to force his hand on us."
  (59:15, Ally)

Takeaways

• You are deeply and unconditionally loved by God—not because of what you've done or failed to do, but because Jesus declared you worthy.
• Learning to believe in your worth is a process, often involving repentance from lies, renewing your mind with truth, and embracing the perspective God has for you.
• Communion, prayer, Scripture, service, and self-forgiveness are all practical steps to experience and walk in your belovedness.
• Receiving love—especially God’s lavish, unearned love—may feel unnatural, but it's central to thriving in your identity as a child of God.

Final Blessing (01:04:50)

"You are so, so worthy... Be more like Him. Y'all, I'm so proud of you. You are so, so worthy."

This episode is an invitation to sit with the tough questions of worth, let God’s truth wash over old wounds, and step into the assurance that you are cherished beyond measure—no strings attached.