Mike (69:21)
The opposite of what I asked for. Then my dog dies. My Pearl, yeah, she dies that night. And I hadn't seen my kids, and I'm like laying over my dog and she's been like my best friend for nine years and she had cancer and I was fighting with her and I'm like, God, don't take my dog away from me. That's like literally been there for. For my entire nine years, who's helped me through a lot of situations. My service dog. And I'm laying on top of her and I'm like, God, please what? Just give her some life, give me some time. And dude, I'm praying that over her. And she takes her last breath, she takes a big inhale and she. She exhales and she dies in my arms. And I'm like, you gotta be. You have to be kidding me. My children. I just got notified that I can't see my kids for a month. My dog dies in my arms that night. And. And finally I submit and I say, you know what? I'm done fighting. This is like at 2 in the morning, I'm done. And I'm out in the backyard. It's a full moon, it's cold. And everything just feels like it's the end. I'm not talking to anybody. I'm not. I'm not burdening any of my friends. And I know you would never say it's a burden, but I don't want to talk to anybody. And I go upstairs and I'm just. I pass out from exhaustion. And as soon as I go to sleep, I Had prayed that God give me my children for four months. And I hadn't seen them once in my dreams. And I just wanted a memory. I just wanted to be able to embrace my kids. I pass out. Pearl's downstairs, dead, laying under a blanket. And I go into a lucid dream. And it's the realest dream I've ever had in my life. And I'm in the kids classroom because I had been very involved in their kindergarten class. And months prior to that, before all this had happened, I had brought their classes, their gingerbread houses that they won in a contest. I bought them in an auction for the kids because I wanted them to bring them back to their individual classrooms, both of my kids, their twins, to their individual classrooms because I wanted the kids to be able to eat the gingerbread cookies after the thing. And so I'm back in the classroom that I was just in four months prior, over the Christmas holidays, giving their gingerbread houses back. And I hear my kids, and everybody gets quiet, and I hear them coming down the hallway, and their mom's with them, and I get scared because I know that their mom is gonna come down, and if she sees me, I'm gonna get in trouble. And so I hear her voice fade away. And my kids come into the classroom, they see me, and they. Like they always do. You've seen it yourself. They run towards me and they say, daddy. And they gave me an embrace. As soon as they hugged me, I started weeping. I started crying. And as I'm coming, I'm waking myself out of this lucid dream. And I don't want to. I want to go back to it. But as soon as I wake up, I'm crying in the dream and I'm crying lucidly in real life, I realized that full circle, that all of this was for a very specific reason. And at that moment, before I had gone into that dream, I had let go because, bro, I want the control. And I'm a control freak. And it's the worst part of my character, my personality is I've always been in control. And the points in my life that have led to catastrophe are when I wanted the most control. And then when I couldn't have it, I acted like a baby and I lost it. I got angry, I got frustrated, I destroyed relationships. And for the first time in my life, I relinquished control and realized, I'm not in charge. This isn't up to me. And as soon as I did that, when I woke up, I started praising God. And I went outside of the backyard and thanked God because I got it full circle. And from that moment on in my life, I realized that the problem hasn't lied with other people in my life that I've blamed, but with me, because I want the control. And I've selfishly ran my life that way because I thought operationally, professionally and personally it would benefit everybody around me. But that's the opposite. And that hard lesson was learned over that experience. And when I came out of that, it changed my life forever. And look, my relationship with God is still personal. And I talk about God more often than I have before. But in that full circle moment with Pearl lying dead underneath the sheets, I buried her about 5 in the morning. Couldn't even break the ground. It took me a few hours to dig deep enough to bury her. It was snowing. It was very like, man, full circle. As a moment. I realized that a lot of the fault in this life, in my own catastrophes, was because of me. And if I just let God take control, that I was going to be better off for it. And that profoundly changed my life, man.