Christ With Coffee On Ice – “i want to be confident”
Host: Ally Yost
Date: July 25, 2025
Episode Overview
This episode dives into the topic of confidence from a Christian perspective. Host Ally Yost vulnerably shares her personal journey with insecurity and finding real confidence—not in herself, but in Christ. The episode covers examining the roots of our confidence, the difference between worldly and godly assurance, embracing our weaknesses, and the freedom and peace that comes with anchoring identity in Jesus. Through Scripture, prayer, and heartfelt reflection, Ally encourages listeners to shift their trust away from self and into a daily, dependent relationship with God.
Key Discussion Points & Insights
Communion and Centering on Christ
[02:00]
- Ally invites listeners to join her in taking communion, emphasizing how the act isn’t just for special occasions but can be incorporated whenever we need to remember what Jesus did for us.
- Quote:
“Sometimes I actually just take it because I’m like, Jesus, I love you… I need a fresh reminder of what you’ve done for me. I need a reminder of the freedom that you’ve given me through the body and through the blood.” [03:17]
- Quote:
- She prays for a “fresh washing of our minds” and a deep awareness of Christ’s presence.
The Reality of Insecurity and the Source of Confidence
[10:00]
- Ally candidly shares her struggle with feeling unqualified, even about hosting an episode on confidence—a real-time example of needing to rely on God instead of herself.
- Quote:
“The irony of me talking about confidence is like, I’m not talking about this because I’m the most confident person… I have confidence in God, and not myself.” [10:25]
- Quote:
- She frames the big question: “What is your confidence in?”—inviting listeners to examine whether their security is built on self, others’ opinions, or God.
Worldly Confidence vs. Confidence in Christ
[14:00-21:00]
- Worldly Confidence:
- Rooted in shifting opinions of others and self-performance.
- Fleeting, unstable; often deep down is insecurity masked as “fake it till you make it.”
- Driven by independence and pride, often “you are all you need.”
- Quote:
“If my confidence was being put into what other people were saying, that is the most unsteady, unstable foundation you could put your confidence on.” [15:40]
- Quote:
- Confidence in Christ:
- Based on God’s faithfulness, promises, and strength.
- Brings rest, true security, and freedom to accept both strengths and weaknesses.
- Quote:
“Confidence in God sounds more like, I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me... It’s a partnership with Jesus.” [22:13]
- Quote:
- Ally warns against both independence and false humility; instead, confidence should involve trusting and depending on Christ.
Trust and Confidence Are Intertwined
[24:00]
- Ally suggests swapping “confidence” with “trust” to evaluate our foundation:
- Is your trust in yourself or in God?
- Cites Jeremiah 29:11 (God promises hope and a future) and Philippians 4:13 (“I can do all things through Christ…”).
- Quote:
“Confidence can also translate into just simply trusting God. Do you have trust in yourself or do you have trust in God?” [25:30]
- Emphasizes that what God says about us is true and to root confidence in His promises.
Embracing Strengths and Weaknesses
[27:00-35:00]
- True confidence allows us to accept both gifts and shortcomings.
- Weaknesses provide openings for God’s strength and deeper dependence.
- Quote:
“I think we should celebrate our weaknesses more than our strengths… It’s an opportunity for me to grow deeper with the Lord.” [29:30]
- Quote:
- Personal story: In a moment of insecurity, Ally imagines Jesus kneeling by her bed, eager to listen and comfort her.
- Quote:
“I literally felt as if I saw him kneeling next to my bed… You perfect man, creator of all things, are sitting here to listen to me vent about this.” [35:35]
- Memorable moment: Ally’s tangible experience of Christ’s closeness and care.
- Quote:
The Impact of Confidence on Others
[38:00]
- God-rooted confidence is inspiring and draws people in—not arrogant, but peaceful and authentic.
- Opens doors for evangelism: when people see genuine confidence, it intrigues them and can lead to sharing about Christ.
- Quote:
“It can be an inspiration for other people… The only reason I’m this confident is because I found the Lord.” [41:32]
- Quote:
Jesus as the Ultimate Model of Confidence
[44:00]
- Jesus demonstrated perfect, humble confidence—knowing His identity and purpose, retreating to prayer for guidance, and facing adversity head-on.
- Quote:
“One thing that he demonstrated really, really well was confidence. If we think about it, we’re like, Jesus was a confident man. Jesus walked in confidence and boldness. He knew who he was and he knew who his father was.” [45:15]
- Quote:
- Jesus’s practice of prayer and dependence on God is highlighted as the way for believers to fuel and sustain confidence.
Freedom in Christ Is Complete and Immediate
[49:00-53:00]
- Ally reflects on her realization: freedom in Christ—and thus, confidence—is already ours at salvation, not earned gradually. The enemy tricks us into thinking we have to “earn” freedom in areas of struggle.
- Quote:
“Total healing is already yours. Like, you being delivered from feeling like you’re an insecure person… that territory of your mind has already been overcome by Jesus. It’s yours, actually.” [51:17]
- Quote:
- The mindset shift: “It’s not about earning territory back; it’s about recognizing it was always yours because of Jesus.”
Practical Tools for Spiritual Battle
[54:00]
- We are reminded to put on the “armor of God” (Ephesians 6:12-17)—truth, righteousness, peace, faith, salvation, and the Word of God—to combat insecurity and lies.
- Quote:
“There is a war that is going on in the unseen world… This is why God tells us to have the proper tools to combat the enemy.” [55:52]
- Quote:
- Regular prayer, worship, reading Scripture, and returning to God fuels godly confidence.
Final Reflections and Encouragement
[59:00]
- Ally advocates asking daily, “What is my confidence in today?”
- Placing confidence in God leads to freedom from fear of people and deep inner peace.
- Quote:
“Ever since I’ve decided to put my trust in God, to put my confidence in God, I’ve also just had so much more freedom to just be more of myself.” [59:38]
- Quote:
- The episode closes with a challenge: let’s show the world how “cool” Jesus is by confidently walking as He did.
Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments
- On the shift from independence to dependence:
“We were never made to be independent. We were never made to be self confident in just like being our own everything… That was just never something we were designed to be.” [20:50]
- On weakness and Jesus’ nearness:
“The times where I’ve felt the weakest in my life is the times I have been the most desperate for Jesus… I grew the most and I felt the closest to Jesus.” [33:10]
- On already having confidence in Christ:
“Confidence is fully accessible to me. I am a confident person. That is who God has always created me to be.” [53:02]
- On the daily battle:
“The enemy will try to take it from you. He will try to come in and convince you that that territory was never yours… If he successfully convinces us… then it is his territory.” [56:40]
- On “cool Jesus moments”:
“Let’s walk more like him. Let’s talk more like him. Let’s be more confident as Jesus has always demonstrated confidence, and that is yours. Like, confidence is yours to have.” [01:00:03]
Key Timestamps
| Timestamp | Segment | |-----------|--------------------------------------------------| | 02:00 | Communion and centering in prayer | | 10:25 | Introduction to the theme of confidence | | 15:40 | Dangers of worldly confidence | | 22:13 | Anchoring confidence in Christ | | 25:30 | Trust and confidence as intertwined | | 29:30 | Celebrating weaknesses and dependence on God | | 35:35 | Memorable story: visualizing Jesus by her bed | | 41:32 | Confidence that inspires others and evangelism | | 45:15 | Jesus as the role model for confidence | | 51:17 | Revelation: confidence/freedom already ours | | 55:52 | Armor of God and spiritual battle | | 59:38 | Living in daily freedom and authentic confidence | | 01:00:03 | Final challenge and encouragement |
Conclusion
In this episode, Ally Yost offers a transparent look at her own faith journey, challenging listeners to trade shaky, self-built confidence for a trust anchored in Christ. Through scriptural wisdom, personal stories, and tangible tools, she reminds believers that confidence, freedom, and true identity are already theirs in Jesus—not something to be earned, but inherited. The episode is an invitation to embrace who God says we are, lean into His presence daily, and walk in the kind of confidence that not only transforms us but those around us.
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