Podcast Summary: Christ With Coffee On Ice
Host: Ally Yost
Episode: How to Love Unbelievers
Date: October 3, 2025
Overview
In this heartfelt and practical episode, Ally Yost discusses how Christians can authentically love unbelievers—friends, family, and strangers—without forcing faith or succumbing to pressure. Drawing from her own spiritual journey and scripture (primarily in the NLT translation), Ally emphasizes loving actions, genuine kindness, the power of testimony, and trusting God with the process. She encourages listeners to let their lives reflect Christ and lean into discernment while remembering that only God brings true transformation.
Key Discussion Points & Insights
1. Life Update & Personal Vulnerability [00:00–11:10]
- Ally shares recent changes: moving out of LA, simplifying her life, working on her first book, and experiencing growth through challenging transitions.
- She expresses gratitude for answered prayers amid stress and recognizes Holy Spirit-led personal transformation.
"You never really know when a season that you’re in is going to quickly change... If anything, I think a huge lesson in it too is to just be so, so grateful for the season that you're in, because you truly never know when that can change."
— Ally Yost [07:50]
2. Introduction to the Episode’s Theme [11:10–15:55]
- Responding to audience questions on how to minister to nonbelievers, Ally revisits and deepens the topic.
- She acknowledges content overlap from earlier episodes, but notes new personal revelation and ongoing listener interest.
3. The Tension: Knowing Truth vs. Forcing Faith [15:55–18:35]
- Christians can feel pressure to "save" loved ones through words.
- Ally stresses the importance of not forcing beliefs, but also not shying away from sharing Jesus’s deliverance.
"All you want to do is tell the people who are blind how to receive their sight, you know, but you don’t want to be somebody who’s just, like, forcing it and throwing it in people’s faces."
— Ally Yost [16:30]
4. How Jesus Modeled Loving "Outsiders" [18:35–21:52]
- Ally imagines Jesus at dinner with outcasts—listening, asking questions, showing intentional love.
- She notes the balance between discernment in what/when to speak and simply being present.
"I believe that Jesus was quicker to listen for long periods of time than to talk at these people...I see him looking at them with such love in a way that, like, pierced their souls..."
— Ally Yost [19:45]
5. Discernment & Letting Go of Pressure [21:52–23:44]
- Importance of praying for wisdom before interacting with nonbelievers.
- Not every encounter requires a Gospel presentation—God works through both actions and words.
- Relieving the burden of being "the only one who can save"—trusting God’s process.
6. Your Life as the Loudest Testimony [23:44–27:55]
- How Ally’s transformed life speaks more loudly than her words ever could, especially to those who knew her before Christ.
- Small, consistent acts of kindness, faithfulness, and reliability are a testimony in themselves.
"One major thing...is that the way that I live my life was actually a lot louder than anything that I could have said..."
— Ally Yost [24:35]
- Example: Ally’s management team notice her gratitude and care, which is rare among clients.
7. The Power of Seeing and Valuing People [28:25–31:30]
- Serving "the least of these" is serving Jesus.
- People want to be seen and validated; doing so reflects Christ’s love.
"I think something that Jesus, the character of Jesus is, is to see people..."
— Ally Yost [29:50]
8. Planting Seeds & Trusting God With the Outcome [31:30–36:25]
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Loving actions, not arguments, draw people to Christ; forced or argumentative evangelism is rarely effective.
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God uses our small seeds and is sovereign over their growth.
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Quote & Scripture:
“People rarely are argued into faith...but they can be loved into it.”
— Ally Yost [32:10]"Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples." (John 13:35 NLT) — [33:45]
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Prayer for nonbelievers is powerful; God keeps every prayer and tear for loved ones.
9. Taking Opportunities and Responding to Curiosity [36:25–40:30]
- When people notice or compliment your "vibe," it opens doors to gently share about Jesus.
- Ally gives an example of responding to compliments:
“Thank you, can I tell you a secret? ...It’s literally Jesus. It’s God. I’m obsessed with him.”
— Ally Yost [39:20]
10. The Importance of Testimony and Relatability [40:30–44:55]
- Sharing your story matters, no matter how dramatic you think it is.
- Every testimony speaks to different backgrounds and should never be downplayed.
- The enemy wants Christians to believe their stories are irrelevant.
"Your story matters...because it was written by our creator of all things."
— Ally Yost [43:12]
11. Using Simple, Understandable Language [44:55–48:15]
- Avoid "Christianese" with unbelievers (e.g., “the Lord told me…”).
- Share faith simply: “I’m really spiritual, and I had this gut feeling…”
"Keeping it simple is really, really important when talking to people who do not know Jesus..."
— Ally Yost [45:00]
- Example: Ally miscommunicated at an event using “the Lord told me” and learned to contextualize her faith in more relatable terms.
12. Consistency & Integrity in Christian Living [48:15–51:30]
- Nonbelievers are watching—consistent Christian living matters for credibility.
- Living biblically, rooted in scripture, helps avoid compromise and confusion.
"If we are going to be vessels of the Holy Spirit...we need to make sure that our lives are consistently looking that way."
— Ally Yost [49:59]
13. Planting Seeds, Trusting God’s Timing [51:30–52:25]
- Often, you will not see fruit immediately, but God’s word will not return void (Isaiah 55:11).
"Sometimes the best sharing is planting seeds. You may not see the fruit right away, but God promises His word will not return void."
— Ally Yost [51:42]
Memorable Moments & Notable Quotes
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On letting actions speak:
“Let your actions reflect the gospel before your words.” [32:37] -
On living out faith:
“There is nothing else in this world that can duplicate that, like the love of Jesus that operates through us.” [34:24] -
On testimony:
“Any story God writes is the coolest thing ever, including your story.” [43:45] -
On humility and dependence:
“I will need to fully depend on you. Hopefully this podcast episode speaks well...regardless of whether Ally the vessel is rusty or not. More glory to God.” [10:50]
Scriptural Highlights
- John 13:35
“Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.” [33:45] - Isaiah 55:11
“It is the same with my word. I send it out, and it always produces fruit.” [51:36]
Timestamps for Key Segments
| Timestamp | Segment | |-----------|---------| | 00:00–11:10 | Life update, vulnerability, moving, book writing | | 11:10–15:55 | Why talk about loving unbelievers again? Listener questions | | 15:55–18:35 | Knowing truth vs. forcing faith | | 18:35–21:52 | Jesus’s model: loving, listening, asking questions | | 21:52–23:44 | Discernment and pressure relief in sharing faith | | 23:44–27:55 | The testimony of a changed life | | 28:25–31:30 | Seeing people as Jesus did | | 31:30–36:25 | Planting seeds, letting God work | | 36:25–40:30 | Responding to curiosity, sharing Jesus naturally | | 40:30–44:55 | The power of testimony—every story matters | | 44:55–48:15 | Avoiding Christianese & using clear language | | 48:15–51:30 | Consistent, credible Christian living | | 51:30–52:25 | Plant seeds, trust God’s timing (Isaiah 55:11) |
Final Encouragement
“Let’s walk more like him, talk more like him, be more like him.”
— Ally Yost [52:21]
Call to Action:
Show someone how cool Jesus is today—reflect Christ’s love in attitude, actions, and words, trusting God for the results.
Tone & Style Maintained: Empathetic, gentle, honest, biblically rooted, conversational, encouraging, practical, and at times, self-deprecating and humorous—hallmark traits of Ally’s hosting.
For Listeners Who Missed the Episode:
This episode offers practical wisdom and genuine encouragement for anyone wrestling with how to live out faith among those who believe differently. You'll find strategies rooted in scripture and lived experience, honest self-reflection, and strong reminders that love—over argument or pressure—is at the core of authentic Christian witness.