Christ With Coffee On Ice — “How Do I Get Free from the Shame of My Past?”

Host: Ally Yost

Episode Date: March 21, 2025

Episode Overview

In this vulnerable and uplifting episode, Ally Yost responds to listener questions centering around freedom from shame, forgiveness, healthy relationships, and practical Christian living. Blending honesty, scriptural insight, and her signature effervescent style, Ally offers encouragement to anyone struggling to move past their mistakes and embrace their identity in Christ. This episode is fast-paced, heartfelt, and scripture-soaked, with Ally’s mix of humor, relatability, and deep faith evident throughout.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Freedom from Shame & Forgiveness for Past Mistakes

(Main discussion: 09:40–29:30)

• Listener Question: “How to be forgiven for sinful past relationships and move forward into a new one—guilt, forgive, free.”
• Ally shares her own journey prior to knowing God, admitting her past choices didn’t honor Him (“Before I knew God, they did not glorify him one bit. He was not in it at all. It was so worldly. Fully my flesh.” — [11:04])
• Core Message:
  • If you’ve asked God for forgiveness and genuinely repented, you are forgiven. Repentance, paired with faith in Christ, is enough.
  • We struggle to believe this because we remember our sins, but God has chosen to forget them:

    “And I will forgive their wickedness and I will never again remember their sins.” — Hebrews 8:12 (Ally reads & discusses — [15:16])

• Ally highlights that this is God’s character—not forgetful, but purposefully merciful.
• Shame and guilt after repentance are tactics of the enemy meant to bind us.
• Scripture Dive:
  • Ally takes listeners through Romans 6, reading at length about being dead to sin, alive to Christ, and no longer slaves to sin ([19:04–26:30]).
  • The takeaway:

    “That sin no longer controls us… whatever sinful, lustful relationships you could have had before you knew the Lord, it’s over. It’s dead, it’s gone. You’ve been raised to life. You’re a new creation through Christ.” — [27:02]

• Action Step: Rebuke shame and accept the joy and freedom Jesus bought for you. Don’t dwell on forgiven sins—embrace forgiveness as your reality.

2. Loving Christian Friends Who Are Different

(29:37–32:00)

• Listener Question: “How to best love Christian friends who are different than you?”
• Ally’s Advice:
  • Ask God specifically how to love this person:

    “The best way to love someone well is to ask the Father how they’re loved by him.” — [30:34]

  • Pray for God’s heart and eyes for others; boundaries may be necessary, but God will lead you.
• Loving others flows from God’s love, not mere human effort.

3. Talking About Jesus Without Feeling Like a Burden

(32:03–36:54)

• Listener Question: “How can I talk about Jesus to others but also know I’m not burdening them?”
• Tips from Ally:
  • Let your life and love do the talking:

    “If they know that you love the Lord and then they see the way that you are treating them and loving them, you’re extending grace… You just are going to look different.” — [33:38]

  • Rely on the Holy Spirit for the right moments/words.
  • Everyone has a soul created for God—even if they don’t realize it yet:

    “That person is thirsty—whether they want to admit it or not. Their soul is parched.” — [35:15]

4. Hearing God & Overcoming Self-Doubt

(36:59–39:55)

• Listener Question: “How to stop second guessing if I’m hearing God or not?”
• Ally’s Method:
  • Recall past times you definitely heard God’s voice and weigh if it sounds the same.
  • The first thought/response is usually God; the follow-up voice that doubts is often us or the enemy.

    “The first thing you hear in your mind is typically always God. And then the second thing or anything that follows… is probably your flesh or maybe even the enemy.” — [38:10]

5. Navigating Modesty: Godly vs. Societal Standards

(39:57–43:18)

• Listener Question: “How to navigate modesty in regards to honoring Christ vs. societal modesty?”
• Ally’s Criteria:
  • Before leaving the house, ask,

    “Is this going to make a brother or sister stumble? Is it going to make their mind wander?” — [40:44]

  • Modesty is about consideration for others and honoring God, not just hiding your figure.
  • Conviction comes from the Holy Spirit; listen to Him above cultural pressures.

    “God will speak to you and show you, and he will say, ‘Hey honey, that’s a little risque.’” — [41:50]

6. Prophetic Dreams

(43:20–46:48)

• Listener Question: “Prophetic dreams?”
• Ally Shares:
  • Prophetic dreams are a sweet way God communicates; ask God for this gift earnestly.
  • Prophetic dreams feel “insanely vivid” and meaningful, not random or nonsensical.

  • “Once you finally receive something from the Lord that has to do with just, you know, communicating with him on a deeper level—it means that he trusted you with that.” — [46:17]

• Encourages listeners to research and seek God for this, potentially promises a future episode on the topic.

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On God’s Choice to Forget Our Sins:

  “He chose to forget our wickedness. That was a choice that he made, especially with sending his son, Jesus Christ to die for our sins on the cross.” — [16:28]

• On Shame & the Enemy:

  “You’re in chains of guilt and shame. And it’s not from the Lord. Those things are not from God. That’s from the enemy.” — [28:52]

• On Everyday Evangelism:

  “You are going to glow. You… just are going to stand out. You’re going to be different. The tone of your voice sounds different. Your demeanor is different. Your kindness is different. Your glow is different.” — [34:15]

• On Asking for Spiritual Gifts:

  “If there are gifts of the Spirit that you want from God…ask and if you still haven’t gotten it, keep asking. I had to keep praying. It wasn’t an immediate thing, but then… all of a sudden it was unlocked and the Lord gave it to me.” — [45:56]

Timestamps for Important Segments

| Timestamp | Segment/Topic | |-------------|---------------------------------------------------------------| | 09:40–29:30 | Forgiveness, freedom from shame, and Romans 6 deep dive | | 29:37–32:00 | Loving Christian friends who are different | | 32:03–36:54 | How to talk about Jesus without feeling like a burden | | 36:59–39:55 | Hearing God & overcoming spiritual self-doubt | | 39:57–43:18 | Navigating modesty as a Christian | | 43:20–46:48 | Prophetic dreams: what they are, how to seek them |

Closing Highlight

Ally wraps up with a challenge to listeners:

“Can we show somebody how cool Jesus is? Can we walk more like him, talk more like him, be more like him? All of it. Just more like Jesus.” — [47:17]

She expresses deep love and pride for her audience, urging everyone to live out their faith with joy and freedom.

This episode is packed with grace, scriptural depth, and practical encouragement—a robust listen for anyone wrestling with shame or seeking a deeper walk with Jesus.